Sometimes you only find out you and your partner have dramatically different perspectives after disaster strikes. It’s hard enough to cope with a dog cancer diagnosis on your own; when you also fight with your most important person, the trouble triples.Social worker Jeannine Moga has spent fifteen years in veterinary hospitals helping animal lovers with difficult decisions of all kinds, from how to handle veterinary expenses to when to choose euthanasia.Host Molly Jacobson is joined by special co-host (and her husband) James Jacobson. They discuss tough times and how to handle them with wise help from Jeannine Moga.Links Mentioned in Today’s Show:How to Meditate with Your Dog by James Jacobson is available in audiobook: https://www.audible.com/pd/How-to-Meditate-with-Your-Dog-Audiobook/B0095YSGRGPodcast about How to Be There for Your Dog at the End with Lori Levine on The Long Leash https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z6Fz8IJaqzMPodcast about moral injury with Dr. Nathan Peterson: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mD6h1xvMxFQPodcast about How to Think About Dog Cancer Expenses with Dr. Lauren Barrow: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EMH4VNBGcSk&t=667sPodcast about How to Know When to Euthanize Your Dog with Dr. Demian Dressler: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7dj7ajAPhL0Article about Meet the Heroes Who Fight Dog Cancer Without a Veterinary License https://www.dogcancer.com/articles/building-your-team/meet-the-heroes-who-fight-dog-cancer-without-a-veterinary-license/Article with Questions to Ask Your Vet About Dog Cancer https://www.dogcancer.com/articles/building-your-team/questions-to-ask-your-vet-about-dog-cancer/The Dog Cancer Survival Guide: Full Spectrum Treatments to Optimize Your Dog’s Life Quality and Longevity by Demian Dressler, DVM and Susan Ettinger, DVM, Dip. ACVIM (Oncology) is available everywhere books are sold and on https://dogcancerbook.comOur dog cancer support group is on Facebook at https://facebook.com/groups/dogcancersupportCall +1 808-868-3200 to leave a question on our Listener Line for a future show!Related Links:Article about Dealing with People Who Don’t Understand Dog Cancer https://www.dogcancer.com/articles/stress-and-finances/people-who-dont-understand/Article about Dog Cancer Support and Grief Groups https://www.dogcancer.com/articles/stress-and-finances/dog-cancer-support-and-grief-groups/Article about How to Find a Counselor https://www.dogcancer.com/articles/stress-and-finances/how-to-find-a-counselor/Article about The Four Budgets outlined by Lap of Love https://www.dogcancer.com/articles/stress-and-finances/four-budgets/Article about Pets Are Family https://www.dogcancer.com/articles/stress-and-finances/pets-are-family/Article about Keeping a Journal https://www.dogcancer.com/articles/building-your-team/keeping-a-journal/Chapters:00:00 Start00:45 Introducing James Jacobson, Co-host01:44 Jeannine Moga’s background in veterinary hospital settings04:50 Disagreeing during times of crisis due to different perspectives05:15 Maui’s end of life and letting go of her07:44 Euthanasia and a misalignment of values08:30 Guilt and how it warps your thinking10:12 Role of veterinary staff during a crisis12:15 Getting perspective and then coming back with your questions13:30 Taking notes about the situation14:35 Take a friend or support person15:55 Getting to yes by starting small17:20 Financial disagreements and how to handle them18:40 Euthanasia discussions21:20 Moral injury: what you need to know23:30 Upset feelings and how to deal with them26:33 Anticipatory grief as a marker of love and how to handle it29:14 Finding support for your grieving30:15 Jeannine Moga’s final words of wisdom about the privilege of hard times--Get to know today's guest, Jeannine Moga, MA, MSW: https://www.dogcancer.com/people/jeannine-moga-ma-msw/For more details, articles, podcast episodes, and quality education, go to the episode page: https://www.dogcancer.com/podcast/Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices