0:00

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0:02

someone to let you live your life. I

0:22

was back there episode. Of girl

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got he. I'll come back feeling

0:26

good or a breath. Of

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we just had a scheduling conflict.

0:33

That was self inflicted. I should manage your

0:35

time wise. I

0:37

think she's in a dominant on adult how to

0:39

manage their time, but I should because I'm the

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time we punctual on or were just sitting here

0:43

and I had a very specific timeline today to

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record and then get to my laser pointer in

0:47

and get to a dinner and I had everything

0:49

mapped out a shower at I shaved it at

0:51

all myself and I'm just sitting there. I look

0:53

at the clock and I'm like I don't time

0:55

now to do that or that she's been a

0:57

laissez faire about this. But don't you sometimes forget

0:59

that like there is no adult. Tell you what

1:01

to do They ever the. I

1:05

am. Times though I'm like, where's the grown up

1:07

in the room to tell me Like to give

1:09

you never feel like that you've you've always feel

1:11

you're in charge of. I am and I'm like

1:13

really hard on myself about timeliness and being punctual.

1:15

There's no option in my mind like most important,

1:17

or be fifteen minutes later. Something like if I'm

1:19

going to fifteen minutes late and like. By.

1:22

Blowing my hair dryer make we have two minutes

1:24

late. I don't blow my hair dry on, go

1:26

into the thing with white hair like I'm so

1:28

on top of myself about this shit. I mean

1:30

I am too. I'm a high functioning, successful forty

1:32

year old woman. but I'm just saying there's these

1:34

moments sometimes real like as I don't wanna check

1:36

me like you're not going to be like I

1:39

feel enabled some time I feel like the opposite.

1:41

I would like to feel like that more like

1:43

I wake up it's I make a list every

1:45

morning seven am I make my last and that

1:47

if she's running through my head of the this

1:49

morning I like nine I was like are going

1:51

to relax. Where our according to like to

1:53

calm down Why my just like to this day

1:55

return this package I I could deal com Okay

1:57

here's what it is. It's when you're with another

1:59

hi. Function: Adult. And you're

2:01

like are they gonna check me because I don't know

2:03

if some of the think about weird stuff like this

2:05

like for example recently what I was like in boston

2:08

we had to look leave to go to the airport

2:10

to get me to the airport and I thought to

2:12

myself like if I never said like it's time to

2:14

get like would he say it's time to got lox

2:16

who's in charge. Of. My

2:18

flight probably me. Halimi.

2:20

Price You probably know what we need to go

2:22

but like you know we had to leave his

2:24

apartment at six thirty for me to get to.

2:26

This is my boyfriend talking about for him to

2:28

dry mid airport on time and I'm thinking likes

2:30

or can it a little close we refine. Obviously

2:33

you know I'll have to cut a close eye

2:35

and checked bags that nobody else but am I

2:37

had I was I would he say something or

2:39

would he just feel like she's at all like

2:41

a to it you know he just weirdly and

2:43

a voice Okay so I related deaths because when

2:45

I am around and extremely high functioning adult I

2:47

falls to pieces as I'm sorry I'm actually like

2:49

how do. Cars were how to credit

2:51

like I do become like a we're

2:53

version my supper like do that would

2:55

Rob save with me. Every zagat

2:58

that habit of microbal the author. But then sometimes

3:00

I'm in a mode where I am a mom

3:02

and I have to corral everybody or not. Nobody

3:04

will ever be on time on a trip that

3:06

I've planned. I feel like I find myself in

3:08

that role. I guess it's just what I know

3:10

that I planned it, I'm in charge that I'm

3:12

like ok guys the guy called it over with

3:15

i get the car this with on the reservation

3:17

as and I don't like that but you produces

3:19

Park has so you have to tell me when

3:21

it's time to. Get

3:24

a message, If. You

3:26

know more about how long it takes

3:28

to get the West Hollywood from the

3:30

west side of your as should have

3:33

managed to accept. You

3:35

as a cities here to see your

3:37

watches o'clock Sex is nice time As

3:39

a she's really does loan phrase A

3:41

I thought she had to golf which

3:43

he clearly doesn't I guess we all

3:46

just slow and to different responsibilities. The.

3:48

A grown up. To the sins and sometimes your

3:50

dislikes. I don't know that he wouldn't tell me

3:52

what to do with other times you like I

3:54

gotta tell everybody what to do on. I've also

3:57

never dated anybody that I saw like like, manage

3:59

me some exactly. I've had a very seriously

4:01

manage to person I've ever dated like I've never been

4:03

like I'm not the alpha in this relationship. Someone's going

4:05

to tell me what time we have to be somewhere,

4:07

know that's what I wish for you is that you

4:09

would find somebody that would boss you're out and you

4:12

enough to do. I wouldn't even just signed hated would

4:14

tell me what hundred in a reservation as if you

4:16

know what I would like. someone that can make a

4:18

dinner. Reservations? yeah, I accept

4:20

such a fast bar

4:23

and. Also, I feel like I've taken on

4:25

his role of like doing this everything for me some

4:27

like who can do by the me. Who's.

4:29

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the vibe with Chance when I walked in

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a pedicure was just like oh my god

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to me. Turn to be sure that are

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you friends friend and of the only hotter

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she just a specific skills as if we

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go back and forth and I was a

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great of loves you so much that can

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i go. How did you know is the

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and she just. Was. I got really

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weird and didn't answer me about i wasn't

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sure how she would now and she's on

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Instagram To Instagram that is so maybe she

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felt weird. Answers you gonna dodged me and

8:22

like when and I was like okay. Maybe.

8:24

I'm just loud and I said. Your

8:27

name I'm sorry that your name a few times when

8:29

she's park has he is the first like three or

8:31

four times I was in there every time I was

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there like girl is in Santa Monica Venice arrow be

8:35

like on the part as and finally she was like

8:37

what you sow got it Okay the I was the

8:39

show and people always like say hi me on I'm

8:41

in there are had. Yeah. That's probably okay.

8:44

So let me circle back to the flu vaccines

8:46

have made by a perfect is hop your inbox

8:48

and close the loop on the thing he said

8:50

self will talk today about your solo trip and

8:52

you had voice know to me about all the

8:54

things you're doing. All things good plan for yourself

8:57

and Easter have have no one treats me better

8:59

than me. Snowbirds average remember the Me: no interest

9:01

about me that is us and you are like

9:03

I mean I know you and sparkle I like

9:05

my boyfriend she looks at me i know he

9:07

doesn't i stuff for you but and in my

9:10

head of the she's gonna say but he could

9:12

never treat. You as good as I treat me I thought. I

9:15

was gonna be like. Ah, ok, it's.

9:17

Weird. It's all of us. Are

9:20

you didn't use just like and I know he

9:22

treats you amazing and does I suffer you but

9:24

yeah it like you that wasn't the what you

9:26

pay seven. I really thought it was coming. I

9:28

really thought you're about to be like but he'll

9:30

never be a better man. Few that I'll be

9:33

Amanda myself like of it's body thy father was

9:35

Gabi and it's funny they use up any by

9:37

know the wrong are getting out there are law

9:39

a treat you better than any man can babies.

9:41

The way you treat yourself it's the I love

9:43

I love office. I mean no schedule for yeah

9:45

may actually be really good. I also like my

9:47

own company. I like Op. you know some will.

9:49

Talk about it or but also I will say

9:51

like a real problem in my life growing up

9:53

and well into my twenties play early thirties is

9:56

like I used to say shit like that a

9:58

lot that like I thought was funny. I

10:00

think a couple steps down the road of like

10:02

causes person get it I just as saying that

10:04

like i think it's funny I use really sobering

10:06

up like put my foot my mouth a lot

10:08

I was something that like I would make a

10:11

lot of jokes and not really think like houses

10:13

can affect somebody I really find as I've gotten

10:15

older I'm like proud that I do think like

10:17

a few steps down the road of lakes just

10:19

as I think this is funny to that me

10:21

to move going to digest this is not as

10:23

an insult kind of yeah that's okay that's true

10:25

I'm proud of and proud that like I have

10:27

like sort of like pivotal a little on I

10:29

think. A little bit more before it may be, Just

10:31

say whatever is on my mind all the time was no

10:34

problem with it because if I like them but I'll tell

10:36

you that on the spot. Also true. Imagine

10:39

what it was a grave said a thing a

10:41

bother me A month ago. Of

10:43

my best migrants. Guys,

10:47

I'm I'm like maybe I'll be last has about it

10:49

and I'm I'm no. Sir I

10:51

mean and will not be less about

10:53

at all but sometimes it does. I

10:55

was just listening to Be On say

10:57

just for Fun and Hills everything I

10:59

can only thing that's on in his

11:01

pants kind of the on everything but

11:03

I've been thinking about that lately how

11:05

it really can time and truth tell

11:07

all just the Bobby. Was.

11:12

Such a fuss. I think that you and

11:14

I unique relationship and that like we can't

11:16

pick every battle if we do have to

11:18

pick and choose yes there's I'm sure been

11:20

things. I can't imagine what they obey over

11:22

the years about me that annoy Joe and I'm

11:24

sure you've been like I don't need to bring

11:27

this up exist doesn't matter like to me I

11:29

have to decide like is there's a one off

11:31

instances is indicative of like a larger issue and

11:33

I also can usually tell new gnarly barreling towards

11:35

are like annual faith and ssssss Yeah so I

11:38

do have some talk about that I'm sure you

11:40

to are you dislike I can bring up every

11:42

single thing we rented. Happy

11:45

as I can pick every yes it's a

11:47

deeper conversation like you can't just. Say.

11:50

A statement. Time heals everything and apply to

11:52

everything your life bit. There's just the line

11:54

that you have to decide as. Am

11:57

I just gonna let us go? Or is this

11:59

like the system? Like this. You.

12:01

Know and is this a pattern and

12:03

do I need to bring it up

12:06

and with a friendship with a romantic

12:08

relationship I have had something happen some

12:10

serious in. My. Relationship where I

12:12

just felt like recently this was like the

12:15

week before I went there to see I'm

12:17

just so little that off was it. I

12:19

think that there was no Fi would all

12:21

have our conflict with every outage other. we

12:24

never hurled insults which of a really nice,

12:26

healthy, communicative relationship. I'm really happy and grateful

12:28

for that, but we just had like a

12:30

few things where. I don't know I

12:33

just thought we weren't saying it was just a

12:35

couple days and I was. It is a my

12:37

head as he same things that are going through

12:39

a different filter because I'm feeling some type away

12:41

and we had a couple conversations recently the probably

12:44

should have been and percent privately future the really

12:46

ship and were going to live and things like

12:48

that and you don't my thoughts are bergen one

12:50

of them up. That. Maybe could have waited

12:52

to. We are in person and I don't know. I

12:54

think there is as these tiny little things that made

12:56

me feel it. We weren't as like Kerala Ten like

12:58

we usually are and I did bring it up and

13:01

in my head I was like i really think this

13:03

is just. A growing pain of this relationship

13:05

that's going on a year and we just

13:07

need to see each other and not was

13:09

the case. Once I got there it was

13:11

just like everything was great and like it

13:13

normally as. but I just got thinking about

13:15

this kind of long distance relationship. Plate.

13:18

Of you're not with each other person

13:20

to hug each other or or really

13:22

like cel each other's presence or have

13:25

sachs or take a walker go out

13:27

for drinks or do whatever couples do

13:29

to like reset you know and you

13:31

had to like work these things out.

13:34

Over. The phone or league vs a Simon was

13:36

on a really great job. Again we I'm

13:38

really had much conflict with has like a

13:40

few miscommunications here and there and we've worked

13:42

through them. I do with partners are made

13:44

of Partners are like when you get into

13:46

a couple days urgently nothing I or like

13:48

like Isis the beginning of something yeah to

13:50

subsidies and like insisted the end of the

13:52

honeymoon say ass and nine adding want us

13:54

as as tough as like what you see

13:56

each other as. Better yet and I also

13:58

just use example to valid. The people in

14:01

longest relationship that's tough and I

14:03

can't imagine being in. A.

