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What's up everybody . This is your host D-Star
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here with Uchena Jones
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. Uchena Jones , the
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2023
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.
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51 most influential
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leaders in Wisconsin Say that
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twice Congratulations
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. Thank you . Thank you , D-Star
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.
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So for the people that don't know you , can you tell us
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a little bit about yourself ?
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My name again , uchena Jones . I
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am the daughter of two Nigerian
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parents . I
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am a college graduate from the University
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of Wisconsin-Madison , I'm also
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a nurse , I'm also an author
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, I'm also a doula and
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I'm currently in the process of
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being a midwife . And , last
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but not least , I work at United Way of
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Dane County as the Community Impact
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Director of Health .
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And a mother .
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Yes , oh , my goodness .
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I'm a wife .
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A wife , wife , mother of
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three babies .
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And a community leader .
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Yes , all that stuff , you know it's so hard
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to keep up , it's so hard to keep up . So please
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, you know , bear with me guys .
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So what inspired you to become
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a doula and how did your
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journey lead you to this profession
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?
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My journey started . This year We'll make 22
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years of providing active
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doula support to expectant
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mothers , birthing people in Madison
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, dane County community and it's
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been a joy . And how it started it started
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with I've always wanted to be in healthcare
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. Wasn't sure exactly what I wanted to be and
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looking at the different professions and
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kind of inspired by Bill Cosby
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you know he was an OBGYN obstetrician
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delivering babies and I'm like that's a dope job
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. I would love to deliver babies
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. Never thought in my wildest dreams that
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nothing bad could actually happen with
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having babies . So what did I do ? I'm looking
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, I'm researching . I
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learned about midwives , I learned about nurses , but I really at the time wanted to be a doctor
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. Then , as I go to school and
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you're looking at those grades and you're like , okay
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, all right , I'm not getting A's
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in every class now , so what are other
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opportunities to still get in that space
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? So I ended up getting my first degree and
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realized that I had to you know , work
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hard , get the GPA up . So
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I was inquiring about maybe what about midwifery
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school ? You know that's also another beautiful
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field I didn't look into . I was always
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tracked on being a doctor and what ended up happening
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is I found a woman in Florida
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can't even remember her name . I was like , hmm
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, if I talk to her I need to figure out how
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she got those letters , because
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it said that she was like a direct entry . So she
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did an apprenticeship style , became a midwife
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. But she was also a certified nurse midwife
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, which is pretty much having after
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your nursing degree you go back to school and then you get a master's degree in midwifery
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. But I'm like she got both , so I unfortunately didn't get her , I got
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her secretary and her secretary
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was in the process of getting certified
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as a doula . So when I was talking
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to her sharing my interests , and she said before
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you even think you could call yourself
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going into medicine , you
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need to watch women labor . And
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I'm like , ok , how do I do that and I'm just
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only got my undergrad she
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said you need to watch women birth , you
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need to become a doula . So
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a stranger in Florida ignited
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my journey .
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Okay , so what exactly is
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a doula ?
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So a doula is a support person and
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not just a support person I mean cause it just
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makes it so mundane but it's a labor support person
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. It could be a man or a woman that is
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in the birthing space to provide support
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for that expected mother , for that birthing
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person , help them navigate through their pregnancy
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, through labor and through postpartum
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to have a beautiful , great birthing
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experience but also kind of enter into
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parenthood in a way that I think I
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believe all individuals who want to
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expand their family should enter in . In
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the past , the
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role in which nurses had was , like , really critical . Like in some ways they were
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like the original doulas , but with added healthcare systems , responsibilities
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, all these different things . Nurses no longer
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stayed with the birthing person . Instead
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they're doing a lot of administrative stuff . So
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this whole profession was birthed out
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of a lack . But in other indigenous
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cultures , in African cultures
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, if you look at older countries , there's always
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that older , senior mom
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or the midwife in the community
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that held that space that
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ushered in all these new babies into the
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world . This is where birthing people
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went to go get their care , all these
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different things , and even in some respects around
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the world it still happened , but in the United
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States it's more medicalized , most
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babies are born in the hospital , so we're losing
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those connections . So doulas
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kind of like were birthed out of that lack
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and you know , hold that sacred
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space , kind of piecing all those things together
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.
