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we want to get that hair, B. Brooke,

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you didn't have to dress up

3:28

for the last episode. Listen, you guys,

3:30

you look like a working woman. I

3:32

am not that bad. I've seen you

3:34

wear my hair. My hair was in

3:36

a bun. I've seen

3:38

you wear one. I have no makeup on. That's what you see.

3:40

I don't get ready anymore. So I'm single, but I don't get

3:42

ready. Yeah. And I hang

3:44

out with my nieces and nephews. So this is my

3:46

my jeans. These are... This

3:49

is my jeans. This is

3:51

my shirt. I got a lot

3:53

of accessories on. Why

4:03

would we ever just do the podcast like

4:05

this? Hey guys, we're huddling. Oh

4:14

my God. Hey guys, welcome to

4:16

between the reps with Brooke, Deb

4:18

and Gina. This is our

4:20

final episode. I don't

4:24

know about you guys, but I was realizing the final episode.

4:26

It only took five years till Brooke all of

4:28

a sudden gave up on getting ready. Yeah. Fuck

4:31

it. You know what? Fuck

4:33

it. I think

4:36

we're all in the fuck it stage. It's like, um, you

4:39

know what I realized though? So if when you

4:41

guys are listening right now on our last episode,

4:43

we said that, you know, if you wanted to

4:45

write in and give us a question and all

4:47

this stuff. And I

4:49

was like, oh, we're recording before our

4:51

podcast. We're recording this before that podcast

4:54

comes out. So then I

4:56

was like, well shit, now I just feel bad. So

4:58

if you guys do write in, I mean, I

5:00

know I would be willing to like write back.

5:02

I know Brooke, you would be willing to write

5:04

back, right? Yep.

5:07

If someone emailed like we could like, we'll go

5:10

through them. Um, and at

5:12

least respond to you, which is what we

5:14

have not done in Paris. Rarely.

5:17

Listen, I

5:20

feel like potentially.

5:25

Well, first and foremost, I know that we'll

5:27

probably just record one more thing, even if

5:29

we just record something and we post it.

5:31

You guys can watch the final episode on my,

5:34

on my, my YouTube channel. Cause that's where they go

5:36

anyway. Cause we

5:38

can post it. Cause I

5:40

do feel like if we don't, you

5:44

know, like this could end up being like the

5:46

worst relationship our listeners have ever been in like

5:49

five year relationship. And we're like, bye. Bye.

5:52

Yeah. Yeah. Just

5:55

fucking go some pretty good thing. Or

5:57

like we've kept this. literally

6:00

kept us through this for five years. And we just were like, all

6:03

of them were like, I

6:05

guess we'll just go fuck ourselves then. Like,

6:08

we're like, oh, it's not you. What

6:11

our loyalty gets us. You're like, uh,

6:13

your wealth cost. Yeah. So we're like,

6:15

it just depends on the response. Right?

6:18

Like, I mean, if we get, if

6:20

we get, you know, more

6:22

than a few emails and we

6:24

can address those. But we'll, yeah,

6:26

we'll figure it out. You know, 20 do either

6:28

one of you have a glass of, okay, I see

6:30

your wine. Hey,

6:33

okay. I was telling Devin, I broke out

6:35

the big bottle. So you did. Yeah,

6:37

you did. I

6:39

didn't have any champagne. So I was dying. I was,

6:42

this is all what I have. So

6:44

I brought a backup. Perfect. Okay. Got

6:46

perfect. Okay. Because so we all have

6:49

something to toast with. So it's

6:51

funny because I was just showing Devin,

6:53

um, I was rushing, right?

6:55

Rushing to get ready. I'm gonna throw

6:58

all my stuff away. Um, and

7:00

I poured a glass of wine and I knocked

7:02

it over. So there's

7:05

that. Oh, and

7:10

then, and then my glass of

7:12

wine is sitting, it's still sitting on this.

7:15

Uh, what did we call this? What is

7:17

this? Your runner? Yeah. Runner. So my glass

7:19

is sitting on the runner. And so I

7:21

run and I grabbed this to like throw,

7:23

like, I'm like dabbing it

7:25

and I pick the runner up to

7:28

get underneath it and then spill it again. Oh, dude.

7:34

It was just like, yeah, it's, yeah. Yeah.

7:37

So I'm down to, uh, I'm

7:40

good. Okay. How, I just want you

7:42

to check something for me. What? Look

7:45

under the runner. That's

7:48

what I did. It's okay. Your table's doing. Yeah.

7:50

The table, your table is not red. Okay. The

7:53

table's fine. Okay. I wiped, I like dabbed

7:55

it and wiped it underneath and that's what

7:57

spilled the glass of wine. I

8:00

dabbed it. I dabbed it. I dabbed it.

8:02

Oh my god. Remember that was

8:05

a thing. I mean, I

8:14

don't really remember. I don't really remember because

8:16

let's be honest, I was already too old to dab

8:18

when dabbing came out. Yeah, same. All the kids were

8:20

like, they're like, I dab. They're

8:24

like, oh my god, that all

8:26

the youth is convulsing. What is

8:28

happening? Oh, these seizures.

8:32

Oh, the kids these days. Oh,

8:35

those kids. Yeah.

8:38

Anyway, my little, my little

8:40

nephew is so freaking cute.

8:42

I can't even. Which one? Drew? Drew

8:44

boy? No, he says. What? Well,

8:48

he, he's been doing this

8:50

thing now. Robin, where she'll say, you'll say,

8:53

I love you. And he goes,

8:57

okay. Not reciprocal at all. No. And you're

8:59

like, I love you. He goes, okay. You're

9:03

like, say it back. He looks at you and just

9:06

goes, this squint at you.

9:08

But then he started doing this and it

9:11

just, my gosh, fills

9:13

me with so much happiness. He'll

9:16

out of out of nowhere. He'll go run

9:19

up to me. He did the other day for the first time. And now he

9:21

does all the time. He'll run up and go, but you know how

9:23

much I love you. And I'm like, I love

9:27

you too. I

9:30

know. Dude. Oh my

9:33

gosh. And he just, my parents, everyone, everyone,

9:35

they're like, he should, he just got you

9:37

whooped. And I'm like, yeah, he does. Yeah. I'm like,

9:40

I love that he loves me so much. And

9:43

I just, it's like, I just need that. And

9:45

for him, like where you want to go. And

9:48

it's, it's, it's, it's gone extreme

9:50

enough that we

9:54

were, I was over at Robin's house, my sister and

9:57

the kids were

10:00

in the kitchen we stopped and picked up dinner and

10:02

I was in a room she showed me something and they

10:05

got she got little sugar gliders for the boys they got

10:07

two sugar gliders and so we were in there with them

10:09

and I thought later I got

10:11

candy no it's an animal

10:13

it's a marsupial oh oh I saw that on

10:15

your story yeah okay I didn't know what that

10:17

was my sister was asking me she goes what

10:19

was that thing yeah did it

10:22

look like between like a monkey

10:24

and a squirrel I've

10:26

decided big bugga it's like it

10:30

looks so it's in the kangaroo

10:32

family no I they look like a cross

10:37

like a like a my

10:39

dad would we were calling frats

10:42

fruit rat a fruit bat and a rat

10:44

oh yeah yeah cuz that face like the

10:47

big eyes in their ears reminds me like

10:49

a fruit bat minus they're like weird nose

10:51

but they're fluffy mm-hmm yeah they're

10:53

pretty cute and they fly like they can

10:55

jump kind of like flying squirrels and

10:58

those and you can have those as a pet oh

11:00

yeah so apparently they're friendly they

11:03

bond with you and like they're

11:05

they're pouch animal so you

11:08

like carry them around and they're nocturnal

11:11

so they

11:13

sleep during the day especially if you don't play with

11:15

them you're supposed to like inner as

11:18

you get them more bonded with you interact with

11:20

them make make them move earlier so then they'll

11:22

maybe sleep at night like part of the night

11:24

yeah I was gonna say that might be a

11:26

nightmare there are pages in Robin

11:28

Jer's room oh my god she was laughing

11:36

she goes dude they went nuts in there all

11:39

in and jumping but they they yeah

11:45

they'll jump or the

11:47

lady who was showcasing them

11:49

and that's where Robin got him at the Dickens

11:51

Festival Christmas Festival says like they'll they

11:53

want to be close to you like

11:55

they're not they don't want to run away

11:58

from you yeah my mom saw this video

12:00

and it was perfect for a codependent. Oh

12:02

yeah. Funny thing, Drew's, his name is Robbie

12:15

Dino. Okay.

12:19

And we, me and my dad were like, we're like,

12:21

it's Robbie Dino. Like we correct Robin Robbins, like Dino.

12:24

And I'm like, we, my dad are like, Robbie Dino,

12:26

like get it right. Robbie Dino, Robbie

12:28

Dino. And then Jack's is

12:30

Sparky. He had like five names. They couldn't land

12:33

on one. But this video, my mom's, you

12:35

know, cause you talk about things in your phone all of

12:37

a sudden start showing you all these cool videos or ads.

12:40

It's this guy at the park and he's got his

12:42

sugar glider in his hand and he

12:44

fully just throws it in

12:46

the air, like in the air at

12:48

a park and the camera and

12:50

he puts his hand down and he lands

12:53

right back in his hand. No way. I was like,

12:55

dude, how fun would it be? We'll do challenges. We

12:58

can see if they've got two of them when

13:00

they're more bonded. It's like, we could see how far they'll

13:02

jump. Oh my God. Jump

13:05

to me. No sugar, no

13:07

sugar gliders have been injured in this

13:09

video. It's

13:12

like, uh, it's like a pet boomerang. Yep.

13:18

He'll be back. He's like, you

13:20

saw him and you're like, one second, just put your hand up.

13:22

And he's like, I feel like

13:25

it's like, uh, you know, like the evil, like

13:29

where they fly back to the Hawk, like the Hawk. I don't

13:31

know what they're called a Hawk, but they, I

13:33

don't know. They have a name like the guy or

13:35

the person that like handles them and wears the glove. And

13:37

yeah, I don't remember what it's called. I

13:39

wonder how people get into that. I feel like kids that are

13:41

into like, I don't know, Lord of the rings

13:44

or something like birds. You're like fantasy.

13:48

Oh yeah. Yeah. Like I need to

13:50

get it all. But also, but also I feel like

13:53

a lot of kids, a good assumption is that if

13:55

they're into like real fantasy and like, then they get

13:57

into like dungeon and dungeons and dragons, they don't have.

14:00

the balls to handle a

14:02

hawk. No, like, you know,

14:04

scared. They're scared kids. Yeah. Yeah.

14:07

They're scared kids.

14:11

I mean, I would be scared too, but some kids

14:13

are not sued freak like

14:15

Maisie. I was like, Oh no, that's a

14:17

bad kid. Oh, sorry. That's scared. That's

14:19

a scared kid. Have you're

14:21

a scared kid? Will

14:25

you hold this fountain? No.

14:27

Oh, you're a scared

14:29

kid. You know what? Instead of calling people like if

14:32

I want to be like, you're a pussy. Now I'm

14:34

just gonna be like, you're such a

14:36

scared kid or scared. Why

14:39

are you scared? Are you

14:41

scared? Are you scared?

14:43

Are you scared kid? Just

14:48

out there bullying children, scared kid,

14:51

like the most like mild,

14:55

you know, comments,

14:57

scared kid. What are you a

14:59

scared kid? Think you got, you

15:01

really got scared kid

15:03

over here. It's

15:08

Gina. It

15:11

is me. Dude. Daniel

15:13

scares me so much now that I

15:15

see all the video. No, I've been

15:17

getting scared at work for no reason.

15:20

Like I'll just be sitting at my desk. Oh,

15:22

you're just you're, you're jumping now. Comfy. Yeah. And

15:24

so like there's this one lady that always comes

15:27

over from our garden center, like drop off,

15:29

you know, cash or whatever. She

15:32

like will open the door and I'll go,

15:38

oh, I'm not sneaking up on you. Why do you do

15:40

that? Every time I come in, I go, I know.

