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If you ever have those days where

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you're just feeling like you're

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really, truly doubting yourself,

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you're doubting what you do.

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You're thinking that you're not enough

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for the people that you're supporting

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and how dare I do this because how am

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I worthy of that then this episode's

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truly going to be for you today. I felt so called to talk

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about imposter syndrome.

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And if you have no idea what

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that is, we're going to deep

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dive into it in today's episode. But the shortest definition

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possible that I can give you for

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imposter syndrome is really just. Doubting yourself and

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thinking you're not enough.

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And thinking that you are such an

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impostor and that you're almost

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like acting versus actually doing.

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And so today we're going to really,

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really deep dive into that because this

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is something that I recently experienced

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and I wanted to share it with you.

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Some of the tips and the strategies that

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I've put into place when I experienced

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my own levels of, imposter syndrome. So today I'm going to cover three.

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Different points. Well, my first part, I'm going

0:47

to share a story with you guys.

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The very beginning of the episode,

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about a very recent hire that I made

0:53

that essentially was brought up a lot

0:53

of imposter syndrome for me and made

0:57

me feel like I wasn't worthy or like,

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who am I to hire this person and XYZ.

1:02

So you guys are going to learn about

1:02

that, my recent experience, but I'm

1:05

going to be covering how imposter

1:05

syndrome really never goes away, but

1:09

I'm going to be sharing the different

1:09

levels that you're going to go through

1:11

as you progress through the business. I'm also going to share some tactics

1:13

of how to celebrate some of your wins.

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So that way, when you have that imposter syndrome, you can always come back to earth.

1:19

And then lastly, I'm going to be

1:19

talking about community will really

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help you through your imposter syndrome. so without further ado

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enjoy today's episode

2:23

So I know that one of the biggest and

2:23

toughest conversations, I feel like a

2:27

lot of us have mostly with ourselves,

2:27

but also when we start to talk to other

2:30

people about it is imposter syndrome.

2:33

And if you have no idea what imposter

2:33

syndrome is, that's totally okay.

2:36

You probably do it just, you might

2:36

have a different terminology for it.

2:39

So essentially the best way that I could

2:39

describe imposter syndrome means that

2:42

like, Your doing something that's so

2:42

uncomfortable and that sometimes when

2:47

you're doing it, It makes you feel like

2:47

you are doubting yourself and thinking

2:51

that like, oh my gosh, am I smart enough? Can I do it?

2:54

So on and so forth. So I'll give you a really great example

2:55

of this Imposter syndrome comes up a lot,

2:58

especially at the new stages in business. It never goes away.

3:00

Guys, we're going to be talking

3:00

about that today, about how imposter

3:02

syndrome truly never goes away. You just experienced

3:04

different levels of it. And so like, I'll just

3:06

give you a great example. Cause I know anybody who's literally

3:08

a bookkeeper accountant has at

3:11

least at one point been through

3:11

the beginner stage or maybe you're

3:13

at the current beacon or stage. But one great example of this is

3:15

when we first start our business

3:19

and we first start do accounting. Do a bookkeeping.

3:21

Do any. I didn't even have that kind

3:22

of work for our clients. We tend to doubt ourselves.

3:26

So then, like for example, you

3:26

might price yourself lower because

3:29

you're like, I'm not good enough. I'm not worthy enough.

3:32

I'm not smart enough. Who am I to teach these people who am

3:33

I to guide this client who might've

3:36

sit there and tell them how to,

3:36

you know, spend their money and how

3:39

to make money in their business. When I haven't yet made money.

3:41

That's imposter syndrome. And so, like I said,

3:43

sometimes a lot of people. You know, have different

3:45

terminology set to it. I'm trying to do my best to give

3:47

you like, not necessarily a textbook

3:50

description of imposter syndrome,

3:50

but I know we've all felt it.

3:53

And if you've never felt it, then maybe

3:53

you're just not being super honest

3:56

with yourself, but honestly, I could

3:56

tell you, I'm a pretty confident person

4:00

and I've been in business since 2015.

4:03

I now have three different businesses. I've been doing this for quite some time.

4:06

And imposter syndrome just keeps coming up. And I don't think that it's something

4:09

that truly will ever go away.

4:11

And the more business owners that

4:11

I've talked to that had Been in

4:14

business for quite some time. Also feel the same where they tell me

4:16

like, Alyssa, it truly never goes away.

