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1:25
She's back. If you did
1:27
not know, Missy Lynch she was
1:29
part of our 12 days of giving. So
1:32
go back and watch that podcast. But today's
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all about her. Her business
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and what we were just talking about off camera is
1:38
a really cool subject that I think will
1:40
cause a little riffing to go on. So without
1:43
further ado, Missy, why don't you tell us about yourself
1:46
more now, more about your business
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and why you do what you do.
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Sure. Thank you so much for having me back on.
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It's been it was a fun experience doing
1:55
the 12 days with you. And I'm Misty Lynch.
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I am in Walpole, Massachusetts. I'm
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the owner of Soundview Financial Advisors,
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which is a fee only firm that
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has been in existence since 2010.
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I actually acquired it from a woman
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who started it on her own and decided
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to retire. In 2022. It's
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been great kind of working in the community
2:16
that I live in and, keeping a business
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going that, that has been around.
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And it's been a really great opportunity
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to work with some retirees and also my clients,
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which tend to be people who are mid
2:27
career and have some self employment
2:29
income in their family with also, maybe
2:31
some traditional income nine to five, trying to figure
2:34
out how to combine the two and make
2:36
them work the best. That's that's a little bit about
2:38
me and my firm. I I got two kids,
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husband, I coach basketball and field hockey
2:42
when I'm not working and they're nine
2:45
and 11. So just busy time,
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but I can feel what a lot of my clients are going
2:49
through with a lot of competing goals and,
2:52
certain financial, big decisions that need to be
2:54
made just about every day.
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You mean like sports, like nine to
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seven, it feels like in your schedule. It's
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crazy. Yeah. Yes. I understand that. Yeah.
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You brought up a very interesting point that
3:05
we've get, I get asked it every now and again.
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But I don't think is, has
3:09
been as prevalent as it should be.
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Especially with this wealth wave,
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whatever you want to call it, that is going to happen.
3:16
And I'm specifically talking about you
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bought your firm from someone
3:21
who wanted to retire. Talk
3:24
us through one, how that occurred,
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what that process looks like. And then ultimately.
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How did, and what did it feel like for
3:31
the clients in terms of them?
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Because that's what matters, right? Like that transition
3:36
is more important to them than it is really to you.
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So
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definitely. Yeah. So I was
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I was in corporate I was working in a compliance
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department for about 12
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years. I had a CFP since 2011,
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and I had been thinking about leaving,
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prior to when I did in 2020 for a very long
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time. And so I was following
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all these other advisors. I was listening. I was looking
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around at what businesses existed in the town,
4:00
and so I'd come across Soundview financial advisors
4:02
and the owner, Susan Brown was very active
4:04
in NAPFA and other financial planning
4:06
organizations. And I liked, I just
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liked her period. And so
4:11
when I was looking at going out on my own, I looked
4:13
at. Office space, and
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there was a space available in the building
4:18
where sound view is and
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I was, I became friendly with her, and we
4:22
were chatting and she was talking about wanting
4:24
to retire for a long time and I was
4:26
talking about wanting to go out on my own and start
4:28
a firm and then months went by,
4:31
I didn't leave, she didn't retire. And I
4:33
ended up running into her at the grocery store
4:35
and it was masks on everything,
4:37
like middle COVID and
4:40
she looked like she was just she, you could tell
4:42
when she was talking to me that she was done. Like it's,
4:44
it was just time. She was caring for her mother.
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Her husband was retired. She really just
4:49
wanted to be done.
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And we said hello. And then the next day
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she called me and asked if I wanted to talk.
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And so we, it was very
4:58
I walked over here from my house since
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it's that close. And we were just talking about
5:02
the business. She had never been familiar with doing
5:04
an acquisition or selling a business. This was basically
5:06
her business that she built from
5:09
the ground up and really hadn't figured
5:11
it would just like end with her, but that's
5:13
not what she wanted. It's not what she wanted for her clients
5:15
either. But they were starting to ask her questions
5:18
like, when are you going to retire? You've helped me
5:20
with all of this, but Your husband's
5:22
like, when is it going to happen for you? And so
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I think that for the
5:26
first six months, I decided to come on board with
5:28
her. I didn't take over right away.
5:31
We did have a clear plan that it was going
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to be a six month transition and
5:35
I wanted to be fully owner and she wanted to be fully
5:37
out. So I joined
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the firm, not a lot of, not a giant
5:42
firm, A reasonable number of households, about
5:44
25, that we were working with. And
5:47
I went with her to meet all of them and
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she talked to them about me and,
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why she wanted, she liked working
5:55
with me. And I respected her and
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the financial decisions, the portfolios that had been
6:00
built, the plans that were in place. And
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really just we just wanted to make the comfort
6:04
the clients feel like you have all the choices.
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You always have. But
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this was Susan's decision to like pass the baton
6:11
to me. And this was our plans staying
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in the same location, keeping the same phone number,
6:15
keeping the same account number, like nothing, like trying
6:17
to make it as little impact
6:19
as possible. Aside from the
6:21
fact that I would be the new advisor that they would work
6:24
with. And Susan would be hopefully
6:26
reading a book or on a beach somewhere. And
6:28
that kind of helped the clients understand
6:31
what was happening. I think. I've
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built a good relationship with all of the clients.
