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Hi , this is Mom Owned and Operated . I'm

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Rita , suzanne , and today I have

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my guest Leisha with me . Thank

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you so much for joining me . I

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am so excited to talk to you about all the

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things . Please tell everyone

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all about you , your family and

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your business .

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Thank you , and thank you for having me on here , Leisha . I'm

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very excited . So

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my name is Leisha Leisha

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Holmes . I am a mum of two

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. I am lucky enough to have a

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daughter who's three and will be turning four

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next month , and a son who's

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two and will be turning three in July

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. Yeah

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, they came within 13 months of each other , and

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I am married and at

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the moment , I'm between two careers

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. So I'm still doing the full-time

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corporate job that I've done since I finished

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school and university , but

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I've started my own business as well , and they're

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both very different things , rita . The

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full-time job is in corporate finance

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and my own business that I've

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started is as a mindset coach

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. So

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, yeah , that's what I'm doing at the moment . I'm balancing being

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a mom , a corporate

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finance job and building my business .

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I love it , and you are

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in England right now . I'm

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in .

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England yeah , irish living in England , yes

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, very important yeah , how

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did you decide that you know ?

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how do you go from finance to mindset

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like how did that happen ? Do

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you know ?

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what it's like . I have to go back

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a bit , because I've always just

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loved helping people

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. I've always felt like called

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to help people and called to serve . And

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when I was at school , because my

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favorite subject was math and I was good at math

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, I was always suggested

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by the teachers to go down into a

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job in that sector . And

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you know , I don't know about you , but when I was growing up I was very

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influential . I listened to people , especially

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people of authority . So they

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said it . So I was like , yeah , okay , and

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I did it . And then I've

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got so many vivid memories of sitting

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at the desk in London , looking out the

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window , all these big buildings , and

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just thinking there has to be more , like

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I could be doing more , I should be doing

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more , and all I could get

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to then was I should be

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helping people . That's a

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little notion of being a psychotherapist

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or counsellor into my mind . But then

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I think , oh , no , I haven't trained for that

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and go back to a busy life . Then

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fast forward to 2019 and two

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big life experiences

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happened , one really good and one really

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bad , and that is when things changed

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then . That's when I decided

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to listen to the intuition , listen

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to this urge

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and voice to do more and

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I've always been fascinated with the power

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of the human mind and the law of attraction and I decided

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I'm going to research as much as I can about

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these two things and apply

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it to my life . And it all just took

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off from there . It all just progressed lovely from there . It all just progressed

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lovely from there . The research turned

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to studying , turned to certificates

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, and then I just felt this is

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my calling . I've changed my life

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by changing my mindset and

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I want to help as many other people as I can

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to do the same . Long answer

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.

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Yeah , no , I love it because

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you know , those two things are so

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different and so often

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I think that mindset

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is so important . I remember and I've

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told this story before you

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know , I started my business in 2014

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and my first coach

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she said to me

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we , we had our

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very first meeting and she said to me she

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said your mindset , you really

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need to work on your mindset . And

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I said I don't even know what that means

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and back then it

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wasn't so well known

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as it is now and

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um , and so I I love

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that it's become so well known

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. You know , obviously I

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was just living in , I guess

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, coming from corporate

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and having that mindset

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of being a worker

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and not

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really , I guess , believing in myself

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enough to realize that

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I could do it , or having that maybe

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a little bit of a negative mindset

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of , you know , not knowing

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that you know what was

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really possible . You know , and she helped me

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see all of those things and you

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know affirmations and journaling

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and all of those things just really helped

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to put

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me into a different mindset . And

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so what are

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some of the things that helps you

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create , or helps other people create

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, the priorities in their life ?

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Yeah , it's just going back to what you said there . It's

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funny you say that , risha , because I

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had a conversation with someone today about exactly

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this , and I love this . It's

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like the universe at play , isn't it ? And

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when you are working for a big corporation

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, your mind gets even

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more saturated , doesn't it Like ? If you dare

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to think outside the norm , if you're

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sitting there looking out the window , like I did , and

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you dare to think outside the norm , you're

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quickly pushed back in that box , aren't you Like

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? This is it ? Stay here , you've

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got a good job , climb the ladder , take

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the next step , take the next step , take the next step . Anything

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else is nonsense , like you know . It's just . It

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just pulls , pulls you back into that way of thinking

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, doesn't it ?

