0:21

Yes, A Charlie

0:21

Brown Thanksgiving. It's one of

0:25

my all time favs. I used to make

0:25

a night of it with the kiddos

0:30

when they were younger. And now

0:30

I just have Mr. Fox to torture

0:33

and have him sit with me and

0:33

watch it every year.

0:37

Oh, that's not torture.

0:37

lk

0:42

Well welcome

0:42

everyone to married with a twist

0:44

podcast. Hopefully your turkeys

0:44

are stuffed, wink wink. I hope

0:48

Mr. Fox stuffs mine later. Are

0:48

you all ready for your family

0:55

gatherings? Well, let's hurry so

0:55

you can get back to it. First,

1:00

we both want to wish you all a

1:00

wonderful Charlie Brown

1:04

Thanksgiving. Our podcast

1:04

tonight will be about what has

1:09

happened in the subMrs community

1:09

this past month. Thanksgiving

1:14

historically, these interesting

1:14

dirty little details about these

1:18

Puritans. And then our main

1:18

focuse is the Power Exchange

1:23

Relationship, feeding into the

1:23

circle and feasting from it

1:27

since we're all gonna be

1:27

feasting on Turkey. In just a

1:30

day or so.

1:31

That sounds pretty good.

1:34

Finally, we'll kind of wrap it up with what's coming in December.

1:39

And at the end of this

1:39

podcast, to all of the pilgrims

1:43

and the Indians that make it to

1:43

the end, I will share about our

1:46

Thanksgiving toast, and our

1:46

special invitation for all of

1:50

you to attend this unique and

1:50

personal annual event. So stick

1:55

around to the end of it. Unless

1:55

you already know the details.

1:58

And we'll tell you more.

2:15

Do you want to

2:15

know a secret? Do you want to

2:19

have a secret? A dirty little

2:19

secret? A secret that you only

2:23

share with your spouse? A secret

2:23

that is so magical, so intimate

2:26

in ways you can only imagine.

2:29

Oh, come on. You must

2:29

be curious.

2:33

Marriage has a

2:33

new secret a relationship

2:36

accessory of sorts. Come fall

2:36

down our rabbit hole. And we'll

2:40

share our secret about this

2:40

magical wonderland of creating

2:43

your own intimacy. We can give

2:43

you all the edge without you or

2:48

your marriage ever getting cut.

2:48

Welcome to married with the

2:52

twist podcast.

2:53

Greetings everyone. Mr.

2:53

Fox and little kaninchen or lk?

2:58

We are your hosts and founders

2:58

of marriage's sexiest new

3:01

secret, the leader follower

3:01

dynamic, also known as married

3:07

dominance and submission.

3:09

Oh man, you

3:09

just told him the secret.

3:15

What happened to November? Or

3:15

should I say what happened in

3:18

November on subMrs. I wanted to

3:18

share a little bit of what we

3:22

did this past month in the

3:22

community. First of all, I

3:26

wanted to twist the normal

3:26

Thanksgiving into something a

3:29

little more twisted for everyone

3:29

to experience.

3:32

lk, twist something

3:34

Always, always

3:34

twisted. November's focus was

3:37

all about giving and feasting.

3:37

We kind of skip right into the

3:42

Christmas season, so I thought

3:42

it might be a good time to give

3:46

our Sir's some attention. Show

3:46

them our thanks before Christmas

3:49

and all those trimmings just

3:49

completely take over.

3:56

Exactly. that's what I'm talking

3:56

about. November was all about

4:00

the member, your Sir's member

4:00

that is. November we had a lot

4:05

of fun things scheduled in our

4:05

communities. I think that women

4:08

just had just as much fun as the

4:08

men did. And we had an exercise,

4:12

harvesting your Sir's seed that

4:12

continued all month long. That

4:19

was a lot of fun. And then we

4:19

had several live chats. Thanks

4:25

and giving for your Sir, like

4:25

how to give him a better blow

4:28

job, great techniques. We even

4:28

had everybody bring their

4:31

bananas.

4:32

I like that kind of class.

4:35

If you missed

4:35

it, please go to the fitness

4:39

group and our leader there

4:39

Pearl, she's really great. She

4:44

will fill you in on all those

4:44

little details. But we also

4:48

talked about how blowjobs really

4:48

are more like what we call face

4:54

fucking. Sorry, I'm going to use

4:54

that word a lot probably in this

5:00

But we talk more about how face

5:00

fucking versus blowjob. We did a

5:03

whole entire thing on that. We

5:03

talked about cock worship and

5:07

it's tools and toys within a

5:07

workshop, which was really

5:11

fabulous. We also had another

5:11

spiritual chat about the power

5:17

behind the penis, which was so

5:17

interesting. If you haven't

5:21

joined the spiritual group yet.

5:21

please do join her group. It is

5:25

just great information. And then

5:25

we had Marriage's Sexiest New

5:31

Secret member chat with me, lk.

5:31

And we have lots of people

5:37

attend and we had so much fun

5:37

there. So I invite you to join

5:40

us, those will happen every

5:40

single month. Please stay tuned

5:44

for those. We had a few twisted

5:44

holidays. We did Friday the

5:48

13th, making your own luck. We

5:48

also had national go for a ride

5:53

or of course I had to twist that

5:53

into cowgirl day or reverse

5:58

cowgirl day. We still have

5:58

Beaver Moon coming up. I don't

6:02

think I need to explain that.

6:02

And one more St. Andrew's day,

6:07

which I'm pretty sure you all

6:07

can figure out how I twisted

6:10

that one. So that was really

6:10

where our November went. It was

6:15

fantastic. We have just a few

6:15

more things left. We also are

6:19

doing a fantastic book series.

6:19

So tune in for that join our

6:25

book club, and otherwise we'll

6:25

just move forward.

6:29

Alright, lk, then let's

6:29

talk Turkey. Let's talk

6:33

Thanksgiving. November is about

6:33

celebrating the year's harvest

6:37

and being thankful for the

6:37

blessings of the past year.

