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All right. Welcome to Episode 610.

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Hello, my friend. Welcome to a fresh new

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episode. of new mindset who dis as always.

2:01

Thank you so much for listening. Thank you

2:03

for supporting me. And today I want

2:06

to amp us up to

2:08

show some gratitude to ourselves and who we've

2:10

become. And also in the process give you

2:13

four things to think about when it comes

2:15

to the question of

2:18

with the way you're living your life right now

2:20

with your relationships with what you do, with what

2:22

you allow, with how you act, are

2:24

you respecting yourself? Are

2:27

you respecting yourself? Not are they

2:29

respecting you, are you respecting you?

2:32

Are you respecting yourself? Respecting

2:34

yourself means being the fiercest

2:37

advocate for your own happiness.

2:39

It means prioritizing your growth.

2:42

It means prioritizing your soul's clarity

2:44

and vibrance and alignment over

2:47

anyone else's expectations or pressure. It means

2:50

recognizing that your time and your energy

2:52

and your love, those

2:54

things carry weight with them. And they're

2:56

not things that everyone deserves access

2:59

to. Some do of course, some

3:01

deserve it because of what they do and how

3:03

they act and what they bring to your life,

3:05

but a lot do not. And

3:07

recognizing the difference is respecting yourself.

3:10

And also for you with what you do and how you

3:12

act and how honest you are and the work you put

3:14

in or you don't put in, are

3:16

you advocating for your own happiness? Or

3:19

are you settling for a lesser version

3:21

outside of any relationships, just with your

3:24

relationship with yourself? So to keep things

3:26

practical, I thought I would

3:28

list off four ways to ensure, kind

3:30

of in a way, four ways to

3:32

ensure you're respecting yourself in life. And

3:35

certainly you can listen and you can cheer

3:37

for yourself if you're doing these things. That's

3:40

amazing. You can cheer for yourself knowing

3:42

that you're heading in the right direction. Or if not,

3:44

and you hear these and you're like, oh, I need to do

3:47

these things. That's fine. You can

3:49

be inspired to finally put your foot

3:51

down and commit to doing them for

3:54

yourself. So four things,

3:56

four signs, you're starting to

3:58

respect yourself. First

4:01

up, the simplest. I

4:03

used to think that in my life,

4:05

outgrowing other people or deciding

4:08

that I don't wanna be friends with certain people

4:10

or date certain people or associate with certain people,

4:12

I used to think that that meant I was

4:14

being selfish. And it was something

4:16

that I was gonna look back on

4:18

and kinda hide from myself, like a

4:20

kind of a cringy memory of me

4:22

being unnecessarily selfish or savage or self-centered.

4:24

I used to think that I was

4:26

the villain in that story. The

4:29

fact that I would intentionally kind

4:31

of leave behind some people. And

4:34

I've learned of course, that outgrowing people

4:36

is not a sign of selfishness, it

4:38

is a sign of evolution. I've

4:40

learned that cutting some people off is

4:42

a sign of self-respect. And

4:44

of course, cutting someone off doesn't need to be

4:46

this big savage thing or some big blow up

4:49

formal speech or hating on anyone.

4:52

I'm talking about making a decision

4:54

for yourself that you need

4:57

to leave some people behind while you

4:59

move forward. It's necessary for you

5:01

to leave some people behind in order for you to

5:03

grow into the best version of yourself. This

5:06

is about recognizing that as the

5:08

saying kind of goes, that the people who

5:10

are trying to bring you down, either

5:13

intentionally or are bringing you down

5:15

via bad habits or are putting you in a really

5:18

bad head space, those people who

5:20

are trying to pull you down, they are already beneath

5:22

you. The people who pull you

5:24

down are already beneath you and

5:26

you can leave them there. Leaving them there doesn't

5:29

mean you're selfish, doesn't mean anything. It

5:31

means it's a sign that you are

5:33

respecting yourself. So that's the first one, the

5:36

best sign ever that you're respecting yourself. You're

5:38

finally okay with cutting people off. They're not

5:40

bad people, the people you cut off, you're

5:43

no better than them, there's no hierarchy, there's

5:45

no hate, there's no animosity. It's just you

5:47

recognizing that some people, frankly,

5:49

with what they do and how they act, they

5:51

want to stay where they are, but

5:53

you do not. And that is okay.

5:56

You are not the same person you were five

5:58

years ago, let alone. maybe even

6:00

last year, you have to respect your

6:02

growth, the direction you are heading, even

6:04

if it's a new direction. You have

6:06

to respect what you've learned and who

6:09

you've become, and you have to align

6:11

it then with people who mirror it.