6:36
All but one stayed one who was in a different state
6:39
that we really weren't able to meet, it was a wrong
6:41
fit anyway stayed and been
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able to continue the relationship. They like
6:45
the fact that I'm not retiring anytime
6:48
soon and they're in retirement. And so when they have questions,
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they feel like they have someone to go to still. But
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And it's allowed me to also build the business,
6:55
bring on more clients and not have to go through the
6:57
whole registration process and going dark and
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all these things that would have had to happen. So I
7:02
have to say it was one of the smoothest transitions.
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We did have help figuring out how
7:07
to. Structure it because
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neither one of us really knew. One of my friends
7:11
from when I was in corporate had worked at a firm.
7:14
It was called like sell my financial practice. And
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so I called him and said what do we do? What do
7:19
we do? And she didn't want to make a fortune.
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And I obviously needed to have it work
7:23
out in a way that I could afford it, bringing the
7:25
business on. And so we just came to
7:27
an agreement and brought in an attorney to help
7:29
us and then. Just figured
7:31
it out as we went. So
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it was it was a little unique compared to some people
7:36
I hear that do, FP transitions and they're
7:38
bidding on a practice and everyone's going for it and
7:40
it's competitive and it's different. This was a lot
7:42
more organic, but she didn't have a successor
7:45
and she found one and brought me in. That's
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amazing. That might be the most seamless,
7:49
like transition. I think I've ever heard
7:51
of in our industry. Really? That's not
7:53
in house and already built in. I
7:56
what's amazing about it is both
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of you care more about like the
8:00
client, like it was the relationship stuff.
8:03
Usually you don't hear that the advisor goes
8:05
and meets with the transition person ever,
8:07
with all the clients. And we
8:10
hear about the bidding wars and all that stuff. And
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to me, what that screams is. The
8:14
people are don't matter. It's the assets
8:17
that they're going after. And
8:19
yeah, that's not cool. Like that ultimately
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that's not cool. It's that point where you just
8:23
said they're in retirement and they want someone
8:25
there they can trust and ask questions too. Yeah.
8:28
That's
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not, it was never, Yeah, no,
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it was certainly not okay, let's look at this
8:33
book of physically, I don't even think we use that term
8:35
once to be like, it was basically like, okay,
8:37
this person, this is what's going on with that. I
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knew I felt like I had the opportunity
8:42
to get up to speed on these people
8:45
by working with her and meeting with them, looking
8:47
at the contact, looking at everything, looking
8:49
at, getting to know them. And
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really that was. In
8:54
her, that was all she cared about was
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really that they would end up being okay. Financially,
8:59
she was fine. She'd make some good investments.
9:01
She was very good with her finances personally.
9:03
And so she just didn't want to see it
9:05
because some people were offering to take the biggest
9:08
clients, get it chopped up and
9:10
she didn't want it. She wanted somebody who wanted everything.
9:12
And and for me, I was at the point where I could
9:14
take it on.
9:15
And I hope we see more of those. I really do.
9:17
As these older
9:19
FPs, this, actually should retire, right? You
9:22
shouldn't be doing this forever. We're professionals. Like
9:24
we also have lives. I really hope we
9:26
see more of that and not just
9:28
asset grabs and chunking them because.
9:31
It's going to hurt a lot of people and I
9:33
don't have data or facts about this, but I do
9:36
know that the M and a's that do happen
9:38
and they just chunk people off and they are just assets.
9:41
I'm going to assume puts a bad taste in
9:43
their mouth about our industry. And
9:46
then it makes it harder for the rest of us to
9:48
do our job and to help market. So I
9:50
really hope that your story and more of
9:52
those can happen. And here in a decade,
9:54
we can talk about it and be like, look
9:56
at all this awesomeness going on.
9:57
Yeah. Yeah. And I think it starts with
9:59
building a network. Like actually,
10:02
she was engaged with now, but I've, I
10:04
am a member as well, but even
10:06
like some of we just knew that we. Got along.
10:08
And I think that's one of the things that if you don't
10:10
necessarily have a huge team where, you know,
10:13
who would take over if something happened to you, even
10:15
just knowing more people that do this, and even
10:17
if it's just having some sort of idea,
10:20
because things do happen, what if something
10:22
happened to me tomorrow? And so I feel like
10:25
really, instead of looking at all the other advisors
10:27
as a competition, as A potential
10:29
like bigger network or
10:32
maybe partners or maybe something someday
10:35
to really keep the clients, best interests
10:37
at heart. Yeah. Let's be
10:39
real. We. What us specifically,
10:41
you said you had, they had 25 households. We
10:43
can't work with a thousand households. I don't
10:45
know your number and I'll ask you now, but like
10:47
mine is 46 without hiring more staff
10:50
and more advisors, et cetera, of course, like
10:52
46 households is like X
10:55
and that would be like stretching.
10:57
What about you? What do you know? What do you think your household
11:00
limit?
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Yeah. So I have, now.
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I do a lot of financial planning where
11:06
there is no assets. So it's just the flat piece.
11:08
So I've been able to do more of those, like more volume
11:10
of those because sometimes they don't come back or they
11:12
come back. And it's easy to hop right back in
11:14
and talk for a few hours. But yeah,
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I think once you get around like 50
11:18
or 60, it is It is a lot of work to
11:21
make sure that everybody's getting, the
11:23
right amount of attention and time
11:25
and service before you might need to add
11:27
on additional resources. I think
11:29
100 would be probably the maximum
11:31
that I could imagine trying
11:34
even attempting. And at that point, I think
11:36
even, Even now I look at
11:38
am I the right person? Am I the right fit for some of these
11:40
clients or some of these people that I've worked with? Might
11:42
they be better suited in a different relationship?