14:05

More volatile are more like

14:08

conflict. Ridden relationship and

14:10

then you're trying to six

14:12

things from afar like. I

14:14

think you were to be really strong and

14:16

really healthy and communicative to even make those

14:18

work in the first place cause so much

14:20

of making up with people and Reese studying

14:22

is like being with them a person he

14:25

i rather have some pre avoid in Tennessee

14:27

sometimes and like I do like I mean

14:29

I've done it with you I dunno a

14:31

family member that data from had a partner

14:33

is where I like refuse to acknowledge something

14:35

bothering me for things clearly bothering me and

14:37

I like will not have a discussion of

14:39

my brother has said like it's like you're

14:41

making somebody like pay for it double your

14:43

clearly upset about something. but then you like won't

14:45

tell somebody and so like it is makes me

14:48

think when you know how is that you love

14:50

me or you're punishing me and like more in

14:52

tennessee is so you at a distance on top

14:54

of that for me it gets even more has

14:56

i can avoid thing for a long time I

14:58

think you've. Come. A long way with us have to

15:00

like a we are world of difference and it was

15:02

like five years ago or six years ago. Yeah,

15:05

you actually kind of what am. They can't just

15:07

like pop ups, open your door, not argue of

15:09

talk to me, like you can just dodge their

15:12

calls and even just like I'm sorry to daily

15:14

meal out at like you actually athlete damn what.

15:16

He hasn't exactly been busy. So anyway it was

15:18

something that kind of came up that I had

15:20

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15:23

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15:25

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Blood Elves now because we talk to them

19:28

earlier. You guys that since I work for

19:30

I've been announced and I'm very excited and

19:32

I cleared it with Hammond as loud as

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I got I would have been and I'm

19:36

so excited at actually I'm twenty as their

19:39

wedding anniversary. Oh my god is my sister

19:41

law my brother been together since they were

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twenty two and or sorry for now they're

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having their first baby these one day and

19:47

I just like I cried. Constantly about it

19:49

they called and told me and I was

19:51

crying and only friends with nieces, nephews and

19:53

wanted in this culture for so long. And

19:55

when they married in the early twenty seven

19:57

seven year anniversary of Yes and I saw.

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20:02

that route and another er Han Solo and

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yeah London Sands and it's probably even closer.

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My sister a modeling we didn't hawking constantly

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on. I check in the how she's feeling

20:10

and it makes me so happy to see

20:12

my brother as like a father. I know

20:14

I for really emotional about it and I'm

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to sell cited for them that so special

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and I'm so excited While you really got

20:20

to announce I did not. Much you know my

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brother is it's when the baby. Comes out that's the

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hard line shows hide my brother about that for

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twenty minutes ago return of reporting and I was

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like am I allowed? is there some park has

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new like I guess user gonna really on social

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media so I yes or with. For. His work rate

20:35

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hard launch the baby is after they

20:39

came out. Yes so he's not really

20:41

launch you get anywhere Success it's here's

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the largest is that this is a

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launched you guys Service What I really

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want to congratulate them one in the

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youtube comments like ah well I'm so

20:51

excited for yo My nephew is talking

20:53

and he's just like a parrot right

20:56

now he's repeat everything he's learning these

20:58

words and like every day they they

21:00

get better Uses Ass Eve Beautiful Me

21:02

and I like it was like and

21:04

that's when we would face times. Have

21:06

you to say ass? But now he

21:08

sends Ashley. Minus. The alleys and

21:10

reign as pretty good as fast as a. Rare

21:13

rare radar it's idol now it's like the

21:15

and he's earned rain a pretty well he's

21:17

is you really likes was out that it

21:19

was the the i saw his good your

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non access like my brother always comment as

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little he's got rain and of course like

21:26

mommy and daddy and he just does all

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they get give him all the cats in

21:30

the dogs' names and he does is all

21:32

and he's to seize crush it at a

21:35

news release us even tell my brother and

21:37

the video feeds of a of like the

21:39

improvement of the words but it's so exciting

21:41

Lotus Hockey and video I yesterday. I can say

21:43

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21:45

don't know what. Matters

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now is the big what is is that

21:50

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21:52

of them instead of mine Yesterday he is

21:54

so cute and saul not the of his

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surprise that me so tall he's so tall

21:58

a I just I can't. Grown up

22:00

here. Yeah so I was like a video

22:02

had like say my name but I can't

22:04

wait to see them and I feel like

22:07

I'm going to be there and a couple

22:09

weeks and least to me a hockey in

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22:19

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22:21

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doctors need to give this update and

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as some he probably are like police

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care a huge amount our audiences in

27:16

the medical field. Yeah, we've always had

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a large following of the medical community

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on girl cat eats so we've talked

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about this. The. Thing we skipped a

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week but there was a couple weeks.

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they bialik a month ago where the

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episode where it started was the the

27:31

were alerted to work Weiss episode all

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that stuff what are those would feel

27:35

We talked about this woman. she said

27:37

her ex was wanting to like practice

27:39

medical exams on a classmate and med

27:41

school and then we got a bunch

27:43

of emails about it on like this

27:45

is normal, this isn't normal. We use

27:47

actors for things like this, whatever and

27:49

then someone wrote in and and was

27:51

like well as it was a pelvic

27:53

exam. Were little she never said it was a

27:55

pelvic exam bi lo and behold it was. So

27:59

sweet. If you're

28:01

not evasiveness, that. Get. Invested the

28:03

I'm getting but I just went to provide

28:05

one final update as I think people are

28:08

a little confused here so she didn't say

28:10

thing about vagina before not she didn't She

28:12

was just like he wants to practice his

28:14

doctor stuff on a classmate and people wait

28:16

and whether that was like normal or not

28:19

and that basically it's not normal that you

28:21

just are like hey, you wanna come over

28:23

and I could singer you that's not normal

28:25

know and we live about a dozen emails

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or sowed saying like is about our word

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answers and and we were corrected again saying

28:32

like. Our our work. of this is

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what I successful as we

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also why after. Of them were like

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oath as a Hit Affleck they have those a. Specific.

28:41

right? So. Using actors

28:43

as the saying. I mean it's it's something interesting

28:45

that I hadn't thought about before. Like how do

28:48

doctors practice Like to they practice out of our

28:50

friends workers a doctor ion yeah so cease the

28:52

she wrote it to clear things up she said

28:54

hi Ll I feel like I do need to

28:56

make some further clarification after listening to last to

28:59

your podcast is she didn't agree email be used

29:01

in their friends that me attack that would like

29:03

hager. I think this is value. Play

29:06

about us have a I know I should have

29:08

been Pg but I was discern have some respect

29:10

for people the medical community but yes to clarify

29:12

the reason I was pissed with because he wanted

29:14

to practice a pelvic exam on his female classmates

29:17

and in order to do this they would have

29:19

to go back to one of their apartment. Is.

29:28

What a singer this girl like that

29:30

is so funny though. So finally to

29:32

yeah athletic hurling, normal. I'm gonna go

29:35

to her apartment and finger harpies. Right?

29:39

So she was in the right to break

29:41

it off. If that's why they indeed broke

29:44

up with you that apartment Oh yeah, watches

29:46

how the exam money right? I Me: yeah

29:48

let me see our your education going babe.

29:50

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Saudi? What if she would have been like watch

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matches or me he would have been. There are

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cars and. The family in the medical field is how

30:01

me from singer and and I'm right out of it

30:03

at that netapp every year last twenty or so I.

30:06

Tell if you're doing the right. I know,

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seals, pets. So anyways, go back to the.

30:10

Publicity this, it wouldn't have been the clinical setting

30:12

she says. Later

30:14

had three my other friends all call me

30:16

in touch me of I submitted the story

30:18

we all kinda Conclusion: the with the information

30:20

provided yeah it didn't make sense to be

30:22

mad yeah done with yourself but knowing what

30:24

he was actually asking about was fucking weird

30:26

and a total step over the line. yes

30:28

there was she's as a couple more things

30:30

and she sounds like she's doing great and

30:32

she's a thriving and he may or may

30:34

not be and so we will have it,

30:37

will have the updates that is that the

30:39

yeah it is that what are you practice

30:41

or may not So again feel free to

30:43

debunk and. It keeps the story going that

30:45

but. I'm. Gonna say that it

30:47

is not normal that you are going

30:50

back to your classmates apartment to do

30:52

pelvic exam and if your partner says

30:54

that and then accuses you of hindering

30:56

their education, I think they're classless. A

30:59

beauty of this. He goes like a

31:01

voluntary group project I would like from

31:03

the teacher and night and I want

31:05

to see you tell me and writing

31:08

and professional setting in an email that

31:10

this is what you're doing your class

31:12

as right. Your teacher should email me

31:14

exactly the teachers receive. The

31:17

silver I did this Some audacity.

31:20

yes this is our job is

31:22

getting permission to g. Here's

31:26

my teacher. so. Yeah prisoner doctors

31:28

those is so funny I now have high

31:30

so we just set of we can have

31:32

my bag as yeah I say Vegas where

31:34

and I am in Florida and while they

31:36

fourth may fourth would have been the lovers

31:38

and francis full we had our forty eight

31:40

hours and as yes I have the time

31:42

I'm alive for the to Naco according to

31:44

plan. Am he did not I

31:46

was so excited for you plant of holes

31:48

rab were did go to lovers and friends

31:50

at it as once a year it is

31:53

dozens of artists and you bought the whole

31:55

girl group a complete honey people to you

31:57

got to guy can either people the I've

31:59

never. When did you come on? a

32:01

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32:04

like my best girlfriends from home basically like

32:06

Philly, Delaware, my best friend the Korea who

32:08

is that It's a her fortieth is coming

32:10

up and she has been on vacation for

32:12

average three kids days. This was like a

32:14

special trip for her and like Lore and

32:16

Li and Li and I share this passion

32:18

for that type of music. Late nineties, early

32:20

two thousand like hip hop on be rap

32:23

and so is this was just gonna be

32:25

like are Super Bowl new as no one

32:27

would say this but we were. We have

32:29

this whole weekend plans. And.

32:32

Were sitting at dinner friday night Axxeo actually asked

32:34

way as I was gonna say up with but

32:36

the site called you we love South Korea's we

32:38

did our team dinner they are the one in

32:41

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32:43

Miami is at the fountain boil and bad at

32:45

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32:47

having a wonderful dinner so save with assess will

32:49

next day planner would have we're going to a

32:52

top you know we're going away or all the

32:54

stuff and bleed Just stopped dead in her tracks

32:56

and she had been on our phone and she

32:58

sees on instagram it just says festival cancelled. And

33:02

I'd say worth as league. Yes she

33:04

couldn't see is she can see. What?

33:10

You. Do you see me? So long

33:12

story short they cancel accessible due

33:14

to wind like useless be windy.

33:18

I still think it over people have you can

33:20

see I see theories people. Think that stuff was

33:22

going wrong and and they just use the

33:24

weather sick. Get the insurance money at Meatless?

33:26

I'm not. I'm not making the accusations dispensable.

33:29

Not far. Festival: I went to it. There's

33:31

always been some strawman controversies and things seem

33:33

to go wrong around the festival, but I

33:35

did go to years ago when it was

33:37

legitimate. There was also issues than authors forty

33:40

five order to try and pack into one.

33:42

Dead things are getting around France hundreds on

33:44

it. It's it's say and says in the

33:46

weather's defense it's his say wind all day

33:48

long the next two days. but it was

33:51

like Sunday. The weather was in a drop

33:53

twenty degrees and be different a and regular

33:55

all about safety like I do I understand

33:57

also like you have severe when it's below.

34:00

The around seven gets impaled edo like it can

34:02

be a hazard but Tunis wind is something that

34:04

you don't know until you know it may be

34:06

a with these Mx twenty miles an hour winds

34:08

even thirty is like still find of a festival.

