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3:40

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3:45

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3:47

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3:51

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3:53

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3:55

edition. I know I said I

3:57

wasn't gonna do another solo podcast.

4:00

But the fucking podcast place was booked up. They've been

4:02

booked up for two fucking weeks. I'm

4:04

sorry, I shouldn't be cursing this much in the beginning. I'm

4:06

trying to be peace-prepared this year. So

4:08

number one, according to Jesus Christ, pray

4:11

for you. Everybody should

4:13

come here. Everybody relax.

4:15

Jesus loves you. Unless you are

4:17

a gay sinner, then Jesus, Jesus,

4:19

Jesus don't like you because nobody

4:22

like a person who like a

4:24

penis, too much. Lesbian is okay.

4:26

So number one, Caesar time, very

4:28

nice. I like a sound when a pussy

4:31

hit a pussy. If

4:35

this is your first time listening to this podcast,

4:37

I apologize, I'm a very crass human being. But

4:41

normally we don't do solo podcasts, but

4:43

once again, there's no studio space. And

4:45

I have about a few more sessions there and

4:48

it's booked out. But I don't

4:50

know, we're gonna see what's up, man. How

4:52

have all of you been? Has

4:55

it been a good week? And if

4:57

it hasn't been a good week, listen, that's

4:59

just some shit that we go through every

5:01

now and then. Listen, on

5:03

the way here, so this past weekend, I

5:07

went to Vegas for some business reasons and

5:09

also for some pleasure. I went with my

5:11

wife and every

5:13

time I'm in Vegas, I always stay at my

5:15

buddy Bart's place, right? And

5:17

I think that during these

5:20

solo podcasts, I do want to take the

5:22

time to answer questions that

5:24

people have, whether it's about your personal

5:26

life, whether it's about things that you

5:28

are curious about, that I'm curious about

5:30

in terms of my thoughts. So

5:32

let's go ahead and dive into that. First

5:34

of all, before we start this off, I do want to

5:36

say this, right? When

5:39

you take advice or I wouldn't even

5:41

say advice, suggestions from social media people,

5:44

just know that we're not shit. We

5:46

know absolutely fucking nothing and we

5:48

are only drawing the

5:50

things that we're saying from our

5:52

personal life experiences. Don't take it for truth,

5:54

don't even take it for fact. Even if

5:56

we say facts, do your own research, right?

5:59

Take... Weeping with a grain of salt

6:01

I think one of the things that

6:03

I'm a lot of people mistakenly do

6:06

not just for social media people purchase

6:08

with people in your life in general.

6:10

When you ask somebody for advice you

6:12

take everything that they say to heart

6:14

and you think and then you will

6:16

immediately appliance. I don't think that's what

6:18

you should do, I just realized I

6:20

don't have any pass on armed sorts

6:23

med. Move past that if you

6:25

could see my dick on the spot. Guess I Pods

6:27

are blurred ups, but. When

6:30

you take advice from social media, people write.

6:34

A lot of the times when

6:36

people make videos it's is mainly

6:38

based around content so. I

6:41

genuinely don't believe that most people have

6:43

your best interest in mind. I'm and

6:45

so when they get these thoughts out,

6:47

the thinking about content first rather than

6:50

having the advice or the life or

6:52

experience be a clickable to you to

6:54

you So. Even. When you

6:56

listen and you try to learn things

6:58

from me, remember I'm a fucking idiots,

7:00

take ten percent of what I say

7:02

and process it for yourself. And the

7:04

reason why you should do that is

7:07

because. Make. When.

7:09

You hear this advice, and if you're that purse not

7:11

that that applies to one hundred percent in your life,

7:13

you tend to get disappointed. The person they gave you

7:15

the advice. You know what you said. It was gonna

7:18

work out this way and it fucking did it. You

7:20

don't know anything else. You don't know anything at all.

7:23

Which may be true or you could take

7:25

the person responsibility, say hey, I'm an adult,

7:27

I'm a human being and so I knew

7:29

that pick and choose what I like since

7:31

and try to apply in the way that

7:33

I can. So when you listen to this

7:35

podcast and I tell you these things I'm

7:37

not saying this is as old Cards. Or

7:39

as cold hard facts I might tell you

7:41

that you should apply this to your life.