11:45
Because yeah, it is important to look at
11:47
the amount of time and resources that we have.
11:50
So 40 to 50
11:52
to 60, maybe a hundred max. There's
11:55
how many millions of people in just the United
11:57
States alone. This is why we don't have competition.
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This is why we never think about each other as competition,
12:03
because we all have our different niches, our own
12:05
people that we want to work with and we ultimately
12:07
can't service correctly
12:11
past a hundred actually makes me
12:13
very nauseous. I don't know how that would, you
12:15
would have to be Like one off, create a plan.
12:17
They come every two years or something like that.
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That'd be the only way I could think that would work, but yeah.
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And I've started with our industry fails
12:24
at, I believe.
12:25
Yeah. I've started to meet with some financial coaches.
12:27
I've started to meet with bookkeeper. I've started to meet with other
12:29
people because I feel like I'll have these discovery
12:32
calls or these phone calls. Initial calls with people and
12:34
I even feel better being like, I, you
12:37
don't, I think you might want to have a call with
12:39
this person. You might not need me right now. Because
12:41
for a long time, I wanted to just say yes to everybody and
12:43
anyone they wanted to work with me. I was like
12:45
very excited. But even getting to know some of
12:47
the people that do adjacent work. To
12:50
us and building those, connections has
12:52
been really helpful. Some people need a bookkeeper
12:54
and accountant right now, and
12:56
the planner to come or investment advice
12:59
leader. And then I've seen some coaches who are really good
13:01
with the budgeting side, or just focusing
13:03
on a few things in more of a group setting for
13:05
people who maybe are looking for a different price point.
13:07
So I love getting to know more about
13:09
what people in my area do, helping
13:11
them grow their business. And eventually they run
13:13
across people that they can't serve. And
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so it's helped out in that way a lot.
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So you teed it up for me and
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I'm glad you did. I don't know if you did it on purpose, but
13:22
you did, this is our transition into the big topic.
13:25
So on your podcast, we had
13:27
talked about modern family office and
13:29
the concepts that black mammoth does. What
13:31
you just defined there to me really is a modern
13:33
family office, right? You're acting as they're
13:36
like life coach, if you will in
13:38
order to find the parts that need to be filled now.
13:40
And ultimately people want that
13:42
part. They need that person. We all want a person
13:44
that we could go to and be like. Hey, I don't,
13:46
I need, I don't know what I need. I need this.
13:49
I need that. I don't know where to go. That's
13:51
our role, right? You can point them as long as
13:53
you have the right network. And so
13:55
the bigger topic. That is, hot
13:57
in our industry right now, by that means
14:00
clients, if you're listening, prospective clients, our
14:03
industry loves to fight with each other
14:05
about certain topics, one
14:07
being fees, the other being
14:09
this new concept, new, right?
14:12
Quotes, a new concept of
14:15
being a life coach or our financial
14:17
planning, being there above
14:20
their, for their mental health and their emotions
14:22
and more of that actual life coach role.
14:25
And it just wrote an
14:27
article about this, right?
14:30
And our industry took a couple of different
14:32
routes on that. And so I want
14:34
to ask you this question, knowing
14:36
your background. Is
14:39
the financial planning industry one moving
14:41
towards this more life coach
14:43
consultant role? And
14:45
two, why
14:48
are a lot of our industry afraid
14:50
of said move? Yeah.
14:54
So I I do think so.
14:56
I think that we are headed towards the, having
14:58
clients who want to actually talk to their advisor,
15:00
not just about Performance and
15:02
numbers, but really they're coming to us
15:05
because they want change or they're looking
15:07
to do something. They want to feel different. They want
15:09
something to change in their lives. And
15:11
so I when I was in a
15:14
corporate environment, I wanted so much
15:16
to go be an advisor and
15:18
a planner. And so many times
15:20
that I was about to thinking about
15:23
leaving a nice, comfortable job. I
15:25
thought about what if this means that I'll be
15:28
poor again? What will this do to my family?
15:30
This is definitely a bad idea because we don't,
15:33
our brains don't necessarily like change. We
15:35
like, even if we're not happy, we like our lives
15:37
to stay on the same, I was getting a paycheck.
15:40
Things were not bad, but I knew something
15:42
was missing. I was not doing what I was, I
15:44
felt like I should be doing with my
15:47
life. And I actually did
15:49
have a life coach. I did go
15:51
into a coaching program where I
15:53
was able to have somebody. Really
15:56
hold space for me, ask questions
15:59
that I was not asking myself. I was
16:01
asking myself, what could go wrong? What could
16:03
this do to my children? What could this do to my marriage? All of these
16:05
things and thinking of the worst case scenario.
16:08
And so just being in an environment where I was
16:10
able to even just think
16:13
differently or question all
16:15
of these beliefs I had that, it would go wrong,
16:18
like even contemplating what could go right.
16:20
And having somebody who didn't just buy into
16:22
my story. That well, I'll be poor
16:24
again, without any real backup.
16:27
So I've used, since it helped
16:29
me so much manage my mind
16:32
and be able to make a big change
16:34
in my life, start a business believe
16:36
that success was possible, talk to
16:38
clients and get past that
16:41
how am I going to find clients who's going to want to work with me?
16:43
I'm female. I haven't. I
16:45
don't have all these assets under management
16:47
that other advisors have. I don't have the press.
