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is Coffee Convos with Kayle Lowry and

0:54

Lindsay Chrisley. I really want you to

0:56

be in your fields, Kayle. That does

0:59

not interest me whatsoever. I feel very

1:01

attacked by you. A spirited discussion about

1:03

motherhood, friendship, family, and life in the

1:05

public eye. I'm just not with the

1:07

fakery anymore. There's a fakery bakery around

1:09

here. Here's Kayle and Lindsay. Good

1:13

morning, Coffee Convos. Good morning, my name is

1:15

Kast. How are you today?

1:18

I am well. I'm

1:20

in Mexico actually. Oh, what part of

1:23

Mexico are you in? In Cancun.

1:25

Oh, period. Okay. Well, I

1:27

hope that you're having the best time. I'm in hell in

1:29

case you're wondering. Oh,

1:32

now what? I might have

1:34

seen it on Instagram, but I didn't

1:37

hear it from you. Yeah,

1:39

so I just last minute, literally

1:41

this is so unlike me, but

1:43

I've been doing this for probably like the

1:46

last six months. I'll

1:49

just like book a last minute something, like go to a cabin,

1:51

go to Mexico, flee the United

1:54

States. Yeah, I'd

1:56

love that for you. That's what I decided to

1:58

do. I'm pretty sure that we

2:01

made our arrangements on Thursday and left on

2:03

Saturday morning. Had to

2:05

get up at 3.30 in the morning. I don't

2:07

know what it is if it's just like I'm

2:09

aging, but I can't hang like I used to

2:11

be able to hang. Absolutely

2:14

not. You got to go to bed too.

2:19

I'm in bed as soon as my babies hit

2:22

their cribs. I'm in bed. Like

2:25

what time is that? So

2:27

Rio goes around 7.30. Sometimes

2:30

we can stretch him till 8, but usually it's like 7.30. And

2:34

then the twins are right there behind him because it just

2:36

it takes more time to get them in bed. So we

2:38

put Rio to bed first and then do the twins. So

2:40

I mean, last night was the

2:43

twins were in bed at 8 and I was like,

2:45

wow, this like, what am I going to do? Because

2:47

I was still kind of wired from like the caffeine that I

2:50

drank. So I was like, I'm going

2:52

to regret this in the morning. And I do like look at

2:54

me right now. I

2:58

don't know if it's caffeine or not, but

3:00

bitch will be drinking a Coke at midnight

3:02

and I will still sleep like a baby.

3:04

Yeah, I don't, I say it's caffeine, but

3:06

I also like I just drink an Alani.

3:08

I could go take a nap right now.

3:11

So I don't know. I don't actually know. That's

3:13

one thing that I'm sad about. I

3:15

did not bring any Alani's on this trip. So

3:17

I have been a little bit on the struggle

3:19

bus in the morning because I'm off my regular

3:22

routine, but I do have Mexican Coke. So well,

3:24

I love that for you. Speaking

3:26

of sleep, I need

3:29

to update you on the dad that drug the kids

3:31

at the sleepover. Okay, tell me. So

3:34

he pled guilty. There's a TikTok right here. Kristen,

3:36

do you want to play the TikTok? Yeah, we,

3:38

I get my news from TikTok now, I guess.

3:41

They just do a more interesting job than

3:43

like the actual news channel when creators get

3:45

on and like summarize the shit for you.

3:48

So yeah, but if you're following a

3:50

creator that can be trusted. Oh,

3:53

of course. Right. Don't trust

3:55

me because I'm out butchering. So I have

3:57

to get it from this creator. Okay.

4:01

While there's finally an update in this case, do you remember 57 year

4:03

old father Michael Maden? He's the guy whose 12

4:06

year old daughter had a sleepover with three friends

4:08

and he spiked their smoothies with benzodiazepines. If you

4:10

didn't see my original video about this, you can

4:12

click on the comment that says update and it'll

4:15

take you back. But basically his 12 year old

4:17

daughter wanted to have a sleepover. So she had

4:19

three friends over and he made them all

4:21

a smoothie and the girls noticed that they had

4:24

little white specks in them, but they didn't

4:26

really think anything of it. So the girls drank

4:28

them except one girl didn't like her. So

4:30

he made her another one and encouraged her

4:32

to drink it. The girls apparently all felt woozy,

4:34

hot and clumsy and ended up going to sleep.

4:36

Now the one girl who didn't really drink her

4:39

smoothie, she was able to stay awake and she

4:41

noticed that he made several trips down to the

4:43

basement where they were sleeping to check on them.

4:45

He even at one point put his finger under

4:47

one of the girls noses to make sure she

4:49

was breathing. She sent a very frantic message to

4:52

her mother, pretty much begging to be picked up

4:54

saying that she doesn't feel safe. All of the

4:56

parents ended up coming to pick up their daughters

4:58

and at first he tried to refuse to let

5:00

them go saying that they were asleep

5:03

and they could go home in the morning.

5:05

But the moms took their kids and they

5:07

went straight to the ER where the girls

5:09

all tested positive for benzos. He was arrested

5:11

and charged with several felonies. So here's the

5:13

update. He had court on June 10th and

5:15

he pleaded guilty to spiking their drinks. He

5:18

ended up getting charged with three felony counts

5:20

of forcing a person to ingest a controlled

5:22

substance and was sentenced to two years in

5:24

prison. And the reason he gave the court

5:26

for doing what he did was he just

5:28

wanted them to go to bed by 11.

5:30

According to his attorney, he's remorseful and apologetic

5:33

and really regrets what he did. He said

5:35

that everything that was once important in his

5:37

life is now pretty much gone. I'm not

5:39

sure the sentence was harsh enough. What do

5:41

you guys think? What do you

5:43

guys think? What do you think Lindsay? Chrisley?

5:45

I think that the sentence was absolutely not

5:48

harsh enough. And do

5:51

I believe that he gave them like he went

5:53

all the way out of his way to make

5:55

these smoothies so they would go to bed by

5:57

11. Well, these girls were old enough

5:59

to be. told that they need to go

6:01

to bed by 11. They didn't need to be

6:04

drugged in order for them to do that. So

6:06

I don't believe that at all. Also,

6:08

I believe that he took somewhat

6:10

responsibility so that he could get

6:13

a lesser sense. Which is foul

6:15

because you shouldn't get

6:17

off the hook a little bit just because

6:19

you literally traumatize these girls and their parents.

6:23

I don't have any work. I actually feel

6:25

horrible for these girls. And I would love

6:27

to know where the daughter is, where his

6:29

own daughter is, because she has

6:31

to live with this for the rest of her

6:33

life. And I know how it feels firsthand to

6:35

be afraid of being looked at

6:37

based on how my mother was. So

6:40

that was one of my biggest fears growing up was

6:42

like, people aren't going to want me around because of

6:44

who my mom is. I can't

6:46

imagine what that little girl probably feels right

6:48

now. And you also have to think about

6:51

the generational stuff that that places on people

6:53

because this happened to these girls out of

6:55

sleepover. Now think about them becoming mothers, if

6:57

that's what they choose to do, and how

7:00

they're going to feel about their kids having

7:02

sleepovers. Yeah, I agree. I just I can't

7:04

I just needed to update you because I

7:07

remember you telling me about this story. So

7:09

I didn't know if you had seen it

7:11

since you're on vacation. But I was like,

7:13

what in the fuck is going on? I

7:16

he deserves to rot in hell, truly. How

7:18

do people get two years for something like

7:20

that? But then you got

7:22

other people out here that get

7:25

charged with like financial crimes and shit and

7:27

go to prison for a decade. No, it

7:29

doesn't make sense. It does not make sense

7:32

at all. It really, it really bothers me

7:34

and irks my nerve. Yeah, no, it irks.

