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Hello and welcome to Dear Hank
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and John. This
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is
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very weird to do the intro. That's right. Or
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as I prefer to think of it, Dear John and Hank. It's
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a podcast where two brothers answer your questions,
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give you dubious advice and bring you all the week's news from both Mars
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and AFC Wimbledon. John, did you know that you can get rid of most
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cancers with just a water gun? Oh, is
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that so?
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Yeah, it works on on Libras and Capricorns
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as well. Wait,
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what? Oh, you mean like I...
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Okay. First off, I'm not
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going to workshop your joke because you have
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cancer. And it
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wouldn't be appropriate. Secondly,
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I do have some notes. What?
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I think it works. I
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tried this on someone else and it also failed. But
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to me, it's a good joke. It's the get
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rid of because that implies like
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a level of elimination
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or
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like complete killing.
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And then like I've got to reimagine this
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as just like force
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them to depart from within 50 feet
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of me. Yeah. As the definition
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of get rid of. So I think the place to look- Is
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the get rid of is the problem? Is the get
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rid of. Like, do you know that you can
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something else most cancers
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with just a water gun? Yeah. Annoy,
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frustrate, discourage.
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It's tricky. It's tricky. Yeah. So
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this is a different episode
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from usual. That's right. Hank-
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Do you want me to go through the whole thing? I
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know that you're the main- if you're cancer diagnosis,
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but can I tell you what
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it was like for me? Yeah,
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sure. Let's do
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that. Then you can tell your story.
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Okay. So, Sarah and I went to Sierra
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Leone, and before
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we left for Sierra Leone, Hank and
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I had a few conversations where he would just mention
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his health, which is very unusual. Like,
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I'm the one who mentions my health
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in our conversations. I'm
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the one who worries about health. And
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I was really quite worried about this because
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it was unusual, and
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I thought maybe it was just like a
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symptom of you being overextended
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and overworked. Sure, that
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makes sense.
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And then we
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went to Sierra Leone, and when we
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were, you seemed weird when we
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were in Sierra Leone. Like, I would call you,
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and I would be like, you cannot believe
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how amazing this 48,000 square foot hospital is, all
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the good it's gonna do, it's just incredible. And you
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would be like, that is incredible. And,
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but you just seemed off. Yeah. And
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like a little, like you were struggling to get to
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the level of excitement that I was feeling. And
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then when we had a long trip home, and when
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we were in the car on the way home, dad
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picked us up, our dad picked
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Sarah and I up. And he
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basically immediately told us that
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you'd just had a biopsy,
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and that
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you'd had an MRI earlier
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in the week, and
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there was a lot of suspicion
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that you might have some
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kind of cancer in your lymph nodes.
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And that
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was scary, but I think for the first
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few days also, we were all able to tell ourselves
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like, well, maybe it's nothing. And even
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doctors were like, it could very well be nothing.
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And then you heard from the surgeon that
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it was definitely not nothing. And
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then
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I think everybody who loves you and
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who knew was really,
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really scared for a while. And
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I was with mom and dad a lot. And then we found
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out that you have Hodgkin's lymphoma,
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which is a
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very treatable,
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very curable form of lymphoma. There's
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a lot known about it. There's
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been a good
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treatments for a while now. And
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that
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made it easier for all of us, I think,
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a little less scary, a little more known.
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But man, you know the main thing that I've
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been thinking about the last 10 days, and I know that
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you don't want me, or the last two weeks or
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whatever, three weeks, I don't know how long it's been. But
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I know that you don't want me to be sentimental
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and everything.
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And I know that we have a lot to talk about, but like, so
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I don't really wanna like front load the
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emotion part of it. But
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you're my oldest friend.
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You're my brother. You're
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the person I trust most
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in the world other than my spouse. Everything
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I've made in my professional life, I've
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made either with you or to impress
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you.
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I can't imagine life without both
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of us. Like
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the thing that is, like when I imagine myself
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dying, which I do, I don't know, six
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or 700 times a day, the
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thing that is most unbearable is not
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to think about dying, it's to think about like
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my kids and Sarah and
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you.
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And so it just,
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here's the thing, the basic thing I wanna
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say is that like the great joy of my,
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or one of the biggest joys of my life has been
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the fact that in adulthood, we've
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been able to be in it together,
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in all kinds of things together, in
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making stuff together, in hard times together,
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in frustration. together and like struggling
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to fathom the political environment
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in which we find ourselves together. Like all
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of that, we've been able to be in it together.
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And I know that we can't be
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all the way in it together with this,
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but I'm with you.
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And I want to be as together
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as we can be, I guess. Yeah, I
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mean, it's, I feel like
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I've already learned a lot about how to be
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in this situation, even though I've only been in this
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situation for like, oh, so
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as you're, as you're hearing this, the
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Vlogbrothers video would have come out a
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few days ago. Yeah, maybe we should
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just, maybe we should back up and you tell your
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part of the story. Okay, just
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start, okay, yeah, sure. I mean, so
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I had shingles
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a while back, a
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bunch over the summer, which
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can be coincident with lymphoma
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in both ways. Where
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like, you can get it because you have lymphoma,
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but you can also, like the
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lymphoma can kind of get, like you can kind of have
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lymphoma-like
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stuff going on and then it can get
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triggered by shingles.
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So
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just because you have that sort of long-term
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intense infection. So anyway,
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but it also could have nothing to do with
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it. So I had this three
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bouts of shingles, which is very weird, but
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I was on humira at the time for my colitis
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and they figured that's probably because
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of the humira. And in fairness, when I
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started taking, when I stopped taking the humira,
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I stopped having shingles. But
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the last bout I had was across
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the top of my chest and into my armpit. And
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shingles, if you don't know,
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it's an infection of the nerves
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that is the same virus as chickenpox. So
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chickenpox like hangs out in your nervous system and then if your
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immune system gets lowered, you
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get, you can get shingles. And so it's
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terribly painful rash, basically,
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where your nerves are infected with this virus.
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Oh, God, that sounds so painful.
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It hurts a lot. Just the phrase,
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your nerves are infected with this virus
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is very evocative of physical
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pain. Yeah. And after
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that, my armpit remained
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swollen. And then I went to see
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the doctor, and they were like, there's probably nothing. And then it
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remained swollen. And then I went to the doctor, and they were
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like, OK, well, let's get a scan. And
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it was pretty
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obvious immediately
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that this was not
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something that probably wasn't a big
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deal. It was like, this could very well
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be a big deal. And the
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tech who was doing my
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ultrasound was like, you should stay here.
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Usually there's a doctor who I can go grab.
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Because usually
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the tech is like, they don't say anything. That's
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not their job. You'll get your results in a
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couple of days. Yeah. But the
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doctor sort of explained what it was exactly
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about the ultrasound that looked suspicious.