16:49
I don't have all these things. It really let
16:51
me just get curious about how all these advisors
16:54
that are where I'd like to be, how they got there.
16:56
What did they do? It just completely changed
16:59
the way I thought. And I use
17:01
coaching techniques on myself every
17:04
day because I still have a human brain.
17:06
So if a client sends me an email that just says we
17:08
need to talk immediately,
17:11
What does your brain do? Oh my gosh,
17:13
they're going to fire me. They're not going to something
17:15
was terrible. I did something terrible and they're going to be,
17:17
they're angry. Or I didn't invest in something
17:20
that like, and it might just be,
17:22
Oh, I need this, or I got
17:24
a raise or this happened.
17:27
So really trying to figure out how
17:29
to like, stop those negative
17:32
thoughts that we have immediately. And
17:34
not go straight into fight or flight. So I can actually,
17:36
Be a better listener, ask better questions
17:39
not just be like you need to do X, Y, and Z,
17:41
or you're going to run out of money. So do what I say. Knowing
17:44
that people know what they should be doing, but
17:46
it might take a little bit of getting to the root
17:48
of the problem as to why they're overspending
17:51
or why they're afraid to spend money. And
17:54
that comes from asking better questions.
17:56
And that's where I think the coaching piece can really help
17:59
any advisor and client.
18:01
I really do too. And I believe nowadays
18:04
it's part of our duty to do and I know I had talked
18:06
a little bit on your podcast about
18:08
this as well, but That is our
18:10
duty now. And it always has
18:13
been really, we just focused
18:15
on the assets. Yeah, we are
18:17
in tuned with every aspect of almost
18:20
every aspect of their life. If
18:22
we're doing it correctly, we have to be, we
18:24
have to know what's going on with their family. We have to
18:26
know what's going on at work. We have to be able to see.
18:29
Somewhat in the future, right?
18:32
Then we have to go to the complexities
18:34
of life events that happen,
18:36
deaths, marriages, weddings, all those
18:38
things. How is it
18:40
not on us to help
18:43
coach them in life, right? Like
18:45
we have all the knowledge we've literally
18:48
listening to them more than probably
18:50
anyone else in their lives. Almost. To
18:53
a degree and probably even more.
18:55
Because like our friends and
18:57
families and stuff won't go we all know
18:59
this, we all get up to the money issue and then we stopped
19:01
talking, right? And that is our predominant
19:03
issue. And so if they're opening everything
19:05
up to us, Isn't it our duty
19:08
to be able to help and listen?
19:10
And.
19:11
Yeah, I think that, and I think that might be
19:13
where some of that that anxiety
19:16
comes in when people are like, we're not like, because it's
19:18
just we're math people. We look at the numbers,
19:20
we look at this and we're not, talking about
19:22
feelings and behavior and thoughts.
19:25
It's not what we were trained to do
19:28
as advisors, but I do
19:30
think that's why I felt, All of my
19:32
clients, if they said I hate my boss. And if they
19:34
just realized how wonderful I was, then this
19:36
would be so much better. And like their friends
19:38
might be like, yeah, you're right. What
19:40
a jerk. Where I felt like as somebody
19:42
who's outside of that in a different role,
19:45
I can't buy into their story. I
19:47
can't necessarily just be their best friend and be like, Oh yeah,
19:49
you're right. He's probably terrible. It's actually
19:51
okay, what are you in control of right now?
19:53
Like what? Because a
19:56
lot of times I'll see clients and they'll just start
19:58
talking and they're putting all
20:00
their power into someone else's hands. The
20:02
ex husband who's ruining their life, something like that.
20:04
And trying to help them even get some of that
20:06
power back will eventually lead to
20:09
different behavior, maybe different thoughts,
20:11
maybe different financial behavior at some point,
20:13
because then they realize that it actually Is
20:15
in their control, what they can do. And
20:18
so if you just avoid that,
20:20
then your next review meeting, you're like, what happened?
20:22
You're still doing all of these things. You're
20:26
still in this job. You hate. Because
20:29
somebody else, something else, boundary
20:31
issues, all of those things that really
20:34
impacts your money really
20:37
does
20:38
our behavior in our mental health
20:40
and all of that. And money are intertwined. They
20:42
might not have been 50 years
20:44
ago when our industry really took off.
20:47
But they are now every bit of every
20:49
decision is money and emotionally
20:52
based. And so really
20:54
what we're doing now is coaching their behavior
20:56
to shape what they want their plan in life to look
20:58
like. Not just creating a plan
21:00
and saying, go ahead and do it.
21:01
Yeah. Because it's just not as certain as it was before,
21:04
that the money will be there, that the spending, my clients
21:06
are being influenced every day. They're
21:09
looking at, like this comparison,
21:11
these things that they feel like they should be doing. They're looking
21:13
at everybody else's highlight reel of their lives.
21:16
And they're thinking like, what am I doing wrong?
21:18
And immediately, those are all financial
21:20
decisions. Whether you're like, all right, I'm going to,
21:23
I'm going to upgrade this, or I need to start doing this,
21:25
or I'm going to spend, or everybody else is doing it. There's
21:27
never been so much competition
21:30
for our wallet and
21:32
our money nonstop,
21:35
all day long on our phones, on our watches
21:37
everywhere. And so if you don't
21:39
look at behavior, like we're
21:41
going to be manipulated. Spend
21:44
more than we want to, because seriously,
21:47
there's a lot of money and there's a lot of business in
21:50
getting our attention and getting our dollars.
