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3:45

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there is nothing wrong with saying that. Hello

3:50

everyone. Welcome to a very

3:52

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Brain podcast. Now if

3:57

you notice, I am in my

3:59

house on a beanbag talking

4:01

to my camera because today we

4:04

have a solo podcast

4:06

and the reason why is nothing

4:08

too particular I am just

4:10

spent like my social battery is

4:13

absolutely done for now

4:15

surprisingly for most people I think that

4:19

because I've done stand-up I perform I've

4:21

acted I've done all these things that

4:23

most people think that I am an

4:25

extroverted human being I am introverted as

4:27

fuck I actually

4:30

do a good job of pretending

4:32

to be extroverted and I'm not

4:34

I actually prefer to be by

4:36

myself most of the time where

4:39

I just kind of sit and stew with my thoughts and

4:41

I think that's where I'm not sure

4:43

if this is how it is for a lot

4:45

of comics out there and I don't really consider

4:47

myself a comic anymore because I actually

4:49

stopped doing stand-up a few years back which

4:51

maybe I'll get back into it and I

4:53

am going to do a genius break show

4:55

this summer don't worry it's going to happen

5:00

I like being by myself and I do

5:02

feel like a lot of comics actually do

5:04

prefer being by themselves for a majority of

5:06

the time when they work on material or

5:08

they're thinking about new content just because it

5:10

requires for you to be really introspective and

5:12

being introspective doesn't really require you to be

5:14

around other people and it's kind of

5:16

where I develop the skill over time but

5:19

man this month has been absolute

5:23

or the last two months haven't been that great right

5:26

you know if you guys listen to the podcast you

5:28

already know the story that I told you about the

5:30

Armenian cab driver that tried to beat my ass for

5:32

some fucking reason and

5:35

then recently just dealing with a

5:37

lot of issues with like friends

5:40

last podcast we talked about the guy

5:42

that was disrespecting my time let me

5:44

give you all a quick update about

5:46

the dude that his

5:49

name is Pete that

5:51

is his actual name and I have no problem saying it

5:53

because obviously it's a very common name but

5:57

long story short with this one dude had me wait around

5:59

for two hours I read a couple of comments that

6:01

one dude called me a goof because I waited for

6:03

two hours. Listen here dumbass. To

6:06

me, when somebody becomes

6:08

a part of my circle and

6:10

you become my friend, there

6:13

is certain things that you could ask of

6:15

me that 99% of the world can't ask

6:17

me because I just won't do it. Like

6:20

if you want me to suck your d- I'm kidding, I'm kidding. Like

6:25

a friend asked a favor of me where

6:28

he needs something from me that's very important

6:31

and I can't get in contact with him. I don't

6:33

know what happened to him and it's not a matter

6:35

of disrespecting time. And some people, it's just more along

6:38

the lines of if this is my

6:40

friend and he needs something, I will do whatever I

6:42

can to fulfill this duty of mine

6:44

as a friend because if they are

6:46

in dire need, I need to make sure that they're

6:48

okay. So he wanted to borrow these lenses because he's

6:50

a producer, he forgot to rent it out and he

6:52

needed these things in order for him to, I don't

6:54

know, secure the bag for his job. So

6:57

I'm not going to just up and leave. Like I don't know, something

6:59

could have happened to him when we were supposed to meet up, he

7:01

could have gone to a car accident. So I

7:03

decided to stay longer. Right? And

7:06

it's so funny how people online sometimes talk

7:08

so brave. Right? Like the

7:10

guy who called me, I would have

7:12

left immediately. The moment somebody's five minutes

7:14

late, I bounced. And that's probably why you're

7:16

a fucking idiot. You have

7:18

absolutely no social

7:21

skills at all. Oh really? Somebody's

7:23

late five minutes and you're just going

7:25

to get up and leave? You have

7:27

never done that. You absolutely have never

7:30

fucking done that. Don't

7:32

lie to me and the rest of the world. Somebody's

7:34

five minutes late and you leave, you've never been five

7:37

minutes late? Fuck out of here, dude. I

7:39

don't understand why the internet gets people talking like they're

7:41

so brave. Like I, well okay,

7:43

I do understand. Like you could hide

7:45

through anonymity. Nobody knows who you are.

7:47

There is no way in

7:50

God's fucking green earth that

7:53

when your friend is five minutes

7:55

late, you get up, you

7:57

boss up, and then you just leave.

