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So listen up guys. So we are
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that we did a couple weeks ago with
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singer songwriter Stephanie Quill.
3:13
She is an amazing
3:15
human being. She wrote a book
3:17
called Why We Stay.
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Why We Stay and Gretchen
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had the opportunity to read
3:24
it before it came out,
3:26
but it is now out
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where it's going to be out this week. April
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30th. Oh, April 30th. Okay. So in a couple
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of days you can pre-order it now, but
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give us a little synopsis before
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we get into this interview, Gretchen
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about Stephanie's story. Okay. Well, why
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I was intrigued to have
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Stephanie on the podcast was because what the book
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is about is really a crazy story. It's
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that she was involved with a very
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charming man living a pretty light kind
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of glamorous life with him and raising
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his child with him. And
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then he died suddenly in a
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plane crash. And she
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found out after he died that it
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was all kind of a facade. But
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it is really what the actual story
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about is just so much more, so
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much deeper than that on so many
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levels, why we convince ourselves to see
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things that are not there, what it's like
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to be involved with a narcissist, which
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everybody, if you're not, I mean,
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you probably have been at some
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read about. And it's just a
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great, it's, it's, it's, it tells a
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Hi and welcome to housewives
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I am Tabitha. Give me dateline white
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in the carpool line the next day,
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right? Yeah, the next day. Okay. I
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am Gretchen. I like white wine,
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true crime, and in bed by night because
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I have a lot of stuff to do in the morning. We
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are Housewives of True
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Crime. Yes, we are. Welcome.
5:42
Welcome, everyone, for your listening
5:45
pleasure today. Yeah, we are mixing it
5:47
up. We
5:57
talked to Miss Stephanie Quayle.
6:00
We just got done talking to her. We can't
6:02
wait for you all to hear it. What
6:04
I loved about this interview was
6:07
that from the get, from
6:10
the second, you know, we're all looking at
6:12
each other via Zoom. I
6:14
was like, this, she's one of us.
6:17
She's our people. And 50%. It
6:20
was so easy breezy. What a
6:22
great conversation. We
6:24
just loved her. We know you guys are all going
6:26
to just love her too. Yes.
6:29
She could definitely be our next best
6:32
friend and your next
6:34
best friend. And she has so much great things to
6:36
say. So you're welcome already for
6:38
this interview. And I just
6:41
want to
6:43
say to Stephanie, just thank you so much
6:45
for sitting down with us and telling us
6:47
your story and just also writing that book
6:49
and being so open and honest. And
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I know you all were enjoyed. So
6:55
here you have Stephanie Quayle. Clink,
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clink. Clink, clink. Welcome.
7:01
Welcome. All right. Today.
7:04
Go ahead. I'm just going
7:06
to. That's okay. That's okay. It's
7:08
perfect. We're going to leave all this in. Amazing. Yes,
7:11
we should. That's our, that's our
7:14
thing. Welcome. Like deep,
7:16
sexy voice. Welcome. You
7:18
know, can you do it, Stephanie? Can
7:20
you do the deep voice? Welcome. So
7:23
listeners, this is Stephanie. It's our pleasure to
7:26
talk with country superstar songwriter and author Stephanie
7:28
Quayle today. Stephanie
7:30
has just written a book titled Why We
7:33
Stay. It
7:35
is the story of her relationship with a man and upon
7:37
his sudden death, learning so much of their life together. And
7:40
that's why I'm here today. I'm very
7:42
happy to have you here. Thank you so much.
7:45
Thank you. Thank you. Thank
7:47
you. Thank you. Thank you.
7:50
Thank you. Was
7:53
a facade, which is why I've got to
7:55
tell you originally, I thought speaking to Stephanie
7:57
would be so interesting to our listeners because
7:59
we are. True Crime podcast, so we
8:01
love a good story. But what I
8:03
found after I read the book and
8:06
what I think we
8:08
really connect with is that often Tab
8:10
and I will describe a relationship's dynamics
8:13
to preface a story. And
8:15
it's so clear before we even get
8:17
into the crime part that
8:19
someone needs to exit the relationship. But
8:22
at the same time, we identify
8:25
with being young and
8:27
so susceptible to that kind
8:29
of complacency. And in the book,
8:32
you really break it down as
8:34
to all the reasons we allow
8:36
ourselves to make excuses for people
8:38
and ignore our gut instincts. So
8:41
can you please tell us about your relationship
8:43
and some of your experience in
8:45
that relationship and how
8:47
you were forced to face the
8:50
reality of it all? And something that you just
8:52
said that just hit me so
8:54
hard in my mind was what
8:56
would have happened if he hadn't? Right.
9:01
So yeah, it was a day like any other
9:03
day. I was in this relationship
9:06
with the man I thought I was going to
9:08
marry, raising his daughter with him.
9:11
And now
9:15
having the book and having the information and
9:17
doing the deep dive on myself, there
9:20
are so many things that had we
9:22
had this conversation while I was in the relationship,
9:24
you all would have been like, run, run, run.
9:26
But I just wanted to believe him. Right.
9:29
Because he
9:34
was charming. And he
9:36
had so many cool airplane hangar
9:38
and the Airstream. I mean, that
9:41
is like speaking my language. I
9:43
love guys like that. And he
9:45
could fly. I mean, it's so cool.