34:10

Sixty know you know my when an expert I

34:12

used to be guarding them at me a lot

34:15

Thirty with I was a lot he you need

34:17

the gone. Around. There

34:21

are no it's. Not

34:23

as sexy. Wow, there's a ever car know

34:26

as a pile of trash out text by

34:28

work on forgot the car thing a fuss.

34:30

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34:32

and us until maybe the late president declared

34:34

the festival it was crazy they credit vessel

34:37

mean we were there we are right down

34:39

from this the strap like it was a

34:41

light breeze and it got like a few

34:43

wins but like someone else and then twitter

34:46

like went there and took like video with

34:48

a gets really all these gusts of like

34:50

known and outlets are all in the city

34:52

you know like stir my biggest you're in

34:55

there but this did not seem. That.

34:57

The vessels had been cancelled because of it and

34:59

it was such a bomber it was a booger.

35:02

The pool all day. For. Outside in

35:04

these lands all day the most. The day

35:06

on her own Iliad or food wrappers not

35:08

blow and. Doesn't just. fine you

35:10

know hair ahead with line of were

35:12

not tangling Neighbor Five. Minutes

35:15

and the a windy day you as a really bad. At

35:18

a symbol there is nothing to do like

35:21

others on the way to do down and

35:23

so immediately backtracked the dinner Immediately I'm like

35:25

we gotta go to Magic like we've been

35:27

dying ago. we've been dining out. Yes I'm

35:29

like immediately I'm online like I will buy

35:31

these right now. You know that's why got

35:33

my credit card am I had locked and

35:35

loaded in case or though apple pay option

35:37

and I just saw enough ceased and I

35:39

grabbed him immediately. go outside Sea Run a

35:41

full. Professor of not all. Of

35:43

the. Cave

35:48

and or a scenario which. I

35:50

don't think they have a Home Depot doesn't

35:52

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35:55

of Apple pay pseudo a card.

36:03

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36:06

I can never been out. We. Buy you just realize I

36:08

haven't built Anybody said it was okay so lotta

36:10

I immediately I'm like okay I see the seat

36:13

or such a cool settled hey that's marble the

36:15

show but I'm like how should I do this

36:17

because I don't see a table for like five.

36:19

I saw table for for and then at the

36:21

table next to it one seat open and so

36:23

like I think these tables are close not that

36:25

we're all kind of would be really tight like

36:27

the fight is around and together yeah my just

36:30

grab this I see is right and like were

36:32

and were born a magic bites and honestly I

36:34

mean listen to festival been cancelled was so devastating

36:36

like it really were grips. My heart out but

36:38

we couldn't have had a better weekend. That being

36:40

said that like the whole next day was just

36:43

like a perfect pulled. I queried. I had our

36:45

a hot coffee by the pool that's our friendship

36:47

and we just all by the pool and let's

36:49

talk shit. Had a great day and I was

36:51

up at seven in the morning. d Aiming Ivory

36:54

Restaurant in Las Vegas I owe you. don't have

36:56

any reservations the can you help me how you

36:58

got is the best reservation we want to mother

37:00

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37:02

I'm chef Chris helped us about to the ball

37:05

or table out a great I really like I

37:07

kept forgetting. That is terrible thing happens I

37:09

was really peace happy Alex my best friend.

37:11

Like my best friends but like quarry and

37:13

I don't get sick when the cases where

37:15

are like we used to live together and

37:17

do we. I mean we have not been

37:20

together outside of. Delaware. Really,

37:22

we have not done a vacation since we're not

37:24

married. You know where when some warm place by

37:26

the pool haven't drinks you know? So that was

37:28

really important to me. Why don't you days later

37:30

hundred and it didn't really register necessarily. We just

37:32

like kept at Roland like this is cancelled You

37:34

an addict might have got a reservation we planned

37:36

or us or Night with Grace but like you

37:38

said the even like working on like letting things

37:40

go little more easily and. I never

37:42

for one second it you'd one as I was

37:45

impressed because when you are really looking not

37:47

you the poor oh you are looking forward to

37:49

something and somebody takes it away from you And

37:51

you have resources you time you have a good

37:53

brain the could rationalize and figure out a

37:55

better solution. Likes you have other things you like,

37:58

I just I have no recourse like. Nothing

38:00

makes me feel crazy or of when I'm just

38:02

like I have the smarts and the money to

38:04

fix most things and I can't fix this immunity.

38:06

So crazy and all these people flown here for

38:08

their own out and expectations. Yeah we did have

38:11

clothing for the next day. We process of uploading

38:13

right there was no reservations for anything. we grub

38:15

last tickets at Magic Mike like I I was

38:17

impressed that you could. This really is the thing

38:19

you look forward to the most. And.

38:21

Usually pivoted you never complained, you aren't a bad

38:23

mood about it. you are upset like I never

38:25

one word about from you will thanks for say

38:27

Nine A means a lot I mean again what

38:30

we do but when I tell us how much

38:32

I was looking for this like heat you don't

38:34

even know you know it's when we heard that

38:36

in twenty twenty three it was the same date

38:38

as are Chicago theater so like my heart broken

38:40

on him and sony my favorite thing yeah we'll

38:42

cancel the photos by with you know getting so

38:44

we would have her but I did document of

38:46

my schedule cause that there were solely for our

38:48

is perform at the same time as which is

38:50

can assess it was be today's. On Comey fuckin

38:52

started but like I don't know what's gonna happen

38:54

on a lot of subtle done for god I

38:56

mean Ludicrous is like posts on his instagram like

38:58

Usher Ludo, Lower jaw We will do it again

39:00

you know if according lovers and sounds like i

39:02

just don't know this is like ushers thing as

39:04

you as didn't know and yeah it like broke

39:06

my heart but I'm like I'm in vegas of

39:08

my best friends and were laying by the pool

39:10

like we have dinner as tonight like I just

39:12

fell still really happy and we still be the

39:14

best of it and I just got to. We.

39:17

Ever showed Vegas! That's where we're kicking off. Our tour

39:19

will not be cancelled due to wind indoors and I

39:21

absolutely cannot wait to kick that tore off. They are

39:24

like we love they as I mean I loved it

39:26

a year before you I think I started loving vegas

39:28

and trying trying to lot of i didn't wanna know

39:30

las vegas as much wealth of well we do as

39:33

I got to L A before you tell us and

39:35

I convince you that it's gray like I started loving

39:37

Ally and I was the grants grants we got to

39:39

Vegas I was like. Forty

39:41

eight hours Vegas time. My life. I

39:43

love it! I did everything I saw.

39:45

Magic my a guy great. meals i

39:48

had sachs i made money i gave

39:50

all i do every bag i've loved

39:52

it i wanted a pool of my

39:54

friends like address slot eve yeah i

39:56

run a body is worse as dresses

39:58

slays you want for our shows Listen,

40:00

you guys, you have to come to the show.

40:02

Like, it is gonna be iconic. We're kicking off

40:04

the tour. We'll talk about Magic Mike. We got

40:06

some inspo. We're gonna be slutty. We're gonna be

40:08

the sluttiest. You be the sluttiest. Bring those titties

40:10

out. This is, book it now. One

40:13

weekend in Vegas is all you need. Stay

40:15

at a hotel. Prices are probably gonna be

40:17

great in September. And just like, do the

40:19

fucking thing. The weather, perfect. There is no

40:21

place I wanna spend 48 hours just

40:23

being debaucherous more. It is an adult, fucked

40:25

up playground. Hot take, if you've ever heard

40:28

of Las Vegas. Um, it's

40:31

just like somebody was like, what's all the most fucked

40:33

up stuff? Put it together in one city. I just

40:35

love it. It's so fun. We can't wait to kick

40:37

off the tour there. That'll be September 21st. It's

40:40

a Saturday night. You can get tickets at

40:42

girlsgottayeats.com, at the Cosmopolitan. My dad texted me

40:44

this morning. He's like, the place you're performing,

40:46

so beautiful. We've heard it. Like, our agent

40:48

insisted on it. It took a long time

40:50

to get it locked in. It was like

40:52

one of the last dates we confirmed. Cause

40:54

he was like, no, no, no. This

40:56

is where you're gonna play. He was throwing other stuff out

40:59

and then he would walk it back. He's like, no, no,

41:01

actually, no, let me go back to the Cosmo. So we

41:03

can't wait to play it. And then that's just gonna kick

41:05

off like a wild tour. Cause now we have been inspired.

41:07

I even more so. I didn't get to sit with you

41:09

at Magic Mike and I've never missed you more in my

41:11

whole life. Cause I brought a date to Magic Mike. Raina

41:13

brought a date to Magic Mike. And I'm gonna tell you

41:16

guys. No, first I'm gonna ask you a question. Have

41:19

you still not seen the fucking movie Magic Mike?

41:21

No, I don't know it. Maybe

41:24

I won't know. I don't know you. You

41:26

don't know it. I don't know you. I don't know

41:29

her. I hate you so much. I knew, I knew it. I knew

41:31

you weren't watching it secretly. What was I gonna do? Come home and

41:33

watch it? I've been fucked up for days since

41:35

we've been back. Barely recovered and it's Wednesday. I just like,

41:37

I told you to watch it years

41:39

ago. Yeah. We were in the old

41:41

studio. Sometimes we're not all the same taste and stuff. And I

41:43

just don't know if I'm gonna. This show is the best night

41:45

of our life. You probably like the movie.

41:48

Best night of your life. Nobody stripped on me.

41:50

Because I brought a date to Magic Mike. Okay,

41:52

let's talk about it. Okay, so we wake up

41:54

Saturday morning and this guy texted me, who I've

41:56

hooked up with once previously. He is so hot.

41:58

It is crazy. texted me,

42:00

are you in Las Vegas? I'm on my way

42:02

there. And I was like, am I about to

42:04

have the best day of my life? No,

42:07

that's so funny. I'm on the way. He looks on the

42:09

east coast. I'm on the way, sis. Yeah. Sire

42:13

in Vegas got on a flight. You

42:16

know, he was like, I saw that festival got canceled.

42:18

Now you don't plan. Buzz buzz. I don't know. He

42:20

didn't say this, but you never know. It's unclear. It's

42:22

unclear. So he was like, are you in Vegas? And

42:24

I was like, yeah, our festival got canceled. But like,

42:26

here's our plan for the day. Whatever. I told him

42:28

we were having dinner and he was like, oh, that's

42:30

crazy. I'm having I'm staying at the fountain blue. And I

42:32

was like, but I was like, we

42:34

have this big table at dinner. Like, come meet my friend. Say

42:37

hi. I just figured he would like have a drink and I'd

42:39

like late night. So he comes down

42:41

to dinner full suit. Oh, I didn't think so.

42:43

I was like, you guys will see when he

42:45

walks in because he's so big and hot and

42:47

tall. He looks like the rock. And then

42:49

I see this guy. I'm like in a

42:51

baby blue suit with sneak. I spotted him first.

42:54

I was like, there he is. Well, I go.

42:56

That's not him. I like did not

42:58

expect him. I weirdly knew it was. I was like, that's him.

43:00

He's in a suit. He's coming to Vegas for

43:02

the first time. He's rapping a suit. So looking like he's straight

43:04

out of magic. Like he's like

43:06

six. I'll be honest. I don't know. I could

43:08

never be a magic mic. All the strippers are like a little.

43:10

How tall is he? Six five. He's six. Yeah. Six four,

43:12

six five. He's an enormous six four, six four. He's very

43:14

beautiful. Whatever. So he comes in.

43:17

He sits down. He has like dinner with us. He

43:19

picks up the check for the whole dinner. I'm like,

43:21

okay, we

43:24

can afford dinner, but whatever. I'm not gonna

43:26

tell me how to spend his money. And

43:29

then you barely even

43:31

ate for sure. Pick up the whole tab. I was like, I'm about

43:33

to suck your dick at this dinner.

43:35

I was like, I was thinking myself,

43:37

he didn't even need to do that to fuck

43:39

Reyna, but here we are. He didn't even do

43:41

anything. He was there. I literally texted my boyfriend.