6:41

Thanksgiving celebrations are

6:41

usually modeled around the year

6:44

1621's original harvest dinner,

6:44

shared by the English pilgrims

6:49

of Plymouth, Massachusetts, and

6:49

the Wampanoag Indian people. The

6:54

celebration was prompted by the

6:54

year's good harvest. The Indians

6:58

had helped the pilgrims get

6:58

through the previous winter by

7:01

giving them food in that time of

7:01

scarcity. Both groups exchanged

7:06

food and gave thanks. What a

7:06

noble beginning to the holiday.

7:13

Some fun PDLD

7:13

the pilgrims dirty little

7:16

details. Back then premarital

7:16

sex was punished severely and

7:24

historical colonial records it

7:24

was estimated that the

7:27

percentage of couples who had

7:27

premarital sex averaged 18.7%

7:33

There was an equal percentage of

7:33

couples who never did marry but

7:36

simply enjoyed the sex and then

7:36

took their punishment if any

7:39

from their Governing Council.

7:39

That accounts for a total over

7:43

37.4% of the Plymouth Colony

7:43

engaging in a lot of fun sex,

7:50

not to mention the percentage

7:50

that went totally undiscovered.

7:54

The University of Virginia

7:54

estimates that at least 50% of

7:58

the colony was messing around in

7:58

the cornfields when nobody was

8:02

looking. No wonder they nearly

8:02

starved those first few years,

8:06

they were sowing a different

8:06

kind of seed.

8:08

I want to know who's

8:08

doing the study at the

8:11

University of Virginia on

8:11

colonies, sex habits in the

8:15

cornfields

8:16

they're probably all related to them. Its near and dear to their

8:18

heart.

8:20

I don't want to know what my elders are doing.

8:23

I thought it was pretty interesting.

8:25

It is, it is.

8:26

Yeah. The

8:26

second detail I thought was

8:29

interesting was the sexual

8:29

offenses were rarely punished by

8:32

death. With the percentage that

8:32

I mentioned before. I suspect if

8:37

they had tried to implement

8:37

death for every sexual offense,

8:40

or what they saw as an offense,

8:40

there would have been very few

8:43

colonists left. The more common

8:43

punishment was whipping,

8:49

flogging, branding. Or they have

8:49

a favorite, the time you spent

8:54

at the pillory or the public

8:54

stockade, they put you up on a

8:58

block and put your head and arms

8:58

and maybe feet in you know a

9:02

stockade. And if those of you

9:02

don't know what a pillory is, a

9:06

pillory is a device made up of

9:06

wooden or a metal framework

9:09

erected on a post with holes for

9:09

securing your head hands. It was

9:13

normally used for punishments or

9:13

public humiliations.

9:16

Yeah, I would call it a

9:16

stockade. I can't wait for the

9:20

day. I can have one of those in

9:20

a playroom with you.

9:22

Oh, I would love a pillory.

9:24

That would be awesome.

9:24

Yeah, I would love it. But maybe not in public. At least not in public,

9:26

naked or anything like that. But

9:33

let's move on. We kind of

9:33

digressed. But there was a 16

9:37

year old boy that was once

9:37

executed for beaselity, along

9:42

with the guilty livestock. The

9:42

story goes with a surge of

9:46

hormones he had turned to those

9:46

who he knew best accused of

9:50

buggery and then indicted with a

9:50

mare, a cow, two goats, five

9:55

sheep, two calves and guess what

9:55

a turkey.

10:00

Wow, he had a whole

10:00

heirem that's unbelievable.

10:03

Yeah. I think

10:03

he was like, 16.

10:06

He was 16.

10:07

Yeah. Well, he

10:07

was first discovered by one that

10:13

accidentally saw the lewd

10:13

practice. When he was doing his

10:17

mare. He confessed to his

10:17

multiple sins. And as

10:22

punishment, he was forced to

10:22

watch all the animals killed.

10:26

Now, at first, the court had a

10:26

problem figuring out which sheep

10:34

you know, they weren't sure

10:34

which ones that he had favored.

10:36

So as sheep look pretty much the

10:36

same, but the boy was helpful

10:40

and pointed out all his sex

10:40

partners. So after made to watch

10:45

all the animals killed and

10:45

buried in a pit, that boy was

10:48

then hung.

10:50

That's terrible.

10:51

Very few of

10:51

those cases that said, but that

10:53

was a pretty interesting one.

10:53

Then there's one more little

10:56

detail. A woman was once

10:56

convicted of uncleanness with an

11:02

Indian, and was sentenced to

11:02

publicly with being whipped. And

11:09

then they would lead her by cart

11:09

through the town, and she was to

11:12

wear a scarlet letter AD badge

11:12

on her arm to show that she

11:18

wasn't adulterous. If she was

11:18

found without it, she would be

11:22

branded on her forehead. You

11:22

don't even want to know what

11:26

happened to the Indian. Let's

11:26

just say, I would imagine he

11:30

didn't make it for dinner that year.

11:33

The Pilgrims and Indians had their share of challenges as well. Bad

11:35

marriages, cheating spouses,

11:39

teenagers with hormones, etc. In

11:39

some ways, life seems much the

11:44

same now, as it did then. Today,

11:44

some people still have a lot in

11:48

common with the pilgrims of the

11:48

past, the hypocritical image of

11:51

sexuality. We're trying to

11:51

change that and we believe it's

11:55

working. Our wish for everyone

11:55

this Thanksgiving and always is

12:00

to first be thankful and show

12:00

your gratitude by giving. Give

12:04

to each other by exploring and

12:04

enjoying your sexuality with

12:07

your partner or your spouse.

12:07

Keep in mind as you gather

12:10

around the turkey this

12:10

Thanksgiving, and quit thinking

12:14

about that boy and his Turkey.

12:14

Just give thanks, you weren't

12:18

one of those pilgrims, or one of

12:18

those turkeys.

12:22

The power

12:22

exchange relationship feeding

12:25

into the circle and feasting

12:25

from it. Let's start with what

12:31

is the power exchange. Using

12:31

marriage's sexy a secret. A

12:37

couple creates and feeds and

12:37

feeds from a circle of creative

12:40

power or the exchange of that

12:40

power and practicing the power

12:44

exchange a new marital synergy

12:44

is generated. This creating or

12:50

rekindling a magic sexual energy

12:50

between a couple. This power

12:55

exchange circle will sate both

12:55

the husband and wife's needs.

