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everybody, Chris here. I know

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not everybody loves a long intro. Check out the intro

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if you want to know about my tour dates and

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how to sign up for beautiful anonymous

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plus and most importantly info on a

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special screening of a documentary about one

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of our most meaningful past

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callers, Whirlpool Galaxy. But

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if you want to just skip to the phone call, I get

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it. I do. I totally get it.

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You're going to want to skip about eight

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minutes ahead. That'll put you right towards the beginning of the

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call. Enjoy it. Hi

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everybody, it's Chris Gethard and I'm so

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happy to welcome you to another episode

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of Beautiful Anonymous. First

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things first, I want

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to plug a very special event.

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There's a documentary. We've

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talked about it on the show. It's called Space

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Hope and Charity. It's about a

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former caller who in our community, a

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lot of people know her as Whirlpool

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Galaxy who called and

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told us about a devastating loss and

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then 80's

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and the early 90's where

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I sit here and I go man. Like

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there was a kid in my neighborhood when we moved

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here who was legendary for kind of like roaming around

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the neighborhood. And everybody was

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concerned and saying like always too young this

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kid is getting away from his parents they don't know where he

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is he's riding a bike and then you'll

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see his parents combine go do you know where he is

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or like he's cutting through

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somebody's yard and you text their parents and say

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do you know that this kid is

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out and they don't know if you see him again

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send him home and I sit here

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and go our whole neighborhood was worried about that.

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But that was 100 he's just

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living by the absolute 100% standard

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that we all grow up with like all of us

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who are texting each other like hey, this

1:02:44

kid's loose somebody make sure his parents know it's

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like my parents never knew where I was they

1:02:48

100% it was not a

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standard of the time it was leave

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the house come back when the street

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lights come on and

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I can think of times where that

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was really trouble for me where

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I would go to a different town and

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my parents didn't even know I had left our town where the

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cow is 12

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or 13 years old and I find out he just

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rode his bike to an entirely different town and then

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tell me that would be bad

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modern standards, but I sit there and I go. I

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also learned how

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to seek adventures and go on them.

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I also learned how to interact with

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people in environments where I wasn't certain

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you know where I didn't know I was going to wind up

1:03:32

in that environment at the beginning of the day like maybe

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let's ride our bikes down to the bike jumps in the

1:03:37

middle of the woods and then there's these kids from on

1:03:39

Claire who showed up and now we got to interact with

1:03:41

these kids these kids from orange I've heard that's a tougher

1:03:43

town. But let's just talk and get

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to know these kids like some

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of that sense of adventure led

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to cross pollination and exchange of

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ideas. There was also leadership

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that came with that right like how many

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times was I in situations as a

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kid. It's

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a really terrible claim, but you know, we're all

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flawed people and we were flawed in the age

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still. And that means you were also of

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an age too. The one thing you had, I

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had all the fallout of the fear of

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serial killers, but that means you were also

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old enough to remember some of the actual

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serial killers that created a

1:06:17

lot of hysteria throughout

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the next 15 years. Yeah,

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but I was pretty oblivious. I

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grew up on National Forests. My

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dad worked for the US Forest Service. So yeah, so

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we moved from forest to first. So I

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don't know if our brains didn't apply to us,

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but we actually, yeah, we were where they were

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dumping bodies, but we didn't know that. You

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weren't where the people were getting killed. You

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were where the bodies were getting dumped. Right.

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Right. Right. Right.

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Right. But there wasn't a 24 seven

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news cycle, right? Not until the paper. Not until 2001. Yeah.

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Yeah. Yeah. Which

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is when my daughter was born. Yeah.

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Totally different thing is that the

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totally different thing is that, you know, she

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said she's a gamer. She loves playing games and

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she talks about, you know, her friends there and

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I'm all like, you've never met these people. How

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can they be your friends? But they are her

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friends. Right. And I feel like

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that's my leisure shift in our family is

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that, you know, to me,

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to spend time with someone,

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you're physically with them, maybe the phone, but

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to her it has a different meaning and

1:07:25

that you can play games with someone online

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and that is being with them. Oh,

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yeah. But

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in the end, the wandering way I did.

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I live in a suburb

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now and we did let our

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kids wander probably more than other

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neighbors were comfortable with. But

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I wanted that for them. I wanted them to

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have some sense

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of exploration, I guess, and

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autonomy. I feel like

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you build a little confidence that you

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can handle things. therapy.

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It's really cool. You have got it in the

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nut to hide. In February, I

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had this opportunity to go to very

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rural India. And

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I had a few people say, well, you know,

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what's an artificial therapist going to do in India?

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But I was, I

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do feel like I was able to be helpful.

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And I also feel like I learned many things.

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But even a lot of people kept coming to us with

1:14:23

neck pain and we were trying to figure it out. And

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then we're leaving one day and I see

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everybody carrying big baskets of water

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on their head. And I was

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like, ah, neck pain basket. We

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need to find a way that they

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can carry the water not on their

1:14:38

head. Right. And that's the

1:14:40

occupational therapy perspective in me. Okay, this

1:14:42

is their life. This is what

1:14:45

they need to do. How can we make it work for

1:14:47

their body? I'm not trying to

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be condescending in any way. Yeah. Nor

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judge people of a different culture. But

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was there no one else who was able

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to crack the code on that? Or did

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they really needed you to travel from another

1:15:03

country to go? Maybe the neck pain relates

1:15:07

to using your neck muscles to carry

1:15:10

large amounts of weight. I'm

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really not trying to be an asshole in saying that. But

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it sounds to me like someone should have figured that out.

