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On this episode of New Paradigm Human . I'm talking

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about how I got a book deal in alignment with

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my generator design . Uh

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, so

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I want to tell this story in an interesting way

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, because I'm never aiming to bore anybody who

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listens to this . So today I wanted to talk

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about how I , as a generator

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, got a book deal and wrote a book in

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alignment with my own energy , because sometimes

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I think that there are misconceptions out there that

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as sacral beings , as generators

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and manifesting generators , we can't make

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things happen in our lives . We absolutely

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do make things happen all the time . It

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just may be in a slightly different

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way that our mind wants it , because

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the mind just kind of sees something , wants

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, it thinks I'll just go get it . But

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most of the time we as sacral beings

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, especially as we begin to decondition , realize

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that that honestly just doesn't work that

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well for us . It's important for us to

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wait for a response , and

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sometimes a series of many responses

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that take us toward

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each step necessary for

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making something happen . It's

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not like we're waiting around for life

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. We are experiencing life in every

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moment . We are just waiting for

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a response and for a clear

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action to appear . So for us

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, being proactive can look very

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different . For us , being proactive

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is less about saying , okay , I'm going to make this

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thing happen , so these are the steps

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I have to take and I'm going to go knock on this

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person's door and make this happen , because

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that's kind of what we're conditioned to believe . But

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for us , being proactive is about

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leaving space for things to

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come into our lives . So if we already

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are filling every moment of every day

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and using up every ounce of our energy

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, we're probably not going to have anything new

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come into our reality . So it's fine

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if all the things that we're doing are fully

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energizing and satisfying to us and we're

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not looking for something new to come in . I think

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we'll all go through those periods in our life

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, but if we're looking to make a change

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, shift into a new reality

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, it's really important to leave that space

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. Another way that we're proactive is

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by focusing on what we enjoy

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, spending time doing what we enjoy , putting

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our energy toward that without trying to

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mastermind a certain outcome

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. And the third way that we are proactive

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as sacral beings is by being in touch

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with our desires , honoring

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and acknowledging what we want

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, because desires come from the sacral

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. Given that we all have defined sacral

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centers , it means that we have consistent

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desires . Desire is kind

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of the basis for everything that we do

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in the world , and that's why we have these auras

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that are always bringing things to us

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to help us make these desires

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reality . So , because it's helpful to hear

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real life examples of how people

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make things happen in alignment with their

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design , I wanted to share my story of

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getting this book deal and writing this book on human design

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. So I would say that this book has a

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lot of different phases of

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how this desire came about

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and how it became real . You could go

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all the way back to me being

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a kid and my favorite thing being

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writing , creating these little books

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, illustrating them . I loved

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writing . I really wanted to be a

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writer when I was a kid , but even

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as a writer , I wanted to be a writer like a teenager

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. There was part of me that felt

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like well , being a writer isn't

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really statistically that realistic

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, like being an author , being a published

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author , which is what I really wanted . And I remember

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, even at 14 , when I had to do some project

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about like a potential career that

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I wanted to have , I wanted to do author

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, but I felt like , oh , maybe that being too

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confident in myself or saying

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that I'm this special thing like

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that conditioning had already made

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its way into my little brain . So

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it's just fascinating how insidious

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this conditioning can be . It gets

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in our head so young . So that

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desire was already there when I was

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like a kid and then it got buried

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for a very long time . I never thought

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of that as being a reality or a goal

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all through college , all through

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my 20s , because I was just focused on

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surviving in the world , getting some

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solid job skills that I felt would always

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allow me to get a job classic first

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line insecurity stuff and I just honestly

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never thought about it . Like I wasn't writing anything

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, I had nothing to put out there , I

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didn't know what I wanted to do , I just wasn't being creative

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. But the second chapter of this

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starts about five years ago , when

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I started to get serious about

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thinking okay , I really do feel

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like I can make money doing something

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that I love . I didn't end up leaving my

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job or starting my business for like a

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year or two after that , but I remember

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having this awareness of like I

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think I will write a book someday . I had

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no idea what it would be about . I was looking

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at , like all the things that I knew about

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astrology , numerology , and I was thinking , oh

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, maybe something about that , something about healing

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all these things that had been my true passion

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for those years . But I also had

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this feeling inside of me , even though I didn't know what the

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sacral was , that said not yet . Not

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yet it's not the time , like there wasn't a

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clear response , there wasn't a clear path