12:59

Working together they both find

12:59

a mutual acceptance along with a

13:02

deeper spiritual connection and

13:02

practicing of the dynamic. I

13:09

want to mention just one more

13:09

time. The power sheets satisfies

13:13

two very important needs that

13:13

every married couple require

13:17

from one another. Okay, first of

13:17

all, a wife's craving a hunger

13:21

for intimacy or closeness with

13:21

her husband, she really wants a

13:24

partner. And the husbands search

13:24

for that unexplained trust and

13:29

respect from his wife, and the

13:29

fact that she'll give him pussy

13:32

whenever he wants.

13:35

Let's talk about the

13:35

circle. We define powerexchange

13:38

circle as a circle of energy

13:38

that is created by a couple that

13:43

is in sync emotionally,

13:43

spiritually mentally and

13:46

physically by using the DSM

13:46

methodology of the power

13:50

exchange relationship. So

13:50

imagine if you will a large

13:53

circle a circular wave of moving

13:53

energy comprised of two

13:57

independent components, one fed

13:57

by a bright red orange light,

14:02

the leaders energy and the other

14:02

of bright blue green light, the

14:08

followers energy this circle of

14:08

energy represents your power

14:13

exchange dynamic. Partners feed

14:13

into this circle strengthening

14:17

it, then in turn feeding or

14:17

feasting from their combined

14:21

energies within the circle. But

14:21

your partners must contribute to

14:25

the circle in order to be able

14:25

to feed from it. The circle is

14:29

only sustainable to feed both

14:29

partners. If it constitutes

14:33

energy from both partners. A

14:33

couple initiates the circle by

14:38

first completing the setup steps

14:38

of the power exchange dynamic.

14:42

As they begin to practice their

14:42

roles demonstrating growth in

14:46

them, the circle begins to form.

14:46

Next, the focus is on building

14:51

the circle strength and its

14:51

energy or movement. This happens

14:56

when both partners are fully

14:56

engaged and practicing

14:59

regularly. Even daily, this

14:59

feeds the circle, creating a

15:04

synergy. That's the interaction

15:04

or cooperation of two or more

15:09

people to produce a combined

15:09

effect greater than the sum of

15:13

their separate effects, which I

15:13

think also would go into talking

15:17

about our community and the

15:17

value of community.

15:21

This takes us into that this type of relationship is a relationship

15:23

with benefits. You know what

15:26

they say? what you put in, you

15:26

get out, nothing is truer than

15:32

with this power exchange. This

15:32

circle is so much more as it

15:36

feeds a couple in all sorts of

15:36

ways. This type of relationship

15:40

is one with many, many benefits.

15:40

Personally, this type of dynamic

15:44

benefits you, your marriage,

15:44

your family, and even your

15:48

friends, I'm talking even your

15:48

coworkers, a husband many times

15:53

feels more dominant. When he

15:53

does this type of thing. He

15:56

carries himself with more

15:56

confidence. This has an overall

16:00

effect on him and everyone he

16:00

basically figuratively touches.

16:05

He has more confidence in his

16:05

choices, his decisions, not only

16:10

at home, but at work. everywhere

16:10

he goes. Everyone who comes in

16:15

contact will feel it see it in

16:15

his actions. A wife feels more

16:21

balanced in her marriage has

16:21

less anxiety and stress. The

16:24

feeling of protection and

16:24

appreciation is giving her that

16:29

emotional intimacy that she so

16:29

badly needs, she will pass it

16:33

forward to others, making her a

16:33

better version of herself. She

16:37

will be a better wife, a better

16:37

mother, a better friend, and

16:40

even a better co worker.

16:42

So lk, I think that's a

16:42

pretty powerful paragraph right

16:45

there. And I think you start it

16:45

with one of the most awesome

16:47

quotes I can even imagine,

16:47

right? Don't be upset with the

16:51

results you didn't get from the

16:51

work you didn't do. I mean, just

16:55

like you said, when you started

16:55

this, we're gonna get out of it,

16:57

whatever we put into it. Don't

16:57

be surprised if it if it's not

17:00

working, right, like, Look at

17:00

yourself.

17:03

Yes, I think

17:03

that many times both partners,

17:07

you know, if they start out with

17:07

using our method and getting the

17:10

foundations and doing those

17:10

first steps, that's why they're

17:13

so important. So you both

17:13

understand there's

17:15

responsibilities and, you

17:15

understand that now you're going

17:19

to make your marriage a

17:19

priority.

17:22

It is hard work. I

17:22

mean, that's also the point, I

17:24

think of what you're saying.

17:24

Like it's not like we just start

17:26

down this journey and everything

17:26

is gonna be I don't know what

17:29

you call it lk, pixie dust. And

17:29

yes, is that a real? Is that a

17:33

real saying, lk? Right. But

17:33

it's, it's hard work, you have

17:36

to roll up your sleeves and get

17:36

into it. And if you want the

17:40

results, you're gonna have to,

17:40

you're gonna have to put into

17:43

it.

17:43

Yeah, you work

17:43

hard. But you get to play

17:46

harder. And that kind of hard,

17:46

fun is the most fun and know

17:49

what you get out of it. There's

17:49

nothing better,

17:52

Right? And it goes

17:52

deeper than just just fantastic,

17:55

phenomenal sex and a better

17:55

marriage. Right? Like, as you're

17:59

pointing out, you're gonna have

17:59

a better version of yourself,

18:01

you're always constantly working

18:01

on being a better person and

18:05

creating a, your happiness.

18:07

Yeah, the

18:07

synergy the circle will want to

18:09

will make you want to become a

18:09

better person, a better wife, a

18:14

better husband. It actually

18:14

carries on throughout every

18:19

aspect of your life. Really?

18:24

I was just going to

18:24

comment how the word synergy

18:26

that you just brought up, I

18:26

think is so powerful in this

18:29

right, I think in every

18:29

relationship, that that concept

18:32

that you can have more together

18:32

with somebody, then you could

18:38

produce independently on your

18:38

own. And that's really what

18:40

synergy means. When when two

18:40

people come together, and

18:42

they're working with the same

18:42

goal in mind that they will have

18:48

more than they could have by

18:48

themselves. And I think that's

18:52

the power of a relationship to

18:52

begin with. But it's especially

18:55

true when we align everybody

18:55

with those DSM foundations.