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well , I felt like I had lost myself

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and at that time

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I was living in Southern California

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and I remember , you know , to

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start my business I had moved back to

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Ohio , which is about 3000

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miles , and I had

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moved back here and my family was

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, like you're , so different and in

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hindsight now , what I like

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I had changed as a person and I

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didn't even realize it and

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you know I was different and

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so they were seeing somebody different

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because I had assimilated to

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what they wanted me to be , while

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I was there .

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That's scary , isn't it ? And like you when I started

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this journey , rita , I

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like one of the first questions you ask yourself , like

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you with your coach , would be like who

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am I ? I

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hadn't a clue how to answer that question . That question floored me . That first

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question who am I ? Well , because it's always , I should be doing this . I'll

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try and be more that . I'll do this

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. You know , it's just , you're just saturated

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all the time with other people's thoughts , opinions

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, expectations , beliefs . Then

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you go into the corporate world , and it's more so

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. You're molded into being one of their

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employees and you just lose yourself

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, don't you ? You lose your own self

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, your own thoughts , your own values , your own beliefs

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, your own goals , your own wants .

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Yeah , it's easy , it's very

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easy to do that because , you

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know , I guess it's like a herd mentality

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, you , you kind of you go

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with what they want you to

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be , and yeah , you

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know . And so it does become

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. It becomes so easy and anything

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out of the norm is frowned

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upon it is .

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And then life today , it's , um

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, it's set up , isn't it , to be busy

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so we don't have time to think or have conversations

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like this , and like you , I

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would have said mindset . What's

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mindset , and scarier

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. You know , with your coach , the main

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thing that you would have worked on is transforming your

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limiting beliefs . I

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believed that all of my beliefs were true . I

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didn't like , I didn't even think to question my beliefs

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. That wasn't even something I considered . So , yeah

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, it is , um , it's quite scary

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how we can get sucked into society and

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corporations and embrace

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them more than ourselves , isn't it ?

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yeah , it's , it is very scary

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and , um , I was so grateful

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to have met her so quickly

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, um , and I

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feel like she helped me so

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much and you know like , even still

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, I'm still talking about her and

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, yeah , okay , as being the best

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person you know to have

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helped me within my journey . She's

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been , she was amazing , yeah

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oh well , you're amazing .

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I'm sure she would just say that she helped you to unleash

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your potential .

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Yeah , I'm sure you know , but she was

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pivotal in

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the entire journey , because without

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her I just don't know if I would have been able

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to push through . Because

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in the beginning of starting your business , that's the , that's one of people they

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give up right at the beginning because

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they don't really know

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what is the next step . And

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the next step and the next step Right

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, and I think

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because I had that help right away't deal

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with the problems that

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you have in your life

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personally , then it's going to be

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a real hard struggle

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for you in your business because

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you know you are the

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main force of your business , right

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? If you're not able to deal with your problems

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, then it's going

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to bring your business down and sometimes your

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business won't be able to succeed . And so

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, yeah , I I definitely

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attribute her

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help in in all

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of my success . So , yeah , it's been

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great . Like mindset is is

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super important to me and I still , you

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know , I've gotten out of some of the practices

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and when we talked about before , when I

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talk about , you know , some of the self-care

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practices that I kind of shied away

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from , that was some of the things were

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were those things . But you know

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, so that's why I was like okay , so

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what ? Let's talk a little

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bit about what do you feel are , like

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the priorities that people need to

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be focusing on in their life ?

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For self-care , or mindset , mindset

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, mindset . Oh , absolutely

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, you just need to like . The

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first thing that I did before I even started studying

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, when I started doing my own research , was

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just start

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thinking about what I wanted . And I had no clue what I

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wanted , Rita . I had no clue . All wanted , rita . I had no clue . All I could

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think of was I want to

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help people and I just thought to myself okay

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, well , that's a base , that's a base , let's just work

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on that every day . I want to help people . And

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then I started saying I started . I'm

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a big believer in the law of attraction , so

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I found this way of manifesting

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that really worked for me . So whatever I

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was manifesting , I would say it

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in the current

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tense , like , like it was happening or it was

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going to tense . So I would say I am grateful

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, I am going to help people for a living

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. That's how it started , and then I progressed

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from there . So the first thing was to try

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and get clear on what I wanted , and the second thing

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was to identify my

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beliefs that were blocking me , my , my limiting beliefs

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, what they're called in the industry . And

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my God , I had so many of them

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. I had so many of them . One of the first

