You can do and be better, but it will cost you. . It is not easy to sacrifice something you treasure or without compulsion, it is not easy to commit because we don’t like being accountable and having to be consistent, it is not easy to keep a dream alive, to have to do/start something yourself when someone can do it for you, it is not easy seeing something take more than you were willing to give, it is not easy living through the trade offs… but those are the little big things that will get you doing better