43:43

I was like, he just picked up the tab. He didn't need to. I

43:46

think we can get an answer later. Jokes on him. I would have done

43:48

it for free. And

43:54

so I was just like, he's not gonna come to Magic Mike.

43:56

Like he's not gonna want to do that. No guy wants

43:58

to do that. Or show

44:00

like I had a feeling he was going to have. okay

44:02

if I can. I like for the A Geo damn we're

44:04

all just like to come with eyes and ears like. I.

44:07

Do have mine and was really noticed cause

44:09

he buys a front row seat to match

44:11

your a solo. Job

44:15

was there was one father's the and like Vulcan

44:18

the city map as a bouquet you're gonna be

44:20

like across the stage for my we'll be like

44:22

looking at you as he bought it and I

44:24

was like this guy wants. Me is so

44:26

bad. He

44:30

tasted something that he wanted to try again says

44:32

it out he just imagine my brothers and their

44:34

and have been to more seats in the front

44:36

next to him legacy little shops the merely a

44:38

sat next to him and you and are across

44:40

the stage for me to other and I like

44:42

was so inspired by the shoulders like as woman

44:44

that and sees the whole thing under she's like

44:46

men hanging from the robbers everywhere and the may

44:48

end the show with you Run the World as

44:50

we start the show with run the world you

44:52

an idea of and I just want to sit

44:54

next to you so bad I know like I

44:56

wish I wasn't vassilis but when I say no

44:58

man. Even looked at me if no one

45:01

no one came near me to leave city.

45:03

nephews get crosses, his have a. Specific

45:07

sleep girls are all married but like these that it's

45:09

it's own that by like these guys come and serve

45:11

up on everybody and it's all just feels like the

45:13

energy feels like what I know a girl gotta eat

45:16

show feels like a be the feels the same it's

45:18

like screaming, yelling and like girl power and sexy guys

45:20

mean we have sir bizarre shows if you're near on

45:22

here and I was just like as like I get

45:24

to beat are so instead of doing our show like

45:26

us it was so inspiring the energy the room was.

45:29

Like the hot like it was just the absolute

45:31

top tier energy and the room like such like

45:33

women were all in this together as one big

45:35

bachelorette party and that's what are shows feel like

45:37

and so I'm just so excited to the store

45:39

and kiwi to see are you guys but there

45:41

were way less guys that the show so I

45:43

but there were three. I think there were three

45:45

men in the room here and then he was

45:47

one of our he looks like i'm i feel

45:49

emotional or I'm like that's one of the stripper

45:51

right? Here's the he was last year and a

45:53

rock is sitting here are not a stripper but

45:55

years ago for tylenol of guys up there are

45:58

none of them even made. Eye contact with. I

46:00

know he finally went to the bathroom and

46:02

I finally like begged one of them to

46:04

come over and just touch me. It's so

46:06

crazy because the way that the show was

46:08

so immersive and they are everywhere and on

46:10

air just like on you and and sometimes.com

46:12

and trailer handle about stay high five you

46:14

want her What some of my side know

46:16

the quit or is that looks like a

46:18

bro or they do have a my heartedly

46:20

added you wanna be you want them on

46:22

ios yes And the whole time he was

46:24

a great. Went out to the mall earlier

46:26

that day to buy a. Squirt so sure

46:29

I could get. A

46:31

pussy out of there was five. Of us I'm the

46:33

only single one. Only thing was five of us three

46:35

are buried Amundsen a relationship and then ran over. There

46:38

were like really gets fucked and I by the strippers.

46:40

Mx soup the day. I'd

46:42

date to Magic Mike. I mean we're about

46:45

to flee sidner make it out the front

46:47

rows. Who are these servers like Skyn near

46:49

that? Yeah and also I will say they

46:51

do pay like extra attention blood all the

46:53

bachelorette like the bride's to be so we

46:55

just gonna put you in a male next

46:57

time I don't care I just came alive

46:59

as. It

47:01

was as I couldn't even blue as example he

47:03

split i think you would Such a fun night

47:06

obviously. That said, it's just like I was bombed

47:08

that we weren't. Sitting. Through each other

47:10

and that you didn't get to be with you

47:12

know rubs up. Honored to grind it. I

47:14

got grounded on retro right? Yeah like yeah we

47:16

laughed he went to casino I like one money

47:19

that was so fine I did you know and

47:21

I sit on Sundays laugh at a box

47:23

our table did you know I learned that so

47:25

have ruled are bending really imagine of city Doma.

47:29

Up. There like you know smoke in here but

47:31

you can sit on. I have actually not have.

47:33

You will smoke indoors. there's no role don't they

47:35

have league rules are cheat and like you can

47:37

lay low be passing ship and. Franchise lives a

47:39

career or have no idea of no. Deaths? Yeah

47:41

and then here we have fun night.

47:43

It was great and that's on that

47:46

list. So how horny were you during

47:48

Magic Mike? Like a seemingly yeah I

47:50

have literally was a two seconds way

47:52

fighter him off like a place of

47:54

that's a citizen. Of. Us

47:57

has no jerk people off. I

48:01

was were also making out an emotional

48:03

these guys I was so horny we've

48:05

actually casino as just like to decrease

48:07

with right decision. I can imagine. Me

48:09

like Super Bowl dub. It is like

48:11

a very horny show but honestly like the

48:13

hardest part is is dances between of man

48:16

and a woman. It's like this water to

48:18

at us if you like to see magic

48:20

mike to a lot of the so was

48:22

like was in magic mike. To so I don't

48:24

really love. The. Movie at my age

48:26

but now that I've seen this show a lot

48:28

of it pulls from that maintenance him presents this

48:30

yes though it is actually true the magic Mike

48:32

presented by Channing Tatum and then there's a storyline

48:35

throughout and there's this woman M C that we

48:37

love. The storyline drought is about like this guy

48:39

named Michael even had it looks like the original

48:41

younger kid and the movie and ah I just

48:43

say this brilliant what they do and the energy

48:46

is is so hot and I was just like

48:48

we feel so inspired to on our tour and

48:50

like finally be doing this again and like have

48:52

the strippers my been talking to our servers in

48:54

there and. Beat a lot of the shows

48:56

and so like you're going to get some

48:59

of that on the tour. It's just the

49:01

best. So what's your hotels? gay or girl

49:03

group together? Bring man bring your mom, bring

49:05

anybody and planners reservations com the shower or

49:07

guess you horned op excited it'll just it'll

49:09

really set the weekend off okay and then

49:12

what's going on since to small talk in

49:14

here and there he says like up with

49:16

have inferred why think you are given. The

49:19

audience people's. business

50:00

I really thought that's what

50:02

I was trying to drag out of you.

50:06

Your body, your shoes, oh my god.

50:10

Okay, well, give them what they want. You

50:13

got P.S. for sex, you guys. So I was

50:15

telling Melanie that I thought I had a UTI. I was

50:17

like, I'm on my deathbed, I'm dying. And she said, I'm

50:19

sorry to hear that, but if it makes you feel any

50:22

better, I'm sure you're part of a greater population of women

50:24

who are also leaving Las Vegas with a UTI from this

50:26

weekend. That's so fair. I

50:28

was just, I feel community. Honestly,

50:30

you guys come to the tour and you two can leave with

50:32

a UTI. So

50:36

September 22, plan to leave Las Vegas with a UTI. This

50:40

is what you're shooting for, a UTI. A lot of

50:42

people leave a gonorrhea and chlamydia too, but

50:44

if you can just shoot for a UTI. Oh my god. You

50:51

yelling like

50:54

that's not the information I have. I

50:57

was just, have you been flirting? All

51:03

right, guys, thanks for listening. TBD

51:06

on the Lovers and Friends Festival, reschedule, no matter

51:08

what, I'll be there if it

51:10

ever happens again. Be in Vegas that weekend every year.

51:13

Unless it's one of our tour dates, can you imagine?

51:15

They're like, we actually rescheduled it to September 21. Can

51:17

you imagine? Do you know how many people in my

51:19

life asked me if we were part of the festival?

51:23

Of the Lovers and Friends? My dad, my

51:25

brother, Gino, everybody, were you guys a part

51:27

of it? A part of the festival. Have

51:29

you looked at the lineup? Do

51:31

I look like we fit in here? Yeah,

51:34

Gwen Stefani asked us if we wanted to open

51:36

for her. Everybody asked

51:38

me if we were part of the festival. Which

51:40

is very flattering because most people in our lives

51:42

are just trained to know if you or I

51:44

are at a festival. We're probably a part of it.

51:47

I know, I did get a couple things where they're like, are you there for

51:49

work? I'm like, no. Anyway, all

51:51

right, well, that's the Vegas recap. If

51:54

You're interested in coming to our Vegas show or any show on

51:56

the tour, that's going to kick it off. Then We have a

51:58

bunch of shows through the year. Girls Cutting. The com

52:00

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52:02

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52:04

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52:07

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52:09

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52:11

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52:13

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So I recently took a trip about two weeks ago.

56:42

Very excited about it. All my friends were gone. You

56:45

were in Boston, all of our friends that we had.

56:47

It was like the weirdest thing. Everybody was like, bye,

56:49

peace out. And I was like, what am I gonna

56:51

do with myself? And so I just decided I've been

56:53

keeping this list in my phone of everything I want

56:55

to do in LA. And I cross things off all

56:57

the time, but I've been really dying to go to

56:59

Santa Barbara and Ojai and been trying to like plan

57:01

a trip with a bunch of girls. And I couldn't

57:03

nail everybody down. So I was just like, I'm just

57:05

gonna go. Like, I mean, you know me, I've always

57:07

been the kind of person that will travel solo. I'll

57:09

go out to eat solo. Like I feel like

57:11

I really thrive at like not waiting on other

57:14

people to do stuff. Even though I really do

57:16

love group trips all the time. But so I

57:18

took this trip, I drove to Santa Barbara for

57:20

a night. I treated myself for a nice hotel

57:22

stay. I drove to Ojai in the mountains, which

57:24

is really cool. And just I had a really

57:27

nice solo time. I enjoy my own company. And

57:29

then this girl DMed me and she sent me

57:31

I think it's inspired by the trip and me

57:33

being solo, just kind of a message about being

57:35

single and feeling like everybody kind of has a

57:38

boyfriend to do stuff with. So it really inspired

57:40

this episode. And I wanted to read you her

57:42

message. And then we'll kind of unpack it. Okay. Okay.

57:44

She said, Hi, Reina, I have a question for you.

57:46

You and Ashley have helped me so much in feeling

57:48

more comfortable and confident being single and proud of it

57:50

and building up many female friendships. I feel like I

57:52

have a big group of girls, but I find that

57:54

a lot of them, if not all of them are

57:56

in relationships. If I text and try to make last

57:58

minute plans, they are usually with their

58:00

significant others or doing other things. How do you

58:02

deal with those situations? I find myself going back

58:05

to the negative self-talk of, if I just had

58:07

a boyfriend, he would do these things with me.

58:09

And like, I'm not enough without that form of

58:11

a relationship. I was wondering if you ever feel

58:13

that way, or if you have any tips or

58:15

advice for when people do feel like this. I'm

58:17

working really hard on myself, and it's frustrating that

58:20

something this small seems to be able to unravel

58:22

all of this work that I've done. Thanks

58:24

to her for sending that, and like being

58:26

vulnerable and sharing that. I

58:29

think that you can acknowledge that it does feel

58:31

really hard sometimes. You feel isolated when everybody else

58:33

seems to have this boyfriend. And at the same

58:35

time, you can work towards something else and things

58:38

that make you feel happy and excited and working

58:40

towards the goal of just enjoying your own time.

58:42

And we just wanted to talk about that today

58:44

and the negative self-talk and ways that you can

58:46

be so low. Because I think that you and

58:48

I have just really thrived doing that. Yeah,

58:51

and we crowd sourced on Instagram. What's

58:54

something that you didn't wait for a partner to

58:56

do, as big as

58:58

buying a house or having a kid or small,

59:00

it's just going to a new restaurant you want

59:02

to try, or going to a movie that you

59:04

want to see by yourself. And I think that,

59:06

I mean, I'm speaking now from a standpoint of

59:08

being in a relationship, but I'm also in a

59:11

long distance relationship. So I'm not with that person

59:13

all the time, but I was single forever. So

59:16

this has been the story of my

59:18

life a lot, and wanting

59:20

to do things and wanting to have a full life.