7:59

No way. I don't care what you're saying

8:01

you are fucking

8:04

lying People are late

8:06

all the time things happen. So anyways, I had

8:09

a conversation with my buddy Pete and listen,

8:12

I May talk a big

8:14

game, but I'm actually pretty soft. I

8:16

was supposed to charge you for the lenses Obviously,

8:19

they didn't have a huge budget for this. So

8:21

I told them like look I was gonna charge you a full rate

8:24

But because of our friendship You

8:27

just owe me half the rate for it, right? So it

8:30

was fucking next to nothing But I was still gonna collect

8:32

that check Because of

8:34

the disrespect but we had a long

8:36

conversation about Not

8:40

so much our friendship Personally because we've

8:42

known each other for so long, but

8:44

it was kind of me advising him

8:46

about how he treats others

8:50

because a huge

8:52

pet peeve of mine is How

8:55

somebody treats somebody else based on their status

8:57

in life Look what I grew up and

8:59

I and you guys know this too. I didn't grow up with

9:01

a lot of money Didn't

9:04

grow up with a wealth money faint none of that type

9:06

of stuff, right? And I

9:08

think I've seen time and time again not just

9:11

in like the celebrity world But just people in

9:13

general so many people that I

9:15

meet are terrible people because they only look

9:17

at things through opportunity They are opportunists. So

9:19

they treat people based on what they can

9:22

get from them and I Absolutely

9:25

hate that quality in

9:27

other people it is a terrible

9:29

terrible way to treat another human

9:31

being and for him I felt

9:34

and I told him this that you

9:37

decided to Disrespect

9:40

me at my time Because

9:42

you didn't think I was worthy of it You

9:45

thought that I should wait around Because

9:49

somebody may be have done has done that

9:51

to you within the film world and you

9:53

just didn't care And of course he

9:55

kind of fought back. He goes no, that's not the case I was

9:57

like then what is the case because I guarantee you let's just say

9:59

I don't know I am I'm

10:03

Martin Scorsese would

10:05

you have done that to me and

10:08

the answer to that of course was no you would

10:10

have been there on time you would have rushed to

10:12

get there I'm not saying you should treat me on

10:14

the same level as Martin Scorsese because obviously there's nuances

10:16

like that right anybody of course if it was Scorsese

10:18

they would just I don't know break their back if

10:21

they want to get to the film world to

10:24

complete this favor or do things on time I get

10:26

it but the point that

10:28

I'm making is is that you devalued

10:30

me because there wasn't something that

10:32

you can gain from me and

10:36

that right there pisses me off

10:38

and I've seen this happen so many times

10:41

so so many times within this city and

10:44

I'm pretty sure it happens in other places too but specifically here

10:47

opportunists are everywhere

10:50

and people tend to disrespect

10:53

you not care about

10:56

you simply because you have nothing to gain

10:58

and the notion of

11:01

treating somebody with just decency

11:03

goes right out the fucking window

11:06

because I gained

11:08

nothing from you so you're not even a person to

11:10

me you have to wait for

11:13

me and who cares if you hate me because you're a

11:15

nobody that right there pisses

11:17

me off enough to where this

11:19

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I wanted to punch his fucking face

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11:26

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of the relationship that we have, how much I

15:42

care about the person, even the notion of just

15:44

like putting my hands on a friend. Discuss

15:48

me. This guy I wanted to fuck up. Maybe

15:51

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it could have been the fact that I just, I don't know. I

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16:14

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16:16

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16:18

these cities, just torn doing standup. And

16:21

so I go up and this kid is doing this thing

16:23

and he comes up to me. I don't know who he

16:25

is. And he says, Hey, look,

16:27

I look up to you. All these are the

16:30

great things, you know, verbal affirmation, whatever, whatnot. I

16:32

say, thank you, whatever, whatnot. Everything is really cordial.

16:35

And you know, he starts asking me about advice

16:37

about how to get into acting, everything else. And

16:39

I pulled him like, look, you shouldn't ask me

16:41

about acting because I'm not an actor. I'm just

16:43

somebody who did a film and I enjoy the process

16:45

of it. I enjoy film, but I am not an

16:47

actor. You can't ask me for advice about things that

16:49

I'm not a part of because I can't give you

16:51

that. The only thing I could tell you is that

16:53

if you want to make it, you got to leave

16:55

your small town and then come to LA. That's

16:58

the only advice that I really gave him. But

17:01

afterwards, uh, you know, you could tell what somebody's kind

17:03

of being a kiss ass and they're

17:05

not really listening to anything that you're saying.