7:44

I'm only giving you a snippets of what

7:46

I've experienced and see if he can apply

7:48

to you right? at. One of the biggest

7:50

mistakes that I've made a early on and

7:52

social media was when I was younger. I

7:54

was say things so matter of factly as

7:57

if it applied to every once and it

7:59

really doesn't. There.

8:01

Are certain things that happen your life in very

8:03

specific sequences that allow you to come to the

8:05

conclusion that you have another keep one experience? That's

8:08

so when I used to do this like section

8:10

where I would answer these questions or give you

8:12

guys lie spice I wouldn't give you this disclaimer.

8:14

So let me just give you this is foot

8:16

Disclaimer: Social media people are fucking stupid. We.

8:19

Don't know what the fuck were talking about for

8:21

me. Now that I'm older i'm in my mid thirties.

8:23

I feel like I have more life experience to give

8:25

an arms have been able to sit and think

8:27

about the things that want to talk about soaps.

8:29

Ah I think I am in a better position of

8:32

my life where hopefully the things that I say can

8:34

affect you in a positive way and if it

8:36

hurts your feelings. I'd I also kill fucks the

8:38

house. So

8:40

what are the biggest questions that I constantly

8:42

get in my Dm to? There's usually a

8:45

lot as a lot of are reporting once

8:47

I'm it's how to develop friendships right? Because

8:49

a lot of people C d friendships that

8:51

I have online max don't share a lot

8:54

about them like you rarely see me post

8:56

about my wife. You rarely see me post

8:58

about my really close friends because I'm kind

9:01

of busy experiencing the great experiences with them

9:03

rather than thinking about what post on going

9:05

to make after having a good time is

9:07

because probably one of my biggest pet. Peeves

9:10

with a lot of creators is that armed.

9:12

If you hang out with a lotta you

9:14

to personalize social media people you will be

9:16

having a really fun good times and they'll

9:18

stop the moment and will be like hey,

9:20

can we read Do this again of a.

9:22

Live in My best live as I've omitted

9:24

up as long as a not time the

9:26

fuck would do. I'm never my best that.

9:30

And that's an issue that they go back to

9:32

the phone of the quietest. but I don't do

9:34

that shit of I'm having a good time, I'm

9:36

having a good time. So if you're asking me

9:39

like how to make good friends, this is a

9:41

very interesting topic because you know, grown up for

9:43

me I'm. Making

9:45

friends was actually really hard. On.

9:49

Because. I

9:52

just didn't fit in anywhere. Whether

9:54

it was because I didn't wear the

9:56

clothes close. To

9:58

the really make eye contact. I spoke to

10:01

people. I have a lot of lot

10:03

of social fucking anxiety. Ah, I was

10:05

socially awkward. There are a plethora of

10:07

reasons why nobody wanted to be my

10:09

friend and I understand because if I

10:11

went back in time, I wouldn't be.

10:13

My friend even exists but have. You

10:17

know, he got to a certain point where. I.

10:19

Remember, like even high school right?

10:23

I think I always kind of stuck out

10:25

a little bit. I was kind of not

10:27

obnoxious, very loud, very opinionated about stupid things.

10:29

I probably shouldn't have been butts. My goal

10:32

in life was just always make people laugh

10:34

so I you know sometimes away hit, sometimes

10:36

a wooded. And.

10:41

When you grow up as a person

10:43

who is very. Solidified

10:46

in who they are and they want to

10:48

stick to that person. Stewart, You're going to

10:50

stick out and it actually becomes very, very

10:52

fucking lonely. When.

10:54

You stick to your ideals and

10:56

your morals and you won't waiver

10:58

on them. Is gonna be hard

11:00

to make friends immediately in the

11:02

first place, especially in high school.

11:04

especially when you're young because as

11:06

much people say that they like

11:08

Independence Day, spittle like to go

11:10

with the flow or the crowd.

