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Hi, this is Sophia Karpman, host of Dream Big Podcast Show, a

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place to learn, laugh, and grow. Big Dreamers, today we're tackling a tricky topic, jealousy in friendships.

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It's something we've all felt at a point, but it can also be tough to talk about.

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Jealousy can sneak in our friendships and cause all sorts of problems, especially

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when one friend feels left out or threatened by the bond between two others.

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We're here to help you understand why jealousy happens.

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And give you some tips on how to handle it.

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Exploring these feelings, we can build stronger, more caring friendships.

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This is episode 408 of the Dream Big Podcast, and it's time to dream big!

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Welcome to the Dream Big Podcast show.

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We're inspiring you to shoot for the moons they came and go.

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We bring to you amazing guests who truly love what they do.

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Every day they're living their dreams, and so can you.

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Dream big! Take action to reach your goals.

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Are you pumped yet? It's showtime. Let's rock and roll.

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Big Dreamers, today I want to tell you about something I saw happen at school.

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These are three friends in my school. Let's call them Mia, Sam, and Lily.

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They always played together and they had so much fun.

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But one day I noticed that Mia and Lily were spending lots

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of time together without Sam.

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Big Dreamers. They were playing games at recess and sitting together at lunch, and

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Sam started looking really sad.

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One afternoon, I saw Sam talking to Mia.

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Sam was upset and said, I don't want you to play with Lily anymore.

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I feel left out. Mia looked surprised and didn't know what to say.

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Big dreamers, have you ever even saw something like this?

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It's not a good feeling to be left out, right?

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Sometimes it happens. Sometimes we get scared that our friends might be liking somebody more than us.

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Today we're going to talk about why we feel this way and how we can handle it.

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So nobody feels left out. So why do we feel jealous sometimes?

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Well, jealousy often comes from the feeling of insecure or afraid that we

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might lose someone important to us. When we see our friends getting close to someone else, it can make us worry

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that they like a person more than us.

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This can make us feel threatened and scared that we might be left out.

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Let's think about Sam's situation. Sam might feel threatened or insecure about Mia's friendship with Lily, because

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Sam worries that Mia might start liking Lily more and spending less time with Sam.

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Sam might be afraid that Mia and Lily will have more fun together

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and leave Sam out of their plans.

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These feelings are natural, but if they aren't talked about,

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they can cause a lot of problems.

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When jealousy creeps into a friendship, it can have some pretty negative effects.

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Friends might start arguing more. Or they might feel hurt and confused.

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Sometimes jealousy can even cause us friends to stop talking to each other.

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Here are a few ways jealousy can hurt friendships.

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First, jealousy can lead to arguments and misunderstandings.

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If Sam starts to feel jealous but doesn't talk about it, Sam might get angry with

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Mia and Lily without explaining it. Second, when friends don't understand why someone is feeling jealous,

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they might feel hurt and confused.

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Mia might not understand why Sam doesn't want Mia to play with Lily, which can

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lead to hurt feelings on all sides.

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Third, in some cases jealousy can cause friends to drift apart or

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even stop being friends altogether.

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If the jealousy isn't addressed, Sam, Mia, and Lily might all

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end up feeling hurt and alone. So what can Sam do to handle these feelings in a healthy way?

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Here are some tips. Talk about it.

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Sam should try to talk to Mia about how she's feeling instead

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of saying don't play with Lily. Sam could say, I feel left out when you play with Lily without me.

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This way, Mia understands how Sam feels without her feeling blamed or attacked.

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Include everyone. Sam should try to include Lily in their activities too.

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Instead of just seeing Lily as a threat, Sam could try to see Lily as a new friend.

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This way, all three can have fun together.

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Sam, Mia, and Lily could find activities they all enjoy.

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By doing these things together, they can have strength in their friendship

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and make sure everybody feels included.

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Spend time together. Sam could also suggest spending some time with Mia one on one.

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This way, Sam can feel reassured about their friendship and have a

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chance to talk about their feelings.

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It's really important for friends to talk openly and honestly with each other.

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When we share our feelings, we can help understand friends better.

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This can make our friendship stronger and help us avoid misunderstandings.

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By talking about jealousy and finding ways to include everyone, we can make

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sure our friends feel valued and happy.

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So remember that it's okay to feel jealous sometimes, but it's important to talk

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about finding ways to include everyone by being honest and understanding.

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We can't keep our friendship strong and make no one feel left out.

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And here's a challenge for you this week.

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Next time you see a friend left out, try to include them in what you're doing.

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Whether it's inviting them to play a game, join your group at lunch,

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or work on a project together. Find a way to make everyone feel welcome.

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Then, come back and tell us how it went.

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We'd love to hear your stories and ideas on how to handle jealousy and

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make sure all friends feel valued.

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You can email my mom to olga at dreambigpodcasts.

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com or find us on social media by searching Dream Big Podcast.

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With Sophia Cartman. Make sure to subscribe to our YouTube channels and as always, all the links

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will be down below in description to this podcast, remember you can always

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find our show notes at dreambigpodcast. com slash 408.

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That's all for today, big dreamers.

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This is Sophia Cartman, reminding you that you have unlimited potential.

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Your dreams are not optional, you need to make them essential.

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So take massive action, turn those big dreams into reality.

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Live with passion the way life was meant to be.

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See you in the next episode. Dream big, take action to reach your goals.

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Are you pumped yet? It's showtime, let's rock and roll.

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Thanks for listening, and keep dreaming