17:08

And you know, after a while I just kind

17:10

of, I didn't, something

17:12

about him was really off and I didn't really appreciate it,

17:14

but you know, he was really kind and I was really

17:16

nice to him too. Um, you could ask

17:18

anybody at the show that I was super nice. Um,

17:22

but I saw the way that he

17:24

would speak to some of

17:26

the college organizers and I

17:28

saw the way that he would brush off other people

17:31

who were nice to him aside from like fans who

17:33

were like kissing his ass from, you know, whatever content

17:35

that he does. I don't remember what he does. I'm

17:37

pretty sure it was comedy, but somebody

17:40

else who didn't know who he was, he would just brush

17:42

them off. He was, you know,

17:44

kind of looked like he was irritated with somebody would talk to

17:46

him. And that right

17:48

there was, is a quality that I

17:51

fucking hate. And this is somebody who has such a

17:53

small amount of fame and you

17:55

could see how it gets to their head, how

17:58

you treat the everything. everyday

18:00

person when you become, I don't know, famous,

18:02

I'm not really famous, is a

18:04

true depiction of who you are and your character.

18:08

And just to go back to that

18:10

story, I saw

18:12

something in him that fucking disgusted me. Now,

18:15

are we cool? We're not cool. We

18:19

had a long conversation and I told him

18:21

like, look, I wish you all the success.

18:24

But now when I see you, I

18:26

want to punch you in the fucking face. Like

18:28

the audacity for you to treat me or

18:30

any human being like that fucking disgust me.

18:33

I'm friends with your wife. You and I, we're not

18:35

good. So anybody

18:39

who mentions anything about you to me in

18:41

terms of a workplace, I'm gonna tell them

18:43

the trash. It

18:47

is how it is. Those are the consequences that you have

18:49

to deal with. I mean,

18:51

look, like I said, I'm a nobody. It probably won't

18:53

get that far anyways, but I'm not going to lie

18:56

on your behalf. So you can go ahead and have

18:58

a career in a space that I don't even want

19:00

to fucking see you in. So

19:03

last week I lost a long time

19:05

friend and I'm okay with it and he has to

19:07

be okay with it too. I spoke to

19:09

his wife who was my friend and I said, look, through

19:12

association, through you, I

19:15

became good friends with your now

19:18

husband. I

19:20

can no longer be around him because of the way that

19:22

he treated me. And she completely

19:24

understands. I don't know. Obviously

19:26

it's not going to ruin their relationship. They're married.

19:29

But I said, look, you and I are still friends. I know it's

19:31

going to be awkward because you know, when we see each other, we

19:33

hang out, that's fine. But with your

19:35

husband, if he's around me, I don't want to see

19:38

him. You could imagine

19:40

how that made me feel as an individual

19:43

after 10 plus years or even 20 years of

19:46

friendship, how that made me feel. And that's going

19:48

to stick with me forever. I'm not going to

19:50

be able to move past this. And

19:53

it was a little difficult, right? Well, this is

19:55

just to give you a glimpse of why my

19:57

social battery is fucking depleted. You know, over

20:00

time you guys will find out too just

20:03

to get into this topic that I actually do want to talk about

20:05

that is a little important to me

20:08

is where you place your time in your friendship.