4:20

And so I really just wanted to

4:20

just reserve this episode for.

4:23

All things, imposter syndrome, how

4:23

to really handle it at the different

4:26

levels of business, what to expect. From handling your imposter syndrome,

4:28

what you can expect to kind of come

4:32

up for you as you journey through your

4:32

business and this entrepreneurship

4:36

and, you know, doing what you're doing. Like I said, you might be at the beginning

4:38

stages, but you also might be a listener.

4:41

Who's been doing this for like 13 years. And you still experience

4:43

it and that's okay.

4:46

And so I really just want to deep dive

4:46

into all things imposter syndrome today.

4:50

And I think this really resonated

4:50

with me too, because I've been

4:52

feeling my own version of this. And I'll kind of give you

4:54

guys an example of why. So I recently came to the conclusion.

4:59

I was at like a retreat in Scottsdale

4:59

and it was for my bookkeeping firm.

5:03

And I'm a part of like this Women's group

5:03

and they're so amazing and so incredible.

5:08

Well, a couple of weeks prior

5:08

to that, I did a lot of thinking

5:11

to get ready for this retreat. So that way I can go and attend and

5:12

really bring forward any strategies

5:15

that I really wanted to talk through. And through that, like search of like,

5:17

what's really going on in the business.

5:20

What do I really need support with? I found that it really

5:22

wasn't the business. Like, I am very grateful to say

5:24

that my business is at a point

5:28

where it's super systematized. We've got the people we are, we got

5:30

amazing clients, amazing students, like.

5:34

I am so beyond blessed, but I will say

5:34

that that also came with a lot of work.

5:37

I did have to put in a lot of work

5:37

to build the business to the point

5:40

where I can walk away for vacation.

5:42

I can go do these things right. But the reason why I wanted to talk

5:44

about this story is because during

5:47

this thought process, I realized

5:47

it wasn't about the business.

5:50

It was actually about me. And so through trying to figure out

5:52

what my biggest core problem was.

5:56

I recognized. I need help.

5:58

Like I legitimately as a

5:58

human being need support.

6:01

And what I mean by that is I find

6:01

that like, Even though I might not

6:06

technically work a lot of hours. I still find my mind being

6:09

preoccupied by the business.

6:12

A lot of times in my life. That sometimes my mortgage

6:14

payment gets missed.

6:16

Like I'm not proud of that. I just literally bought my first house.

6:19

Like I now have it set on auto

6:19

pay, so don't come after me.

6:22

Cause like I totally did that. It's just sometimes like, even those

6:23

things, like going out of my way to set

6:26

things on auto pay or like to reach out

6:26

and like the other day I got a water

6:29

bill because they don't do online. Bill pay.

6:32

And I have to go in like, remember

6:32

to go pay the bill, right.

6:35

Little things like that. Even like neglecting my body and not

6:36

taking care of myself because I don't

6:39

have time to think about my nutrition.

6:42

I don't have time to think

6:42

about my meal plans and what

6:44

that structure would look like. Right. And then even things like high level

6:46

in the business, I don't even desire

6:49

anymore to ever check my email. I also am at a point in my

6:51

business where I'll share some

6:54

of my goals and stuff, because I

6:54

know this episode will kind of go.

6:58

Out of nowhere, it just kind of takes a turn and that's usually how my episodes go.

7:02

But another big goal of mine is

7:02

at one year from now, because I

7:05

just hired a new role, which we'll

7:05

talk about in just a second of why

7:07

this imposter syndrome came up. My new goal is at one year from now.

7:10

I want to be fully worked out of my Asana.

7:13

And what I mean is my team

7:13

will still be using it.

7:15

They'll still be managing their

7:15

tasks in it, managing the client,

7:18

work, managing my student, work,

7:18

everything that they need to do.

7:21

But as a business owner, I would

7:21

be fully removed from the company

7:24

and literally never have to

7:24

look at my Assata ever again.

7:27

And so like for you, it's a

7:27

different project management system.

7:29

That's okay. But for me, it's a sauna. And then my other goal

7:31

is six months from now. After I hired this person, which this new

7:33

person I'm talking about in just a second.

7:36

Was hired on May 15th, six

7:36

months from their hire date.

7:39

My new goal also is to be fully removed

7:39

from slack and all email communication.

