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On this episode of New Paradigm Human . We're talking

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about how generators and MGs can tackle things

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they don't want to do . Hello

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everybody , i'm just sitting here on

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a rather hot evening , feeling completely

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overwhelmed by all

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of the social media , all of the different ways

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you can express yourself and yet , at the same

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time , feeling like I don't

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know how to express myself anymore

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. Every single social media platform

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is trying to have every single feature

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of all of the other ones , and

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I just personally feel overcapacity

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. For me , the past few months , sharing

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things on social media has felt a little

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bit like I should . It's something that hasn't been

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joyful in my life and that is not

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the way it has been for me for the past four years

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. I love sharing things on social media

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. It's really fun to create for that and

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test ideas and connect with people

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, but I'm just not feeling that way right now

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and it's something that's really been draining

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to think about . I'm thinking a lot about

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it , like , oh , i should be doing this , i should

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be doing that , which got me thinking about a

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request I had recently from someone

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which was to talk about how to tackle

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things that you don't want to do , and

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I don't think that this person specifically was talking

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about this type of scenario , but

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this is very real for generators and MGs and

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I think the common thread for what

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I've been experiencing and perhaps what this person

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is talking about , which is just getting things

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done that aren't fun , that are chores that

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just have to be done as part of life , is

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that the biggest strain they put on us is

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mentally , the thinking about doing them

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, the dreading them , the procrastinating

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, the putting it off , the bargaining

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with yourself about not doing it or doing it

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or whatever , And this is just so real . This

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is something that we experience . So I wanted

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to demystify this a little bit because I think

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there are ways to deal with these things

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in life in alignment with our generator

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MG design . I also want to say

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that I don't know that there's ever going to be a

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life where we

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don't have at least a couple of things

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that we do that we don't really enjoy . That's

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just kind of life , but you can also

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get to a place where it's not

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all consuming and I feel like I am at that

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place in my life . I feel like I

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enjoy like 99%

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of what I do with my

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time and energy . I don't find

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myself overly fixating or

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draining a lot of energy into things I don't like . It

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took a long time to get there . Even when I started

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my business and I had full freedom over my time

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and energy , it was hard to know

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what felt good and what didn't . For

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me as a third line profile , it just took a

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lot of experimentation . But about

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four years in I feel like I have

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a pretty good understanding of what that is , And

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it's always evolving . But it's easier to

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stay away from the things that don't feel good now

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than it was before And honestly , i

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feel so energized by all the things that

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I do that do feel good that

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doing that tiny little percentage of things

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that aren't my favorite I can handle

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it because I'm overall

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just nourished and energized

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by everything else And it's not

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all that draining to just take care of a few little things

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here and there . In this episode I'm also going to touch

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on a bunch of different topics

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that I've covered in the recent glow

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up programs and are coming

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up a lot in the discord . By

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the end of July I will have covered like

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seven different sort of modules

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in the discord groups and the different

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things I've launched there , and I am working

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on putting all of this together in

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a space , some kind of digital space

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, where you can choose

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to partake in these different

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deconditioning modules

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and information and exercises

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, and I don't fully know what that's going

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to look like yet , but it's beginning to come

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together . I feel a lot of different responses And I'm

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just kind of waiting for some things to click in place

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. So if you're interested in that , make sure

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you're on my email list . I'll have a link

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in the description below , or you can go to peergeneratorscom

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, because that is the center

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of how I communicate with people right

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now . As I said , having some complicated

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thoughts about social media , i love our

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email list . It's so nice

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to have a direct way to connect with everybody . There's

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over 7000 people there , so I always

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try to really create meaningful things

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and people love opening up the email . So , yeah , link

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below . But anyway , i wanted to just

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demystify this idea of how

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do you tackle things that you don't want to do

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and just ask a few questions

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that you can ask yourself . Talk

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about the energetics of how this works for

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us as people with defined sake rolls

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, and hopefully it'll give you some ideas

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for how to handle these things in your life

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. So I think there's a few

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different scenarios where

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you can end up with tasks

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or things in your life that you have to do

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that don't feel good or feel

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draining . Like I started to say before

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, i am not of the opinion that being

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a generator or MG is a 24

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seven bliss fest . That just kind

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of not the point of the whole thing . The

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sacred is a place of consistent

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pleasure , yes , but it's also

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just satisfaction . Pleasure is

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obviously kind of sexy , but satisfaction

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is kind of like not that sexy . There's