19:00

Everybody gets aligned, and I

19:00

think it's a power that is

19:03

almost unstoppable.

19:05

So you're both

19:05

setting an intention to go

19:07

somewhere certain goal, certain

19:07

relationship, both, you know,

19:12

deciding, intentionally deciding

19:12

to have a leader follower

19:16

relationship,

19:17

right? Yep. And we're

19:17

helping each other do it, we're

19:20

supporting each other and

19:20

creating an environment for the

19:23

other person to excel all the

19:23

time and having that in the

19:26

forefront of our mind. So it's

19:26

not accidental for for waiting

19:28

to accidentally have a wonderful

19:28

mind blowing relationship. It's

19:32

probably not gonna happen

19:32

anytime soon, right? Like lk,

19:35

said, it's got to have

19:35

intention. We have to have that

19:38

intent in the front of our mind,

19:38

and we have to work hard at it

19:40

every day.

19:42

And that's something you want to do if you're married and you have a

19:44

marriage and there's nothing

19:47

better. I'm not kidding you. If

19:47

you think about it, there's

19:50

nothing better than having a

19:50

fabulous marriage. I mean, there

19:55

is nothing better than that. So

19:55

you know, you put a little in

20:00

You get a little out, you put a

20:00

whole lot in, you're gonna get a

20:02

whole lot out. That's my,

20:02

basically my thought will go

20:07

into like the power of

20:07

attraction within the circle.

20:11

Okay, this exchange helps both

20:11

partners produced like that

20:14

chemical and endorphins that

20:14

can't be seen, you can't really

20:18

touch them. But they make you

20:18

happier and healthier and even

20:22

draw outside people to you both

20:22

, individually and as a couple.

20:29

They feel the pull, but they're

20:29

not sure why they feel that pull

20:34

towards you. We have had

20:34

multiple times when complete

20:38

strangers have paid for our

20:38

drinks or dinners. Or, well,

20:43

basically just because no other

20:43

reason, then we just look like

20:46

we were so much in love. They

20:46

want to be a part of it. They

20:49

want to be around that

20:50

so yummy.

20:52

That's what

20:52

they're thinking. They are

20:56

thinking, what is their secret?

20:56

It's truly a chemical pulll you

21:01

have on both your foreheads and

21:01

invisibly thing that's written

21:05

there that says, I love my

21:05

partner. I love my marriage. And

21:09

it's so sexy, and we have a

21:09

secret.

21:16

Men are from Mars and

21:16

women are from Venus. I'm sure

21:20

that you've heard this before.

21:20

But what do we mean when we say

21:23

it here? The dominant leaders

21:23

are from Mars, meaning they have

21:27

a mythological connection with

21:27

Mars or Aries, the Roman god of

21:32

war, based on Aries, the Greek

21:32

god of war. The male gender

21:38

symbol is historically

21:38

represented by Mars's sword and

21:42

shield, and the element iron, in

21:42

alchemy. These dominant leaders

21:48

often live in a land of what I

21:48

would call black and white,

21:51

right? Meaning they also respond

21:51

well to their roles, especially

21:55

in the mental and physical

21:55

aspects. They are warriors.

22:05

It's kind of In summary, lk,

22:05

when I talk about the mental and

22:08

the physical, right, like we're

22:08

not taking anything away from

22:12

gender or anything like that,

22:12

we're just saying that I think

22:15

most people see guys as being

22:15

the brute or the warrior. And

22:20

not that guys are, have a better

22:20

mental capacity. I wouldn't say

22:25

that at all. I don't know how to

22:25

word it properly, right? Like

22:28

I'm thinking logical, but it's

22:28

not. It's not that women aren't

22:31

logical at all, I think it might

22:31

be more of the lack of emotion

22:36

men put into things.

22:38

I think men in

22:38

general have more of those

22:40

parts. internally. There's a

22:40

dominant partner or submissive

22:45

partner, as a leader, there's a

22:45

follower, you know, not exactly

22:48

like we said, we don't always

22:48

have to go by gender, but I'm

22:51

just saying that sometimes the

22:51

more the leader, or the more

22:54

dominant partner tends to have

22:54

those traits. So and again, just

23:01

the same thing with a ball or

23:01

submissive partner, you know,

23:04

you actually take on those

23:04

trades stronger in those traits.

23:08

It's just like, you know, if

23:08

you're a better fisherman than

23:11

the other person, same thing.

23:11

Men are warriors are cavemen.

23:16

They have the penis of power,

23:16

and they love to fix around. And

23:21

they never asked.

23:23

That's true. Now we

23:23

have Siri to get us lost.

23:28

So now let's

23:28

talk a little bit more about

23:31

Venus. Okay, well, the follower

23:31

or submissive partner we're from

23:36

Venus, Venus or Aphrodite. Venus

23:36

was the Roman goddess of love

23:41

Aphrodite was the Greek goddess

23:41

of love. Today's female gender

23:46

symbol historically was said to

23:46

be Venus's mirror, the same

23:49

female symbol of the element,

23:49

that is copper, in alchemy.

23:55

Followers live in the land of

23:55

all shades of grey, not just the

23:59

land of 50 Shades of Grey, but

23:59

we live in a spiritual and

24:02

emotional and, give that energy

24:02

into the circle. Overall, the

24:08

circle is made up of actions and

24:08

thoughts of both Venus and Mars.

24:12

The circle is fed when both

24:12

partners are fulfilling their

24:16

leader follower roles with their

24:16

thoughts and actions. Let's talk

24:20

a little bit more about feeding

24:20

the circle. Once the power

24:23

exchange circle is formed, its

24:23

energy is magical. The circle

24:27

wants to be fed from the mind,

24:27

body and spirit of both

24:31

participants. We are made up of

24:31

two parts. First material or the

24:37

physical body, this part can be

24:37

seen and touched. Second,

24:41

immaterial and yet impalpable

24:41

are the soul or spirit or the

24:46

mind or conscious and emotions.