21:52
So if you're not paying attention to
21:54
what you're thinking and feeling, you're,
21:56
you could financially be in a lot of trouble.
21:59
Absolutely. And it's designed that
22:01
way, right? It's designed to wear you down. That's
22:03
why there's so many ads. That's where all this is
22:05
there is to wear you down, put it
22:07
in front of you. So when you're ready. And
22:10
usually it's because it's beaten you down
22:12
and now you're awake to make that
22:14
decision, to buy this, to buy that, to
22:16
do that. And as simple as
22:18
life is becoming with, Amazon
22:20
delivering day of all of
22:22
these things that are happening, it's
22:24
just making it that much harder
22:27
to make the right behavior decision
22:29
if you aren't working on that. And that's
22:31
why I believe it is
22:33
our duty to help them in behavior. It is our duty
22:35
to learn more and either become
22:37
life coaches or Study
22:40
and get some type of education
22:42
behind it to
22:43
help. Yeah. And even if it's,
22:45
yeah, like I, I think that not
22:47
everyone needs to go get a certification and become
22:49
a coach. It is an interest. I do understand that
22:51
there is some negative connotations with the field because
22:54
it isn't even close to as highly regulated
22:56
as, you Financial services. And
22:59
so really anyone could say they're a coach and maybe
23:01
some of them are, taking people's money and not
23:03
helping, but I do think that the principles
23:05
behind it, because like
23:08
you said, with the same day, like all of
23:10
our spending behavior is usually
23:12
to, we think it's going to make us feel better
23:14
when we're thinking like I can't rent anymore.
23:16
I'm wasting money. I'm telling me, and I
23:19
feel bad about myself because I don't
23:21
own a home or all those things are thoughts.
23:24
They're not facts. They're
23:26
not true, but they sound true because
23:28
we hear them in our heads over and over again. And
23:30
then with the impulse spending, it's
23:32
if I get this, if I get this treat
23:35
or I do this, I'll feel better instantly
23:37
that instant gratification. And then long term, it's going to
23:39
hurt when you're in the credit card debt and things
23:41
like that, but we really just respond to right now.
23:44
So even learning how to help people put some
23:46
distance. In between
23:49
the thought and the action can
23:51
help them at least start to trust themselves
23:53
a little bit more. Instead
23:55
of being like, I'm just bad with money. It's just who I am.
23:59
And that's not true either. That's not true. But
24:02
so I'll go to the opposite side
24:04
of not the argument, but I'm
24:07
an advisor who doesn't want to learn all that
24:09
or doesn't feel comfortable doing it. And that's okay.
24:11
This is where we talked about. We're
24:13
not in competition with each other and
24:16
we can partner, we can help each other on
24:18
this. Or like you had talked about go.
24:21
In your network, find someone to help them
24:23
with this part of it and just
24:25
create a team around them that can help support
24:28
them as opposed to saying,
24:31
no, this is my job. I don't want them talking
24:33
to one else. But you're leaving this
24:35
huge issue on the table that
24:37
is going to drive every decision that they make.
24:39
If we're not addressing that either because
24:42
of our own. Abilities or someone
24:44
else's your job
24:46
is superficial. In my opinion, it's
24:49
just superficial. And
24:51
at some point they could fire
24:53
you any day because you're not doing anything
24:55
for them and managing money in
24:57
today's world is. It
24:59
is what it is. It's a commodity.
25:01
It's just not as exclusive as it was before,
25:04
where you needed to have a stock broker and you needed to, you
25:06
couldn't do it on your own. Like those days are
25:08
over. And even, asset
25:10
allocation and portfolio, like all of those things,
25:12
that's the part that the robots can do
25:14
and the computers can do. They
25:17
can't say, they're not
25:19
going to listen, at least not yet to
25:21
somebody who's, telling you everything about how they're thinking
25:23
and feeling and looking for some help.
25:26
And then, getting a blanks. It's that's the
25:28
part where I think we can add a tremendous amount of value
25:30
to people's lives. Even just being somebody who can
25:32
listen to them without judgment. A lot
25:35
of times I've had clients where
25:37
they've talked to me about things. And I've actually said,
25:39
I do think that maybe this is something that you should
25:41
talk to a therapist about when they go,
25:44
life coaching is future. looking, it
25:46
is not looking in the past. It's basically like
25:48
talking about setting goals and looking at what's
25:50
happening right now, your thoughts, your current thoughts.
25:52
Sometimes I've had people that are telling me about some very,
25:55
traumatic experiences that they've not
25:57
been able to process. And so I know that is
25:59
outside of my listening. Scope
26:01
what I can do, but I can
26:04
notice it and
26:06
maybe suggest moving some of the budget
26:08
around or looking at the benefits to see if we
26:10
can pick up maybe maybe some
26:12
work there to help the client feel
26:14
better, even if it means spending money or taking some
26:16
out of an account that I'm looking to see pile up. Because
26:19
there are some things that I feel, pretty
26:21
comfortable talking about. And then there's other things that I could
26:23
say, you know what, this is what, this is
26:25
what I think would be a really good use
26:27
of your Of
26:29
what we have here to work with and trying
26:31
to help them find, somebody to help them
26:33
out because it's the, that investment
26:36
is the one that people don't put a lot of money into
26:38
and that's now investing in themselves. They
26:41
really don't and clothes don't count. Let's
26:43
be right. It's a therapist. It's your physical
26:45
health. All of those things. That is the one
26:48
investment bucket. That people are weakest
26:50
in almost everybody. And
26:52
I want to say it's not exclusive,
26:54
but it is driven hard from our own industry.