59:22

And we have a

59:24

lot of girlfriends too, but there's times

59:26

when they're not available. And

59:29

there's these things where you're

59:31

like, I just pictured this with a partner. Even

59:33

if it's something, I just want

59:35

to go to the farmer's market on a Sunday or

59:37

something like that. And the ideal situation might be that

59:39

I just want to be with a partner where we

59:42

can just be spontaneous. We wake up on Sunday and

59:44

we do these things. But it's like,

59:46

if that's not your reality, it shouldn't stop you

59:48

from doing them. It shouldn't stop you from doing

59:50

them alone or calling up a girlfriend and doing

59:52

them. And then if none of your girlfriends or

59:56

your friends are available, then that still shouldn't

59:58

hold you back from doing. something that you

1:00:00

want to do. I like that you said that you do

1:00:02

sort of take a beat and acknowledge like this does suck,

1:00:04

I have to do this for myself, but then still go do

1:00:07

the thing. Yeah. And I've never been

1:00:09

disappointed I went and did a thing. I've never felt

1:00:11

embarrassed, I was alone. I think that people praise you

1:00:13

for it more often than not. It's your own negative

1:00:15

self-talk that's stopping you from doing that. And we always

1:00:17

say like, nobody looks at you across the room and

1:00:19

thinks like, oh my God, what a loser. Everybody's

1:00:22

in their own head thinking, do I look fat, do

1:00:24

I look bad, am I having fun, am I talking

1:00:26

too much, am I too loud? Like everyone's in their

1:00:28

own main character energy. Yeah. But

1:00:30

it isn't easy to do

1:00:32

stuff alone. You'll talk about your

1:00:34

trip and things like that, but just going

1:00:37

to dinner, I'm thinking of when we were in

1:00:39

London and you were already there, but I got

1:00:41

there and I really wanted to go to this

1:00:43

restaurant, this Indian restaurant, our friends had recommended, and

1:00:45

I could have come and met up with you,

1:00:48

but instead I went to this Indian restaurant by

1:00:50

myself, I would have preferred to be with my

1:00:52

boyfriend, who's also Indian, who would appreciate the experience,

1:00:54

or you or anyone else, not alone. It was

1:00:56

a very date-like place. It was all couples in

1:00:59

there, at the whole restaurant. It was almost funny

1:01:01

that it was all couples, and then me, just

1:01:03

sitting at a two top, sandwich in between two

1:01:05

couples, I did the tasting menu full

1:01:07

send, and even I, who, I am

1:01:10

in a relationship, I'm 40 years old, I

1:01:12

do stuff by myself, I've been doing stuff

1:01:14

by myself for so long, I even felt

1:01:16

a little, it's not my dream, but

1:01:19

I wanted to go to that restaurant and I don't have

1:01:21

any regrets. I mean, no one that decided to do something

1:01:23

solo that they wanted to do, I mean, I'm sure there's

1:01:26

exceptions to every rule, but for the most part, people don't

1:01:28

regret it. I mean, people come to our shows alone, and

1:01:31

they're always like, I can't imagine if they hadn't,

1:01:33

have come. They make friends and they have a

1:01:35

great time, and like you said, it's no one's

1:01:37

ever seen around judging. When I was in Boston,

1:01:39

we were at Barcelona, like a

1:01:41

packed restaurant, I love Barcelona, and there

1:01:43

was Saturday night, and packed

1:01:45

place, this girl was just at the end of the

1:01:47

bar, alone, just enjoying herself, no one ever came to

1:01:50

meet her, and we looked at her, not judging her,

1:01:52

but in a way of like, good for her. I

1:01:54

thought it was a bad bitch, we'll go to a

1:01:56

restaurant, sit there by themselves, it's so sexy to me,

1:01:58

oh my God, I love it. But I

1:02:00

think this self-talk seeps in of like, everybody has a

1:02:02

teammate and I don't, everybody has an adventure buddy and

1:02:04

I don't, why does everybody get this thing and I

1:02:06

don't, and I could go do all these things if

1:02:09

I had something to do with it and I have

1:02:11

all these ideas, but I don't want

1:02:13

anybody to do these things with. And that has been

1:02:15

my reality for a couple years now. I'm thankful that

1:02:17

you are more of a partner to me, not

1:02:20

a romantic partner, but you and I just do so much stuff together.

1:02:22

I've cultivated a big friend group, but yeah, there are

1:02:24

those days where you just want to go do something

1:02:27

spontaneous and you're just like, no one's around, everyone's their

1:02:29

fucking boyfriend, you look on social media, everybody looks

1:02:31

so happy. And you're just like, I

1:02:33

want what they have so badly and I don't have it. And

1:02:35

I think it's important to remember, of course not

1:02:37

a hot take, but like on social media, not everything

1:02:39

is as it seems. And people really hype up what

1:02:42

things are. I mean, some people are actually really just

1:02:44

happy and it's genuine, but some people hype it up.

1:02:46

And then I think a good exercise for me when

1:02:48

I start being like, everybody has this thing I want

1:02:50

and I don't have it and I want it so

1:02:53

bad, is thinking like, well, what

1:02:55

do they have and do I actually want it?

1:02:57

So like what they have is a

1:02:59

teammate to do stuff with and I

1:03:01

can either replace that personally with my own

1:03:04

time because I enjoy myself or with a

1:03:06

friend. And do I want what they have?

1:03:08

I look at other people's relationships and there's

1:03:10

some that I emulate in terms of how

1:03:12

my friends are being treated by their partners.

1:03:14

And I love that they are happy, but

1:03:16

I don't necessarily want other people's problems. You

1:03:18

know, I want criminal problems. Yeah. And

1:03:21

I think that most people around me have found the

1:03:23

thing that fits for them and the partner that fits

1:03:25

for them, but I don't want that partner

1:03:27

and I don't want those problems. And so

1:03:29

you can say to yourself like, well, they

1:03:31

have to deal with a world of problems too.

1:03:34

And lots of issues come with every partner

1:03:36

and everything's hard and being alone is hard and

1:03:38

being with people is hard. And just because somebody

1:03:40

finds a partner doesn't mean that like the race

1:03:42

is over. There's tons of compromise

1:03:44

that comes with a partner that you never

1:03:46

need to have when you're solo. Right. Never

1:03:49

need to compromise. Well, and

1:03:51

chances are, especially if you're young, like

1:03:53

those people are gonna break up. And then they're

1:03:56

gonna be back in their single era and then you

1:03:58

might have a partner like all these. things just

1:04:00

ebb and flow and change and people go in and

1:04:02

out of different phases in their life. I

1:04:05

know sometimes it can feel like, okay, but

1:04:07

right now, I'm the only single girl. And

1:04:11

it just won't be like that forever. And

1:04:14

nothing's forever. And your time will

1:04:16

come. And I know it sounds like it's just a

1:04:18

cliche statement, but it is true. Like

1:04:20

things that feel so terrible in the moment. I

1:04:22

know it sounds just like a mom big sister

1:04:25

thing to say, but you'll look back on and

1:04:27

be like, oh, that wasn't that deep. And

1:04:30

I have to tell myself all the things that I do get to

1:04:33

do and do get to have. And like, there's

1:04:35

a lot of really nice things about not having a boyfriend. I

1:04:37

don't want a man in this house all the time. I like

1:04:39

the house looking at all times like no one lives here. Like

1:04:41

it's never been lived in. My house is so clean. I

1:04:43

don't have to feed anybody and make plans for

1:04:45

them and like keep them alive. Essentially, I don't

1:04:48

have to do that for another person. And that's

1:04:50

nice for me. Yeah. And I just don't really

1:04:52

have to make a lot of compromises. And when

1:04:54

I do find a partner, I've found that I

1:04:56

easily slip into that. It's not so hard and

1:04:58

rigid for me, but in a moment I'm enjoying

1:05:01

not having to do those things. Yeah. Well,

1:05:03

let's talk about like how you do stuff like

1:05:05

this if you're not a person that it's like

1:05:07

second nature to you. You know, I think

1:05:10

that like baby steps are good. Not everybody is going to like

1:05:12

get in the car and take a two day trip by

1:05:14

themselves. Yeah. You know, like go have lunch by yourself

1:05:16

at a restaurant. A little bit of lunch and brunch.

1:05:18

Great place to start. Yeah. Weekdays. You and I talked

1:05:20

about this. Like weekdays feel less, way less intimidating. Totally.

1:05:23

Listen, I think I'm like pretty top tier in terms

1:05:25

of doing stuff solo. I don't know that I'm sitting

1:05:27

at a restaurant alone on a Saturday night at a

1:05:29

bar. Yeah. I mean, I think it's dope as hell

1:05:31

if you do it, but I just even I, I

1:05:33

don't feel like that's what I want to do. You

1:05:36

know, I think that it does take a little bit

1:05:38

of self-work and self-talk, making everybody's looking at me, but

1:05:40

they're not. And if you're worried, bring a book, bring

1:05:42

a magazine. I always have like something with me

1:05:44

that I can read. Mm hmm. You know, yeah.

1:05:47

I saw a friend of ours, Alex Bennett, who

1:05:49

is Mean Girl Pod. And she started this media

1:05:51

company and she's just killing it. And we were with her

1:05:53

at a birthday party recently and just

1:05:55

catching up with her. But she had posted on Instagram a

1:05:57

couple of weeks ago at this point. She was just at

1:05:59

the bar. herself. She just announced her pregnancy so

1:06:01

she wasn't drinking. She was like having an app or

1:06:03

whatever and she was like, I love sitting at the

1:06:05

bar by myself. And I'm

1:06:07

sure she does. I mean, she is like super confident.

1:06:10

But it made me think, even if

1:06:12

you don't just convince yourself that you

1:06:14

do like really just fake it till

1:06:16

you make it. It is like sexy

1:06:18

and independent. And I was thinking like

1:06:20

you can become who you want at

1:06:22

any time. You know, if you're sitting

1:06:24

you're saying like, but I'm not a

1:06:26

person who does go to a bar

1:06:28

and sit alone. I'm not a person who

1:06:30

takes trips alone. I'm not a person who does this

1:06:32

stuff, who says who? Like you

1:06:34

can decide at any time who you want to

1:06:37

be and then just be that person. Like this

1:06:39

isn't like a full reinvention of your personality, which

1:06:41

you can also do too. But you can decide

1:06:43

like, but today I am. Today I am someone

1:06:45

that goes and does this stuff alone. Or today

1:06:47

I am someone that does

1:06:49

this thing that I thought I wanted to do with

1:06:52

a romantic partner and I'm going to go do it

1:06:54

with a girlfriend or whoever or family member. Or again,

1:06:56

just go it alone or with your dog or whatever

1:06:58

it is. Like you can just decide to

1:07:00

reframe things and think about them differently

1:07:02

and be that person and just convince

1:07:04

yourself that you are. I agree.

1:07:07

And if you do it long enough, you will

1:07:09

be that person. Yes, exactly. That's the pride that

1:07:11

you get when you're just like, I did this on

1:07:13

my own and it was uncomfortable and not everybody

1:07:15

could do this. And I did it. And I

1:07:17

remember when my like fiance and I broke up, but

1:07:19

I'd never traveled anywhere. And I really felt this sense

1:07:21

of like sadness that I just never gone anywhere.