15:43

Yeah. I just have a friend that scares

15:45

me all the time. Very jumpy. Dude. Oh,

15:47

man. All right. So

16:01

last episode,

16:03

this is it. But you

16:06

know, go ahead. Go ahead. Well,

16:08

I was going to say, I've been involved

16:10

behind the scenes since you started. And

16:14

you know, you used to listen to all the

16:16

episodes and had to do all the posts

16:18

and everything for them. I had to do it. Oh,

16:21

I had to do it. You

16:25

guys, I've been around for a while and I had to do

16:27

so many things for you. We're

16:30

like, seven. All

16:35

right, sorry, Deb. Yes, go ahead. I

16:38

got two. Yes, that's

16:40

much better. Much better. Thank you.

16:44

What are some of your favorite episodes? You

16:49

know, we were texting earlier and you had said that. I

16:52

don't know, B, do you have one? Because I feel like your answer

16:54

is going to be the same as mine. Because

16:59

through this whole journey, we've

17:01

never known what we're going to talk about. And

17:03

we don't ever listen to them. No,

17:05

the only time we've known we're going to talk about is when

17:07

we've had guests on. And it's like, we know they

17:10

are specialists in or whatever they are

17:12

doing. I think one episode

17:15

that was a pretty good one was your

17:17

pelvic floor. The pelvic

17:20

floor one. What was the name of that device?

17:22

I don't remember the name of the device, but let

17:24

me find it. Hold up. That

17:27

one was pretty fun just

17:29

because it's super interesting. And

17:31

especially, that is

17:33

a problem that's way more common than people probably

17:35

realize, especially if they don't deal with it themselves.

17:38

I don't deal with P and Y

17:40

exercise, but I have

17:42

helped a lot of ladies

17:44

and women do deal with it,

17:46

and not just after babies. That's

17:48

what's crazy. Well, that's not something

17:50

in that. Yeah, it's

17:53

like people who have never had children are dealing

17:55

with it. It's more

17:57

like an athletic thing. Yep. And it's like they

17:59

were used. using it for when you're overactive.

18:01

Like if your pelvic floor is overactive, can

18:04

cause you extreme discomfort. Like, yeah,

18:07

you know, and I have friends that have dealt with that. And

18:09

it's just

18:12

like, it was like an off the wall

18:14

topic or even not topic subject and like

18:16

subject matter and science and data

18:19

that's being done and that she's done that

18:21

again, if

18:24

you don't personally deal with it or

18:26

even for my mindset, right? Like being

18:28

in sport and knowing ladies that were

18:31

like under the age of 24 and

18:34

peed every time they did a squat

18:36

clean, right? You know, and that's

18:39

where the conversation we had is like, one,

18:42

you probably have a lot of young women. Well, for sure at

18:44

that age, that should not

18:46

be a problem. Like you should not

18:48

be peeing uncontrollably.

18:51

And you just don't realize like your

18:53

pelvic floor, just like when you talk about feet, like

18:55

all the muscles that are in your feet and

18:58

the discussion of like when you have knee pain or

19:00

back pain, a lot of the time, if you just

19:02

addressed your feet, like your arches or

19:04

how tight they are, how you walk, what kind

19:06

of shoes you're wearing, you could solve a lot

19:09

of problems up from there. And

19:12

from the just don't know we're here. Not

19:15

from the bottom. You

19:17

just wouldn't, you forget.

19:20

It's like, we forget how much work

19:22

our hands do, how much work our feet do, you know?

19:25

And then all of a sudden when you're really tied up,

19:27

like I remember one year

19:29

training for regionals and I, my

19:32

forearms, like my palms and all through

19:34

my forearms were in

19:37

just knots. Like, and

19:39

I just ached and hurt. And there wasn't anything

19:41

I could do for myself. I had

19:44

like, I got like a massage and she worked on

19:46

my forearms and it definitely made me cry. And

19:49

I remember just hearing like, it was as if I had cables,

19:51

like just all the tight tight

19:54

tightness in there, but I never, in my mind,

19:56

it was like, well, what did I do? You

19:59

know? Yeah. get that every time

20:01

we're gripping something like all these

20:03

the muscles that you're not we use

20:05

constantly and we forget that we're using them all the time

20:08

like you're in your feet. So

20:10

we also forget about we also

20:12

forget about our pelvic floor muscles like oh

20:14

they just know what they're supposed to do.

20:16

Well sometimes they don't they don't right

20:19

so thank goodness for people oh you did

20:21

what was it yeah it's

20:23

episode 117 and it's Mary

20:26

Ellen Ryder and it's the Yarlap.

20:28

Yarlap I remember because it was

20:31

like remember had

20:33

something to do with sailing yep because her

20:35

and her dad sailed oh yeah

20:37

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Mind. I

24:05

mean, I don't, I don't have a favorite

24:07

episode. I think my favorite episodes were always

24:09

the one where it was just us

24:12

talking and then something like you would say

24:14

something that would surprise the shit out of

24:16

me and I would just start dying laughing

24:18

or, or the other way around. And it

24:20

was just like, there were, there were some like,

24:22

I mean, let's be honest, there were some that we would

24:24

do that we were like, Oh, that was bad. Yeah.

24:26

We're like, yeah, that was bad.

24:29

Every time we would have one of

24:31

those, we always started the

24:33

next episode up with like, yo,

24:36

we understand if you're

24:38

like, yeah, I

24:41

don't know why. Yeah. I mean, there were times when

24:43

I was like, Oh my God, why would anybody listen

24:45

to this bullshit? Well, you read some

24:47

of the comments and it's like, some

24:49

of like the mean, I love the mean ones.

24:52

I love

24:54

the mean ones. But there were many

24:56

that were just like, I was

24:58

dying laughing in my car listening.

25:00

Oh yeah. I probably looked

25:03

like an absolute fool, but thank you

25:05

for the good laugh. Yeah, that's my

25:07

favorite. I remember getting messages from people,

25:09

men and women, men who would

25:13

listen to it in their headphones, like at the gym.

25:16

And I don't, I definitely can't remember like what the

25:18

comment was or what the episode was, but this person

25:20

was like, they were laughing so

25:23

hard and they're at the

25:25

gym and what we're talking about and what they're like

25:27

laughing, they had to like, they would pause it and

25:29

like look around, like make sure no one was like,

25:36

I guess I'm due to the gym, like,

25:38

wasn't it like, well,

25:40

and those are always like the surprising comments, right?

25:43

Like, because you're like, Oh, I mean, I

25:45

could see how women would understand what we're

25:47

talking about. We're women. Yep. We're just being,

25:49

you know, we're just talking about like real

25:51

shit. But then to like have men

25:53

laugh about it, you were kind of like, Oh, okay. Okay.

25:56

Okay. Well, I need even more than that. I may

25:58

be on here. Like we've

26:00

been doing this for five years. I know that's

26:04

what's crazy is like it doesn't it definitely doesn't like

26:06

it's been five years and You'd

26:09

think that if we've been doing it for five years

26:11

at some point we would have been like people like

26:13

it But yet we're still like I mean, do they

26:15

like it like are we entertained? It's

26:21

because our self-esteem is so low I

26:23

know, you know, we're always fighting to

26:25

pretend, you know But

26:30

we made it to like where we didn't

26:32

even realize that we had made it. Yep

26:36

But I will tell all you guys that are listening, you

26:38

know, what has definitely kept us doing this is Not

26:43

only you guys listening because they

26:45

kept we kept eating to record

26:47

more and they never told us like you guys suck We

26:49

gotta kick you out of the team It

26:52

was the messages To our

26:54

email but also like to my my

26:56

DMS and and conversations with

26:58

people in person like You

27:03

truly and this is is a comment

27:05

for everyone listening because this goes this

27:08

pertains to you in your life You

27:10

can truly do not know What

27:14

positive effects you are having on people

27:16

and it's not like this direct Conversation

27:18

where we're problem-solving for you, right? It's not

27:20

this direct conversation where we're talking about whatever

27:22

your problems are and I'm going to help

27:24

you through them. It's us just

27:27

I I personally

27:29

think being vulnerable and

27:31

being honest and having hard

27:33

conversation whether it's about

27:35

our own personal stuff and being willing

27:37

to discuss some things and also having

27:39

listeners be able to I guess

27:43

be there through the process of like working

27:45

through something and More

27:48

than anything. I think that are

27:51

easy to listen to Hilarious

27:55

we're hilarious Larry

27:58

we're alert. We're hello It

28:03

just can it can it

28:06

can offer so much help just

28:08

through the healing of I guess

28:14

you know like oh my gosh it's not

28:16

just me. It's

28:20

not just me. Yes. That's why

28:22

I was going to say dad is like really feeling like I'm the only

28:24

person that deals with this or you know and I

28:26

think I think a lot of that is you

28:29

know it's funny because Brooke you remember this it's like

28:31

at the beginning when we sat

28:33

around the big table and I

28:36

was shitting my pants and

28:38

you had hive I'd hive I was like

28:41

it's gonna be fine.

28:44

I had no idea what we were doing

28:47

and you know having to do

28:49

it like in a studio and like you had

28:51

had experience with that I was just like what

28:53

the fuck am I doing here you know but

28:55

it was it was so interesting

28:57

how they really wanted remember how they really wanted us

28:59

to come up with a format. Oh

29:01

yeah we had to have a format meeting

29:03

and I was like yeah format is no

29:05

format is no format and they were like

29:08

you have to have like what's your concept

29:10

and you know your format. What are your

29:12

like what are the topics like what's it

29:14

about and we're like I know

29:16

well you were talking about it's like this I was like

29:19

it was like shrugging my shoulders like

29:21

here's like please come really unprepared. Yeah

29:23

I was literally sitting there going like

29:25

I don't even know why I'm here

29:27

like whatever she says I don't know.

29:30

Okay but I am happy

29:32

that we decided well you know

29:35

you decided that we weren't

29:37

going to just kind of

29:41

go with what they were

29:43

suggesting you know because I

29:46

think that that's that has been like the

29:48

biggest input that we've had is that oh

29:50

it's just like I'm sitting with my girlfriends

29:52

or it's just like you know you guys are having

29:54

the same conversations that I'm having with my girlfriends on

29:57

the you know or it's like I'm on the couch

29:59

with you. or yeah

30:02

and that's really been gratifying

30:06

I think for us

30:09

to realize like oh you know

30:11

going with what you know we

30:13

wanted to do actually

30:15

benefited us and it did

30:18

reach so much so many more people than

30:20

trying to have this like format remember when we would like

30:23

try to research things on the way to yes

30:27

well that was when when we first started

30:30

you know we were recording in studio

30:32

in LA and so we would go down we'd be there

30:34

for like a week and we would record a bunch

30:37

of stuff like a month yeah because then we'd go

30:39

back and be out of town and

30:42

it was

30:45

just so you

30:49

know us doing that because

30:53

we really tried we did

30:55

we did we really tried and we

30:58

also didn't at the same time and

31:00

that we got to

31:02

where we are today and well

31:05

I think that we both are like

31:07

total procrastinators to where it would

31:09

be like to like we wait till the very

31:11

last like you know minute and I'd be like

31:13

oh shit like we were going to talk about

31:15

eyelashes today we should look and see some information

31:17

we should like hurry get back

31:19

first on anything what are you

31:21

doing what are some fun facts about

31:23

eyelashes you know how many mites live oh

31:25

my god that still fucks me up I haven't

31:27

had eyelashes since dude I don't have any

31:30

either yeah so yeah

31:32

I still have mine because I didn't look it up that's

31:35

no that's why I don't have that my

31:37

mom has hers I won't go

31:40

I won't I don't have mine

31:42

because COVID

31:44

and then I think I just got so accustomed

31:46

to not having them that I didn't go I

31:48

never like went and got them got my lashes

31:50

put back on there are times

31:52

when I I miss them all it's I know okay

31:55

I do miss them all the time when I'm anytime

31:58

I'm doing video or just

32:00

because I have little

32:02

eyes and my lashes are super blonde and when

32:06

you have some lashes on it really just

32:08

kind of Open dry.