24:46

Keep in mind the masculine parts

24:50

the physical and mental, those

24:50

being fed into and from the

24:54

circle more by the leader or the

24:54

dominant partner, the feminine

24:59

or the Following partner is fed

24:59

and gives more into the

25:03

emotional spiritual energy of

25:03

the circle. All these parts when

25:07

in balance, your dynamic or

25:07

circle will be at his very best,

25:12

each figuring out how their part

25:12

can help the other partner and

25:18

the dynamic work better for them

25:18

both. So that's a mouthful. So

25:22

let's talk about what does that

25:22

all mean?

25:26

Women are Venus, once a

25:26

committed partner, and she needs

25:30

emotional intimacy. So she wants

25:30

and she needs, she needs to feel

25:35

a closeness to get physically

25:35

intimate or have sex with her

25:39

partner. While a man or Mars

25:39

needs physical intimacy, or

25:45

let's just say he needs some

25:45

pussy, to be able to open up

25:48

enough to show women the

25:48

emotional intimacy they need, or

25:52

the partner they wish for. So to

25:52

say that a couple as vanilla is

25:57

a is at a stalemate is an

25:57

understatement. In our method,

26:03

we have figured out a way to

26:03

have both feed into the circle,

26:07

so that they can get what they

26:07

need. So they can give it to

26:11

their partner, what they truly

26:11

desire. The ladies have heard me

26:15

say before, you need to harden

26:15

your partner, before he can

26:21

soften up, but you need to let

26:21

him in, to plunder to his

26:26

deepest wishes, so that you can

26:26

receive what you are wanting.

26:31

That's funny, okay,

26:31

because I would be telling the

26:33

guys you need to harden up in

26:33

order to ponder into her deepest

26:37

desire. close, very close,

26:37

slightly, slightly different at

26:43

the truth. Let's talk warrior lk. The

26:45

feeding of Mars, the dominant or

26:53

leading partner. his confidence

26:53

comes from her words of

26:56

encouragement, accompanied by

26:56

her respect, and her unwavering

27:00

trust and support. She offers

27:00

him her vulnerability that gives

27:05

him the dark intimacies that he

27:05

really desires. His eyes will

27:09

begin to open allowing him to

27:09

see a new version of her, she

27:14

will give him her trust and

27:14

respect. Once she is fed what

27:18

she needs, he will want to make

27:18

her his own in every way. Since

27:24

she feeds into the circle as

27:24

well as feeds from the circle.

27:27

She can only sustain her actions

27:27

if she's being fed in return. He

27:32

will say, You are mine, and she

27:32

will surrender herself to him.

27:38

How does the dominant of the

27:38

power exchange feed what feeds

27:42

him? The dominant feeds from the

27:42

circle and his partner, her

27:47

body, her mind her spirit, his

27:47

lead and command willfully

27:51

followed, verbal accolades,

27:51

acknowledgement, appreciation

27:57

for the dynamic for his

27:57

leadership, exhibiting

28:00

satisfaction, comfort and

28:00

following his leadership,

28:04

relinquishing control of her

28:04

body and scenes and play,

28:08

sharing her darkest physical

28:08

desires along with her

28:10

vulnerabilities. Her engagement

28:10

to her role, her patience, we

28:16

had to put the P word in here,

28:16

her patience and his fulfilling

28:23

his role. Most importantly, her

28:23

demonstrating the respect and

28:29

trust in him and his abilities

28:29

to lead

28:35

the feeding of

28:35

Venus, the submissive or the

28:38

following partner, she asks for

28:38

the journey or daringly follows

28:43

him into the fire and the ice

28:43

and this thing that we do, while

28:47

giving him the physical intimacy

28:47

is he responds to most. His

28:50

consistency is building a bridge

28:50

to the emotional intimacy that

28:54

she craves the most. emotional

28:54

intimacy is what gives her the

28:59

feeling of closeness with her

28:59

husband. The security and

29:02

unconditional support he offers

29:02

and freely gives leads him to

29:06

feel the trust and respect he

29:06

wants. You will want to be made

29:10

to be his in every way. She says

29:10

I am yours and he takes her

29:16

where she needs to go. The

29:16

follower is fed by the circle as

29:20

well as her serves mind, body

29:20

and spirit. What feeds the

29:24

follower, the submissive, the

29:24

mind, his influence, his

29:30

direction has words, feeling his

29:30

control, not physically, but

29:34

mentally, that he's going to do

29:34

things and tell her things

29:40

that's in her best interest and

29:40

prove it over and over again

29:43

until she can truly trust her

29:43

body. She feeds from the pain

29:48

and the pleasure he gives her.

29:48

And in her spirit, his

29:51

consistency and engagement

29:51

commitment to the dynamic in

29:55

that role. Most importantly, the

29:55

intimate closeness The emotional

30:00

intimacy she feels with him. She

30:00

stands beside him as his equal

30:10

to form a strong front, but she

30:10

walks behind him as she has his

30:14

back and she will follow him

30:14

wherever he wants to go.

30:17

Wow, super powerful

30:17

right there. lk, that sums up so

30:21

much right? Say that one more

30:21

time.

30:25

She stands

30:25

beside him at it as is equal to

30:28

form a strong front, but she

30:28

walks behind him. She has his

30:33

back and she will follow him

30:33

wherever he needs to go

30:36

love it. Feasting. Feeding from within

30:39

the circles excess energy that

30:45

you both have built is what

30:45

feasting is all about. When you

30:49

and your partner have both made

30:49

the conscious effort to build

30:52

your roles and the dynamic, you

30:52

will both feel love again, a

30:57

deep love a connection made

30:57

strong by the energy of the

31:01

circle. You have and can now

31:01

feast from the energy you both

31:06

have created. Picture if you

31:06

will a large spread of all of

31:11

your favorite foods kind of like

31:11

Thanksgiving, laid out on the

31:15

most romantic candlelit table.

31:15

All there just for your

31:20

enjoyment. The circle has

31:20

provided you both with the

31:23

feast. You can now feast from

31:23

one another's mind, body and

31:29

spirit. There's an abundance its

31:29

there for you to consume.

