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Music, radio,
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podcasts. Hi guys, I'm
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Rylan and I'm appearing in the Grounded
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with Louis Theroux feed because I want to tell
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you about my Radio 4 podcast, How
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To Be A Man. Over 10 episodes,
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I'm exploring what masculinity means today.
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What are the problems that men are facing? How
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should we educate boys? And what are
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the issues around toxic masculinity? In
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one interview, I speak to fashion model
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David Gandy
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and you're now about to hear part of the interview. Enjoy.
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I'm Rylan and this is How To Be A Man from
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BBC Radio 4 And I'm
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here to talk about men, because
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in recent years we have all seen the man in
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Britain undergo radical change as
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the rule book has been well and truly ripped
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apart, and with yet no replacement, it's
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never been a more confusing time for the male
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of the species. So I'm gathering together
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a range of prominent figures and celebs
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who have all got their own diverse and contrasting
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experiences to share on what it means
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to be a man today. My guest
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in this episode is a supermodel and
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a fellow Essex boy, that's
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right, a male supermodel who
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is from glamorous Bill of Ricky just 7
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miles down the road from me. He
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first came into the spotlight modelling for an aftershave
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campaign, wearing only
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a tiny pair of wax and women trunks, which
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I remember very well, that body
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glistening with oil and yeah, his
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pecs were ripped and shining in the sunlight. Sorry,
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I got a bit distracted by that. He
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is arguably the most famous male model
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in the world, a world in which it's women
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who earn the megabucks.
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Please welcome David Gandy.
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David, so nice to see you. Thanks
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for having me. I mean, you are a handsome chaff,
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aren't you? Well
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that's very kind of you. I'm just using this podcast for dating
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though. Probably not this morning, my daughter was
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up virtually all night with
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a bit of illness so I'm feeling a little bit worse
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for wear this morning. Well you got away with it, let
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me tell you. This
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series is all about exploring masculinity.
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How masculine are you feeling today?
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Whatever the definition of masculine is and
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I think that's the problem.
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It's really difficult,
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really really difficult. For a start, what
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I just sort of said with my daughter, I was up all
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night with my daughter in
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bed with her, made sure she was okay, got
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her up this morning, made her breakfast.
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That role
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as a start has changed for men. My
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dad, bless him, would not
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have done that. He would have been out to work and
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that would have been mum's job. You know, I saw a joke
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with my dad shuts a cup of door in
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the kitchen and that he thinks is helpful. Dad
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couldn't make toast. He
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would struggle. But those rules have changed.
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And I think we're the first generation of
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those defining rules. My rules as I
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cook, I love flowers, I dress.
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Why are you rubbing it in? Why are you rubbing this in? But
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I think from where you come from as well, I know you're
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what I would call, a someone who lives in Essex,
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a default. Because
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you've shunned Essex. I haven't shunned
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Essex. You've turned your back and
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now you're a West boy, I'm gonna say. I
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am, I am. But growing up, that stereotypical
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Essex man, it genuinely was
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and still is a thing. Moving out
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to Essex, everyone was a lot of
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people, like my parents and like my grandparents, all
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started in the East End. Yeah, same. Friends
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were, they were. The craze. The
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craze. Come on, we're all related.
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One of my friends has a picture
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in his house of his dad sitting on the craze knees.
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Yes. You know, we knew
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who the families who were connected to East
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London. You're talking to a boy from Stepney. I'm fully aware.
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So yes, that masculine element
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to it, whether that is masculine, you know,
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again, you're defining that as that's masculine and
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this is not. Growing up in Essex. What
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was your childhood like? Very normal,
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whatever that is. And people would describe you as normal.
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And I always think, I wonder what that is. I wonder what normal,
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what normality is. But they meet me and they say you're
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very normal, which I, hopefully,
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I mean, they're quite humble, a bit like yourself. You
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speak to everyone. Oh, I don't like anyone. Don't look me in
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the eye. Do not
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look me directly in the eye, David. But
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I know what you mean. But you know what I mean? Like, when I went
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to Billy Ricky comprehensive and you
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know, my weekends from the age of nine, 10,
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I used to get on my bike, my roller skates, roller
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skates over to my friend Anthony Parker's
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house, which was four miles across town. My
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dad didn't know where I was next day. So
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it was very normal. Very normal. Yeah.