26:57
We don't talk about it's not a bucket. We ever,
27:00
I remember being all the training and we're talking about mutual
27:02
funds and annuities and life insurance and all these
27:04
other buckets. We have not once
27:06
ever said that you need to invest back into yourself,
27:09
whether that's a therapist or your health or
27:11
whatever. Yeah.
27:13
So I've had clients
27:15
that have been like, should I spend a thousand dollars on this treadmill?
27:18
Mine is worn out and I'm like, Oh
27:20
yes. Like this is your health, your body.
27:22
But what we will see is people overspending on food
27:25
and stuff. And, I think
27:27
that a lot of that spending is because I had
27:29
a bad day. I want to go out to dinner four nights a week. And
27:31
it's just, it is. It
27:33
is caused by the thoughts that we have.
27:36
It's not, the bucket that
27:38
we said, okay, this is your, this is your spending that you
27:40
can do on meals. It's because they want to feel
27:42
different. And so getting behind
27:44
that okay, why is this happening? What's
27:46
going on? How are you feeling? And
27:48
some people are under a lot of stress or some people,
27:51
maybe they do need convenience and they shouldn't
27:53
kick themselves for it. But they are.
27:55
So I think that those, all of those things that we see,
27:58
like if somebody is looking to invest in their own health
28:01
or their own wellbeing or their mind, or
28:03
going to, even joining
28:06
a gym or doing all of those things, I think should
28:08
get a bigger piece of the budget because it tends
28:10
to pay off so
28:13
much more either down the road with
28:15
a better healthy lifestyle, or really
28:17
just them being able to, go
28:19
about their lives in a way that isn't just trying to numb
28:22
whatever's causing some pain right now.
28:25
So emotions, and our society
28:27
loves to see this. You're a woman
28:29
CFP, right? You own a business. Emotions
28:32
are a woman thing, right? That's just
28:35
a women thing. No one talks about emotions.
28:37
My side of the table, be a man, rub
28:40
some dirt on it, get out there. You're fine. Be a man.
28:42
And we hear those repeatedly and it still
28:44
runs really deep in our industry. Specifically,
28:47
just go to a conference. It's very prevalent
28:50
with that. How
28:53
important or how different is it
28:55
out there in actual
28:57
clientele land, right? Not in our
28:59
own heads that having
29:02
a female advisor, a black
29:04
male advisor, how important is
29:07
that, that we're not specifically
29:09
talking about money or specifically
29:11
talking about emotions? How important have you seen
29:14
that? Yeah,
29:15
I think that, I have, I have
29:17
a lot of, Clients, that men,
29:19
women families, different ages.
29:22
And I think one of the things that I've noticed
29:24
is a lot of times initially they'll, maybe
29:26
be ready for that sales
29:29
pitch or that conversation.
29:31
And they're like defensive or maybe here's
29:33
all my paperwork and this is what my last advisor
29:35
told me and I'm like. I
29:38
don't want to see this yet. I don't even care about this
29:40
yet. Like that, that
29:42
looking at what they own and everything, it
29:44
doesn't come first in our conversation.
29:47
I actually want to know if this is a person that I want
29:49
to work with, if this is someone I want
29:51
to invest my energy into building
29:54
a relationship hopefully for a long time with,
29:56
and so once that wall comes down,
29:59
that they're trying to, Once you get people
30:01
to start talking about themselves, some
30:04
of their goals, some of the craziest things that they've thought
30:06
of, what's the the best things they've done with their money,
30:08
what they'd love, instead of just being like, what
30:10
keeps you up at night? It's your biggest
30:12
fear. Let's have a big pile of money
30:14
and just hold it, let it sit
30:17
there. Like I, I feel like
30:19
people want someone to ask
30:22
being somebody to ask them how they're actually
30:24
doing. And a lot of times like men,
30:27
women, no different. They've
30:30
got a lot of feelings every
30:32
day and sometimes it's harder to name them.
30:34
And sometimes it's just, I
30:36
think that some of my clients
30:38
don't even notice that we're talking about it because it
30:40
feels like we're just having a conversation, I
30:43
want to really understand, how we can
30:45
use what they've built, to improve their life.
30:47
And have them, I don't necessarily,
30:51
I don't really get into those details, right
30:54
away, but I think that's how people, that's
30:56
what they expect from us, no, I don't put
30:58
like life coach right out there, but I do,
31:01
when I get to know people or when I initially
31:03
meet a client people have,
31:05
tended to just start to unload. And then
31:07
they're like, wow, that was a great conversation. I really like you. And they
31:09
know nothing about me yet, but they're like,
31:12
wow, I had a lot on my mind, cause they're not coming
31:14
to us because everything's great. They're coming
31:16
to us because something is on
31:18
their mind, whether they think they're going
31:20
to leave a job, whether they're getting divorced, they're buying
31:22
a, they're making these humongous decisions that
31:25
are, maybe brand new to them. And
31:27
they're looking for somebody to really
31:30
help them figure
31:33
all of this out. And I think knowing
31:35
that it's somebody that they can trust or that
31:37
they can you Could really be honest
31:39
with it goes so far,
31:43
a lot further than being like this is my price point.
31:45
This is what I can do to beat your advisor in this label.