9:47
Yes. And so he went flying on
9:49
a Wednesday night with one of his acquaintances
9:52
or friends. I don't really know. I don't know the person who was
9:54
in the plane with him. I mean, I know the name. I don't
9:56
know the person. Right.
9:58
And Upon take off,
10:01
the engine stalled. He turned back. On their
10:03
own when the plane crashed. And
10:05
they didn't survive. A
10:07
got the call that there's been an accident. I. Get
10:10
there as fast as I can with his daughter, Hoping
10:12
that in the event that there's still a chance right
10:14
that they can have a moment. And
10:17
man, five days later at the memorial
10:20
service there are a lot of women.
10:22
I was his person. We had a
10:24
home together. We're building lives together. She
10:26
had a ring. Threading his.
10:29
Kid with him. And
10:31
that night it was confirmed that I wasn't
10:33
the only woman. While.
10:36
That has got to be a
10:38
bad patch. It was other worldly
10:40
I everything about it was so
10:42
I don't know between the brain
10:45
protecting the brain from trauma. And
10:49
how it compartmentalizes the different
10:51
pains And that. In. A
10:53
Now looking at it I even writing the book. I
10:55
had to ask my mom and my stepmom like did
10:58
this really happened. In. About
11:00
writing a yeah, it's t enough at
11:02
the time. Thirteen years later, fourteen. Years
11:04
later getting into all these little crevices
11:06
of we did He really did. He
11:08
really say that if you really do
11:10
that. Is that really happen? Let me ask
11:12
you when you up when you said you ask your
11:14
mom your some on. I mean
11:16
they saw the relationship from the outside and
11:19
where they like yeah we saw things that
11:21
we just didn't tell you. or maybe we
11:23
did tell you. but you. You
11:26
ignored. Yes, so they
11:28
both. Both were concerned my whole
11:30
family was concerned. I think one of the
11:32
things that narcissist are pro at his isolation
11:35
and I was very isolated in that relationship
11:37
and I knew that if I thought my
11:39
family about it they would be able to
11:41
see right through my fine. I
11:44
written the mine and so they tried
11:46
to you know share like parents do
11:48
and try to prep Nina like try
11:51
to get me to see the things
11:53
that I didn't choose to see art.
11:55
But I'm so in in love and
11:58
just determined to six myself because. I
12:00
was clearly the problem. Well,
12:02
I'm wondering if right at that moment when
12:04
you are, you know, at the funeral and
12:06
you're learning all this, I mean, you talked
12:09
about like the different signs
12:11
about how he was flirtatious with women. If that's
12:13
something we kind of talk about a lot because
12:15
it is and one of the
12:17
things I loved that you said in the book is
12:20
telegral. She's crazy enough times she'll probably believe
12:22
you. And it's
12:25
those moments. It's that flicker in their
12:27
eye. It is that just something where
12:30
it's not like overt, but you
12:32
catch on to something. Did
12:36
any of that hit you? Like I was
12:38
like a validation, like I was right. A
12:41
thousand percent. Like I think that well,
12:44
when I learned the information, I remember my friend
12:46
coming over and all she could say was you have
12:49
to move on. Like, like she was
12:51
just, I love that friend in your book. I love
12:53
her so much. You know, because it
12:55
takes a lot of courage. One of the things that all
12:57
his friends knew, right, for the duration of in some ways
12:59
knew of, I don't know if they knew all, but they
13:01
knew and no one came to me during
13:04
that time. Right. And so when
13:06
I learned about it, it made it
13:08
all make sense. But then it's like how
13:13
many layers of me exposing him in
13:15
those moments saying, like, hey, what, like
13:17
who's this woman or why are you
13:19
doing that or this, that and the
13:21
other and being minimized to crazy insecure
13:24
and just put
13:26
down into this little, you know,
13:28
little flicker of a light that
13:30
I was that was left, you know, and
13:33
I just it was it was heartbreaking
13:36
and validating and how
13:38
do I even sort through
13:41
this this
13:44
crazy situation, you know, and when I was talking
13:46
to my mom and my stepmom, as I was
13:48
writing it, it just I think
13:51
I really realized how traumatic it was while
13:53
I was writing it. I don't think I'd
13:55
ever recognize the impact
13:59
that that had on me, especially being I was
14:01
29 years old when he died. You
14:03
know, his early 20s, when I first, you know,
14:05
met him and then got into that relationship with
14:08
him, I was young. And I was so the
14:10
word you use as so potent and hit me
14:12
to susceptible. Yeah, I
14:14
was blinking light, like, Come and get
14:16
me. And it just yes. And
14:22
also, like my, my truth lens
14:24
afterward, I could, I would
14:28
just look at people and be like, Nope, they're not being
14:30
honest. And I wouldn't even, you know, I just be like,
14:32
No, like, I would have zero tolerance,
14:34
really, for anything that was gray.
14:37
It was very black and white after that. But
14:40
it was also really bad. Like, I didn't realize
14:42
how bad it was. And when I think about,
14:44
you know, like, what, what would have happened if
14:46
he hadn't died? You know, I mean,
14:48
there are times in the book I share where like, my life was,
14:50
you know, I don't
14:53
know, it wasn't I wasn't safe. I wasn't safe. Yeah,
14:57
no, or authentic or you
15:00
weren't being your true self, for sure. No,
15:02
I was one of my friends, a stepford
15:04
wife. She's like, it was like, you were a step
15:06
for what she was just like, you know,
15:09
everything's fine. Robotic. Yeah, yeah.