1:07:23

I'd never been to Europe. I've never been to

1:07:25

London, which is part of the UK. So you guys

1:07:28

know, I know it's not Europe. I had never really

1:07:30

been anywhere. And so I just started planning these

1:07:32

trips. And the first trip I ever took was

1:07:34

I think London, Paris, and maybe Madrid. And like, I

1:07:36

did that on my own. I navigated it. I booked

1:07:38

all the flights and the hotels. And I was

1:07:40

in my like late twenties and I just was

1:07:42

so proud. The sense of like pride that I felt

1:07:44

that I like did all this by myself. I planted

1:07:47

by myself. I mapped it by myself. Like I,

1:07:49

and I had taken so many trips, my acts

1:07:51

where I was also responsible for everything. And that was

1:07:53

very frustrating. Whereas being responsible for everything by myself made

1:07:55

me feel really proud and I could do anything

1:07:57

I wanted all the time without checking in with

1:07:59

anybody. And yeah, I wasn't somebody

1:08:01

that ever traveled by myself, but then I was like, so

1:08:03

who? Who you can? Exactly. So

1:08:06

by the time I met you years later, that's how I think

1:08:08

of you as a woman who was traveled

1:08:10

a lot by herself. Like where you're like, okay,

1:08:12

but I didn't used to be. It's like, but

1:08:14

now you are. You know, and I think that's

1:08:16

just personal growth. And I think that doing things

1:08:18

that may feel scary or intimidating, just help you

1:08:20

grow and be more confident. You're able to love

1:08:22

yourself more, trust yourself more and rely on yourself.

1:08:25

And I think all those things are attributed to

1:08:27

leading you to be the person that you want

1:08:29

to be in a relationship. You know, someone

1:08:31

that is confident and secure and loves

1:08:33

themselves. I think that personal growth is

1:08:35

so important and something to always make

1:08:37

sure that you're recognizing and being proud

1:08:39

of in yourself. Like I think those

1:08:41

little moments where you're like, I did

1:08:43

this thing that I wouldn't have done

1:08:45

last year or last week or

1:08:48

five years ago. You know, when I do

1:08:50

that now and I have grown, I think

1:08:52

pass yourself in the back all the time.

1:08:54

You know, like these things are shaping who

1:08:56

you are. Like every single time you do

1:08:58

something, that's the even slightest bit scary or

1:09:00

intimidating. It is personal growth and it

1:09:02

is like shaping the person that you

1:09:05

are becoming. I

1:09:08

mean, it's true. I just really believe that. I've

1:09:10

been thinking a lot about like after having takes

1:09:12

from the show last week and reading her book,

1:09:14

these like very small mindset shifts of like, instead

1:09:16

of being like, I can't do these things because

1:09:19

I'm single, you say like, I get to do

1:09:21

these things because I'm single. And like, everyone I

1:09:23

went to Southeast Asia for the first time, I

1:09:26

decided that I was going tomorrow and I just booked

1:09:28

a flight and went. And I didn't have to wait

1:09:30

on a partner to take off work or figure out

1:09:32

how to really get the money to do something like

1:09:35

that. I was just like, this is this thing that's

1:09:37

important to me. I have the time all of a

1:09:39

sudden and I'm just gonna go. And like, I got

1:09:41

to do that because I was by myself. And I

1:09:43

do think I've changed my life a lot as I've

1:09:45

gotten older and I've really built a lot more female

1:09:47

friendships in and I like traveling with friends a lot

1:09:49

now too, but I did not let it stop me

1:09:51

from anything. And I now it is who I am.

1:09:54

And I'm like so proud of it. Right, exactly. Like

1:09:56

you turned in the person that you aspire to be.

1:09:58

And we're talking a lot about doing stuff. solo

1:10:00

but it's the same with doing stuff with

1:10:02

friends that you'd picture doing with a partner,

1:10:04

you know, and like I said You pictured

1:10:06

doing this thing with a partner, but just

1:10:08

picture a different way now, you know Like

1:10:10

reframe it you're in charge of your

1:10:13

own life in the way that you think about things in

1:10:15

the first place And I think sometimes these things can feel

1:10:17

a little cringe like something minor Like

1:10:19

I just want to go to this farmers market

1:10:21

and the way that I pictured it was walking

1:10:24

hand-in-hand with my partner Well again just set

1:10:26

it up with a girlfriend I think sometimes you're like I'm really gonna text

1:10:28

a girlfriend like do you want to go to the farmers market in

1:10:30

two weeks? Yeah, who cares? You

1:10:32

don't like plan ahead, you know, you might have thought

1:10:35

these things were just gonna fall into your lap and

1:10:37

be spontaneous But sometimes you might just have to do

1:10:39

a little more planning do a little more outreach You

1:10:41

know make a list of things that you want to

1:10:43

do Like I think it's always Important right and I

1:10:45

do this too Especially since moving to LA like have

1:10:47

your list of things you want to do locked and

1:10:50

loaded so when you have an opportunity To get together

1:10:52

with a girlfriend or a colleague or whatever it may

1:10:54

be you're like, okay Well, let's go here like this

1:10:56

was on my list I feel a sense of that

1:10:58

too Like there's so many places I want to go

1:11:00

in LA we haven't been to where

1:11:02

I felt like that in New York And it's like

1:11:04

just make a list in your phone as corny as

1:11:06

you may think that feels or as cringe as that

1:11:08

feels and just Work through it getting

1:11:11

those things done without a partner. I have two

1:11:13

big lists in my phone I mean everything I

1:11:15

want to do in LA and I like categorized

1:11:17

it like Restaurants that everybody's been to that I've

1:11:19

been to yet new restaurants just cultural things I've

1:11:21

never been to that I want to check out

1:11:23

and like trips I want to take and my

1:11:25

other list is my LA friends because I just

1:11:27

forget sometimes like So John make a list of

1:11:30

the friends and the people that you know in

1:11:32

your life and you might even be like forgetting

1:11:34

About some people and I think all the time

1:11:36

about like making new friends and how I've done

1:11:38

that sometimes like Grace Atwood Who is like an

1:11:40

Instagram blogger and she's somebody that I think you met

1:11:42

first and we're on her podcast years ago Her and

1:11:44

I and you have been friends for a long time

1:11:46

now But I met her very briefly and she mentioned

1:11:48

that she really liked art I think

1:11:50

and I saw that this art festival was coming to New

1:11:52

York and I like barely knew her but I just like

1:11:54

Sent her in a message in Instagram was like this is

1:11:56

weird But you want to like go to this thing with

1:11:58

me and or I've been great friends ever

1:12:01

since. And like, you might just forget

1:12:03

that you have those like people even

1:12:05

acquaintances just in like your pocket

1:12:07

because you're just like, I don't

1:12:09

want somebody really want to do this with me. It's

1:12:11

like, yeah, she said she likes art. So message her.

1:12:13

Yeah, I'm starting to feel like we're losing some friends.

1:12:15

Like I'm starting to feel a little anxious

1:12:17

about it. Like there was this point here where we're

1:12:19

like, we have too many friends. Like we just have

1:12:21

would have these weekends where all we did was hang

1:12:23

out with like four different groups of friends, you know,

1:12:26

and it's always random. I have where we have all

1:12:28

the same friends here. And a couple

1:12:30

people have moved away. What about pregnancy? Yeah, we

1:12:32

had a friend that he pregnant. So she's gonna

1:12:34

be out for a little bit. And then, you

1:12:36

know, Alyssa is gone for the summer. And, you

1:12:39

know, like a handful of people just moved.

1:12:41

And, you know, I don't think this like

1:12:43

era is over. But I'm like, we got

1:12:45

a audition restock. Yeah. Yeah. You

1:12:48

know, start submitting applications. Right. So we

1:12:50

tell it to Alex Bennett, I was

1:12:52

like, auditions are open or the

1:12:54

positions available. Yeah, positions available. Yeah. So funny. Well,

1:12:56

I've said this for so many years. But like,

1:12:58

if you want more friends in your life, I

1:13:00

always just think you should say yes to everything

1:13:03

and try to go to events. And in LA,

1:13:05

I love the camber app for finding stuff to

1:13:07

do here. And I also love timeout. It's always

1:13:09

segmented by different cities. So timeout will have

1:13:11

everything to do in LA music or food

1:13:13

wise, I like eater.com. So eater has an

1:13:15

LA section as every city for restaurant openings.

1:13:17

And I would check these websites and just

1:13:19

find stuff to do and just everything people

1:13:21

ask you like you just say yes. And

1:13:23

I have found a lot of friends through

1:13:26

that. And unfortunately, it can be a little

1:13:28

uncomfortable and annoying for the time being I

1:13:30

hate doing stuff. I hate living in the

1:13:32

house. But I've made a lot of friends

1:13:34

through just saying yes to everything. Yeah, totally.

1:13:36

I think that like, you know, there's two

1:13:38

buckets, you know, you should make more single friends, say

1:13:40

yes to everything, go do that and then find other ways

1:13:42

to just enjoy your own company. I've tried to really do

1:13:44

both. And I think I do a good job at both.

1:13:46

But yeah, I go to the farmers market all the time.

1:13:48

We actually have like a friend who it's a couple I

1:13:50

go with them like most weekends, I meet them there, I

1:13:52

see them for like 20 minutes. I

1:13:54

read a lot, I take walks, I go to the beach,

1:13:56

I take day trips, afternoon movies, I go

1:13:58

to afternoon movies a lot. by myself. Good

1:14:00

way to ease in too, because we're talking about

1:14:03

going to stuff at off peak times. I think

1:14:05

that's a great way to ease into that solo

1:14:08

life is not going on date

1:14:10

night, you know, or Saturday night at the bar.

1:14:12

You know, it is doing stuff on like that

1:14:14

more off peak hours. Definitely. And then I just

1:14:16

feel like I've been getting served a lot of

1:14:19

like home improvement TikToks and

1:14:21

Instagrams recently. And like, I'm really

1:14:23

into like wood benches and like wood tables, things

1:14:25

like that. And if you go on like Etsy,

1:14:27

if you shop like a custom wood bench can

1:14:29

be like thousands of dollars, but like you could

1:14:31

just go to Home Depot and learn how to

1:14:33

make one yourself. Make it, yeah. And I've been

1:14:35

like seeing so much of this online recently, probably

1:14:37

because I like clicked on two and now I

1:14:39

get a thousand of them, but like home improvement

1:14:41

projects, nothing makes me more excited finding like new

1:14:43

art, new cheap frames. I mean, there's nothing you

1:14:45

can't find on Amazon for your house. Yeah. I

1:14:48

mean, I also think that a lot of times

1:14:50

as women, you know, myself included, we can be

1:14:52

like, you can't do that. You need to like have a

1:14:54

man to do it or have a higher task grab it.

1:14:56

Listen, it's not that hard. Get yourself a little drill. I

1:14:59

got this cute pink drill. I'm so excited

1:15:02

to drill all the time. You got to figure out

1:15:04

how to find a stud and do the stud finders

1:15:06

also. But like, it's not hard. Like just look on

1:15:08

YouTube. Men do it. Yeah, boys do it. You

1:15:11

know? You can do it. Like you feel really

1:15:13

empowered when you do those little things around the house. And

1:15:15

again, there's also a point where you're like, no, like I don't want

1:15:17

to do that. Time is money. I'm going to hire somebody to do

1:15:19

it. But it depends on how much money you have and

1:15:21

all those kinds of factors. So I do think

1:15:24

doing those things is empowering as well. And

1:15:27

then you do get a partner and then

1:15:29

you do stop doing them. Oh

1:15:31

yeah, I'm not D'Lulu. I'm not doing that

1:15:33

stuff after I find a partner. No, like

1:15:35

people, it's very like crazy. I

1:15:38

think there's this whole thing. Who are men for? Right.

1:15:41

You know, they have to feel needed too. That's how relationships survive.

1:15:43

Yeah, I'm like, I don't know how to do it. How do

1:15:45

you pour coffee into a cup? I think I would ever take

1:15:47

out the trash if I lived with my partner. No, that's his

1:15:49

job. Yeah, I have a list of how men work. I can

1:15:51

break down these boxes. I can take the trash out. Absolutely not.

1:15:53

Every time sparkly eyes came when I lived in my West Hollywood

1:15:55

house and he was there on Sunday which

1:15:57

was usually he's still in the trash. He's out there.