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And I couldn't tell you. It was like, there's
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been a facepent of the fatty hila or
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something like that. And I'm like, OK. I'm sure.
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I believe you that it's worrying. So
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I got to get scheduled for a biopsy, and then
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that happened. And then it takes
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a while for the biopsy results to come back. Sometimes a really
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long time, because they're not like with
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certain problems, it can be
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a bunch of different things. And they have to do
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genetic testing, et cetera. But with this,
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it took a couple of days. And
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there was that period that was probably
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the worst bit so far between finding
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out that it was
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lymphoma specifically, which did mean
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that it wasn't a number of other things that it could
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have been that would have been bad, which would be
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like a melanoma that had
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moved my lymph nodes or something like that. So
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that would have been worse than
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this.
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But
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the period of time between finding out
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that we're going to have
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to do cancerous testing.
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which is good to find out because
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you can start some balls rolling
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and finding out what kind it was
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was the worst part and like It was
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like you would not believe how
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Giddy I was finding out
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that it was Hodgkin's like it was Ridiculous
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because you know, that's it's a different
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game than a lot of lymphomas. Yeah,
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it was good news amid the bad news Not
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that other you know, there's just a lot of forms
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of lymphoma of non Hodgkin's
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lymphoma There's like over 60 and
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some of them are very treatable
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and some of them are really really difficult to treat
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Yeah, I mean sometimes you don't even treat like
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certain kinds of of non Hodgkin's It's just like
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oh you've got it But like we're gonna keep an eye on
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you until it gets bad and then we'll treat
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you because the treatment and that's another thing That
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I've learned if you're curious,
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this is all about balancing,
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you know with with Hodgkin's
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Specifically but really with all cancer
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and chemotherapy. It's about balancing You
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know the side effects of the treatment with
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the
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potential positive outcomes, right? So
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you could go
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Way harder than they're gonna go.
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Mm-hmm on me because they're
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gonna like let it go and And
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see how it responds and then like, you
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know with Hodgkin's usually it responds pretty
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well And then they give you some time
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to see if it comes back and they monitor you for
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a long time Usually doesn't come back and if it
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does then they just go again and usually it
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responds well the second time so Or
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they do radiation or they do immunotherapy like this
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and there's like a bunch of treatments that exist now that didn't
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exist right, you know even even five
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years ago
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and so the it's
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about like trying to Because
13:40
the end because like the chemo can have side effects that
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are you know Not like you
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feel bad for a month You can get some damage
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to your heart or some damage to your lungs and like
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so you got to watch out for that
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Right. It's all kinds of long-term side effects too.
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It increases certain risks long term So
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right and the radiation is the same way where you know,
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you don't want to do radiation on that
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the first go because you're increasing the odds
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of future problems.
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Future cancers. Um, this,
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the week that we're recording this is kind of my week from
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hell. Monday's great. Uh,
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Tuesday I'm prepping for a colonoscopy
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because I had to, I was, I had a
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colonoscopy scheduled and they really want to do it,
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both to see like how my current treatment
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regimen is working and just for screening reasons.
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And we've been postponing it because of, uh,
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because my treatment has been changing. Uh,
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but they don't want you to do a colonoscopy after you've
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started chemo because it can increase chances
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of complications. So they like moved it up.
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So tomorrow I start, I start the prep for
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my colonoscopy. Then I get the colonoscopy. Then
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I get my PET scan and my chemo
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port. That PET scan will tell me how,
14:46
like what stage lymphoma, how
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much this is. Um, as
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of right now, it seems like the, since
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I'm feeling fine and the scans
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did not show it, my MRI didn't
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show it in any other places. That's
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probably very early,
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um, and the progression of the disease, but
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we'll confirm that because MRIs don't
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show everything
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with the PET scan. And then I start
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chemo on Friday. Yeah.
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Um, which as of the recording of this podcast,
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uh, is three days ago or the release
15:17
of this podcast. Right. So, right.
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So as you're listening, Hank
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has already started treatment and
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he's on the road. Yeah. There's
15:25
a little bit of, so
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we don't argue much. I often say that we've
15:30
only had one argument, uh,
15:32
which was at VidCon, but, but you've
15:35
pointed out that really we've, we've had more arguments
15:37
than that. It's just that only one really erupted
15:40
into a full, I
15:43
don't even think you raised your voice necessarily, but like,
15:45
you know what I mean? Like, so I
15:47
would actually argue that our, our second biggest
15:50
argument behind the
15:52
argument that we had at VidCon when the Gregory
15:54
brothers, um, video
15:57
was malfunctioning is about.
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the what the next six months look
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like because One
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well one I mean yeah, but I think
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we should have I I think it's a good idea
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to have this out Yeah, let's model
16:11
how we have arguments Hank Well, I
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I think we're probably gonna come to the same
16:15
place, which is where I'm at I think that we're
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gonna end up where I am John
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as we always do. That's why we never
16:21
have arguments Is because
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I always had Hank Hank just
16:26
Hank just slowly delivers me to his
16:28
place No, sometimes I I
16:30
remain passionately opposed to Hank's position.
16:33
Yeah Yeah, yeah
16:35
So so here's what I think I
16:38
and the argument just the argument just to be clear
16:40
is about it's about work It's
16:42
about Dear Hank and John. It's about vlogbrothers.
16:45
It's about all the stuff that we we do together and
16:48
this is look like
16:50
it's complicated because Obviously
16:54
work is not the most important thing but work
16:56
is isn't really important you
16:58
know, like
16:59
there are over a hundred people who
17:01
work for either DFTBA or or
17:04
complexly and
17:06
You know for whom Hank is ultimately their
17:08
CEO and so it's
17:10
not an insignificant thing and then there's the
17:12
community of of Nerdfighteria
17:15
and and the community of people who listen to this
17:17
podcast and We
17:20
are conscious while we know that
17:22
you know Everybody listening is
17:24
only wants the best for Hank and only
17:26
wants whatever is gonna be good
17:28
and helpful for him You know, we're also
17:31
conscious of the fact that
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this isn't just hard for Hank It's
17:36
also hard for everybody who cares about Hank
17:39
which includes people who listen
17:41
are listening right now and includes
17:43
people who care about our videos and people
17:45
who work for complexly and DFTBA,
17:48
you know, there's
17:50
so many people around the world who
17:52
are thinking of and dare
17:54
I say it Hank praying for Hank
17:57
and
17:58
We want to be conscious of that
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and while also
18:02
finding our way through, because it's complicated.
18:07
And so I think my impulse is to say,
18:09
like,
18:10
Hank needs to be on sabbatical, like,
18:13
let's set some absolute boundaries.
18:16
And I think Hank's impulse is more like, let's
18:18
see how I feel. And that's right.