32:11

Yeah, it gives it a little pop Yeah,

32:13

I know and I think what I love the minds

32:15

about what I love the most about lashes is like

32:19

You didn't have to if you didn't if you

32:21

weren't doing like a full I'm

32:30

gonna say something that I've never said and

32:32

I've never really done but you'll get it

32:35

if you're not doing a full face of I

32:41

don't think we've ever done a full face of makeup like if

32:43

you're not wearing a bunch of makeup like for me Going

32:46

to the gym and we're at the gym. We're at the gym. We're the gym. Oh, that's what

32:48

we do You could still

32:51

feel a little put together. Yeah, you

32:53

know You know, you're a way

32:55

now feeling like somewhat decent Yeah, especially if you had like

32:57

a you slept you didn't move a lot and you woke

32:59

up You're like, oh my hair still looks great and you're

33:01

like look at my eyelashes I'm

33:05

good I've

33:09

just got the one you know, the lashes that God

33:12

bless me with and Yeah,

33:15

but like you're doing right now the beauty of not

33:17

having all man you can rub on man That's what

33:20

I think that's why I didn't end up going back

33:22

when we when we had to finally get them taken

33:24

off and they're falling off during COVID and everything like

33:26

that those first showers

33:28

where you're just like It's

33:32

like you're rubbing them and as you rub

33:35

them they get itchier and then you rub

33:37

them harder It's like yeah, it's like an

33:39

eye orgasm. Oh, yeah. Yeah, it is. Okay.

33:41

Okay. Hey on that note Well off in

33:44

Thailand and I got oh, yeah, not to

33:46

rub again and I was

33:48

like man. I don't know if I can go back Well,

33:55

I so so I think since

33:57

we had started doing the episodes

34:00

I had already become a cut site allergic

34:02

to my lashes. So I would just oh

34:04

yeah, flashes all the time and man, I

34:07

would baby those things like I can even

34:09

roll the car door down or car window.

34:11

Yeah, be

34:14

like a dandelion and you like

34:17

blow a dandelion. Oh my God,

34:21

I can't go anywhere. Now you got

34:23

feet. You can't go anywhere. I know.

34:29

What's so funny as I was, I told my dad,

34:31

we're like dad, me and Jane on

34:33

the podcast and Devin, we talked about like all

34:36

these weird things that are having happening to us

34:39

that are like old

34:41

signs. We're getting a little bit uglier. And

34:45

I'm like, we talked about Gina. She

34:47

can't work. Yeah,

34:52

that's a fun good toe. He was dying. I

34:54

was like, yeah, toes are curling.

34:56

He goes, I told her curling. He

34:59

said soon you won't you won't care anymore. And

35:01

you'll just wear you'll wear whatever you want. I

35:03

know I'm going to be that lady at Target

35:05

wearing the Burke's just the

35:07

old nasty Burke's with like the cracked heels

35:09

and the nasty toes. You

35:12

may actually not have

35:14

the cracked heels because I feel like, you

35:17

know, you

35:19

got to spend out there. So you got to

35:21

spend some time like either walking barefoot or in

35:23

at the beach in the sand, except to dry

35:26

those suckers out. I mean, that's true. That

35:28

is true. I am. I am kind of

35:30

a and I do like I tell you,

35:32

let me talk off really quick. I

35:35

think you have the

35:37

cheese grater for your heels. Gina. I have the

35:39

it's like the petty something. I don't know what

35:41

it is. It looks like you

35:44

have a petty egg. I have

35:46

one of those too. I've had it for years.

35:48

We actually talked about it on this one time

35:50

because remember, I can't remember what we talked what

35:53

we why we talked about it. Oh, we did

35:55

it. It was a sheep. Was

35:59

it a would you? I think it was a

36:01

wood you rather. I

36:05

think it was a wood you rather. It

36:07

was. Oh my gosh. And it's

36:09

so gross, man. Like I will just be

36:11

like going to town on that thing. And

36:13

it just looks like it looks like gray

36:16

dust. Yeah. Yeah. It's

36:18

nasty. I

36:20

mean, it is. You know, I think

36:22

we also talked about if

36:25

you're listening, you know what the pediag is. And

36:28

you've got like all the different like handled ones you

36:30

can file your feet. Yeah. They're always

36:32

in like the pharmacy section, the grocery store. But

36:34

the one that's like a straight

36:36

razor, you know, oh yeah.

36:39

And you, you like, you

36:41

like, it's like almost like the, they

36:44

have those cheese. They have the big ones

36:46

for cheese. Dude, I would, I would, you

36:48

gotta be careful with those. Yeah. You

36:51

got, I got you a recipe. Not

36:53

that often though. Oh really? It's

36:56

like my shoe size is smaller.

37:01

I think I,

37:04

I wait, I have to, to

37:06

an eight. You have to be

37:08

so careful with those. Cause like, if you

37:10

get like the slightest wrong angle, it's

37:13

going straight in and

37:15

it's taking a huge chunk out. Yeah.

37:17

And that I won't get one of those. Yeah.

37:20

No. That's why I like my little penny egg. I

37:52

look at my big toenail. Okay

37:56

guys, you gotta go to

37:58

YouTube. If any,

38:00

did you find the founder of know you're not

38:02

Miller? See it? Ill

38:05

take a picture with your phone. I

38:07

put my and can. I

38:10

put my. I

38:12

put my single medicine on bespoke

38:14

said. Dude.

38:16

It's like. Oh

38:19

so ugly. My toenails started to

38:21

curl really bad right before it

38:23

popped off the first time. Well.

38:26

Yeah, I mean that. yeah, I. Know.

38:28

Is it's as if it like it. Oh

38:31

My. God. Axon They're saying oh My God.

38:33

the so embarrassing. I

38:35

don't noodle salad and rove. I'm semi

38:38

auto which. And rather like

38:40

cheetahs. Oh now. So.

38:43

What's crazy? It looks so

38:45

yellow. But. What's crazy

38:47

is that. It is like

38:50

not even attached to my toe like. Where.

38:52

The black like aside. To. Like

38:55

all the way down. And

38:57

so like where you see the. Color change. You

39:01

see it? Yeah, I. Ask.

39:05

Lose it. And

39:08

I've yeah, it's nasty dude. I

39:10

mean do you want which do we want to share pictures of

39:13

those because if we if you for a little insecure about your

39:15

as I can show you mine. I feel

39:17

like there's anything wrong so too much we

39:19

can charge for that but not on it's

39:21

and are. We

39:23

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39:26

funky those when is between rap but

39:28

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39:30

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39:33

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43:24

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43:26

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43:29

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43:31

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43:33

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43:35

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43:37

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43:39

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43:41

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43:44

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43:46

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43:48

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43:50

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43:52

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43:55

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43:59

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44:01

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44:03

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44:11

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44:13

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44:15

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44:17

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44:20

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44:22

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know. they're like little. They.

44:46

Are lower like a smoky Kutner little

44:48

flustered? I don't know, They just don't

44:50

match the. Rest. Of me and all.

44:53

That. And I don't however long slender

44:55

fingers, I just about these big palms

44:58

and like you know, these big thick.

45:01

Yeah. Be you might fit in a good

45:03

like center fingers like I'd as I have

45:05

been I got fat knuckles match. I

45:07

mean I and I have really fat fingers

45:09

and people don't even realize that cause my

45:12

hands are so big. So. They

45:14

think they don't realize that until like I try

45:16

to a trial on like one of the rain

45:18

like a normal sized person you're like and it

45:20

barely sip my think a because like. Yeah.

45:23

They're like narrow on my fingers, are

45:25

narrow on the ai your and you

45:27

know there's are all years. They're like

45:29

little they like, they get sicker. yeah

45:32

yeah. throwing the only course. they're. Like

45:34

gallon of gas or delaware it

45:36

video or we talked about before.

45:39

The name but my old or bizarre

45:41

because they. Sir. You.

45:44

Know like most people second told longer than

45:46

their first solar at least longer. My second

45:48

till is my. Sword his toe. Oh

45:51

yeah, I do know member you have that. Yeah, An.

45:53

ikea and i only how i swear

45:55

to god i only have one knuckle

45:57

in that have i have one tell

46:01

I have one toe that's

46:03

like my dad's feet. It's

46:06

not promising. And

46:09

it's I have one toe. Gosh, I'm putting this

46:11

out there in the open. Yeah, do it. You

46:13

know what? Who cares? You guys

46:15

already see me. How gross I am. I have one toe

46:18

that will undoubtedly be

46:20

a hammer toe. Which

46:22

one is it? My second one. Here's my toe. I would

46:24

show you guys my feet right now, but I just

46:26

took my socks off and I've worked

46:29

pretty hard today. And I've

46:31

got some white in my toe now. I just

46:33

showed my fucking funky toe. I

46:35

mean, do you want me to take

46:38

a picture for you? Yeah. You know what

46:40

guys? I'm going to show you my second toe. It's right next to

46:42

my ugly big toe. My second toe is shorter. Okay.

46:45

This is the bottom of my foot. I

46:49

have a really high instep. All right guys. This

46:53

is our biggest rating on a video ever. And they're like, it

46:55

was our final video. And

46:58

they finally showed us their feet. I

47:03

have like a high end set. My

47:05

foot is, you guys, my foot

47:08

is skinnier in the middle. Yeah,

47:11

you do have a skinny fit in the middle. But it's wider

47:13

in the front. And that's, I mean, that's kind of the shape

47:15

of my mom's feet. But here's the, here's the

47:17

real, here's the clincher.

47:19

This is why I'm single. Okay.

47:22

No. I

47:24

have this one, I don't know if you can

47:26

see it. This toe, so my second

47:29

toe is, this one's as long as my

47:31

big toe. But it's

47:33

got this like, gosh, I can't even do it. I

47:35

got to show it to you though. Okay.

47:39

This is so stupid. I

47:42

know, we're dumb. But

47:46

this one toe, it kind of wants

47:48

to curl that second knuckle on it.

47:50

It wants to sit up high, which then

47:53

eventually could turn into one of these. Yeah.

47:56

You know what I mean? Yeah, but we're not

47:58

going to do it. gonna let that

48:00

happen. From

48:04

the bottom it looks like I just have four

48:06

toes. It's

48:08

like this is like oh where's

48:11

the baby? No it's shorter it's shorter than

48:13

all of them. There

48:28

he is! There

48:32

he is! Oh

48:35

my god. So yes I danced

48:37

my whole life. I danced into college all

48:39

grown up into college. Point

48:41

shoes in my feet. That's my

48:43

whole life. I just imagine you

48:45

just always did. I

48:48

feel like I just got a little shocked in my ears.

48:50

Weird. When

48:52

I stopped doing point my

48:55

feet definitely started to fill it just a lot better all

48:59

the time. My left foot is

49:03

more normal. My left foot is

49:06

more like normal. My right

49:08

foot the reason it's not as normal is because I just have

49:10

that one toe. That

49:13

one outlier. And you

49:15

know I

49:20

like to make people feel comfortable. I don't

49:24

want my dad to feel bad about his toes. You know

49:26

on his feet. Impressive.

49:31

Well your dad gives a flying

49:33

shit. No he don't. No he

49:35

don't. Every time. Oh he don't.

49:37

No he don't. Hims does. Hims

49:39

does. Hims

49:41

does something. But

49:48

my sister me and Lacey we've

49:51

like we're convinced she is she has my

49:53

dad's wrists. And

49:57

I'm like I'm like

49:59

me too. Like we got Go to the hand

50:01

doctor. My grandpa my grandma has this and

50:03

my dad has to plus like arthritis. Makes.

50:05

It worse or it's a bus like

50:07

on my dad's It had this that

50:10

there's some joint. The.

50:12

Only closer to the risk. Is

50:14

arthritis is basically disjoint has been

50:16

like it's gone so his some.

50:19

Wants to sit down in his hand here. And.

50:23

He and my Dad and. I

50:26

mean, he's a fucking name, right?

50:28

We all know this. This. And.

