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or a really cool thing, you know? Depends on

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how you look at it. My best friend, let's call it. But maybe

7:41

they don't mean, we didn't read

7:43

it yet, but maybe they don't mean literally

7:46

haunted. Maybe it's like haunted by his memory

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and she can't move on emotionally. Maybe it's

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not like a literal haunting, like paranormal activity.

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Well, then I would say be less steering

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me into this paranormal dream. I

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hope for your sake, it thinks she means a real ghost. Me

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too, because that option sounds real bleak. Yeah, I

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just know a lot of times when people, you

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know, it's hard. Yeah, like a hunt. Yeah,

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we've all been haunted by a person that,

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you know, that has died or that has

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not died. Yeah. Okay, so my best

8:14

friend, let's call her Bella's boyfriend, who killed himself. That's

8:17

tough. About four years ago, which

8:19

was obviously the worst thing that could have happened to her.

8:22

And even to the people around her, he, let's

8:24

call him Noah, was very sick

8:26

with depression. Yeah. And he

8:29

did not have a family he could rely

8:31

on. His mother had committed suicide a couple

8:33

of years before he did. Ooh, Jesus. He

8:36

was alone and all the mental health and

8:38

the mental health system failed him during COVID,

8:40

as it did many people, man, as

8:43

he was kicked out of his day clinic

8:45

where he had finally started to get treatment.

8:47

Oh, Jesus. The only person he could

8:49

rely on was Bella, who basically gave up her

8:51

life for two years, distanced herself

8:53

from me and our friends to be

8:55

there for him. Fuck. Eventually

8:58

this was beyond toxic. He was emotionally and

9:00

physically abusive and even just writing it makes

9:02

me want to cry again because of what

9:04

she had to go through and because he

9:06

could not get the help he needed. So

9:09

sad. Eventually everything she tried

9:11

wasn't enough and he ended his life, basically blaming

9:13

her for it. That's

9:17

not her fault. She tried to

9:19

break up with him and the response was

9:21

essentially, you'll see what comes of this. That's

9:24

the sickness talking. That's not... Yeah. You

9:27

don't kill yourself because someone breaks up with you. No.

9:30

Something else has to be wrong. Exactly. Since

9:32

then, Bella has been trying to figure out

9:34

why she got into this relationship in the

9:36

first place, why she stayed and

9:38

how to deal with her feelings of guilt that

9:40

remained, although she knows that it was not her

9:42

fault. Good. And she could not have stopped him.

9:45

She has been seeing a therapist, an

9:47

excellent therapist for the last four years

9:50

and really has made enormous progress with

9:52

coping. She's in a new and

9:54

healthy relationship and happy most of the time.

9:56

That's amazing. Oh, fuck. Is

9:58

this fucking dipshit's ghost, hon? her. Okay, I

10:00

see the word superstitious so Christina's getting excited.

10:04

When I saw her recent, I'm glad she's doing well, when

10:07

I saw her recently though, Bella told

10:09

me that she has never been superstitious

10:11

but ever since Noah's death she feels

10:13

like he's watching her and will punish

10:15

her. That's not gonna happen. Will

10:17

punish her if she ever, if

10:20

she ever really let go. The

10:22

same way that he punished her when she

10:24

tried to distance herself from him by breaking

10:26

up. Oh, I got an answer

10:28

to that. Factually. This feels like human guilt, not

10:31

actual soup. Exactly. Like not actual, like

10:33

a paranormal. When you pass away, the

10:35

jealousy goes away. All this human bullshit

10:37

emotions that we carry with ourselves like

10:39

anger, rage, jealousy, guilt tripping, all that

10:42

goes away. So like, I

10:44

watch near-death experience videos every day, watch

10:46

two this morning, and one of

10:48

the like the prominent message from a lot of people

10:50

like when you are on the other side is like

10:52

all these emotions don't exist. So if she's feeling them,

10:54

I 100% guarantee that that's coming from

10:57

her. But wait, but there are places that are 100%

10:59

cursed where like something bad happened to a child

11:01

and like they're in this like limbo. And

11:05

their curse stuff is weird. I don't

11:07

know what the deal is with that.

11:09

Because like, so in the afterlife, then

11:11

therefore, like these emotions, like, like when

11:13

people are murdered or like go in

11:15

a really bad way, like they do

11:17

tend to lurk around the spaces. So

11:19

like it does have to exist. I

11:21

hear what you're saying about like, if

11:23

someone kind of like passes, you know,

11:25

normally, and and then just moves on

11:27

to the afterlife, they are not harboring

11:29

those emotions. But there are like, especially

11:31

like children or people or or or

11:33

yeah, like a lot of times like it

11:35

would be like when when people take over

11:38

like indigenous ground burial ground, stuff like that.

11:40

Yeah, absolutely. Like if there's if there's bitterness

11:42

or like, like tragedy with the death, a

11:44

lot of times an imprint of that person

11:47

will linger around. Like, Lourlin

11:49

Jackson was saying she's a big psychic medium. She was

11:51

saying like, you know, when you move into a house

11:53

and then the cabinets open and close and you're like,

11:55

what the fuck is that? It could be that the

11:57

person who lived there, they didn't have to die tragically.