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just something very like settled in matter of

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fact and nice about it . It's

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not like extreme highs or extreme

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lows . You can find really mundane

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things fully satisfying

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. I found a lot of mundane things satisfying

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for many years in my last

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career And honestly , as a generator that

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kept me going , like my spreadsheets

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and crafting the perfect email

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, completing tasks in my project management

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system . None of those things were like

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deeply pleasurable , but the satisfaction

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of doing those things was meaningful as

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a sacred being a generator

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or MG . So it's important to

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remember that there's that side of

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being a generator to . It's not

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about having this extreme

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pleasure and joy all the time

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. It's about those things that just make you feel

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that good , tired at the end of the day , that kind

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of settle your energy . If it weren't

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the case , i just don't think the human race would

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have continued , because the vast

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majority of human beings

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have been birthed through generators

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and manifesting generators . Just simply because we

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are 70% of the population , so

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most people have been raised by

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a generator or manifesting generator

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, and same thing with all the animals

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and the things we built , and not

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every moment of that is deeply joyous

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, but overall the project

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is satisfying . So that's

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just one thing to think about , but mostly

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people are thinking about chores

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like house chores , taking

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out the garbage , cleaning , maybe

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running errands , making sure that you

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have healthy food every day . That's not

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always the most fun thing , although sometimes

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it is fun . Managing your finances

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so that you are

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in as good of financial health as possible

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These are all things that I personally find

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not that fun and a little bit unsexy

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. It could also be tasks that

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you have to do at a job because they pay you

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and it's part of your job description . It could be exercise

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. So those are the types of things that people are typically

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thinking about when they're thinking about

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how do I get things done in my life

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that I just don't really enjoy . So here

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are some things to ask yourself

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when one of these tasks is

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appearing in your life . The first

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thing is do you actually

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need to do that thing ? I

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don't know about you , but I personally

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will add things to

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my to-do list that maybe

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I should do them . There's

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something that probably needs to be done in the future

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. There's something that might

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make my life better in the present

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or would be a good thing to get

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started on . You know , you have

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this big thing at the end of the month that you have to do for

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work , but it's like three weeks away and

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you just don't have the energy to do it right

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now . Or , like me , for

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the last few months , i have a specialist

9:05

doctor that I should really go see for like

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a chronic health issue . But

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the health issue is not at

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all life threatening , it's just more of a

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comfort thing and I just haven't had any problems

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with it lately . So I add

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that to my to-do list every week and then don't

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do it and then stress about it and then add it

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to the next week . So things like that

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it's . Is this actually something that I

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actually need to do ? Like

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you will kind of know , is there a deadline

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? Are you going to have to pay a fine ? Are

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you going to get fired from your job

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? Is someone going to die ? Is

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it going to have a massive negative

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repercussion on your life or someone else's

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life ? In that case , i think most people

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don't have a problem motivating themselves

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. That's a clear yes . You have to do it . You

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probably get the energy You move forward . But

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a lot of times the things that we think

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we need to do , that we're shifting

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on our to-do list from week to week to week to

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week . Maybe they just don't

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actually have to be done or they

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don't have to be done right now . We

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don't want to put ourselves in positions where

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we're going to create like massive

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stress or like

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a more poor quality product

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in the end . But if it's something

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like I don't know for me , for my quarterly

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taxes that I pay from my business , ideally

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, yeah , i would sit down every single week and

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categorize the transactions , but honestly

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, if I do that once every two weeks

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or once a month , it's really not that

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much bigger of a difference , because I have

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other systems that allow me

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to kind of know what money to put

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away for savings just by eyeballing

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a spreadsheet that calculates automatically

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, and I save all my receipts

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in a folder , so when I like

10:47

, as they come into my email , so when I actually

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sit down to categorize all the transactions

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in my tax software . Those other

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two things that really are important

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, that are going to set me back a lot of time

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or make it so that I don't have the

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right money saved , which obviously that will

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have big repercussions in the end those

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things are taking care of . So I don't need to be

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adding that task of categorizing

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all my tax stuff every

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single week , like I used to , which then

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I would just not do it or feel bad about it , because

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I don't actually need to do that . It's okay

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if I do it much less frequently . So

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that's question number one Does this truly need to

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be done or is this a should ? The

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second question is can you outsource

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it ? Can you pay someone to take care

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of it for you ? Can you trade with

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somebody else to do that task ? Is

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it something that your partner or someone