50:32

I. Were second on venus dad cause I know he. Would have

50:34

been the for the moon fluid. I know. And

50:37

them instead I got my dad

50:39

popular see. You

50:42

got your dad's Gobbler and I had probably

50:44

because this results in his hair was at

50:46

least you can like you can like. Spot

50:48

on. Oh hi there I can't find this. Is.

50:51

My mom and dad had

50:54

a lot from Mumbai like

50:56

that. such a sad my

50:59

blood pressure and. Assists

51:02

epitomized. My grandma has it on and they

51:04

have her hands and so she's got like

51:06

a brace that show where that pops that

51:09

some out like. The joint know. But

51:12

my dad's got. He's had surgery. one

51:14

hand has been fused, his wrists, And

51:17

he's gonna be having the other one done. And.

51:20

He is. Little

51:23

stressed. About it because the we now have

51:25

a. Run. Have a big day in this house!

51:29

Oh own. So

51:31

he didn't know how I am with the day. I

51:35

know where. I

51:40

mean to be honest, january we have

51:42

had so many good moments in earlier.

51:44

The had together or pretty good though is. That

51:46

that is one of the. Tude

51:51

Greatest movie ever created Mother ever.

51:55

I am oh shit outside. Of

51:58

as I was gonna I could we've but. Kind

52:00

of our little. Yeah I once

52:02

I got Lana. Or violence A villa.

52:05

And. We.

52:07

Got inside. With

52:10

the get inside. I mean as in

52:12

a thing, As like, if anything. And genome. Unsettling.

52:15

But and shit and the per day by day.

52:19

On earth I would say. Them.

52:23

In. Any I know he told the

52:25

story to the number one I told and you know like

52:27

did not love I told her but. And this

52:29

is why we tell our embarrassing stories because they're funny

52:31

with the show to laugh with the new era so

52:33

funny and at. The. Moment that this

52:35

happened, it was the funniest shit. It's

52:38

time in I'm in the room to the bathroom door shut

52:40

and I did hear. Oh

52:42

No. Oh no, I

52:45

go. Like a why and

52:47

sugar. And she was. The

52:51

one I do it also to go in there. This

52:57

made shit the but a. Oh.

53:04

My God I don't. Like

53:07

people are going to be like and of

53:09

a day like like a lot of like

53:11

American the day your life like one spoil

53:13

a. Are like oh on the wall re

53:16

I. Like this is last

53:18

act like classic Italian there's to

53:20

that there's a soon I learned

53:22

what know how your food and

53:24

way let's and one is very

53:26

shallow. Ah, And you

53:28

Wayne And that's. Why

53:31

I had a mix between a record toilet

53:33

like a drinking fountain. Yes, I'm.

53:38

In I'm drunk and I sit down and

53:41

I'm like oh the feels weird. Because

53:44

I'm literally. Or

53:49

death is like a regular toilet.

53:51

Uva I said. Seat

53:53

and with. A

53:56

regular toilet. We got everyday.

53:59

Regulars work. The would although I don't know

54:01

if they had a plan to see at a

54:03

lid on it Snorting lopez. And. I don't

54:05

why went for first. I. Mean,

54:07

I mean to let you run with

54:09

that, but I honestly, by some sort

54:11

my assumption is that that was the

54:13

closest one. and we're right, right? Bishops

54:15

listened to a city like it's yeah,

54:17

that's a toilet seat. Sat down even

54:19

though she's sitting basically on a toilet

54:21

with no seat on it. So you

54:23

know you don't look like be inside

54:25

of a toilet and it's like this

54:27

shallow. There's. No whole, the

54:30

bottom of. It

54:34

would you do. We know though,

54:36

that would the brazil know with

54:38

Brooke. And funny team that was the

54:41

first time I had ever had a hotel

54:43

room that had of the day. And

54:46

a twenty point lead. And he was

54:48

this. It was kind of. There was

54:50

a moment, whereas like. We're.

54:53

Going I do in their wish I would. Be

54:56

just me it is. What

54:59

I. Was

55:03

is that I sat as I did sit

55:05

down and I thought ah. This. Is

55:07

as I was also what I was also the

55:09

newlywed. And

55:13

I will. And it's like you're having

55:15

this like a horror of horrors happening

55:17

in your head. As it's happening. and

55:19

you're like. Oh no, you like

55:21

to stop it now. You

55:24

probably easier to do then is whether you're

55:26

finished or pitched at all. he had to

55:28

get it is a decision but I know

55:30

he's and I do and I couldn't I

55:32

turned it off in like, never said anything

55:34

and just taken care of it. But.

55:36

No I had to say it out loud big of as

55:39

what I do a like oh no and then she's like.

55:42

A who is I am I always

55:44

feel and my my into. My.

55:47

Life oh and is seen as

55:49

in distress need as in distress.

55:52

When we see hurry. I

55:56

cannot tell you I edo it's funny

55:58

because like group. Brooke, through

56:01

our friendship, I cannot tell

56:03

you, I mean, we all know, like, I am

56:05

20 years older than Brooke. And I

56:07

cannot tell you how many times Brooke

56:10

has had to basically be my mother.

56:12

It is

56:17

it is embarrassing, because like, I like,

56:19

I've raised four children, and they're very

56:21

capable. But I don't know what it

56:23

is. It's like, she was like, I,

56:26

I'm, I'm realizing,

56:29

obviously, as I've gotten older, that I am

56:31

a giant airhead. And, and

56:33

I would, I

56:36

mean, I cannot tell you how many times

56:38

Brooke would like, find something for me or,

56:40

or, you

56:42

know, help me with something. It's absolutely

56:45

insane. How it's

56:47

been. And it's been lovely,

56:49

because at least I don't know, I

56:51

don't know if it's because we became friends. And he's such a

56:53

nurturing, loving person that I was like,

56:55

fuck it. Oh,

56:58

my God. Well, we always said that, though,

57:00

you know, my God, you take care of me

57:02

and I take

57:09

care of you. I do take care of you. But in

57:11

different ways. It happens at different times. Yeah.

57:13

But man, I mean, let's be honest,

57:15

Brooke, how many times have we, we've

57:17

traveled together. I mean, I've never traveled

57:20

so much my life until like you and I became friends.

57:22

And I've traveled so much with you. And there is, I

57:25

swear to God, there's rarely a time

57:27

when there's not some kind of glitch that

57:30

has happened because of something I've forgotten or

57:32

something. I

57:34

always was like, it's okay, baby. I got it.

57:37

I got it. I got it. I got it.

57:40

You know, I did. I don't even know

57:42

how I got to this age without you.

57:44

Like, yeah, well, I'm like, I'm like, we're

57:46

gonna figure this out. And then like, my

57:48

shit falls apart. And you're like, it's okay.

57:50

Come here. My emotional turmoil mentally

57:53

in my heart, my life's

57:55

literally in it's going 100 miles

57:57

an hour. And I've got a lot of issues.

1:00:00

We'll do this XYZ blah, blah, blah. This is what you have

1:00:02

to do. Yep. We

1:00:05

found it though. That was

1:00:07

a fun little trip. Oh, that was

1:00:09

a fun trip. That was a good

1:00:11

that. I mean, if I remembered that podcast, I feel

1:00:13

like that was a fun one. Yeah.

1:00:18

We talked about Colby. Dude,

1:00:29

that was fun. That's

1:00:32

the one with Dana Lynn, right?

1:00:34

Yeah. He said, when he said,

1:00:36

he, I remember

1:00:39

when he, a fat vagina is like giving him

1:00:41

a hug. Yeah. And

1:00:46

then we were all at dinner

1:00:49

and we were with Ashley from,

1:00:51

uh, I

1:00:54

don't know her last name, but Ashley kid. Yes.

1:00:57

And so what's so funny is like this

1:00:59

whole time I thought that was the nickname. That's

1:01:01

her actual last name. I mean, that's what

1:01:03

it says on our Instagram. No, I know. But that's no,

1:01:07

like the cutest girl ever. Right?

1:01:09

Like fucking bad-ass, like snow. Wake

1:01:12

surfer. Wake surfer. Um, and

1:01:15

we're all at dinner and Colby's kind of

1:01:18

like all of a sudden he's like cool

1:01:20

guy. You know, he's like the cool guy.

1:01:22

Oh, that's our first dinner. Yeah. Our first

1:01:24

matter. Yeah. Yeah. And you talked about how

1:01:27

he was with this girl and he, he

1:01:31

was going to like, uh, lick

1:01:33

her vagina, but she didn't want it. Oh

1:01:36

yeah. And then all of us were like, what

1:01:42

he was. The

1:01:46

conversation was a bit topic. It

1:01:48

was not the topic was basically

1:01:50

this, that like not all girls

1:01:53

enjoy, enjoy having yes.

1:01:56

Yes. They're vagina. And

1:01:59

Colby says. He's like, well, yeah, you know, I was

1:02:01

just going on. I wanted to and you didn't want it. And all

1:02:03

of us were like, and all of us were like, no,

1:02:05

that because you were like, you're bad

1:02:10

at it.

1:02:13

Actually, you

1:02:16

know what, you know, let's be super

1:02:18

honest because we're on Gina

1:02:20

probably fully was like, you're bad

1:02:22

at it. And

1:02:26

I was like, and the rest of us are like, oh,

1:02:29

it's not because she doesn't want it. I

1:02:31

don't know. I

1:02:36

don't know. I mean, I guess

1:02:38

it depends on somebody's like, no,

1:02:40

with their body. I'm sure that there's somebody out there.

1:02:42

There's a lot of like, that really make

1:02:44

it different. But sure, it was an opportunity

1:02:46

to not say it. It

1:02:50

was too good an opportunity. That

1:02:55

guy, is that the

1:02:57

same dinner that you made him yell?

1:02:59

I have been divided. No, that was

1:03:01

the first dinner. No. And

1:03:03

then he got it. I know. Dude.

1:03:05

In fact, let's just tell that story. We got it. Me

1:03:08

and Gina, we're going to Austin. I'm doing,

1:03:10

I'm meeting up with my

1:03:12

friend Ashley, Ken. We're going to wake her from, we do this

1:03:14

trip and we're vlogging and we're podcasting

1:03:16

and Dana met us. Yeah. First

1:03:19

dinner, me and Gina get there. We go meet up with

1:03:21

Ashley and her friend, cute little girlfriend. And

1:03:24

we're at this like rooftop bar in Austin.

1:03:28

Yeah. In Austin. Yeah.

1:03:31

And we're having a few drinks.

1:03:34

We're not like drinking because we're just stuffed in.

1:03:36

We didn't go out. We

1:03:38

were surfing the next

1:03:40

day. We went to dinner, had some drinks, do we

1:03:42

have some drinks? Me, Colby, Gina and these two super

1:03:45

darling, like super girls. And

1:03:48

these are like hot girls. And

1:03:50

they're younger and Colby's there. And you, we

1:03:52

can, me and Gina knew it. Like Colby's

1:03:54

like cool. He was cool. He was cool.

1:03:57

And me and Gina were like. What

1:04:00

I... That's a scared kid.

1:04:03

So

1:04:07

then, Gina wants to

1:04:09

play, we're playing dares because that's what we do.

1:04:11

Yeah. How do you have a good time? Well,

1:04:14

you just play dares. Yeah. It's hilarious.

1:04:16

You put in like some stipulations and

1:04:18

rules. Our rules are like no public

1:04:20

community. Yeah. You can't get arrested. Still

1:04:22

getting arrested. Yeah. And

1:04:25

maybe like we... You

1:04:27

don't make someone do something that could like hurt

1:04:30

another person or an altercation.

1:04:32

Yeah. Or like make fun

1:04:35

of another person. Because we're not mean people. Or

1:04:37

like someone end up like punching

1:04:39

you. Right. Right. I

1:04:44

can't even smell her hair. I

1:04:49

had to believe it. I had to believe it at random. There

1:04:52

were two guys that were... Oh,

1:04:54

that was in Tahoe. Insane

1:04:57

clown off. Yeah. No, that's

1:04:59

San Francisco. San Francisco. And I

1:05:01

had to go and sit next to them and

1:05:03

eat their french fries. And they said no. No,

1:05:05

one of them did. One of them did. I

1:05:08

sat down. This is the

1:05:10

end of the night. So you can imagine. I

1:05:12

looked fantastic. Sure. And one guy

1:05:14

go, hey, would it be all right? I'm

1:05:18

really hungry if I just had like

1:05:20

plenty of french fries. And the one guy was like, no.