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figures that you grew up around. So
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I had a probably like so many people
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with my father, my grandfather. My grandfather,
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he worked at number 10. Wow.
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When Margot, he was the staff at
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number 10. What did he do? He was a
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member of the staff. He was the prime minister. He
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is the incredible story of meeting all the presidents
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of the United States and he was just part of the staff
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so he wasn't part of the Tories or anything else. He
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was part of the Royal Marines on
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D-Day. That's quite a masculine job. That's
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a fairly masculine job. My grandmother
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told me the story of she would never
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know when my grandfather was coming off leave if he did and
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then she would be in a dance hall and my
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grandfather would be there in full Royal
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Marine uniform and he'd never danced.
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He would never dance. So my grandmother was a
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really impressive dancer. He would dance with her? No.
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Wow. So he just stood there and at the end
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he was like Doreen, come on. Come
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and Doreen were out. Yeah. He also tells me another story
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when he walked out with my grandmother
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once and three American soldiers.
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Wolf whistled my nan and he went over and beat the
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shit out of all three of them and went and come Doreen. Again,
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quite a masculine thing on paper. He
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was born in Poplin. He'd say like that was
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what you thought. That was it.
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So that was him. What about your father? My father,
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again, like all my family worked their way
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out. They're all kind of entrepreneurs and started their own companies.
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Didn't have a father, quite impoverished background,
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worked his way up. The two things my grandfather
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and my father both taught me is not
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about masculinity, it's about being a gentleman. It
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was just you respect people. You have empathy.
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You're kind to people. Yes, you need
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to be strong in the right cases but
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it's very much about protecting people, protecting
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the people around you, being
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respectful and that's what my grandfather
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and
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dad taught me. You open a door, you look
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after people, you're a gentleman. That's what
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they'd find as a gentleman. I just think that's a kind person. No,
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it's just smiling at people. This is very...
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I'm always smiling because I can't shut my mouth the
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size of my teeth.
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I do it sometimes when we're in Richmond Park and where
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we live at the moment and if you smile...
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with someone they smile back they're
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slightly shocked by it morning in morning well
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especially if it's you it's those small
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little things I always believe believe me I'm quite
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a grump we're
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allowed to be people probably walking me in which my case he does
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not do that whatsoever I want to talk to you about
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appearance because I don't
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know if you know but
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you're a model if
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I had to draw a masculine
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man right that I think
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would be the classic male
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stereotype I would probably draw
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your face I would need to draw a landscape
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with a lot of paper to get this nose in there
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listen you know they say big nose big half so
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but genuinely I would look at you
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and think you are the
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classic gentleman I'm gonna use
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that word masculine man that
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you are that vision to me but
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appearance for you hasn't always
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been your thing it hasn't always been your forefront
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yeah I mean it's not I think
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people think I care about my
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appearance more than I actually
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do they just presume you're a model or your
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vein that's what you know if you saw me dropping
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off at the nursery run in the morning look at what I'm wearing
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doing that day and I you know
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it's um whatever I can chuck
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on to get into the car and it doesn't really
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matter so um I've never been
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that defined as worrying about my
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appearance and much you know people think I have this massive
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wardrobe I've got stylus and glam teams
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and which lots of people do they been in makeup for four
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hours just for a podcast when
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I came to the industry it was about the androgynous
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skinny man yeah and I
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was called the big guy and I wasn't even that big back then
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but I thought you know it has to go in circles
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and fashion does until that point to when
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Dolce came to look for light
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blue that
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they were looking for this a Mediterranean
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I suppose masculine classical
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looking guy again to turn you know to completely
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change industry Dolce and Gabbana I
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mean that was the campaign
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that really catapulted you
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to this international
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icon that you become. And
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like you said, Dolce and Gabbana were
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looking to fill a box, and the box they
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were looking to fill was the masculine,
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Mediterranean looking, this type
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of stereotype of a guy. And
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you became that man. How
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did that make you feel as a man?
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You sort of have to go back to
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first of all, which like that campaign didn't
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just happen. There was a strategy behind getting
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that campaign, and it was two years before that.
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And I remember I was in an industry
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that was
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dominated by female supermodels. So
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when people say to her, well, who did you look up to?