11:12

Yeah, you fucking do. You. Love

11:14

it. You know why? Because it's the easier

11:17

path and there's nothing wrong with that is

11:19

easier to follow. A pack is easier to

11:21

like, the music that everybody else like likes

11:23

is easier to to like the food that

11:25

everybody else likes and is very hard to

11:28

disagree with people Because beat a disagreeable person

11:30

means that you are somebody that likes to

11:32

cause trouble and sometimes. Some

11:36

rooms you want to enjoy the things

11:38

that you enjoy. You want to be

11:40

yourself because. As

11:42

a cost. Sometimes

11:44

you when the been very very lonely because

11:46

people will push suicide and will treat you

11:48

like a fucking outcasts and I felt like

11:51

that for a good portion of my life.

11:53

Now let me tell you when they started

11:55

changing for me. when

11:57

I was in high school on. Obviously

12:01

Thatcher the asian dude sick all glasses

12:03

because I had terrible visions are my

12:05

eyes were so fucking bad. If you

12:07

put asked about maybe an inch and

12:10

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12:12

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12:14

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12:16

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12:18

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12:20

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12:22

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12:24

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12:27

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12:42

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12:44

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12:47

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12:49

whole life are being blind as fuck as

12:51

a kid. What the

12:53

fuck was I ah them up? Oh

12:55

yes, in high school this there was

12:57

his moments. Where

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have to keep up these lies and these

17:36

stories over and over and over

17:38

again And it starts to wear out on

17:40

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17:43

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17:47

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17:56

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always switch up the the gender, I switch up the names, I

18:00

switch up details here and there, but I try to get the

18:03

heart of the story and like 80% of it is true. That's

18:06

also very fucking hard to do. So when you hear these

18:08

stories, you're gonna hear little things flip up here and there.

18:11

And that's also like artistic integrity and stuff like

18:13

that. But every

18:15

day when I tried to do that in high school, it was

18:17

so fucking hard. And I remember I had this moment where I'm

18:19

just like, you know what? It

18:21

was my senior year of high school. And I was like,

18:24

I don't care anymore. I'm

18:26

not gonna be going to the school anymore. And if

18:28

anything else, I'll be leaving here. So let me just

18:31

live my life the way that I want to. And

18:34

so I joined choir. I did

18:36

like community service stuff. I started singing more.

18:38

I started diving more into the arts and

18:40

I started becoming more into my feelings. I

18:43

asked out the girl that I liked for like

18:45

four years and I just didn't care anymore.

18:48

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18:50

the fuck I was doing. They're like, yo, this

18:52

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18:56

felt very comfortable in my skin and

18:58

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19:01

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19:03

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19:11

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have to be the foundation of what it is to