7:36

I just think that the whole the whole

7:39

system is flawed. I really believe that because

7:41

I mean, he traumatized these people

7:43

for life. People who do

7:45

financial crimes, most likely are not

7:47

traumatizing others in the in the

7:49

process. You said it I didn't.

7:51

So I mean,

7:55

maybe I don't know the book I'm reading right

7:58

now. Actually, the mom goes to jail for embezzlement

8:00

is what I'm reading right now. So

8:03

yeah, and she leads actually the

8:05

book is very similar because

8:08

she has to leave the dad died. She's

8:10

going to prison for six years for embezzling money

8:12

and she has to leave all of the

8:14

siblings with the oldest son. So

8:17

very similar situation. And again, six

8:19

years is crazy. But okay,

8:22

moving on, you got something else to tell

8:24

me about. Well, so you open the can

8:26

of worms of the WNBA

8:28

conversation. And so I went to

8:31

forbes.com. And

8:34

I'm looking at like wage gaps and

8:36

gender pay gap statistics. And

8:40

so women, in average, I

8:42

don't know how much we I don't remember

8:44

how much we went into detail on this.

8:46

But women in general make 16% less

8:48

than men on average. So women

8:50

earn about 84 cents for every

8:52

dollar that a man makes, right.

8:54

So I wanted to take that

8:56

a step further and also include

8:58

that women of color are among

9:00

the lowest paid workers in rural

9:02

areas. Latinas are compensated just

9:05

55% of what non Hispanic

9:07

white men are paid in 2024. And

9:09

then black women are paid 64% of

9:12

what non Hispanic white

9:14

men are paid. So I just wanted to

9:17

say that this system is so flawed. And

9:19

I wanted to read some of those statistics

9:21

because I feel like we can't discuss

9:24

just Caitlin Clark without also

9:27

acknowledging some other discrepancies.

9:31

And it made me really upset because I'm thinking like,

9:34

why we think that we made it so far in

9:36

2024. Like how many times have we all said like,

9:38

Oh, it's 20 foot 24. We're not doing this. We're

9:40

not doing that. It should be this, it should be

9:42

that. And then you look at stuff like this on

9:44

and I can have Kristen share the article or we

9:46

can share the article to our stories, but like, we

9:49

still have so fucking far to go.

9:51

And I just don't

9:53

know how do people like us kind

9:56

of bring more awareness

9:58

to these situations because this isn't okay.

10:00

Well, I think it's not

10:02

that our conversation on coffee combos podcast is

10:05

going to change like a wage gap by

10:07

any means. But I just feel

10:09

like having conversation and making people aware because

10:11

I don't think the average person is

10:13

aware this article says for every dollar earned by

10:16

men, women earn 84 cents.

10:19

And while that's not a huge gap,

10:22

why is there a gap? Well, that's

10:24

what I'm I guess that's what I'm getting at. And then just

10:26

to take it a step further and you know, other like black

10:30

women, Hispanic women, just and then

10:32

it actually mentions, Native

10:35

American women are typically only paid 59 cents

10:37

for every dollar paid to, to

10:39

white non Hispanic men. So a 20

10:42

year old woman just started full time year round work

10:44

stands to lose $407,000 over a 40 year career compared

10:46

to her male counterpart. And I just wish that there

10:53

was more that we can do. And I think that the

10:55

only thing maybe one of

10:57

the only things that we can do

10:59

to help bring awareness is post, you

11:01

know, articles surrounding this topic to get

11:03

other people to really open their eyes

11:05

because truly until you open the conversation

11:07

about the wage gap in WNBA versus

11:09

NBA, I kind of

11:12

knew that women were always paid less

11:14

and then but not yeah,

11:18

I just didn't know that it was as deep

11:20

as it goes. Do you know what I mean? And I think that there's

11:24

more conversations to be had here. And I wish that we

11:26

you know, I wish that I knew more, I wish I

11:28

knew more in advance, because we could have been talking about

11:30

this kind of like over the course of the years. But

11:33

this actually has like jobs

11:35

with the smallest gender pay

11:37

gap. It also includes jobs

11:39

with the largest gender pay

11:41

gap, which is real estate

11:43

brokers and sales agents, personal

11:45

financial advisors, insurance sales inspectors,

11:47

recreation workers insurance, those

11:49

are some of the jobs that have like the biggest gender

11:51

pay gap. And then the ones that have

11:53

some of the smaller ones are physical

11:56

therapists, bartenders, spec ed

11:58

teachers, cashiers. maids

12:01

and housekeeping. There's

12:05

no rhyme or reason. Some of those statistics

12:07

could be skewed a little bit because most

12:10

of those are predominantly women. Like

12:12

jobs. Yeah, that's

12:15

a really good point. So that also,

12:17

how can you really have the correct

12:20

data here if it's not

12:22

really a male dominated industry,

12:24

right? Like nursing assistants, social

12:27

workers, those are, I mean, most, all

12:29

the ones that have the smallest gender

12:31

pay gaps are. For women.

12:36

Yeah. No, that I mean,

12:38

it's absolutely crazy. And I think it's,

12:40

it's way bigger than the WNBA. But

12:42

I think that that just brought awareness

12:45

to me when I started reading some

12:47

of that stuff. It made me absolutely

12:50

furious because you have

12:52

like, you have

12:54

a man out here making millions and

12:56

millions and millions of dollars to her

12:58

$76,000, I think is what it

13:02

was. And while she's still going to

13:04

have opportunities for brand deals and you

13:07

know, partnerships and you know,

13:09

could end up being a spokesperson for

13:11

something that's all good and great. But the

13:13

men that are in the NBA are also

13:16

having those opportunities on top of what they're

13:18

being paid. Agreed. So

13:20

I'm going to post this article

13:23

on my personal Instagram as well as

13:25

Kristin can share it to the

13:27

coffee combos one, but I definitely want to

13:29

just keep this conversation going

13:31

over the next several months. And if not

13:33

indefinitely, just because I feel like maybe other

13:36

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13:38

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we talk about American Nightmare? Because I've

16:18

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16:20

about this with you since I

16:22

watched it. Yeah. So I

16:24

also finished it. Um, so

16:27

last week I told you about episode one. And

16:30

then this week I, I mean, I did finish

16:32

it, but in my notes for episode two, Erin

16:35

gets blamed for this disappearance, this

16:37

whole situation. First of all, if

16:40

we're going to cover the whole thing, like from start to finish,

16:43

um, this was 1000% an

16:46

inside job and it makes me sick

16:48

to my fucking stomach that nobody involved

16:50

in this case was charged or

16:53

looked at. It's very, very

16:55

alarming. And I wonder how common

16:58

this actually like happens. The

17:01

thing that stuck out to me the most

17:03

was the fact of his education. A

17:05

lawyer, Lindsay, like what? A

17:08

lawyer. Yes. Yes. Military

17:11

lawyer. Military lawyer. And

17:13

didn't he like go to an Ivy league

17:15

school or something? Like he was a Harvard

17:17

grad or something. Yeah. And he

17:20

was a peeping Tom and for

17:22

people in his neighborhood. Peeping

17:25

Tom, like at what point of your life,

17:28

is that something that you've always kind of

17:30

been from like childhood and then it just

17:32

gets like worse? I

17:34

don't know because I'm not, I haven't really

17:36

heard of any child like peeping, like I

17:38

can't remember any cases of that really that

17:40

I've heard. Um, what really

17:42

freaks me out is that the, there are people

17:44

out here in this world that know how to

17:47

contact people on the black market in the dark

17:49

web. Like I still have a

17:51

really hard time wrapping my head around the

17:53

fact that those things exist because you

17:56

and I, regular everyday people don't have

17:58

like, we can't. go on

18:00

the dark, like we don't know how to get to the

18:02

dark web. We don't know how to hire somebody for hit.