18:20
Like, the thing I don't want to do is set
18:23
myself up to not have anything to do. Right,
18:25
I get that. I totally get that. Yeah,
18:28
and your response to that, which I get is
18:30
like, just hang out, read books,
18:32
watch TV, go for walks, do restorative
18:34
yoga. And I'm like, yes. Yeah,
18:38
but I need, I, you know,
18:40
there's a bunch of stuff that I feel
18:42
good at when I'm doing it. Right.
18:45
And that I feel better
18:47
after I'm done. Right. And, you
18:49
know, I kind of expected, because I like went
18:52
in to shoot SciShow
18:54
the sort of like three days after
18:56
I found out
18:57
and hadn't really
18:59
told anybody yet, except
19:01
for a couple of high level people at Complexly and DFTBA.
19:04
And I was like, I'm going to be so tired
19:06
after this. I'm going to be so exhausted. Because
19:08
like, because I was really like, so
19:11
I got the biopsy where they actually
19:13
remove your whole lymph node or a whole
19:15
lymph node so that they can get a really good look
19:17
at what's going on inside. And I, and like
19:19
after that, I felt really tired. And I was, and
19:22
then like four days later, I still felt really tired.
19:24
And I was like,
19:26
this is the lymphoma. I'm like, I have lymphoma
19:28
fatigue. And then I just kept
19:30
getting less tired every day. And it turned out
19:33
that I had surgery fatigue and I had
19:35
stress fatigue and I had maybe, you know,
19:37
painkiller fatigue and, you
19:40
know,
19:40
buse barre fatigue just because, you know, I
19:42
was get as drowsy because of taking an anti-anxiety because
19:45
I was really freaked out. And
19:47
so that, and I go on
19:49
a film SciShow and it was a light
19:51
shoot day. And then I do tangents.
19:54
And at the end of that, I felt
19:56
the best I had felt since
19:59
like the, the. the first worrying scan. And
20:02
I was like, okay, this is important
20:04
data because honestly, what
20:06
I do want to do is
20:09
lay in bed and feel like crap.
20:11
Like I totally wanna do that. I'm into that. Like
20:15
that's what my brain is pushing for
20:17
a lot of the time and I don't
20:19
feel better in that situation. And so I want
20:22
to figure out things to work on that
20:25
are low lift, low stress
20:29
that are not,
20:31
and like,
20:32
honestly also I need to be doing physical
20:34
things though that's gonna be extra
20:37
hard I think. Biggest
20:39
side effect of chemo is the thing that everybody
20:41
has is fatigue. And so like
20:44
what I want is to not have to do anything,
20:47
but
20:49
to do things that make me, like when I feel
20:51
up to it, to
20:57
do things that make me feel good. And
20:59
like, I have
21:01
been journaling, which I never do because
21:05
it's felt very necessary. And
21:07
I've been writing, just
21:10
writing some stuff that's
21:12
not journaling, but
21:14
I have no idea what direction it's moving in. I
21:16
love to hear that though. With no goal. That's
21:19
the best kind. No goal. And
21:21
what I don't want is to be in a situation where
21:24
I think I'd feel better if I
21:26
made a podcast or
21:28
made a vlog with this video or went into shoot SciShow
21:31
and people are like, no, you can't.
21:33
Right, right. And I absolutely
21:36
understand that. And you
21:38
know what, we were gonna have an argument and I
21:41
completely acquiesce. Like I agree with,
21:44
unfortunately, I agree with everything he said.
21:47
I can't model how to have an argument except
21:49
to say that I am concerned that
21:53
you feel obligations even
21:55
when everyone works really hard to have
21:58
you not feel them.
21:59
So I just want you to be conscious of that. Right.
22:02
So I have a couple of questions
22:05
from what you just shared. But
22:07
the first thing is that for the next like four to
22:09
six to 12 months, depending on
22:12
treatment and lots of other things,
22:15
you're not going to have a weekly Dear Hank and John.
22:18
You may not have any Dear Hank
22:20
and John, except for the like 600 episodes
22:22
that we've already made, half of which you haven't listened
22:24
to. And
22:27
we encourage you to listen to those episodes
22:29
because we will be keep... John will be
22:31
recording new advertisements because
22:34
we have obligations to... That's
22:36
a weird thing, but like we have to have an ad
22:39
break in this one because we... Well,
22:42
we need to. Like this wasn't obvious,
22:45
just to state the obvious, like we didn't have
22:47
this in the budget. Well, we
22:49
also like have, you know, we
22:52
could cancel the contracts, but we have contracts
22:55
and it exists already. Yeah,
22:57
and we may have to cancel the contracts. That's not a big deal.
23:01
As the person who's taking over for Hank
23:03
and some of these CEO
23:05
roles, I look forward to those
23:08
phone calls where I can be like, we're canceling
23:10
this contract. And if you are
23:13
mean about
23:14
it,
23:14
you kind of stop. Just
23:19
so you know, we're like... Square that with your
23:21
own conscience. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
23:24
Just like, you know, which is not to
23:26
say like we expect advertisers to
23:28
spend money on things that aren't being
23:30
advertised or like impressions that don't exist, but
23:32
we do expect advertisers to be cool
23:35
about us taking some
23:37
time off and then not charging them.
23:41
We do expect that to be cool. So
23:43
anyway, for the next four
23:44
to six to 12 months, depending
23:47
on how everything goes treatment wise, we
23:49
don't know how often, if at all,
23:52
there will be new episodes of Dear Hank and
23:54
John because we just don't want to put that
23:56
pressure on Hank.
23:58
Yeah, and I... I like doing
24:00
it. So, of course.
24:03
And if you call me and you say, I'd
24:05
like to record a podcast right now, I'm
24:09
done watching Netflix and
24:11
I'm done writing and I wanna record
24:13
a podcast, I'll be like, great, let's record a podcast.
24:16
But
24:17
I don't wanna have the expectation that that's gonna
24:19
happen for
24:20
listeners or for us because
24:24
we just don't know. And I think making
24:26
space for you to feel however you're
24:28
gonna feel is the
24:30
right call. Right,
24:31
and if you wanna watch a bunch or listen
24:34
to a bunch of old deer hanging Johns.
24:36
Oh, we've got some. That's, they're there. And we got some.
24:38
They're ready for you. That's great.
24:40
Yeah. Get those impressions.
24:42
Yeah. To deliver. No,
24:46
no, we're fine. Everything's
24:49
fine. If you've joined
24:51
the Patreon, we'd love it if you stayed.
24:53
We will be back. Yeah.