1:16:00

Handling it. Yeah, I've been doing

1:16:02

it alone, but now you're here. Yeah, I'm taking

1:16:04

a break from that Yeah, like listen, I'll do

1:16:06

all these things alone and I love it and

1:16:08

I'm very happy being single But the minute a

1:16:10

man walks in this door, I have a list

1:16:12

of home you turn it over movement projects on

1:16:14

my phone I think people are listening. Okay, but

1:16:16

I learn I'll do this stuff and then why

1:16:18

do I need a man? No, no, then you

1:16:21

just you buy yourself some time. You don't do it anymore Just

1:16:25

you be drinking rosé they're doing the stuff. Yeah,

1:16:27

you could do it. That's not the point No,

1:16:29

you have to make them feel needed, you

1:16:31

know, or you can keep doing it if you want I like

1:16:33

text your boyfriend about car stuff. I was like my engine lights on I

1:16:35

don't know why I

1:16:37

mean I could have googled it myself I have

1:16:40

a fire pit that I bought and I like haven't figured out

1:16:42

how to like plug it in and but like a Man

1:16:44

could do it like I could do it I'm just

1:16:47

like I'll probably FaceTime Rob and have him tell me

1:16:49

how to do it You guys know how we feel

1:16:51

we think that women are just capable as men of

1:16:53

doing like all this stuff and more But you know,

1:16:55

let's just why manual labor just say you do that.

1:16:58

They need to feel needed I am more capable

1:17:00

than anybody all men but yeah, I just I'm happy

1:17:02

for them to come in here and do it Yeah

1:17:05

a lot of stuff came up of when we asked

1:17:07

on Instagram like stuff that you did a way for

1:17:09

someone to do and people took It and interpret it

1:17:11

in different ways But I liked a lot of the

1:17:13

handy stuff like the home renovations like little stuff about

1:17:15

your car Like, you know if you want to learn

1:17:17

to change a tire go all the way off But you know

1:17:19

checking your oil and doing things like that, you know You

1:17:21

do feel empowered and you do those things one

1:17:24

thing that came up a lot was getting a dog

1:17:27

And I want to speak on a couple things

1:17:30

with that like having a dog Really

1:17:32

does feel like you're doing something not

1:17:34

alone I mean I spend a

1:17:36

lot of time with just as old like

1:17:38

doing stuff, you know Like I would say most

1:17:40

weekends when I'm here we'd go on

1:17:42

a hike or we do something like that's an activity

1:17:44

I'm doing with my dog. It is like a partner.

1:17:47

I mean, I know it's an animal, but I know

1:17:49

not everybody I don't know has the time or the

1:17:51

resources I mean, of course, I don't want anybody to

1:17:53

get a dog if they feel like they can't like

1:17:55

give it a good life but I mean I got

1:17:57

a dog when I was just like young and broke

1:17:59

and I I figured it out and it really does

1:18:01

enhance your life in that way and I think the best

1:18:03

thing to do is get a dog without a partner. So

1:18:05

you don't have to worry about what to do when you

1:18:07

break up and you know, I know people get worked up

1:18:09

about this and we talked about it with Morgan of

1:18:12

just like sharing custody and stuff like that. But

1:18:14

I think that regardless, it sucks to share a

1:18:16

dog with your ex. Like I think the best

1:18:18

case scenario for you as a listener, if you're

1:18:21

listening and you're considering getting a dog, is that

1:18:23

you get a dog that is your dog, that

1:18:25

is your dog forever, no matter who comes along.

1:18:27

So I think it's even better to not wait

1:18:31

for a partner to get a dog. I

1:18:33

think you wanna be able to care for it

1:18:35

on your own. But anyway, we just saw that

1:18:37

come up a lot actually and I just love

1:18:39

that. Of course, you know how I feel and

1:18:41

I've had dogs for so long now and just

1:18:44

I couldn't love them more and I'm such an

1:18:46

advocate of rescuing and so I think that that

1:18:48

really creates a lot of activities for you too

1:18:50

if that's something you were considering. I mean, so

1:18:52

much of my time. Like Azul and I going

1:18:54

to the beach or going on a hike and.

1:18:56

You get so much attention. Yeah, there's that too.

1:18:58

Like you just, you're attract a lot more people

1:19:00

because that's people's end to talk to you. People aren't

1:19:02

just like looking at you like, oh my God, that

1:19:04

girl's so alone. It's like, I get to talk to

1:19:06

this person now. Yeah, but it is, I mean, if

1:19:08

you really don't like the feeling of being like alone,

1:19:12

you're not, you're with your dog, you know? So I'm not

1:19:14

saying use it as a crutch, but I just, I spend

1:19:16

a lot of time me and Azul and

1:19:19

a lot came up of women

1:19:21

buying homes without a partner.

1:19:24

I think that that is something that like we

1:19:26

really do hold off until the very last moment.

1:19:28

Obviously it's really nice to split that down payment

1:19:30

with somebody, but how, what an empowering, amazing thing

1:19:32

to be able to do that for yourself. It's

1:19:35

truly incredible. Yeah, I mean, it's like, I

1:19:37

hate that this is 2024 and we

1:19:39

even talk about it, like it's rare, you know,

1:19:41

or not the norm, but I, it's not as

1:19:43

much, you know? And so I still think it's

1:19:45

like dope as hell. Like I think it is

1:19:47

so, so incredible. I mean, I haven't done it.

1:19:49

I'm not waiting for someone to do it, but

1:19:51

it's something that like I haven't really done yet.

1:19:54

And It's been like on my bucket

1:19:56

list. And So I Just think that

1:19:58

it's amazing. And I Really? They just wanna

1:20:00

look at any one who. You. Know thought

1:20:02

that they probably would buy that first home with

1:20:04

a partner and were like now I'm than a

1:20:06

by myself. I think that's it's really hard you

1:20:09

hit that Avery feel like you are the only

1:20:11

thing or frontier like anything my life would turn

1:20:13

out like that. like and I didn't know. Don't

1:20:15

have to go to the farmers' market alone and

1:20:17

be shopping for houses alone. but like the statistics

1:20:20

on you being alone forever are so low like

1:20:22

everybody will find somebody but in any case that

1:20:24

you don't for a while you get his house.

1:20:26

This thing we've done for yourself like it so

1:20:28

special and yeah I agree to so silly to

1:20:31

be like. A super easy to buy. Coverage

1:20:35

your bag or of yeah we'll see a

1:20:37

not buying yourself the Us and we saw

1:20:39

people said about myself City story about myself

1:20:41

why Cel bag about myself Diamond earrings My

1:20:43

personal story about this is I remember when

1:20:45

I was in my twenties a be like

1:20:47

split mid late twenties I'd a friend she

1:20:50

was a few years older than me and

1:20:52

she is this great marriage and family and

1:20:54

I remember when she told me her husband

1:20:56

bought her a pair Lube Times and article

1:20:58

that was so sexy. You notice that the

1:21:00

classic block pump read bottoms and. I was

1:21:02

at i want Island Day like I want

1:21:04

my man to buy me that very expensive

1:21:07

pair of like read bottom shoes and. Feel

1:21:10

emotion about this and I just bought of

1:21:12

myself and. It. Was there was

1:21:14

so much better than. Someone. Buying

1:21:16

them for me Why we didn't Weirdly a

1:21:18

Mossad and you know a whole say why

1:21:21

I bought my for where we talked about

1:21:23

it was like a huge moment for me.

1:21:25

Here are some lube or time feel like

1:21:27

this? Like one saying that yeah I am

1:21:29

just gets you feel sexy and are like

1:21:31

ridiculously overpriced. Exactly hundred dollar yeah earlier of

1:21:33

a broader issue yet crazy The and they

1:21:35

are. Nothing's more uncomfortable on planet Earth will

1:21:37

either. Booties I were were more comfortable than

1:21:39

this of you. But anyway my biology like

1:21:41

the classic pat mother so tight you sell

1:21:44

your to throw up while you're walking and

1:21:46

it. Was a huge moment in my

1:21:48

life when I got to justly do

1:21:50

that for my ass. I know I'm

1:21:52

glad you like share that sentiment like

1:21:54

I did not feel sad that. This.

1:21:57

Isn't I picture it? I felt the complete opposite.

1:21:59

I was. I'm a bad bitch about these

1:22:01

read bottoms for myself and my party beats

1:22:03

you know like us really felt empowered like

1:22:06

it meant so much more. It really does

1:22:08

it and then I just was actually I'd

1:22:10

like gifts the who does it you know

1:22:12

But I'm a woman that by such as

1:22:14

for herself and I'm glad to be her

1:22:17

yes I grew feel and I want to

1:22:19

Santa Barbara I say the Ritz Carlton is

1:22:21

a expensive hotel he said during the week

1:22:23

so it is obvious a less money buys.

1:22:25

I mean it is a special occasion place

1:22:27

the Ritz Carlton in Santa Barbara. Everybody is.

1:22:30

Wall all couples are those in a couple

1:22:32

except for me but I was like I

1:22:34

just bought this for my solve. Any paid

1:22:36

for has the Ritz Carlton all alone. A

1:22:38

good for nobody to give that to me.

1:22:40

I get the my from with my dad

1:22:42

or my boyfriend like I just did that

1:22:44

nervously. Very proud that I just did that

1:22:46

for me. Yeah a lot of stuff like

1:22:48

that came up. I mean even just bang

1:22:50

yourself flowers like a heartache. Miley you know

1:22:53

the psych yourself, your flowers, your king bad

1:22:55

you know and of the dummy don't miss

1:22:57

or and the king bad I mean I

1:22:59

think that's that manifesting to you want someone

1:23:01

to be and in your bed you know

1:23:03

like everyone the by big one make space

1:23:05

know literally by it. you don't have to

1:23:07

wait on that to you know you want

1:23:09

to begin bed, roll around a by yourself,

1:23:11

get it for yourself like just never feel

1:23:13

held back like you don't want to live

1:23:15

your life waiting for someone to let you

1:23:18

live your life. But

1:23:22

so much solo travel stuff. so much like

1:23:24

moving start moving to another country. I

1:23:27

love this one so much because this speaks to

1:23:29

me But someone said i always dreamed of a

1:23:31

safari honeymoon at thirty three and single I said

1:23:33

fuck it and went. I love that yes go

1:23:36

off and the nobody believes in solo travel or

1:23:38

them alloa so much yes and then one. I

1:23:40

want to touch on that we can guy wanted

1:23:42

a lesson see what we left off but was

1:23:44

Kamin having an orgasm. Didn't. Have

1:23:46

to wait for somebody. See

1:23:48

myself when I think this is this is

1:23:51

real because you might be, especially if you're

1:23:53

one of our younger listeners. Is like you

1:23:55

have an orgasm. ever may

1:23:57

be and he saw a man do

1:24:00

You better be able to do that. Let's take the

1:24:02

whole topic out of it. No, that's not going

1:24:04

to happen. Doesn't matter. You

1:24:07

could have a boyfriend and you still have to do that for yourself.

1:24:09

I know tons of people have boyfriends that never have a boyfriend. The

1:24:12

things, those don't translate. Yeah,

1:24:15

I read this quote that I liked a lot and it said, being

1:24:17

single doesn't mean missing out on life and being in

1:24:19

a relationship doesn't translate to having everything that you want.

1:24:22

Oh, I love that. So, you know,

1:24:24

I think that we really do get in our heads

1:24:26

about like being alone and I don't have any to

1:24:29

do this and everybody else has what I want. And

1:24:31

I did kind of like make some notes also about

1:24:33

like the way that you can start to feel about

1:24:35

your friends because you're just like, everybody has this thing

1:24:37

that I want. And am I not a part of

1:24:39

their lives and the social circle anymore because they have

1:24:41

this thing. And people don't stop being your friends because

1:24:43

they are in a relationship and it is

1:24:45

really in your own head and people will think of you

1:24:48

how you speak about yourself. So, yeah, if you say like,

1:24:50

I'm single and I hear it, I'm so downtrodden, like people

1:24:52

will think of you as that. But like, no

1:24:54

one's ever really talked to me like that because I don't talk

1:24:56

about myself like that. I love being single. I love my life.