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ones , which we talked about a bit before we come

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on , was you

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have to work hard to make money

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, and the emphasis in my mind

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, risha , was on hard . It has to

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be difficult , it has to be dragged out , it

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has to be difficult , it has to be dragged out , it has to be daunting

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, it has to be all miserable and hard , hard

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, hard , hard , hard . You know , sacrifice , long hours

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, all those things we talked about . And

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then I thought but is that the

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truth ? And I started looking around

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and at the time there was what's

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it called Reality . Tv was just getting

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really , really big and I started

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I'd never watched it and I thought I'm

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going to watch the series about this woman and

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just watch how she makes money . And the

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more I watched it , the more I realized

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that she just built this online persona or

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TV persona , who

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was good television and

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she made millions doing that . So

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I kept watching it in order

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to smash that belief , like

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what I did is , I questioned the belief , pulled

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it apart and then transformed it with

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a new one . And then , when I started

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doing my mindset

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, studying to be a mindset coach

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, I realized that's what we need to do

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with all our beliefs . We have to identify them , transform

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them and make them work for us , and

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the scary thing that I did learn about beliefs is

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that the main ones that are limiting us were

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placed in our minds between zero and seven

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and

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we're not really even fully aware that they're there , which is one of the main things I love

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doing with my clients . When they come and we get clear on what they want , we find those beliefs that

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they didn't know they were there , and once

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you find them , then you can smash them apart

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and transform them , and that is when the magic

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happens .

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Yeah , that , and I think that's so

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important for other moms to hear too

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, because one thing that I did with my

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kids would I would call them the

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10 . I would say um

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, and , and . What it means is like I

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would tell them if they would say anything negative

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about themselves . I said give me 10 and

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and and . What I mean is

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I want you to tell me 10 good things about yourself

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and they cannot be

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the same thing . So you can't say

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I'm handsome , I'm cute . No , I want

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you to say something . You know they have

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to be different and it needs to be

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I am's right , like I would always

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have them do that and they

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couldn't stand that . I would make

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them do it because , one , I'm putting them on the spot

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and I'm making them do it . But

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I would do that because

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I was trying to build their self-esteem and their confidence

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up , and at an early age , you

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know . So I love hearing

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you say that , because I think that oftentimes

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we don't know what we

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don't know Right . And since

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I had started my business when my kids

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were younger , it was something that I was trying

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to break and um

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, and so it has helped because

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I find , especially my youngest one , he has the

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confidence of a king . It's

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worked right , you

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know so , um , so

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, so , yeah , so it's so

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important though , isn't it ?

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I just think about like I just always use this

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example with people you know , like we

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talked about exercise and working out . That's right . If

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you , if you say to yourself there's a new workout

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move to do and you say I can't do it , you

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know you , you won't do it . You won't because

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you said you can't . If you say I'm doing this

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, nothing's going to stop me , you will do it

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. And Henry Ford's quote I love it , it's

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one of my favorites . Whether you think you can

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or you think you can't , you're right . Yeah

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, and that sums it up . It's the same like another , another

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one I always use um , it's like , you know

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, when you get up and something happens and you're like , oh , it's

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going to be a bad day , and then you're like , oh

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, how come , when the day starts bad it

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it continues bad . It's your mindset . You

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said it's going to be a bad day , so it's going to

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be a bad day . Yeah , yeah , it's

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just like what we said as well before the call

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. Life is as simple as complicated

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as you want to make it . Keep it simple . Keep

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it simple . Get them beliefs , transform

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them , because otherwise , like you said at the beginning

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, if

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you don't work on them . Beliefs no matter what you do , they're blocking you . They're blocking you from

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being your best and doing your best and unleashing all that potential

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that we all have within us .

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Yeah , you know , it's really

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hard , I think too , when you don't

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grow up with someone who's like kind of

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challenging or helping you challenge

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those beliefs . Challenge those

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beliefs and as a , as a child , you know

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, because I would always

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tell my kids , like

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, if someone would say something about , like they , let's say that they would

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say something about each other , and I would say , but is it true ? And then , you know , that was

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my way of helping them to really

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think about the things and not

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be bothered by what other people would say about

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them , because that was something that

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, as a , an adult

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, that would bother me . Right , I had

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that fear , especially having a business

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like I think you get fearful

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of putting

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yourself out there , right , yeah

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, caring about the fear you

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have , the fear of judgment , of what other

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people say , and and so

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I was trying to put

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into them something that I didn't like

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in myself , right , yeah , and

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so it's still , I think

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that that's something to be said . But

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you know , it's like , the more you do it , the easier

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it becomes , and then that fear goes

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away , but it's still

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, you know , would have been easier if I would

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. It would have had that instilled in me

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as a younger person it

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would have been , wouldn't that how lovely that would have

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been yeah but then we

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wouldn't be who we are , would we without the lives

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that we lived ?

