Women grow up with a fairytale life facade that is imbedded into them as a child.  From the start they play with barbies and dolls with the illusions of being a wife or mother.  They begin to play house in their mind.  They in turn take that fairytale and apply it to life and are out of the gates set up for failure.  Marriage is not a fairytale it is work and the desired end goal in most women to obtain.