0:02

Never give up, fighting till the end,

0:04

gotta get back up No

0:07

time for loss, fighting till the end, no

0:09

matter what the cost Keep

0:11

moving, gotta get back up one How

0:21

are you? Come on in here, I'm ready for this. Are you ready? Oh,

0:24

did I catch off guard? I'm sorry. I haven't

0:26

finished a sip of my coffee yet. I just turned your... I

0:29

don't care. Get your butt in here. We got stuff to do, okay?

0:33

Oh my goodness. Well today, I want to talk

0:36

with you about listening to yourself because

0:38

I've noticed something. I've noticed that you're not listening

0:41

or you're listening to the wrong people. And that's really

0:43

easy to do. And it's not just me or anybody

0:46

else. You can be walking down the

0:48

aisle of a Walmart, which I'm... Hmm.

0:51

That's an experience. That's a whole show by itself, by the

0:53

way. Particularly on a Saturday afternoon. But you can be walking

0:55

down and somebody can say something but not even talking to

0:57

you, but you hear it

0:59

and you change your day because of it.

1:02

Uh-oh. I'll give

1:04

you a couple ideas how to avoid that

1:06

today. And a lot of other things as

1:08

well, okay? It is a daily boost from

1:10

motivationtomove.com, the positive boost you need every single

1:12

day since 2006, episode 4852, doing our thing.

1:14

My name is Scott Smith, Chief Motivating Officer,

1:18

founder here at motivationtomove.com and happy

1:20

to have you here today. By

1:22

the way, had some people say, Scott, you

1:25

kind of went dark on the hip thing and you

1:27

haven't told me and I'm concerned about you. I want to make

1:29

sure you're okay. And thank you for that. I do appreciate that.

1:31

I almost don't know what to say when you

1:34

guys reach out and care about me. I forget that I'm with

1:36

you every single day. I really do. I like you. I like

1:38

to talk to you. But I forget

1:40

that you're actually listening to me. I

1:43

just show up and do my thing is what I

1:45

do. But thank you for that. And so

1:47

the quick update is it's five and a half weeks

1:49

now. And I know I'm

1:51

the only guy that's ever had a hip replacement. So it's

1:53

a big, dramatic thing. No

1:56

meds. Walking without a limp.

1:58

Walking about two and a half miles a day. But

4:00

yeah, I never let it go

4:02

by without challenging something usually with my

4:04

mouth. One

4:07

day my mom said to me, she says, you know what? You

4:11

can talk your way into anything. Can't you? I

4:13

said, yeah, you know what's even better? I

4:16

can talk my way out of things. Now

4:19

in recent years I've learned if I have going to have to

4:21

talk my way out of something, not to talk my way into

4:23

something, just a better way to go. It's just a wisdom kicking

4:25

in there, I guess. But you know, thanks to a lot of

4:27

responsible adults, they kind of turned me

4:29

into a good person. And

4:32

I learned a very valuable lesson when they

4:34

said something you may be heard before. Listen

4:38

twice as much as you speak, fill

4:41

in the rest of the line. Can you do it? There's

4:45

a reason you have two ears and one mouth.

4:50

Listen twice as much as you speak. Now, I

4:53

don't know that that's the actual reason you have

4:55

two ears. I think it's got

4:57

a more a triangulation thing, a balance thing, but maybe,

4:59

you know, we'll go, why not? We'll go along with

5:01

it. I know you've heard

5:03

it before, but in today's fast paced world, a

5:06

lot of people don't do that. In fact, the bigger problem

5:08

today is people don't know when to

5:10

zip their lips shut. And yes, even Scott, even

5:13

the guy that runs his mouth nonstop for a

5:15

living, people say to

5:17

me, what do you do for a living? I say, I talk. They go, me

5:19

too. I see you, but I get paid for it. How about you? Oh,

5:22

but even I have

5:24

learned to zip my lip. And

5:26

not say anything. And you're the hardest part

5:29

is you're like, you're like, Oh man, I

5:31

just want to say something. I'm going to say it. I'm going

5:33

to say it. I'm going to say it. And then like 30

5:35

minutes has gone by timeliness has completely passed. You shouldn't say it.