18:04

Like we don't know how to, who hired

18:08

this man to put a

18:10

hit out on Andrea, Andrea,

18:12

Andrea, and literally

18:14

was like, this was meant for

18:16

somebody else. Like who knew to

18:18

contact this like person to do these things,

18:20

you know what I mean? And it was

18:23

clear that he had done it before, but

18:25

then also for the

18:27

law enforcement to blame the victims

18:29

without, and we hear about this

18:31

so often, I feel it's like

18:34

nobody in their right mind is

18:36

making up this crazy story about

18:38

strobe lights and fucking wetsuits and

18:41

goggles and having identical

18:43

stories. Like if you're

18:45

that big of a liar and you can

18:47

like can cocked some lie like

18:49

that about, I mean, how would you even

18:52

think that in your mind? Like, Oh, Hey,

18:54

I'm going to lie about this person, like

18:56

making me wear a wetsuit and goggles.

19:00

It's one of those things that it's so crazy.

19:02

It has to be true. And obviously we know

19:04

that people tell elaborate stories, right? And like, when

19:06

you start adding like all the dramatics and the

19:08

effects and like, it's this crazy, elaborate, detailed story,

19:11

you're like, okay, wait, we need to like, dial

19:14

this back and like restart because you want to

19:16

catch people up in lies, right? But this is

19:18

like two people are telling identical stories. And it's

19:20

so crazy that you're like, nobody could have made

19:23

this up, right? Like if someone gets, if someone

19:25

is doing like a kidnapping hoax, they're

19:27

not going to add a scuba

19:29

set of goggles with blinders,

19:32

a strobe light, like they're not adding

19:34

those details. So to get blamed by

19:37

the general public also, and

19:39

then the law enforcement is crazy,

19:41

and none of them got charged,

19:43

I and truly to $2.5 million

19:46

was not enough for them to

19:49

settle, I would have said I would have taken

19:51

nothing less than five or $10 million, because now

19:54

your people will always believe to this

19:56

day that it was made up. You know what I

19:58

mean? Like no matter how much you record, to identify

20:01

what was done or try to like fix

20:03

the situation. There will always be people that believed it

20:05

was a hoax. There will always be people. And so

20:07

for that, what the fuck? So

20:10

I was actually thinking about

20:12

this, you know, sometimes in like settlement

20:15

statements when you're involved in like

20:17

a lawsuit or something like that, that

20:20

if they find guilt on the

20:22

opposing party, somebody has to go out and

20:25

make some type of like public statement or

20:27

whatever. I feel

20:29

like law enforcement should have been

20:31

made to do a press conference

20:33

and acknowledge the fact that they

20:36

actually were the liars and the

20:38

hoaxers. I agree. I think that

20:40

they owed her a like both of

20:42

them and it's like, she they should

20:44

have been for forgiveness. That's so embarrassing. And

20:46

the fact that they didn't follow up on

20:48

any leads. And if it wasn't for the

20:50

woman that was in I think it was

20:52

Las Vegas, or

20:55

wherever that whatever state she was in, Nevada.

20:59

If it wasn't for her doing her due

21:01

diligence as an officer where she was at,

21:03

none of this would have even they would

21:05

have probably been charged for this hoax that

21:07

they didn't commit, which is crazy. It's,

21:09

it's so crazy. And

21:12

I will say that this documentary,

21:14

whatever we're calling it, was it like a documentary

21:17

or? Yeah. Um,

21:21

I feel like they did a really good job

21:23

of convincing me along the way of it being

21:27

the boyfriend than it being her.

21:30

Like I was on a cliffhanger until

21:32

I found out exactly who it

21:35

was and the fact that they found him. Crazy

21:38

thing is, is that he had

21:40

had like many other

21:42

victims for

21:45

a long time. Because

21:47

I think it was a combination of

21:49

him doing it on his own, but

21:51

also people started hiring him. And

21:54

let's not forget that he wasn't alone either. So

21:56

he, there was other people

21:58

involved and he literally. tells Denise at one

22:01

point, they're not as nice as

22:03

I am. But are we thinking

22:05

that that's actually real? Because I think that's

22:07

where you and I are. She told other people. Other

22:10

people were involved? I don't know 100% if

22:13

other people were involved. But

22:15

she says that she remembers, maybe they don't

22:17

know the extent of what he was doing,

22:19

because she says that there was an exchange

22:21

of cars. She

22:24

went from one trunk to another. So

22:26

maybe there's parts that they

22:29

didn't really elaborate on. The

22:31

whole idea that you can just hire

22:33

someone to do things, that sounds so

22:35

crazy, because aren't you scared that they're going to

22:38

snitch? Aren't you scared that

22:40

it's all of scam? I'm

22:42

just saying that I don't trust anybody enough

22:45

to be involved with somebody like that, to

22:47

do something like that with somebody. Not

22:50

saying that I would ever do it, because I wouldn't.

22:52

But if I was going to, it would be like

22:54

a one man job. And

22:57

then the officer that was an

22:59

investigator on the case was

23:01

not removed from the case, because

23:04

they said that it was not

23:06

a conflict of interest. But he,

23:08

the law enforcement officer, the detective,

23:10

was dating Andrea, who was Aaron's

23:12

ex fiance. So

23:17

I thought in my head that he

23:19

hired this person who is ex military,

23:21

ex lawyer, all of those things who

23:23

had a history of peeping Tom and

23:25

things like that. He hired him

23:28

to do it to Andrea, and then turned

23:30

around and did it to the wrong people. And

23:32

nobody got charged. Like, are you fucking kidding me?

23:34

I don't know how shit like this happens. And

23:37

nobody gets reprimanded. Nobody gets anything. It's

23:39

truly mind blowing. The only people that lost

23:41

in the situation, and a lot of people

23:43

say, oh, well, it's fine, because

23:45

they got paid $2.5 million. $2.5

23:48

million doesn't erase the trauma

23:50

that was involved in this

23:53

entire situation. I mean, this girl was

23:55

raped multiple times.

24:00

After taxes and lawyer

24:03

fees and whatever

24:05

else that she, the lawyer fees alone plus

24:07

taxes and everything else, they also had to

24:09

move. They moved to the coast to get

24:12

away from wherever they were where all of

24:14

this took place. So all of that costs

24:16

money. And I don't know if you realize

24:18

how expensive it is to live in California,

24:20

but what they didn't, they weren't ended.