7:44

And so some people are like, oh my God, Alyssa, you're so crazy. I'm like, I am crazy

7:46

because I have big goals. And like, I truly desire to be

7:47

a shareholder of my own company.

7:51

And it doesn't mean that I won't be

7:51

involved in like the high level decisions.

7:54

It just means like, I want to go to

7:54

other parts of my life right now,

7:58

I'm really focused on them and like

7:58

I've neglected my body and my health.

8:01

And so it's really important to me. So anyways, the reason why I

8:03

say these things is because I

8:06

just want to communicate the

8:06

imposter syndrome that I felt.

8:09

So during this time, when I realized

8:09

that I need more support, AKA, I'm

8:13

calling them my chief Alyssa Wrangler. Like I need someone to legit.

8:17

Go through all my emails, go through

8:17

any information that's being put at me.

8:21

Like whether that's right now, we're

8:21

going through a rebrand for my firm.

8:23

Like the designer and the copywriter,

8:23

and then like the videographer and

8:27

then this and the podcast producer,

8:27

everybody is asking me questions.

8:30

And I'm just exhausted. I'm overwhelmed. I just don't want to do it anymore.

8:34

And so I want someone to be like the front

8:34

of the line, where everybody communicates

8:39

with this person, and then they only

8:39

filter out what I actually need to answer.

8:44

And so my whole goal with this role

8:44

was like to get them on a call.

8:48

You know, Monday through Friday,

8:48

like a 15 to 20 minute standup

8:50

meeting daily where like, they

8:50

just blabber off everything to me.

8:54

And I just like tell them all the

8:54

answers or get them all the things.

8:57

And then essentially they go do all

8:57

the things, but they would already

9:00

have filtered things down to me based

9:00

off certain rules and parameters.

9:04

So anyways, I started painting

9:04

this picture of this new person.

9:07

And I had talked to a couple of my coaches. I ended up going to Scottsdale and

9:08

going to this retreat during that

9:11

retreat, I found that a lot of themes

9:11

of the women that were there because

9:14

this group is just amazing business

9:14

owners is a lot of them were like,

9:18

yeah, I have like a personal assistant

9:18

and a high level executive assistant.

9:22

Someone who supports me directly

9:22

and does not serve our clients

9:25

does not serve students. No one else. It's literally literally hire for them.

9:28

And I was like, that's exactly what I need. Like, I need someone that, because every

9:30

role I've ever hired for guys, like

9:34

you guys have all probably at one point

9:34

interacted or heard about me, talk about.

9:37

By team members, whether they're the bookkeepers. Whether there are, student support

9:39

here at workflow queen, like you've

9:42

probably interacted with my team

9:42

at some point or heard about them.

9:46

Every single one of those people have

9:46

been hired for you guys or for my

9:50

clients to serve each other, to serve

9:50

you, to serve clients, to answer your

9:55

emails, to answer your billing questions. But what about me?

9:58

What about me as the business owner. Right. And so that clicked in my mind as soon

10:00

as that conversation had happened.

10:04

So then I was gung ho I'm not even telling

10:04

you guys, it was not even like 20 days

10:08

of this process of, from thoughts from

10:08

ideation to literally hiring this person.

10:13

Because I was like, I can't do this. I had the idea, but didn't know

10:14

like what that would look like.

10:16

Then I went a week later to

10:16

Scottsdale in Scottsdale.

10:19

When I got back, when I returned home

10:19

is when I put out the job description,

10:22

which at one point I shared on my

10:22

Instagram story at workflow queen.

10:25

So I really recommend that you

10:25

follow me at workflow queen on.

10:28

Instagram, because over there I share

10:28

a lot of like the behind the scenes.

10:30

I know. I haven't really been. Present lately on my stories.

10:34

And trust me, that's going to change

10:34

now that I have this new person.

10:37

So anyways, I put out the job

10:37

description and put out everything.

10:40

During that process, imposter

10:40

syndrome hit me so hard.

10:44

In that process. I remember being in Scottsdale with my

10:45

coach and she's from Thailand or she's

10:49

from Canada, but she lives in Thailand

10:49

and I offered to take her to the airport

10:52

because I had driven cause my dog

10:52

said, or like bailed on me last minute.

10:55

So I ended up having to drive to Scottsdale with my dog for this like retreat.

10:58

And so anyways, I dropped

10:58

off my coach at the airport.