15:11
Yeah. Well, you mentioned your friends. And
15:13
I was telling you, I love that friend who just
15:15
has the balls to tell you so what, right, you've got to
15:17
get over it. I think
15:19
that having those friends that we can
15:21
keep it real with is so huge. And
15:24
so rare, right? So
15:26
rare. And I'm not friend,
15:28
but I was a friend to myself.
15:30
Yeah, right. Because I think sometimes
15:33
it's really easy to be who
15:35
you want to be to others. You know
15:37
what I'm saying? Like, you can see, you
15:40
can see the imperfections or what's
15:42
going on in somebody else. When
15:45
you're denying it of yourself. I mean, Gretchen
15:47
and I have both been in relationships that
15:49
were very toxic. And, and
15:53
we stayed also and then we went and
15:55
got in nurse into another one that was,
15:57
you know, maybe a little less toxic, but
15:59
still like, we
16:01
shouldn't be on this place. You
16:04
know, thankfully, I think
16:06
all three of us have managed to get
16:09
out of those places, but a lot of
16:11
us still haven't. And we have women writing
16:14
us, telling us about
16:16
their current situations. And
16:18
they're currently in a
16:20
situation right now where they feel
16:23
trapped and they can't get out
16:25
and they see the little, the
16:27
flags, you know, they see the red flags. Well,
16:30
I feel like you need those real friends
16:33
around you. I also think it
16:35
made me think about, you know, I am that
16:37
real with Tab and
16:39
a couple people, but not everybody. Not
16:42
everyone. I know. Well, it's risky, right?
16:44
It's risky because you have to be
16:46
willing to risk the friendship. Right?
16:49
And that's so hard. So
16:51
hard when, and I think that at the beginning of the
16:54
book, you know, my, my dear friend Michelle and who I
16:56
referenced in the book, she goes, I will listen to you
16:59
talk about this relationship and, but you'll
17:01
never leave him. And I think about
17:03
that often, you know, it wasn't like
17:06
the conversations weren't happening, but the conversation
17:08
that never happened was he is mistreating
17:10
you. He's
17:14
cheating on you. You
17:17
have to go because he's not going
17:19
to change. Only you will. And that's really
17:21
the truth, right? We, we don't,
17:23
we can't change other people. Right.
17:26
People don't, people don't change for others. They
17:29
change for themselves. Yes. That is
17:31
100% true. And I feel like
17:33
sometimes, well, I got stuck
17:35
in that in my twenties, right? Like I
17:37
am going to, I can change
17:40
him. Like, why couldn't I change him? Right. Right.
17:42
Can't change him. I think one of
17:45
the key points about this whole thing
17:47
and how we perpetually end up with
17:49
the same guy over
17:51
and over and over again is that
17:55
you bring up What are we
17:57
attracted to? Right. Is it that
17:59
career? My. For. The
18:01
quality of the person night. You
18:03
know, and it's an oblique totally to
18:06
say. Is very tricky see
18:08
ah. It's very attractive
18:10
in a in a very misleading
18:12
right because you know, like. First
18:15
Minute Any of these terms. For.
18:17
New Will of course I ain't got
18:19
love bombing or like oh man look
18:22
into doing soured. Little I didn't
18:24
go so far, right? Like. It
18:26
was so laws. Tricky.
18:29
Say. You know, when I. I guess
18:31
I finally got. Myself.
18:34
Sorted and did the work in. I met an
18:36
incredible man. And with my
18:38
husband, he's just solid. Yeah,
18:41
theres no drama. Yeah.
18:43
Yeah, and I think Charisma
18:46
or. Drama can dress as
18:48
charisma. right? As
18:50
I write make sense like are yeah we
18:52
that we get addicted to it one hundred
18:54
percent. Ah, We
18:57
are all that. It's right Who? Yeah yeah,
18:59
dresses like it. It's It's very interesting because
19:01
that's kind of the same thing with my
19:03
have been like once I met him and
19:06
I'm like. Oh. Yeah,
19:08
this is actually what her a simple
19:10
way to be like. Yes I see
19:12
a healthy is in a someone else
19:14
he says cycle but is it boring?
19:16
I'm like no yes no. Yes,
19:22
I have a yeah, that's what I regret
19:24
that are. Like is
19:26
real. I read it's okay for it.
19:29
To be for a to be boring?
19:31
you don't? I mean I. Like them
19:33
and end the hell. I mean it's it's. Why?
19:35
Told her no because it's so freeing
19:38
to not have to. Be.
19:40
Walking on eggshells. To. Our
19:42
one hundred percent yeah, you're. So cute
19:44
at the meeting said. I
19:47
think back to the release of but I
19:49
had my twenties that have lived through with
19:51
me. Where this guy I use really. Cool
19:53
is surfer art as. You
19:55
know, had this really cool scene and ah
19:58
he did all these like grand just. years
20:00
for me all the time. A woman
20:02
I remember walked into a bar, I dived
20:05
far, was selling the roses, he bought me
20:07
every rose. And
20:09
then he treated me like shit when people weren't around.
20:13
And now I have this
20:15
husband who will
20:17
not remember my birthday, ask me
20:19
every year, what day
20:21
is Valentine's Day? I mean, have asked to
20:24
bang him over the head. Yeah, I said
20:26
I'm such a reminder. And
20:29
like, it's not exciting in that way.