20:13

When I was younger I wanted

20:15

a lot of friends right as we all do

20:17

we're all social people to assert even if you're

20:19

introvert your humans are typically social we like

20:22

to be in groups we like to be in packs everything

20:24

else like that and

20:26

you put a lot of emphasis in trying to

20:28

be this likable person because

20:31

you want people to like you when you're

20:33

in high school you pick up slang you say

20:35

certain things you do things the way other people

20:37

do because you don't want to stick out and

20:39

when you stick out it's very very uncomfortable and

20:41

I think that started from an early age a

20:44

lot of people do that and they

20:46

don't know how to break free from it so

20:48

they start being agreeable and very likable well

20:52

the downside the good side of that is that

20:55

people like you right you generally won't find

20:57

trouble with the majority of human beings but the

20:59

bad side to that is that you

21:03

kind of allow yourself to be this person that

21:06

doesn't know who they are you don't really send

21:08

boundaries really well and everybody

21:10

becomes your friends the

21:12

fact kind of sounds weird it's like when

21:15

everybody is your friend you actually have nobody loyal

21:17

around you right no Mike Tyson says something similar

21:19

to this where have

21:23

you ever seen somebody who calls

21:25

everybody their best friend if

21:28

you meet somebody like you you last somebody you

21:30

just met and you notice that every the more

21:32

time you spend with them they every

21:35

person they meet they go oh this is my home if this

21:37

is my best friend this is my best friend it's like how

21:39

the fuck do you have 40 best friends and

21:41

what I found out over time is that these people actually

21:43

don't have friends they

21:46

have acquaintances that they call

21:48

them their best friends because they try

21:51

to be the most likable person ever

21:53

and these likable human beings are so

21:55

fucking dishonest it's unreal more

21:58

so even to the point where I would

22:00

rather have a piece of shit around me that

22:02

I know who they are than rather have this

22:04

highly likable person because this person who's highly likable

22:07

is incredibly dishonest. Everything they

22:09

say, everything they tell you, they model it

22:11

after what you want to hear, which means

22:13

that if they have a conversation with somebody

22:15

else, that they, let's say that other person,

22:17

right, this person who

22:19

you're talking to, you vent to them, you talk

22:21

about all their issues, cool. Well,

22:23

the person that you're venting to and

22:26

the person that you're talking shit about or the stuff that

22:28

happened with them, if they talk to that other person, they

22:31

will just mirror what they say and they'll talk

22:33

shit about you the other way around. They are

22:35

completely untrustworthy human beings. And,

22:38

you know, I'm sorry, I'm getting a little off track, but being

22:41

this type of person, you

22:44

start wanting to have a lot of friends. Well, as

22:46

I got older, I start to realize it's never about

22:48

the quality, a quantity, it's not the quality, it's not

22:50

about the quantity, it's about the quality. I

22:54

don't need more friends in my life.

22:57

I have a lot of acquaintances. I have

22:59

a lot of homies. Then there's the homies

23:01

homies and then there's family. I've

23:03

learned to categorize people in my life and

23:06

I feel a lot of people forget

23:08

how to do that or they don't know how

23:10

to. And they put

23:13

everybody in the same category of

23:15

friendship, which is something that you

23:17

absolutely should not do. That

23:20

type of mentality leads you to get

23:22

fucked up emotionally and get point around

23:24

by everybody that you meet. It

23:28

happens. And here's the reason

23:30

why. You

23:32

expect a certain level

23:35

of loyalty from people that

23:38

they cannot give back to you because

23:41

you didn't categorize them correctly

23:43

in your life. You

23:46

didn't do it. That's a mistake that

23:48

you have to own up to. And

23:51

let me clarify that and, you know, if you guys

23:53

don't understand what I'm saying. People

23:57

who love bond tend to do with this. is

24:00

like, I believe this is

24:02

like a condition that a lot of people who

24:04

have BPD do, they love

24:06

bomb people. So they open up, they tell

24:09

them everything about themselves, and they start connecting

24:11

to that. Sometimes they trauma bond. And

24:13

then when they fall short of their expectations, they

24:16

think that that person has completely betrayed them. Even

24:19

with these people that they don't know, right, because

24:21

they fantasize who these people are in their head. And

24:24

when they fall short of these ideals, they hate them,

24:26

they say that, oh, they're terrible people. But really, it's

24:28

just because you created this, this perfect image of this

24:30

perfect friendship that didn't really exist. Well,

24:33

you, you yourself are kind of doing the same thing.

24:37

You're putting acquaintances, people that you just met, or

24:39

even people that you've known for a long time,

24:41

but you don't really know as the

24:43

same category as your best friends. And

24:47

you get disappointed. You

24:49

get disappointed that this acquaintance doesn't

24:52

meet up to the standard that

24:55

you set for even the people that you were

24:57

really, really close to everybody is your best friend.

25:00

And that is where you fuck up. There

25:03

is nothing wrong with

25:05

categorizing people in your life

25:08

appropriately for what you expect out of

25:10

them. I don't expect somebody that

25:12

I drink with a lot that we party

25:14

up, we joke around, but we don't talk

25:16

about our personal feelings and thoughts to

25:19

be there for me the way that I need them

25:21

to be. They're not there for that. They

25:23

are my party funny laugh friends, you

25:25

are not a part of my true

25:27

inner circle. And there is nothing

25:29

wrong with saying that. And if those people feel

25:31

like they should be a part of your inner

25:33

circle, then you should earn that from me on

25:37

that. But by the way, if you

25:39

are a part of my inner circle, that also comes

25:41

with a lot of responsibility. And the other way around,

25:43

I should be able to tell you things and be

25:45

honest about things, even when I fucked up it for

25:47

you to still love me either way and help me

25:50

to grow as an individual. Do you want that responsibility?