11:01

In oh my gosh. Where were we? Scottsdale? And on the way there, I just started

11:03

crying and she's like, what's going on?

11:06

And I was like, honestly, like, I

11:06

feel like I'm not worthy of this new

11:10

role of someone serving me directly.

11:12

I feel like it's weird because

11:12

they're not going to be generating

11:15

revenue for the company. So like, it was just like this new

11:16

imposter syndrome of like, will I

11:20

be able to hire them effectively? Am I worthy of this you know, who am I

11:22

to have someone help me pay my bills?

11:27

Like, that's going to sound bougie to people. Like, it's going to sound so weird that

11:29

like, Alyssa, you don't even have kids.

11:31

And like, you need a personal assistant. Like, yeah, I do.

11:33

Like, you know what I mean? And imposter syndrome hit me so

11:35

hard to the point where like,

11:38

I almost didn't hire this role. And so that's kind of why I wanted to

11:41

tell this story because I wanted to share

11:44

with you guys that I still experience it. And this literally just happened

11:46

like probably not even a month ago.

11:49

So during that conversation, she was

11:49

like, Alyssa, you deserve this because

11:52

if you give yourself this space, To

11:52

be freed of these people, talking to

11:57

you or messages and this and that,

11:57

the things that are weighing you down

12:00

and just have someone that helps you

12:00

prioritize yourself every day and helps

12:04

you take care of yourself and your body. You're only going to do

12:06

better for the business. And I was like, you're so right.

12:09

And so like in that moment, I had to

12:09

deal with my own imposter syndrome.

12:12

And one of my key points today

12:12

to talk about is getting support.

12:16

And I'm grateful that my

12:16

coach walked me through it.

12:18

I'm grateful for these moments.

12:20

Like I'm telling you even through

12:20

the job description, I was like,

12:23

who might've like even teach my

12:23

students here at breakthrough.

12:26

Like my group coaching program, like how,

12:26

like, who am I to teach him how to hire

12:30

people, but like yet I do it all the time. Like it just blows my mind like that.

12:33

I still deal with this all the time. So it really never truly goes away.

12:36

It's just different forms

12:36

and different levels of it.

12:38

Right. So all to say, I ended up hiring

12:39

this girl, like, so I ended up going

12:42

and posting this job on indeed. We had like over 300 applicants,

12:44

only 10 of them literally.

12:47

Follow the instructions, which is why

12:47

I have such a crazy filtering system,

12:50

which by the way, if you want to learn

12:50

how I hire people and how I'm able

12:53

to find the most dream team members

12:53

you can come learn how to do that.

12:57

In my group coaching program,

12:57

breakthrough, I walk you through

13:00

the job description, the secret

13:00

things that I put inside of our job

13:03

description to weed people out our

13:03

interview questions, our hiring process.

13:07

Down to the org chart that you

13:07

have doing background checks,

13:10

like everything you could possibly

13:10

imagine about hiring someone.

13:12

Plus it's only one module

13:12

there's also systems offers.

13:15

mindset and also removing

13:15

yourself from the day-to-day.

13:18

And so if you want to learn

13:18

that, feel free to go pop in.

13:20

I'll drop the link below. So the reason I kind of say that

13:22

is because when I put out the

13:24

job description, she was amazing.

13:26

I loved her. I had three candidates and funny

13:27

enough, one was named Brooke.

13:30

Alyssa and Allie, and I have this thing. If you guys have been here for quite

13:32

some time, then you know that I've had

13:34

an employee named Alyssa before and like

13:34

my best friend's name is Brooke Swan.

13:38

So like, it's just so weird. Like the universe always tends to bring

13:40

me people with the same name as my friend.

13:43

It's super interesting. So I interviewed an Allie, Alyssa and

13:44

a Brooke and of all three of them.

13:48

It would Allie and Brooke came

13:48

down to be the two that I was

13:51

like, Ooh, really torn between. And in my mind, I was like, who

13:53

might've hired this person, even

13:56

through the whole damn process. Like it was still doubting myself and

13:57

doubting, like, what if things go wrong?

14:01

What if this happens? What if I can't afford to pay him

14:02

in a year from now, what's going

14:05

to happen so on and so forth. So I ended up offering this job to this.

14:08

To Brooke. So there was something about her.

14:11

She was just, I could

14:11

tell she was going to be.

