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Kristen. Yeah, Jelenta. What's the biggest friendship

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issue you've been dealing with lately? Oh,

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Jelenta, you know, my friends are all

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gone. Yeah. Well, not all of them,

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but a lot of them have left

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for greener pastures, you know, remote work.

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You don't have to live here in

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New York City anymore where it's super

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expensive. You can go somewhere where it's

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less expensive and still keep your job.

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So that's what a lot of the

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people I love have done. Yeah, that

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is so rough. Like long distance can

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really hinder a friendship. There are no

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last-minute plans, no bumping into each other

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at the supermarket or the park. Yeah,

2:47

I can't see those friends every day, every

2:50

week. In some cases, I can't even see

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them every month. It's

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tough. Yeah. And on the flip side,

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there are all the people who relocate.

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They often have issues with loneliness and

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making friends. That includes some of my

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friends who have actually left. Oh,

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that's so true. We hear a lot about

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this from our listeners on our Facebook page

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and in emails. We always

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get the question, how do

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I make friends after moving

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someplace new? Well, fortunately, listeners,

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Jelenta, it's not a question

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those people today. Well, let's do it because

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Fine with Friends, we dive into a

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do we have? How many followers? How many likes

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do we get? And we

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don't focus enough on quality. What

8:06

are those relationships bringing to our

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lives? And what are we bringing

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to those relationships? And is it

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a two-way street? Or is it

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just this passive interaction

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where we're scrolling and

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liking each other's content but not

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really having that meaningful relationship? Now,

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speaking of meaningful relationships, does

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a city, a suburb, a

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rural area, which of

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those is most conducive to having those kinds

8:32

of relationships? Is there a difference between them?

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Does it really have to do with the individual or

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does it have to do with those geographic areas? My

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research tries to dig into this

8:42

and understand differences in social well-being

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by rural and urban

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locations and suburban too. There's obviously

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a gradient and there's a lot

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of variation across types of contexts.

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Historically, rural residents have had bigger

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families and larger social networks and

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they've said that they've reported over

8:59

and over again in research that

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they have stronger social cohesion. That

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means they're more likely to know

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their neighbors, the other people who

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live in their community, they're more

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likely to trust them, to rely

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on them. That

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difference between rural social cohesion and

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urban has started to dissipate somewhat

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though, as we've seen in the

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demographics of rural places change. A

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lot of people have migrated out

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of rural areas and we have

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a lot of new people coming

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into rural areas who might not

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have those strong family connections or

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those strong generational ties

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to the community. I think

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more than just saying rural

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and urban and suburban are different in

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their social context has a lot to

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do with the person, with the access

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to resources that they have, and with

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the individual community. There are some communities

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that have great social infrastructure, those are

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the places that we gather, that's the

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resources that make it possible to have

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meaningful social engagement with each other in

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