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Ep 472:  A deep dive into the realms of pleasure, fetishes, and neuroscience with orgasm and neuro-pleasure coach Wendy Perkins of Owning Your O. Discover the fascinating science behind taboo arousal, the biological processes that shape our fetishes, and how our early experiences influence our sexual preferences. Wendy shares her journey of sexual exploration, her extensive research, and her unique insights from working in a BDSM dungeon.

This episode is packed with enlightening discussions on how to regulate your nervous system, the importance of understanding your body, and breaking free from societal shame around sexuality. Whether you're curious about fetishes, BDSM, or simply want to understand more about your own pleasure pathways, this conversation is a must-listen!
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00:01:12 Fetish, explains the neuroscience behind taboo arousal
00:01:54 When I separated from my husband seven years ago, I could not find information about pleasure
00:08:16 article about how fetishes develop based on science
00:12:56 By 7, most people have these systems turned on. So that system that turns on is the logical processing
00:17:17 People end up feeling ashamed about some of their fetishes
00:24:34 The sexual arousal that women experience is more tied to internal thought processes
00:33:48 As kids, we're taught to change our behavior to make others happy
00:36:54 One of the most important places to regulate your emotions is in relationships
00:41:28 People need to break the people pleasing behaviors in relationships
00:45:53 Narcissism gets this really bad rap because it's protective
00:49:04 BDSM helps people regulate their nervous system
00:52:15 One way to learn about women's orgasms is to use sex toys
00:55:09 ADHD
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🗣️ Quotes from Wendy
"Fetishes are not some weird abnormality. The only thing that makes something a fetish versus something society accepts is whether society accepts it."

"Once you get rid of the shame around your fetish, you realize it’s just a biological function."

"BDSM, when done well and safely, is one of the most beautiful tools to help people regulate their nervous system."

"Helping people learn how to regulate and create safety in themselves is astronomical for what it does for your life."

🗣️ Quotes from Ruan Willow
"Are we ashamed that we get hungry? Of course not. But somehow with sex..."

Topics:
Orgasm Coaching, Neuro Pleasure, Taboo Arousal, Fetish Neuroscience, Bdsm Education, Sexual Exploration, Women's Pleasure, Clitoral Anatomy, Sexual Health Research, Fetish Origins, Sexual Trauma, Body Positivity, Sensory Motor Network, Dopamine And Adhd, Bdsm Safety, Pelvic Floor Health, Sexual Shame, Relationship Communication, Nervous System Regulation, Sexual Empowerment, mental health

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