25:52

If not, then stay here. Stay

25:54

as my acquaintance. Stay as the

25:56

person on the side. And it's okay.

25:59

We'll still. have fun. We'll still cook kick

26:01

it. We'll still share great

26:04

meals. And you know, if

26:06

somebody asked me, Hey, do you know this guy? I

26:08

don't know, Steve. Yes, I do.

26:11

That's a friend of mine. But

26:13

you were just a friend. You're

26:16

not my boy. You're not my girl. You

26:19

are that you're an acquaintance. You are somebody

26:21

that I enjoy spending time with, but you're

26:23

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you have and the velvet time because me and

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life express to figure out who these people are

29:12

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29:14

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29:17

a time when I was. Are

29:20

doing the business in Hawaii. There was

29:23

a friend that I met up and

29:25

she had a long and deep conversation

29:27

with another friend of hers and she

29:30

wanted to talk about their relationship as

29:32

friends and. Assessor

29:34

be had a. Somewhat. of

29:37

a falling out rice of them will be talk to

29:39

each other anymore ah little really kick it as much.

29:43

An. The

29:45

way that she appreciated her friendship.

29:47

With. That person. Was.

29:50

Very different from how see

29:52

the other friends sulfur. So.

29:55

For for. She.

29:57

was really hurt because the way that that person respond was

29:59

like, hey, that's just life. We just fall apart. You know,

30:01

things fall apart and that just is what it is. Well,

30:06

yeah, I guess that's kind

30:08

of true, but it's stupid. If

30:10

you guys are really good friends and what she

30:13

found out was, oh, this person doesn't value me

30:15

like I value her. And the reason

30:17

why I am so hurt is because

30:19

I placed her in a category of

30:21

friendship that she didn't put me in. And

30:25

so when I expected her to emotionally

30:27

reciprocate back what I felt, it

30:29

fell short and then I was hurt. And this

30:31

other person wasn't because they don't really consider me

30:34

as a good friend. But

30:36

this other person, just to go back to

30:39

what I said about highly likable people, because

30:41

I know this other person, this person is

30:43

somebody, not

30:45

the person I'm talking about who felt hurt. I'm talking about

30:47

the person who hurt the other friend of mine is

30:50

somebody who is a likable person. Everything that

30:53

she says and does is to

30:55

make sure that people like her. And

30:57

if somebody doesn't like her, it eats her up

30:59

inside. So she says stuff that's highly agreeable. Doesn't

31:02

tell you how she feels. She goes behind your

31:04

back and says all these other things about like

31:06

how they disappointed you, she's upset or whatever, but

31:09

she'll never say to your face. Because she wants

31:11

to have the guys of, she

31:14

wants to carry on this guys that everybody likes her. The fact is

31:16

that most people don't. They just think

31:18

that she's a really cool person, but nobody really knows that person.

31:21

That person, the other person that you meet, if you met

31:23

them, you would love them. Why? Because

31:25

they mirror everything that you say. They

31:28

want you to like them. So they'll make you feel

31:30

as comfortable. They'll say, hi, hello, smile all day. That

31:33

person is an untrustworthy,

31:35

deceitful fuck. And

31:38

even in their personal relationship, she deceived her

31:40

into believing that they were a lot closer

31:42

than they actually were. And so

31:44

for my friend, the one that I consider a friend, her

31:47

issue was that she placed that level of trust

31:49

and freshness into somebody who would never give it

31:51

back to her. So she ended up being hurt.

31:55

This is kind of what happens when

31:57

you just freely give your emotions out. people.

32:00

I'm not telling people to guard their

32:03

emotions 24-7, but you shouldn't have your

32:06

heart on your sleeve 24-7 either. There's

32:09

a balance in life and this is the part that you're going to

32:11

figure out as you get older. And

32:13

I'm fighting that out now too. Now

32:16

for me and my mistake was that with

32:18

this person because time was the

32:20

thing that was keeping us together, I

32:22

assume that this person's loyalty and friendship that I

32:24

had with them was something that

32:27

was reflective of what we had 20

32:29

years ago. But the

32:31

fact that the matter is and the truth of the

32:33

matter is that that person is a very different person

32:35

than who he was when I

32:39

met him or when we developed our friendship. And I'm also

32:41

a very different person too, somewhat different.

