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you know. Hello,

1:13

Seshir! Hello, Nicole. Oh,

1:16

my God. I ate an apple today, and

1:18

a piece of the apple got stuck in my throat,

1:21

and it's still kind of there. And

1:25

I can't, I ate more apple to try to shove

1:27

it down, but I'm like, maybe

1:29

it's in my windpipe. Interesting.

1:33

Hmm. Have you tried coughing it up? Oh,

1:36

I coughed so hard and for so long,

1:38

and it still wouldn't come out. What

1:42

about massaging your throat? Oh.

1:48

That's not really doing anything. Does

1:51

it feel like, can you feel, does it feel

1:53

like, oh, I can sense that there's something in

1:55

there? No, but every

1:57

time I swallow, I feel this

1:59

spittle happening. to go like bypass

2:01

around. Excuse me? So nasty.

2:04

Isn't that gross? Yeah, I'm sorry. I've had

2:06

a day. Somebody left their

2:15

dog and from the minute

2:17

I have woken up to now it is

2:19

3.08 p.m. This dog has

2:22

been barking. Someone left their dog

2:24

in their house? I think they

2:26

left it in the house or it's in the

2:28

yard or something but it has been barking. That

2:30

sucks. And I'm like should

2:32

I go over there and save it? Like

2:37

let it free or take ownership of

2:39

it. Feed it? Give it

2:41

water? I don't know it needs something. It's

2:43

barking. It needs a friend. Yeah, I was in

2:47

my yard the other day. I was actually trying

2:49

to report something and I was like ooh there's

2:51

like pretty ivy on this wall. I'll do it

2:53

here. This is the next back graph and

2:55

then the dog next door

2:57

just like came right up to the middle

3:01

wall and started barking. I was like god damn it. And

3:03

then I was like trying to be like I don't

3:09

know how come Anne's like you're used to

3:11

this. I didn't know what to do. I

3:14

was like clapping like stuff. I

3:18

was like their owner came and like called them in and

3:20

I was like why did they hear me clapping

3:23

and saying

3:25

shh. That's like parenting someone else's child

3:27

where you're like who do you belong to? What

3:29

commands do you know? You know how to go

3:31

away? You know how to go back and find

3:33

your mom? What do you know?

3:37

That's so funny. Charlie,

3:39

Melheiser's dog, wasn't

3:42

great at commands and I

3:44

am convinced that Charlie

3:46

speaks Spanish. I am

3:49

convinced because if you go Charlie

3:51

Benaki he'll come over. Oh that's

3:55

not it. It

3:57

is but then sometimes I'll speak to him in my broken Spanish

4:00

and he'll just like look at me.

4:02

And I feel like he's

4:04

like home, but like, she

4:06

doesn't normally talk like that. So like,

4:08

I'm not gonna get tricked. Yeah,

4:10

yeah, no. The zacks

4:12

is off. I don't trust it. Yeah,

4:15

I don't trust it. I'm not gonna follow

4:17

her. And then remember I told you my

4:19

neighbors were fighting? Yeah. Did I tell you

4:21

about this? Where? I'm not gonna be

4:23

on the show, but you told me. Oh, well,

4:25

I went for a walk and I stood in

4:28

front of my neighbor's house for entirely too long.

4:30

And if they have cameras, I'm a stalker. But

4:32

at one point, she

4:34

was like, if you

4:36

think I'm cooking a Thanksgiving dinner

4:39

and pouring to Paris, I must

4:41

say, you've got to be high. And

4:43

he went, you miserable bitch. You're just

4:45

fucking miserable. And she was like, the

4:47

haunted house is not for you. It's

4:49

for Jenny. I don't know their kid's

4:51

name. And he's like, what do you

4:53

mean it's not for me? I'm not

4:55

a child. She's like, she's scared of

4:57

houses. And they

5:00

were like, screaming at each other at 11am on like a Wednesday.

5:03

I was like, wait, you guys are doing pretty

5:05

well. You're not at work. Like, you have like,

5:07

you live in a nice house. Like,

5:09

what are you doing? And like,

5:11

you have the afternoon of Paris

5:13

after Thanksgiving? Yes. The day after

5:16

Thanksgiving. Wild. And then who

5:18

is she cooking for? Like, you

5:20

have friends. And anyway, so they,

5:23

there was like a U-Haul the next week.

5:25

And I was like, Oh my god. And

5:27

then they listed their place

5:29

for rent on Zillow because I

5:32

love trolling Zillow to see what my neighbors are

5:34

up to. And then a new

5:36

old lady moved in the next day.

5:38

And I was trying to get the scoop from

5:40

her. But she was like yelling at the moving

5:42

people about this chest that she was moving in.

5:44

And I was also like, are you a witch?

5:46

What is this chest? It looks like it's from

5:48

Atlantis. Like it was old, and rusty and stuff.

5:50

And she's like, no, it has to be carried

5:52

this way. And she was so old. The demons

5:54

will come out of the drop zone. I'm

6:01

like, I need to go for all of her. I

6:04

can't let what in there be unleashed.

6:08

And I got a little scared so I didn't

6:11

talk to her, but I'm dying to know if

6:13

she has the juice about my neighbors, and

6:15

I'm dying to know what she's

6:17

doing in town. Why are you renting a

6:19

house? What's going on? Yeah,

6:22

how old does she seem? To

6:26

me, I'm really bad at age, but I

6:28

think she was like maybe 50s

6:30

to 60s. Okay.

6:34

I think. Yeah.

6:37

And she seemed to be a single lady.

6:39

I didn't see any other family. But yeah,

6:43

I really want to know what's going on over there. I

6:47

wonder if she would have

6:49

the information of like

6:52

why they moved out. That's like what

6:54

a realtor gives you guys

6:56

like. You're absolutely right. You're

6:58

right. But I just watched this

7:01

movie on the plane called Swimming

7:03

Pool, where the realtor did have

7:05

some juice on what happened

7:08

prior to them owning the home. Also,

7:10

the movie gets real unhinged real quick.

7:13

Is this the horror movie where

7:15

they have a pool that's like evil? Yes.

7:18

And at one point, the dad's like,

7:21

I love the pool. The pool gives

7:23

me strength. And I was like, whoa.

7:28

Like he was making him like strong? Like

7:30

physically strong? Yes, because

7:32

he has, I don't

7:35

want to give it away.