1:05:23

And the other guy goes, you can have some

1:05:25

of mine. Like,

1:05:28

thank you. Oh

1:05:32

my God. No, man. But

1:05:34

Colby, we start playing

1:05:36

dares. And Gina dares him to...

1:05:40

dares him to yell. Oh,

1:05:43

Jinja Boydus. But there was something before that.

1:05:45

No, the first thing you told him to

1:05:48

yell and he wouldn't do it. Oh, you're

1:05:50

right. You're right. I was too embarrassed. I

1:05:52

have a small penis. I have a small

1:05:54

penis. This is something like that. And Colby

1:05:57

would not do it. And so

1:05:59

then I dared Jinja. I was like, okay, come on Colby.

1:06:01

I'm like, Gina, I dare you. You

1:06:03

have to go dance on that waiter. Yeah.

1:06:07

and we're on the, let's

1:06:09

say on the patio of the outside. Yeah.

1:06:14

This waiter is down at this other table.

1:06:16

And she was like, all right. She goes

1:06:18

over and she's behind. She's behind us. I

1:06:20

was like, gee. And

1:06:24

he's like, he's laughing and she works her way back over and

1:06:26

sits down. She's like, Colby, come

1:06:28

on, just yell. I'm just gonna be like,

1:06:31

I am ginger. Why didn't

1:06:37

he wouldn't, did he do it? You wouldn't do it. He

1:06:39

wouldn't do it. The funniest shit though

1:06:42

was what would you say?

1:06:44

It was like, I want to say weeks

1:06:46

later, weeks, like

1:06:49

a couple months later and Colby was at the

1:06:53

Dennis and I'm on the phone with

1:06:55

him and he goes, he like finished the dance. He goes, fucking

1:06:58

Gina. I was

1:07:00

like, the

1:07:04

dentist told me that I had ginger. Dude,

1:07:15

I'm blaming me for giving him the gingeritis. I

1:07:17

was like, hey man, if you just found the

1:07:19

dare, you would have stepped in his purse. That's

1:07:21

what happened. You

1:07:23

could have been cleared. That

1:07:26

was my problem. Dude, when he told me

1:07:28

that I left so hard, I'm like, dude,

1:07:30

Gina's gonna die. Oh

1:07:37

my God. Oh man. So

1:07:40

many good times. Great

1:07:43

time. In fact, we should

1:07:46

plan another trip somewhere. I don't know where we're

1:07:48

gonna go or when, but let's just say

1:07:50

in the summer. No,

1:07:52

seven, I already decided. We're

1:07:55

figuring something out with you. Yeah.

1:07:58

It's been, I figured it out. It's been, okay. if

1:08:00

our listeners are still listening out

1:08:02

there, they're like, yeah.

1:08:07

It's been it honestly, it's been like

1:08:09

really hard since Brooke moved

1:08:12

away. And, and I think

1:08:14

that's been like another thing of like, why we're

1:08:17

not we can't do this

1:08:19

anymore. Because we don't have we

1:08:21

used to share these because

1:08:23

yeah, we don't have as many

1:08:25

shared experiences. And although we still like

1:08:28

are checking in but me Brooke

1:08:31

and I are not the people that are like daily

1:08:33

like, Hi, how are you? Oh, did it

1:08:36

up? I'm awful at it. I've

1:08:38

like no and I am too. That's

1:08:40

how I would read it out friends because

1:08:42

like they hated me so much. No, totally.

1:08:44

But what I think what's beautiful about our

1:08:47

relationship is that it doesn't

1:08:50

matter how much time goes by. We

1:08:52

both know we love each other. We know that we don't

1:08:54

want to do like the the you know,

1:08:57

nonsense talk. You know,

1:08:59

hi, how are you or any of

1:09:01

that? You're like, Oh, twist the

1:09:04

knife. How are you? How are

1:09:07

you? That's so open. There's

1:09:09

so many things I can say.

1:09:11

I'm gonna be honest. How long

1:09:13

will this take? Is my friend gonna be

1:09:15

upset if like, I don't respond right away?

1:09:18

Like what if they ask Nick a really person like a real serious

1:09:20

question? Like what if I'm honest with them? Like I'm

1:09:22

terrible. No, no. And then

1:09:24

I you know, but there's these like things that you work.

1:09:27

Well, not everybody worries about and the

1:09:29

only reason I think about them is because I've

1:09:31

had so many experiences have

1:09:34

high expectation. Right. And

1:09:36

I'm like, dude, I'm trying to meet it. I

1:09:39

know. I know. I responded to

1:09:41

you in my head. Yeah,

1:09:43

you did. You

1:09:45

respond in your head. But I

1:09:47

will say this. I think

1:09:51

doing this podcast is really some

1:09:54

of the people that have written in

1:09:56

and, you know, said like, I

1:09:59

Don't have friends like that. I mean it's a, if

1:10:01

anything, it's like. Really reminded me how

1:10:03

special. Having. This

1:10:06

relationship and. And. How

1:10:08

grateful I am for that! And.

1:10:11

It's crazy like I think about it, I

1:10:13

go, I mean it. and without having no

1:10:16

new. And.

1:10:18

This is it. It's not the top experience

1:10:20

right? Like the having. A podcast or

1:10:22

any of the other sub. ah, But.

1:10:25

I'm at. I never would have ever had

1:10:27

this experience and mean it's kind of. It's

1:10:29

kind of crazy rates like I mean I

1:10:32

edu know me like I don't ever tell

1:10:34

people like oh for the podcast but like

1:10:36

Daniel will tell people sometimes like oh yes

1:10:38

you the podcast with her from. Broke

1:10:40

And public? Oh No Shit. You.

1:10:43

Know and it's like. I. Would

1:10:45

have never had it. So many

1:10:47

experiences and the podcast obviously like

1:10:49

very important and we love our

1:10:51

listeners and all that. But on

1:10:53

top of that there's so many

1:10:55

other. Experiences like as were like talking

1:10:58

and and and laughing about all this

1:11:00

stuff like I am so grateful to

1:11:02

have a friend like you. And.

1:11:04

And. Grateful.

1:11:07

To have you know. Met seven and

1:11:09

has. That and and and all

1:11:11

that we're not. We're so grateful for

1:11:13

dem her. we're so grateful for for

1:11:15

democrats. But I guess I guess what

1:11:17

I'm trying to say that there are

1:11:19

people out there that fits feel like

1:11:21

they haven't. You. Know had those

1:11:24

kinds of friendships and I and it

1:11:26

just makes me even more grateful. To.

1:11:28

Have a friendship with somebody who have.

1:11:31

You. Don't I mean who? I

1:11:34

can fucking have these experiences

1:11:36

with and laugh with and.

1:11:38

Ah, and we can do. Whatever.

1:11:41

Money and do whether it's in the matter.

1:11:44

Is learning their or were just

1:11:46

hanging around like one? The. Counting.

1:11:48

On the couch watching a movie and that's

1:11:50

the thing is like I think that. I

1:11:53

just want our listeners the understand like

1:11:55

this is our let our relationship. On.

1:11:58

Here, but it's also. how

1:12:00

we are when we're by ourselves. And

1:12:03

that is a beautiful thing. A

1:12:05

very real representation of, you know,

1:12:09

every, your, you and

1:12:11

Brooke's relationship, but then

1:12:14

also fortunately I got brought

1:12:16

into the mix and I am so

1:12:18

grateful for that. Dude, well,

1:12:21

Devin, we couldn't do that. We

1:12:23

couldn't live without you. No, you're right.

1:12:26

You're right. You're right.

1:12:29

You're right. Remember that time we knocked

1:12:31

your tooth out? Fuck.

1:12:36

Don't bring that up again. I feel so bad. I

1:12:39

know, but it's fixed now. No, I know. Yeah.

1:12:42

Thousands of dollars later. Oh

1:12:45

my God. But no,

1:12:47

it's, it just, anyway,

1:12:50

like going through this journey has,

1:12:52

and seeing people's comments and stuff has

1:12:54

made me even more grateful to have

1:12:56

the relationships with you girls. That,

1:13:01

you know, it's obviously like really special and

1:13:04

it, and on top of it,

1:13:08

it's really cool to like see other people like,

1:13:10

oh my God, this is exactly how I am

1:13:12

with like, you know, my best friends and, you

1:13:15

know, and if anything, it just makes

1:13:17

you realize like, oh my God, like,

1:13:20

we're just all the same fucking people,

1:13:22

you know, like

1:13:24

there's just out here trying to laugh and have

1:13:26

that connection with friends and like, yeah, just

1:13:29

trying to, you know, well

1:13:31

currently and many times we're

1:13:34

just trying to survive and then hope

1:13:36

that's right, you know, and we when

1:13:38

we're all just trying to survive together,

1:13:40

it is as if we're

1:13:42

thriving. I think that's like what has been really wonderful

1:13:44

about the podcast too. And maybe for listeners like everyone

1:13:48

has shit man. Yeah,

1:13:51

someone has everyone does. I

1:13:53

do. I mean, I

1:13:55

got all kinds of shit and everyone has life

1:13:58

in families and kids and. bills

1:14:00

and jobs and all

1:14:02

the... So much shit. Like way more than anyone

1:14:04

probably should have and everyone deals with it now.

1:14:07

There is not a person that does not have

1:14:09

like just one

1:14:11

thing after another after another. And

1:14:14

me and Gina, we

1:14:16

figured this out a long time ago. Like

1:14:18

the best... For us, like the best medicine

1:14:20

and the best way to get through something

1:14:22

hard definitely is camaraderie. It's having a friend

1:14:26

there. But for us, it's not having a

1:14:28

friend that's like can help you solve your

1:14:30

problem. It's like someone you

1:14:34

can just go through it with and

1:14:37

you can laugh about it. And the

1:14:39

stuff that really sucks, it's

1:14:42

that connection with friends. Well,

1:14:46

when I say friends, it's kind of like friends

1:14:48

is kind of like a loose term. Like we

1:14:50

have friends. I have people who are my friends

1:14:52

but you don't really like connect with them. Like

1:14:54

we're life partners. We've said it for a long

1:14:56

time. And

1:15:00

the level of

1:15:02

understanding is amazing.

1:15:05

But being able to find

1:15:08

humor through all of

1:15:10

the surviving. That is it to me, it's

1:15:12

like all of a sudden just being able to do that immediately

1:15:16

changes to thriving. Like you

1:15:18

may not have it all together. We're never going to

1:15:20

have it all together. There's always going

1:15:22

to be something different. Like we've talked about on the last

1:15:24

podcast was all these weird old things that

1:15:27

are happening. Like you're never going

1:15:29

to have it all together. And with

1:15:31

social media and all the

1:15:34

shit, it makes it look like

1:15:36

people have it together. They don't. And

1:15:39

I always like that's always like to me, it's

1:15:41

the worst part about social. Like one of the

1:15:43

worst things, there's lots of them. Like

1:15:45

the worst part is like even if

1:15:47

you are someone who you don't want,

1:15:50

you want to be authentic. You're not trying to like

1:15:52

just get

1:15:54

likes or whatever. You

1:15:57

almost can't. start

1:16:00

doing it the wrong way where

1:16:02

you start performing for

1:16:04

your followers, you perform to

1:16:07

the people what they want and it's so

1:16:09

hard. You don't even realize it when it's happening.