31:47
And then they're just shopping for
31:49
a product. But I, yeah, I
31:51
I don't leave the feelings, but I definitely get there pretty quickly.
31:54
Because it's important. And if they're not
31:56
going to be honest or not going to talk about it, or they're looking
31:58
for one guy was like, you're not very slick.
32:01
And I said, you are absolutely right.
32:05
I will introduce you to slick. I'll head you over
32:07
to, back bay. We will find you slick.
32:09
And that's great that we
32:11
recognize it at least now before
32:14
later, because I want my clients
32:16
to feel comfortable and want to talk to me.
32:19
And not want I've talked to some people
32:21
that hate talking to their financial advisor. Like
32:25
it gives them anxiety, like
32:27
hard anxiety to talk to them. Like change,
32:30
like it shouldn't be that way.
32:32
You're paying them. Yeah. Like
32:34
why, and I hear that. I hear that more
32:37
than I ever thought possible. And
32:39
But I get it. They feel like they're going
32:41
to get yelled at because
32:44
they didn't change.
32:45
Our industry has done a lot to demean people
32:48
and make us on a pedestal. And
32:50
we're not we're normal people with them. I think
32:53
this adage or this analogy is used in our
32:55
industry, a lot of like, think of us as
32:57
an attorney or a doctor. Like I've been trained
32:59
to use those and to a degree,
33:01
yes, except for we
33:04
put doctors and attorneys and stuff like that
33:06
on a pedestal, like they're above us.
33:08
And that's what they're normal people too.
33:11
Yeah. They have personal financial problems,
33:13
almost greater than the normal person. They
33:16
just have an education on something that
33:18
they're passionate about and care about. It's
33:21
the same for us and it's the
33:23
same for you, client, whoever you
33:25
are, right? Like your passion about
33:27
what you're doing. If I came to
33:29
you, I'm going to put you on a pedestal
33:32
because I don't know anything about
33:34
X, Y, Z widget and you're there
33:36
for, and once you can break that barrier
33:38
of putting us up there and we're next to you
33:40
and we're in this thing together you literally
33:43
can see a change in people. And then at that
33:45
point, as the advisor I know, I
33:47
no longer feel like they're a client.
33:49
They're a family friend. Like we are, we're
33:52
in tuned and I don't worry
33:54
about money and fees and all of that. I'm just
33:56
going to do and treat them like
33:58
I would everyone else in my family and
34:00
try to just do my best. Ultimately.
34:03
And that's what people truly are interviewing
34:05
us for. Whether you think about it
34:07
or not, other advisors, like that's
34:09
what they're looking for.
34:11
Yeah, definitely. And like you said, with the doctors
34:13
or attorneys, a lot of times it's, again,
34:15
I have no clue what to do
34:17
here. I want someone to fix me. I want to feel
34:20
better. And a doctor might say, okay,
34:22
this is what I'm going to prescribe where we're dealing
34:24
with money, which our clients have to interact
34:27
with. Every day on their own.
34:29
We're not right there. To think like most
34:32
of my clients know, and I'm pretty clear
34:34
about this, like you will know what you own.
34:36
You'll know why you own it. You might not care.
34:39
You might not be into it. You might love it. I
34:41
don't know. But like you, this
34:43
is not like, Beyond your
34:45
capacity to be able to understand
34:48
or do. And I've gotten people
34:50
to feel a lot more confident with
34:52
their money. Even if they've been the ones that tell
34:54
themselves that story, that they're bad with it and
34:56
they can never understand it, or their dad
34:58
would handle it or their uncle or other people,
35:00
and they've always outsourced it to be like,
35:02
okay, no, this is, we're going to,
35:05
we're going to learn about this. This is really important.
35:08
You need to get this. And then if they choose
35:10
to then have me do the training
35:12
or whatever, That's fine, but they made
35:14
that choice being like, okay, I understand what's
35:17
going on. It's not just me blindly being
35:19
like, I don't know what
35:21
they're doing because I think like that
35:23
sense of, just that blind faith, I
35:26
just don't think it exists anymore. And
35:28
I think our industry was built on
35:30
that. I do.
35:32
And because exclusivity is one,
35:34
that is one reason it was built on that. To
35:37
it, we have marketed
35:39
it like it's this very complex, crazy
35:41
thing. And yes certain
35:43
funds and ETFs and how they're actually ran
35:46
internally. Okay. That
35:48
takes a big brain, but like why
35:50
and how you can implement it. Yeah.
35:52
You, everyone
35:54
can read that. You can figure that out. We've
35:57
just been so into driven in. And I think
35:59
part of it has to do with. our education
36:01
system, which is a whole different topic, but also
36:03
our family structure, right? And
36:06
families that talk about things and can
36:09
teach inside of their own family,
36:11
these things about money. Usually
36:13
are the ones that end up leaving
36:16
a legacy and building this, whole family thing
36:18
as the rest of us who grew up poor
36:20
and not a lot of money and families
36:22
that didn't talk about money. And now you reflect
36:24
on it and holy crap, they did really bad
36:26
things with their money, but they had no clue. We're
36:29
the ones out here trying to like, Figure
36:31
out life and feel bad about making a purchase,
36:34
even though we have the money still, and
36:36
those things are important and it comes down to
36:39
being able to talk about it and open
36:41
people's emotions up. And guess what?
36:44
People love talking about themselves.
36:45
Yeah. And
36:47
then sometimes I'll ask people like what their, you know,
36:50
what their first thoughts are when I like say the word money
36:52
and it's just Oh, anxious. No, I hate
36:55
it. Can't stand it. Don't want to think about it. Oh my God.