7:37

But so he has something going

7:39

on and he needs to do some

7:41

exercise. So they're he they're looking

7:44

for a house and then they stop in front of this

7:46

one because he's drawn to it and he goes, oh,

7:49

it's got a pool. I can do

7:51

my exercises. And then he's like always in

7:53

the pool. And then the pool is like

7:55

juicing them up and making them happy. And

7:57

then the pool has like a different world

7:59

underneath. the pool and then she goes

8:01

to visit this lady who lived there before

8:04

and then her eyes are bleeding. It's wild.

8:06

Oh sorry, it's

8:08

called nice swimming pool. Oh,

8:10

there was a movie called

8:12

swimming pool. There

8:17

was. It was freaky deaky. Some

8:20

of the lines though when he was like, it's

8:22

making me stronger. I was like, oh no. That's

8:27

scary because I'm already like scared

8:29

of the water a bit. I don't want to tell

8:33

anything grabbing me or pulling me or sucking

8:35

me in. I get

8:37

it. Well, did you know those little caps at

8:39

the bottom of a pool? You have to have

8:41

those caps on it because if you just have

8:43

a drain, people have been known to be sucked

8:45

into the drain and held underwater. Isn't that scary?

8:48

Yes. Do

8:50

you want to hear even worse story?

8:53

What? Yeah. When

8:57

my sister was in high school in the late

8:59

90s, there was a high

9:02

school house party happening and there

9:04

was a hot tub and

9:06

one of the girls, there were

9:09

guys, girls all in the hot tub and one of the girls dropped

9:12

something and went to the bottom to get something in

9:14

her hair. Got caught and

9:16

she died. Oh my

9:19

God. Yeah. Oh my God. Way to kill the vibe. No,

9:24

not you Jordan. Homegirl with the hair. Like

9:26

you're all like having a hot tub. You're

9:28

making out. You're like being sassy and scandalous

9:31

and then you're like, oh no, we got

9:33

Cindy's down there. Oh,

9:35

that's that's terrible. Yeah. Ever since then, my

9:38

mom has been like, don't go in hot

9:40

tubs. I'm like, I'm not going to put

9:42

my head under the water. Can I put

9:44

my feet in? I guess

9:46

also like a hot tub is not

9:49

deep. Like how could they couldn't

9:51

figure to get scissors and like I

9:54

think when emergencies happen, you're like,

9:57

yeah, for sure. And I think it

9:59

was underage drinking and

10:01

like no one like I'm

10:03

sure they're all smoking weed and like oh my

10:05

god and they probably just didn't notice oh

10:10

that's okay everyone be careful in hot tubs don't

10:13

like dunk your whole head. Oh my god more than

10:15

300 people die every year from

10:17

hot tub related accidents. I would not

10:19

have expected that at all. Me either.

10:21

How many different types of

10:23

hot tub related accidents can there

10:25

be? Drowning for

10:28

sure. Slipping, getting

10:30

out. I guess overheating. Overheating.

10:33

Oh okay

10:36

yeah. Slip and falls. Entrashment.

10:42

Heat related injuries we got that. Oh, chemical

10:45

injuries. Okay. Oh

10:48

no. Wow. How to

10:50

prevent hot tub accidents. You

10:53

would think a hot tub would be okay like

10:55

you you think like so many people get eaten

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by sharks or something like that but no hot

11:00

tubs are far more dangerous than sharks. Yeah. I

11:03

feel like yeah you'd probably die in a hot

11:05

tub before a shark ate you.

11:08

I'm never around sharks. How many people

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every year are killed

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by sharks? I don't know.

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I feel like I want to say it's like

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11:20

think it's super small. Oh yeah

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Yeah 69 is way less than

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there's that chick. Ew. What's

15:01

Johnny Applesey? Did he have

15:03

apples stuck in his throat?

15:05

Was that his claim to

15:07

fame? Is

15:10

that a nursery rhyme? I don't know. I don't know what

15:12

I am, see? I don't know and I don't know why I

15:14

know him. I

15:16

mean, it sounds familiar to me. I just don't know what

15:18

his deal is or what he'd be doing. Johnny

15:21

Applesey is the American pioneer

15:23

nursery rhyme, nursery

15:25

man who introduced apple

15:28

trees to large parts of

15:30

Pennsylvania, Ohio, Indiana,

15:32

Illinois, Ontario. He became

15:35

an American legend while

15:39

still alive. Wait, this is a real person? John

15:42

Chapman. This is wild. Is

15:44

Johnny Applesey? Oh, because

15:46

he planted apples or apple trees. But how did

15:48

he get the apples? Interesting.

15:53

Oh, Lomister Massachusetts. Okay. You

15:56

know it? Yeah. Yeah. I used to live near

15:58

Lomister. This

16:02

is so, so he like, oh, he

16:04

randomly spread apple seeds wherever he went.

16:08

Wild. Yeah,

16:10

how did he get the apple seeds? He just

16:12

like discovered an apple or to eat it. Maybe.

16:16

And then was like, everyone has to eat an apple. Yeah,

16:19

it was kind of nice. Providing

16:22

food for people. That is nice. Do

16:27

you think you could, you could

16:29

date slash Mary a man named

16:31

Johnny Appleseed? No,

16:34

I would be so annoyed at this man

16:36

holding fucking seeds in his pocket, being like,

16:38

wait, wait, we can't go, we can't go

16:40

in there yet. I gotta go find a

16:42

tree. Like, oh my God, there's enough over

16:44

here, don't you think? There's only apple seeds that

16:46

can go to the next town.

16:51

I would get so tired of it. Yeah.