24:22

They didn't end up with much. There's no way. And

24:25

I could, I could be wrong, but

24:27

I don't know if they would have to pay

24:29

taxes on that money because it's like if you're

24:32

in a car accident or something and you get

24:34

paid a certain amount of money for pain

24:36

and suffering. Oh, so you don't pay

24:38

taxes on it. Is on that

24:41

because that's not, I mean, yes, is it

24:44

a form of income? Yes,

24:46

but it, you don't pay taxes

24:48

on that. Really? Yeah.

24:51

Ask Kristen. I'm almost positive. So

24:53

I'm thinking that this was like some

24:55

type of settlement by the

24:58

state. I would

25:00

believe that they would not be taxed

25:02

on this. Okay. So even

25:04

if they're not taxed, they still have to move in

25:06

the state of California, which is an arm and a

25:08

leg and their lawyer fees. And

25:11

they both had their own individual lawyers. So

25:14

when you have to move in the state of California

25:16

plus lawyer fees, I mean, you're left with nothing. So

25:19

living in California, I'm pretty sure that $2.5 million

25:22

is not going to get you very far

25:24

for a long period of time. No,

25:26

absolutely not. The house alone that they

25:28

moved to probably the down payment was

25:31

severe because I don't know any houses. I

25:34

just can't. The whole thing when

25:37

I watched it from start to finish was like,

25:39

what is going on? How does this happen? Like

25:42

what, and also this, I

25:44

mean, the guy who did it

25:46

must have known what he was doing to blackout

25:48

goggles and things like that and like make her

25:50

wear them. And then like essentially

25:52

coerced her. He

25:55

raped her. Those what he did was rape, but

25:58

he tried to do it in a way that like. made him

26:00

a good guy and it's just like, what

26:02

the fuck? That was what was so weird

26:04

to me. And immediately, I mean, you would

26:07

have to have some type of mental stuff

26:09

going on to even think about

26:11

doing an act like this, right? But the

26:13

level of follow through, but then his, like

26:17

he did this heinous thing to her, but then

26:19

he tries to play a good guy, mentally

26:22

something's going on there. Like possibly

26:24

multiple personality. I'm not

26:27

sure. I think it said that he had

26:29

been diagnosed with bipolar or something like that,

26:31

but that doesn't excuse the fact of the

26:33

heinous shit that he did. I

26:35

am convinced that there was never another man

26:37

that was going to rape her, that it

26:39

was just something like part of his like

26:42

spiel. I agree. I

26:44

agree with that. I just was like, actually

26:47

someone that follows me on Instagram was the one who

26:49

recommended this to me because I hadn't heard of it.

26:51

So when I started listening to it or not listening

26:53

to it, when I started watching it, I was like,

26:56

oh, Lindsay's going to have a field day with this one. Oh

26:59

God, I couldn't stop watching. I watched,

27:01

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27:03

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27:05

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27:07

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27:10

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29:33

the Madeline McCain disappearance, the update?

29:35

Yeah. Did you hear about it?

29:38

No. So Christian

29:40

Bruckner, I think it's Bruckner

29:42

Bruckner. I've never heard of

29:44

him. So he was associated with the family

29:46

in some way on the resort. And

29:49

he's always been a suspect in

29:51

her disappearance. So Christian was

29:53

a German voice actor and known pedophile

29:55

and he moved to Portugal in his

29:58

teens. And that was sort around

30:00

where the family was vacationing, right, in

30:02

Portugal. He's been convicted

30:04

of crimes like burglary, burglary,

30:06

theft, and sex offenses. And

30:09

I guess there's some sort of like nomadic community and I

30:11

put a bunch of question marks because I don't know exactly

30:13

what that means. But that's where

30:15

Christian had shared with somebody else on

30:17

the resort that he was planning to

30:19

kidnap a child from a rich family.

30:21

And I guess

30:23

that there is like big evidence that he's

30:26

not only a suspect, but I think that

30:28

he is the reason, the person who is

30:30

in fact responsible. Like, I think there's reason

30:32

to believe that he's more than just like

30:35

a suspect at this point, like he probably

30:38

is the one that did

30:40

it. And I was

30:42

disgusted because I didn't know who he was and

30:44

why he wasn't already locked up if he was a

30:46

known pedophile. I mean, you

30:49

got to think about this dad that we

30:51

were just talking about putting windows

30:54

and his daughters and friends,

30:56

smoothies, he only went, he's

30:58

only going to prison for two years.

31:01

So this could, this guy could just be on like

31:03

a sex registry list and then just like out here

31:05

roaming the fuck around. Nomads are

31:07

communities who move from place to place

31:10

as a way of obtaining food, finding

31:12

pasture for livestock or otherwise making a

31:14

living. Most nomadic groups

31:16

follow a fixed annual or seasonal

31:18

pattern of movements and settlements. Like

31:20

people traditionally travel by animal canoe

31:23

or on foot. Yeah. So

31:25

he shared with someone, someone he

31:27

trusted enough to tell, Oh, I'm going to

31:29

steal a kid from a rich family. And I

31:31

mean, you can't say, Oh, I just

31:34

said that. And then somebody goes missing, but

31:36

it like, wasn't me. I can't,

31:39

I mean, coincidences and shit do

31:41

happen. But like to that, to

31:43

that degree, no. And the fact, I hate

31:46

to say judging people by their past, but the,

31:49

the math, maths. Yeah. I mean,

31:51

you're a known pedophile. You're, you, you, you share

31:53

that you have plans. I

31:55

can't, I can't get behind that. Another update that

31:57

I have, and this is the last update I

31:59

have for this episode. is that one

32:02

small update is that Quiet on Set

32:04

that we covered about Nickelodeon and Dan

32:07

Schneider was the most streamed

32:09

title on streaming

32:12

platforms with over 1 billion

32:15

minutes of streaming time. And

32:19

Ariana Grande finally responded

32:21

to what happened. And

32:24

she basically says that she's still kind

32:26

of resolving her relationship with it, but

32:28

that when she looked back, some

32:31

of the sexual innuendo and innuendos were

32:33

obviously uncomfortable. But at the time when

32:35

she when you're a child star, she

32:38

talks about, you know, when you're

32:40

a performer, you're waiting for those laughs,

32:42

you're waiting for those encouragements

32:45

and you know, adults that you trust to say things to

32:47

you. And so you're not thinking of it in that way.

32:49

But I'll let Kristin play the video so that you can

32:51

see like her full. And I think that

32:53

she maybe wasn't necessarily prepared to

32:55

answer the question because she could tell that

32:57

she's thinking about it and she wants to

32:59

be politically correct. I'm sure. I

33:02

don't know what podcast this was. I've

33:04

come forward and there's not a word for how

33:08

devastating that is to hear about.

33:10

And so I think the

33:12

environment just needs to be made a

33:14

lot safer all around. I'm still in

33:17

real time reprocessing my relationship to it.

33:19

There's also a strange pattern that

33:21

occurs where it's really

33:24

taken advantage of how how much

33:27

it means to the young performer to get

33:29

a laugh from video village. You're like, Oh

33:31

shit, like I'm doing something great.

33:34

Like this is funny. This is good. Speaking

33:36

specifically about our show. I think that was

33:38

something that we were convinced was

33:40

like the cool thing about us is that like

33:42

we pushed the envelope with our humor and the

33:44

innuendos were like, we were

33:46

told and convinced

33:49

as well that it was like the cool

33:51

differentiation. I

33:53

don't know. I think it just all happened so

33:55

quickly. And now looking back on some

33:57

of the clips, I'm like, that's. Damn,

34:00

like really? Oh shit, there's

34:02

a bottom line. And then the things

34:04

that weren't approved for the network were

34:06

snuck onto like our website or whatever

34:08

it was. And that is another discovery, but

34:11

I'm going into it. I guess I'm upset.