24:57
And we should say like, just
25:00
so nobody worries, like the money from this podcast
25:02
doesn't go to us, it goes to Complexly to support
25:04
stuff like SciShow and Crash Course and all the other
25:07
stuff that gets made there. And
25:09
the folks working behind the podcast who
25:11
we're so grateful
25:12
to for their flexibility,
25:15
especially the last few weeks are
25:18
gonna be fine as well. So
25:21
don't worry on our account, we just wanna
25:23
apologize for the fact that we do have to have an ad
25:25
break, which reminds me, Hank.
25:29
Yep.
25:29
Oh, this is gonna be hard. Today's
25:32
podcast is brought to you
25:34
by. I'll
25:41
tell you, man. I'll tell you,
25:44
it's all been fun and games for the
25:46
last five years, but turns out,
25:49
you gotta get life insurance, guys.
25:56
Let's just roll the ads. You
25:59
don't wanna do another. I had a couple
26:01
in mind. Oh,
26:03
okay, what do you got? No,
26:07
at the moment I had one, but then here's
26:10
something that's been happening to me in the last month. Like
26:12
my mind will go utterly blank,
26:15
utterly.
26:17
Like
26:19
so blank that I'm like, did I just achieve
26:22
enlightenment? Do I exist? No,
26:25
for me, it's more like, is that, did
26:27
I just glimpse nirvana?
26:31
There's nothing. There's just nothing there. There's
26:33
no suffering because there's no desire because
26:35
there's nothing. Yeah.
26:39
So yeah, anyway, here's
26:41
maybe some ads. I don't know if we sold
26:43
these impressions.
26:45
So John, I have a question for
26:48
you. Great.
26:49
What's my job like? You've
26:51
done a little bit of it in the last week or
26:53
two. How is it? Oh my God.
26:56
Oh well, I don't know what it's like normally. It's
26:59
not easy
27:00
and it's not as easy as you make
27:02
it out to be and it's very time
27:05
consuming and I don't know how you do
27:07
other stuff. Like I do
27:09
not know how you did this job
27:12
or these jobs being the CEO of
27:14
DFTBA and Complexly and
27:17
wrote two novels. I
27:19
don't understand how you did that. I also
27:21
have a hard time figuring that out. Here's what I'll say
27:23
about your job. You work with amazing
27:25
people and that makes it bearable.
27:29
But
27:34
it is not an easy job. I'll
27:37
tell you what, after two weeks of kind of
27:39
doing your job, I'm very, very
27:41
impressed. And by
27:43
the way, you've still been doing much
27:45
of your job. Like I don't really
27:48
fully
27:50
take on your jobs until
27:52
like Wednesday, a couple of days from
27:54
now and I'm quaking in my boots, man.
27:57
Good. John, do you wanna know?
27:59
What were some things I've learned about being a cancer
28:02
patient? Yeah, yeah. Are
28:04
these gonna be dad jokes as well? Or are these gonna
28:06
be actual observations based
28:08
on eight days of experience? The
28:11
other dad joke I had was, what's
28:14
the most expensive haircut you can get? About
28:18
see that is a great joke.
28:23
Yeah, it's not only is it expensive,
28:25
it's not great. Yeah, it's a bad haircut
28:27
and it takes forever. It's
28:30
weeks. Weeks
28:32
of individual hairs getting cut one at a time.
28:35
How do you feel about the prospect, just
28:37
to turn it back to you, because I know you're trying to make
28:39
it about me for a minute, but how do you feel about
28:41
the prospect of losing your
28:44
hair? Is that an emotional
28:46
connection for you? Yeah, I
28:48
worry about it
28:50
a little bit when it cut. Like, so
28:52
like there's two, there's a bunch of reasons
28:54
why I might not make YouTube videos, obviously.
28:58
But hair being one of them is interesting
29:00
to think like, I don't know if like,
29:03
I talked about this in my vlog with this video, but I don't
29:05
know, like I don't, this
29:08
is an identity that I'm having put upon me by
29:10
reality. And I don't know
29:13
how, to what extent I want to lean into it.
29:17
But you know, it's just our bodies,
29:20
it's just, I am also
29:22
worried about how Orin's gonna feel about it. He's
29:25
not a big fan of change. And
29:28
I think that that might be the thing that like hits
29:32
home the most for him.
29:35
And I honestly
29:37
worry more about my eyebrows than my hair,
29:40
which you can, you know, you can do makeup things
29:42
for sure. But with your eyebrows, they're
29:45
part of how you express yourself
29:47
and part of how you communicate. Yeah, like
29:49
we see lots of people without hair, but
29:52
eyebrows usually stick around unless there's
29:54
a reason. Right. And
29:57
you know, so I've thought about that.
29:59
There's lots of things you can do. You can go full eyebrow
30:02
wig if you want to. Yeah. And
30:04
yeah, so I also
30:06
don't know how to play it exactly because
30:09
there's like two bad
30:11
parts of it. One, you start to get
30:13
really thin hair and two, there's
30:16
hair everywhere. Yeah. And
30:19
so the thing to do is usually once
30:21
it starts to come out, you shave it so that you're
30:23
not like clocking up your drains all the time. Right.
30:27
There's so much more hair on your head
30:29
than you think.
30:29
And so I haven't
30:32
sort of decided how I'm gonna play that one yet. Yeah.
30:35
But yeah, it's definitely, it's a thing that, it's
30:38
a present thought, which is surprising,
30:40
honestly. Well, I think everybody
30:43
responds to it differently, but you're right that
30:45
it's sort of the, it's a very visible
30:47
marker, right? Like
30:50
it's something that's visibly associated with
30:53
cancer for a lot of people.
30:55
And then also for lots of people, like
30:58
their hair is a big part of their self-expression.
31:01
Yeah.
31:01
It's, you know, and I think for you,
31:04
maybe a little bit less so
31:06
since you have had the same haircut since you were
31:08
about eight. But I think the
31:10
part of it that
31:12
I can see being difficult for you
31:14
is that, like you said, it's an identity that
31:16
you didn't choose. And
31:19
I could see how you might not
31:21
feel comfortable with your appearance. But
31:24
I actually think that you might
31:26
be very handsome. We'll see
31:29
what shape my head is. Yeah,
31:31
like there's always the possibility that Oren's gonna
31:33
be like, finally dad looks like
31:35
he's supposed to look.
31:37
So what are the things that you've learned so
31:40
far in your eight days as a cancer
31:42
patient? So. 20 days.
31:44
First, not that much. And
31:47
I have a lot of learning left to do. For sure.
31:50
So I've talked to a lot of people
31:52
who have known about this. And
31:56
here are the best and worst
31:58
things you can say.
31:59
from my experience so far. Great,
32:02
I think this is something everybody needs. Yes,
32:04
I think that this is like the most important learning because
32:07
everybody's gonna know somebody with cancer at the very
32:09
least. Worst thing is
32:11
they ask how you're doing and I say, okay.