16:55

It is kind of quaint. I don't know if

16:57

you just like throw it, like just like throw

17:00

some seeds and keep going. They have to stop

17:02

and dig. That's annoying. I feel

17:04

like you got to stop and dig if you really want something

17:06

to grow. You can't just be sprinkling. Oh,

17:10

but I feel like I've seen videos of people

17:12

who like spread wildflowers and like urban

17:15

like wasteland and

17:18

they didn't grow, but they're also wildflowers, which I think

17:20

maybe they don't need that much to

17:22

grow. Yeah, they're wild, baby. Apple

17:24

trees are trees. They're

17:27

not wild. So

17:31

they need to be exposed

17:33

to cool moist conditions before

17:35

they germinate. Interesting. So I

17:37

wonder if he's walking around with germinated

17:39

fucking seeds. Ain't

17:41

a plasma a half inch deep? That's

17:44

not very deep. No. But

17:47

I'm like, is he germinating the seeds first,

17:49

which means you like put them on like

17:51

a paper towel inside like a moist paper

17:53

towel until it sprouts and then you plant

17:55

it. Did you know I'm a farmer? It

17:58

seems like it. I didn't know you knew all the... I'm

18:03

a farmer. Well, I mean,

18:08

my wisteria tree

18:12

is like spreading

18:14

its seed all over my yard, which

18:17

is really annoying because I don't

18:19

want more to grow on the yard. But

18:21

once they like get in the ground,

18:23

it's like, I'm a tree. It's like pretty quickly

18:25

is like, damn, I'm a tree. And

18:28

so if I see now I can recognize like what

18:30

they look like when they're tiny, I just like rip

18:33

them off of the ground. But it just like sneezes

18:36

seeds all the time. And I'm like,

18:38

this is please stop. Stay

18:40

contained. Wow. I just want

18:42

you to. Who

18:44

knew you were so, oh wait, what is

18:46

it? Oh, I was gonna make an abortion

18:48

joke, but your pro choice because you're aborting

18:50

little trees. Your tree spreading. My

18:53

yard. And you're killing them

18:55

before they come to come

18:57

to full treatment. Got

19:02

to scoop them out of the dirt while they're really

19:04

on. Scoop them get

19:07

all of the roots. Imagine

19:10

you had an abortion. The doctor's like, don't worry. We

19:12

got all the roots. Wouldn't that be wild? And like,

19:14

is it the possibility of you not? Oh, we left

19:16

a little something in there for you. It

19:20

starts growing from like the

19:22

foot. Oh

19:24

no, that'd be terrible. We

19:27

all started like little beans, which is like

19:29

really crazy to me. That is really

19:31

crazy. I used

19:33

to be so skinny. That's

19:39

wild. Like

19:41

there was a time where people were like worried about my weight.

19:43

We have to eat more so she gains weight.

19:49

They're like too skinny. We

19:52

have to beef her up so she's ready to get out of here. And

19:57

that makes me feel good about myself. Someone

20:01

asked me, I don't remember

20:03

if we talked about this one out, but

20:05

someone asked me, like, do you know your

20:07

birth story? And I was like, why

20:10

would I? I was like,

20:12

I guess maybe this is the

20:14

thing that people know, like, their birth story.

20:16

I'm sure their parents told them, like, oh, you

20:19

know, we were eating dinner and your mom's water

20:21

broke and then we had to brush it up.

20:23

Like all that stuff, I don't know

20:25

any of those details. I guess,

20:28

you know, I should ask. I

20:31

could ask and get more information on it. I

20:33

know I'm almost cooking collard greens and

20:35

then her water. But then

20:37

I don't know what happened after that. Well

20:40

I think she went to the hospital. Maybe.

20:44

She didn't go to the hospital. I feel like

20:46

I would know if she did it. Yeah,

20:50

she wouldn't hear the end of it. She'd be like, you know

20:52

where I went? That was right in

20:54

the yard. I went to DJ Mac. But

20:57

my parents never,

20:59

I don't know my birth story. Yeah.

21:02

Um, yeah, I simply don't

21:04

know. I don't know how long my mother was in labor. Um,

21:07

I don't even know if like,

21:10

family was there. Yeah, I don't either.

21:13

Huh. Wow, I wish my parents

21:15

were still around so I could ask them. Yeah.

21:19

They're super dead. I'll never know. And then

21:22

there's that. Yeah. And

21:24

there's that! But maybe

21:27

your sister knows. I doubt it. Maybe

21:31

they explained it to her. Or like, maybe she

21:33

was like, because how was the age difference? A

21:35

year and a half. Oh, never mind. She's not like,

21:37

holding up to remember that.

21:39

No, fertile brain. Yeah.

21:44

Um, but she might, somebody might have told her she does

21:46

remember more things than me. She's got a great

21:48

memory. I simply forget everything. Truly,

21:51

I forget. I don't even know what

21:53

I ate yet. Oh wait, I had chicken. I

21:56

ate chicken yesterday. You

22:00

take the other part of the apple apple and

22:02

chicken Rose

22:07

oh my god, can I tell you about this thrilling

22:10

combination? I just came up with sure apples

22:12

and Peanuts cuz

22:15

it's a like Apples and

22:17

peanut butter, but I don't have to mess

22:19

a knife and we

22:21

hate messing the knife Thank

22:24

God you have to mess a knife I

22:30

guess I should say that in the most unhinged

22:32

way I don't have to

22:34

mess a knife I don't have to mess a knife Yeah,

22:38

cuz the peanut butter gets stuck on the knife and

22:40

then and then you gotta soap it up and then

22:42

you use the sponge and

22:44

then the sponge kind of smells like like peanut butter

22:47

Uh-huh And

22:49

then you mess the sponge Yeah, you

22:51

mess you mess the scrub daddy Mm-hmm And

22:53

then you gotta rinse it off a hundred

22:55

times It doesn't smell like peanut butter, but

22:57

I have figured out a way to circumvent

23:01

Bite the apple chew it a bunch eat some

23:03

peanuts chew it a bunch and you're like, whoa You

23:11

could get a snack pack size of peanut

23:13

butter, oh yes, we have the ones you can

23:15

rip Your

23:18

food Okay,

23:20

maybe I will get into that I don't

23:22

know yet But Nicole, I really

23:24

love the reason that eat peanuts. I Love

23:29

them And

23:31

okay, so I've moved away from planters

23:33

because they have the street nuts. They

23:35

sell them at Rite Aid It's

23:39

like sweet and salty nuts. It's like a

23:41

coating. It's so good But I think I

23:43

moved away back to just normal peanuts Okay,

23:45

and Kirkland signature has the biggest crunchiest ones,

23:47

but I don't have a Costco membership So

23:49

I'm gonna have to hit up a couple of

23:51

our friends who have it and see it all

23:54

get me some get me some nuts Anyone

24:00

shop at Costco? You just like... No,

24:03

this year it's members only. Are you kidding?

24:05

It's very exclusive. I

24:08

thought it was like anyone can shop there, but it's

24:10

like the prices are different if you aren't a member.

24:13

What are you talking about? No, what store is that?

24:15

Whoever does that? I don't know Costco. No,

24:18

I'm sorry ma'am. Sam's Club,

24:20

Costco, BJ's,

24:22

I don't know if they still

24:24

exist. These are all membership exclusive

24:28

bulk buying places. Okay, yes,

24:30

well my bad. Yeah, you're

24:32

bad exactly. Not

24:36

part of the club, but I have no rules. You're

24:39

not a part of the club. I

24:41

did buy pretzels in bulk. They're

24:43

now stale. This is a problem with having food in

24:45

your house. You forget about it and then everything is

24:47

stale. Yeah.