36:57
It's pathetic. Like about their own money. And it's okay,
36:59
if that was your boyfriend or
37:01
somebody you were talking about and that's how you describe
37:03
them, like, how do you think that relationship would end up?
37:07
And they're like, not good at all, and so
37:09
even just trying to reframe okay, yes,
37:11
we might not have exactly what we want right now. Why do
37:13
we want this much? First of all,
37:15
what do we think it's going to change about us if we get there?
37:18
Can we appreciate what we have today? Because I know
37:20
for a lot of times we didn't have much when I was growing
37:23
up either, but we might've had enough to get through
37:25
the week or to do this,
37:27
and it's not, it starts from there
37:29
just. To stop feeling terrible
37:31
or hating it to move to a more neutral
37:33
state. But I think that
37:35
a lot of times, if you're not, if
37:38
you're not asking those questions, then it's just
37:40
going to be okay. I'm just going to need more. There's
37:42
never going to be enough. And I think a lot
37:44
of times. People are doing better than
37:46
they think they're just so used to
37:48
that. Like it's not good enough. It's not as good as everybody
37:51
else. And so trying to get
37:53
that level to be set more internally.
37:56
Yeah.
37:57
Yeah I tell clients a lot, you're doing
38:00
a lot better than most people, like the average
38:02
and they are like, you just don't feel
38:04
it. We're
38:04
talking to us. If
38:07
they even think about us ever,
38:10
they are way ahead of the game. Like the
38:12
fact that they, is just to
38:15
me, the fact that they even care
38:17
is putting them so far ahead of,
38:20
people who are not thinking
38:22
about this at all or don't care
38:25
or don't, don't even want to take, take a look
38:27
at things. So yeah, you're right. And
38:29
I think that could be, It can be helpful too, but
38:31
it's certainly surprising how little comfort
38:34
there is in general across
38:37
the whole spectrum of how people feel about
38:40
their wealth.
38:42
All right. As we're wrapping this up about 45
38:44
minutes, I want you to
38:46
leave, or at least this last conversation
38:48
to be one thing that you
38:50
believe people can do to take that next step
38:52
to come talk to us. And again, people, it doesn't
38:54
have to be specifically us too, but
38:57
taking that next step to reach out and.
39:00
Start interviewing, figuring out who this person's
39:02
going to be to help you.
39:05
So I think if anybody is
39:07
listening or they've been thinking,
39:09
for a long time, I want to get,
39:12
I want to meet with somebody. I want to really
39:15
look at this. I want to find out if I'm on the right track.
39:17
I want to make some big changes in
39:19
my life. I think that it's,
39:22
a lot of times there's a lot of information out there,
39:24
which can put you in that overwhelmed state where
39:26
I don't, I. I just, I
39:29
read all these things or I listened to all these podcasts, but
39:31
now I'm not going to do anything. I think you
39:33
have to, instead of just taking in
39:35
information, you have to take action. And
39:38
so even if you're just looking at writing out what
39:40
you owe and what you own and doing
39:42
a simple Budget or cashflow,
39:44
just to figure out where you are today to
39:47
have a starting point, even if it's a little painful,
39:49
like even just taking that one action can then
39:51
give your brain that proof that, okay,
39:54
I can take another action. I
39:56
can maybe call somebody, maybe I can set
39:58
up a discovery meeting, or maybe
40:00
I can, look at coaching
40:03
programs or something out there and then,
40:05
start to, engage. You don't have to commit.
40:08
To anything. I don't think that
40:11
a lot of times people would be like, I don't know if I
40:13
need you. And I'm like, put some time on my calendar.
40:15
I'll help you figure it out. And just, try
40:17
to, talk to people more about, I think
40:19
in your network, if people are open to talking about Money
40:22
or what they do, or if they use certain tools or
40:24
techniques, I think the more comfortable you are
40:26
talking about it, the more comfortable the people
40:28
around you might be knowing that you're
40:30
open to that conversation. So I
40:32
think instead of just consuming and taking everything
40:34
all in, and then just waiting for something to happen,
40:37
you have to really, even if it's just one simple
40:40
step forward can really
40:42
make a big change in your finances.
40:44
You hear to her first, listen to her. And
40:46
I would challenge you. I'm gonna leave everyone with the challenge and
40:48
that is just reach out to us on social then.
40:51
Ask us a question engage with what we're putting
40:53
out there. If that's an easy step for
40:55
you, go right ahead. We are open for
40:57
it. We're ready for it. We'd be glad to
40:59
have conversations with you and figure out. Who
41:02
and what is the best fit for you? I appreciate
41:05
Misty. This has been fantastic. I
41:07
cannot wait for this one to go out. And
41:09
everyone tune into your podcast. You
41:11
want to leave your socials and your podcast?
41:14
Sure. So you could find me pretty much on all
41:16
social media at Misty Lynch CFP. Also
41:18
my website is mistylynch. com
41:21
and that's where you can find links to my book.
41:23
My podcast and the show
41:25
that I worked on heartbroke where I talked to couples
41:27
about their finances and it's
41:29
all there. I would love for you to check it out. And definitely
41:32
even if you are, even if you just find a few people
41:34
that you really what they're saying, go ahead and
41:37
try to implement some of those things that you're learning
41:39
and see how far you get.
41:40
Simple as that. Missy Lynch. com everybody.
41:57
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