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that's what I always think right , I know

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, I know .

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That's why I say I was like . You know , we

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have to go through the things .

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We have to go through to live the lesson , to

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learn the lessons that we have to learn , and yeah

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, we do , and the beauty of it

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is being a parent because we've

17:30

gone through the hard lessons , we can

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pass them lessons on to our children , hopefully

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without them having to go through what we did to learn

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it yeah , hopefully

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, and that's why I say I try to instill

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like some of that stuff .

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Because I want them to not have

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to go through the same things or at least

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be a little bit more confident

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, because I would always feel like I would

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project confidence .

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But inside , I wasn't really

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feeling that same confidence Because

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it's giving them the tools . Like when I work with clients , it's always like about like transforming

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the belief and then giving them the tools to empower

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them , you know , to unleash their potential and live

18:11

their best lives and do what they want to do . And

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, unlike you , I just think with the children . Give

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them the tools now . Give our children the tools

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now and wow what future they

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will have when the bad times do come

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, because they will hopefully not too bad

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. They love all these tools and they love

18:26

all these like beliefs like

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that .

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We've filmed into them . How amazing , yeah , so how are you like ? What methods do you use in

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order to help your clients work through any mindset issues that they

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have ?

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Yeah , so it's good . So at the moment I do a

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12 week program is my signature one . So

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when they come to me um , it's 50

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, 50 , some will know what they

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want and some won't have a clue . They'll just

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know that they want change . They'll just

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know that they are stuck

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in the lies that's the word I hear a lot . They're stuck

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in the life they're in and they

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want to change it . And you know when

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you're stuck is the word

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. Stuck is the word and , like you

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said , a lot of them don't know what they don't know

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. They don't know that actually they live in a life that's not in

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alignment with them and who they really

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are . They're not living a life in alignment

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with them and their purpose and their journey . That's meant

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for them . So once we drill down

19:19

and get clear on what they want , then

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we start identifying the beliefs that are

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keeping them stuck .

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Yeah .

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And then , like I said about my own beliefs , like

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we do the same with them , you identify

19:30

them and then you pick them apart

19:32

, understand where they came from and then

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transform them to ones that will help you

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. Yeah , I love that , yeah , and

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that's when the magic begins , then it's just beautiful

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to see what happens then .

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Yeah , and so the 12-week process

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is a group program .

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One-to-one One-to-one . At the moment I'm doing all

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one-to-ones . At the moment , it is something I'm considering

19:52

doing as a group , but for now I'm

19:54

just doing the one-to-ones .

19:56

Yeah , I

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like the concept of group programs because then they can support

20:06

one another but , like , the one-to-one is really good because they get that

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support that's really customized and personalized

20:10

that they really need oftentimes

20:12

yeah , absolutely , because

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everyone's different , aren't they ?

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this is what , this is what I'm enjoying about the one-to-ones

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like but a lot of people , when they start

20:20

this process as well , they they need to work on

20:22

their confidence and their belief . You know

20:24

, to be able to do that , I think I went like that because

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I remember at the beginning that's how you listen . Now you're like

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oh , you know , like , like

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, I always believe that the human mind

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is so powerful and that humans can

20:35

do whatever they put their minds to right

20:38

, I didn't believe . I didn't believe that I could which is

20:40

silly because I'm a human , you know but

20:42

that's how I felt . But yeah , so that's something

20:44

that we always work on and it's beautiful when you watch

20:47

that unfold . It's like watching a butterfly

20:49

emerge . And you know when you see , when

20:51

you see people working on their beliefs and they

20:54

come in alignment with their true selves and their

20:56

life and they start believing they can make it happen

20:58

. And all the tools that

21:00

we put together and all the mindset , that mindset

21:02

work that we do , it's

21:05

there forever . They have that toolbox forever

21:07

and they know that . And then , when you're finished working

21:09

with them , it's just beautiful . It's just so beautiful

21:11

to watch that happen .