24:50

How am I supposed to remember to eat it? I guess

24:55

if you're hungry and you like

24:57

it. Maybe you don't get

24:59

bulk. You know, I feel like bulk is like a

25:01

family of four, you know. Yeah,

25:04

wow, you're really just putting

25:07

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25:10

don't have a family. I am not a family

25:12

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25:14

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25:16

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25:20

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25:23

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25:28

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25:30

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27:33

Should we do a quiz or do you want to tell

27:35

me something? Stop

27:39

pointing at me like that. I feel so accused of sorry

27:42

when you do that. Let's take a quiz. Okay,

27:48

we've been on a quiz in a long good

27:50

time. We haven't. We've just been gabbing. Just

27:53

gabbing, gabbing, gabbing. Okay, I'm

27:56

going to let you pick.

27:58

Okay. because I'm kind and

28:01

benevolent and still grieving the roast you did

28:03

on me about not having a family. I

28:06

do think they want to some ice

28:08

cream flavors and we'll guess if you're an

28:10

introvert, ambivert or

28:12

extrovert. Oh,

28:14

I've never heard of an ambivert, but

28:16

I've heard of an amber alert. Oh,

28:18

wow. This apple is

28:21

really taking over my body. Amber,

28:35

a person whose personality has a

28:37

balance of extrovert and introvert. That

28:40

makes sense. Everyone's kind

28:42

of an ambivert. No,

28:44

I would say so. Yeah,

28:46

you're right. I

28:49

just said, yeah, you're right before you said anything.

28:51

Yeah, you don't even think you said anything. So

28:54

sorry. I think I just knew that's what you were

28:56

going to say and I was like, yeah. I

29:00

think there's some people who are through and through

29:02

introverts and through and through extroverts. Yeah. Okay.

29:06

Okay, we're going to choose

29:08

some ice cream flavors. Choose

29:11

an ice cream flavor. Raspberry.

29:13

Pumpkin. Chocolate chip

29:16

cookie dough. White

29:18

chocolate. Salted caramel. Lavender.

29:23

I'm not eating flowers. I don't. Flowers

29:26

do not belong in food. They

29:28

belong in a lawn or

29:31

a basket or a vase outside

29:33

or inside contained. Not in my

29:35

food. Okay. God,

29:37

this is hard. I don't like any of these. I

29:40

would say salted caramel for me. Sometimes

29:45

salted caramel is just too salty.

29:47

Interesting. I

29:51

guess I'm going to say chocolate chip cookie

29:54

dough, even though the dough is shocking sometimes.

29:56

Or I'm like, this shouldn't be. Try it. like,

30:01

I would just like to chew. Like that? No,

30:04

I'm always expecting to chew ice cream when

30:06

there's dollops in it. But like, it's like,

30:08

oh my God, it's cookie dough. Is this

30:11

okay? This is forbidden. We're not

30:13

supposed to eat cookie dough. It's forbidden. It

30:15

should be cooked. It's not a cookie. It's gotta

30:18

be. Oh. Choose

30:21

another ice cream flavor. Brailling.

30:24

Honeycomb. Irish

30:27

coffee. Africa. Apple,

30:30

caramel apple. Strawberry.

30:34

Okay. Normally I would pick

30:36

strawberry, but I'm gonna go with praline

30:39

because I had

30:41

a Baskin and Robbins ice cream cake

30:43

that was praline flavored and it was

30:45

so good. I like couldn't get enough

30:47

of it. So I was going to

30:50

Baskin Robbins every couple of weeks and

30:52

buying praline ice cream cakes just for

30:54

myself. And I would just slowly eat

30:56

them out of my freezer. That sounds

30:58

good. This

31:00

is a nice time. I

31:04

think I'm gonna do caramel apple.

31:07

I think it's a good question. Oh. There's a

31:09

construction happening. Oh, I see.

31:11

I was like, what was that? Choose.

31:14

My stomach. I'm

31:16

just a little hungry. Here's

31:18

a different question. Choose

31:20

an ice cream flavor. But

31:23

it's got. Testaccio.

31:26

Cappuccino. A

31:29

fagibarone. Gingerbread.

31:32

Rocky Road. What is in Rocky Road?

31:34

That's like chocolate ice cream with marshmallows?

31:39

Penis, I think. Whoa.

31:43

I'm never having Rocky Road, but if there's peanuts

31:45

in it, I might get into it.

31:48

Okay. So it's chocolate ice

31:50

cream nuts and whole or diced

31:52

marshmallows. Okay. Into the marshmallow

31:54

aspect. But Let's

31:58

get nutty. I'm gonna do Rocky Road. The

32:00

road. Kill any.

32:09

Ah, I see.

32:12

Butterfat. Okay,

32:15

so you like a savory ice cream I

32:17

guess is they have a look at that?

32:22

To the if labour. Duel

32:25

say the let's say coffee.

32:28

Coffee. Hazelnut. The some

32:30

other than. Chocolate

32:32

states as. Wow

32:36

Say is that I'm alone. I have

32:38

no family, no parents and I move

32:40

that It's rare and. Wow

32:45

have you can make a simple

32:47

mistake around says. I

32:51

mean I know I truly thought as

32:54

the was like coffee Yes. Guy

32:56

coffee I need is that a

32:58

picture also loosely affect the beans

33:00

and money thing give you. Another

33:03

name. For. A

33:05

million births muddled

33:07

pete. Are.

33:09

You still love bubble gum ice cream! My uncle

33:11

owns an ice cream shop for little the and.

33:14

I would always get the bubble gum but

33:16

as an adult not for me but the

33:18

oh them off with crazy it with the

33:20

other thing I haven't yet bubble of the

33:22

flip of a for. Blue.

33:25

Bubble them. It as

33:27

a not know publishes bubble gum. Isn't.

33:30

Even event listeners think. Malicious.

33:34

Is some of them blue do? but not

33:36

as of the think. I haven't had publicist

33:38

in so long. I wonder if they still

33:40

make up. As. It

33:42

said fans are. Oh

33:45

My. God. I'm in and get some. Publishers.