6:13

It is a sign that

6:15

you are respecting yourself, that

6:17

you no longer see cutting people off as a

6:19

bad thing, as a selfish thing, as something to

6:21

hide from yourself because you think it makes you

6:23

a bad person. Embrace it. Respecting

6:26

yourself means recognizing that

6:28

your growth is more important than other

6:30

people's comfort. When you start

6:32

to respect yourself, you understand that not everyone

6:34

deserves a seat at your table. Some

6:37

people are there, unfortunately, to leech off

6:39

of your energy and

6:41

sabotage your progress. By

6:43

cutting them off, by moving on, by

6:45

leaving them behind, you create space for

6:47

people who genuinely support you and

6:50

lift you up. Again, this isn't about

6:52

being heartless, it's about being smart. It's

6:54

about protecting yourself. Embracing

6:56

this also means acknowledging that sometimes growth, leaving

6:58

people behind, it can be a bit of

7:01

a lonely road, but I'm

7:03

sure you'd agree looking back on certain

7:05

times in your life, solitude is better

7:08

than keeping the company of people who pull

7:10

you back or who secretly hope you fail

7:13

or who just aren't there for you. You

7:15

owe it to yourself to be surrounded by

7:17

people who celebrate you and stand by you.

7:20

Respecting yourself is about choosing quality over

7:22

quantity in your relationships and being okay

7:24

with moving past people who do not

7:27

fit the standards you have for yourself.

7:30

So that's number one. Second, another

7:32

sign you're starting to respect yourself.

7:34

It's this. You realize that

7:36

if someone disagrees with you or

7:38

they put you down or they criticize

7:41

you, no matter what, your

7:43

point of view is still valid. Regardless of what

7:45

they say or how they treat you, your point

7:47

of view is still valid. And this is something

7:49

personally that took me a long time to realize.

7:51

I used to think that someone who disagreed with

7:53

me or put me down, I used to say,

7:56

oh well, you know, that's got to be true.

7:58

Well, they said it. It's got to be be

8:00

true. Ridiculous, I know, of

8:02

course. But I thought that if, you

8:04

know, everyone didn't agree with me or support me

8:06

or, you know, I wasn't aligned

8:08

with what everyone else was doing or thinking,

8:10

then my point of view or my decision

8:13

or my choice was questionable or wrong. But

8:16

I've realized, of course, again, that

8:18

that's truly not the case. You

8:20

do not need validation from other

8:22

people to know that what you

8:24

believe in matters. Respecting

8:26

yourself means understanding that your

8:28

perspective carries weight to it, even

8:31

if it's only you carrying it alone,

8:34

all by yourself, maybe for a long time, maybe

8:37

while everyone else seems to have found

8:39

agreement or alignment or some element of

8:41

sameness, critics, people, haters, whatever,

8:43

they will always have something to say

8:45

about you. But their voices are

8:48

their background noise compared to

8:50

the clarity of your own convictions.

8:52

Treat your convictions like they have

8:54

weight. Respecting yourself means

8:56

trusting your intuition, standing firm in

8:59

the clarity you've worked so hard to get in

9:01

your life, even when other people challenge it or

9:04

mock it or simply do not understand

9:06

it. This is about having the

9:08

confidence to know that your opinions are

9:10

just as valuable as anyone else's, regardless,

9:13

regardless of anyone who agrees or

9:15

disagrees, your self worth is not

9:17

determined by the approval of

9:20

other people. It's determined by your

9:22

belief in yourself. When you

9:24

decide to respect yourself wholly, you

9:27

start to see criticism as a reflection of

9:29

the critic, not a measure of your worth.

9:32

People's attempts to put you down user

9:34

usually, as I'm sure you've learned as

9:37

well, they usually stem from those people's

9:39

insecurities and fears. By staying

9:41

true to your convictions and giving weight

9:43

to it, you remind

9:45

yourself that your self respect is

9:47

unshakable and no amount of

9:49

outside negativity can change that. It's

9:52

in the phrase here, right? Respect yourself. Respecting

9:55

yourself means respecting your

9:57

whole self, your intuition, your decisions, your clarity.

10:01

Perhaps that's really the defining measure of

10:03

what respecting yourself means. Because

10:05

when you decide to turn your

10:07

back on those things, your truth, let's call

10:09

it, and you swap

10:11

it for someone else's, when you dull your

10:13

shine to make someone else comfortable, when you

10:16

ignore what you've learned in favor of making

10:18

someone else happy, you are turning your back

10:20

on yourself, on your sense of

10:22

self. So then when you become

10:24

resolute in trusting yourself, in trusting your

10:26

clarity, and giving weight to your convictions,

10:29

that is you deciding to respect

10:31

yourself. So that's number two. Number

10:34

three, assign your respect to yourself.

10:36

It's when you no longer confuse

10:39

chaos for passion, dysfunction

10:41

for passion. And this is such

10:43

a hard one because in life, if all

10:45

you've ever known is chaos in

10:47

relationships, chaos in a job, chaos in friendships,

10:49

chaos in your family life, whatever, the

10:52

contrast to that, call it peace, and

10:55

intention, and consistency, it

10:58

will inevitably feel boring to you.