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. So fast forward a

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couple more years . I had already

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created Hero Generators . I was well

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on my way on this journey of

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creating things and owning a business . I

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had noticed that the things I was really

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enjoying creating were like PDF guides

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, content , things like that . And again I thought

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, hmm , I would like to write a book . I would

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like to write a book , maybe about human design . But

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when I really tapped into that desire , I

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looked into a few different options like

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, oh , I could make something , I could

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write something and publish it myself

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. I remember I downloaded like a book

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publishing software . I was like

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, hmm , okay , just feeling it out . But when I

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actually got deep into that desire and

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felt like what I really wanted

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in my sacral , I was like , hmm , no

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, this isn't a project I wanna do by myself

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. This is something that I want to do with a publisher

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. This is something where I would like them to approach

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me . I would like them to have the skills

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that are not my main forte . I

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just wanna worry about creating

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this book and marketing it through my own channels

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. I don't wanna have to think about other ways to

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get this book sold . It was just very clear

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. I wanted someone else to approach me about this

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project . So I was just patient , I

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let it be and I figured if it's meant to

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be , it will happen , like , eventually

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someone will come to me and it

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will materialize . So what I did

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in that time was basically I kept

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writing , I kept doing my blog , essentially doing

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the same things . That would be part of writing

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a book , of building this platform and continuing

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to write and share information . And

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I think that's very much the key for us as generators

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and manifesting generators is we're the type where

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we'll do the thing , whether

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we have recognition or not

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, whether we're making money or not , if

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we truly love it . We do it because

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it brings us satisfaction . It's not about

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the outside world . Of course , we

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can get recognition and money from

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the outside world if that's what we want

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, but that's not the reason why we do

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it , and so it's those things that you

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just do , because you have to do

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them , because you want to do them , because you can't

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not do them . Those are the things that

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are ultimately going to be

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the most meaningful for you , and

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can be the things that you

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choose to monetize or not , but

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they can be , because those are gonna be the most sustainable

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and energizing things for you

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. Then , one day , in spring

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2022 , I literally just opened

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up my email in the morning , like I do any other

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day , and there was an email from somebody

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, from a publisher that I didn't

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know this person , and it just said hey , I've been

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reading your blog . I came across you

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on the each other podcast and

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I was wondering have you ever thought about writing a human design

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book ? Like it was literally that direct

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, and I just got this feeling like yes , it's

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arrived , it's here . And it's so crazy

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because I never could have predicted or

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controlled that outcome . It was many

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years after I'd already gotten this idea , and

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so the response was like immediate , it was

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like a yes , and I kind of knew that

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this would work out . However , I didn't try to

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project too much into the future . I wanted

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to meet with the person . I wanted to make sure that we had

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the same vision for what

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we wanted to do . I had to , like , get

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more details and respond my way through those

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details . So that's another thing that

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is very important to us as generators and manifesting

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generators . Sometimes we can have a certain response

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to like the overall idea

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, but we still need to respond to the details

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. So had I then met this

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person , not felt like it was a yes

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, not felt like we shared the same vision

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, just not been energized by the overall

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project or the contractor

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, whatever it was , then maybe that would have ended up

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being a no . So it's important to get those

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additional details and continue to respond

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your way through . But when I met up with her

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, I felt good . It felt like we

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had good chemistry . We had the same type

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of vision in mind for the project

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. She was very open to the

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way that I communicate and my

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visual sensibilities , and I was

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clear that those were things that I really wanted to carry

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forward into this book . I wanted it to

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meld in with all the rest of my work really nicely

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, and so it was pretty effortless then

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to put together the proposal

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, sign the contract and begin the project

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and , honestly , when we actually wait for a response

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, when we wait for things to come to us , it does

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feel effortless . Like that , it feels flowing

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. It feels effortless , it feels

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like it was meant to be , like there's not all

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these roadblocks , like you're not , you know , banging

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your head against a brick wall . Then it came time

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to do the actual work of writing the book

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, and this is where there's nuances to all

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of this too . So , as a generator

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, I knew that I had the energy

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to carry out this project , because when

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I respond to something , it means that I have

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the energy to carry it all the way through . But did

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that necessarily mean that every

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single moment of this process was pleasurable

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? The answer is no . It took a

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lot of trial and error to figure

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out how I wanted to structure my

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time to be able to write the

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book , how I would structure it

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to work with my design . I know