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So , as a doula , what unique perspectives
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or insights do you bring to
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the birthing process , particularly
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as a female black doula ?
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One of the things that I
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desire as being a doula is
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bringing joy back to birth . If you
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look at the history , if you do
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the research , if you take the time to
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find out how family practice came
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about , how obstetric
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gynecology came about in
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some respects it was
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the mistreatment of black
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women , black slaves
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, and
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they medicalize birth in such a way that it's a disease rather than a process , rather than a rite
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of passage , rather than . This is how the next generation comes forward and we should be excited . And the
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perspective that I want to bring back is
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it's a beautiful thing , it's a joyous thing
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to see what
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the next generation looks like and
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, particularly for that birthing person's family
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, it is something to be celebrated
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, not to feel shame for
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. Now , grant , not
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everybody's birth story is
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good , so I don't want to paint this picture like
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every birth , every baby being born is just beautiful
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, but understanding the magnitude
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of that child coming in
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and how we need to prepare and
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usher and handle that birth
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person and their support person and
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their family with such grace
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, being able to lean in and give them the
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support they need so that , as they transition
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into parenthood on Earth's side , that
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they can handle what comes their
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way , as they're raising that child
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.
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It's very interesting that I just
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learned that women in
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prison were being
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shackled while they were giving
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birth here in Wisconsin and
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I just I couldn't even
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imagine what they went
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through or how they felt , because
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when I was with my wife , when she was having
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a baby , she was up , she was
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walking , she was so , you
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know , uncomfortable , just trying to get
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comfortable . You need to be able
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to move around , you need to be able to
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. You need to be able to move , because
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that's the part of the process , right ? You ? need
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to like get up , walk around and
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things like that . And then some you know
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you might be comfortable in this position but in two
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seconds you might need to switch it because
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the baby's moving and things like that . So for you
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to be shackled is just
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like that's just against everything
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.
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What people don't understand is okay
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. You just acknowledged that birthing
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people have to move right , because the
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baby's actually telling mom
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, I need you to move because I'm not comfortable
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. And guess what ? They're not comfortable . So
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denying a birthing
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person the right to birth the way
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they need to , it's almost like you're setting
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that child up for failure right from the
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jump .
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A lot of trauma for
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both of them .
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And it's being transferred in real time
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. All the hormones is being released the
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anxiety , the anxiousness , pain
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, the shame . That's
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a direct transfer to the generation
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that's being birthed in a little while .
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Tupac was born in prison . Wow
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, I didn't know that I had another
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gentleman that
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was here . His name was Eugene
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Smalls . Wow , and
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he was a minister . Excuse me
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, Minister , eugene Smalls , he
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was born in prison .
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Did he ever get to talk about the
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impact ?
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Yeah , he talked about it . I
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don't think that ever
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leaves you just knowing that
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information . Like man , I was born
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in a hospital in prison
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. I wasn't born in a hospital , I was born
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in an infirmary inside of a in prison . I wasn't born in a hospital , I was born in an infirmary inside
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of a state prison . I was
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like wow , and then he
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ended up going to prison . So it was
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like you know , it's like the cycle . You
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know what I'm saying .