11:35

else in your family can do ? Is it something you

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could trade with a friend or an acquaintance

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who also does that thing ? Can you find

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a way to automate it or get

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a software or something that could

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help do it for you . So just basically

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looking at the process , seeing what the

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steps are and seeing if there's any

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way around you doing them in exactly the

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way that you're doing them right now , that could shift

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it to something that actually feels quite good for

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your energy or leads to you

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not having to do it at all

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. And so maybe that's the next point is

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is there a way to do this differently

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? What are some ways that other people

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are doing it ? You can pull your network

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, especially if you're a fourth line , ask around to

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some friends and family like how are they getting this thing

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done ? Does anybody else see something that you

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don't see ? Like that would be a good question

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if you're a second line . If you're a third line

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, can you go try some different things

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. If you're a first line , could you seek out some other

12:28

options . If you're a sixth line , could you look

12:30

out at the people around you and be like what

12:32

are they doing ? If you're a fifth line , you're probably

12:34

quite good with solutions and

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you can draw on your other line to kind of

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help you source that information

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in those possibilities . So it's a bit

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of a mindset shift , which is that , while

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, yes , we may have tasks here and

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there throughout our lives that we don't

12:49

love , we can let go of the belief

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that there will always be these things that we just have

12:53

to hate , because at least

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I'm of the opinion and this is based on my own

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experience and seeing this actually be

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true in the world that there are

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different ways to do things and there

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are always ways to make things work for

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us . This is a bit of an affirmation

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and belief that I have instilled into

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my life , which is there's always a way to make this

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work with my energy . So

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, outsourcing , doing it differently

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really good strategies for

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something that you really don't enjoy . Another question

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you can ask for yourself is can you set

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up some structure and outside

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accountability ? This is so key . It's

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key if you have an undefined heart

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. Even if you have a defined heart , you may

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also thrive from this by making

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some kind of external commitment or

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a promise to somebody else or

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making a commitment to yourself , but

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basically formalizing the idea

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of where and when and how

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you're going to do something . And if you're someone who

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has a hard time with that internal motivation

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, as most of us do , can you set

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up some external accountability

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or structure to help you do it . For instance

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, i would not be walking four

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to five miles a day if I did not have a dog . It

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just didn't happen in my life Ever since I got

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my dog this winter , even when I don't

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want to , even when I'm really tired

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and it just doesn't feel good and it's hot

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and it's just not what I want to do , i

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still find a way to take him on a walk

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twice a day for a total of 80 minutes

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or more of walking . I'm really grateful

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that I have this built into my life now . It's just

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not something I have to waste mental energy

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on . I just do it because I have to

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, because he needs to walk , and he's annoying

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and crazy and unhappy if he doesn't get it . It

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could be setting up like a friend date to

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go do that thing with that person . I also

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know that , like my husband and I , there

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are certain things house projects where

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we're just not gonna do them separately

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. We have a tendency to sometimes finish

14:44

things to like 90% , but

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we won't finish that final 10% unless

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we both agree and show up together and

14:51

hold each other accountable . So having that structure

14:53

, that kind of forces you to get something done

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can feel not

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amazing in the moment , but the

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satisfaction of just having it done and removing

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it from your mental load

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goes so far as Generators

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and MGs . We just want to be in our minds like

15:09

as the least we can when

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thinking about where to put our energy . We

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can use our minds for all sorts of other things , for

15:16

daydreaming and analyzing and observing

15:18

and basically taking in the world . But

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using it for figuring out like how

15:23

and when and what we're going to do , and , oh

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gosh , that's when things just get really draining . So

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the more you can just build a task

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into your day in

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a way where it has to happen , you have to show

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up , that is just so helpful

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. Another question is can you offset

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it with something fun ? Like

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I said before , generally if

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you are enjoying the

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vast majority of the things that you're

15:47

doing in your life , it's much easier

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to take these things on . When

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I was working full time in

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a job that was very draining for me , certain things

15:56

like cleaning or errands or

15:58

just those little administrative tasks of

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life felt almost

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impossible . But now that I love

16:04

the work that I do and I'm enjoying myself

16:07

most of the time , those are just small

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things , and while sometimes I do need

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to employ these other strategies

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, like outsourcing or

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creating structure and accountability

16:18

, sometimes the energy

16:21

and enjoyment and satisfaction

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of all the other things in my life can