12:00

Like they just had some neuroses about the

12:02

cabinets and just that thumbprint of a part

12:04

of who they were kind of lingers. And

12:06

there can be, there have been like poltergeists. Those do

12:08

exist. I don't know what the fucking

12:10

deal is with that, but it doesn't sound like

12:13

this is a poltergeist. But we'll see. When

12:15

I saw her recently, Bella told me she had never been

12:17

superstitious, but ever since

12:19

Noah's death, feels like he's watching her and will

12:21

punish her if she ever really let go. The

12:24

same way that he punished her when she

12:26

tried to distance himself, factually he has nobody

12:28

who is holding on to his memory. His

12:30

father did not even bury him. Oh God.

12:32

And instead gave part of the ash to

12:35

Bella. Maybe scatter that somewhere

12:37

so it's not in your space. Jesus Christ. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

12:39

yeah, yeah. Yeah, that's energetically not good. It only

12:41

seems natural to me that he is still haunting

12:43

her because he was never put to rest. But

12:46

yeah, unfinished business is another reason to kind

12:49

of linger. And ash is in

12:51

her room. But also from listening to Christina, my

12:53

hunch is that most ghosts, and especially him, are

12:55

not there to harm her. Right,

12:57

because I'm wondering if like he passed away

13:00

and then realized like, ooh, I was a dick when I was alive

13:02

and dating you. Maybe try to

13:04

make up for it. But I don't know. I told

13:06

her that she should do a seance. And

13:09

if she only could talk to him, I'm certain

13:12

don't do a Ouija board. Yes. Yeah,

13:14

I was also like, don't do a seance alone if you have no idea

13:16

what you're doing. Yeah, I, yeah. Do you have to do

13:18

this with someone who knows what they're doing? You can't

13:20

just be doing this willy-nilly. I think you should go

13:23

to a reputable medium is what should happen. I'm

13:25

certain he would tell her he was

13:27

so, he has no ill

13:30

will towards her. He probably will. And

13:32

she should move on. Yeah, because it'll probably be a fake, because like

13:34

90% of them are fakes. Yeah. I

13:37

also, and they always say, oh, he loves you, he's

13:39

thinking good about you. Well, I mean,

13:41

here's what you do. Remember that one you guys used to

13:43

like to eat pizza together, right? It's like the most generic

13:45

thing ever. Yeah, yeah. Oh, you guys liked

13:47

eating pizza and watching movies. Oh my God, it's him,

13:50

he's here. Isn't that true? No,

13:52

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13:54

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13:56

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show. Yeah Yeah, I had to implement a boundary this

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check She was a member

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okay. So I I I've been

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both watched it. Did you watch it?

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Eric? I watched some of it This

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think we can say some spoilers Well, just

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spoiler alert if you haven't watched baby reindeer

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yet fucking for this part in bitch. Yeah,

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it is such a Comprehensive

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the cast is oh

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it's kind of like it was too long

33:28

for a film But not enough for a

33:30

whole TV series. So it chronicles his real

33:32

life experience Yeah, and the experience had ended

33:35

any longer than that. I

33:37

loved it. I loved every episode. I fucking

33:39

love I agree. It's great prize me it

33:41

dealt with male sexual assault male on male

33:44

Sexual assault it dealt with the repercussions of

33:47

going back to the person who sexually assaults

33:49

you And fetish fetishism

33:51

your your sexuality changing based

33:53

on experiences lived and wanting

33:55

to impress your rapist Basically

33:58

and like wanting to look good in their

34:00

eyes, and now that we've known everything

34:02

since doing the show for over a

34:05

decade, it triggered me in that reading

34:08

all of your emails about sexual assault,

34:10

I know what happens. I know, I'm

34:12

so familiar now with internalizing the guilt

34:15

and wanting to take control of his

34:17

situation and wanting to having consensual sex

34:19

with the rapist after. All

34:21

of these scenarios that to the average person that would go,

34:23

what, why would you do that? That's fucking crazy. He

34:27

really beautifully captures the

34:29

mindset of, the mind fuck of being sexually assaulted

34:31

and not knowing how to handle it or what

34:34

to do about it, and then being stalked. The

34:39

scenes where he was getting assaulted, those

34:41

were, I've never had TV that was tough for me

34:43

to watch. That was tough, that was tough. But

34:46

assaulted by the female or the male? The male. Oh,

34:48

interesting. The male. Yeah, yeah, yeah. The female

34:50

one freaked me out too when she grabbed his dick. Yeah, there

34:52

was something about the female one that actually bothered me a

34:54

little bit more. Oh, it bothered me. It

34:57

made me feel disgusted as if I saw

35:00

a woman get grabbed by a disgusting man.

35:02

I was just like, oh my God. Which

35:05

I thought was interesting because, not

35:07

that I wouldn't, I mean, anybody getting sexually assaulted,

35:10

regardless of your gender, regardless of the gender of

35:12

the perpetrator, is terrible. But

35:15

yeah, it hit different. It was weird.