32:44

I'm actually a lot more calm. I'm a lot more collected.

32:47

I could articulate my thoughts a lot better than I used to

32:49

when I was younger. But

32:52

it's been a tough fucking week, right?

32:57

Losing friendships and kind of

32:59

reassessing your bonds with people is something that takes

33:01

away from you emotionally. It's hard. Obviously

33:04

on this podcast when I have other guests, I'm

33:09

a lot more jokey. I make a lot of jokes, which I

33:11

do. But these are the thoughts that go on through my

33:13

head on the regular when I just sit and talk to

33:15

myself. It's very... I

33:18

tend to be a very introspective person in

33:21

sometimes some of the worst ways possible. But

33:24

this is what I've been going through this week, which is why

33:26

we have a solo podcast. And maybe

33:29

this is something that you all can do as well. When

33:33

you're not feeling good, when you're emotionally drained and

33:35

tapped out, you don't have to tell people, right?

33:37

You don't always have to tell people your feelings.

33:40

But what you can do is

33:42

just remove yourself from situations that will

33:45

benefit you because

33:47

of how you are mentally right now.

33:49

And I enjoy that. I

33:53

enjoy telling people like, hey, I don't want

33:55

to do this. I don't want to be around this right now. Let

33:57

me just back away for a second and then come back and... In

34:00

a better mental state some people don't respect

34:02

that and they don't understand it because

34:04

they carry their heart on their sleeve

34:08

I am somebody who likes to communicate straightforward And

34:10

I like to take myself away

34:12

from situations that I know that I won't be a

34:14

good person in So when it

34:16

comes to like social situation, that's a motherfucking plane,

34:18

and I left the door open and she's loud

34:21

as fuck Hopefully I'll edit

34:23

that out. You won't hear it, but for

34:25

me Because

34:27

I know who I am I just

34:29

will tell people I'm not gonna show up to these

34:32

like certain social events And if they

34:34

ask why I'd just be like yo, I'm just not feeling good And

34:38

I'll I'll meet you all up later or if I'm

34:40

angry or upset just don't be around me Allow

34:42

me to go away. Don't don't chase me. Don't

34:45

come after me Why did you come it out?

34:47

Because you won't like the person that I am

34:49

when I'm in a terrible mood And I don't

34:51

feel like it's fair for me to put that

34:53

on you because I'm not feeling good And

34:57

for some reason when you tell people this some people

34:59

get offended They go. Oh, why is

35:01

he being such an asshole? Why is he being a jack? No,

35:03

no You don't want to see the asshole in the jackass side

35:05

of me. All right, and

35:07

which is why I'm staying home This

35:09

is why we have a solo podcast today. And if I

35:11

could implore you guys to do this is just like Other

35:17

people aren't there as sure like emotional tampon.

35:21

Do you know what I mean by that? It is

35:23

not your friends responsibilities It is not strangers

35:25

responsibilities to sit there and take your emotional

35:27

abuse because you're not feeling well there

35:29

are people in your life that you could vent to talk to

35:31

about it so you could feel better and If

35:35

you have those like relationships use it

35:37

because obviously if they're the homie

35:39

homies Then you guys should be able to go back and forth on

35:41

that type of stuff And you guys should be able to help each

35:44

other out what it

35:46

is not somebody else's responsibility to read

35:48

your emotions and to Avoid

35:52

you and say specific things to make you

35:54

feel good when you already knew that you

35:56

felt terrible be by yourself Madam

36:00

your emotions a little bit better and then come back

36:02

stronger or come back in a better headspace because

36:04

once again like I said people

36:07

who are acquaintances and strangers should not they are

36:09

number one not privy to that and number one

36:11

they are not responsible for that most people aren't

36:14

maybe except for you down on the people that you're married to

36:16

but then you guys can hash it out but even then those

36:18

have like hard lines but I hope

36:22

you guys take that little

36:24

piece of advice this is where the podcast is

36:26

going to end the day I think I've been talking to myself for

36:28

damn near half an hour but um

36:32

let me know what you guys think about these podcasts listen

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36:36

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36:38

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36:40

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