20:32
But it's okay. But
20:34
I would trade it in a million
20:36
times to not be walking on
20:38
the eggshells. Yeah, yeah. I
20:40
think for me, it was
20:43
like, do I get this? Do
20:46
I get to live a life without the
20:49
eggshells, without
20:51
the wondering if I'm crazy?
20:53
Yeah, you know, living the life of you. Yeah, like it's
20:57
actually you without having a relationship with
20:59
someone who you never have to question
21:01
that you know, those feelings we were
21:04
talking about in the beginning. Yeah, you
21:06
never have to question are they I've
21:08
never felt that way in 20 years with
21:10
my husband that he was flirting with someone. Oh
21:12
my gosh, my I like I
21:14
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25:52
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25:54
Like how did you I mean, I know
25:57
you got you you saw it right
25:59
in front of you. at the worst possible moment
26:01
of your life, right? But
26:04
then you have to compartmentalize it and then
26:06
you have to free yourself from it and
26:08
then really truly be yourself. How
26:11
did that come and how long
26:14
has it been? Well, I took the long
26:16
way. And my hope with this
26:18
book is that it will shorten others, other
26:22
people's time in doing the
26:24
work to heal because I took the long
26:26
way by getting
26:29
over it without getting
26:31
through it, avoiding it. And
26:33
I got hit in the mouth by... I
26:38
didn't do the work between the first toxic relationship with...
26:40
was the guy that died in the plane crash and
26:42
then I fell into another one nine months later. I
26:45
stayed in that one too long. And that
26:47
was like a carbon copy because I hadn't done the
26:50
work. And when
26:52
I found out that he was cheating
26:54
on me, I immediately said, okay, what's
26:56
the common denominator? Me. So I got
26:58
to go get to the bottom of
27:00
me because this is going to take
27:02
me out if I don't get a handle on this.
27:05
And I put myself in what I call emotional rehab.
27:08
I went to a place in Colorado and
27:10
I worked with psychologists just
27:12
to unwind and get to the bottom
27:14
of. And that
27:17
was such a great experience, but also it
27:19
was just the beginning. There's, I mean, from
27:21
grief counseling, one on one to support groups,
27:23
like I did a deep dive on myself.
27:25
So I think step one is
27:27
going, okay, what is, what do I need to
27:29
do for me to get this out of
27:32
me? Because to your point, I was
27:35
so good at compartmentalizing. I could be
27:37
angry and compartmentalize and just
27:39
get through the motions of work
27:42
or whatever I had going on to where
27:44
I could avoid it. Right? Work was
27:46
the easiest place for me to avoid it.
27:48
That's why, you know, being in country music,
27:50
when my album came out on the edge,
27:52
people were confused. They're
27:55
like, what do you mean you have this
27:57
amazing husband? Like I go, yeah, this is
27:59
my. prequel. Yeah, this was mine
28:01
before. And then it was
28:03
like so many questions because I'm always like, you know, you've
28:05
got it, you'll get through this. And they're like, what
28:08
does she have to talk about? Like, yeah, right, her
28:10
life, she's fine. And then they, you
28:12
know, heard the story. And they're like, Oh, and then
28:14
with the book, it's like, okay, let's create a
28:16
tool. Let's create a tool for
28:18
others. So when you asked how long it took
28:20
me, if I'm being honest, it's been 15
28:23
years. Yeah. And that's way too long,
28:25
I think. But that's because I avoided
28:27
it. I didn't dive into me. I
28:30
avoided it at all costs, because it
28:32
was so painful. And when you talk
28:34
to your husband about it now, and since
28:36
you've, you've obviously been with him, since you
28:39
kind of found yourself. Yeah. What
28:41
does he think and say is he like almost
28:43
like, wow, you're a new woman in the last
28:45
like, five years since he really
28:48
found you are so when we first started
28:50
dating, and then you know, got married and
28:52
all those things, I think he knew that
28:54
there was still healing to be done. But
28:56
he's, he's just a good person. So he's like, you know
28:59
what, you're gonna figure it out. No
29:01
one can force you to heal faster. And
29:06
I say to him, I'm like, you
29:08
get the best of me now. It's like you get a new
29:10
wife. Like
29:13
these last, you know, you know, he's extremely
29:15
patient and very kind. And, you
29:17
know, I don't think I really understood when
29:20
he said, I love you unconditionally, you know, it's
29:22
one thing to say that it's one thing, it's another
29:24
thing to feel that and experience that. And
29:27
now he gets like the, I'm like, aren't you excited
29:29
for the next 10 years? Like, you don't have all
29:31
these like, all this stuff to
29:34
have to like, sort through with me because, you
29:36
know, again, it's, you
29:39
can't just get over it, you have to get you
29:41
have to do the work, right? I had to do
29:43
the work. And this extension, this
29:45
book is the extension of that. So that
29:47
hopefully that can truncate any
29:49
of our listeners, you know, that time, like,
29:51
just read the book. And Keith is, I mean,
29:53
he's a genius, he's an expert, he's one of
29:55
the, you know, former speakers on
29:58
narcissism, he's been talking about for 15 years
30:01
and you know then
30:03
we can identify it and then we can make the move
30:05
to leave. Well I think
30:07
identifying it is really key because
30:09
I think that like I
30:11
mean we all I'm sure will agree is like
30:13
when when you're in it yeah you
30:16