33:49

Blue blow out that some nasty the

33:51

some in. Some

33:53

rural roads kinky. I'm

33:56

going with French Vanilla because The Know is my

33:58

favorite. flopper by it's from if you can It's such

34:02

a good base to jump off from. Such

34:06

a good base. It is.

34:09

You can add whatever you want. And

34:12

vanilla really just compliments a lot of

34:14

things. Yeah, yeah. Oh,

34:18

I was going to say delay today. Okay.

34:22

Chews and ice cream flavor.

34:25

Blueberry. Do you

34:27

have a soup?

34:29

Cream candy. Cookies and cream. Moose

34:33

tracks. Orange.

34:38

Ooh, this is tough.

34:41

I love cookies and cream. Again, a

34:44

vanilla base. And we're adding Oreos to

34:46

it because ooh, does it compliment? And

34:49

then I love orange ice cream. That's like

34:51

an orangey sherbet or like, and then you

34:53

can add it with vanilla and then you

34:55

have like orange and cream, like an orange

34:57

cream. Yeah. Yeah.

35:00

And refreshing. Mmm. Mmm.

35:04

Wow. I think I'm going to go with cookies and cream. This

35:06

is the best quiz we've ever taken. I want

35:08

ice cream so bad right now. I

35:13

think I'm going to do the moose

35:15

tracks. Oh, okay.

35:19

Isn't that just like chocolate chunks?

35:22

I think so. But not quite

35:24

because that would be chocolate chip, I think.

35:27

But maybe it's like big chunkums. What?

35:30

So it's peanut butter

35:32

cups? Whoa. So

35:35

it's a magical combination of vanilla

35:37

ice cream, peanut butter cups and

35:39

famous moose tracks fudge. We

35:41

got to go back. I want that. That's

35:43

all I love. I love peanut butter cups.

35:46

I love fudge. Yeah.

35:48

I also, yeah. I stay by all of that.

35:52

Whoa, that's nice. Choose

35:55

an ice cream flavor. Mint chocolate

35:57

chip. I don't, you know, I also don't know if I

35:59

need it. there was this many ice cream

36:01

flavors. I didn't know either but I

36:04

think some of these are sorbets. Coconut I don't

36:06

think is an ice cream I think it's a

36:08

sorbet. Oh interesting. Maple

36:11

pecan. Amocha

36:13

vanilla. Whoa

36:16

this is tough for me. Chunky monkey.

36:18

I love chunky monkey. Oh but

36:20

that's the price. I also love vanilla. No but I do like banana

36:24

flavoring. I'm sick. I love

36:27

like Nestle quick banana milk

36:29

and I love banana runs. But

36:32

an actual banana you want me to peel it like

36:34

Donkey Kong? Get out of here. I don't

36:36

want that in my life. I think

36:39

got it. I

36:41

think I'm gonna go with vanilla though because I

36:44

love vanilla. You gotta stay loyal. Mm-hmm.

36:46

I wonder why there hasn't been a Donkey Kong

36:48

movie. I want to be Diddy Kong. Mmm

36:52

that's fine. There's also

36:54

a girl one. I don't remember her name

36:56

though. Diana Kong. Diana Kong.

36:59

It might be Dainty Kong. I hope

37:01

so. Dixie Kong. Dixie Kong.

37:03

Wow. Isn't

37:17

she so cute? She's very cute. Oh my

37:19

god. I love all of the girl video

37:21

game characters. Like Amy Rose is so cute.

37:23

She's the girl from Sonic.

37:27

They just like queued them up and put a bow on

37:30

it and I'm sold. They really

37:32

are like here's the girl version. You

37:34

like the boy hair? And now has a bow.

37:39

And guess what? I'm here for

37:42

it. I love it. Yeah. I will

37:45

pick mint chocolate chips. You

37:48

hate it. I kind of

37:50

like mint and chocolate together. Like a Andy's mint. Ew

37:54

that's sick. I feel like you're like oh

37:56

refreshing mint. Oh I'm dirtin' up my mouth

37:58

again with the chocolate. That's

38:00

nasty. Choose another ice cream

38:02

flavor mango Chocolate

38:08

What rum raisin Matcha

38:12

what what passion fruit These

38:16

are my least favorites, but I will

38:18

go with chocolate because sometimes chocolate is

38:20

good. Mm-hmm I

38:23

feel good you mango Wow,

38:26

you're getting wild out here in

38:28

these streets. Yeah Yeah,

38:32

that's me again. Well, yeah

38:37

Choose one final ice cream

38:39

flavor. Wow. We've made it to

38:41

the end pineapple lemon

38:44

strawberry cheesecake chocolate

38:47

chip banana

38:50

chocolate peanut butter I'm

38:53

going with chocolate chip. I do like

38:55

a little crunch sometime. Mm-hmm I'm

38:59

gonna try strawberry cheesecake.

39:01

Oh Okay

39:06

Okay, this is usage here I think

39:08

that's me I'm an

39:10

introvert Your choices

39:12

it seems like you're an introvert you

39:14

love your alone time But when you

39:16

are interested in being around others you prefer

39:19

to stick to smaller groups. That is

39:21

so true. Yeah Thanks,

39:24

I see I am also an

39:26

introvert Interesting

39:29

I don't know about that. I

39:31

don't really love my time alone I

39:34

love calling people and I love

39:36

just dropping by people's homes unannounced. I

39:39

literally just texted Marcy Our

39:41

friend Marcy and I was like, man I really miss

39:43

you living by me because sometimes I'll drive past your

39:46

house and be like can't honk. She's

39:48

not there Oh Yes,

39:52

one of my favorite things to do is drive

39:54

by someone pass and text and be like cute

39:56

you're honking it's me I

40:01

feel like you might be an ambivert or

40:03

like like a

40:05

introverted extrovert because I do think

40:07

you have introverted tendencies But

40:09

you're definitely an extrovert You know,

40:11

I think you you might be right

40:14

because sometimes I can't speak up for myself

40:19

And it's the strangest thing ever you like

40:21

we're we would can stand a

40:23

bar and you're like, excuse me

40:26

Oh, nevermind. I was a fool

40:28

for even that trying to talk to you I

40:30

just don't want to be branded as like the annoying

40:32

person at the bar Remember when that man touched my

40:34

necklace and you were like no and I

40:37

was like well, he's just looking Yeah,

40:39

you just like clamped your hands together

40:42

and tighten it up and let him

40:44

touch you. I'm like give us my friend Boy

40:51

oh boy, I think you're right. I'm an

40:53

ambivert. I think that you're

40:55

an ambroller. I'm an ambroller

40:59

Where's Nicole? Wait,

41:01

are amber alerts just for children? I Believe

41:05

so. I know for

41:07

like the elderly there is a

41:09

silver alert and then if

41:11

it's an adult, I don't know. I Feel

41:15

like I read somewhere that's like for

41:17

different ethnicities. There's different alerts. Oh my

41:20

goodness But I could be

41:22

wrong. I think I saw that on the internet.