11:00

It won't feel right for you. It might

11:02

feel fake, or it might feel forced. It'll

11:04

feel too weird and too new. It'll

11:06

make you question it, when in reality it's

11:08

the most healthy thing for you, and you

11:10

should be trusting it. So lots

11:12

to unpack there, of course, and you could probably relate to

11:15

this to a degree, but it is

11:17

a sign you are respecting yourself when

11:19

you recognize that someone else's

11:21

hot and cold behavior, or the constant

11:24

ups and downs of a relationship or friendship,

11:26

or breaking up and making up, and breaking

11:28

up and making up, or highs and lows,

11:30

whatever. It's when you recognize

11:32

that those things, highs and lows, those

11:34

things are not passion. They're

11:37

not passion. It's not healthy,

11:39

and it's not a sign of compatibility. You're

11:41

respecting yourself when you put your foot down

11:43

on any element of chaos in your life,

11:46

especially the kind of chaos that we so commonly

11:48

confuse for passion that we think is desire, that

11:50

we think is good in an exciting way. Respecting

11:53

yourself here means understanding

11:55

that true love, true connection, true

11:57

loyalty, it does not need to be.

12:00

tumultuous to be real or

12:03

even in a job or a career

12:05

right it's about recognizing that stability and

12:08

trust and mutual respect those are the

12:10

foundations of a healthy relationship not drama

12:12

not excitement not highs not lows when

12:15

you stop romanticizing chaos not because you're a

12:17

bad person or naive but because it's all

12:20

you've ever known when you stop doing that

12:23

you open yourself up to

12:25

genuine connections genuine fulfillment in

12:27

your career peace and joy

12:30

instead of stress and confusion by

12:32

valuing as your number one quality

12:34

you look for stability

12:36

you prioritize yourself you prioritize your

12:39

conviction and you actually respect yourself

12:42

you realize that passion true

12:44

passion in life it's not always

12:46

big loud chaotic moments it's

12:48

found in quiet moments between you and

12:50

a partner or a friend or a

12:53

boss quiet moments

12:55

of understanding and

12:57

support not the the dopamine

12:59

adrenaline rush of conflict respecting

13:02

yourself means choosing partners and people

13:04

who contribute to your growth and

13:06

your happiness not people who thrive

13:08

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one here. You are finally

15:00

respecting yourself when you realize

15:02

that some people will see

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your boldness, your assertiveness, your

15:06

confidence as being rude

15:08

or off-putting. People will see

15:11

confidence as rude, decisiveness, weirdness,

15:13

free-spiritedness, you name it. People

15:16

will see your sense of self, the clarity that

15:18

you've found in your living as rude

15:20

or threatening, whatever

15:22

it may be. But you're finally respecting

15:24

yourself when you can see their reaction to it

15:26

and you can be fine with it. Because

15:29

you know their reaction has nothing to do with you. Nothing

15:32

to do with you and more to do with them and their

15:35

own insecurities. Or it has to do

15:37

with the fact that the people who judge you most

15:39

are the people who are most terrified of being judged

15:41

themselves. That's the fourth sign here.

15:43

You are respecting yourself when you allow people

15:46

to analyze you, misunderstand you,

15:48

label you, and you're fine with

15:51

it. You just keep doing your thing. Because

15:53

you recognize that respect for yourself

15:56

means not shrinking to fit the

15:58

smallness of other people's expectations. expectations.

16:01

It means standing tall in your

16:03

conviction, even if it makes other

16:05

people judge it in some way that has everything to

16:07

do with them and nothing to do with you, your

16:10

drive, your determination, your intensity, your

16:12

weirdness, those are your greatest assets.

16:15

And that is not something to be dimmed for the

16:17

comfort of other people. Respecting

16:19

yourself involves embracing those

16:22

qualities without an apology.

16:25

It's about understanding that being direct

16:27

and being driven and being passionate and being

16:29

whatever it may be, it might intimidate

16:32

or confuse certain people, but

16:34

those are people who are uncomfortable with those traits

16:36

themselves. That is their issue. That is

16:39

not your issue. By staying true

16:41

to yourself, your nature, your conviction,

16:43

you attract people who actually appreciate

16:45

those qualities. So for this

16:47

one, the last one, when you respect

16:49

yourself, you stop seeking approval from people

16:51

who misunderstand you or fear

16:53

you or are jealous of you. Instead,

16:56

you focus on yourself, you focus on your

16:58

goals, and you see

17:00

your assertiveness, your truth, your

17:03

weirdness, your eccentricities as

17:05

a testament to your self-respect. So that's

17:07

it. And right here, four things to

17:09

think about. I hope this was helpful

17:11

in some way. Gives you something to

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