31:35

What does this

31:35

look like in reality? Remember

31:38

one couples reality is not

31:38

another person's reality. So

31:41

these are these are just an

31:41

example. So maybe traveled

31:44

together during this time of

31:44

abundance you can you'll feel

31:47

that abundant feeling you'll

31:47

definitely feel it to do

31:51

something you've been planning for a long time a trip that you haven't you know that you've

31:52

always dreamt of, but never have

31:56

done romantic dinners, you know,

31:56

overnights in the city next to

32:01

yours away.

32:03

We actually do that a lot.

32:04

We do that all

32:04

the time. So sexual scenes,

32:08

extra long scenes like five hour

32:08

long scenes. Those have been

32:11

some of the best times we've

32:11

laughed more we've cried more.

32:15

We've done all those things

32:15

during those extra long scenes.

32:19

You are getting me excited now. So it's really the podcast. So let's get going.

32:23

But

32:23

celebrating your powerexchange

32:25

anniversaries, it is about

32:25

celebrating everything you can

32:29

life is hard enough find reasons

32:29

to celebrate. And when you feel

32:33

you're in that time of abundance

32:33

within your circle, let go go do

32:37

those things that you've always

32:37

wanted to go do go see a concert

32:41

together, you know, somebody

32:41

maybe you saw when you were

32:43

younger, pull out that fun card

32:43

and do something fun together.

32:48

It's about spending time

32:48

together as a couple.

32:52

Okay, so this takes us into

32:52

working in tandem. The circle in

32:56

its energy and the entire

32:56

dynamic, I usually compare it to

32:59

a tandem bike or two person

32:59

bike, two seats, two wheels,

33:03

four pedals, both members have

33:03

to pedal the bike to make it

33:08

work to easily pedal along. The

33:08

sun is warm, the sky is blue,

33:13

both of you easily pedaling

33:13

along wind blowing in your face.

33:17

Life is good. You are working

33:17

together towards the same goal.

33:22

All along you feel in total

33:22

control of your marriage, your

33:25

life and yourself. Both of you

33:25

feeding receiving the

33:29

nourishment to the fullest

33:29

extent. Then, all of a sudden,

33:35

one of you stops pedaling. The

33:35

other person feels that the ride

33:41

is now so much more difficult.

33:41

They're doing it on their own.

33:46

And they're wondering, do I stop

33:46

pedaling? Or do I continue

33:52

pedaling on my own. I've seen it

33:52

happen both ways. But there is

33:57

only so much time one person can

33:57

pedal before the bicycle with

34:02

both of them on it will crash

34:02

and burn or what I call crashing

34:07

smolder. As a dynamics energy is

34:07

being lost. The fire or the

34:13

energy will fade, the fire is

34:13

going out the circle is now out

34:17

of balance. It will begin to

34:17

slow stall and possibly

34:23

disappear. This means one person

34:23

stops being or doing their role

34:33

for the couple stops regular

34:33

practice of the foundations and

34:37

rituals that they had been

34:37

doing. Maybe an individual has

34:40

lost interest or the dynamic is

34:40

no longer working within their

34:43

marriage. There are multiple

34:43

reasons why a couple ends up in

34:47

this type of situation sometimes

34:47

its what we refer to as a second

34:51

year wall but that's a whole

34:51

other podcast.

34:56

Yes, it would be an

34:56

entire another podcast or two

35:01

Some of the stuff that we're

35:01

talking about lk when we think

35:03

about it, it just makes sense,

35:03

right? Your analogy of the

35:06

tandem bicycle. I mean, when you

35:06

think about it, and sometimes I

35:09

think relationships might feel

35:09

that way. Like you're the only

35:11

one working right, the other

35:11

partner stops pedaling like you

35:15

were talking about. There's

35:15

almost a choice there that

35:18

somebody makes, right? Do they

35:18

stop pedaling, too? And then the

35:22

journeys over? Do they start

35:22

pedaling harder, like, like,

35:26

there's a choice there that

35:26

somebody has to make when they

35:30

feel that the other person isn't

35:30

pedaling? And sometimes you

35:33

might want to take a closer look

35:33

to because maybe that person's

35:36

pedaling twice as hard. And you

35:36

just don't recognize it. Right.

35:39

Right. It's

35:39

like which choice I've seen

35:41

people do it both ways. And

35:41

unfortunately, I've seen both

35:46

ways. Crash and smolder. Yeah.

35:46

So and unfortunately, I think we

35:53

have done both. So as I said, we

35:53

are not one to, you know, don't

35:59

have mistakes, or haven't done

35:59

all of these things. So we can

36:03

come back and tell everybody our

36:03

experiences.

36:07

Well, we haven't

36:07

smoldered yet. I don't think

36:10

I think we've crashed.

36:12

Yeah, we've

36:12

crashed. Yeah, totally crashed.

36:15

And, you know, but most times,

36:15

you know, you do kind of have a

36:20

choice. And sometimes, like I

36:20

said, one person decides, or

36:25

they may not even make a real

36:25

decision to stop or slow down.

36:30

Other things happen, vanilla,

36:30

things happen within your life

36:33

that maybe makes you stop

36:33

remembering to do a ritual, or

36:37

stop pedaling. You're part of

36:37

the bicycle or your

36:41

responsibilities in that role.

36:41

And some people just get freakin

36:45

lazy, I'm gonna be honest with

36:45

you, like things are going along

36:48

real good.

36:50

Why are you looking at me directly when you said that

36:52

consistency?

36:52

So like I talk about all the

36:56

time. So, but yeah, so I think

36:56

that sometimes it's not even an

37:04

actual conscious choice that

37:04

you're doing, you just get lazy.

37:08

Or you say, oh, we'll do it next

37:08

time. Oh, whatever, you'll

37:12

learn. And I think everybody

37:12

crashes and smolders or crashes

37:15

and burns, it happens. But it's

37:15

okay. Because we have given you

37:19

tools to show you how to get up,

37:19

wipe yourself off and get back

37:24

on that bicycle,

37:26

which is the most important thing, it's gonna happen to everybody. I don't

37:27

care who it is, right? And it's

37:31

gonna happen multiple times. But

37:31

you got to use the tools like lk

37:34

is saying to get back on track

37:34

to get the bike back up and get

37:38

pedaling again. And there's just

37:38

such a huge multitude of reasons

37:41

of what could be going on.