1:16:11

You don't even realize it and

1:16:16

I can honestly, I really feel like

1:16:18

I can honestly say like I've never really been that person

1:16:21

but for me, it's like you get so

1:16:23

consumed when you have so many

1:16:26

things you have to do. You got

1:16:28

so many people you got to answer to and I got to make sure I'm doing this

1:16:30

for you. I got to make sure I'm doing this for you and it

1:16:33

becomes like all of a sudden you are wrapped

1:16:36

in that life because it's all about like putting

1:16:38

out this, putting out this, make sure this and

1:16:40

then you have social media and it's like now

1:16:42

and Instagram and all these things, it's tied to

1:16:44

businesses. It's not just people and personalities

1:16:46

or like people anymore. It's like, oh, business has

1:16:48

to have a social media and

1:16:50

you got to do that and it

1:16:53

is exhausting. It is not

1:16:55

fun. Well, I

1:16:57

think it's exhausting for you because you are an

1:16:59

authentic person. I think that

1:17:03

there are people out there that that is

1:17:05

what they aspire to, right? Like they aspire

1:17:07

to like have over a million followers and

1:17:10

they want to do this and want to

1:17:12

do that and it's like that. And they

1:17:14

have the personality, they have the energy and

1:17:16

personality. Well, maybe, maybe, but this

1:17:19

is actually a compliment to you because I think that

1:17:21

a lot

1:17:24

of people don't realize like

1:17:26

you became an, I'm going to do

1:17:28

quote Mark's influencer in the time that that

1:17:31

was like an up and coming thing. I

1:17:33

remember we were like, I hated that word.

1:17:36

I remember you got

1:17:40

like an invitation to these awards and it

1:17:42

was like an influencer award.

1:17:44

I got nominated, nominated and I was

1:17:46

like, what is that? I know I

1:17:48

didn't know either. I was like, and

1:17:50

this, this is just going to show

1:17:52

like how, how so much has changed

1:17:54

in the last five years. Right. And

1:17:57

you and I were like, what is that? And then

1:17:59

you were I don't know, it says like influencer.

1:18:03

And that has become such a normal

1:18:06

word, right? Like up to

1:18:08

this day, like to where everybody's like, oh, now

1:18:11

like kids are growing up and going like,

1:18:13

I wanna be an influencer. And it was

1:18:15

like, this was like a, yeah, like this

1:18:17

was a second hand thing that happened to

1:18:20

you naturally. And

1:18:22

I was up again from, you know, Williams. Yeah,

1:18:24

yeah. I ain't gonna win. But

1:18:28

the point is, is that it was never something

1:18:30

that you set out to do. And

1:18:33

I think that the beauty

1:18:35

of the podcast has been for

1:18:38

people, you know, your followers or, you know,

1:18:41

those that you're influencing, it's

1:18:44

been a really nice way

1:18:46

for them to see who you are really

1:18:49

rather than all the shit, you

1:18:51

know, because it's easy to like post

1:18:54

something of you working out or

1:18:56

you, you know, in booty shorts or

1:18:58

you, you know, your body or whatever.

1:19:02

And I think that that's, I

1:19:06

think it's, I don't wanna

1:19:08

say sad for people who

1:19:11

are just aspiring like, oh, I

1:19:13

have to wear those things and do that.

1:19:16

It is sad, it is sad because attention,

1:19:18

because that's not what you set out to

1:19:20

do. And I love the podcast, at

1:19:22

least for those people that really

1:19:25

love you and wanted to

1:19:28

follow you, got to see who you actually

1:19:30

are. Yeah, that's not what

1:19:32

you're gonna see necessarily on Instagram. Yeah,

1:19:34

right. Well, you definitely won't see it

1:19:36

online because one, I

1:19:39

absolutely detest writing

1:19:42

long ass. Right.

1:19:45

I know. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. What

1:19:47

do they even call it? What do you call it? A

1:19:49

description? Yeah.

1:19:53

In the body of the, the

1:19:55

body. I like, what is that

1:19:58

called? Caption. Caption. I

1:20:00

detest it. My

1:20:02

bad. And

1:20:07

reasoning why I detest it for probably the

1:20:09

most major part, it's not because I think

1:20:13

that people that write big long captions are

1:20:15

dumb or sad, scared

1:20:18

kids. I'm scared kids. Sometimes

1:20:23

I read these captions, they're just like paragraphs

1:20:26

long. I'm like, who? I'm not

1:20:28

going to read that. And I don't. And by

1:20:30

the time I read it, I'm like,

1:20:32

now I'm spending so much

1:20:34

time here, I've got to scroll on. Yeah.

1:20:37

But for me, it's more

1:20:39

so like Instagram started out as

1:20:43

like MySpace,

1:20:46

right? Like you connected

1:20:48

with your friends, you posted pictures, you

1:20:51

commented. And for

1:20:53

me, whenever I would try so hard

1:20:55

to like, really fill

1:20:57

out like the description or write anything, whatever I'm talking,

1:20:59

whatever I wanted to talk about, it

1:21:02

just felt like it was trying too hard. And I

1:21:04

don't and I didn't want to do that. Like if

1:21:07

I had something to say, I would say it. But

1:21:09

for the most part, it was a I'm

1:21:13

not going to people's Instagrams to read their captions.

1:21:16

So I did not spend the time putting

1:21:18

a bunch of messages in messages in my

1:21:20

captions. It's not that it's I didn't have

1:21:22

messages to give. It also could be that

1:21:24

like just the time it would take to

1:21:26

try and cultivate

1:21:28

the perfect caption was

1:21:31

way too time consuming. And I was like, no. But

1:21:35

don't you also feel like when you're put into this

1:21:37

now this category, right, you're

1:21:39

in this category of like, no

1:21:41

shit, I had no idea now

1:21:43

I'm influencing people. You

1:21:45

know what I mean? Now

1:21:49

I have to fucking

1:21:51

say all this shit that's like so

1:21:53

influential. Yeah, you know,

1:21:55

and I didn't ask for this. Yep.

1:21:58

And and I. And I think that that

1:22:01

too is a huge thing. And

1:22:04

now you have people who are aspiring

1:22:06

to be influencers and

1:22:08

now they're trying to be really inspiring.

1:22:11

And my thing is like, who the fuck

1:22:14

are you inspiring? Like, I just,

1:22:17

I think that you inspire people

1:22:19

by what you do in

1:22:21

your life, which is

1:22:23

exactly how it happened for you. That's

1:22:25

what it was. But that's also

1:22:27

what it was, right? That's

1:22:30

why when being an influencer, when that

1:22:32

word became such a hot topic

1:22:34

and it became a label,

1:22:39

people that have influence, they're

1:22:41

never trying to influence. Right. You

1:22:44

know what I mean? And that's what bothered me the most about it. You

1:22:47

have people

1:22:50

that have these millions of followers

1:22:52

and early on with millions, I

1:22:55

mean having a million followers now is

1:22:57

like not, it's not the

1:23:00

drop in the bucket, in comparison to

1:23:02

the whole thing. And like, but these

1:23:04

people, you're like, okay, this person has

1:23:06

a millions of followers, they're getting like

1:23:08

all their deals and they're now TikTok

1:23:10

get the same shit. Like, oh, you

1:23:12

danced on TikTok and now you're making

1:23:14

millions and you're like 20 years

1:23:17

old. Right. Like,

1:23:19

okay, that's off to

1:23:21

you. That's really, you did it. Like

1:23:24

you snuck through, you didn't think whatever, what

1:23:26

bothers me about it is I

1:23:29

feel like the zero

1:23:34

attention that's being put on

1:23:37

what is actually happening. You know, like

1:23:39

what are you showing? What

1:23:41

are we, we are basically we're

1:23:43

offering, we're giving people the world if

1:23:47

they do what we want, which happens to be

1:23:49

show me your body as a female. Right. But

1:23:52

at the same time, those same females are

1:23:54

like, don't talk about my, if you say

1:23:56

anything sexual about my body and you're like,

1:23:58

listen, then show us there's more to you

1:24:01

than. what you show us in pictures because

1:24:03

there's no personality, right? You are a dime

1:24:05

a dozen, right? I mean I'm

1:24:07

surrounded by beautiful women all the time.

1:24:09

My niece is, I mean, we talked

1:24:11

about it, like pretty, it's fleeting,

1:24:13

you reminded me, you taught me that

1:24:15

very early on. Like we're only getting older, we're

1:24:17

only getting uglier, like there has to be something

1:24:19

more to you, like what can I bring to

1:24:21

the table that makes me more valuable and how

1:24:24

I look? And the

1:24:26

podcast has definitely been something that has

1:24:28

given us this platform to have real

1:24:30

conversation and give

1:24:33

those, you know, more descriptive, take

1:24:35

the time to really describe something or answer a

1:24:37

question versus like what you can do on a

1:24:39

comment. Like, you know, that's why texting

1:24:41

sucks, that's why I send voicemails all the time, especially

1:24:43

if I have something I really need to say to

1:24:45

you. One, either I don't want

1:24:47

to take the time to text it out and if I try to

1:24:50

cut it short, if I cut it

1:24:52

short, you're good, I'll probably sound short,

1:24:54

cold, mean, aggressive,

1:24:56

mean, aggressive, you know, and

1:24:58

like what that's not intentional

1:25:01

at all, that's not it

1:25:03

at all. But

1:25:06

yeah, I think that it's

1:25:08

really, I think it's pretty terrible. I'm just

1:25:10

gonna go out and say, I think it's pretty

1:25:14

terrible that we've gotten to a place where

1:25:16

there's been so much success

1:25:20

or possibility of success

1:25:22

or putting people

1:25:24

up on pedestals for

1:25:28

what they can give you and

1:25:30

then celebrating them for it. And

1:25:32

in a second, they don't fit

1:25:35

that mold anymore by...

1:25:38

Right. Wow. You're obsolete.

1:25:40

Like all people in

1:25:43

our own, in your life, like you don't, you

1:25:45

won't want people to treat you like that. No.

1:25:47

But how are you treating people on social media?

1:25:49

How are you treating people online? Like all

1:25:52

people do is we're just, we're

1:25:54

just measuring each other, measuring up against

1:25:56

this person. Oh, this is it

1:25:58

now. Oh no, they're cool now. Like just,

1:26:01

we just want to be in, we just want

1:26:03

to be in the it crowd. And it's like,

1:26:05

I'm done with it. Like, and we, and we

1:26:07

figured this out a long time ago. Yeah, it's

1:26:09

immature, right? I mean, it's like what you do

1:26:11

in high, like in, in middle school, you

1:26:13

know, like that's like, what happened to

1:26:15

becoming an adult and realizing that we

1:26:18

gauge people on their merit, not

1:26:21

on their followers. You

1:26:23

know, we gauge people on, you

1:26:25

know, their, their values,

1:26:28

not on their people, how you're treating

1:26:30

people. I mean, it's, it's

1:26:32

crazy to me. And

1:26:35

I, and I always wonder, and you know, we've

1:26:37

talked about this so many times, like you

1:26:40

put somebody on this pedestal and

1:26:43

then it's so easy to, you

1:26:46

know, if they're not, if they're not exactly what

1:26:49

we want them to be, to just nail

1:26:52

them and down and cancel all

1:26:55

these things to them. I

1:26:58

worry about our youth growing

1:27:01

up in this,

1:27:03

in this age of, of really

1:27:05

caring about followers and this and

1:27:07

that, which we've said a million times,

1:27:10

they're not your friends. You

1:27:12

know, so you have this many friends or

1:27:14

this many followers. I

1:27:17

worry about when

1:27:20

that stops for somebody because

1:27:22

it's gonna stop. I mean, can

1:27:24

you imagine these people,

1:27:26

like you said, like on TikTok that have

1:27:28

like millions and millions of followers and

1:27:31

they're doing all these videos and

1:27:33

their dances and whatever, whatever. And

1:27:36

they're under this impression and they've

1:27:39

built like an entire life

1:27:41

around this. You know, that's how they get

1:27:44

their money or, you know, their sponsors and

1:27:46

all this stuff. And it's

1:27:48

like, what happens when that

1:27:50

stops? And it does. And

1:27:53

it does. And even if it's, even if it's just

1:27:55

a lull in time, right? You know, and I can

1:27:57

tell you, stop. I mean, like, can you see me?