5:37

And then I'll say it anyway, but I don't do that anymore because

5:40

I've learned. So we've got

5:42

two ears. We should listen more. We should speak less. We

5:44

zip our lips shut, right? But I've

5:46

taken it to a new level. Now

5:48

I got to tell you upfront that a lot of people don't get this idea. A

5:51

lot of people think it's not cool. I'm

5:53

just saying, you just haven't got there yet. You're not

5:55

on that path yet. I

5:58

go dark. Now,

6:01

when you go dark, you choose to

6:03

listen to yourself more and

6:05

listen to others less. You

6:08

literally choose to cut people off. You

6:10

stop listening. You're still caring. You hear

6:13

what they're saying. You're interacting with

6:15

everything. Life continues to go on, but you've decided to

6:17

listen to yourself twice as much and not run your

6:19

mouth anymore. When

6:22

you go dark, it is amazing what happens

6:24

because for some reason with Google and

6:27

with Zoom and for a

6:29

guy like me who tells half my life story on

6:31

my podcast every single day and wonder why I do

6:33

it. Sometimes

6:36

it's really nice to shut your damn mouth, go

6:38

inside yourself and just leave it at that.

6:42

It's like we've lost permission to do that. Can't

6:45

move forward without social media. We got to broadcast what we're

6:47

doing. Hi,

6:49

what are you doing? Oh, nothing. I'm

6:51

on a date, but I have to go out

6:53

to the car and get on my TikTok and let everybody know how

6:56

it's going. No

6:58

more date for you. You're done. It's

7:02

not even going Dutch at that point. It's like I forgot my wallet.

7:04

Sorry, honey. Something extraordinary

7:06

happens when you give yourself space to listen

7:08

to yourself more. Your creative mind and your

7:11

talent just kind of flourish. I

7:13

mean, you were so busy, so much going on right now. I know you're

7:16

trying to figure stuff out. Most of what I do for a living when

7:18

I'm working with my coaching clients, it's just

7:20

taking all the stuff that's spinning around in their head and stop

7:22

it. Slow them down. Shut

7:25

things down so they can think a little bit. Because

7:29

when you give yourself some time, when you arrive

7:32

at that spot where you're not trying to keep

7:34

up with everything, you go dark and you're not

7:36

responding to everybody who comes your way. Your life

7:38

gets brighter. Good stuff happens. When

7:41

you slip away into your own space, you develop the person

7:43

into the person you were meant to be. When

7:46

you remove yourself from the buzz of the world, there's

7:48

a new kind of energy and

7:51

you don't need anybody's permission to do it. Another

7:54

thing that I run into all the time is this. A

7:56

lot of people are so concerned about everybody else and they're

7:58

listening to everybody and they're just involved with all the stuff

8:00

that's going on. I go on instead of going dark and

8:02

disappearing, but when you do, it's amazing

8:04

what happens. First off, you get really relaxed. That's

8:07

the first thing that happens. The budget goes away. The

8:09

second thing is you find yourself doing things you'd like

8:11

to do. I've seen people write books, start podcasts, build

8:13

businesses, build better relationships,

8:16

go to their kids, baseball games. I

8:19

said, go dark. It didn't say disappear, right? You're

8:21

going dark to the stuff that doesn't mean anything to you. I promise you

8:24

this. You can do anything you want to do, but

8:26

if you try to keep up with everybody around you and pay attention

8:28

to everybody around you and you, you let all

8:30

that noise come in. You're never going to have time to do

8:32

what you want to do. Whatever you're seeking today, I don't know

8:34

what it is, but it is not

8:36

networking and talking and expanding and going further.

8:38

That's the superficial stuff. It's not. It's

8:41

when you go inside yourself and decide what you're going to

8:43

create and put out to the world. And that only happens

8:46

when you turn down the lights on

8:48

the craziness around you and turn the lights up on

8:51

the craziness inside of you. Maybe

8:53

I should have said creativeness inside of you. Maybe that's a

8:56

better word. I don't know. You can edit. Everybody can edit

8:58

these days. You all got the stuff. Everybody's

9:00

a podcaster. Everybody's a video editor now.

9:03

So if you don't like the show, just move it around and send it to

9:05

me and see if I like it, but you can't use it without my permission.

9:07

Cause that would be, that's against the

9:09

law. Okay. Just don't take my

9:11

stuff. Who

9:14

knew listening twice as much as you speak

9:18

works even better. When

9:21

you listen twice as much

9:23

to yourself as

9:25

you listen to others, who

9:29

knew? Okay. I'll step up. I

9:31

did. That's

9:33

my job. Okay. I mean, I think about this. When

9:35

you're thinking about what are you going to have for

9:37

lunch? I'm thinking about this. That's what I did. Can't

9:41

help it. Is what I do tomorrow.

9:43

We're going to play the long game. That's tomorrow's

9:45

daily boost.