32:14
And then they say, but how are you really doing? Oh,
32:16
yeah. This is not what I want
32:18
to do. I would tell you how I'm really
32:20
doing if I wanted to. Also, I have no
32:23
idea how I'm really doing. It's
32:25
very deep and complex. I can't
32:27
dig that deep right now. And I
32:29
really don't
32:29
want to look, thank you. I'm at the grocery store.
32:32
I don't really want to think too hard about how I'm
32:34
doing. Yeah. And
32:37
then on the other hand, the
32:39
best thing someone has said to me is
32:41
I think you're doing really good.
32:43
Like I think you're doing this well. And
32:47
instead of someone asking
32:49
me how I'm doing, because I feel like I'm a big,
32:51
huge pile of mess, just wet garbage,
32:54
being told that
32:57
this is hard and I'm doing a good job
32:59
is like, that's
33:01
what I need to hear. Because I
33:03
don't know if
33:05
I'm doing a good job and
33:08
I don't know what I'm supposed to be doing.
33:10
Like I know what I'm supposed to be doing, like objectively,
33:13
like I'm on the path, I'm doing the things, I got all the things
33:15
scheduled. And I think I did a
33:17
good job of getting things
33:19
on the rails. But
33:22
like to just hear that
33:24
I'm doing it right feels really
33:26
good. Because that's like
33:28
one of the hardest parts
33:30
of this is that like, it's so new,
33:33
I don't know what it's supposed to feel like or be
33:35
like. And I don't know how to feel. So
33:38
like, just tell me how to feel. That's great. Tell
33:40
me to feel like I'm doing a good job. That will feel
33:42
very good. Yeah.
33:45
Although. Yes. Would
33:47
it feel good if somebody walked up to you in the grocery
33:49
store and said, you're doing a great job? I
33:51
don't know that it would. No, I think it has to be somebody who
33:54
has some awareness of the situation.
33:57
But if somebody walks up to you in a grocery store, the nicest
33:59
thing is,
33:59
And then this thing they can say is, I
34:02
hope you're doing well and
34:05
we're thinking about you. You got this,
34:07
we're rooting for you, that kind of thing.
34:09
Yeah, and that's great. I've gotten lots
34:11
of that. And then like the next time, it's
34:13
like, so
34:16
you're having tacos tonight? Yeah,
34:18
yes, yes. Right,
34:21
like you are still other
34:23
things. Yeah.
34:25
And I
34:27
can imagine that you would not want to
34:29
have your identity diminished
34:32
to this identity you didn't choose.
34:35
Like that includes who you are, that's
34:37
part of who you are, but it's certainly not all
34:39
of who you are.
34:42
Not to take it back to tuberculosis,
34:44
but that's something that I heard a lot from
34:47
people living with MDR-TB, that
34:50
one of the hardest things about it
34:52
is that
34:53
to their social order, to
34:55
their community, and sometimes even to their families,
34:58
they become nothing but a person with
35:00
TB who is therefore
35:03
dangerous, discounted, a threat,
35:08
a representation of a fear rather
35:10
than a person.
35:11
Just one other comment on this or question about this.
35:14
Don't you think worse than how are
35:16
you really feeling would be
35:18
if you reached
35:21
out to a good friend
35:23
to tell them about your cancer diagnosis,
35:25
and then they started crying and said,
35:27
how can this be happening? You do so much yoga.
35:33
That one hasn't happened to me. Which
35:35
is what I said to my dear friend
35:37
Amy.
35:39
So whatever people
35:42
have said to you, Hank, just take solace.
35:44
Yeah.
35:46
The knowledge, it could
35:48
be worse. Could be that. Could
35:51
be that. So when you think
35:54
about what you need, of course, it's
35:56
a one day at a time thing. Like you said,
35:58
you have a lot to learn.
35:59
the future looks like even like five
36:02
days into the future, which must be its
36:04
own kind of stress. But
36:07
do you think that you're going to get
36:10
into a new kind
36:13
of media?
36:14
Because that's like what it seems to me like you will
36:16
have time for. Yeah.
36:18
And I think that that's an opportunity.
36:21
Well, what do you mean, John? I mean.
36:23
Like enjoying it or creating
36:26
it. Hard-boiled noir
36:29
mystery movies from the forties.
36:32
Gotcha. No stakes, lots
36:35
of death, but not any death that you're
36:37
invested in. Not only are all of the
36:39
characters dead, all the actors are dead. This
36:42
is a tricky thing for me because
36:44
I have a hard time. Yeah.
36:48
Enjoying content that I can't
36:51
see myself participating in
36:53
somehow. Whoa.
36:55
Wait, what? So you're telling me
36:57
that like you can't like Star Wars because you're like, I'm
36:59
not a Jedi. No, no, no, no. I watch
37:02
Star Wars and I'm like, yeah, I could
37:04
be that stormtrooper.
37:06
What do you mean you could be that stormtrooper?
37:09
I don't understand. Like in the
37:11
costume. Oh, like
37:13
you could be that. Like the actor. Wait,
37:15
you watch movies and you think like which
37:18
role would I play? I feel like
37:20
I'm bearing my soul too much. I was going to say
37:22
this might actually be the most vulnerable
37:24
moment. Not any of the cancer talk. This
37:28
is real openness right here and I appreciate
37:31
it. And I want to say that I hear
37:33
you that
37:34
when you watch a movie, you
37:36
think what role would I play? Or
37:39
I think like how would I write that scene
37:42
or I think, yeah, yeah, yeah. Like how would I direct
37:44
it? I'll tell you what, that's perfect with noir
37:46
mystery movies because you'll say how would I write
37:49
this scene? Maybe a little less sexist.
37:55
But
37:55
I think what you'd enjoy about them is the
37:57
clipped humorist.
37:59
Not exactly humorous, but like the clipped,
38:02
sharply observed dialogue.
38:05
Yes, I like that.
38:07
I like that a lot. You
38:09
know what I have been? So like the thing that's been
38:11
best so far, and I expect
38:14
for this to wane some, but
38:16
is anything that's got like
38:18
a joke every five seconds? Wayne's
38:23
world. Yeah, yeah, like
38:25
really silly, funny movies,
38:27
Seinfeld, standup comedy. The
38:31
one where Will Ferrell
38:33
is a professional ice skater. Yeah, like
38:35
that. Yeah. It has to have a lot
38:37
of jokes very fast. Right.
38:40
To keep my brain occupied. They don't even all
38:42
have to land, right? Like that's
38:45
the magic of those movies, is
38:48
the
38:48
jokes don't all have to be good, but
38:50
the quantity has to be incredibly
38:53
high. Yeah, and you know what this means,
38:55
John, is that I've been
38:58
imagining myself
38:59
doing standup
39:02
about cancer. No, please God, please,
39:04
please God, no. I know, I'm being very vulnerable
39:07
right now. The last thing I need
39:10
is Hank Green emerging from
39:12
this experience with a new damn job. That's
39:14
right.