41:24

You know how the internet be. It's like a black

41:26

alert I

41:28

think I've called an ebony alert and

41:30

now I might be lying way That's

41:35

why we've never gotten those alerts Me

41:42

either imagine getting ebony alert, I'd be like I

41:44

still get this magazine Oh My

41:53

god, this is new Gavin Newsom

41:55

this 2023 so it's an ebony

41:57

alert for black

42:00

children and young women. I feel like

42:02

they're sort of at the right wordy.

42:06

I also think there's another one for

42:08

indigenous children too. Oh, interesting.

42:14

This is wild but I didn't make

42:16

this up. This is wild. I can't

42:18

believe it was a 70. A 7! No, no, no. I

42:26

was in the law in 2022.

42:28

No! I mean, I just

42:30

don't think that was... I

42:32

don't know why... Who

42:37

picked the names? Who picked the names? An

42:40

old white man, I'm sure. Is there

42:42

one for Hispanic kids? I don't think

42:44

so but I'm worried as to what

42:46

it could be. I'm really worried. Oh,

42:49

okay. They were like, that's a step too far.

42:52

Yeah, we all know what's at that. Isn't that

42:56

wild? Wait, Judith, what

42:58

is the gray alert?

43:01

Oh, that's combat of a violent

43:03

patient. Interesting.

43:06

Wow. What's a

43:09

purple alert? That's 200. That's

43:12

you. That's a bugomissant. Oh

43:14

my god! You like me

43:17

and if you assist

43:19

the location of missing adult suffering

43:21

from a mental or cognitive disability.

43:23

I do have ADHD. Thank you.

43:25

Yeah, that would count. Oh,

43:27

what's the pink alert? Oh, that's if

43:30

an infant or a child has been abducted. But

43:32

that's an amber alert. Oh, this is too

43:35

astounded. I guess like a baby

43:37

is supposed to be a older

43:39

child. That's so funny.

43:41

They're like pink because you just came out of

43:43

a pussy. Amber, you finished cooking. Also,

43:46

I thought Amber was, I

43:49

didn't think they named it Amber because of the

43:51

color. I thought it was Amber, like

43:53

some girl named Amber got kidnapped at

43:56

some point. That is correct. Oh. She

43:58

Went missing. I don't know

44:01

if she's survive will find out now

44:03

but I believe it was her parents

44:05

who pushed it and then the it

44:07

became the Amber Alert because her name's

44:09

Amber. South as he did

44:11

not survive. Now that sucks to stay

44:13

as back of a day like. People.

44:16

Would get abducted and go missing in the

44:18

who have no way of. Telling

44:20

the public like will be have a look

44:22

know. This.

44:25

Is the faces a milk carton? Which.

44:27

Seems like they would take forever. Yeah,

44:29

I never by not I would never

44:31

be helpful in finding a child's evidently

44:33

people are lactose intolerant. Yeah like it

44:35

helps if I'm not alone and not

44:37

or of milk. and

44:39

then it's like you can dirty and my old know they

44:41

can see the odor on and. Ah

44:43

well she we help people.

44:48

Didn't help them by. Let's see

44:50

I saw that of alerts are

44:52

happening. As heck

44:54

email hi best friend Gay I have

44:56

a dilemma that and release your health

44:58

but I have a best friend Iowa

45:00

fellow man whose the I know. That

45:02

dog on those billboards? I hope that

45:05

suits you talking about. Other

45:07

ha. Ha! The. Of

45:10

mustn't Macys. The see

45:12

what leader don't I'm sorry

45:14

and him in interview every

45:16

some extra. Money Veronica I think

45:18

about that brunette lady and her like

45:21

proceed on that she looks. She does.

45:23

Law with her to

45:25

say does as. A.

45:30

Hey. This. Isn't a sound?

45:34

Of is Veronica as I met

45:36

through work. don't know he's can

45:38

we have gotten very last year

45:40

or contact We're both their early

45:42

twenties season. Then again I'm white.

45:44

we're. Man who work in a space

45:46

as owned and operated by other gay white

45:49

men much older in their sixties is one

45:51

person who has been a supervisor. This can

45:53

be from of ten year. Again,

45:56

And then again, White man. In. his

45:58

mid thirties him gym So,

46:01

when I first started, Jim, Veronica, and I,

46:03

along with a few other people, got

46:05

pretty close. We would chat

46:07

all day at work, about common

46:09

interests, go out to drinks, go

46:11

see Broadway shows together after work. One

46:14

day at work, after about four

46:16

to five months of this, we had a celebrity client

46:18

come in for a meeting who is a black woman.

46:21

Jim came up to me while she was in

46:23

the office at a closed-door meeting with the bosses

46:26

and said, wow, this whole time, I

46:28

thought they were talking about insert

46:30

different black, so black

46:33

female. Okay. I

46:35

said, no, Jim, it's been this

46:38

other black female who is the person we're

46:40

talking about this whole time. And Jim

46:42

responded, eh, well, they're

46:44

both black women. They are all the

46:46

same. I was

46:48

shocked that he'd say that and responded

46:51

with Jesus Christ, Jim. You can't say

46:53

that. And he chuckled like he

46:55

got away with something and walked away. I

46:58

have to say, I feel like Jim is another

47:00

name I've seen on an

47:03

insurance or a law sign.

47:05

And I wonder if this person was driving

47:07

and saw billboards and was like, Veronica, Jim.

47:10

Anyway, I was paying attention. Cut

47:12

to about six months later, Jim has stopped talking

47:14

to me or acknowledging my existence in the office

47:17

for months now, which I was frustrated

47:19

about at first, but honestly, after learning

47:21

how terrible the person he actually is,

47:23

I don't really mind. The dilemma is that

47:25

Jim is Veronica's direct supervisor and she has

47:27

to interact with him all day, every day.

