What we endure is for the perfection of our perseverance..we ought to be quick to take a pen and paper or make a mental note of what each challenge or life encounter exposes in you. That is just the order of life. Don't fight it, be open and eager to grow from one encounter to another. We may go about our lives and not know we have weaknesses, or know we have certain traits but possess them as just 'who we are'. We will pick in how we respond what weaknesses we have or general character traits we have. We know good from bad and we must categorically tackle what has been exposed to us.

You will know what tempts you, what drains your money, what ends your relationships, what you waste time on. And unfortunately you are back on the same hurdle soon as you fail it by responding to it the same way. What you keep declaring as 'who you are' is an indicator of your repeated failure to change your perception, let the encounter change your heart and attitude and conquer. Love yourself enough to want growth, be attentive enough to win and grow.