you can't see your way out but what
30:18
I think the book can be like such
30:21
a tool for is and why our
30:24
listeners should all read it is because it's
30:26
it's not just like if you're
30:29
in one of these relationships get out of it first of all it's a
30:31
really good story second of all it
30:33
is learning the language and how to identify
30:36
like if our daughter or
30:38
your friend or somebody is in
30:40
it this
30:42
is what you need to like understand what
30:45
they are going through and how to help
30:47
them see the light yeah yeah
30:49
I bet you we all have somebody in our
30:51
life that are going
30:53
through it and do need someone
30:56
like us to help them realize
30:58
right and I do okay oh my gosh
31:00
oh sorry no I just I agree I
31:02
mean I think that I've always learned better
31:04
through other people's stories yeah
31:07
you know like I see a movie or a TV show
31:09
or I hear a podcast like we learn
31:11
through other people's experiences so I think
31:13
that too because it's
31:15
not like it's just a an
31:18
expert talking about this is what this is
31:21
someone's real-life story and here here are all
31:23
the components of all the things I missed
31:25
the red flags of things you know that
31:28
I overrode my own you know my own
31:30
system going hello this is
31:32
that you know and I think I'm hopeful
31:34
that it will be helpful okay
31:37
I loved the story about
31:39
the Rolex and
31:41
full circle yeah to your dad
31:44
can you tell tab and our
31:46
listeners that little part so the
31:49
last Christmas we had together so this would
31:51
have been December of 2008 I was
31:54
you know we're spending Christmas together and Paulo
31:56
had that it was like the last gift
31:59
he was giving me. And
32:01
he was the one that had passed away. So this
32:03
is the Christmas before. And I'm
32:05
opening this package. And
32:08
it's a blender box, like for a
32:10
handheld blender. And I'm like, wanting me to
32:12
be like, I want me
32:14
to cook like I'm like, yeah, I don't
32:16
get it. And then I open that and
32:18
inside I recognize this green box. And I'm
32:20
like, Oh, this is this is a Rolex.
32:22
Like that's, you know, the green is so
32:24
identifiable. So yeah, pull it out. And it
32:26
is this like, shockingly, you
32:29
know, diamond encrusted, very fancy schmancy
32:31
watch. Now, I mean, he he
32:33
was, you know, he was a
32:35
hardworking guy. So we thought, right.
32:38
But I mean, that was an
32:40
extravagant gift. Yeah, expensive. And
32:43
very unlike or uncharacteristic of even our,
32:45
you know, I'm not like, I
32:48
don't know, it just was very elaborate. So kind
32:50
of overwhelmed by it. All our friends like, how
32:52
can you afford that? And
32:54
didn't really think anything of it. So then cut
32:57
to I'm now having to move out of our
32:59
house, because I wasn't on the lease, which is
33:01
the whole other thing and then get relocated.
33:03
And I don't have a lot of money. I
33:05
mean, I'm working a full time job. But you
33:07
know, go first and last and deposit them. Well,
33:09
I can sell the watch. I can sell the
33:11
watch. That's probably a lot of money. And
33:14
that will like, tide me over, tide
33:16
me over. I give it to my
33:18
friend to take to an appraiser. And the
33:20
watch is fake. And
33:23
it was just like, of course it is. Like,
33:25
why did I even think for a
33:27
second that it wasn't and then I
33:29
had to pay to get appraised. Oh,
33:32
more than the watch costs. Oh,
33:35
it's just, you know, and I just, oh,
33:38
one of those things. So I'm in my
33:40
new little place, my friends and we're navigating
33:42
these days. And this box shows up
33:45
at my house. And it's
33:47
from my dad. And I open
33:50
it up and it's a green
33:52
box. And it's this very
33:54
simple, inexpensive, like on the
33:56
inexpensive spectrum of Rolexes. And he goes, I just
33:58
want you to have some. something that's real. So
34:02
that when you when you don't know like when
34:04
real like you'll get the real guy like this
34:06
is a reminder of what's
34:09
real and I wear it all
34:11
that I don't have it on right now. It's just took
34:13
it off for my shower. But yeah, it's, it's
34:15
a really sweet reminder and it took me
34:18
a long time to get to the real.
34:20
Yeah, that is an amazing story. When
34:23
I was reading like before I you know, I'd
34:25
gotten to the bottom of that when I was
34:27
reading he you were in arrowhead and he'd given
34:29
you the watch. I'm like it's fake. Like I
34:31
know I know this guy immediate. Wow.
34:33
Immediately. Yeah. Yeah,
34:36
but I'm 45. Like
34:40
again, it was it was I mean,
34:43
it was I think that there's
34:45
something about what
34:48
I've noticed is like shock is the shockingness
34:50
of it works in
34:52
their favor temporarily. Yeah.
34:55
Right. Yeah, like that. Yeah, it's, you
34:57
know, looking back, there's just, you
35:00
know, so many things that just
35:02
are like, man, it
35:04
must have been so exhausting for him. Keeping
35:07
up so many story. Oh, yeah.
35:09
Oh, yeah. And you know, his
35:11
daughter is absolutely extraordinary. She just
35:13
turned 28. She is the love
35:16
of my life. And I just
35:19
think about that often, like what he must
35:21
have had happened to him to take him
35:23
to a place where he had to live
35:25
in this constant spectrum of lie and that's
35:28
healing. Right. That's forgiveness. Yeah, because I
35:30
couldn't say that two years ago. Yeah,
35:32
well, I think that it's very it
35:34
serves them because it's very it's
35:37
distracting for you. Sure. So you
35:39
have to, you know, see past all
35:41
of the red flags around you.