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Exactly . And in order for us to break it
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, we really got to pay attention
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to the origin right and
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making sure that
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birthing people are handled with such care
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that mothers get to
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be heard and
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we get to support them on their terms
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. Not what the doctor says , not
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what the nurse says , not
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even what the doula suggests , but internally
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I strongly believe that
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birthing people mothers they know instinctively
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what it is that they need and our job is to
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empower them to use their
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voice . That is where
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they get the foundation of
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parenting . They
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carried that child for almost
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nine , 10 months , 40 weeks , and
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now the world is going to tell them how
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they ought to raise their child ? I
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don't think so , but we robbed them
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of that opportunity to
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be heard , to advocate for their
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child . So my job is to
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bring joy back , to
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let them know , to trust themselves , and
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my job is to just cheer you on to
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the finish line . You know
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I like to see myself as a guardian
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of birth . I didn't realize that , you
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know , and I'm unapologetic about it . And
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it's a joyful time , it's
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an exciting time to see what the new
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generation is not only coming forth with
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, but what do they look like ? Whose personalities
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Are they reaching out back to grandma
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, you know , so-and-so
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, or auntie so-and-so , or great-great
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you know , and the stories that will
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come forth ? What is the information
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and their knowledge that they're coming with , that they're
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about to share with us ? A lot of people
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you know , even like in child psychology and child development
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, even like in child psychology and
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child development . You
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know there's this whole thing about nature versus nurture
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. What
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is so dope is these beings . They know things . They know
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things and if we slow ourselves
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down , we get to know what they know , if
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we learn how they communicate . And
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it's just such an amazing thing to see . And
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I've been learning that and tracking
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that , in not
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even realizing it , over these 22
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years .
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The impact that it has on the father
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, also during the birthing process
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. I was just talking to someone earlier
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today and we were kind of swapping stories
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about birth stories which
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is crazy because men usually
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don't do that . But we were talking about
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men's mental health , the toll that
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it takes on a man , and he said I
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had a doula and my doula let me
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sleep . I was like my doula , let me sleep too he
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was like I don't know
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what I would have
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did without her , like she was
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great and just a great
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experience . And he's had a couple of kids but
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he was like this last one he had . It was with
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the doula and it was just . It was a totally different
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experience . Can you share any
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memorable experiences or stories
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from your work as a doula that
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deeply impacted you ?
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I got to start off with my first birth
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, and that was again .
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You've actually helped deliver over a thousand
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babies , you said .
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Yes , in my 22 years . So
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what makes it even easier to do is
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when you become a nurse . So I became a nurse seven
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years after being a doula and I
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felt like I needed more knowledge . I
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needed more knowledge because it was very interesting the dynamics that
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were playing in the room and there was times
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that I was mistreated in the presence
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of my client and I really felt like there was a
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knowledge gap . Also , I wasn't I never
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had any children at that time , you know
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. So I be . I did my doula training in 2002
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. I didn't get married till 2012
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. So you can see , there's a 10-year gap
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where I am just literally
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what I read and then taking
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care of birthing people and putting all those pieces
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together . But something shifted
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when I became pregnant
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and I just started to go back
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and I'm like , oh my gosh , I should not have said that
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. I should have done this differently , and
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I realized that that was an experience
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, that was something that I needed to strengthen
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my practice . But before
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that moment I felt like I needed
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to become a nurse to know more
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, because some of the things that I would do or some of the things
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I would say , the nurse will minimize it
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or it will be like a competition
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. So I said you know what ? Let me find out what
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the other side is thinking of .
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I've seen that firsthand in the hospital
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. It's like they're respected but not respected
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. But you know , it's like this weird
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thing . The nurses feel like
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what they're saying has to take
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precedent over the
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doula , but then the doula is like no
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, I've been with them since
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day one . I know her , I
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know way more and from you're
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reading it from a chart , I'm doing this off
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of experience . You know
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, and I've delivered more
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babies than you Exactly .