19:34

be a good friend first to yourself before

19:37

you find other people in your life that you can

19:39

create those bonds with. If

19:41

you are, if your foundation is shaky

19:43

as an individual, who do you

19:45

think you are to bring other people into your world? It's

19:47

pure chaos. People don't

19:49

trust people who are flaky like that. You

19:52

know, I think like with me too, and I've

19:54

spoke about this a little bit, but I even

19:56

dislike it when people just go along with everything

19:58

that I say. Not all the time. And

20:00

I'm not telling you that I like being around people who like

20:02

to argue, but I like people

20:05

who like to make choices and are solidified in

20:07

the things that they enjoy. And

20:09

even then, sometimes for me right now, it's a little

20:11

weird, right? For other people, not so

20:13

much for me. And I joke about this, so just to go back

20:15

to the whole Vegas thing. Like the

20:17

last time I was in Vegas with my friends, they

20:19

were talking about the steakhouse called Peter Lugers. And

20:23

Peter Lugers, if you guys don't know,

20:25

is a classic steakhouse. And years ago,

20:28

what Peter Lugers was doing, and I agree with

20:30

my buddy Rob, and he and I talked about

20:32

this, is that Peter Lugers did something very great

20:34

for steakhouses. New York people

20:36

love it, they swear by it. But

20:38

by today's standards, a lot of steakhouses have kind

20:40

of taken what they've done and improved on it

20:43

and have refined what they do. And for

20:45

me, I like Peter Lugers, but I'm

20:47

not a big fan of it. So they all wanted to go

20:49

eat at Peter Lugers. I know the price tag on it, and

20:51

I know other places that I like better than it. So

20:54

I think it's very whatever, and let's

20:56

try some other spots out. And

20:59

so I kind of mentioned that, hey, you

21:01

guys can go eat there, and then I'll go

21:03

eat somewhere else with

21:05

me and my wife, and

21:07

then we can meet up after. So I make

21:09

these choices. And I think for them, by

21:11

the way, they weren't upset or anything, but they're just like, oh,

21:13

why do you want to leave the group? Like we got to

21:15

stick together, like I miss you. It

21:17

all comes from a great place, which number one, it feels

21:20

great because they want to spend time with us. And

21:24

I think most people in that situation would have just been

21:26

like, okay, let's just go there. Let's just

21:28

go eat there, even if I don't like it. For me,

21:30

I chose the route of

21:32

honesty and how I feel, and I gave an

21:34

option that was outside of me just going to

21:36

eat there and not enjoying my time. I

21:39

said, hey, I want to go somewhere, even if

21:41

they didn't agree with it, which they weren't pushing

21:43

on it. This is all just fun talk.

21:45

But those are the type of things that this is the

21:47

type of like behavior that I developed over time, which is

21:50

like, I got to stick to who I am and what

21:52

I enjoy. I don't want to sit there and lie to

21:54

people and tell somebody I enjoy something when I don't because

21:56

it feels very dishonest. And once again, even

21:58

if I have to go eat. away from them

22:00

and do my own thing for a bit, which

22:02

can be lonely. At the end of

22:04

the day, it ends up being that I am

22:07

a stronger person at the end of it. Right.

22:09

Because I stuck with these choices. And guess what?

22:11

I also found a group of people that accept

22:13

that as well. I developed strong friendships because I

22:16

developed a strong relationship with myself. First,

22:19

these people don't have to second guess my

22:21

motives. They don't have to second guess

22:23

who I am. When I say things that are out of pocket,

22:25

they almost expect this out of me because this is who I

22:27

am as a person. I don't change

22:30

who I am based on who

22:32

I am around to a certain

22:34

extent. Right. Of course, we all code switch here

22:36

and there. We do things to make people more

22:38

more comfortable in social situations. But the essence of

22:41

who I am will never, ever change. When I

22:43

was younger, I was lonely because of it. I

22:46

know it's like it's a very weird or hard

22:48

concept to understand for people, because

22:50

sometimes people think that you're being very combative.

22:53

But that's really not the case. And everything

22:55

comes with nuance. Right. Yes. If

22:57

the whole group is down to go eat somewhere and

22:59

there aren't really much choices, yeah, I'll be down to

23:01

go. And it's not going to be a problem. I

23:04

won't be upset. That's just one example. But

23:08

because they know who I am, they know that

23:10

I'm going to do these things. They get me.

23:12

And I'm just very honest about it. I

23:15

found great bonds with Bart and Joe over

23:17

time and you know how I met them.

23:19

And we talked about this on the podcast.

23:23

We met at the San Diego Asian Film Festival. And

23:25

when we met each other, we kind of sparked it

23:27

off. We had a lot of jokes. The interaction was

23:29

really great. That's because they were also very solid human

23:31

beings. And I knew that I didn't have to second

23:33

guess who they are every time I met them. There's

23:37

somebody in my life right now that I

23:40

don't personally like, but I have to be around them

23:42

for certain reasons. And

23:44

they're exhausting because every time I see them, here's

23:47

a big sign of somebody who's very like

23:49

dishonest. You ever see somebody that you've met

23:52

multiple times, but they treat you like they've

23:56

just met you for the first time. Do

24:00

you know what I mean? It's like if you

24:02

have a good bond and a good friendship with somebody, they

24:04

kind of treat you like shit a little bit, right? They

24:06

just go, hey, what's up, how are you? What's up, you

24:08

little bitch or whatever. I don't know how your friends are.

24:10

But this person that I meet always is

24:12

that agreeable, likable person that always greets me like they've never

24:14

met me before and I fucking hate it. And that's why

24:16

we'll never really open up to each other. And that's why

24:18

we'll never really be good friends.

