What I found fascinating as an educator working with families in the middle class was how was exposed to so much hidden emotional damage. All of it was usually well protected behind years of defence mechanisms. The upper-middle-class have a kind of rushed confusion around life, and particularly around their children because they have been burdened with what seems to be the weight of choice.We want the best for our children, we all do, but defining the idea of what is the best is a little harder. At what cost does your version of best come to you? Everything costs you, and the things I saw that allowed for the middle class to pay for schooling or objects that they defined as good enough was time, willpower, and so often a sidelining of working on their own perceptions of themselves and their worldviews.