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that I need a certain balance

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between freedom and structure . Thanks

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to channel 360 , I

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have gate three . Do not have gate 60

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. So if you have those , take a look at

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that , because if you only have

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gate three , having some external

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structure is very healthy for

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you , and I learned that about

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myself through this process . So I

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figured out how to structure my deadlines

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, basically just try to keep the process as

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low stress as possible , because

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, of course , I wanted it to be enjoyable

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. I wanted this to be a joyous part of my life

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and not a drag . I didn't want it to be draining

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as a generator . It's so important

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to feel this nice energy

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and momentum behind what I'm doing . So

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, yeah , not every moment was amazing . There were definitely

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some days toward the end of the deadlines

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I'd set where I really had to grind . At

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the end , I think I basically slept

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on my couch for like 10 straight

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days as I finished the book

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. Looking back in some ways , I'm like I don't even

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know how I did that , but because I

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felt that sacred yes , I had the energy to

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carry it through . Not all of it was easy . I

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had amazing editors and

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the feedback they gave me and the

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changes I had to make were very challenging

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because , of course , if I had known how to make it better

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, I would have done it the first time . So I had to dig really

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deep when it came to the edits and it was very

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difficult and it wasn't always fun , but

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because it had come about in this way

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that was fully in alignment with my design

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. It had come to me , I had responded

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to it , I always knew that it was going

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to turn out OK , I could get through all of

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these challenges and I was learning

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a lot and I was honestly just

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excited about the project . I was

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so excited to bring this into the world

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, I was so excited to have this info

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available for people , and that

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energy and that response can pretty much

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carry you through anything . The point

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of honoring your design isn't to make

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things easy for you . Exactly

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so much of , at least

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in my opinion what we're here to do on earth

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is expand , and sometimes

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that means that we go through challenges

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and we have hard times . It doesn't mean that

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we have a belief that life has to be hard

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. Life does not have to be hard , but

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learning new things , doing new things

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, having experiences that your soul has never

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had before , is a big part of being here

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. So the point isn't necessarily for it to be easy

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, but it should be like ease full

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, feel like you're in flow , feel like

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the challenges you're having are exactly

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the ones that your soul wants to experience

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, and I think you can feel the difference in that

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, by whether something just feels like

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absolute torture and you're being drained

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and it feels just generally pointless

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and it's just not an experience that you want

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to have , or whether you're looking at

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something you're feeling like , well , this , yes , is

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a challenge , but at the same time , I can see

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what I'm getting out of this . I can see how I'm

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growing , and so that's really the point of

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living . Our design is just having the

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experiences that are meant for us

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as an individual . So that's really what

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living in alignment with your magnetic generator

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, mg aura , or waiting to respond

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, is doing for you is bringing

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the right things into your world . So

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I guess the overarching message here is what

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I mentioned at the beginning . For us , as sacred

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beings , being proactive is different

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from what we were conditioned with . Making

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things happen is different from what we were

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conditioned with . It's not like we have

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to go out there and knock on all the

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doors , try to get everybody's attention

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, say I want to do this , give me this , give me

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that . We don't have to do that necessarily to

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make it happen . What we are doing

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as generators and MG is doing

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what we enjoy . That's going to be number one if

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you want to take something that you're doing to the next

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level , just keep doing it . I don't think I

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ever would have thought five years

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ago that having a little blog

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would lead to someone just offering

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me a book deal . Like I never would have thought

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that . But that was the best way for

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something like that to happen , because my

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editor was basically like I knew that

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you were a decent enough writer to write

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a book and you had a viewpoint that

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other people might want to hear from

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, and one of the best ways to

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let other people know that you're out there is to

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just do the thing that you want to

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do . It's a way of honoring a desire

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that you have , and when you do that

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, it makes your aura very magnetic

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. It really brings a lot of opportunities

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into your life . So thank you everyone for

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listening to this story . Hopefully it helped you

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see some of the things that you're doing

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a little bit differently or feel more confident

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in the fact that the things that you want

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will manifest if you hold that desire

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and wait until you have a response . My

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new book , a Modern Guide to Human Design , is

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available on October 3rd

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. It's already ready for pre-order . We

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have an exclusive discord group going

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on and some other bonuses and giveaways

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. So all the details are linked down

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below , but you can also find it on my website

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up here , denaneryscom . So thank you and

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I'll talk to you next time MUSIC

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