34:13

But I think there should be therapists. I

34:16

think there should

34:19

be parents allowed to be wherever they want

34:21

to be. I'm glad that this conversation is

34:23

happening here and also in the world because

34:26

it's also just kind of

34:28

a cultural shift. It's

34:31

changing. And I think that's a

34:33

really nice place to see the

34:35

world in unison standing in a

34:37

place where we're like, that's changing.

34:40

That's unacceptable. I agree

34:42

with her take on that wholeheartedly.

34:44

And that documentary, there's no telling

34:47

how many children were abused

34:49

to some degree that have just not come

34:52

forward. And that

34:54

is really, really sad. I also

34:56

wholeheartedly agree that any person

34:58

that is on TV, whether you're

35:01

a child or an adult, and I've said this

35:03

since I was on Chris Lee knows best, that

35:05

you should have access to therapists because

35:07

the amount of damage that is done,

35:09

you can't go back and

35:12

fix it. It's years people are like, Oh,

35:14

well, you make great money. Yeah, you make

35:16

great money. But then you also have a lot of

35:18

shit that you're carrying in your satchel now that

35:20

you weren't carrying before. Well, I

35:22

think it's interesting too, because in my experience,

35:25

it wasn't something that was is

35:27

automatically offered to you, you have

35:30

to be having a mental breakdown

35:32

and ask for it. And

35:34

I know that scripted and reality are very different,

35:36

but it wasn't like, it

35:38

wasn't for reality in my experience with

35:40

reality TV, it wasn't like, Oh, we

35:43

know that you're a child, we know

35:45

that you're a minor. So we're going

35:47

to offer you these things in

35:49

conjunction with being

35:52

on this series, right? Because again,

35:54

like, I'm assuming that

35:57

these young children probably didn't have a whole

35:59

lot of media training, especially

36:01

back then, because there wasn't interviews

36:04

and things weren't the same as they are today with like

36:06

social media and things like that. And so I think it

36:08

was probably very different. Maybe they didn't do, I don't know,

36:11

like, did they do press tours? Did they do things like

36:13

this? Did they, you know what I mean? And I also

36:15

don't think that our eyes were really open. So

36:18

were they offered based on what she said, I

36:20

don't think that they were offered therapists right off

36:22

the bat. I don't know if it was a

36:24

situation like mine where it was like, you are

36:26

in the middle of a mental breakdown asking for

36:28

therapy, asking for help. They

36:30

don't just offer it to you. So that's, you

36:33

know, I think moving forward, when we're talking

36:35

about minors and TV, I do think that

36:37

there is a world where we could make

36:39

it healthier and it be

36:41

different. I do think that there is

36:44

a world for that. I think

36:46

without having responsible people in production and

36:48

executives, that's not going to happen.

36:51

So as long as these executives

36:53

that are going, as long

36:55

as they're benefiting in some way,

36:57

I don't think they care, but you know, I do

37:00

think at all. Did they

37:02

ever offer you like or Jackson, any

37:04

sort of like resources and things like

37:06

that? No, not at all. No,

37:09

no resources whatsoever. There's

37:13

a lot of things that happen in that short

37:15

amount of time. And, and that was going on

37:17

when I was an adult. So I say that

37:20

I couldn't imagine being a child in the

37:22

situation that some of these Nickelodeon stars were

37:24

in, that they truly can't

37:27

advocate for themselves and,

37:30

and not that they would even know how to

37:32

advocate for themselves. Right? Like how,

37:34

how do you even know what to ask for and,

37:37

and what is needed? And you're exactly right

37:39

about these executives, TV execs, they're worried about

37:41

one thing. They're worried about their network and

37:43

they're worried about the bottom dollar. And

37:46

you know what? That's so I get that, right? Like

37:48

I don't want to say that that's okay, but you

37:52

can be worried about the network and get

37:54

what you want. And you

37:56

can also not be a fucking slime ball, right?

37:59

Like there's a place. where these things

38:01

can simultaneously coexist. You

38:04

can worry about your worry about the

38:06

bottom dollar while also still worrying about

38:08

your cast and your crew. And

38:11

being a good fucking human. Why? Why does it

38:13

have to be one or

38:16

the other? Why can it? Why can't it be

38:18

all of the above? Like have a good show.

38:20

But also because here's the thing, there's this model

38:22

that a friend of mine, I've known

38:24

him for 10 years, right? He used to work for

38:26

this business. I'm pretty sure I've talked about it before

38:28

where he worked

38:30

for this company that made sure all of

38:32

the employees were really, really happy at their

38:34

jobs, right? Like, they had a

38:37

gym at the offices, so that

38:39

if you have to get to work a little bit earlier to

38:41

go work out, they

38:43

treated all

38:46

of their employees really well, good

38:48

benefits, they matched prices

38:50

for people's children to go to daycare. Because if

38:52

you have to come to work and you have

38:54

to have daycare, like they'll match a certain percentage

38:56

of the daycare cost. There was a

38:58

lot of things that they did to help support

39:01

the employees to make them want to come to work every

39:03

day and also so they don't have to go home and

39:05

like, unpack all of like the

39:07

work stress and stuff and bring that home with them,

39:09

right? And so like, I understand that all things can

39:11

work that way. It's this is life, life is not

39:13

fair, I get that. But at the point that these

39:16

are children, we have to be careful, right? Like, why?

39:19

And I'm not saying it didn't happen with Disney,

39:21

but what was Disney's model? Like, I would be

39:23

curious to hear from people like Miley Cyrus, or,

39:25

you know, people that were on Disney

39:28

versus Nickelodeon, did they have the same where

39:30

they like exploit because I don't remember seeing

39:32

those types of things on Disney. I

39:34

mean, I don't want to sound ignorant

39:37

when I say this, but I think

39:39

that Disney was so far ahead

39:43

from Nickelodeon. I

39:45

was a Nickelodeon watcher over over

39:47

Disney. Yeah. I

39:49

just think as a company, and

39:51

as a brand, then that

39:54

Disney probably was so far

39:56

ahead of anything that Nickelodeon

39:58

was doing. I'm I'm sure

40:00

they crossed their T's and dotted

40:02

their I's very differently than the

40:05

way Nickelodeon did. That's

40:07

just a speculation. Maybe

40:09

there'll be a documentary that comes out about Disney.

40:12

I don't know. I don't think there will

40:14

be. You don't think so? No.

40:16

I think if Disney did

40:19

any sort of things like this, I think

40:21

it will always remain skeletons in the closet.

40:24

Why do you say that? I think

40:26

Disney is a whole other ballgame,

40:29

ball field. I

40:32

don't know. I just I don't see anyone

40:34

from Disney like speaking up and speaking out

40:36

the way that people from Nickelodeon did. I

40:38

just don't I don't know why. I

40:41

will tell you this one time and again,

40:43

I can't imagine being a child on TV because

40:45

I wasn't I was an adult

40:47

by the time I was on TV. But

40:50

I had this one situation to where I

40:52

needed medical attention and I

40:54

was denied medical attention

40:56

and told to put my head between

40:59

my legs and drink water and that I was just

41:02

having a panic attack. And I was diagnosed

41:04

with a panic attack by a producer. So

41:07

if that happened to you as an adult and

41:09

you were a very young adult. Wow.