47:29

Because of that fact, I decided to refrain

47:31

from telling her what he said, so she

47:33

didn't feel any type of way towards him,

47:35

towards someone she has to interact

47:37

with for her job. However, she has started

47:39

coming to me about the racist things, the

47:42

microaggressions that have been coming from other people

47:44

in the room near her and from Jim,

47:46

especially. For more context, Veronica is

47:48

the only person of color in

47:50

any sort of managerial role at his job, so she puts up

47:52

with a lot of bullshit from white people in the room on

47:54

a daily basis. I'm sorry, I wonder

47:57

if this makes me a bad friend that I've been

47:59

keeping this from her. It was originally a

48:01

choice as to not hurt her feelings and make

48:03

her movements throughout the office less terrible than they

48:05

already are But now I feel

48:07

like I'm hiding it from her. Anyways, I hope

48:09

this all made sense. I love every bit of advice

48:11

you can give Okay,

48:15

this is so funny because I like made a point

48:17

to be like because we're recording double today I was

48:19

like, I have to tell this year about knuckles. It's

48:21

great This is PS.

48:23

I would love to know how Nicole feels

48:25

about the new knuckles There's some permaplas up

48:27

higher more than X episodes, but

48:30

I will say it's fucking great and I

48:32

just texted Adam Palley Hahaha,

48:34

tell him what specifically I liked

48:36

about it Like

48:39

an insane person But

48:41

anyway, this is such an easy fix be

48:44

like hey girl, this man said X Y and Z I

48:46

didn't tell you because I knew you had to interact with

48:48

him and I thought that would be better But now you're telling

48:50

me all this shit. This man sucks Yeah, this adds to

48:53

the shit fucking Yeah tear Jim

48:55

down Like yeah, and he did this Mmhmm,

48:58

Adam Adam

49:03

Yeah, cause also even if she knew that information, I don't

49:05

know what would have changed between then and now Especially

49:10

if it was truly an isolated incident. Not that

49:12

I forgive racism. I if he's an older man

49:14

older people tend to say some wild shit

49:16

and Sometimes you don't hear another peep about

49:19

it, but like if it's a consistent thing Yeah,

49:22

girl. He said this to me. I don't talk to him

49:24

anymore. He ignores me And

49:27

then it's like if other people in the office you

49:29

should be like girl Let's get a club together and

49:31

fucking go to HR with like time-stamped evidence and then

49:33

have it be a fun game of microgravity Bring

49:37

you time stamp and write it down and track

49:39

his ass Mmhmm Track

49:43

his ass Get rid of Jim Yeah

49:48

Sold Awesome

49:51

the next one's

49:54

gonna be a voice memo, but they initially left a really long one beforehand So

49:56

I'm just gonna set it up up

50:00

for y'all. So basically this person

50:02

has a friend that they built a

50:04

relationship for three years with. They both

50:06

go to the same intense like program

50:09

together but she's feeling as

50:11

though her friend is pulling away and there

50:13

was one incident that she's trying to get

50:15

advice over where she invited her to go

50:17

somewhere but she kind of caught her at

50:20

a different place. So let's listen. Hi

50:22

my name is Ariana again. I

50:24

just pulled in and it got

50:27

cut off this sentence so here's

50:29

people back into it. So fast

50:31

forward back to today. We made

50:34

plans to go drinking. She said, nah, like

50:36

this time of study whatever and I'm like

50:38

alright I get it but you

50:40

know like it's not this is the

50:42

fifth time that she's counsel on me.

50:45

So then I go and order

50:49

her takeout and

50:51

I go pick up to take the

50:53

takeout and who do I see leaving the

50:58

restaurant with somebody because they

51:00

just had dinner. Abigail.

51:03

So my question to

51:05

you guys is I

51:08

do

51:11

I really don't want to fight

51:13

and I don't want to see like

51:16

a crazy stalker even though I'm not stalking

51:18

her. I just happen

51:20

to get lunch from this I mean a

51:23

dinner from the same place but

51:26

do I bring that up to her and do

51:28

I say hey like you

51:30

canceled on me but you still went out

51:32

to dinner. I just feel like

51:35

she's still some type of way and I'm

51:37

not being let in on this you

51:40

know I'm in this friendship. I don't know. What

51:42

do I do? Is that shady? Is it not

51:44

shady? Is it justified? Is it not justified? I

51:47

just want to know how to proceed because I'm a

51:49

little stuck because I don't want to fight. I really

51:51

do not want to fight with this person but also

51:53

I feel like my time my investment

51:56

in this friendship is not taking into consideration

51:58

and I'm not kind things to

52:01

do to somebody. Anyway, let me know

52:03

if you think. Bye! I

52:05

think it's okay to like, I

52:09

want you to bring it up because it's not fair

52:11

to you, our color. I

52:14

think a good way to do that though is like, hey,

52:16

I'm not like coming at you or like attacking

52:18

you or anything, but like, did you

52:20

double book yourself that day that we said that

52:22

we were going to go out and then you,

52:24

we didn't, but then you went out with somebody

52:26

else? Is that what happened? And then they can

52:29

explain themselves. Otherwise, I feel like if you're like,

52:31

you went out with someone and not me, I

52:33

feel like that feels attacky. But

52:37

I don't know, it could be

52:39

wrong. How do you feel? Yeah.

52:42

I guess I, I kind of feel

52:45

like I'm missing a lot of

52:47

information from the call, but I

52:49

think, yeah, you

52:53

could just like bring it up in a way. It's

52:55

like, oh, I happen to see you when I was

52:57

getting food. Did you end up

53:00

being available but didn't

53:02

tell me or I don't know,

53:04

because I have questions, I guess, and see what

53:09

they say. What?

53:13

They're being weird, they're being weird and maybe you

53:15

don't need that energy anyway. Yeah,

53:18

I do get it though, because it's like, oh, I

53:20

don't want to give up on this. Like, I like

53:22

this person. But

53:24

I do think talking is key.

53:28

But if they are like canceling on you a lot, and

53:30

you're not like close, close, close, close, close, because I don't

53:33

know how close they are, it might

53:35

be like cut your losses. And like this

53:37

person isn't, you know, a ride or die or whatever.

53:41

But my feelings would truly be hurt if a friend,

53:43

I made plans with them and then they went out

53:45

with somebody else and then never

53:47

mentioned it or something because I've had it happen and they're

53:49

like, oh my God, I'm so sorry I fucked up. And

53:51

I've done it to people because I'm terrible with my

53:53

schedule work. But I always like if

53:55

someone like, like

53:58

my friend, I was supposed to go to her birthday party. I

54:00

wrote down the entirely wrong date in my

54:02

calendar and then she was like, hey, are you coming?