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Who was your mentor? I didn't have anyone. They
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had my agency, Tandy Anson. She
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was the owner of Select. Again, most of the owners
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were men. She was a woman, she was a black woman. And
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then had the biggest agency in the world, men's agency in the
10:53
world, still one of the biggest agencies. So if you
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needed anyone to back your corner, she
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was the one. So I was surrounded
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by women, or still am, still work with all women
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to this day. And then in the industry, if
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I ever got to work with, and I worked with Chrissie
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Turlant and someone else,
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I actually asked them, what
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do you do differently
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from a point of view? And they explained, and I saw
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them, they came on set, and they were professional,
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and they had a few teams
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around them. And there were teams of PR
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and PAs and- All
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the bells and whistles. Yeah, it was run as a business.
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And I thought, this is what we need to do. So
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one that Dolce ad came out,
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and it was, you
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know- I mean, your
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penis was the size of like 12 floors
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in Times Square, I think. I
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remember that. Yeah, there was, I saw it
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really, I don't ever remember being like shocked
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or worried or thinking
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that, you know, I was gonna be defined as something.
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That was my stepping stone. Was you proud? Yeah,
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because what I always wanted to, when I said to Tandy,
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I was like, look, I just, I don't wanna do the catalogs.
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I don't wanna do the commercial work. I don't
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care if I just do one campaign.
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campaign or one that leaves a legacy that just leaves
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something to work with the best creatives and
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that campaign was it. But that to me was just
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what we had been needing to then raise
12:09
the brand and get on a level playing field
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with the female models. And that's the weird thing is
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when you go into that industry
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and you say, well, why are we working 300
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days and you've got the females who have got
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exclusive contracts and they're on five times the amount
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and they're working five days a year and everyone,
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we can't do that. You won't do that as a
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man. You won't do that in the male modeling industry. So it was
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completely changing people's views. And
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of course you get the, you know, people to find you as
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a model, you're not very clever.
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And you're going to be out in two years. We did a
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sound check before we started and you counted to 10. On
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my fingers. He took 10 minutes.
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But that's the thing. There
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was no insult and
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you know, we're both from Essex. There
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is still the thing of having a sense
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of humor. A lot of people are lost. A lot of people
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take themselves too seriously. I never
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took myself too seriously. Yes I
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knew I where I wanted to get to and yes I knew I was going
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to have to get through a lot of stereotype
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reviews. Like not that masculine. Is it
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to be a male model and sit there
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in your pants on a boat? Yeah. So
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I then understood women
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in some regards go through into other
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industries of trying to because everyone was just going,
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you're never going to get there. Yeah.
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And you had to fight your way to the
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top to get an equal terms or the level playing
13:25
fields of where the female Super Bowls were. How
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did it make you feel as a man
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to go into an industry where you know women
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there earning five times more
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money for a campaign than you are things like that. That
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make you feel less of a man.
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No, because they deserved it. It
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was a very simple answer to that one. If
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I went on set and people will not know
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me to the outside world and then you're
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say you with Kate Moss or Chris in Tillington. They're
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gonna get out
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of business ethics here. They
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are going to sell millions and people are going
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to engage with that.
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brand because they are
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in the campaign, not because I'm in the campaign.
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That was a difference. And I was
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never going to start saying, well,
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it's unequal need quality. I should be
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paid the same as Kate. Absolutely
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not.
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I can work my ass off to try and become
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on level playing field. That's where that's what
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I'll, you know, that's, that was my inspiration.
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And that's why I believe in myself. If I want
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to, yes, I've got to try and make it
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to go in equal terms. And the point to that,
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to that point was at the closing ceremony
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of the Olympics,
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there I was with all the female. I was the only man
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there in the, among all the females, you
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know, supermodels at that time. And I was like,
14:40
at, there was that point. I was like, right, I
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am on now. Hopefully
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equal terms. You're
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listening to Rylan how to be a man from
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BBC radio for
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thanks so much for listening. Hopefully
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that's got you interested in how to be a man. To
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hear the rest of this interview, plus my conversations
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sounds. Please, I beg
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you in the name of God. I need some assistance
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from you. Who is worthy
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of our trust? I just thought this
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is very, very shady
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and there's something definitely wrong about
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this. He didn't believe me. I said, well, I'm
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not a scammer. I'm not a bad person.
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need to figure out a way to really compensate him
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