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Exactly , but I do my best
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to recognize and understand
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and this is the part that I learned as a nurse
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is that we're a team and we're all here to
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help this birthing person have an amazing
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experience , this mother to have an amazing experience
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with her support person and all
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that stuff . Now , I can't guarantee
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that the outcome will be exactly what they want
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, but I can guarantee that
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they will feel the support and love
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and encouragement that I know
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I can do and whatever information I can
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pass along to make sure they can make an informed
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decision . That is what I'm going to do , you
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know , and I'm going to advocate like crazy
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to make sure that their voice is
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being heard , because a lot of times
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you know when you are in
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that space you're helping mothers
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have babies all day long . You already
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have a formed idea of how this
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process is going to go .
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Right and you forget that everybody
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is different .
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Exactly . Every family is different
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. It's the same situation
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A baby's going to be born , but we don't
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know all the details .
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And a kid never know .
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Exactly . So I started
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to adopt this idea of you
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know what , if this is their first birth , it's
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going to be my first birth too . If this is
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their second , it's my second . I'm going to adjust
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, but I know that I'm
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an empty vessel . So when I come into that
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sacred space , all my issues
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, what I think about anything
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, is at the door . I am of service
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to my client . I'm of service
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to the patient . I am of service to my client . I'm of service
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to the patient and my job is to empower them with whatever
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that they think they need to get
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to the finish line , and that is to meet the
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new generation , to meet their baby
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. The thing that blows my mind
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that we don't talk enough about is that birth
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is spiritual . Or when does flesh
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wrap itself around
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spirit , around a soul , you know
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? And if we understand the magnitude
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of that , maybe we will handle the person
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who ? And people think oh yes , the
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center of the universe is outside of us . I
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discovered in my 22 years the center
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of the universe is within that mom
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, it's
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within that birthing person and it has to pass through them
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, pass through her , so
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that we can meet . This is no
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stork dropping a baby out the sky . It's
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passing through a
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whole nother human being who's still living
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. We
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have to really sit with that . How
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are we going to handle , if we don't handle ? The
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mom , well . The birthing person , well
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, what's happening to that child ? Have to really sit with that .
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How are we going to handle if we don't handle ?
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the mom , well . The birthing person , well , what's happening to that child ? So your
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first birth ? Yes , so my first birth
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, thank you . 22 years ago
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, because it was actually in January
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, I was a brand new nurse . I read
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all the things . I'm ready , I'm ready 27
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hours Wow . Of continuous
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care , 27
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hours . We had a false start actually
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.
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So you were a nurse at this time .
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No . Oh , you were a doula , a doula . I
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didn't become a nurse until 2009 .
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I know a nurse will switch shifts .
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Yeah .
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But a doula , well , a one
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will stay until
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yes or get some relief
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. Three days they'll stay there with
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you ?
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yes , that was that . I was
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that doula of yesterday , you know
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, providing that continuous support and
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it was good to do , because I didn't have no boyfriend
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. I had no husband , I had no kids . Um
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, as I progressed then I had to
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. But what was so interesting
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about that first birth , even with everything that
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I read , even what I was trying to do , I
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was having serious issues with the nurse . The
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nurse will say , well , it's not that hard
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, it's not that hard , it shouldn't hurt that much
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.
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Well then , if it's hurting that much , then
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maybe that's a sign that something's wrong .
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Yeah , or ask her
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the right questions , like where does
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it hurt ? How can I help you , really ? And
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I was watching the way
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she would interact . And when she was gone , I asked
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my client like , how do you feel ? She
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couldn't articulate that she was having issues with
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the nurse , but you could tell that she was feeling
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she had low self-esteem , she was feeling
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defeated , she doesn't , she didn't feel like she was progressing
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. And I'm like , yes , you are . You just got to give
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your body permission to allow
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itself to open up and it's going to take
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time . This is your first time . So , mind
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you , no baby , no experience
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for me as a mom , but I'm
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going based on what I read and
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when , at some point during
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that labor , she mustered up some courage
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and strength , she went through all the
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different phases you go through where you feel
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like , okay , I got this because the pain is not that bad
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. Then the pain gets really bad . But I was so
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proud of her . She didn't get an epidural even
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though the pressure was on
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27 hours . But no epidural
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. She did the tub . We tried different positions
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and then every time they checked her , she made progress
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, she made progress and now it's time
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to push . And when baby
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Sophia came , oh my gosh
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, I was like I can do this
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, I can do this .