39:15
I can't accept it. I'm gonna be touring America.
39:19
What if something happens? What if you break
39:21
a leg or something, and then I
39:23
have to tour America, just like I have
39:25
to be the CEO of these companies for a few
39:28
months. I don't like that at all. Who
39:30
will think about me? Oh man,
39:33
I don't know, John. Oh God, I have
39:35
to be like be on stage, like doing Hank's jokes.
39:38
That's right. Being like, being like,
39:42
being like Euripides. Eumendides?
39:47
It's a deep cut, it's a deep cut.
39:50
All right, so how
39:53
are you doing really? No
39:56
idea, John. Yeah, I hear
39:58
ya.
39:59
I think the main thing that
40:02
we wanna say though to everybody
40:04
listening is that we
40:07
know this is hard. We know this is tough
40:09
for you. Like Hank and I have had a
40:12
while to talk about
40:14
this and talk about it with family
40:16
and process it and
40:18
dream about it and all that stuff. And
40:21
obviously we know that it's different
40:23
for you than if it was a member of your family,
40:25
but it's also, it is somebody you care about
40:29
and it's scary, it's scary
40:31
for us too. And
40:34
we're sorry to have this bad
40:36
news to drop on you,
40:38
but also, you know
40:40
what? Something I've noticed in the last three weeks,
40:42
Hank. I say a sentence
40:45
that's sad. Like
40:47
this is hard, this is hard, this sucks.
40:50
And then I say, but. Yeah.
40:53
But I don't know what's coming after
40:55
I say, but. Yeah, why did I say that? Why
40:58
did I do that? It's like, is
41:00
this an American thing where like they
41:03
raised us to be and probably
41:06
optimistic and hopeful in the face of all things?
41:09
I don't know what it. Well, I think it's just a human
41:11
thing. You don't wanna tell people just bad news. Right,
41:13
you wanna tell them the butt. Yeah,
41:16
if you haven't watched my Vlogbrothers video, you can watch that.
41:18
It's quite, it's, you know, it's about, it's a little over 10
41:21
minutes long and it has
41:23
some of the butts in it, like that Hodgkin's
41:26
lymphoma is one
41:28
of the better cancers if you're gonna get a cancer.
41:32
It's certainly not lucky because
41:34
it's very, it's actually quite rare. Yeah. But.
41:37
It's lucky as these things go. It's lucky
41:39
as these things go. And the,
41:42
you know, I don't know what the treatment journey is
41:44
gonna look like. No one really knows. This
41:47
is the other thing that I have learned is
41:50
that there isn't a lot of comparability
41:52
between stories. Right. Because
41:55
you don't know how treatment's gonna affect you. Yeah. You
41:58
don't know,
41:59
you know, you don't know a lot.
41:59
about how the disease is progressing.
42:02
Yeah. Because you don't get like a PET scan
42:04
every two days, you know? So like
42:07
you're always in situations
42:10
of uncertainty and you're always in situations
42:13
where there's a bunch of
42:15
new stuff that you don't have control over. And,
42:19
and like, we are always in that situation,
42:22
you know, where, you know, control
42:24
is, is always a bit of an illusion.
42:26
Um, things can always
42:29
change very quickly. And, you
42:31
know, I'm glad to know what's wrong. I'm
42:34
glad to know what to do about it. I'm
42:36
glad. I'm very glad
42:38
that like the financial part of this is not stressing
42:40
me out, which it would be for 99% of Americans.
42:45
Right. Um, I'm very glad, uh, to
42:48
have such great support structures. I'm
42:50
very glad that sort of like what
42:52
to do is known, but like what
42:55
it's going to be like is unknown.
42:57
Yeah. People respond very differently to these
42:59
drugs. The side effect profiles
43:02
are very different person to person. The,
43:04
you know, the cancer responds differently in different
43:07
people. It's so like, sometimes it's
43:09
short and sometimes it's long and you
43:11
just
43:13
don't know until you're through. And so like
43:15
the thing that was the
43:17
first thing anybody said to me when it looked like
43:20
I might have cancer was like, you
43:22
need to start seeing this as what's
43:24
going on today.
43:26
And that's it.
43:29
And if you're thinking about what
43:31
might be in six months, don't
43:34
because you don't know, you just have no
43:36
idea what this is going to be like. So
43:39
just take it day to day. And
43:41
it's very hard for me to do, but
43:44
I am better when I'm doing it
43:46
that way.
43:47
Like I do feel better. Yeah. So. Yeah.
43:50
No, I think that that's the right
43:52
approach. And you're right that
43:54
uncertainty is with us all the time.
43:56
And sometimes we can be hard. Like
43:59
I think sometimes.
43:59
Sometimes we can say like, oh, it's
44:02
always an illusion. Like safety, security,
44:04
certainty is always an illusion. And that's true.
44:06
It is always an illusion, but like, it's
44:09
a privilege to be able to take respite
44:11
in that illusion. And sometimes
44:15
in your life, you will not be able to take respite
44:17
in
44:18
that illusion. And
44:21
that's hard. But I
44:24
did it again. You said what? Isn't
44:26
it weird that this is happening? That's
44:29
the other thing. It's very
44:31
weird. It's very weird. It's
44:33
very weird. It's like, I keep, like
44:35
even now, you know, two
44:38
weeks post diagnosis,
44:40
as you're hearing this, I'm
44:42
like in chemo hangover mode.
44:45
I'm still like, but like
44:47
maybe I don't though. Yeah.
44:50
Like it seems like probably like
44:53
it can't be, that can't be really the
44:55
thing. Yeah, right. I mean,
44:57
the whole thing about, yeah, I mean,
45:00
I feel the same way, like
45:02
on a different scale, obviously,
45:04
because it's not happening to me, but
45:08
that same feeling of like,
45:10
oh, weird. Like,
45:13
this is weird. And there is also
45:15
the weirdness of having to talk about it in
45:18
public, which is weird, but
45:20
it would also be weird to not talk about
45:22
it in public. And certainly, I don't know
45:24
about you, Hank, but when I was 25 years
45:26
old and making a commitment to
45:31
have a public life that I did not understand
45:34
that I was making
45:36
with the publication of my first book,
45:39
it did not occur to me
45:41
that I would have
45:44
to live the
45:47
big moments in life in public, or
45:49
to some extent, but
45:51
it also would have felt, I mean, this is something that we
45:54
talked about a lot at the
45:56
very beginning.
45:56
I was like, whatever, if you wanna
45:59
say, we're taking a second.
45:59
sabbatical because we're taking a sabbatical because I
46:02
got overworked, I'd be like, great, fine.