1:28:00

like doing fucking, you

1:28:02

know, doing all this stuff. It's like, and

1:28:04

I, it's not, it's not, it

1:28:09

stops for me. I mean, there's periods of

1:28:12

time like where I still have

1:28:14

to do social, right? Like for work and, and

1:28:16

whatever. Now

1:28:20

I don't really do social for work. Like

1:28:23

I, I do it and I have

1:28:25

businesses that it's important for, you know, but

1:28:27

I don't really do it for work anymore.

1:28:29

Why? Because I don't have a bunch of

1:28:31

sponsors and you could look at

1:28:34

that as like, man, you're kind of lame or

1:28:37

no, man, man. Are

1:28:39

you free? Yeah. Do I make way less money? Yes.

1:28:45

Yeah. But you know what? But

1:28:47

the reality is like there, if you are someone who's

1:28:49

younger and maybe you're listening, you're like, well, you know,

1:28:51

you're really in the social media game. We

1:28:54

all are, but I'm telling

1:28:56

you to work on

1:28:58

your, your perspective of what

1:29:00

that is and how, and where it fits into

1:29:02

your life, the

1:29:05

sooner you figure that out, the better,

1:29:07

because it is undoubtedly, there will be

1:29:09

a moment in time where you will

1:29:11

never feel so alone. Yeah.

1:29:13

It's a fleeting, a fleeting thing.

1:29:16

Right. I mean, I

1:29:18

think that there's so much

1:29:20

good that can come from it too. I mean,

1:29:22

there, there is so much good that comes from

1:29:24

social, you know, when I think about like certain

1:29:26

businesses that are out there fighting a good fight,

1:29:28

whether it's raising money for something or

1:29:30

doing these things like, yes, but

1:29:33

also young kids. And I don't think we have

1:29:35

a lot of young listeners, hopefully

1:29:37

not. But

1:29:39

parents, you have kids that

1:29:42

are like really into their social media, they're incredible at

1:29:44

their sport and they do it on the thing. And

1:29:46

probably if they're kids, you're helping them. It

1:29:50

is a wonderful thing. And you have the argument

1:29:52

and we've talked about it, but I don't fully

1:29:54

agree with this argument, but I understand it. The

1:29:56

argument of we live in a digital time. Your

1:29:58

kids should know how to... use digital things.

1:30:00

You don't want to keep them from having a

1:30:02

phone. You don't want to keep them from having

1:30:05

an iPad. Yes, you do, dude. Yes, you do.

1:30:08

The data that's come out of how awful screen

1:30:12

time is for brain

1:30:15

development. I mean, if you

1:30:17

want to just talk about that type of stuff

1:30:20

for their health, like let's say not just mental

1:30:22

health, just health, not good. It's

1:30:24

not good at all. And

1:30:26

that should scare you. And what's hard is

1:30:29

like I even noticed it was like my

1:30:31

niece, the nephews. It's

1:30:35

almost like we're at a point, if

1:30:37

you have younger kids, you can probably figure this shit

1:30:40

out or put a stop to it. But

1:30:42

at a certain point, it's almost like you

1:30:44

could feel like we've gone too far.

1:30:46

Yeah, like it's too late. And

1:30:49

now you have to be very strategic

1:30:51

about how can I redirect their

1:30:53

attention? How can I make them

1:30:55

be interested in something that's better for them? And

1:30:57

that's kind of the like the life I'm

1:31:00

kind of living right now. I'm not a mom.

1:31:02

I'm not married. I live

1:31:04

at home. And I am the

1:31:07

same as Gina is like I worry and

1:31:09

I care about the youth so much, especially

1:31:12

mine that

1:31:15

I am like, I'm just going to spend time with kids. You

1:31:18

know, like I had my niece the other day and we're in

1:31:20

the car, we're going somewhere and she's

1:31:23

Jersey and she's just developing. I mean,

1:31:26

has the cutest figure and I'm also

1:31:28

like, I didn't have

1:31:33

boobs. I

1:31:35

know, like,

1:31:38

I'm cute. But

1:31:40

I said to her like, you know, there's

1:31:42

just like little signs you have teenage girls

1:31:45

and I was the same way

1:31:47

but different. Like I didn't

1:31:49

we I didn't grow up in this the

1:31:51

way things are now. Like it's right a harder,

1:31:53

you know, I had like teen vogue, like you

1:31:55

had a magazine that you didn't get it because

1:31:57

he had all the time like right that was

1:31:59

your Visuals and then you and kids are

1:32:01

mean at school. So then you deal

1:32:03

with that Can you imagine when it's like now at school

1:32:06

how mean kids can be at school now? Like awful So

1:32:09

I was telling my niece I was I told her I was like,

1:32:12

I just need you to like hear me out. Okay,

1:32:15

I Kind

1:32:19

of had this conversation of about like things

1:32:22

the things shoes like whatever school I'm

1:32:26

like you may I'm like if you ever

1:32:28

go to school or you're like a dance or whatever

1:32:30

I'm like, maybe something's really cool whether it's like shoes

1:32:32

or a bag or Maybe

1:32:34

it's like a new phone or some headphones

1:32:36

or whatever it is I'm like

1:32:38

and they everyone's got it and they think it's pretty

1:32:40

cool and maybe they like touch it to you or

1:32:42

like Joke around or like make fun

1:32:44

of you because you don't have it. I'm like,

1:32:47

I need you to hear me out All

1:32:50

that is So

1:32:53

stupid Like it

1:32:55

is so stupid and

1:32:58

all those people all those friends. They

1:33:00

will realize it in some years Right

1:33:04

and do not I might I might do not care

1:33:07

I'm like, I know and I'm I

1:33:09

always tell her I'm like you can always call me

1:33:11

you can always talk to me We can figure

1:33:13

anything out. I'm like, but you gotta promise me

1:33:15

you are not gonna be some dumb bimbo You're

1:33:19

gonna be intellectual You're

1:33:21

nice you know all

1:33:23

these things that like I Feel

1:33:26

and I know this isn't everybody, you know, if you're

1:33:28

listening you're like, well, I'm not like that This is

1:33:31

not everybody but I feel like across the board if

1:33:33

we like talk and we're just about America a lot

1:33:35

of people here right, so It's

1:33:39

almost celebrated to be pretty

1:33:41

and dumb And

1:33:44

it's really annoying and it

1:33:47

is and the thing is though is like that doesn't

1:33:49

serve you Like if you're someone

1:33:51

who has like ambitions or maybe your ambitions you're

1:33:53

young is like just to be an influencer Hopefully

1:33:56

your parents can help redirect you to like let's

1:33:58

get let's let's do that But what

1:34:00

do we want to do it in? Right? Like, right. What

1:34:03

are we going to have influence because of what? Like,

1:34:05

what do you love? Like what activity? What is this?

1:34:07

Like, what do you like to write, like to draw,

1:34:09

whatever it is. Like, let's add

1:34:11

something to it now. Yes. Like, let's

1:34:13

be an influencer and like do

1:34:16

these things. But everything

1:34:19

with TikTok, with Instagram, it

1:34:21

really is about your

1:34:24

looks and

1:34:28

how many followers you have. And the way you get

1:34:31

there is by being sexier and dancing better and like

1:34:33

putting out more content. And it

1:34:35

just stresses me out because it's so,

1:34:39

it is so sad. And I have had, I mean,

1:34:41

all of us, so

1:34:44

many sad days in our life,

1:34:46

right? Like we're, you just, it

1:34:48

feels awful. I mean, debilitating, rough

1:34:50

days. And of course,

1:34:52

you don't want those things for your kids. Just

1:34:54

like my mom doesn't want them for me. Like

1:34:56

when I'm going through some shit, I get for

1:34:59

my mom. I'm not a

1:35:01

mom, but I do understand

1:35:03

this, especially after I posted that thing, I think

1:35:05

I was talking about how your

1:35:09

mother, there is a piece of her

1:35:11

living in all of her children. There's

1:35:14

that is passed on to all your children. This

1:35:16

is such a beautiful thing. You

1:35:18

know, like my mom has always talked about

1:35:20

it. It's like, if I hurt, she

1:35:23

hurts. Oh, yeah. You know

1:35:25

what I mean? Like, and it didn't matter if

1:35:27

I were home or I'm across the country. Yeah.

1:35:31

Like, and it's true.

1:35:33

Like, no,

1:35:36

I don't want like my niece to go through shit

1:35:39

that's like unnecessary. And so

1:35:41

I'm like constantly on kind of like playing

1:35:43

defense. But

1:35:45

that's the problem, right? It's like, they're

1:35:48

going to Oh, 100%. And

1:35:50

that's the thing is like, how do we teach our

1:35:53

children to deal with it? To deal

1:35:55

with? Because

1:35:57

they, regardless of

1:36:00

of us telling them, you

1:36:03

know, all these things. Oh, yeah. How

1:36:05

are we going to actually get

1:36:07

them to a point like where

1:36:09

they're self-confident enough? And I

1:36:11

think a lot of it is confidence, right? It's

1:36:14

like trying not to be codependent, trying not

1:36:16

to be, you know. One thing

1:36:18

I read about that, one thing I actually read about

1:36:20

that, that was talking about how to increase just

1:36:23

independency, really confidence.

1:36:26

And then the feeling of like that

1:36:28

when you see, when you finish a

1:36:30

task or you complete something like that

1:36:32

gratifying, like you feel good about yourself.

1:36:36

You don't need someone to tell you. Right. Now

1:36:38

we live in a time where it's like everyone just

1:36:41

wants you to tell you. We want instant gratification and

1:36:43

it doesn't matter what you think or your family thinks.

1:36:45

It's like, well, what did they think? Even though

1:36:47

you don't know them. Right.

1:36:49

Which is bizarre. But the guy, the

1:36:51

thing I was reading about, it was talking about the

1:36:53

importance of work. Kids

1:36:56

when they're young. Mm-hmm. Because

1:36:59

you put them to work, whether it's

1:37:01

yard work, you give them chores. You

1:37:03

basically give them something they're responsible for. Because

1:37:07

they may not like to do it, but when

1:37:09

they do it, they learn how to complete tasks.

1:37:11

They learn how to work for something. And

1:37:14

it feels good when you do it

1:37:17

and you finish it. It feels

1:37:19

good. So it teaches them like

1:37:21

how to make themselves feel good. Mm-hmm.

1:37:24

You know, and I think that not

1:37:27

everywhere, obviously, again, I'll say it again, and not

1:37:29

everyone again, I'll say it because probably

1:37:32

really just anyone that doesn't pertain to

1:37:35

is anyone in a rural area, like

1:37:37

where you're doing work outside. Mm-hmm.

1:37:40

You know what I mean? Like those kids are happy, man.

1:37:43

Around the time of their life. But

1:37:46

a lot of people, we don't, they don't live that

1:37:48

way anymore. They're in the city or whatever. And

1:37:51

it's a time where everyone gets

1:37:53

offended and no one's feelings hurt and

1:37:56

everyone wants a participation trophy and

1:37:58

there's no losing and everyone's a winner. No.

1:38:01

Well that's why

1:38:03

why how did we ever get to a point where people

1:38:05

like this is how it should be

1:38:07

it's like no man that's never how it was.

1:38:11

Life is like that old skip from Chris

1:38:13

from Delia where he's like you're gonna fail

1:38:15

a lot kid. Yeah you

1:38:19

know like but that but that is the truth like you have

1:38:22

to learn how to lose right. Yes.

