0:02

the end. Never give up.

0:08

Fighting to the end. Gotta get back

0:12

up. No time for loss. Fighting

0:14

to the end. No matter what

0:17

the cost. Keep moving. Gotta get

0:19

back up. What? Keep moving.

0:23

Gotta get back up. How are

0:26

you? Come on in. I got some space. You

0:28

want to sit in the space. Because

0:31

of my hip replacement, I have not been able to do

0:33

stuff like that. But I got

0:35

tired of sitting around, so I just came here and did it.

0:37

I feel better these days. But come on in. So yesterday we spent

0:39

some time talking about, are you thinking too

0:42

much about what other people are thinking about you? And is it

0:44

holding you back? The answer is probably. In fact, I'll go

0:46

so far as to say that we all do that. We

0:48

all think about what other people think about us. And if

0:51

you don't, I'm not sure I

0:53

want to be your friend. I met you before and I

0:55

didn't really like it. So if you're here, I probably

0:58

wouldn't be your friend. But I think we all do that,

1:00

right? Today, though, I want

1:02

to talk about what's blocking you. I'm going to give you a technique

1:05

that will help you face your passion, find your passion, if you

1:07

will, and stumbled upon this

1:09

probably 13, 14 years ago and started

1:11

one day with a client and just kept doing it hundreds

1:13

and hundreds of times. Now it works. It may take you

1:16

five minutes or five days. Hang on. I'll

1:18

tell you about it in a second here. Okay. It

1:21

is a daily boost from motivation to

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day for, uh, gosh,

1:27

we're in our 18th season these days. That's

1:29

crazy. Isn't that crazy? My name

1:31

is Scott Smith. I'm the chief motivating officer around here. I

1:34

got an email the other day. Somebody said, Scott, where did

1:37

you get the title chief motivating officer? I think

1:41

it was the first to have it. There are some of

1:43

them copying me since them, but, uh, but you know, like

1:45

anything else, it, it, it came around food and it

1:48

was complete happenstance. I, nobody knew it was going to happen,

1:51

which happens. Dance. No, I think that's

1:53

what that means. I was having my

1:55

friend Tom one night and

1:57

being a former fat guy living in a relative thin guy's body.

2:00

always just milliseconds away from falling face-first into a

2:02

basket of french fries. It could happen right now.

2:05

We're at Applebee's a neighborhood bar having some chicken wings,

2:07

some french fries, and some beer. Brutus,

2:10

I think they call it the big beer. And we're talking

2:12

about what I'm going to be doing and he's all excited and he's

2:14

trying to help me out a little bit. He finally reaches over and

2:17

he pulls the napkin out from under my beer. He

2:21

starts writing on the napkin, you know, good things start on the

2:23

back of napkins, right? In this case it had beer and chicken

2:25

wing sauce all over it. And

2:27

he wrote down chief motivating officer. He said,

2:30

that's what you're going to call yourself. I said, okay, that's

2:32

cool. Thank you. You never know what's going to happen. Listen, come

2:35

here real close, okay? I

2:37

really focus in on helping people discover

2:39

their passion in life and I

2:41

have learned something. I have

2:43

learned that little default passion is in there

2:45

and it just it's just there and most

2:48

people won't admit it. Everybody's

2:50

trying to pick a passion off a shelf and this is my passion. I'm going to

2:52

go do it. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. Doesn't

2:55

work that way. You

2:57

stumble into it. It

2:59

reveals itself upon you. A little

3:01

idea comes into your head or maybe you just get an

3:03

experience and say, oh, I kind of like that. I

3:06

had no idea I was going to be doing this. No idea.

3:08

I have none. Little

3:10

by little the pieces come together and

3:12

here we are in her 18th season. So

3:15

if you're looking, if you're trying to find a way to

3:17

figure stuff out, hang in there. It does happen, okay? I

3:20

just talked about what's going to block you today and this is a

3:22

little technique. Not what's going to block

3:24

you but how to stop being blocked. So like

3:26

I said a minute ago, when we do face your passion, when

3:29

I say face your passion, people come to me all the time

3:31

and say, Scott, I want to find my passion. I said, well,

3:33

I can't help you find it. I don't know where

3:35

it is. Nobody gave me the memo. I

3:38

have no idea. We can go through all the stuff that everybody

3:40

else does and we can try to, you know, make a list

3:43

and we can give you some ideas and spend years coaching you

3:45

the whole thing. It just doesn't work that way and

3:47

what happens is you find yourself spinning your wheels.