35:43
And it's distracting for them because it's keeping
35:45
them very busy. Right. They're not thinking
35:48
about what what's going on with themselves.
35:50
Right. And he only called me by my
35:52
last name and I wondered, you know,
35:55
and I've since reclaimed it, I like put it on
35:57
my jacket. I'm like the coil. Yeah, it's a good
35:59
last name. Yeah. Thank you. Thank you. Thank
36:01
you. Come down. But when
36:03
my dog was really scratching herself, okay,
36:05
girl. But I
36:07
wondered if he did that so that he
36:10
wouldn't accidentally call me by one of the other
36:12
women's names, that if there
36:14
was something similar enough, right, so I
36:16
always thought it was, you know, like
36:18
what men do, you know, it's like sporty, it's
36:20
like we're teams, you know, he always played that
36:22
kind of little sis card until I wasn't. And
36:25
then as obviously as I learned more after he
36:27
died, I just wondered
36:29
if there was like a Tiffany or
36:31
Brittany or Jennifer or some name
36:34
that just was close enough that
36:36
made him comfortable. There was
36:38
like a Stacy. Something
36:41
like that. You know, but he only he only
36:43
would call me by my last name. And
36:45
it was always Quail. Why are you so crazy
36:47
and insecure? I'm hearing that Destiny's
36:49
Child song in my head right now. Say my
36:52
name. Say my name. Yeah.
36:55
Right. Yeah. Or
36:58
real. Yeah. Yeah. So you stayed,
37:00
you stayed in contact with his daughter.
37:02
Yes. And which is amazing,
37:04
because sometimes that doesn't
37:06
happen when there is a death
37:08
or even a breakup, right? Yeah,
37:11
she I mean, she, she
37:13
was mine in my heart before he ever
37:15
was. You know, I fell in love with
37:17
her the moment I met her. And she's just an
37:19
incredible young woman and to lose her dad at 12.
37:22
So hard. So hard. And just
37:24
the way that she has really
37:26
navigated her own healing through her art, which
37:29
led me to borrow courage from her and write
37:31
an album about this that then led me to
37:33
the book. I mean, her reading the book was
37:35
probably my most like, you
37:38
know, yeah, I was gonna ask how did that way
37:40
on you putting such a it's clear from the book
37:42
how much you treasure your relationship with her and
37:44
just from this conversation right now. But how
37:47
was it putting out such an
37:49
honest account? How did you react to that?
37:51
Yeah, I mean, I have two people when I
37:53
when I wrote the album, the two most important
37:55
people were my husband, David and
37:57
in Eden, that they like if they were
38:00
good with it than I was good. And
38:02
so when I wrote the book, Eden
38:04
had to read it and I had to know she was
38:06
good with it. And she's just so profound
38:08
in her youth, you know, and then she goes, Well, I
38:10
had to grow up quickly. I'm like, I know that. But
38:12
still, she said, Who am I to
38:14
stand in the way of your healing? Ah,
38:16
wow. Just like crushes my
38:18
soul and like, right? Precious
38:21
way. So I remember I was in Montana, I'd sent
38:23
her the book, we were in like
38:25
the last, you know, the last like tweaks of
38:27
edits, and I go, Okay, now it's ready for
38:29
her to read and completion and Keith had all
38:31
his contributions. And I remember like I
38:34
was headed to a concert just outside
38:36
my hometown. And I pulled
38:38
over and I had a text from her. She's like, Hey,
38:40
I finished the book. Can I call you? And I'm like,
38:45
ready? I'm ready. I'm not
38:48
ready. And, and her, she just
38:50
had a couple
38:53
edits. And they
38:55
were so precious. And it
38:58
had nothing to do with anything that you know, you
39:00
would, you know, one would like think maybe like, Oh,
39:02
hey, can you not say that or not? No,
39:04
she, she's just so awesome. And she
39:06
goes, we're gonna help a lot of
39:08
people. And that's, you know, that's, that's
39:10
good. That's a that's a that's a
39:13
awesome human right there. Yeah. Yeah.
39:15
Right. Well, that is, I
39:17
mean, really, really profound for both of
39:19
you guys. I am, I am definitely
39:22
cannot wait to read it. And where
39:24
can everybody else get it? And yeah,
39:26
came out when did it come out today? Comes out? No, comes
39:28
out the 30th of April 30. 30 April. So you can
39:31
pre order it now anywhere you get
39:33
books. So from independent bookstores to all
39:35
the comms and amazon.com
39:38
for sure. And all places. Yeah,
39:40
April 30. And
39:42
we're gonna we did the audio book, which I'm
39:45
a singer, okay, I'm on the microphone all the
39:47
time. I have a book that's a different deal.
39:49
And you read that you read it. We love.
39:51
I love author read
39:54
audio books. Same. I
39:56
don't believe it when it's not the author. I know.