14:14

Amazing. And so I ended up having a really

14:15

good friend of mine who like is a

14:18

head VP at this big e-commerce brand. I had her interview, this girl.

14:23

So Brooke. And I had her interview her

14:24

and she was like gut checked.

14:26

Yes. Like she's a 1000%.

14:28

And I was like saying like, she's

14:28

really good at interviewing people.

14:31

And so I ended up extending the job to her. She it's literally been only one

14:33

week that she's been with me.

14:36

And this week I literally leave this morning at about 40 minutes to Austin, Texas.

14:39

I'm about to fly out and she's going

14:39

to be having her first solo week.

14:43

So it's almost a week to, she's going to be solo. She is going through our internal training

14:45

program, but she's also getting some

14:47

things ready in the background, but like

14:47

I keep coming with things coming up, like.

14:52

Who am I to have this person

14:52

like supporting me right.

14:55

And I just keep having to come back

14:55

down to earth to be like, you know what?

14:58

I deserve this I've worked really hard. I've been in business since 2015.

15:02

Three different businesses. I'm exhausted.

15:04

Like I genuinely love what I do.

15:07

But I need brain space in order

15:07

to better serve my students

15:11

to better serve my clients. To better serve my

15:12

friends and even myself.

15:14

Right. And so like the best way I could do that

15:15

is to like, have someone to support me.

15:19

But I just wanted to share with

15:19

you guys that story before we

15:22

kind of deep dive, I don't know

15:22

if that resonates with you guys.

15:24

This could be pertaining to any role. It could be like a bookkeeper of

15:26

finally letting go and saying,

15:28

you know, who am I to deserve that

15:28

bookkeeper, whatever that looks like.

15:31

And if you want to talk it

15:31

through, share your story.

15:33

I love when you guys send me

15:33

emails, sharing your stories.

15:36

I get the best emails from you guys. Like all of you.

15:39

So you can email us at support at workflow. We not calm.

15:41

Just share your story. I do actually read every

15:42

single one of those. My team member actually slacks me

15:44

and lets me know that they're ready

15:46

for me to review and or Instagram.

15:49

I love hearing about your stories and

15:49

how these things resonate with you.

15:52

So I kind of want to deep dive about

15:52

the first point, cause I'm gonna

15:55

cover three different points today. The first one is it

15:56

never really goes away. The imposter syndrome, you just

15:58

experience new levels of it.

16:01

The second one is celebrating wins and

16:01

I'm going to talk about ways to do that.

16:05

And the last thing is surrounding

16:05

yourself with others that are going

16:07

through the same thing as you. So the first one is it

16:09

never really goes away. So I think a lot of us, like, we

16:11

really hope that like, oh my God, I

16:14

can't wait till I get to a point in

16:14

my business where I'm always confident

16:17

and like never have imposter syndrome. Joan, I'm never having to deal with it.

17:27

I can tell you from experience, it never goes away. And all the people I've met in

17:29

business who are also at every

17:32

stage, it never goes away. And I can tell you, like, you might

17:34

get to a point where, like, for

17:38

example, give you a great example. I used to be so nervous recording

17:39

these podcasts episodes because

17:42

I had imposter syndrome. Who am I to talk to all these people,

17:43

listening to me on this podcast?

17:47

Who am I like to be able to teach

17:47

these things or to have these

17:50

conversations or interview these

17:50

amazing, incredible guests, right?

17:54

I I'm so used to it. I've been doing it for so long now.

17:56

It's almost been a year

17:56

of doing the podcast.

18:00

They're like, I don't have imposter

18:00

syndrome about that anymore.

18:03

But what I do have imposter syndrome about

18:03

is sometimes when we bring on some crazy,

18:07

incredible guests that like intimidate

18:07

me, the imposter syndrome comes back.

18:11

Or if we change things within

18:11

the, you know, what, what I'm

18:15

talking about here, like I will go

18:15

through my own imposter syndrome.

18:18

So it never really goes away. It just like takes on different

18:19

forms and that's okay.

18:22

As, new forms of imposter syndrome come

18:22

up, it just means that you're growing.

18:26

Like you will get to a point like

18:26

another great example is, oh my.

18:28

My God, I used to hate being

18:28

on like stories on video.

18:31

I used to hate presenting. Now I do it so easily because like

18:33

it's, I've been doing it since I started

18:38

workflow queen like four years ago. That now presenting and talking is

18:40

just so natural to me that I no longer.