46:05
But that felt off
46:07
to you. Yeah. Yeah, I
46:09
mean, there are people who have done it that
46:12
way and I
46:14
totally respect that choice.
46:16
Yeah, me too. And understand
46:18
it. You know,
46:21
this is weird. There are like parts of it
46:23
that I'm worried about.
46:24
I'm worried about like,
46:26
I don't think that press is gonna
46:28
care that much or be invasive.
46:32
I am a little, like, I don't, you
46:34
know, if you've been through chemo and you've got like
46:36
advice, I will hear it for sure.
46:38
If you've got like, here's how
46:40
you cure cancer without chemo
46:43
I don't
46:43
need to hear the, I'm sure that's what I'm meaning, but
46:46
like, that's not helpful. That's
46:48
not helpful or honestly, it's not
46:50
real. You know, you
46:53
have to face these things with reality
46:55
and with the clear knowledge
46:58
that we have lots of evidence for what works in
47:00
situations like this and what doesn't. Yeah,
47:02
so in conclusion, if you're a hemock doctor
47:05
or you've been through chemo, by all means,
47:07
send us an email at HankandJonatel.com.
47:11
Otherwise. I've been really glad to hear from
47:13
friends
47:13
and to have some friends who've been through it and they're
47:16
like, you know, ask for
47:18
a second blanket and make sure you
47:20
bring a snack. And, you
47:22
know, the nurses like it when you bring cookies, like
47:25
all of that is great. Very
47:27
into that. And also like, you know,
47:29
maybe like I probably should be doing
47:32
some physical activities that I'm
47:34
capable of. So that's also
47:36
something I need to think about. And
47:39
so I, you know, I've been reading the
47:41
subreddits and watching
47:43
the YouTube videos and it's great to have those resources
47:46
for sure. Yeah, but to go back to
47:48
the point, there are aspects of it being
47:50
public that of course
47:52
are concerning and potentially
47:55
challenging. But also
47:58
the relationship that.
47:59
that we've built
48:02
with
48:03
this community is such that over
48:05
the last like 17 years or whatever
48:08
is such that I think for
48:11
both of us, it would be hard not to
48:13
talk about what's going on. Yeah.
48:16
And just disappear. Yeah.
48:18
I mean, I felt bad like canceling those two,
48:21
I had to cancel two college events and it
48:23
was before I had anything definitive. And
48:26
I felt bad just doing that. Yeah.
48:30
I mean, I'm not having a clear reason why. Right. So.
48:34
Right. I do want to address a couple of things
48:36
that I think might come up in response to
48:38
this. First off, like why don't
48:41
you do Dear John and Sarah or
48:43
Dear John and guest host for a few months?
48:46
I think the short answer is because I don't want to.
48:48
At its core, this is a podcast
48:51
where two brothers answer your questions, give
48:53
you dubious advice and bring you all the week's news from
48:55
both Mars and AFC Wimbledon. And I don't really
48:57
want to lose that. I certainly don't want to lose it for
48:59
months. And also unlike
49:02
Hank, I don't know that I have the capacity
49:05
to do all this stuff well. And
49:07
so that's the other reason. The
49:10
same may go for Vlogbrothers videos. I have
49:13
no idea. Yeah. And, but
49:16
it's, you know, it's Vlogbrothers. Like
49:18
that's what
49:18
it's always been. Yeah, I think that. Yeah,
49:21
I totally agree. And I, like
49:23
that's what I want and it shouldn't matter. Nothing
49:25
else should matter right now. Yeah,
49:28
yeah. And so that's
49:30
a great card to be able to play. And,
49:34
you know,
49:34
I also want to keep making
49:36
videos. They might
49:38
look different in one way or another and
49:41
they might be more infrequent.
49:45
And I don't know. And maybe there won't be any, but
49:47
like where I'm at right now, I
49:49
like making YouTube videos and it's easy
49:51
not to brag,
49:54
but I know how to do it. When you've done something 1400
49:57
times, it's
49:59
easier than it is.
49:59
that it used to be, that's for sure. It's way
50:02
easier for you than it is for me. Every time I
50:04
see your workflow, I'm just like, oh, that's
50:06
how he does it in three hours
50:08
instead of 10. But yeah,
50:11
I mean, my feeling about that is basically
50:13
like, if you call me and tell me you wanna do a podcast,
50:16
we'll make a podcast. And if you call me and tell
50:18
me you're gonna make a Vlogbrothers video on Friday, I'll
50:20
make one on the Tuesday before and the Tuesday
50:23
after or something like that. But like, no,
50:25
I don't think anybody, I honestly, Hank,
50:27
I don't think anybody feels wants
50:30
us to feel, like I don't think anybody is putting pressure
50:32
on us to do that stuff except for us. Yeah,
50:35
and I only wanna do it if it feels
50:37
good. And like editing a video
50:39
is very meditative for me and it is very
50:42
comfortable. It's the best. And
50:44
like recording it.
50:45
Kinda sucks. And writing it is
50:48
the bigger question. Like to what extent am I
50:50
gonna be, like am I gonna
50:52
be interested or able? Yeah. And the
50:54
other thing that if I don't feel like
50:56
recording and editing a video, I have
50:58
thought about whether we could just do like some newsletter
51:01
updates. Yeah. So we, the Dernfighteria
51:03
newsletter, you can find the link to that in the Vlogbrothers video
51:07
and sign up for that if you wanna get updates and
51:09
stuff. And that'll
51:11
be, at least be a point of contact. Can
51:14
I tell them about
51:15
how you tried to launch another, gosh
51:17
darn. I think, still think this is a good idea. Business
51:20
venture in the midst of this. Well, yeah,
51:22
sure. I flipped my lid. You
51:25
didn't like, John didn't like it. Oh my God, I'm
51:27
still mad. I gave up on that one immediately.
51:30
As soon as I saw the way that
51:32
you had interpreted it, I was like, yeah you were.
51:34
Everybody was gonna, it wasn't gonna be just me. Yeah.
51:39
But yeah, so like I read
51:41
an early draft of Hank's video and
51:43
Hank's video is so beautiful.
51:45
It's so great.
51:48
You did a good job.
51:49
You're doing a good job. But
51:52
the first draft, it was also great.
51:54
It was beautiful. Except at the end,
51:57
you know how like at the end of every YouTube video,
51:59
like every.
51:59
every really effective YouTube video, there's a call
52:02
to action. Like, like and subscribe,
52:04
or please donate to this
52:07
cause, or buy
52:10
awesome coffee at awesomecoffeeclub.com. More
52:13
necessary than ever. Whatever
52:15
it is. Hank's call
52:17
to action at the end of the dang video
52:19
was, I don't know how many Vlogbrothers
52:22
videos I'm gonna be making, but I'm starting up
52:24
a new business. It's a newsletter.