39:58
I'm the same. I get really I get really
40:01
like my ears can't hear it. It's
40:03
the strangest thing. Yeah, no,
40:05
I had to do it. Had to do it. Glad you
40:07
did. Yeah, Tabitha listened to
40:09
the Britney book. I couldn't do it. Because
40:13
Michelle Williams says yes. Yeah, who
40:15
is great. I can't bring
40:17
myself to do it. Yeah, I have
40:19
a hard time listening to I think
40:21
it's one thing when it's fiction, but
40:23
when it's nonfiction, and it's someone's autobiography,
40:25
or it's like an autobiography memoir, it's
40:27
hard to not hear it. In their
40:30
words. Yeah, yeah, yeah, no, I had
40:32
to do it. But I was surprised
40:34
because during the process of writing the
40:36
book, I had aha moments where,
40:38
you know, I was
40:40
so focused on Paulo and the plane
40:42
crash and that relationship, that
40:45
when I got through that, as I was writing the
40:47
book, and then it kind of
40:49
hit me in the face, wait, you had
40:51
a whole other toxic relationship after that, with
40:53
the guy we call the Prince. And
40:55
that moment for me was like, whoa,
41:00
oh, okay, I'm gonna take a I'm gonna
41:02
take a beat before I you know, dive into this
41:04
one. And and
41:07
then you know, there were some moments that just
41:09
broke my heart for my younger self that, you
41:11
know, I felt so discombobulated. So,
41:14
you know, my there was
41:16
no self worth. That was
41:18
just that was really heartbreaking. Yeah, yeah.
41:20
Well, so you acknowledge, you know, your healing
41:22
journey continues all these years later, and the
41:24
importance of taking care of your mental health.
41:26
What, what does that look like for you?
41:28
Now, today, now
41:31
today. So this is really fun.
41:33
I, I got I was at
41:35
the CMT Awards the other day. And I was,
41:37
you know, like, how do you talk about this
41:39
book quickly, you know, like, you know, like a
41:41
quick hit interview. But what I shared with what
41:43
I shared, and this is something that I think
41:45
is a great first place to start, is
41:50
the book and writing and like going to
41:52
all my places, you know, being
41:54
done avoiding myself, like just going to everything that is
41:56
scary and dark and heavy, and just ripping it with
41:58
a little bit of a wide open and going, okay,
42:00
we have to deal with this. We have to
42:03
take this head on, is that I'm
42:05
to a place now where I like me. And
42:08
that is so freeing. And
42:11
you know, being able to go, okay, how do
42:14
I feel about me today? Just me by myself?
42:16
No one? No influence? Just? All
42:18
right, am I good with me? And
42:20
let that be the foundation. And
42:22
then whoever comes into the picture, has to
42:26
be good and elevating and stretching and happy.
42:28
And I want I want both you guys want to
42:30
hang out. And like, we're like, we're this is a good
42:32
thing, you know, it has to be good. And and
42:36
not be convoluted by other
42:38
people's behavior and let it, you know, pull
42:40
you down and pull me down. And
42:43
that's really exciting. And to know I've, I've done
42:45
the work. And now there's new work. Because
42:48
I think that once you address the trauma,
42:50
at least in my case, I've addressed all
42:52
this stuff. And now other little layers are
42:54
peeking out. And I'm
42:56
like, okay, so this situation that happened
42:58
when I was 19, with a,
43:00
you know, you know, a
43:03
man in power in the entertainment industry, like,
43:05
okay, that that just that just showed
43:07
up. So what do we have to fix
43:09
there? What do we have to kind
43:11
of like, okay, address, like, that'll never happen again.
43:14
And these, you know, these things that as we get
43:16
stronger, our voices get stronger, and we don't put up
43:18
with stuff. Right. And then, you know,
43:20
we don't, I find that bad
43:22
people don't waste their time on us. We're too strong.
43:25
So like, oh, that's too much work. Let's find someone
43:27
easier. You know, so the goal is to get everybody
43:29
really strong. Yeah,
43:31
that's so true. Yeah, we've
43:33
talked, we talked a lot about, like,
43:36
sexual harassment in the workplace and stuff in our
43:38
experiences. I mean, things have just changed so much
43:40
in the world just showed up. So
43:43
what do we have to fix there? What do we have to
43:45
kind of like, okay, address, like, that'll never happen
43:48
again. And these, you know, these things
43:50
that as we get stronger, our voices get stronger, and
43:52
we don't put up with stuff. Right. And
43:54
then, you know, we don't, I find that bad
43:57
people don't waste their time on us. We're too strong.
44:00
So like, ah, that's too much work. Let's find someone
44:02
easier. You know, so the goal is to get everybody
44:04
really strong. Yeah. Yeah.
44:06
That's so true. Yeah. We've
44:08
talked, we talked a lot about, um, like
44:11
sexual harassment in the workplace and stuff
44:13
in our experiences. I mean, things have just changed so
44:15
much in the last 20 years, you know? I
44:18
mean, had I gosh, when I
44:20
was 19, had the things that I saw
44:22
and was witnessed to and thank God nothing
44:25
happened. Where I had to like
44:28
deal with that whole rigmarole, but it
44:31
just, that stuff doesn't happen today
44:33
because social media, like everyone's
44:35
got a camera. Uh, the
44:37
conversation is at the forefront. You
44:40
know, I mean, I'm a very outgoing
44:42
as we, we're all strong outgoing women.
44:44
And I had moments
44:47
where my voice was silent. I'm
44:49
sure in the music business, I
44:51
can't imagine. Yeah. It's that pressure
44:53
pressure of you're going to ruin
44:55
my career, blackball me. Yeah.
44:59
And, uh, we just live in a much different
45:01
time. So it's awesome. You know, it shows like
45:03
yours would be able to expose and
45:05
have real conversation so that
45:07
the listeners have real guidance tools,
45:09
what to look for and just,
45:13
you know, going back to trusting yourself to a
45:15
place where you don't, if you get in something, you know how
45:17
to get out. Right. Hopefully.