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Everybody cries .
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Oh , yes , everybody cried
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, but I didn't
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cry when the baby came . I cried
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when , in the
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mother's most vulnerable state , she
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looked at her partner and she said , no
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matter what , even if it means I die
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, having your baby like she had no regrets
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. That had me tearing
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up like crazy and
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he's like you're not going to die , it's going to be okay
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. But I don't know if he really felt
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that , but he gave her
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what she needed .
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Right .
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And now they're celebrating . Baby Sophia
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is here , the next generation is here
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, and I am like , how
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can this not be something you want
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to do all the time ? And I'm like trying to
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figure out how do I keep coming back to the space and place
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you know ? So then I
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made it my mission . Okay , all
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right , let me figure out how I can get more clients
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, let me see who I can help . Let me put the word
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out there , you know , but again , internet
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wasn't what it was . Then I didn't have no website
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. I didn't know about having a business , but
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it was word of mouth that I started to
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. For the most part in the early years I
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did a lot of college students , you know , different
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backgrounds , different races , it didn't matter . I just
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needed to be in that space to learn what I needed
20:13
to learn . I needed to pay attention to the dynamics
20:16
and then , when I started to
20:18
build my confidence , I said I need more knowledge
20:20
. So then I went back to school and became
20:22
a nurse because I needed to know what they
20:24
knew and didn't realize that I'm
20:27
a unicorn . There's a lot of doulas
20:29
who are doulas . There are nurses
20:31
who become doulas , but it's not
20:33
quite common to be a doula
20:36
and go on to be a nurse . Even
20:38
as a nurse I didn't do things like my
20:40
colleagues because I had a doula brain , I
20:42
had a doula heart about work . I
20:44
didn't use medications like everybody did . It's
20:46
there . But because I saw birth
20:48
, I understood the physiological
20:51
process of birth and that it takes time
20:53
. I fought for that , I advocated for that
20:55
. Whether they were my patient or my client , same
20:57
care .
20:58
So what are some of the challenges you
21:00
face as a black woman in
21:02
the doula profession and how
21:05
have you overcome
21:07
them ?
21:07
I don't know if I overcome them , but I have
21:09
learned to work with them . Some of the challenges
21:12
is just the fact that I'm black . A
21:14
lot of people who may know me . I'm
21:16
6'1" , so when I walk in the room
21:18
it's like who is she ? What is she about to do ? I
21:21
always have to have myself mentally
21:23
ready and prepared . Mentally ready
21:25
, prepared to be undermined , disrespected
21:28
. I don't know how many times I came into the birthing space
21:30
and say I'm the doula and they say , oh , that's the patient's
21:33
sister . Or if I find them doing something
21:35
that I don't agree with because , guess what , I'm
21:37
also a labor and delivery nurse .
21:39
So I know
21:41
the process , you know the procedure .
21:43
I don't know how many times I had to pull that card
21:45
and say , well , right up the street
21:48
, I am also a labor and delivery
21:50
nurse and can I ask you a little
21:52
bit more questions , Cause I don't
21:54
understand why you are taking that course
21:56
with this , particular
21:58
with my client . You know that kind of thing . The other
22:00
thing about doulas the Trump card right
22:03
, Right , right . I keep it in my back pocket
22:05
. I don't always have to use it , but I
22:08
do a lot of observing and my job
22:10
is to make sure , like asking the
22:12
mom , the birthing person did
22:14
all your questions get answered ? Do
22:17
you feel safe ? Do you feel supported
22:19
? I don't know how many times I walked in the room and
22:21
the birthing person tells me , you know what , the
22:23
fact that you walked in here , they're caring
22:26
for me better , what ? I didn't even say anything
22:28
. I didn't do anything .