41:12

That's insane. Like imagine what

41:14

kids have been. That's

41:16

why I'm saying I believe absolutely

41:18

there is no doubt in my

41:20

mind that this stuff actually happened

41:23

because I know the small little things

41:25

that happened in a small amount of

41:27

time that I was on TV. It

41:30

just makes me sad because I feel like

41:32

when you attach your name to something like this,

41:35

it makes me

41:37

sad because what if this blacklist

41:39

them from getting other jobs like

41:41

right like almost like

41:43

a whistle. But

41:45

if anyone else

41:48

going to hire them for speaking their truth and

41:50

what happened to them as a child, will anyone

41:52

else hire any of these people that were on

41:54

quiet onset and why didn't if

41:56

Ariana Grande obviously I'm not judging her. she

41:59

has to make the decisions that are best

42:01

for her. I'm just asking, why

42:03

couldn't she participate in the documentary as

42:06

well? I

42:08

mean, I don't know

42:10

and I don't wanna necessarily speculate,

42:12

but everybody's healing journey looks very

42:14

different and maybe some people were

42:17

more ready than others and

42:19

maybe she's speaking to what she's comfortable with

42:22

right now and I think that a lot of people

42:24

would say that same thing of what you just said,

42:26

but we have to be mindful that, if

42:28

someone's been through trauma, you can't decide

42:30

when they're going to be

42:33

comfortable enough to share all the intricate

42:35

details of that trauma and so that

42:37

could very well be why she didn't

42:39

or I mean, I don't know,

42:41

when was this filmed? Like she could have been on

42:43

tour, who knows? Yeah, I

42:46

don't know. I hope that anyone who was

42:48

quite on set that

42:51

wants to continue to pursue acting and

42:54

things like that, I hope that they don't get blacklisted

42:56

because they did that. I

42:59

agree and that is always the risk that

43:01

you run, but that's

43:04

not just TV, that's regular

43:06

jobs too. I mean, that

43:09

is a risk that

43:11

you're taking that oh shit, I'm gonna go

43:13

out here and say the actual truth for

43:15

what it is and

43:18

the thoughts that you could

43:20

literally just remove yourself from

43:22

an entire industry of everything that you

43:24

know and all you know, because

43:27

you told the truth. That fucking

43:29

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43:32

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46:13

I saw on the daily mail. I was scrolling

46:15

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46:18

and groom slammed over tacky request

46:20

on wedding invitations. So

46:23

embarrassing. An engaged

46:25

couple have sparked outrage after including a

46:27

tacky detail on their wedding invitation. The

46:30

bride to be and her fiance have been

46:32

together for six years, have a three-year-old and

46:34

already established a life together before marriage. So

46:36

instead of wedding gifts, the couple preferred a

46:39

money fund for their honeymoon. We

46:42

just skipped around with the steps and left getting

46:44

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46:46

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46:48

a draft of the invite. The request read, in

46:51

lieu of traditional wedding gifts, the bride

46:53

and groom have asked for gifts to

46:55

their honeymoon fund. What do you think? I

46:58

don't care. I

47:00

don't care. But most people,

47:03

so you have a bridal shower for

47:05

the home items or whatever it is that

47:07

you have on your registry, towels, whatever. Say

47:09

you're a new couple and you're going to

47:12

live together, whatever. Okay.

47:14

So there are the items.

47:17

And then if you are going to a

47:19

wedding, the proper etiquette would be to pay

47:21

for gifts,

47:23

give the monetary gift of whatever you think

47:25

that your plate was. Right? So you're paying

47:28

for your plate. I

47:30

usually, unless I know

47:33

more, would say like

47:35

a hundred dollars, maybe $200 per person,

47:37

depending on where the venue is, who

47:39

the couple is, et cetera. I

47:42

don't see anything wrong with this. They're non-traditional.

47:44

They already have kids. They already have

47:46

the house. Like who cares? Like if

47:48

that's what they're asking as the gift,

47:50

like weren't you going to

47:52

spend money on them anyway? Why does it

47:54

matter if you get them like an actual

47:57

item or cash versus, you know

47:59

what I mean? been

50:00

in. Why can't we have

50:02

a conversation about this? Like what? It's

50:05

so crazy. Somebody else said it's so easy

50:07

to ask for money though without being tacky.

50:09

You either don't make a registry and all

50:11

people will read between the lines or you

50:13

make a registry that has like two things

50:15

you actually need on it. My

50:17

registry, if this was me, my registry

50:19

would just look like this. Amazon

50:21

gift card, Amazon gift card, Amazon gift

50:23

card, Visa gift card, right?

50:27

I cannot. I would,

50:29

go ahead, write another one. Are

50:32

you the type of person for your

50:37

kids? People

50:39

come to a birthday party.

50:41

Do you prefer for people

50:44

to bring like a gift

50:46

that your kids can immediately play with or

50:49

do you prefer them to

50:51

bring like a Visa, Amazon, I

50:54

don't know, gift card? I

50:56

prefer just to give them cash or

50:59

gift card because I agree. I

51:02

don't know what you want. And I hate

51:04

when people, I used to think that gift

51:06

cards were like thoughtless, but now

51:08

the older I get, the more practical they are.

51:10

I don't want to spend money on something that

51:13

kids don't want, right? Like, and,

51:15

and I don't know how the parents feel or like,

51:17

do you want them to have more

51:19

toys that make noise that they don't even play

51:21

with? Like, I don't know. You know what I

51:23

mean? Well, so I was having

51:25

a conversation with one of my girlfriends the other

51:28

day. And she was like, I struggle

51:30

so much with this because when the

51:32

girls have a birthday party, I want

51:34

them to have something that they can open. And

51:37

I would

51:39

really prefer for myself as their mother to

51:41

get the gift cards because then I can

51:43

kind of decide what it is they're going

51:46

to get or they have an opportunity to

51:48

like pick. Yeah,

51:51

I prefer that, but they also need something

51:53

to open. And my suggestion

51:55

to her was why don't you get

51:57

like the tangible gift that

51:59

they can get? they can open and then just have the

52:01

conversation with your kids like, Hey, most people are

52:04

probably going to be bringing you gift cards and

52:06

that's going to be another day that we get

52:08

to have fun. Because you're going to get to

52:10

spend your gift cards, right? Yeah.

52:14

Yeah. Like I think it's so

52:16

much more practical and I used to be the

52:18

exact same way as you like I don't want

52:20

to be the person that shows up with like

52:22

the envelope with just the gift card

52:24

in it because everybody else is going to have like

52:26

a cute wrapped gift, whatever. But really in all

52:29

reality, most of the time it just

52:31

creates a disaster for the parents because they

52:34

end up having to like return stuff and

52:36

it's just a disaster. So gift card is

52:38

the way to go. Have

52:41

you ever needed to like, did

52:43

you ever get invited to like something that was like last

52:45

minute? Like the whole party was last minute, right? And they're

52:48

like, Oh, I'm going to quickly put this

52:50

together and you should come at this time

52:53

and whatever. And you're like, I don't have time to go get a gift.