21:13

Yeah , I think that that's

21:16

the important part is like you're empowering

21:18

them to move forward with these tools

21:21

that they're going to carry with them

21:23

for a lifetime . Right , they're

21:25

going- .

21:25

Yeah , it's like being a parent , isn't it , risha ? Like

21:30

you could do it for people or your children , but isn't it better to

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empower and ?

21:32

give the tools right . It's just like my

21:35

first coach and she , you know

21:37

, it's like I . I still credit her

21:39

with so much and I've worked with other

21:41

people but she's been the most

21:43

amazing

21:46

, you know , because I think she laid

21:48

the foundation and she was so

21:50

pivotal in all of the things and

21:52

all the thought processes that I had

21:54

, because I think that

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she helped me in so many different ways . Like

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, we would talk about mindset a lot . We

22:01

talk about , you know , limiting beliefs , we talk

22:03

about imposter syndrome . We would talk about

22:05

all of the things . Um , because

22:07

in addition to like coaching and

22:09

stuff , we were , we were friends as well

22:12

, so we would dive deep into and

22:14

we would work on client projects and stuff together

22:16

. So we had a long-standing

22:18

relationship and

22:21

, um , you know , so I

22:23

, I've learned so much

22:25

from her .

22:25

She was so amazing yeah

22:28

, I bet it's stuff that you'll always have now

22:30

, isn't it the stuff that you learned ? You will always have

22:32

that .

22:33

How amazing is that still , I still say

22:35

things that she would tell me . You know

22:37

like I mean things

22:39

that she was so smart

22:41

she would . You know , like 80

22:43

of the thoughts that we have in our brain are

22:46

negative and we are subconscious

22:48

, we can't even control it , it's just there

22:50

and that's why it's important for us to do

22:52

affirmations and gratitude

22:54

, because these are subconscious

22:56

thoughts that we can't even control , and

22:59

so we have to kind of counteract them

23:01

by doing this , these

23:03

positive things , and

23:06

don't realize how important

23:08

know it is to kind of , I guess

23:10

, um , trick

23:13

your mind right absolutely , and it's

23:15

again you don't know what you don't know .

23:16

But once you learn how to do it you , you will have realized

23:19

it's . It's actually quite simple . There's

23:21

certain things you can do that make it quite simple . How

23:23

to trick your mind and make it work for you

23:25

, isn't there ?

23:26

yeah , because it's so powerful . Like , um , you know

23:29

just the affirmations , like one

23:31

simple thing . You know , um

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, I had the affirmations

23:36

like up on the wall in front of me

23:38

and it wasn't as if I

23:40

was saying them . She wasn't saying

23:42

like read them , but they were

23:44

up on the wall and so

23:46

while you're working and you would just look

23:48

up there and then you would just read

23:50

them , just because

23:53

they're there , and then they would start

23:55

to stick because

23:58

they're just there , and it

24:00

just became a second nature

24:02

for me to just sit there and look

24:04

at them and read them and then it just becomes

24:06

ingrained in your mind . Yeah , you

24:08

know , so it's a . It's a lot different than

24:10

opening up a notebook and reading out

24:12

of a list of affirmations , versus

24:14

having something up on your wall and

24:16

it just being there and you

24:18

then start believing it . So

24:21

there's , I think there's different ways and you have to

24:23

, like figure out what works for you

24:25

and what's best for you ?

24:27

yeah , absolutely everyone's different

24:29

, and that's the that's the important and interesting

24:31

part , isn't it ? Everyone's different yeah

24:33

, because .

24:34

I was really I I think you know I

24:36

was um in a very negative mindset

24:38

because I had grown up um

24:40

, in a challenging

24:43

uh , with a challenging

24:45

life and so and

24:48

then have been in relationships where I was

24:50

kind of um pushed

24:54

down and so I had lost

24:56

my voice a lot , and so there

24:58

were things that we had to do that kind of break

25:01

me out of the cycles that I was

25:03

in . So I feel like I needed extra

25:05

, extra , extra help and

25:07

you've done that .

25:08

You said I had lost my voice past tense

25:10

.

25:10

You've done it , yeah definitely

25:12

, and it's it's crazy , because I will

25:14

tell people that I'm an introvert and they're like

25:16

no , you're not , and I'm like I am

25:19

.

25:19

Yeah , that's my , it's not , and that's that's

25:21

. That's one of my secrets as well . I'm actually

25:23

a natural introvert and it shocks people , but

25:25

it just shows you that any skill , any

25:27

skill , can be learned , can't it ?