1:15:18

I was giving a very simplified example.

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But also, it actually is

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true that sometimes I do feel like I

1:15:25

am the purveyor of common sense. We

1:15:30

just came to everybody kind of gets in

1:15:32

their groove and they just think, well, this

1:15:35

is how I've always done it. And, you

1:15:37

know, and that sometimes it does just take

1:15:39

somebody from the outside being curious and asking

1:15:41

questions to change things. In

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this country and other countries.

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So, yeah, it didn't

1:15:52

take offense to that. I think that's

1:15:54

a great question. And that answer

1:15:56

is very eye opening too of realizing like, oh,

1:15:58

sometimes you need an outside eye. Like, there's probably

1:16:00

things that all of

1:16:02

us participate in every day where

1:16:05

someone who's not

1:16:07

participating in every day would just go, why

1:16:10

do you do things like this? And those

1:16:12

are questions you don't ask because it's just how it's

1:16:15

done. Yeah.

1:16:18

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

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I think, you know, because we all kind of

1:16:32

grow up only being ourselves, right?

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You're just like, well, I do it this way because, you

1:16:37

know, I'm, this

1:16:41

is how it's worked for me. And

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I think we only get in trouble when we say, and

1:16:47

it can never be different. Plus

1:16:49

you're open to growing and trying to do ways.

1:16:51

There'll be good things. I'm

1:17:00

amazed at your positivity. I

1:17:05

mean, maybe you just caught me on a good day. I

1:17:08

think I am a glass half full kind of

1:17:11

person. My husband, I joke he's a glass half

1:17:13

empty glass half full type

1:17:15

of person. We were

1:17:18

talking to our kids on

1:17:21

zoom last night and I said, oh,

1:17:23

you know, I'm trying

1:17:25

to do mindfulness more. And I'm really using

1:17:27

the image of when our family

1:17:29

went snorkeling, like that was a very peaceful thing

1:17:31

for me to be in the water floating and

1:17:33

look at the fishes. And

1:17:35

then immediately my husband tells the story of

1:17:37

two shark attacks. And

1:17:40

my kids laughed so hard because they were

1:17:42

like, yeah, there's mom telling us about a

1:17:44

peaceful mindful moment. And they're saying, telling us

1:17:46

about shark attacks. You know, those are our

1:17:48

parents. It's a good

1:17:50

getting young right there. Exactly.

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This is, this is how you make it to 35 years.

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Now we've got 90 seconds left.

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Do you have? Whoa. I

1:18:04

know these things fly by, right? Do you

1:18:06

have, are there any stories that come to

1:18:08

mind? We've talked so much about your, your

1:18:11

profession. In

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a minute. Are there any stories that you're like,

1:18:15

here's the thing I remember where I realized I'm

1:18:18

going to want to do this forever. Oh,

1:18:24

gosh. I was, I was

1:18:27

18. I graduated from

1:18:29

high school. I worked as a

1:18:31

waitress at night. My

1:18:33

mom said, you cannot just lie around the house all day.

1:18:35

And so I had

1:18:37

heard a lot of my friends volunteer at this center. And

1:18:40

so I, I went there and it

1:18:43

was the center run by occupational therapists

1:18:45

for children under five who

1:18:47

either had physical disabilities or were

1:18:49

in foster care. And I

1:18:51

spent the summer there. And I said, I want to do this

1:18:53

for the rest of my life. And those

1:18:56

people mentored me. They employed me every

1:18:58

summer because I paid my own way

1:19:00

through college. They made sure I

1:19:02

had books. They, and they

1:19:05

just, they loaned me old,

1:19:07

old magazines. They helped me.

1:19:10

And so when I graduated and I had

1:19:12

my occupational therapy degree, I went back and

1:19:14

I worked pro bono for them for a

1:19:16

long time. And so

1:19:18

I just think whatever it is

1:19:20

that you find in life, be sure to appreciate

1:19:23

the people who helped you and go back and help

1:19:25

other people. That would

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be my 90 second thought. Literally the clock

1:19:29

just hit zero. That was the most amazing.

1:19:32

It was the most amazing,

1:19:34

efficient timing I've ever seen. It was

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incredible. Thank you. And

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yeah, with our time

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up, that means the people are listening on the Tuesday

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feed, the free feed, our time

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with them is up. So we'll say goodbye.

1:19:49

But if you're, if you're happy to stick

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around, everybody who signed up at beautiful anonymous.com,

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like you did, now we're going to do

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the five questions, get to know you a

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little better. And I'm very excited. about it

1:20:00

you're into it I'm

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into it oh that's awesome caller

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so sincerely thank you so

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much that one gets

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twisting and turning

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in ways I did not expect it

1:20:20

was funny even though it was at

1:20:23

times not funny you

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are quite a charming person and we are lucky

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to have you out there helping others thank you

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to ask you something because Andrea

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just informed me of something all

1:21:20

these things we've talked about today including that story which is

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one of the most gripping hard

1:21:25

to hear but still beautiful stories in the history of

1:21:27

the show and Andrea

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just told me that when you talk to her most

1:21:31

of your pitch was actually

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about how you do

1:21:36

restore marimbas is this true

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that wasn't

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that wasn't an off-handed theoretical

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example before the marimba thing nope

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absolutely true I thought of it because I'm

1:21:49

staring at my marimba here in this room

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yep see we just didn't get

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to that I meant to get to that but we had so

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