52:55

And so you have to go to the dollar store. Wait,

52:57

what? Have you ever done that? No. For

53:00

that, that has happened to me. And

53:03

what am I supposed to do? Yes,

53:05

I had to. What

53:07

did you buy at the dollar store? Puzzles.

53:10

Oh dear God. But I mean, it

53:12

was, I mean, I think it was like a three

53:14

year old, so it was fine, but it sucked because

53:16

I'm like, this was last

53:18

minute. What am I supposed to do? And I felt bad

53:21

showing up empty handed. And of course I went to the

53:23

one fucking dollar store that doesn't have gift cards. Oh

53:25

my God. I

53:29

always invite me to your don't invite my kids

53:31

to your birthday party because because

53:33

he was going to the dollar store. Actually,

53:36

funny story about the dollar store. Jackson and I

53:38

were riding down the road the other day and

53:42

we'd gone to like Chipotle for

53:44

lunch and Target and Dick's Sporting

53:47

Goods, like all these things. And

53:49

by the way, my no technology

53:51

summer is going phenomenal. I highly

53:54

recommend this. Why were you doing that? Do

53:57

what? I didn't know you were doing that. Oh

53:59

yeah. tech free summer. Yeah, like no

54:02

view and Jackson or just Jackson? Oh,

54:04

no, I can't do it. Because

54:07

of like, what would I do

54:09

not being on my phone or not being on

54:11

my computer? Like I can't research like random shit.

54:14

Just applying to him. Okay. Um,

54:17

I wish that was the case. If I could

54:19

have a completely tech free summer and just like

54:21

go off the map and be

54:23

a nomad, like that would be absolutely

54:25

wonderful. Um, but he's, he's

54:27

had no phone since school got out, no

54:30

tablet since school got out. And the conversations

54:32

that I've been able to have with him

54:34

would have never happened had he had his

54:36

home because he'll just be riding down the

54:39

road on the phone, whatever. So

54:41

pull in to get gas the other day when we're

54:44

out running errands. And he's like, Hey, mom, did you

54:46

know that, um, dollar store is

54:48

closing like 1000 stores across the

54:50

United States because they're probably

54:52

going to go bankrupt because Amazon is just going to take

54:54

us all out. We should all be on the lookout. I

54:58

don't know if that's true. What, what dollar store

55:00

are we talking about? Because they put up dollar

55:02

generals around here every fucking mile. So within my

55:05

dollar store, our dollar

55:08

general and dollar tree are

55:10

two different companies. They're not going out of

55:12

business. We have them everywhere. We have them

55:15

everywhere. Both of them. Dollar general. We let

55:17

go. Dollar general was

55:19

in trouble for scamming people too,

55:21

because they would be actually taking

55:23

money. I'm pretty sure it was dollar. I think

55:25

it was dollar general, um, dollar

55:27

tree, dollar tree and dollar general. They're all over the

55:30

place over here. Let me look up. Okay. Dollar tree.

55:32

Family dollar and dollar tree will close

55:35

literally CNN family dollar and dollar tree

55:37

will close 1000

55:39

stores. So he wasn't lying to

55:41

me. Well, I have, I could

55:43

walk to dollar family dollar. It

55:46

says years of mismanagement and poor conditions

55:48

in stores have hurt family dollars brand.

55:50

The family dollar, which is owned by

55:52

dollar tree was recently fined more than

55:54

$40 million for rat infestation at a

55:57

warehouse that forced hundreds of stores to

55:59

temporarily close. Decade high

56:01

inflation has hit shoppers hard

56:03

and general consumer pullback has

56:05

impacted Family Dollar customers and

56:08

the chain's profits. So

56:10

he's not lying. Oh, I

56:12

didn't think he was lying. I just think that it's

56:15

possible that they're

56:18

doing that and they're still not really going to because

56:20

they're everywhere. I mean, they're putting a new one up

56:22

right by my house. I don't

56:24

understand. What are you with the

56:26

Dollar General like buying? I

56:29

guess puzzles for birthday parties. I don't know. But

56:32

the one right here, the family

56:34

dollar, I could walk there and they

56:36

have a full grocery aisle. They

56:39

have milk, eggs. What? Yeah.

56:42

Do you get stuff there? Yes. I

56:45

have never heard of such.

56:47

I didn't know that they carried shit like that. Oh my

56:49

God. They carry name brand everything. They have

56:51

like, I can go down there

56:53

and go grab fucking hamburger helper. I can go

56:56

get milk. It's a full

56:58

store. They have snacks, especially if

57:00

we randomly have a pool day

57:02

where maybe the neighbors come

57:04

over and stuff like that. We'll run

57:06

down to the store, get all the chips,

57:08

all the snacks. They have coffee creamer. They

57:11

have all the things. They have

57:13

diapers. They have everything. What?

57:15

Yeah. I think

57:17

that I just go to the Dollar Tree. I

57:19

feel like- Actually, when we get off

57:21

this recording at some point today, I'm going to go,

57:24

I'll take a video at my family dollar. Okay,

57:26

please do. I

57:28

need to know if everybody else shops at family

57:30

dollar like this, like Kale, because I just, I

57:33

don't understand. Yeah. Okay.

57:36

Yeah, people would have to. I mean,

57:38

if they've got milk and shit, that stuff goes

57:40

bad pretty quickly. No, they sell out all the

57:43

time, like all the fucking time. I have to

57:45

go in there and there's no,

57:47

because I live in a weird town,

57:49

so it's really small and it's on

57:51

the outskirts of bigger towns. Yeah.

57:54

That's the only store

57:56

besides the country store, but the country store is like

57:58

a gas station. So you can

58:00

get like food in there, like fresh made

58:02

goods or whatever. But like this one is

58:04

like the only like convenience store outside of

58:06

the dollar general, the dollar general is a

58:09

little bit further, but family dollar, I could

58:11

walk there right now. Are you going

58:13

to? I'm going to take a video for

58:15

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58:17

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58:19

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58:21

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to ask you about this because I was on the

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Facebook page. And just I

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don't know, I couldn't sleep. So I was

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like randomly commenting back to to everyone about

1:02:23

shit that they probably don't care about. But

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someone was like you and Kale need to do

1:02:28

a mom swap or whatever. And we've

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been talking about this for years. Like ma'am,

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number one, I said I

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can't drive a suburban. So her kids are

1:02:37

immediately like your safety is at risk. That's

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number one. Number two, you have

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fucking seven kids. You're

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obviously gonna win the swap because I

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only have one. Well, so

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we can swap the oldest three or

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four for Jackson. That's still

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three more than what I'm swapping.

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Okay, we can swap Lux

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for Jackson and it's still more than Jackson.

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So I was

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just like, what would this actually, I think

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it's a really funny idea. And I think it

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would be actually fantastic

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for everybody to consume.

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No, because I would want

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you to be so type A personality

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with them. Like I would need

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you to literally be anal,

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sterile, like I

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need you to be type A so hard

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with them so that they can understand how

1:03:27

it needs to be because I need help. Do

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you want to be like that? Or

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I do because I do feel like

1:03:37

there would be slightly less chaos and

1:03:39

back talking in my house. Oh,

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yeah, see, we don't do the we

1:03:44

don't do the back talking. Yeah.

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So I just feel like if someone was

1:03:48

to like, get them in line

1:03:50

real quick, and they would be like, Oh, wow, like,

1:03:53

we need to do better. Okay, we need

1:03:55

to do some like role playing. Okay.