24:22

I now have a great group of friends and

24:24

I had it even in Sacramento because once

24:27

again, I made the right choice of choosing

24:29

me first. Friendship

24:33

is very tricky. And

24:38

it's a relationship that I don't think a lot

24:41

of people understand how much work it takes, right?

24:43

Because when we talk about work in

24:45

relationships, we usually only talk about it with

24:48

significant others. But with your friendship, it

24:50

also takes a lot of effort too. Like

24:53

have you ever had a friend that

24:57

constantly takes and gives nothing back? Right.

25:02

And the worst part about friendships like this

25:05

is that in the beginning, you don't realize

25:07

that you two aren't really good friends. You

25:11

actually start becoming a, the

25:14

position in your life, the

25:16

position that you have in their life, I mean, is

25:19

mentorship and student. You

25:23

are the teacher, they are the mentee.

25:25

Like is mentee the word? But

25:28

basically you're mentoring them through all their life troubles. And

25:30

these people kind of take

25:32

all the life force out of you. And at

25:34

first you think it's a really good friendship because

25:37

this person is confiding in you, they

25:39

trust you with all their personal information, whenever they

25:41

have a problem, they come to you. But

25:43

then you start to realize that when

25:45

you have a problem and you try

25:48

to confide in them, they have absolutely

25:50

nothing to offer. They

25:52

are what we call people who

25:54

use you as emotional tampons. You absorb all

25:56

their fucking shit and they just toss you

25:58

in the trash. this is

26:00

not a good friendship at all, right?

26:03

And you don't realize this. And the reason why

26:05

you don't realize this is because sometimes for us

26:07

when we give, people who are sound, when we

26:09

give advice or we give suggestions, we feel a

26:11

certain way. We feel good when we could help

26:13

somebody out. But then after a

26:15

while you start to realize that that well

26:17

runs really fucking dry real soon. And then

26:20

you start to realize that you are just

26:22

there to theriapize them and you have nothing

26:24

to gain in the friendship. I'm not talking

26:26

about monetary gains. I'm not talking about social

26:28

clout. I'm talking about these emotional benefits, these

26:30

bonds that you create. It's

26:33

really hard to create an equal bond with somebody

26:36

when you are the person who is in a

26:38

superior position, constantly giving them advice

26:40

at all times. And then they start

26:42

developing this habit of

26:44

becoming something I call an asshole. You're

26:47

what an asshole is. An asshole is

26:49

somebody who constantly comes to you for

26:51

advice for the same fucking problems only

26:54

to hear themselves talk but not apply any of

26:56

it in their lives. And I'm not saying

26:58

that you should always give somebody advice

27:00

when they're going through problems. Sometimes you're there just

27:02

to listen. Sometimes you're there just to shut

27:05

the fuck up and hear them talk about the problem.

27:07

But when it becomes incessant, when they

27:09

keep bringing up the same problems over and

27:11

over and over again and nothing changes, the

27:14

only thing that happens is you end

27:16

up walking away stressed and they feel

27:18

better momentarily because they got to blurt

27:20

out all this bullshit. They become the

27:23

asshole, you are now drained and what

27:25

the fuck has become of your friendship?

