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Hey everyone, welcome to Pastor Rick
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Warren's Daily Hope. Now we're going
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to continue our series today called
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Building My Life on Values That
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Last. And Rick will press on
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and show us how we benefit
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when we apply the biblical principles
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of trust, self-control, balance, respect, forgiveness,
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moral purity, fairness, honesty, and love
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to our lives. And now let's
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go right to Rick with the
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final part of a message called
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Maintaining Moral Purity. Yesterday
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I was reading this magazine, Marriage Partnership.
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It's a Christian magazine I highly recommend
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that you subscribe to this magazine. It's
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a terrific magazine, Marriage Partnership. And then
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there was an article called, It Doesn't
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Just Happen, A Lifetime Prescription for Sizzling
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Sex. It says, Do
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you remember the anticipation of
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going on a date with your future
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spouse and how desperately you desired one
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another and how the sexual tension seemed to
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mount as you moved toward marriage? Today
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you may be wondering, where's our energy and
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desire for sex now? After
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20 years as counselors, we're convinced that
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good sex in marriage doesn't, quote, just
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happen. Couples who keep
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the sexual spark glowing through the changing
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stages of marriage are those who deliberately
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set about their sexual relationship.
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And it talks about in different stages. It says, you know, during
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the marriage's middle years, you
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may feel as though you're merely surviving
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sexually. The demand of
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life uses up your energy and
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your primary desire is often for
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sleep, not sex. I
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saw a few elbows and a few amens just then. But,
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but you must keep the pilot
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light of your sexual relationship lit,
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even if you don't have the time and energy to
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turn the flames up as high as they used to
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be. How do you do
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that? And here are some suggestions for maintaining your
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marriage. From Christian biblical
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counselors. Kissing, passionately
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every day. Kissing is
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the barometer of the state of your
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sexual relationship. Keep open
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by sharing every day. Keep
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committed to sex in spite of all the
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distractions. Your marriage and sexual
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relationship must continue to be high priorities.
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Be cautious of commitments that rob you
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of time for sex with one another.
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Keep physically fit, keep well groomed.
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Keep your sexual feelings turned toward
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home. If feelings,
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sexual feelings are triggered in response to
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somebody else other than your mate, immediately
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put your spouse in the picture and
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bring that spark home. Keep
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it scheduled. Just as you
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need to schedule quality time with your
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family and you need to schedule individual
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time with your children, you need to
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schedule time for your sexual relationship with
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your spouse. I know
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some of you are going, schedule sex? I
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thought I was supposed to be spontaneous. Who said?
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In the Bible, God says that anything that's worth
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doing, you need to plan. The
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Bible says that planned giving is better than
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spontaneous giving. The Bible
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says that planning your worship, planning your
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day off, your Sabbath, is
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important. Planning time with your kids, planning to
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study the Bible, because it's important. And planning
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to make sure that you have time for
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sexual relationship in your marriage. Because if you
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don't make time, you may
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not take time in today's world where
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everybody's just busy all the time. Keep
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sex positive. Keep learning
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about your body and your mate's body and
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keep coming up with surprises to keep sex
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from becoming boring. That's
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what it talks about. That's what it means to maintain
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your marriage. What I'm saying is this. The
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grass is not greener on the other side of
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the fence. And
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the grass is not greener on your side of
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the fence, necessarily. The
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grass is greener where you water it. And
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if you spent half the time working on
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your sexual relationship as you do complaining about
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it, or fantasizing
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about something else, it'd
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be a whole lot better. Get it? Good.
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Good. Oh, let's try that again. Get
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it? Good. Good. Number
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six, if I want to remain
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pure in a
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polluted society, I need to magnify
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the consequences of sin. I
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need to magnify the consequences of sin, of
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sex outside the parameters that God has set
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up. Having been
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a pastor for many, many, many years and
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having counseled thousands of people, and I have
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heard the heartache with
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the unfaithfulness, the illicit relationships,
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the sexual escapades
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outside of marriage or whatever,
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and I've seen the broken hearts, and
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I've seen the rejection, and I've
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dealt with the split-up families, and I've dealt
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with devastated children, and I've dealt with people
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who picked up sexually transmitted disease from an
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unfaithful spouse when they were faithful, and
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I've seen the damage that it does in hearts
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and souls and minds. I
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want to say that nothing damages
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your emotions more than
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sexual sin. Why? Because
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God made you to be a sexual
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being. He made you a woman or
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He made you a man, and
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God says that's good, and
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He made men to be men and He made women
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to be women. Since
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your sexuality invades every single part of
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your life, it's not just a physical
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act. When that is violated,
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something in your mind, no matter what you say,
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well, everybody else is doing it, goes tilt because
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you're violating the very nature which you were made, and
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the sense of loss affects everybody, the shame won't
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go away, and the scars seem to be permanent,
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and I've talked to so many people who say, you know, I wish I
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could just roll back the clock. Now,
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the Bible says this. Anyone
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who commits adultery doesn't have sense. He's
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destroying himself. The
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Bible says in Proverbs 6, 26, immorality
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may cost your life. And
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you know, today folks, that literally can be true with
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AIDS and other sexually transmitted
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diseases. See, the
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point is that Hollywood sensationalized and glamorized
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sex so much that
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it rarely shows the lives that it destroys. But
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the truth is, when sex is not
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used, but it is abused
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or misused, it
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always causes implications that we
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are even unaware of because
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it's more than physical. And
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everybody loses, and God wants to spare you this pain.