52:27
It's a newsletter business. It says sign
52:29
up for my brand new newsletter.
52:32
And I was like, if you do that,
52:34
if you start, if you reset, if
52:37
you reset the clock on
52:40
how long has it been since Hank Green started
52:42
a thing, after,
52:45
just after getting diagnosed with cancer,
52:47
like everyone is gonna be as mad
52:50
as I am. Yeah, I mean, I was just thinking
52:52
a fresh, a nice fresh newsletter with,
52:55
you know, for. We got a news, we
52:57
got a newsletter. We have a newsletter
52:59
and it's great. It is good. It
53:01
provides a high quality newsletter
53:03
experience to
53:04
its tens of thousands of subscribers.
53:07
The last thing we need is a new thing. That's
53:09
a good point. Thank you. Yeah,
53:11
so you won that one. I'm also
53:14
doing a good job. You are doing a good
53:16
job, thank you. I think that's, and
53:18
you know what? Everybody out there listening, you
53:20
are doing a good job. That's all we want.
53:23
And we don't care how you're feeling really.
53:26
No, we do, but we don't wanna put
53:28
pressure on you to answer it. You'll let us know.
53:31
Yeah, well, I mean, whatever
53:34
way you're feeling is normal, this is a very strange
53:36
situation for sure. And
53:39
you know, it's been helpful for me to
53:42
have folks be like all these, all
53:44
the different directions your mind is running in, it's all
53:47
normal and it's all common
53:49
and. Yeah, and
53:51
everybody's gonna bring their own stuff to it, because
53:54
so many people who are listening
53:55
to this are cancer survivors or love a cancer
53:58
survivor or lost somebody. to cancer.
54:00
And so everybody's going
54:02
to bring their own particular
54:05
memories or experiences to
54:07
this and co-mingle that with
54:10
this experience that we're having. So
54:13
we also like just, I think it's
54:17
so individual. And so all
54:19
we can really do is make space for that.
54:22
The last thing I want, there is no news from Mars
54:24
and AFC Wimbledon this week. Not as far as
54:26
we know. Literally. Not
54:31
just that we don't want to talk about it. I don't think anything
54:33
happened. But I do
54:35
want to say that
54:37
in advance of feeling it,
54:39
because we haven't felt it yet, because as we're
54:42
recording this, not that many people know. We're
54:44
very grateful for your
54:48
support, your generosity,
54:50
your understanding. And
54:53
I don't know if I'll make an Esther Day
54:55
video this year on August 18th,
55:00
but Hank, I love you so
55:02
much. I admire you so much.
55:05
This has been a hard, hard thing for
55:07
you to go through already, but
55:10
I admire the way that you're
55:12
going through it with integrity,
55:14
with curiosity,
55:16
seeking to
55:18
learn and opening
55:21
yourself up to the hard
55:24
feelings as well. So
55:26
yeah, I
55:28
just like you a lot. Thanks.
55:33
I like you too, John. I
55:36
wasn't thinking about you. I was thinking about me. I'd
55:38
be selfish in that moment. No,
55:41
I appreciate those kind words though, Hank. Thank you. Oh
55:47
man. Yeah, so thanks for coming to our lymphoma
55:49
spectacular. Yep. Thanks
55:52
for making a podcast with me, John. Thanks.
55:55
Thanks for, to everybody who sent in their question. Sorry
55:58
we didn't answer any. I was doing a.
55:59
Okay, until you said, thanks for making a podcast
56:02
with me. And then I
56:04
got real emotional.
56:06
That's weird. I know. All
56:08
the things. I know, it's like when I didn't cry
56:10
at my high school graduation until I saw
56:13
this kid, I didn't know. And
56:15
I was like, I'm never gonna see that kid again.
56:17
And by the way, I haven't. And there's
56:20
just something, yeah, there's something, you know, little moments
56:22
where you just realize like how much you have to be
56:24
grateful for.
56:25
Like I'm just so, I'm so glad that we've been able to
56:27
make so many podcasts together. And
56:30
I look forward to making many more.
56:33
I'm okay actually with extending the hiatus
56:35
until
56:37
say like January of 2027.
56:40
Wow.
56:42
Wow. Yeah. Just
56:45
debuting Dear John and Hank, our
56:48
new hip podcast. I also like, it's funny that
56:50
you, I have to say this. It's funny
56:53
that you, when I proposed the idea
56:55
of a newsletter that I might use if
56:57
I felt like it, which is how I phrased
56:59
it. Yeah. That you were like, that
57:01
is, you cannot do that. But when
57:04
I said to you, maybe this will give
57:06
us some time to work on that book project
57:08
that we would like to maybe do together, you
57:10
were like, yeah.
57:11
You
57:14
were very excited about that. Yeah, okay,
57:16
all right.
57:17
Do you not see
57:19
the, I thought we were in the conclusion phase
57:21
of the podcast, but I guess not. Everybody
57:24
stopped listening when they
57:26
thought we were wrapping up, but it turns out that we
57:28
had a whole other bit to get to.
57:31
Do you not, and this is a genuine
57:33
question. Like I'm not asking
57:36
this rhetorically.
57:37
It may sound like I'm asking it rhetorically, but
57:39
that's only because I'm frustrated. Do
57:42
you not see the difference
57:44
between starting a new thing
57:46
that is open-ended, has no
57:49
shape and may last forever
57:52
and writing a book? Yeah,
57:54
I guess I do. Okay,
57:57
that's great. I'm super encouraged that
57:59
you.
57:59
see the difference between those two kinds
58:02
of projects. I probably should see
58:06
that different shape more often. I
58:08
love a thing that ends. Yeah. Hank
58:11
loves an open-ended commitment. And God,
58:13
thank God, because otherwise we might not have made
58:15
an open-ended commitment to Partners in Health, we might
58:18
not have made an open-ended commitment to Vlogbrothers
58:20
and Dear Hank and John and lots of other stuff, but let's
58:23
all hail some
58:26
things ending, you know? Like
58:29
this book
58:29
that we're hopefully gonna write together with
58:32
all your, with
58:34
all of, yeah. All the energy I'm gonna
58:36
have over the next few months. But the hope
58:39
is that that's not an obligation. Exactly.
58:41
It's just like whenever you feel like it, you can write
58:43
me, you still haven't written me anything.
58:46
So like, and that's fine. Yeah, I was just looking on
58:48
it. No rush, man. And
58:50
if it never happens, that's good too. Yeah.
58:53
Zero deadlines, that's the difference. It's like
58:55
no deadlines, no open-endedness. If it happens,
58:58
it'll happen in an end. And if it doesn't
58:59
happen, nobody ever has to know about it. Except
59:02
for all these people who do now know that
59:04
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59:07
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59:09
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