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carry me through the not

16:28

so fun thing . So sometimes you compare

16:30

something really fun or just make

16:33

sure to maximize the

16:35

satisfying and energizing tasks

16:37

that you're doing in your life And you'll find that

16:39

that energy spills over into these things

16:42

that may not be the most enjoyable . A

16:44

copy out to all of this is that if

16:46

you are just severely drained

16:48

in like every area of your life , if

16:50

you're dedicating all of your energy to

16:53

a job or project that is

16:55

just not in alignment with your energy

16:57

, you're not getting any satisfaction out of it

16:59

. I have 100% been there

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And the reality is that that's just

17:04

not going to be sustainable in the long

17:06

term . So even if you can't make

17:08

a change in that area of your life today

17:11

or tomorrow , that's okay And

17:13

that's , i think , where the mind gets really

17:15

caught up is that if that

17:17

change isn't obvious

17:20

in the moment , you can start

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to feel like everything is futile . The

17:24

mind just doesn't like that . But

17:26

I feel that there's always possibilities

17:29

for change . There's always more opportunities

17:32

out there . If you're in some job or

17:34

some situation that you really hate , you

17:36

100% can get out of

17:38

it . It just has to happen at the

17:40

right time for you And

17:43

the right things to respond to will

17:45

be there . But again

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, i still think that the most

17:50

draining thing is just all the

17:52

thoughts that we have about this stuff . So

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, even if you're in a draining situation

17:57

and even applying

17:59

these things I'm talking about doesn't really resolve

18:02

all of it , just know that that's

18:04

okay , that even if the change

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of like a new job or a new living situation

18:09

or a new relationship or a new project

18:11

or whatever it is , isn't available

18:13

to you right now , it doesn't mean it's not available

18:16

to you in a couple of days and a couple of weeks , a

18:18

couple of months , even a couple of years

18:20

. And by just being very present

18:22

in your current life , being honest

18:25

with yourself about how you feel , being in

18:27

touch with what you actually desire and

18:30

getting as much clarity on how you

18:32

want to feel as you can

18:34

and the things that truly are energizing

18:36

for you , that's when more of those opportunities

18:38

start to appear and you'll see them

18:41

, because you're looking for them And sometimes

18:43

it's okay to just be in something that you

18:45

know isn't for the long term and it's not great

18:47

and it's not working . But you can maximize

18:50

the fun that you have outside of that on the

18:52

weekends , on the time you have off in

18:55

your alone time , with some side

18:57

projects you have , and sometimes

18:59

that's just enough to carry you through until

19:01

it's time to step into the next

19:04

phase and into an opportunity that's

19:06

a lot more aligned . So , basically , what

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I want everyone to take away from this , the TLDR

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, is as a generator or MG . Of

19:12

course we're here to do things that are

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energizing and satisfying to

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us . But if your life does not look 100%

19:20

energizing or satisfying right now

19:22

, that is okay . But if you hold

19:24

that as your intention , as something that

19:26

you want to bring into your life

19:28

, that you know is who you

19:30

are at your most essential

19:33

level , because it is you're a generator

19:35

or MG . It's what you're put on earth

19:37

to do , to do things that you enjoy

19:40

, that are satisfying then that

19:42

reality will unfold for

19:44

you and you don't need to stress a lot about how

19:47

. Just be present and be noticing

19:50

the things that are feeling like yes

19:52

to you , are feeling like a no , and

19:54

pursuing those things that feel like a yes

19:57

, and step by step , it all kind of

19:59

comes together And eventually

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you look up and you realize , wow , i enjoy like

20:03

99% of my life and it's such a good

20:05

feeling , but you're still on

20:07

the journey , in the in between , like it's

20:09

not , like you're not doing it right . It

20:12

just takes time to decondition and allow these

20:14

things to unfold in our lives . So hopefully

20:16

that gave you some ideas about how to tackle

20:18

these things in your life that maybe don't feel

20:20

the most energizing , some different ways

20:22

to think about them , so that you're

20:25

not just draining yourself mentally where

20:27

the shoulds or thinking that you should be somewhere

20:29

that you're not , because we're

20:31

all just on the journey . Our journeys

20:33

are all different . You're even learning things

20:35

and experiencing things when you

20:38

are feeling like you're not

20:40

on the path that you want to be on , and that's

20:42

just an important step to getting

20:45

on the path that you want to go on most of the

20:47

time . So thank you everyone and I'll

20:49

talk to you soon , narayana

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.