37:41

Right, maybe somebody needs to

37:44

slow down a little bit, maybe they just don't have the capacity because maybe it's the

37:46

holiday season, maybe it's

37:49

Thanksgiving, and they need a

37:49

little extra helping hand.

37:52

Right,

37:52

their job is

37:52

getting more stressful,

37:55

right? So it's not that

37:55

they can disembark or not pedal

37:58

altogether. But maybe there are

37:58

times when you do need to pedal

38:01

a little harder to keep it going

38:01

and keep you guys headed toward

38:05

your destination or to keep you

38:05

on your journey. So maybe it's

38:07

not always an equal pedal. Moving right along the crash and

38:10

smolder part of it, your mind

38:15

body spirit together all make up

38:15

this mystical garden. If the

38:21

garden goes unattended or cared

38:21

for, for a short period of time,

38:24

even the soil might begin to

38:24

lose it or share its nutrients

38:28

actually right with other plants

38:28

with weeds, or your crops may

38:33

become consumed by insects. This

38:33

only happens because of

38:36

complacency and neglect. Once

38:36

the power exchange circle has

38:40

been established, do not allow

38:40

it to recede back to your old

38:44

vanilla habits. Tilling the

38:44

soil and planting the garden was

38:48

the majority of the work. Once

38:48

established, maintaining it

38:52

really isn't that difficult.

38:52

You've already done all the

38:55

work, take care of it.

38:55

Oftentimes, our emotions can

38:59

become hypersensitive, causing

38:59

us to point fingers maybe or

39:03

cast blame at the other person.

39:03

This bad habit can also lead to

39:08

that victim mentality that is

39:08

virtually self destructive. The

39:13

circle eliminates the ability to

39:13

point the finger or place

39:16

yourself as a victim, which I

39:16

think is really huge with

39:20

Manning up, right. That's what

39:20

we would say to people man up,

39:22

Dom up. You're not a victim of

39:22

anything. You're the leader,

39:27

you're in control, change it,

39:27

you want a different, you want a

39:31

different outcome, do something

39:31

different. Most times when

39:35

things falter within the circle,

39:35

it doesn't necessarily mean that

39:38

a person that longer desires

39:38

their role. It usually comes

39:41

down to that vanilla life

39:41

unexpectedly creeping back up on

39:45

us. We all have it right. We

39:45

have all these influences in our

39:48

lives. We're even more

39:48

susceptible to the consequences

39:52

of life. When we're not

39:52

adequately prepared to maintain

39:56

the flow of the circle. We let

39:56

the other partner take up the

39:59

slack. Maybe when we get caught

39:59

up in something else get in a

40:03

rut without letting them know or

40:03

communicating properly. So like,

40:07

lk is talking about stresses at

40:07

work a minute ago, right? She

40:11

has no idea what's going on at

40:11

my work. So maybe I am stressed

40:14

out, maybe I'm having a harder

40:14

time maybe it's taking more of

40:18

my personal capacity to deal

40:18

with it. If I'm not

40:21

communicating it, lk has no idea

40:21

what's going on. Right. So back

40:26

to that communication. If you

40:26

begin to feel as if something's

40:31

wrong, or that you aren't being

40:31

fed the way that you need to be

40:34

fed, you should stop take a look

40:34

at yourself first. Are you

40:39

feeding the circle in the manner

40:39

that you should be? Is it

40:43

possible that your partner is

40:43

slowing or possibly succumbing

40:47

to not being nourished or fed

40:47

properly, herself or himself? No

40:52

matter what the answers are to

40:52

those questions, direct your

40:55

initial focus and feed your

40:55

energy into the circle. It will

41:02

not take long for your partner

41:02

to notice your efforts and

41:05

attention. The circle is

41:05

momentarily out of balance, and

41:08

you're stepping up may cause its

41:08

circle to lean even more to one

41:11

side or the other. But usually

41:11

this accompanied with a

41:15

fundamental downtime is all that

41:15

you'll need to create the

41:19

balance again, to get your

41:19

partner pedaling again. Think of

41:23

a time when someone has done

41:23

something selfless on their

41:26

part, with nothing more in mind

41:26

than to make you happy. How did

41:30

it make you feel if they got you

41:30

a gift if they did something and

41:34

took it off your to do list for

41:34

you? lk, does that for me every

41:37

now and then I'll have something

41:37

and she'll just do it for me.

41:40

How does it make you feel? If

41:40

you're like me, or most other

41:43

people, you'll think more highly

41:43

of them instantly, you'll think

41:47

better of that person. And also,

41:47

even more importantly, I think

41:51

it generates something within us

41:51

that we want to return that

41:54

selfless generosity somehow. And

41:54

this is exactly what we're

41:58

trying to accomplish by

41:58

continuing to feed that circle.

42:03

A couple of the most common

42:03

words used in D|sM relationships

42:07

are often consistency. And

42:07

what's the P word? lk, I don't

42:10

remember. inconsistency is

42:10

usually referred to by the

42:16

submissive partner in regards to

42:16

or dominant, and dominant

42:20

partners usually talk about

42:20

their submissive counterparts

42:23

needing to learn more

42:26

patience.

42:27

Thank you.

42:29

I hear the

42:29

word not consistent regarding

42:32

the leader, or no patience on

42:32

the follower or the submissive

42:39

side. Following submissive

42:39

partners beware, playing the top

42:44

or just being your vanilla wife,

42:44

being that same old person you

42:49

used to be eventually will again

42:49

emasculate your sir, it will

42:54

push him and his want for the

42:54

power exchange dynamic further

42:58

away. You must be vulnerable and

42:58

submissive to him. We're not

43:03

saying it to be submissive or

43:03

vulnerable to anybody else. But

43:06

you must be vulnerable and show

43:06

your submission to him. He only

43:12

has to be your husband, your

43:12

leader, your dominant. He must

43:19

be responsible and build his

43:19

role and walk that fine line of

43:23

the dominant partner being

43:23

trustworthy. And being a

43:28

respectable gentleman. Both of

43:28

you must stick with your work on

43:33

your roles and the dynamic.