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Regardless of what's happened
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in your past, God
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gives you a new start today, a chance to start
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over to come clean, and be pure the
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rest of your life. You
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know, I've been married to Kay, and by
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the grace of God, she is the only woman
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I've ever known. And
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by the grace of God, I intend for that to be
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true the rest of my life. I intend
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to be faithful to her for my
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entire life. Now,
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why in the world would I make a commitment like that? When
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everything and everybody around me, and
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91% of the things I see on TV are saying,
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you're a fool. Why not
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just go to bed with anybody you want, as
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often as you want, wherever you want, in
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any way you want, you're an adult, you can
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make your own choices. Why would
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I do that? For
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three reasons. Number
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one, I love
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Jesus Christ. And
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he gave his life for me, he died on the cross
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for me, and I owe him everything I've got, and one
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day I wanna go and be with him in heaven. And
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Jesus says, if you love me, keep
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my commandments. Number
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two, I love my
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wife and my kids with
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all my heart. And
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the thought of the pain that
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it would bring to them if I were sexually
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unfaithful, and the scars that would
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bear on my wife and my children and
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that shame is
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a thought that's almost unbearable to me to
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even think of, it is so painful to
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consider what that would bring
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upon the people I love the most. Number
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three, because I fear
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the judgment of God. And
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it's a healthy fear, and I would suggest that
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if you don't, you better get it quick. Because
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the Bible says in Hebrews 13.4, God
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will judge the sexually
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immoral. Don't
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think you're gonna get away with this. Don't
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think that you're gonna say to the creator
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of the universe, yeah, you made me, but
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forget you, God. I know better, I know
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more about sex than you do. And God's
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going, what? Say
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that again? Oh yes,
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God, I know you gave me this gift, and
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you laid out parameters for it, but you don't
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know nothing, God. I'm gonna choose what
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will make me happy and what will meet my needs. God
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says, you don't do that and
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get away with it. This
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is a serious issue, folks. This is what Jesus Christ
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died on the cross for. Now
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God's standard has never changed.
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Premarital sex is
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unacceptable to God. It
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always has been, it
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always will be. Living
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together without getting married is
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unacceptable to God. It
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always has been, it always
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will be. Adultery,
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having an affair, being unfaithful to somebody
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you're married to is unacceptable to God.
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It always has been and it always will be. Pornography
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is unacceptable to God. It
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always has been, it always
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will be. And every one
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of those things bring a judgment. Now,
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if you have been guilty of one or
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all of these things, I've just mentioned, you
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come to the right place. Because
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this is what Saddleback's all about, a place
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for healing, forgiveness, restoration.
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God says, I wanna give you a chance to come clean and
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start over and make the rest of your life the best of
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your life. If you're a
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single adult to remain a virgin from this
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point forward until if and when God brings
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a person in your life that you make
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a marriage commitment to. And
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you could do that. What's the pathway back to
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purity? Well, it's there on your outline. Number
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one, I repent. You
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know what repent means? It's the word for
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change your mind. That's all repent means. It means
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I change my mind and say, you know, you
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were right, God. It was wrong. You call it
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what it is. It's sin. I
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don't rationalize it. I don't excuse it. I don't
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just say, well, everybody's doing it. I say, it
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was wrong. David did
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this in Psalm 51. He could good song
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for you to go read. It's his prayer after he
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committed adultery with Bathsheba. But the
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important thing is that you do it now. If
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you're in the middle of a fair right now, this
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is it folks. It's over. It's
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dead. It's done today. You quit cold Turkey right
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now. You don't go home and say, well, I'll
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phase out of this in three months. You
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go home, you make one phone call or have one
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meeting and that's it. I will never see you again.
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This is over. It's wrong. It's dead. And
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you cold Turkey. You don't
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phase out a sin. You just
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stop it now. And
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number two, you receive
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forgiveness. And
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God says, I'm waiting. I'm
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waiting to forgive and to
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cleanse and restore. And
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I want to release you from the
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shame and the regrets and the hidden
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hurts and the pain and all that
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stuff that you're going to carry into
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your marriage or you have carried into your marriage and
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it's affecting your marriage today because of things you've never
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dealt with in the past. Some of them
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you've even.
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