22:29
Everything changed .
22:30
And everything changed . They didn't see
22:32
me , they didn't come around
22:34
, but they start showing up . When you showed up and
22:36
I started to pay attention to that .
22:43
And I'm like , wow , this is crazy . Which leads me to my next question how do you
22:45
approach supporting Black mothers , specifically considering the
22:47
disparities and challenges they
22:49
may face in the health
22:52
care system ? Because we know
22:54
the statistics for Wisconsin
22:56
it is like the worst place
22:59
in the country to be a woman
23:01
of color having a baby .
23:03
Yes , it's one of the worst states
23:05
and our outcomes are not necessarily
23:08
the greatest and the best , but
23:11
I feel like every time I put my foot
23:13
down and I go on to the unit
23:15
and I'm providing care for that client , that's
23:17
me combating that number , that's me
23:19
working against that statistic . Now , keep in
23:21
mind I'm only one . So one of the
23:23
things I've had the privilege of doing and
23:25
being has become a doula trainer . So
23:33
now I get to train other people with the knowledge and the skill set that I have so
23:35
they can go into the birthing space and be able
23:37
to provide similar support , if not better
23:39
, because I like to think
23:41
in the 22 years I've gotten better . It's
23:46
not easy being an advocate and
23:50
it's not easy always
23:52
feeling like you have to fight . So
23:55
it's really , really important that in
23:57
this work that we do , we do
23:59
some self-care , because there's a lot of things
24:01
that happen , like moral injury when
24:04
you see something and it's like , or
24:06
some obstetric violence where
24:08
you know rights were taken away . A
24:11
birthing person didn't get to informally
24:13
consent to something , but they felt
24:15
that it was important right now and override
24:18
that birthing person's
24:20
concern and , as a result
24:22
, led to moral injury . Something happened
24:24
. You know it doesn't have to
24:26
necessarily result in the death of a child
24:29
right but it's an injury
24:31
that turns and becomes
24:33
trauma very quickly that can impact
24:35
that birthing person , that mother's ability to
24:38
have more children in what ways do you
24:40
integrate cultural practices
24:42
and traditions into your
24:44
doula work , particularly within
24:46
the black community ? So , like I
24:49
mentioned in the beginning , I am the daughter of
24:51
Nigerian parents and I was born
24:53
and raised I didn't include that part . I was born
24:55
and raised in New York City . I have a husband who's from Louisiana
24:57
, so I've gotten to learn a lot
25:00
.
25:00
The dirty dirty yes . Does
25:02
he still have his accent .
25:05
Only when he's , you know , pressed , you
25:07
know , but for the most part if he's happy
25:09
and go lucky , he won't catch it . But there's a moth
25:11
. It might be a different story . But one of the things
25:13
that I've come to learn is when
25:15
I am interacting and I'm meeting my clients
25:18
and working with them at least in
25:20
prenatal , because it's very different when you're a nurse , you just
25:22
get what you get , your assignment . But when I
25:24
have the opportunity to get
25:26
a client , I like to spend time to
25:28
get a sense of who they are , what they like , what matters
25:31
to them , what are their
25:33
expectations of their birth experience , how
25:35
is their pregnancy going , who is their
25:37
support and how can I
25:39
be of service . So if some
25:42
of the descriptive nature is I want , like
25:44
, some mothering where I get to really
25:46
nurture , then that's what I do . I
25:49
nurture . If I mean even
25:51
like setting up the room so
25:53
that it's welcoming . Okay , well
25:55
, let's plan that , you know . Did you get your gown
25:57
that you're going to wear as you
25:59
welcome this new life ? Did you get your hair done
26:01
? What self-care things are you doing
26:04
? Talking to the birth partner , what concerns
26:06
do you have and how can I be of help
26:08
? How would you like me to support you
26:10
as well , because you guys are a team .
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