43:33

Remember, you got to also keep

43:37

it fresh, everything can get

43:37

dull, so don't forget to

43:43

recreate, make it more exciting.

43:43

You can look at this first crash

43:49

as a test sometimes to see if

43:49

you both can do it or want it

43:53

bad enough to get up on that

43:53

bike again. As many of you know,

43:57

once you get a taste of this

43:57

dynamic, it's like the most

44:00

addictive drug to quote the

44:00

movie Twilight. It's your own

44:05

personal heroine. The power

44:05

exchange circle happens

44:08

organically. But then it's up to

44:08

you both to put it in and do the

44:13

work that keeps the circle or

44:13

synergy moving within it. The

44:17

best advice I can give is to be

44:17

realistic and make the magic

44:20

wherever and whenever you can.

44:23

This really is marriage is sexy

44:23

secret and the ultimate marriage

44:26

accessory. I wish everyone the

44:26

best in their journey.

44:33

Remember our site and

44:33

its articles are written from

44:35

our own personal perspectives

44:35

that would be mine and lk's. He

44:41

is used as a leader or a

44:41

dominant partner and she is used

44:44

as submissive or the following

44:44

partner. Please understand that

44:49

you can interchange these labels

44:49

and make it match your own

44:52

dynamic. However that'll work no

44:52

matter your gender, sexual

44:55

orientation. However you

44:55

identify the power exchange

44:59

relationship is For anyone that

44:59

desires it,

45:02

so you have

45:02

read those books, watch the

45:04

movies. Now you can have that

45:04

fairy tale or their dark edge or

45:08

even both, the exchange happens

45:08

you feed from the circle from

45:12

one another. The magic is in the

45:12

journey. As a lifestyle dynamic,

45:17

it is work and a little bit of

45:17

change. But when you do it for

45:21

the betterment of yourself, and

45:21

most importantly, your marriage,

45:25

it's better than the best piece

45:25

of chocolate cake, or I should

45:29

say, maybe pumpkin pie. Give

45:29

thanks. Give to one another,

45:35

feast on one another's mind,

45:35

body and spirit. Enjoy it to its

45:40

fullest. So let's talk about what or

45:47

who's coming in December. You're

45:52

tied in December a top 10. The

45:52

firm decem Believe it or not in

45:56

Latin means 10 and Yuletide.

45:56

It's a time around Christmas.

46:01

It's the Christmas season. It's

46:01

actually December 1 through

46:04

January 1. The celebration of

46:04

Yuletide dates back many

46:07

centuries, and was originally a

46:07

way to celebrate the winter

46:10

solstice, which is December 21,

46:10

the shortest day and longest

46:14

darkest night of the entire

46:14

year. But good news, the next

46:19

day we start back the other

46:19

direction. So even if it's dark

46:23

outside, we'll discuss things

46:23

that will bring you light and

46:26

cheer. There will be a gift idea

46:26

for your Sirs, and even ideas

46:31

for your new dynamic, including

46:31

a top 10 List of the must haves

46:35

for your D|s-M dynamic. We will

46:35

help inspire you and help you

46:38

bring in the new year. This

46:38

month will be all about fun

46:42

celebrations, gifts, and keeping

46:42

your dynamic's connection during

46:46

all this holiday fun.

46:50

Sounds fun. And to all

46:50

the good pilgrims and Indians

46:55

that made it to the end of our

46:55

podcast, I'd like to thank

46:58

everybody. I love that. Maybe

46:58

I'll have you on a thing with

47:04

the feather on... Its a great

47:04

idea. I'm digging this. Okay,

47:09

but I'd like to thank everybody

47:09

for making it to the end. We're

47:12

going to talk a little bit about

47:12

the Thanksgiving tradition,

47:14

which we're going to do on

47:14

Thanksgiving, November 26. This

47:19

year at 7pm. Eastern time. It's

47:19

going to be a toast. You can

47:24

read about it. I wrote an entire

47:24

article on husDom about it,

47:27

explaining it, it's going to be

47:27

a short toast basically, for lk

47:30

and myself. The toasts is in

47:30

respect to my father. But for

47:34

everybody, you can toast

47:34

whatever you want. This

47:38

celebration is going to be for

47:38

everybody. You can come alone,

47:42

you can come with your partner,

47:42

some people their spouses are

47:45

working. And that's just fine.

47:45

We're going to put the

47:49

information out the login

47:49

information. We're going to do

47:52

the meeting via zoom video

47:52

meeting. We're going to put the

47:55

information on the husDOM.

47:55

premium member chat and where

48:01

would you put the login information on the

48:03

It's called

48:03

the sub radio chat room.

48:05

Okay, great. And before

48:05

we go, we'd like to thank

48:08

everybody that's here listening

48:08

to us. Like lk said one minute

48:13

ago, we'd like to really give a

48:13

lot of thanks to the team

48:15

members that we have that make a

48:15

lot of things happen behind the

48:19

scenes here at husDOM and I'm

48:19

sure subMrs. Yes. So huge

48:23

gratitude toward everybody. We'd

48:23

like to thank everybody that's

48:26

listening to us, everybody that

48:26

supported us over the years,

48:29

it's been phenomenal. And while

48:29

you're here, we're talking about

48:33

giving thanks. If you guys would

48:33

just take one minute, maybe it's

48:37

two minutes and rate us for a

48:37

podcast be giving there you go

48:42

five stars, maybe a positive

48:42

rating. That goes a long way in

48:46

our visibility. We're kind of

48:46

new here. We don't have a lot of

48:49

podcasts, but that visibility is

48:49

going to mean a lot for growing

48:53

this thing that we all called

48:53

D|s-M. So please just take a

48:57

minute and do that for us. That

48:57

would be awesome. And before we

49:01

go the very last thing is I hope

49:01

that we see everybody tomorrow

49:04

night or November 26 at 7pm.

49:04

Eastern. And you're ready Happy

49:10

Thanksgiving. Happy Thanksgiving. And

49:12

we're gonna

49:12

say until then, so long

49:15

farewell.

49:17

saying good

49:17

night. I hate to go and leave

49:21

this pretty sight, goodbye