18:45

Get as nervous. However, when I'm speaking to a really

18:47

large group, or now when I'm speaking

18:50

in person, Imposter syndrome creeps up.

18:53

Who might it be speaking in

18:53

front of these people live?

18:55

But man, you put me on a webinar online, or if you put me on, on some online session.

19:00

And I'm teaching about something. I will kill it and I

19:01

loved every minute of it.

19:03

So like, you'll get over it. It's just uncomfortable in that moment.

19:07

And so just know that whatever you're

19:07

experiencing and I'd love for you to

19:10

sit down and say, what things are coming

19:10

up for you that are imposter syndrome?

19:13

Maybe write it down, maybe

19:13

journal it, or maybe think it out.

19:16

Like I said, come to Instagram, let me

19:16

know it, come email me and just let me

19:19

know what is it that you're experiencing? Because a lot of the

19:21

times there's solutions.

19:23

There's common solutions that you can. Implement that will change this,

19:25

that can alleviate the pain of that

19:30

imposter syndrome or prove that

19:30

you're fine or prove that you're okay.

19:35

That you will get through it. Right. And so I would love for you to

19:36

identify one of those things.

19:39

If you have any things that maybe

19:39

it's, who might've run payroll for

19:42

my clients or sales tax, like I

19:42

don't even know have it for myself.

19:46

So what if I mess it up? I don't know what it is, but for you

19:47

just think through that, The second

19:50

piece is celebrating your wins. So the best way that I get through

19:51

my imposter syndrome guys is

19:55

literally taking a step back and

19:55

saying, what have I accomplished?

19:58

And so I have something, what I call my win wall. And you might've heard of this concept

20:00

that I've taught, like I've talked about

20:03

many times here, or if you're in one of

20:03

my programs, I share it all the time.

20:06

My win wall essentially like a sticky note. Every time something happens in

20:08

the business and they don't have to be big wins people every time

20:10

something in the business happens.

20:13

That is some sort of significance. I write it down on a sticky

20:15

note and I put it on my wall.

20:18

Every once in a while I have a really **** day. We all do it sucks.

20:21

I look at my win wall. And sometimes I read through my

20:22

testimonials from students and clients.

20:26

And say this was all worth it. Look at all the things I've accomplished.

20:29

So I'll give you a great example of that. my very first podcast, episode interview

20:30

that I've ever been on with anybody once.

20:34

I think it was bookkeeper launch. I wrote it on a sticky note.

20:37

Like now I have like over like 75

20:37

podcasts interviews I've been on.

20:41

It's just so crazy. But at that time it was such a massive

20:42

win and it's still a massive one.

20:46

Things like speaking on my

20:46

very first stage, even though

20:48

I was freaking terrified. Like I think I blacked out like, When

20:49

I was like, speaking on stage, on BKX

20:54

like, I'm actually scared of in my

20:54

imposter syndrome for me, the biggest

20:58

one is legit speaking in a public.

21:00

Like I want to start doing

21:00

Toastmasters, but I have a solution

21:03

like going to Toastmasters,

21:03

getting more comfortable with it.

21:05

Talking into smaller audience and

21:05

then getting bigger and bigger.

21:08

As far as like how big the audience

21:08

was, because I was really overwhelmed

21:11

and whatnot, so that when, while

21:11

really helps me sometimes when it's

21:15

hitting certain revenues, let's just

21:15

say that you hit your first 10 K month.

21:17

Perfect. Write it on the wall. Those win walls go a really long way.

21:21

And it helps you to remember that my

21:21

imposter syndrome is just temporary.

21:25

And then the last one that I wanted to

21:25

cover was surround yourself with others

21:27

going through the same thing as you. So. This is so key.

21:31

Like I said, I leaned on my coach when

21:31

I was taking her to the airport, but

21:34

that wasn't the only person I leaned

21:34

on when I was going through my own.

21:37

Issues with trying to hide

21:37

like my own imposter syndrome

21:39

with hiring this new role. I called my best friend, Brooke Swan.

21:43

I called my friend, Serena. I also called my friend,

21:44

Kylie, my friend, Erin.

21:46

I called everybody. You could possibly think of, because

21:47

I was doubting myself so hard.

21:50

I was reaching out to my mastermind groups. I needed support.