27:27

There has never been a friendship in

27:29

the first place. You

27:33

have mentored them. You

27:35

are not equals at all

27:37

whatsoever. And we've gone through this and even

27:40

in my own personal circles, right? Where we've

27:42

had to cut out people who were incredibly

27:44

toxic. And the crazy thing about toxic friendships

27:46

are or people who are really bad is

27:49

that even if the whole group realizes this

27:51

bad behavior in an individual and you can

27:53

confront them about it, you could talk to

27:56

them about it, they will somehow develop this

27:58

thing of everybody is against me. me I'm

28:00

alone on an island I am right everybody else

28:02

is wrong well guess what if everybody's saying the

28:04

same thing about your bad habits and you're the

28:06

only one who thinks that it's okay maybe you're

28:09

not made for this group I

28:12

don't know maybe you're the problem

28:16

even with me being someone who has a

28:18

solid is who I believe is solid in

28:20

his like ideals people

28:23

like this creep into my life I think

28:26

I now have an ability because I've been fucking over

28:28

so many times that I could pick up on it

28:30

a lot faster now than most people it doesn't

28:34

mean that I don't it's

28:36

just that if it wasn't for the

28:38

fact that I took the time to be alone and

28:41

be lonely and continue to stick to the person

28:43

that I am and find the people in my

28:45

life who appreciate it that I am able to

28:47

find this out fact is this negative trait and

28:49

other people a lot faster than most people let

28:53

me give you an example of

28:56

somebody someone in my life who wasn't like

28:58

this and how it turned out for them

29:02

now this person and I don't

29:04

talk to each other anymore and you're gonna hear a lot

29:06

of stories about people who I had to cut out and

29:08

not just me a lot of other people too I was

29:11

probably just one of the first ones that decided to kind

29:13

of stick through it I

29:16

have a relative who is

29:18

somebody who is incredibly narcissistic

29:22

and somebody I had to cut out and

29:25

I should have seen this early on in

29:27

their behaviors this person was somebody this cousin

29:29

of mine was somebody who did

29:31

everything for everybody else because he

29:33

was seeking affection in the wrong

29:35

places so he

29:38

became somebody that was very very untrustworthy and he would

29:41

step on people to get what he wants and he

29:43

wouldn't even know that he's doing it simply

29:45

because he wanted to find approval

29:48

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32:03

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32:05

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32:08

we started slowly falling apart. And

32:11

I got into the position in

32:13

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32:15

mentor to him and we stopped

32:17

becoming equals and

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32:26

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32:28

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32:30

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32:32

your victories or asking

32:34

for help or even

32:37

using your success as motivation

32:39

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32:41

as a way in their mind, they think

32:44

that now we think that we're better than

32:46

them. And they start to create these fake

32:48

narratives of like, oh, this

32:50

person mistreated me before. Oh, look at him now.

32:52

Now he's successful. Now he's going to push me

32:54

aside and cast me aside. Rather than looking at

32:56

themselves and saying like, maybe the way that I

32:59

am behaving is causing this rift between us. So

33:02

one day and

33:04

I thought, you know, everything was really cool between us.

33:06

And then I see this

33:09

little Facebook post about

33:12

me and I saw this

33:14

Facebook post because a bunch of

33:16

people started texting me

33:18

and calling me as like, Hey, do you know what your

33:20

cousin is saying about you online? I was like, my cousin,

33:23

like, who the fuck is talking shit about me? So it

33:25

can't be one of my cousins because we're good. So

33:28

I see this whole Facebook post and this whole Facebook post

33:30

goes in like, Oh, this

33:33

guy is like too big for me now. You

33:35

know, he doesn't really talk to me anymore because

33:37

of X, Y and Z. I, you know, when

33:39

he needed money, I gave him money. When he

33:41

needed food, I gave him food. When he needed

33:43

a place to say, I gave him

33:45

my spot to say, I took care of him. Let

33:47

me tell you here, you something, you little fucking bitch.

33:50

None of that was fucking true. In

33:53

our family, this guy has consistently been the

33:56

fucking loser. He was writing the story that

33:58

he wished. that

34:00

he could have been the main person. Like he

34:02

wrote the story as he rewrote everything where he

34:04

was the hero in his own story when none

34:06

of this fucking happened. And the crazy thing about

34:09

writing things online is that there's no way to

34:11

refute it aside

34:13

from me going on and then bashing him online and

34:16

showing receipts, right? But who the fuck carries receipts for

34:18

these types of things? So he

34:20

goes on this long diatribe about how much he's

34:22

helped me and everything else. I have never borrowed

34:24

a single cent from him. I have never stayed

34:26

at his place because he's never had a place

34:29

for me to fucking stay at. He's

34:31

never helped me with anything. And if anything else, when he

34:33

tried to be a YouTuber himself, I used to shoot and

34:35

film his stuff and help him out when I was early

34:37

on into my YouTube career. So

34:40

basically he was taking the story, my

34:42

story, and he was applying it to himself.