3:49

Remember this. You

3:51

kind of have to know where you are right now before

3:54

you can get where you want to be and most people don't

3:56

want to do that. So if you

3:58

come to me, it's just, Scott, I want to face my passion, I need

4:00

to find my passion, my purpose, my meaning

4:02

and legacy in life. First thing

4:05

I'm going to say is also where are you today? Which is

4:07

why we always start out with awareness. We

4:09

spend the first month and face your passion with awareness. That's

4:11

it. And people are just they love when it happens. It

4:13

takes four or five days before it kicks in. Maybe

4:16

two weeks for the slow orders. But once it

4:18

does, once you look at that mirror, once you

4:20

can't lie anymore, oh my god,

4:24

does it ever open up and you start to figure out what we're doing is

4:26

we're taking away the stuff we don't like and leaving what we do. So

4:29

you got to understand that concept. It's a very different process

4:31

to get to really get to what you're passionate about. My

4:33

guess is you can find it this afternoon all by yourself

4:35

if you wanted to. But

4:38

once I get people going on this process, I

4:40

get them the buy into becoming aware, basically

4:43

understanding everything that's going on in life. We

4:45

have a diary that we do. Now the

4:47

first part of the diary, first question I

4:49

ask is it's called a retrospective entry. And

4:53

that retrospective entry means this. It means when

4:55

you look at yesterday, you

4:57

contemplate what happened yesterday. You don't just reflect on it

4:59

and make a list of stuff you did. You

5:01

look at the meaning of it, what happened yesterday.

5:05

And you think, I didn't like that or

5:07

I did like that. You really think it through. And you say,

5:09

okay, for today, prospectively, what will I do

5:11

today, either to get rid of what I didn't like

5:13

yesterday or to do what I want to do today.

5:15

And here's the thing. I can't

5:18

ask you to retrospectively look at

5:20

yesterday, four

5:22

or five days and write the same thing down every

5:24

single day, ask

5:26

you to fake it. In fact, you can't do it either.

5:29

If I get you to peel back the layers, if I make you

5:31

aware, four or five days in a row, you're saying I did this

5:33

again and again and again, I don't like it. What are you doing?

5:37

So the whole point is to become very aware of what you're doing

5:39

in your life. Again, you have to know where you are today to

5:41

get where you want to be. I

5:45

look at everything in your life, all the stuff you

5:47

do, all the emotional stuff we all carry, all

5:50

the skills we all carry, all that stuff. I look at

5:52

all that as just kind of your inventory. It's like

5:54

walking into a Walmart, all that stuff in

5:57

a Walmart. It's

6:00

just their inventory, right? Well, that's your life. And

6:02

I—you know what? Probably we could fill up a Walmart with this

6:04

stuff on our brain, couldn't we? I

6:07

look at it as an inventory. And

6:09

so a long time ago, 12, 13 years ago, kind of

6:12

a biblical concept when you think about it, I said,

6:14

guys, you need to take your inventory. And

6:16

I'll never forget saying that my first coaching collider said, what do you mean

6:18

by that? I said, well, that means you

6:20

want to examine your finances, your job,

6:22

your relationships, your responsibilities, your

6:25

dreams, your goals, your hours, everything, no matter what

6:27

you're doing. What kind of complexity do you have

6:29

in your life? How many kids do you have? What kind of car do you have?

6:31

What are the problems you're facing? All

6:33

this stuff, every little demon that you've got, every

6:35

responsibility, every good thing, every bad thing. I mean,

6:38

a list that's 10 miles long. Now, for some

6:40

of you, you're going to knock it out in

6:42

five minutes. And you

6:44

sit down and say, okay, just like Walmart, okay, it's inventory

6:46

time. I have to go figure out all this stuff

6:48

that's in my head that's either helping me or hurting me

6:50

or whatever. I've got to

6:52

go do that. Every single area of

6:54

my life, I'm going to take an inventory, and I'm going to build

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a list you can do on a spreadsheet, a legal plan. I don't

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care what it is. It's

7:01

scary to dig into the dark corners of your life,

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8:35

have a good relationship with the kids, with your family. How

8:38

long can you lie about that one? Don't

8:41

have enough money to have a good job? How

8:43

long are you gonna put up with it? I know you're busy. You

8:45

got stuff going on. But

8:49

until you stop and take an inventory of everything

8:51

that is actually going on inside the dark corners

8:53

of your life. And the good stuff too, by

8:55

the way. It's

8:58

gonna leave you kinda blocked. But

9:00

I promise when you shine that light, everything inside

9:03

that you may don't want to see right now. Maybe

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you haven't seen for years. Maybe honestly you haven't thought

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about for your whole life. But

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it's down there. It's in your dreams. It pops out at

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the end of a vacation. You

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suddenly find yourself able to

9:18

move freely. You're

9:21

not held back anymore. You

9:24

can't carry all that weight your whole life. You

9:30

just can't. So

9:33

I'll repeat it. You must know where you are now before

9:35

you will be able to go where you want to go.

9:39

Can't take it all with you. And sometimes you can't even

9:41

get started if you don't clear it up right now. If

9:45

you have the nerve, if you have the courage, if you

9:47

have some time, sit

9:49

down, put out a piece of paper. Put

9:52

out a spreadsheet. I don't care how you do it. Look

9:55

at every single area of your life and

9:58

start writing down every single thing you can think

10:00

of. I mean

10:03

everything. Everything. Leave

10:05

no detail hidden. Watch what

10:09

happens when you do that. You're going to come up with a list very quickly

10:11

of what you want to get rid of and what you want to

10:14

keep. Inventory is everything. Take it.

10:16

Tomorrow, starting over. What would

10:18

you do if you had to? How would you

10:21

do it?