1:24:58

I hope to find a partner. I'm not delusional enough to think

1:25:00

like I would just love to be alone forever. Like

1:25:02

I would love the intimacy of a partner. Nothing gives

1:25:04

you a high like that. I would love to have

1:25:06

more sex. Those things are great. But I really like

1:25:08

my life now. And so the door

1:25:11

is not open to like feel sorry for me.

1:25:13

Like none of my friends have ever treated me

1:25:15

like, let me give you some advice about how to be

1:25:17

as good as I am. Yeah, they treat you like you

1:25:19

treat yourself. Like you always

1:25:21

say that like people will think of you

1:25:24

the way that you speak about yourself. Yeah,

1:25:26

exactly. And I think it's nice actually to

1:25:28

have friends around me there and really nice

1:25:30

healthy relationships because I think there's so

1:25:32

much noise online about how bad dating has gotten and how terrible

1:25:34

everybody is. And you sent me this article about how selfish dating

1:25:36

has gotten. We want to do an episode about that. But it

1:25:38

has gotten really bad. I

1:25:42

think in some corners of

1:25:44

the world dating and tick tock can make you

1:25:46

think that everything is terrible. And it's a good

1:25:48

reminder that there are great people out there that

1:25:50

will treat you really well and that there are

1:25:52

healthy, normal, long term thriving relationships. And I like

1:25:54

seeing my friends in those type of scenarios because

1:25:56

it reminds me that it's possible. Yes,

1:25:58

and it reminds you that it's happening. happening in your

1:26:00

circle. Like I said this before, like when

1:26:02

you want to get jealous or envious, and

1:26:05

I don't say that in a negative way, everybody feels

1:26:07

those feelings. You know, when you want something that people

1:26:09

have that are in, it hits closer to home because

1:26:11

people that are close to you, your actual friends, not

1:26:13

just people on the internet, but it means that it's

1:26:16

happening in your orbit. So you're next,

1:26:18

you know, you could be. And so I

1:26:20

think it's just inspiring when

1:26:22

it is your close circle of friends, instead

1:26:24

of thinking of it as like, Oh, it's

1:26:26

everybody in my close circle of friends. It's

1:26:28

like, why? I mean, I must be next.

1:26:31

And just because you have a partner doesn't mean

1:26:33

they're going to do this stuff with you. You know,

1:26:35

like you should get used to doing stuff solo

1:26:37

or with your friends because I don't know, you

1:26:39

could end up in a relationship that's long distance.

1:26:41

Like, you know, we were talking with our friend

1:26:43

Brittany Hockley, who lives in Australia. I mean, she's

1:26:45

in this wonderful, loving relationship. She hasn't seen

1:26:47

him in five months. They have like a really serious long

1:26:49

distance relationship, or it will be five months by the time

1:26:51

she sees him. And then a lot of

1:26:54

people interpret the Instagram

1:26:56

question as like, not

1:26:59

waiting on your partner that you have. So it doesn't

1:27:01

mean they're going to do so. I mean, I saw stuff

1:27:03

like that. These are people in relationships that still were

1:27:05

like, I had to do it myself or how to do

1:27:07

it alone. You know, like there's no guarantees. Oh, I

1:27:09

mean, there's stuff a lot of like building furniture, putting

1:27:11

together baby stroller, you know, putting together. She

1:27:13

said, one woman said, install the dishwasher. My husband

1:27:16

insisted we didn't need one. You know, what we

1:27:18

did went to this restaurant, like my partner couldn't

1:27:20

come like different things like that. I mean, went

1:27:22

to a strawberry patch to pick strawberries. Like, I

1:27:25

mean, some of these things are, it was clear

1:27:27

they had a partner went to therapy on my

1:27:29

own because he wouldn't go with me. I mean,

1:27:31

these are people in relationships that are still like,

1:27:33

I want to do the thing and my partner's

1:27:36

not doing it with me. And I like people

1:27:38

that don't make their relationship their entire personality, you

1:27:40

know, like it's nice to have outlets and hobbies

1:27:42

outside of your primary relationship. You talk about

1:27:45

your parents all the time and how they have this

1:27:47

like thriving social life outside of each other. And it

1:27:49

is just nice to build your own life outside of

1:27:51

that. Yeah. And then you're not so dependent

1:27:53

on somebody. Like, you're not just like, I can't get out

1:27:55

of this. Right. Like once I started hiking, I was so

1:27:57

scared at first, but I didn't have any friends and my

1:27:59

boyfriend went down. So I went, you know,

1:28:01

this is our view on relationships

1:28:03

and every single expert we've had on. I

1:28:05

mean, what makes you more attractive to a

1:28:08

potential partner is that you have this really

1:28:10

full rich life and things that you're excited

1:28:12

about and things to talk about. And you're

1:28:14

an interesting person. And the only way you

1:28:16

get to be that type of person is

1:28:19

by having interest in hobbies, doing these things,

1:28:21

traveling, you know, cooking, going

1:28:23

to museums, like whatever it is that

1:28:25

you're into, you got to

1:28:27

do that stuff. Otherwise, again, you're just this like boring

1:28:29

person who's like sitting around waiting for a partner to

1:28:32

live your life. I, people who date me and you

1:28:34

are so I'm so good at

1:28:36

so many things. I can like cook and I have all these

1:28:38

friends and I have interest in hobbies and like, I'm proud that

1:28:40

like when I meet somebody that I really love that I get

1:28:42

to like fold them into that. It

1:28:45

feels really nice to say like, I can

1:28:47

provide all these like really nice fun like

1:28:49

additions to your life. I feel really like

1:28:51

great about that. I have these

1:28:53

nice friends you get to meet and these hobbies and

1:28:56

interests I can introduce you to and new

1:28:58

cuisines. Wait,

1:29:00

was that on an episode or was that? I

1:29:02

think it was Tyler Cameron. He was laughing at me.

1:29:04

Was it? Or was it just in a conversation? No,

1:29:06

I think it was a saw hell. He's it's an

1:29:09

episode coming out. Yeah. But was it on air?

1:29:11

Well, stay tuned. We'll let you guys know. But I

1:29:13

just I feel proud that I've taken advantage of the

1:29:15

time that I'm solo to build a life. I'm really

1:29:17

proud of we say this all the time. I

1:29:19

don't think that's easy all the time or comfortable. But

1:29:22

like, what other choice do I have? So I've made

1:29:24

it my mission to have traveled to a lot of

1:29:26

places and built these friendships. And like the

1:29:28

person that dates me is so lucky you

1:29:30

just get that. And it's

1:29:32

what you look for in another person. So why

1:29:35

wouldn't you want to become that type

1:29:37

of person too? Because then what you're going to be

1:29:39

a person who hasn't really done all

1:29:41

these things. And you're just waiting around to fold yourself

1:29:43

into someone else's life and then all their interests and

1:29:45

hobbies and where they want to travel and what they

1:29:47

want to eat and all that that becomes your set

1:29:50

of interests. You know, like we always say

1:29:52

we want a partner who has stuff going

1:29:54

on and has hobbies and interests. And so

1:29:56

why wouldn't you want to be that person in yourself?

1:29:58

And again, if you're not with a partner, you got

1:30:00

to do that yourself. So maybe

1:30:02

we close with this email we

1:30:04

got. So when we asked

1:30:07

on Instagram, some people emailed and

1:30:09

this one just really stuck out. Do you want me

1:30:11

to read it? You want to read it? I never

1:30:13

want to read it. Okay. So she says, Hi, Ashley

1:30:18

and Raina, long time fan here. I started

1:30:20

listening in 2019 shortly after I went through a

1:30:22

divorce and you guys were the voices of reason

1:30:24

and hope through the years of data that followed

1:30:26

words of wisdom from these bros ain't loyal and

1:30:29

how to survive a breakup. Like right now still

1:30:31

live rent free in my head to this day.

1:30:33

Those are so old. Those are 2018. I love

1:30:35

that classics.

1:30:38

Anyway, I got into an awful on again off

1:30:40

again relationship after my divorce. And when that finally

1:30:42

ended, I said, fuck it. I'm living in life.

1:30:44

I want to live right now. I lived in

1:30:46

Omaha, Nebraska at the time. I wonder why dating

1:30:48

wasn't working out for me lol. But I always

1:30:51

wanted to live in the downtown area of the

1:30:53

city. I picked myself up, moved to Minneapolis where

1:30:55

my big sister lives, got a dope apartment in

1:30:57

the middle of downtown, adopted a dog and started

1:30:59

traveling with my friends. I think by finally succumbing

1:31:01

to that, I don't need a man to have

1:31:03

the life I want attitude. I really unintentionally manifested

1:31:05

some of the absolute best things in my

1:31:07

life at that time, including my gem of

1:31:09

a boyfriend. We've been together two years now.

1:31:11

I used to believe that there was

1:31:13

a correct order to do things and that finding the

1:31:15

right partner had to come before I could figure the

1:31:17

rest out. I'm so glad I took the leap and

1:31:20

started doing the things I wanted for me. I know

1:31:22

it sounds corny as hell, but I truly cannot discount

1:31:24

the role you guys played in helping me become a

1:31:26

brave bitch. Truly. I appreciate you both so much. Can't

1:31:28

wait to see you guys in Minneapolis in November. All

1:31:30

my love. It's not corny. I love her.

1:31:32

I love her so much. She

1:31:35

just wrapped up this whole episode. Like it's just

1:31:37

the fact that she really just felt that way.

1:31:39

I mean, so many people feel this way. You're

1:31:42

like sitting around and waiting because you had this

1:31:44

order in your head or you had the script

1:31:46

of your life that you thought was going to

1:31:48

play out and whoever gets that, you know what

1:31:50

I mean? Like life doesn't work out the way

1:31:52

you think it's going to a lot of the

1:31:54

time. And I think even if you get it,

1:31:56

it can end. You know, I think my mom

1:31:58

thought, you know, my mom. married my dad, he's

1:32:00

a big family, he's Jewish, he made money, I

1:32:03

mean, it all went away. Even

1:32:05

if you find it, it can go away, and so it's

1:32:07

important to have a job that you love, and friends that

1:32:10

you love, and a support system. And my mom had a

1:32:12

full-time job, and tons of interest in hobbies, and tons of

1:32:14

friends, and had been her friends for 40 years. I

1:32:16

do think about my mom, because her aspiration, of

1:32:19

course, was to get married, have this big Jewish

1:32:21

family, and a big house, and she lost everything

1:32:23

in an instant, and she still had all these

1:32:25

other things to fall back on. And that's really

1:32:27

nice, and it helps you to not feel

1:32:30

like you have to settle, also. I think a lot of people

1:32:32

are just like, well, I don't really have anything going on, so

1:32:34

I'll just pick this partner, and it stops you

1:32:36

from having to do that as well. Well,

1:32:38

thank you to her, and we can't wait to

1:32:40

see her in Minneapolis. We love Minneapolis so much,

1:32:42

and I love this, because she lived in Nebraska,

1:32:45

and was like, I want to live in a

1:32:47

city, and to a lot of people, a city

1:32:49

like New York is not for everybody, and it

1:32:51

feels crazy hard, and intimidating. She went

1:32:53

to Minneapolis, which is a dope-ass city, we are obsessed

1:32:55

with it, we can't wait to be back there, and

1:32:57

now she's living her dream life. I

1:32:59

just love it, so we'll see her there, and of

1:33:01

course, you guys, all the other cities, the No Crumbs

1:33:03

Tour, it's on sale now, girlsgottie.com, get your tickets, we

1:33:05

can't wait to see all of you. And shout out to the

1:33:08

girl who sent me the original DM, I'm sure that by now

1:33:10

I've responded to you. And just for

1:33:12

inspiring this, and for always just putting things

1:33:14

that are so vulnerable in writing and sending

1:33:16

them off to a stranger, trusting us with

1:33:18

something like that, it is a huge honor.

1:33:21

Yeah, so we love you guys, as always,

1:33:23

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