34:45

And so the person that he hated wasn't me. He

34:48

hated himself and he wanted my story. I

34:51

saw the shit. And let me tell you

34:53

something. When it comes to friends and family, there's something I don't

34:55

tolerate. Family business always stays

34:57

in family business. And

34:59

that's how it's supposed to be. I

35:03

don't like people talking about family business to

35:05

everybody else. It's supposed to stay here.

35:07

And if you have a problem with me, you can go ahead and

35:09

talk to me one-on-one. So long story

35:11

short with this, he goes on and

35:14

writes all this bullshit about me. I'm fucking

35:16

heated. Here's the thing. People know me. People

35:19

know my character and they know who he is too.

35:21

Now there was a few fucking people out there that

35:23

kind of wrote, oh, that's fucked up. I can't believe

35:25

he would do that. That sounds like some shit that

35:27

he would do even though they don't fucking know me

35:29

at all. But they took that fucking narrative and they

35:32

ran with it. But most people were like, hey, that

35:34

doesn't sound like David. What the fuck are you doing?

35:36

That's not true at all. So eventually he

35:38

takes that fucking post down. Now me, I'm

35:40

fucking mad. I give him a call. He

35:42

doesn't pick up. I

35:45

give him a call. He doesn't pick up. Now

35:48

at this point, I'm leaving very angry voice messages.

35:50

I'm cursing him out like, hey, pick up your

35:53

fucking phone. When I see you, I'm gonna fuck

35:55

you up. All this family shit. So

35:58

he picks up the phone and he starts crying. saying

36:00

like oh by the way I recall this parents

36:02

I was like hey do you see what your

36:04

fucking son wrote about me on a fucking Facebook

36:07

did you see that shit and

36:09

they were clearly upset and disappointed

36:11

in him and I'm like listen

36:13

I'm you're not gonna stop me but when

36:15

I see him I'll beat up your fucking son and

36:17

there was nothing they could do they were like this

36:20

is him being the stupid version that

36:22

he is and they know about his stupid ass fucking

36:24

behaviors so he finally picks up the phone

36:27

and I start going in on him I

36:29

start yelling at him and

36:31

I just ream into him and ever since

36:33

then you know long

36:35

story short with this is that I cannot

36:40

allow somebody like that into my inner

36:43

circle anymore now this person can better

36:45

himself and apologize and do all that

36:47

stuff that's perfectly fine there is no

36:49

trust here there's

36:51

absolutely zero fucking trust because that's

36:54

some scumbag shit and

36:56

what I feel is that even

36:58

if this person is in a better place in their

37:00

life now when something goes bad they will revert back

37:02

to the same person now I don't know if this

37:04

is true I don't know if

37:06

this is who they are who they are going to be for

37:09

the rest of their life but for but for me because now

37:11

that I'm older and I have a lot more to lose I

37:13

can't risk it so I

37:16

have haven't spoken to him in a very

37:18

very long time and I'm pretty sure that

37:20

he's probably grown up and he feels bad

37:22

about it but one of the things about

37:24

like forgiveness is that

37:26

I get to choose when I get to forgive you and

37:28

then to be honest with you I

37:31

never will I will

37:33

never ever forgive you for

37:35

doing shit like that what I

37:37

will do is empathize

37:39

with you and understand why you did it

37:41

you've always been you know

37:46

just to kind of wrap it back to the

37:48

topic of this podcast he was always that person

37:50

that didn't know who the fuck he was and

37:52

because of that he was very dangerous he

37:55

was very volatile loves

37:58

you one day hates you the fucking next. Smile

38:00

in front of your face but say some

38:02

shit about you behind your back.