45:21
Okay. Well, lastly, I want to thank you on
45:23
behalf of my husband because we just got back
45:25
from a family spring break trip to Hawaii. That's
45:27
why I'm so tan. I'm looking a
45:30
little orangy. I
45:33
wondered if you'd been somewhere. Well,
45:37
I was incredibly annoyed with him. You know,
45:39
it's stressful getting it all together with this
45:41
three kids and he could not have been
45:43
less helpful. Okay. You
45:48
stayed out late, you know, the night, the whole thing,
45:50
right? Thoroughly annoyed, but
45:53
I started reading the book on the plane and
45:56
reliving my past bad relationships. And
45:58
I remember. all those insecurities and
46:00
eggshells, you know, we've been talking
46:02
about. And I thought to myself,
46:05
actually, it is just a damn
46:07
miracle. I ended up with
46:09
this man that is not a narcissistic asshole,
46:11
you know, thank God for
46:13
him, even if he has no concept
46:15
of time, organization and
46:19
the effort that goes into all that traffic for a
46:21
week. All the things, all
46:23
the things. Well, you tell him no
46:25
problem. I was a little more forgiving.
46:28
Yes, yes. Faster than usual on this occasion.
46:30
By the time I got off the plane,
46:32
I was like, okay, let's have a Mai
46:34
Tai and let it go. Let's go have
46:36
a Mai Tai and yeah, so fun
46:38
and wild. It is true. There's
46:41
so much with relationships in life.
46:44
Stephanie, we all want to listen to you. Also,
46:46
Gretchen and I have been listening to all of your
46:48
music. You are an
46:50
absolute disco biscuit and that's
46:52
what we call beautiful
46:54
women. We would hang out with.
46:57
Wait, do you guys have t-shirts? We do.
47:00
Our book is disco biscuit t-shirts. We
47:03
can make that happen. We will send you one. I
47:05
love that. But you
47:07
guys, she is amazing. Your
47:10
music is amazing and inspiring and
47:12
so fun, so easy to listen
47:14
to. And let's all download
47:17
this book as soon as it comes out. I
47:19
am going to do the audio version because
47:21
I am in the car three hours a day driving my
47:23
kiddo to and from school. So
47:26
it is called, again, Why Do We
47:28
Stay? by Stephanie Quayle. Please everyone get
47:30
it. You will not be disappointed. Her
47:34
story is amazing and you are amazing and
47:36
truly a pleasure to talk to. And tell our readers
47:38
where we can find you, our readers, our listeners, where
47:40
they can connect with you online. Yes. So
47:43
stephaniquequayle.com for all of my tour days when
47:45
I'll be visiting all the places. I'd
47:47
love to meet your faces. Any chance
47:49
you're going to be in Nashville around the end of May? Yes.
47:53
I am going to be in Nashville. Are you guys coming? Yeah,
47:55
we're coming for CrimeCon. It's
47:57
a big convention. There
48:00
is crime con. There is crime con. It is
48:02
a thing. I have a nice type of keys.
48:06
Just throw me in your bag. I want to
48:08
go. This is awesome. Yeah, I'll be there. I'll
48:11
be there. Please. Please. This
48:14
will be very cool. And we'll have to have
48:16
a night. The disco biscuits take Nashville. Nashville? That'd
48:18
be so fun. I love it. I love it.
48:21
And then social media in all the places. All the places
48:23
where you can find me, you can find me. Okay. Yes.
48:27
Go find her and click today. Thank you so much, Stephanie. I'm
48:29
so excited that I'm going to see you all at the
48:31
end of May. Yes. We'll be there. I
48:34
love it. Well, hot
48:36
damn. Crutchie. That was about the best
48:38
interview we have had in a, in
48:41
a minute. In a hot minute. Yes.
48:44
That book is
48:46
intense. Yeah. I
48:48
am downloading the audio version because
48:50
I love her voice so much.
48:53
Right. I love her singing voice and I know I'm
48:55
going to love her telling me the story in my
48:57
ear. And
48:59
since I drive so much, just perfect. Oh
49:02
yeah. And listen, it's an,
49:04
it's a, it's a real easy read. Yeah.
49:07
Real easy with your eyeballs or your ears. Either way. It's
49:09
a, it's a real easy read. Starts
49:11
off. The book starts off just
49:14
so you know, there was no like spoiler with
49:18
she's cooking dinner. He, you know, he dies
49:20
in the plane crash. So I mean, how
49:22
do you, and it just, it doesn't stop
49:24
from, from there. It really keeps moving. Wow.
49:27
So you'll definitely enjoy. I also, you
49:29
know, I wasn't like super familiar with
49:31
Stephanie's music and everything. And so I've
49:33
been, you know, stalking her on YouTube
49:36
and she's great. Yeah. She
49:38
really is. Gretchen was sending me all of her videos.
49:41
Yeah. I love her videos.
49:43
The lost years video and
49:46
song I downloaded.
49:49
It is really about her story with Paulo.
49:53
And you know, I just, yeah, we just love
49:55
her. She's great. She is
49:57
great. So definitely go
49:59
check. check her out and check out
50:01
that book and I hope you guys enjoyed
50:03
this episode as much as we did. And
50:06
thank you again for seeing
50:09
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