35:17

You never see that in TV. But then, and

35:19

I really also like that he

35:22

admitted that when the stalking would

35:24

ebb a little bit, he would

35:27

miss the stalker, he would miss the attention.

35:29

And this is in the baby reindeer bite,

35:32

which is annoying because I always explain myself

35:34

as I have eyes like a baby reindeer

35:36

and that's now forever ruined for me. But

35:38

this is- Well, maybe of Doe. Doe eyes.

35:41

This series isn't about me, but should

35:43

be. It really sucks that your nickname went away

35:45

though. I know, but the thing, the guy,

35:48

the lead in it, he is by

35:50

trade a standup comedian. And so he

35:52

is, you know, not a super successful

35:54

one. I mean, now he is, but

35:57

yeah, he's like searching for

35:59

this attention. If

1:50:00

this person, the way this person's handling something

1:50:03

is like, you know, becomes a deal breaker,

1:50:05

like this is not how all men handle

1:50:07

it. It's just like what are their own

1:50:09

individual triggers and how far are they willing

1:50:11

to go with the vulnerability? And look, the

1:50:13

people, the partner struggling with it, like still

1:50:15

deserve support also. Totally. And to get couples

1:50:18

therapy, to get individual therapy, to figure

1:50:20

out how do I deal with feeling rejected, right?

1:50:22

How do I deal with sexual tension build up

1:50:24

within my body? But like you said, that takes

1:50:26

a certain level of person who's like willing to

1:50:28

do that work. Right. And

1:50:30

I can say that they're out there. I've seen them in

1:50:33

my practice. I see them in my partnership. But

1:50:35

yeah, there's a lot of people who aren't willing to do

1:50:37

that in that fucking sex. I wish there was a way

1:50:39

to quickly gauge if the person was willing to do the

1:50:41

work when you're like in the early phases of dating. I

1:50:44

feel like that would save everybody a lot of trouble. Yeah,

1:50:46

I mean I think now. But they're really, you can't really, Taylor Swift

1:50:49

will never have another album if you're seen it. That's true. I

1:50:51

know, what would she do without breakups? How is

1:50:53

she gonna continue to have a relationship? She's gotta

1:50:55

have another breakup album. Yeah,

1:50:58

maybe she releases a

1:51:00

happy love album. She knows. Yeah,

1:51:03

I mean it's, obviously I help people with a

1:51:05

lot of this and I think, I don't know

1:51:07

if there's like one short answer to it. Yeah.

1:51:11

Is there a common misunderstanding you come across? With

1:51:14

pain? Which is with sex, with like sexual

1:51:16

misunderstandings. Like that you're like, God, everybody's so

1:51:18

blind to this, but it's so, it's right

1:51:21

here everybody. Oh yeah, I mean first that

1:51:23

we all have different like sex blueprints and

1:51:25

languages, kind of like love languages. So a

1:51:27

lot of people will think like, oh you're

1:51:30

either just like compatible or you're not. Like

1:51:32

no, it's not that simple. We all have

1:51:34

so many different blueprints. There's a

1:51:36

Miss Jiah created this framework called erotic blueprints

1:51:38

where it's like, I don't know if you

1:51:40

all heard of that. I've heard the phrase

1:51:43

erotic blueprints. It's like different, like I said,

1:51:45

love languages are categories, but kind of for

1:51:47

your erotic sexual self. Okay. So

1:51:49

it's not necessarily about being compatible, it's

1:51:51

about learning your language, learning your partner's

1:51:53

language, and being willing to like speak

1:51:55

each other's language. Okay. I

1:51:58

think the other myth is like, that there's high and low. The

1:56:00

confident of nothing, except the

1:56:02

unbroken days that they'd been

1:56:05

granted. But

1:56:09

comes a child, a

1:56:11

child so full of

1:56:13

anger and hatred. Barely

1:56:19

aware of the

1:56:21

genesis coursing through his veins.

1:56:26

With a gun of

1:56:28

gun, deaf and blind,

1:56:30

deliverer of madness. Skilled

1:56:34

in its efficiency beyond

1:56:37

his own unformulated brain.

1:56:43

And his hand in a fist,

1:56:46

and his soul in a knot,

1:56:48

and his heart racing. His

1:56:51

mind sick with images, his

1:56:54

slim shoulders finally feeling tall.

1:56:59

And his fellow creatures,

1:57:01

school kids in their

1:57:03

crushes and their daydreams.

1:57:07

Struggling to unwrap

1:57:09

the ancient secrets of

1:57:12

geometry. And

1:57:16

he pulls from his coat the

1:57:19

instrument to shatter all forever. In

1:57:24

a random blaze of insides

1:57:26

and blood and endless nigh.

1:57:32

And boom and flash and

1:57:34

again, and not even when

1:57:37

it's over. Can

1:57:40

any of them so much

1:57:42

as summon up the sanity

1:57:45

to scream? And

1:57:50

on the floor, his

1:57:52

classmate's blown down and

1:57:54

choking. As

1:57:58

he lays his weapon on his head. That's

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