54:04

And I was like and I was sitting on my other friend's

54:06

couch And I was like My

54:10

is never gonna make it to West Hollywood by

54:12

the time this dinner is over and I was

54:14

like I am so sorry I wrote

54:16

down the wrong date. I Really

54:18

didn't mean to do that and then I sent her

54:20

flowers because I really did fuck up and I was

54:22

really sorry about it so

54:25

maybe I feel like if you talk to them

54:27

and Give them an

54:29

opportunity to explain themselves Either

54:32

they'll be remorseful and be like sorry or

54:34

they'll be like bitch kick

54:36

rocks. I didn't want to hang

54:38

out with you I did that on

54:40

purpose Yeah,

54:42

bye Yeah. Yeah, I

54:45

think asking questions might be a Easy

54:47

way to approach it and see

54:50

what they say. Yeah Yeah Can

54:56

you see my arm flapping You

55:00

can't see my arm flapping In

55:04

zoom, I'll

55:06

actually my thing. Okay now I can see it my

55:08

thing is frozen Yeah,

55:14

yeah Did

55:16

I tell you what my little cousin did she's

55:18

uh, my cousin's five and

55:21

she was Swinging my arm fat and

55:23

I thought it was pretty funny But then I was

55:25

like I gotta tell her that people might not like

55:27

it and I was like people might not like

55:30

this Even though I think it's

55:32

funny and she went does it hurt your feelings and

55:34

I was like, yes And then she goes, okay, let's

55:36

play school and I said, all right And she goes

55:38

I used to hit but I don't hit anymore Would

55:40

you like to be my friend because I think the

55:43

arm flapping was like adjacent to hitting in her mind

55:45

That's almost like people don't like to be hit.

55:48

Anyway, I was just flapping my arm and it made me laugh Okay

55:53

Hi, this is Cher. I have a dilemma that I

55:55

could really use your advice on I have a

55:57

friend who I would call a married

56:00

in a few months and I became very

56:02

close in university where we both study to

56:04

be teachers and I consider her one of

56:06

my best friends for several several years. However

56:09

in the past couple years life has gotten in the

56:11

way and we sort

56:13

of drifted apart. We

56:15

still see each other every few months or so

56:17

usually in a group hang with our other university

56:20

friends. There's no bad blood we just don't see

56:22

each other as often as we used to. Before

56:26

A had met her now fiance she had always

56:28

told me that she wanted to get married on

56:30

New Year's Eve. I guess she just likes idea

56:33

of having a big party and having that as

56:35

her anniversary date. It's also because she didn't want

56:37

to have a summer wedding but she wanted to

56:39

have time off around her wedding. So as a

56:42

teacher you are limited to having holidays only

56:44

during the winter or spring break so sure

56:46

enough when A and her fiance got engaged

56:48

they booked their wedding venue for this upcoming

56:50

New Year's Eve. Now here's my dilemma. My

56:53

boyfriend and all his friends are turning 30 this year.

56:55

My boyfriend and I have been together for over

56:57

two years now. We're both teachers this is

56:59

important later and I become really close with his

57:01

group of friends. We all live very close by

57:04

each other so we hang out a lot. I

57:06

would say a minimum of once a week

57:08

so far so far more

57:10

often than I see A. To celebrate their 30th

57:12

birthday they decided they wanted to do a group

57:14

trip to Cuba. Since my boyfriend another one of

57:17

our friends and I are all teachers the only

57:19

time we can go on vacation is during our

57:21

winter break. The group has decided to go to

57:23

away to Cuba for New Year's Eve this year

57:25

or for New Year's year. I

57:28

love A and I would love to be at her wedding

57:30

but a trip to Cuba with our friends sounds

57:32

amazing. I also need to note

57:34

that the only one of my other friends from

57:36

the university will be at A. I also

57:39

need to note that only one of my other friends

57:41

from the university will be at A's wedding so I

57:43

won't really know anyone else there. My boyfriend

57:45

also really wants to go to Cuba instead of the wedding.

57:48

Another reason I want to go on the trip is

57:51

because we want to do as much traveling as we

57:53

can before we settle down and start a family. I don't

57:55

know how to bring this up with A. I think it would

57:57

really hurt her feelings if I told her I wanted to go to

57:59

Cuba. to Cuba instead of her wedding. Any

58:01

advice that you can provide on how to

58:04

handle this is greatly appreciated. I love the

58:06

show and the last to provide without fail

58:08

every week. Oh, thanks. I don't

58:10

think you have to tell anyone why you're not

58:12

going. I think you'd be like, yeah, sorry, I'm not

58:15

able to go. And that's

58:18

it. Like, I mean, I guess, because you

58:20

guys aren't close either. So it's not like

58:22

she needs a reason. I don't think. Like,

58:26

or just like, oh, I have a scheduling

58:28

conflict or like, I'm taking another trip.

58:30

But you have to say, I'd

58:33

rather go to Cuba and go to

58:35

your wedding. Yeah, that would be awful.

58:38

But I won't say if you have already

58:40

RSVPed, yes, and you're going to bail to

58:42

go on a trip, that would

58:44

make that if I found that out, I would see

58:46

I would be hurt whether we were close, or

58:50

like passing in the

58:52

wind friends. So

58:54

I think if you RSVPed, I

58:57

think that's like a little bit more of a conversation. Like,

59:00

I mean, it's May now. So it's like, she's

59:03

not losing money on you because she can just

59:05

whatever invite somebody else. But

59:07

yeah, I was just explaining it's like, oh,

59:09

I'm so sorry, there is an actual conflict.

59:13

But yeah, it also doesn't seem like you like this person. Like

59:16

you really like you don't want to go to this

59:18

wedding. Yeah. And you'd rather go to Cuba with

59:21

your boyfriend, which is fine. Cuba. Yeah. But

59:23

I think he has to explain much people

59:25

drop out of things all the

59:27

time. And I think she'll finally been really like,

59:31

she doesn't need you here. You're in the wedding party. Like

59:33

it'd be nice. Yeah, but it's

59:35

okay. Yeah, you were the bridesmaid. I'd be like, you

59:37

got to go. Yeah. But it's okay. I'd

59:39

be like, oh, it's like partners 30.

59:42

It's that's important. And

59:44

that's all you need to say. Yeah,

59:47

if you have an RSVP, there's no

59:50

shame in the game of just being like,

59:52

no, not going. So If

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1:00:02

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1:00:19

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