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If Lux started coming at me the

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way he comes at you, I would

1:04:03

say I don't know who the fuck you

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think you're talking to. But last time I

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checked, you're a child and I'm an adult.

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So absolutely the fuck not. And

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you know what he would say because I have said that? What

1:04:14

he was saying, I don't know who

1:04:16

you're talking to. But I'm

1:04:18

an adult and you're a child. Oh,

1:04:21

like mocking you. And then Creed

1:04:23

would laugh and then Creed will go, I don't know

1:04:25

who you're talking to. And they just like, so

1:04:28

you literally want to run away on a

1:04:30

daily basis is what I'm

1:04:32

hearing. I will walk to the family

1:04:35

dollar to get items just

1:04:37

to have a vacation. You know, that whole

1:04:39

shopping cart conversation. Yes, yes.

1:04:42

I'm going to put the shopping cart away

1:04:44

and I'm going to take longer than two

1:04:46

minutes just to be able to have to

1:04:49

gain my composure back to take a few

1:04:51

deep breaths to not hear mom, mom, mom.

1:04:53

The latest thing right now is that Creed

1:04:56

is like, so Creed will be

1:04:58

like, I have these right here. Right? Like

1:05:00

mom, can I have these? And I'll be

1:05:02

like, no, it's 9am. You can't have those.

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Mom, I'm talking to you. I

1:05:06

just, I heard you. I said, no, no,

1:05:09

mom, I'm talking to you. And I'm like,

1:05:12

Creed, I said, no, I

1:05:14

heard you. And I said, no, but

1:05:17

mom, I'm talking to you. Talking

1:05:19

to me about what? Because the conversation's over. Cause

1:05:21

I just fucking told your ass. Now I think

1:05:24

what he means is like, I

1:05:26

think he's trying to convince, like, like mom,

1:05:28

like, I think what he's trying

1:05:31

to do is like, convince me to say yes. But instead

1:05:33

of being like, giving me reasons why

1:05:35

he's telling me he's taught, like, somebody

1:05:38

help me, somebody help me. Somebody

1:05:41

help me. He'll be like, wait, actually smart.

1:05:44

Mom, I'm talking to you. And I'm like, I know I

1:05:46

heard you. I said no, but mom,

1:05:48

I'm talking to you. Maybe he is trying to

1:05:50

get you to say yeah, so that he can

1:05:52

take the fucking gummies and run. No,

1:05:55

he cannot have them because Creed will

1:05:57

eat junk all day long and

1:05:59

never eat. a meal so I can't allow that

1:06:01

like it can't happen. It can't

1:06:03

happen. Jackson used to be like

1:06:06

that and drove me nuts. Thank God he has

1:06:08

come out of some of that quirky eating stuff

1:06:10

now. The child will pretty much eat anything so

1:06:12

there is a light at the end of the

1:06:14

tunnel. Thank God. But those

1:06:17

years that they want to eat

1:06:19

nothing but junk and gummies and

1:06:22

oh I'll eat like a little nibble of

1:06:24

this bar and then I'm gonna eat a

1:06:26

pack of gummies and then I'm

1:06:28

gonna get a chocolate milk. Know

1:06:30

the hell you are. Well Creed will be like

1:06:32

if I eat my whole banana then can I

1:06:34

have the candy? No. The

1:06:36

answer is still no. No because the

1:06:39

banana doesn't like counteract

1:06:41

like the sugar. Yeah

1:06:44

I don't know and summer's the worst

1:06:46

like summer is the worst for that.

1:06:49

Listen are you guys going on any

1:06:51

vacations over the summer? Yeah well so

1:06:53

Isaac we're taking Isaac to Myrtle Beach

1:06:56

the first week of July. Is Isaac? Then

1:07:00

we're going to farm camp,

1:07:02

lacrosse camp, my

1:07:04

hometown for a couple days and then I'm

1:07:06

still working on like Disney logistics. I don't know

1:07:09

if that'll happen or not. Probably wait

1:07:11

till the fall because I don't want to go to I don't want to go in

1:07:13

the summertime. It's just so hot

1:07:15

and I prefer going

1:07:17

during the fall and winter months to

1:07:19

Disney. I just feel like you get

1:07:21

more of an experience. I mean yeah

1:07:23

the rides are all the same but

1:07:25

the experience I just think is better.

1:07:28

Yeah I don't want to worry about like passing

1:07:30

out because we're all overheated and just gross. Just

1:07:33

ugh god I hate to sweat. Okay

1:07:36

on that note foul play. Foul

1:07:39

play. I recently gave birth to

1:07:41

my first son. My pregnancy was relatively smooth

1:07:43

aside from the complete loss of bladder control

1:07:45

and all day morning sickness. Around

1:07:47

the second trimester I was driving home from work approximately

1:07:50

68 miles an hour in the

1:07:52

middle of the lane of the highway.

1:07:55

I suddenly got incredibly nauseous and there was no

1:07:57

way for me to move over as I was

1:07:59

surrounded cars on both sides. I

1:08:01

rolled down the window and tried to let the

1:08:04

cold air calm me down but nothing would stop

1:08:06

what was coming. I started to

1:08:08

projectile vomit all over my dashboard, my steering

1:08:10

wheel, and myself and of course as I

1:08:12

was throwing up I proceeded to pee my

1:08:14

pants as well. My entire body

1:08:17

was just leaking. I was crying, peeing, and

1:08:19

throwing up all at the same time while

1:08:21

managing to continue flying down the highway. As

1:08:23

I pulled into the driveway I called my husband

1:08:26

and asked him to bring out cleaning supplies, leave

1:08:28

them next to my car and just go inside. I

1:08:30

couldn't even stand to have him look at me. I

1:08:33

was completely soaked, immediately cleaned my car, went

1:08:35

inside, stripped down and got in the shower

1:08:37

and from that point on I worked from

1:08:40

home for the rest of my pregnancy. Ma'am,

1:08:42

what a clusterfuck. I feel so bad because

1:08:44

I have also peed and thrown up at

1:08:46

the same time, throwed up. I've also peed

1:08:48

and thrown up at the same time and

1:08:51

just been like crying because

1:08:53

it was absolute chaos. I

1:08:55

could not imagine also driving

1:08:57

at the same time. Yeah,

1:09:00

you know I've never thought

1:09:03

about like possibly throwing up and driving

1:09:05

in the car but what that sounds

1:09:07

like is I need to call Geico

1:09:09

because I'm going to crash.

1:09:12

I've thrown up in the car as like

1:09:14

a passenger but I've never thrown up in

1:09:17

the car as the driver that I can

1:09:19

think of. I kind of pull over and

1:09:21

grown up. How do you like fully clean

1:09:23

up shit like that from a car?

1:09:27

Baking soda maybe? Shampooing the

1:09:29

carpet? I don't think the throw-up smell you'd

1:09:31

have to and I hope it was

1:09:33

in the summertime because if it's the wintertime at least

1:09:35

you can keep your windows down to like try to

1:09:37

like air it out and like clean it out and

1:09:39

stuff but like if you

1:09:41

have cloth seats or it's summertime

1:09:44

or both. But how does one

1:09:46

drive like just pretending like you're

1:09:49

driving okay and then you're like

1:09:52

like how? I would like hit the

1:09:54

gas like I would have been like

1:09:56

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