1:38:24

Because and then you win

1:38:26

and then it's like men when

1:38:28

you do lose and when you put in the work

1:38:31

then all of a sudden win whether it's like

1:38:33

a kid in like a track meet right like

1:38:35

running racing or whatever they

1:38:37

learn how to handle like they it's

1:38:40

it's helping them learn emotional intelligence and

1:38:42

control and like what really is important

1:38:44

and really doesn't matter and

1:38:47

I don't know

1:38:51

how like the best route to do

1:38:53

that I think we've had this conversation years

1:38:56

ago on here talking

1:38:58

about like there's no road

1:39:00

map like that was my thing when all of a

1:39:02

sudden it was like an influencer and I had all

1:39:04

these people not all these

1:39:06

people but people yeah a lot of

1:39:09

people and things all of a sudden all

1:39:11

of a sudden they don't like like you said and we talked

1:39:13

about it where they find

1:39:16

you they love what you're doing and

1:39:19

then after they follow you for a while we

1:39:21

all start you know it's you're not

1:39:24

just watching it on TV like if you watch the show

1:39:26

on TV like you can't give them your feedback right

1:39:30

on social media it's this interactive thing

1:39:34

interactive relationship where you don't really know them and it's

1:39:36

like you can constantly build them up

1:39:38

or ruin their fucking day yeah and it's

1:39:40

all based off on how you

1:39:42

feel about it mm-hmm like oh you're

1:39:44

writing a whore oh for me oh you're

1:39:47

at a shooting range of your shooting guns

1:39:49

well I hate guns and I love you

1:39:51

and I followed you for yours but I'm

1:39:53

unfollowing you because of this you're

1:39:55

the worst person ever it's like I'm

1:39:59

a person with We're all very complex

1:40:01

and we like different things. We're all just trying

1:40:03

to do our freakin best, right? I have a

1:40:05

different background I know all of a sudden because

1:40:07

I'm shooting guns and you follow me and

1:40:09

you love me and you know my personality I put

1:40:11

me in this box of but now it's like

1:40:13

I think I am like, okay It's almost as

1:40:15

if they've drawn me and they're like, I

1:40:18

gotta change your outfit. No, we don't like

1:40:20

that anymore, right? That's

1:40:22

a terrible haircut change that and it's all it's

1:40:25

everyone just behind the screen Yeah,

1:40:27

you know and I think that that is

1:40:29

almost Inevitable

1:40:32

because of the way it is and because you

1:40:34

get to comment and be like, you know keyboard

1:40:36

lawyer or whatever they used to call them and

1:40:41

With kids that want to be influencers There's

1:40:45

just so much shit

1:40:48

That you have to battle through because

1:40:51

of it, right? Well, you're opening yourself up and

1:40:55

Emotionally Yeah And

1:40:58

then you know now we have this whole epidemic of like mental

1:41:00

health and it's like that's always been a thing But

1:41:02

probably not in the way that it is now,

1:41:04

you know a lot of mental health was really

1:41:06

like a like PTSD and more vets and trauma

1:41:10

definitely like traumatic experiences,

1:41:12

but I'm I Finish

1:41:15

your thought but I was gonna tell you like well, I'm

1:41:17

gonna say I'm gonna say something in our business Many

1:41:20

people I know I have so many

1:41:22

people In our

1:41:25

businesses and it's all young

1:41:27

people very young people like I mean

1:41:29

i'm talking like High school kids

1:41:31

that are like working part-time That's

1:41:33

a lot of restaurants here shutting down. They can't

1:41:36

they can't stay open because the quality always garbage

1:41:38

Well, no, they want to take a

1:41:41

mental health day. Yes, and it's

1:41:43

like Well,

1:41:46

do you you're like that's for

1:41:48

sunday, right, right do

1:41:51

you need I You

1:41:53

know and again like not to not

1:41:55

to back on mental health. I think

1:41:57

like everything in this country I think

1:42:00

I think that there are things that need

1:42:02

to be addressed. There are people with like

1:42:04

real mental health problems and it's okay to

1:42:06

talk about and it's okay to talk, you

1:42:09

know, be open about and we

1:42:11

need to, you know, take

1:42:13

care of those people and be

1:42:15

okay with those people like taking

1:42:17

a mental health day. But now

1:42:19

it's gotten like everything that happens.

1:42:21

It's like a training disability. It's

1:42:23

like it's like it's like it's

1:42:25

like a training disability. I'm

1:42:27

taking a mental health day because

1:42:29

what like I, you know,

1:42:32

you had a hard night. I hit all the red

1:42:34

light and a little bit of work and it just

1:42:36

really triggered me. And

1:42:39

it's like, I have

1:42:41

anxiety. Like sure, debilitating

1:42:43

anxiety some days. Like

1:42:46

throughout my day, I get it. Like

1:42:48

we all do. What happens if

1:42:51

you're listening and you're like, man, that's kind

1:42:53

of harsh. Right. It's one of

1:42:55

those hard conversations. It's the truth. We

1:42:58

all do a shit. We all and

1:43:01

whenever we just sit in that we,

1:43:04

we, I mean, like if I sit in it

1:43:06

and I do like I have moments where I get,

1:43:09

I've got so much going on and

1:43:11

I get so overwhelmed and

1:43:13

I get stuck and it

1:43:16

is a terrible feeling. It's

1:43:18

awful. And

1:43:20

I'm sure you guys for sure, but then

1:43:22

people listening and you're like, oh yeah, that happens to me too.

1:43:25

It happens to everybody. That

1:43:27

doesn't mean that the whole

1:43:29

population has to all of a sudden

1:43:31

we quit everything because we just can't handle it anymore. It's

1:43:35

just the reality is you

1:43:37

still have your responsibility. And

1:43:41

that does, and there's, there's obviously there's nuances and there's,

1:43:43

there's different levels to like, what are you dealing with?

1:43:45

But like what Gina you're saying, a 100% man. It's

1:43:49

becoming trendy. It's trendy.

1:43:52

And I have, I have shit

1:43:55

I have to deal with every day. I'm not saying

1:43:57

that it's fake because I live it every day. deal

1:44:00

with it every day but

1:44:02

it is trendy. Just

1:44:04

like it was trendy to like we had the

1:44:06

conversation talking about people that are overweight like way

1:44:09

overweight and

1:44:12

like watching like my 600 pound life and

1:44:14

have a conversation with you know with a

1:44:17

friend where it was really

1:44:20

the victim mindset that's probably the biggest I

1:44:22

mean that's probably the that's the cornerstone of

1:44:24

it like a very mind when you're stuck

1:44:27

in a victim mindset which I feel like this day

1:44:29

and age that's majority of people it's so easy to

1:44:31

get there and when you have

1:44:33

camaraderie there it's cool it's like I'm

1:44:35

sad like we're sad and my life's

1:44:37

hard and I'm taking a mental health

1:44:39

day and let's do it together like

1:44:41

when you have that you don't ever need

1:44:43

to get over it you don't ever

1:44:45

need to get through it well

1:44:48

and at what point are we are

1:44:50

we responsible for making change

1:44:53

in our lives right you know what

1:44:55

I mean because it's it's

1:44:58

you know we all have stuff

1:45:00

I mean I you know my

1:45:02

like you've dealt with anxiety

1:45:04

and panic attacks and I

1:45:07

you know my sister had dealt with that I

1:45:09

never dealt with it I had

1:45:12

empathy for it but I didn't really know what

1:45:14

it what it meant until I actually had one

1:45:16

and I was like oh shit like this is

1:45:18

this is gnarly like I feel like I'm you

1:45:21

know I'm gonna have I'm

1:45:23

gonna die yeah you know and and

1:45:26

I can't breathe and I so

1:45:28

like we have we have these

1:45:31

things on the spectrum of

1:45:33

you know very severe but then everybody

1:45:35

kind of like it's

1:45:38

kind of like I I liken it

1:45:40

to if

1:45:42

anyone's ever dealt with like migraines mm-hmm

1:45:45

I've had actual migraines like where you feel

1:45:47

like you're gonna throw up and you have

1:45:49

to be in a dark room and then

1:45:51

my you know my cousin my cousin can't

1:45:53

I mean it is off no they're awful

1:45:55

they're awful but the point is is that

1:45:57

I used to say before actually

1:46:00

got migraines. Oh my god,

1:46:02

my head hurts so bad. I think it's a

1:46:04

migraine. And so what it does is it is

1:46:07

it kind of lessens it for the people who

1:46:09

are actually dealing with real

1:46:11

migraines. You know, it's

1:46:13

like no, a migraine isn't just a

1:46:16

really bad headache. A migraine is like

1:46:18

meeting a mental viddie, lay down vomiting,

1:46:20

right? And so it's

1:46:23

kind of feeling ever.

1:46:25

It is bad. A migraine is bad. But

1:46:27

the problem in our society is that we're

1:46:29

like, Oh my god, we want to make

1:46:31

sure that these people that are dealing with

1:46:33

these really hard things, we need to make

1:46:36

sure that they have protection, right? But then

1:46:38

everybody jumps on

1:46:40

the fucking bandwagon and then

1:46:43

everybody's got, you know, oh

1:46:45

my god, I'm having a panic attack. I'm like, if you

1:46:47

were having a panic attack right now, you

1:46:49

would not be here just saying, Oh

1:46:52

my god, I'm having a panic attack

1:46:54

on the ground. I would lay down.

1:46:56

Right. Like this is a very different

1:46:58

thing. And so that's the problem is

1:47:00

that we're trying so hard to make

1:47:03

life okay. Because

1:47:05

we care about other people for trying

1:47:07

to make life okay for those people

1:47:10

who actually have them. But then everybody

1:47:12

gets to be, you know, I'm

1:47:14

I need a mental health day and

1:47:17

I need, you know, I'm having a

1:47:19

panic attack. I'm having a migraine. It's like that.

1:47:22

You're, you're literally just being fucking dramatic. Yes.

1:47:24

I'm going to play this. I posted on

1:47:26

my Instagram story and you guys probably seen

1:47:28

it, but I'm gonna play it anyways. I

1:47:30

cannot remember what this comedian's name is. Oh,

1:47:32

it's so really controversial. Yeah. He's really

1:47:35

funny. This is real. This is, let's see if

1:47:37

you can hear it. The

1:47:40

teacher doesn't like me. Let me turn over.

1:47:43

Let's see. Let's see. My mom and dad would say,

1:47:45

who gives a fuck? And life people

1:47:48

are not going to like you. Figure

1:47:50

it out. Now you guys, when you

1:47:52

have kids in elementary school, they come

1:47:54

home, they go, the teacher doesn't like

1:47:56

me. And you go, well, let's get

1:47:58

the teacher fired because my kids. Perfect.

1:48:00

You instill in his brain or her

1:48:03

brain that the world should bend

1:48:05

to them. And now

1:48:07

I'm doing comedy and I tell a joke

1:48:10

about something and someone stands up and they

1:48:12

go, I don't like that. Well, everyone

1:48:14

else is laughing, but that doesn't matter, because in

1:48:16

this moment I don't like it. So

1:48:18

now you have to leave. You get kicked out

1:48:20

of my show. Girl had a seizure at my

1:48:23

show. We checked on her. She was mine. She

1:48:25

leaves. Everything's good. So I started to make fun

1:48:27

of what happened to the situation and a girl

1:48:29

in the crowd stopped. She's like, you can't make

1:48:31

jokes about that. That's not funny. And I asked

1:48:33

what she did for a living. She said she

1:48:35

was an EMT. And I was like, why didn't

1:48:37

you help? This is what we do now. We

1:48:40

couldn't blame, but we don't help. Yeah.

1:48:44

Yeah. That's one of those hard truths,

1:48:46

guys. And I urge you,

1:48:49

when we have hard truths, not to pull

1:48:51

back. That's also the thing that's very

1:48:53

normal now. It's like we all live

1:48:56

in our own truth where it's like if you offend

1:48:58

me or you don't agree with me, it's like you're

1:49:00

wrong. I don't like what you're saying.

1:49:02

I'm going to cancel you. That's not

1:49:04

how life works. And

1:49:10

outside of, I mean,

1:49:14

businesses, and we can, we'll

1:49:17

end this soon, but for

1:49:19

instance, like your family business,

1:49:21

Gina, businesses

1:49:23

still have to function. Right?

1:49:25

Like there's a job

1:49:27

to be done. So

1:49:30

dealing with a bunch of employees that

1:49:33

are sissies. They

1:49:35

are scared kids. And

1:49:40

they live in that so much that it's

1:49:42

like in their own mind, it's like they're

1:49:44

superior. They have

1:49:47

so much power. Yes. And there