25:29

any skill , that's mindset again yeah

25:31

. So I always love

25:34

to like wrap up the

25:36

show when talking about self care and

25:38

I love to talk about , like what you do for

25:40

self care . So can you tell us

25:42

what you do , especially since

25:44

you have two little ones running around ?

25:46

yeah , they are so so

25:48

little . I know they are

25:50

. Um , yeah , so my self-care ? I love

25:52

exercise , exercise

25:54

and some people go . Oh god , how is that self-care

25:56

? The days that I am stressed

25:59

, if I go for a run , I come back feeling

26:01

top of the world . I come back feeling like I can do anything

26:03

. I come back like feeling , you know , like

26:05

rocky . You go up and down the steps . That's how

26:08

I come back . It's just the endorphins

26:10

, isn't it ? It's a mixture of the endorphins , the serotonin

26:12

, all of nature's feel good stuff

26:14

. That's that makes me feel good . And

26:17

then I do workouts to make me feel good , and

26:19

the reason I do exercise and workouts

26:21

is mostly for my mental health , but

26:24

then , physically , it makes you feel good too . I

26:26

also do meditation and

26:29

when I have time , I do journaling as

26:31

well . They're my , they're my self-care

26:34

things .

26:35

So , um , a lot of people who

26:37

I talk to get stuck on

26:39

meditation . So what

26:42

are your pointers on people who say

26:44

, like I can't meditate because my

26:46

brain starts to wander like

26:49

what ? What do you have any tips for

26:51

that ?

26:51

but I can tell them that I used to be one of those people

26:53

. It's like

26:55

everything , risa . There's so many preconceived

26:58

ideas , notions , opinions and

27:00

I . Just what I always say to people is clear your mind

27:03

of anything you've heard or believed about meditation

27:05

. It's simply a

27:07

way for you to control your mind and

27:09

you'll start doing it for 10 minutes a day , but

27:12

then it will ripple into your life and

27:14

you can control your mind at any

27:16

given time and it's just a beautiful tool to

27:18

have . It's such a powerful tool . The way that

27:20

I do it , the way that I started and the way that I

27:22

do it mostly , is there's this

27:24

app called headspace . Do you know that one

27:26

? Yeah , there's a daily . There's

27:29

a lot of noise on there as well . On the app , I just go

27:31

straight into the daily 10 minute meditation

27:33

. Sit there . It guides you through

27:35

it . Some days now , when I don't

27:37

have time to do the app , I could be in the queue

27:39

in the supermarket , I could be driving , I could be trying

27:42

to sleep . I'll just do what they say , because

27:44

it's gone into your mind what to do

27:46

and that's it . That's

27:48

it Just . Keep it simple . It's just . It's

27:50

nothing . You don't have to quieten

27:52

your thoughts . If you could quieten your thoughts that easy , we wouldn't

27:54

need to meditate . Your thoughts are supposed to

27:57

pop in and out . It's just learning how to be aware

27:59

and controller and once you get

28:01

it you will reap the benefits

28:03

. It's just a tool .

28:10

It's a superpower that everyone needs in their lives . Yeah , and I remember

28:12

when I was meditating regularly and I also would have you know

28:14

, thoughts interrupt and I

28:16

would say , you know , if that happens , just

28:18

push it out of your mind and just and

28:20

clear your mind . Just keep going , you

28:23

know , and don't let it discourage

28:25

you from trying to to meditate

28:27

. And if you could just do it for a minute , then

28:29

success . I'm going for

28:31

two minutes and you will .

28:33

I bet you notice the difference the days that you meditate

28:35

your camera , aren't you ?

28:36

you're more in control yeah , yeah

28:38

, definitely , um , okay , so tell everyone

28:41

where they can find you . Where are you online

28:43

, right ?

28:45

so I'm on Instagram under my name

28:47

, Leisha underscore Holmes . I'm on

28:49

TikTok under my name . I'm on Facebook

28:51

under my name . My website

28:54

is LeishaHolmescom and

28:56

I've also got

28:58

a podcast and that is on Spotify

29:01

under Mind Yourself .

29:03

Love you . Thank you so much

29:06

. It's been such a pleasure chatting with you . Yes

29:08

, really . Thank you so much

29:10

for being a guest thank

29:12

you for having me .

29:13

I really enjoy this . Thank you very much .