38:06

How he would try to connect with

38:08

people was either travel bonding, talking shit

38:10

about somebody else, or

38:13

if he found somebody that he looked up to,

38:15

he would kiss their ass and do everything for

38:17

them hoping to buy into their affection and that

38:20

right there is somebody you never ever ever let

38:22

into your circle. They will step

38:24

on you at any chance that they

38:26

can get. When they are happy, they

38:28

treat you well. When things

38:30

go bad for them, you are the one

38:32

to blame for their situation and that is

38:34

somebody that you cannot have in your circle

38:36

and like I said this person might be

38:39

in a very good place in their life

38:41

and they might apologize to me and I'll

38:43

accept that apology but you and I will never

38:45

ever ever be the same like it was before

38:48

because no matter how terrible things are going

38:50

on in my life I have never ever

38:53

done that to anybody ever

38:55

that's how important friendships are to me

38:59

that's how important it is to me because

39:01

it goes back to that time

39:03

when I felt fucking alone when

39:05

I had to stick to who I am be

39:08

the odd personnel knowing that

39:10

I wasn't doing anything wrong I just didn't vibe with

39:13

everybody else and I had to be alone so

39:15

I understand the importance of friendship I understand

39:18

why friendship is important I understand these fucking

39:20

bonds so when you break that bond it

39:22

means a lot more than anything

39:25

to me an apology doesn't

39:27

fucking do it and

39:29

guess what you will be fine now that you're

39:31

a better person than you learn this life lesson

39:33

you will move on and hopefully you won't do

39:35

that to somebody else but it's not gonna start

39:37

with me ever again we're moving on for that so

39:40

when you ask this question about like how do you

39:42

make friends let's just wrap that ground to it you

39:45

make friends by being your friend first you

39:48

find out who you are you find out what your values

39:51

are you find out what's important to you and

39:53

then you kind of pick apart the things that you

39:55

enjoy about yourself I'm not saying that those people out

39:57

there who don't have any friends at all Probably

40:00

somebody who's really good and they just haven't found

40:02

that crowd sometimes you're a fucking asshole But

40:05

maybe that's why you need to be alone a bit because there's

40:07

probably traits about yourself that you don't like that You probably have

40:09

to fix But if

40:12

you are a solid person you are a

40:14

good person You

40:16

know that you just don't vibe with everything that everybody

40:18

else says You're gonna find your group

40:20

one day and the group that

40:22

you will find eventually they're going to be great.

40:24

They're going to be solid My

40:27

people that I have around now I'd

40:30

die for them to a certain extent. I'd die for them

40:33

Like if I had like I don't know like a functioning

40:35

organ I didn't need I'll give it to him though. My

40:37

organs are probably trashing there will probably kill them a lot

40:39

faster I gave it to you. I'll do it

40:42

but In order

40:45

for you to develop strong

40:47

bonds build one with yourself first you

40:50

are important You

40:52

are very very important. It's

40:54

a lonely path When

40:57

you find your group that gets you there

40:59

is nothing like it at all When

41:02

I went to Vegas this week and I got to kick it

41:04

with Bart and all the friends It only

41:06

solidified and gate and and

41:09

reaffirmed why I love these people so

41:11

much why I enjoy being around them

41:14

When I succeed they celebrate my success

41:17

when they succeed I celebrate their success. I tell

41:19

people about their success I'm like yo check out

41:21

what they did. It was fucking amazing I want

41:24

to do something very similar like it and

41:26

then when I asked them for advice about how

41:28

they became successful they without

41:32

Any hesitation give me that information? They don't hold

41:34

back on anything. They want me to succeed They

41:36

want me to be around them. These are the

41:39

people I found in my life because

41:41

I Chose to

41:43

be a very solid person first because now they

41:45

can rely on me as well Are

41:47

you that person and if not, then you probably have

41:50

some work to do my friend Well

41:55

guys That

41:57

wraps up this episode of the

41:59

genius Brain podcast. How much time we got left on this?

42:02

Was that seven minutes there? I don't know

42:04

how long I was going before but the the

42:06

podcast kind of stopped for a second because the

42:09

battery died on the monitor. Apologies

42:11

about that. But next week

42:15

I will definitely be in the studio. I have

42:17

it booked out ready to go. I'm gonna

42:20

have the ads on the podcast. We

42:22

are going to discuss probably do a

42:24

review of the Avatar The Last Airbender

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and then we're also going to do a

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podcast a little bit about a situation that

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once again for supporting me throughout these years. I've

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43:23

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43:28

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