21:54

And so the reason why this is so key is

21:54

because when you're in that moment of

21:59

you're having those doubts and imposter

21:59

syndrome, that little voice in your

22:02

head is going to have you spiraling.

22:05

I know this from experience. And so it just makes me go

22:06

down this rabbit hole that

22:09

I regret every single time. And when I call those people, they

22:11

pull me out of that hole that I've dug.

22:15

And say, Alyssa, you deserve this Alyssa.

22:18

You'll be fine. Or the better yet.

22:20

I have a solution for you. Here's some of the things that, you know,

22:22

I've hired this role before as well.

22:25

Here's a job description. Here's some bullet points

22:26

that I put on there. Here's some, you know, tips of the things

22:28

I wish I would have done right at the

22:31

very beginning when I hired this new role. And so I think it's so key

22:33

to have that support group.

22:36

And so find your people find

22:36

your group that is so supportive

22:40

of you as you experience these

22:40

levels of imposter syndrome.

22:43

If you're listening here and you're a

22:43

breakthrough student, then, you know,

22:46

damn well, we do that really well

22:46

inside a breakthrough that when you guys

22:50

share the, the things that you're going

22:50

through, when you doubt yourself, How

22:54

many of our students and even myself

22:54

and all the other coaches are there

22:58

to support you and pull you out of it.

23:00

I can't tell you how many

23:00

students inside of breakthrough.

23:02

And even my, my program,

23:02

a kickoff with a sauna.

23:05

That I have legit talked

23:05

through some crazy ledges of

23:09

like, I want to burn it down. I'm done when it probably most

23:10

likely was a super simple fix.

23:14

But you're so in it, and you're so

23:14

emotionally attached to everything

23:17

that it's really hard to see

23:17

these things for what it is.

23:20

And that's why getting support

23:20

and getting help is the best

23:23

thing you can do for yourself. It is a very selfless act.

23:27

And it is. The best thing that you

23:28

can do for everyone. Because if I can jump this hurdle

23:30

of imposter syndrome with this new

23:34

person, I'm going to hire, like

23:34

I said, they are going to free

23:36

up my time and my brain space.

23:39

And what that's going to do

23:39

is I'm going to be able to

23:41

do even more for my students. Even more for my clients

23:43

have even more clear offers.

23:46

Our systems are going to be even more legit. I can hire the leadership roles that I

23:49

want on my team to take over the company.

23:53

And that way the vision and the

23:53

mission still drive everything forward.

23:56

I can hire the right coaches. And breakthrough. I can have new lessons that I really,

23:58

I just haven't had the chance to get to

24:02

because my brain is just overwhelmed.

24:05

It's beautiful. What you can do when you can break

24:06

through those imposter syndrome

24:09

phases that you're going through. And I really hope today's episode

24:11

really resonated with you.

24:14

I know that it's a really good kick in

24:14

the ass for me too, as I'm literally

24:18

about to leave for Austin, I'm about

24:18

to take off to the airport literally in

24:21

10 minutes after I get done with this. And I'm going to a business retreat

24:23

with someone who is so amazing.

24:28

It's one of my coaches. And she's actually going to

24:29

become one of my clients as well.

24:32

And she's incredible. She's an amazing human and I get

24:33

to be surrounded by amazing women.

24:36

And so my own form of imposter

24:36

syndrome comes up as well.

24:38

Even when I attend these types of things. And it's okay.

24:41

I know that it's just because it's uncomfortable. I haven't met these women in

24:43

real life yet, but I've talked

24:45

to them a million times online. I'm excited.

24:48

And sometimes my imposter

24:48

syndrome is actually excitement.

24:51

It's not fear. And so I just really encourage

24:52

you to take a step back and

24:54

whatever you're experiencing. To really understand that

24:56

you'll get through that, but

25:00

it will never truly go away. You just experienced different

25:01

levels and different forms of it.

25:04

Don't forget to celebrate your wins. And then don't forget to surround yourself

25:06

with people and the community and the

25:09

support, the best support groups I've ever

25:09

been a part of are the ones I paid for.

25:13

And, you know, damn sure. I talk about all my stuff very often.

25:16

If you ever need support, I definitely

25:16

pride myself in the way that I build my

25:19

communities and build my student groups.

25:22

And so if you ever need support,

25:22

if you ever want to talk through

25:25

what you're experiencing, please

25:25

feel free to reach out to me.

25:27

And I hope you enjoy today's episode.