In our conversation with Jerry Dugan, he says, "like live in a way that. She's gonna be like, all right, yeah, I choose him again for another day." So we asked him what his thoughts were on how to make sure that the love between partners doesn't just stay at a constant rate.

The biggest thing is making sure I'm listening more than I'm speaking in the relationship.

Listen to the full episode for Jerry's story on how he was putting them first and, and also communicating something he would want to do.

We also learn about - H.A.L.T - A framework which can be used to reduce conflict in relationships. Before you say, anything to your partner, halt and check for the below

• H - Am I hungry?
• A - Am I angry about something else?
• L - Am I feeling lonely?
• T - Am I tired?

And if the answer to any of those things is a YES, then the conflict or conversation between you and your partner isn't about whatever's going on - it's about something else entirely. So what can you do? Simple answer is to take care of yourself and let your partner know. If you're hungry - get a snack. If you're angry or feeling lonely or tired - let your partner know.

Takeaways

1. The biggest thing to do in a relationship is making sure you're listening more than speaking
2. Put your loved ones first and communicate with them if there is something you would like to do
3. Use HALT - the self assessment tool to halt the conversation if you find yourself Hungry, Angry, Lonely or Tired.

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