2:00

he always foots the bill. Her family's

2:02

been great to me. They always welcome

2:04

me in their house. I went

2:06

on a vacation with them back in winter.

2:08

Her parents paid for our hotel for the

2:11

entire week. Her dad gave her money for

2:13

food. Granted, it was for her, her brother,

2:15

and myself. I also only paid for half

2:17

of my flight because my girlfriend offered to

2:19

pay for the other half. The only thing

2:21

that I really had to pay for was

2:24

food for a couple of days out of

2:26

the trip, and my girlfriend pitched in and

2:28

helped with that too. This past weekend, my

2:30

girlfriend, myself, her younger brother, and her dad

2:32

went out for brunch. I was spending the

2:35

weekend with her anyway, so she invited me

2:37

to join them. Before we left,

2:39

she and I were walking, and she

2:41

mentioned how maybe I should offer to

2:43

pay for brunch, as in all four

2:45

of us. She assured me that her

2:47

dad would a thousand percent refuse to

2:49

let me pay, but he would probably

2:52

really appreciate and respect me for offering.

2:54

Now, here's where I may sound like

2:56

a butthole, but I honestly laughed at

2:58

her suggesting this. I told her that

3:00

I would offer to cover our portion

3:02

of the bill, as in her and

3:04

my portion, but to expect me to

3:06

offer to cover the entire bill is

3:09

crazy. Sure, I work a full-time job and

3:11

all that, but I have my own bills

3:13

and stuff to worry about too, and she

3:15

wants me to offer to pay for a

3:17

$150 brunch. She told me that if her

3:19

dad accepted, which she could a hundred percent

3:24

guarantee that he wouldn't, that she would send

3:26

me half the money for the bill. I

3:28

continued to laugh and told her I am

3:30

not doing that. I'll offer to pay for

3:32

our half, and that's it. I asked her

3:35

if the roles were reversed if she would

3:37

offer to pay the bill for my family,

3:39

and she said that's completely different because

3:41

my family has eight people in it,

3:43

not four. We both have very different

3:45

upbringings when it comes to paying the

3:47

bill. She grew up in a decently

3:49

well-off family where they would constantly argue

3:52

on who would pay the bill, because

3:54

everyone in her family would always offer

3:56

out of courtesy. I grew up very

3:58

differently as I come from a

4:00

family that's not financially well off. If someone

4:02

offered to foot the bill, you just sit

4:05

back and let them do it. When we

4:07

went to brunch, I offered to cover both

4:09

her and my portion of the bill. Her

4:11

dad immediately refused and covered the whole bill.

4:13

She gave me a, I told you so,

4:16

look. She thinks that I was the butthole

4:18

for how I reacted to the situation and

4:20

says that I should have trusted her. She

4:22

told me that she needs some space because

4:25

my reaction to the whole situation is kind

4:27

of a turnoff for her and she needs

4:29

to think about things. Am I the butthole?

4:32

Well, sounds like the girl in this

4:34

story is starting to realize that she's

4:36

dating an ungrateful gold digger. Our next

4:38

Reddit post comes from r slash am

4:40

I the butthole. Am I the butthole

4:42

for telling my sister that she's overreacting

4:44

for banning my boyfriend from the Easter

4:46

dinner that she's gonna host? I'm a

4:48

23-year-old guy and I'm dating my boyfriend

4:51

who's 19 for a year

4:53

and he struggles a bit in social settings

4:55

and can come off as rude sometimes. My

4:57

sister, who's 27, has had

4:59

a cat ever since she moved out. Our parents

5:01

didn't allow pets. And now the cat

5:03

has unfortunately passed away. My sister came

5:06

over to visit me a couple of

5:08

days ago and kept talking about how

5:10

much she's grieving her cat. And even

5:13

now, she's still crying at nights over

5:15

it. My boyfriend overheard her and told

5:17

her, isn't it kind of embarrassing for

5:19

an adult to cry over a cat?

5:22

Just get another one! My sister didn't

5:24

take it well and started berating him

5:26

and raising her voice at him. He

5:28

also struggles with people yelling because of

5:31

his abusive dad. And at some

5:33

point, my sister called him soulless, to which

5:35

my boyfriend replied that at least he's not

5:38

a dumb woman like her. I tried to

5:40

calm things down as much as I could,

5:42

but the damage was already done and my

5:44

sister left in tears. I tried to lecture

5:47

my boyfriend about what he said, but he

5:49

didn't seem like he was listening to me,

5:51

so I just gave up. I thought we'd

5:53

smooth things over later once my sister calms

5:56

down. But I just found out that she

5:58

banned my boyfriend from the upcoming- Easter

6:00

party she's gonna host, and said that if

6:02

I try to bring him regardless, she'll cut

6:05

me out of her life too. I said

6:07

that she's overreacting, and she knows my boyfriend

6:09

is a bit standoffish, but doesn't mean any

6:11

harm. And I could make him apologize for

6:14

what he said to her, but she said

6:16

that she's had enough of that jerk insulting

6:18

her and everyone from our family. And she

6:20

knows that he never means any of his

6:23

half-hearted apologies, and he only tells them for

6:25

my sake. She told me that I can

6:27

spend time with my family, or keep being

6:29

that butthole's personal public defender, and then

6:32

hung up, which I think was uncalled

6:34

for. My boyfriend does sometimes say things

6:36

that can come off as rude, but

6:38

he doesn't mean them. And my family

6:40

was being understanding, but it seems like

6:42

now they're not. I know I defend

6:44

my boyfriend a lot, but I feel

6:46

nobody understands him like I do. Though

6:48

I might have come across as an

6:50

enabler of his bad behavior to a

6:52

couple of people. OP, I am also

6:54

one of those people who think that

6:56

you came off as an enabler. It

6:58

sounds like OP's boyfriend is a jerk

7:01

to every single person on Earth, except

7:03

OP, so then OP says, no one

7:05

knows him like I do. Yeah, because

7:07

you're the only person he's nice to.

7:09

Our next Reddit post is from r

7:11

slash off my chest. For context on

7:13

this next post, this was posted during

7:16

COVID quarantine. I hate how mean my

7:18

wife is. I feel close to my

7:20

breaking point, as I've reached a new

7:22

low in our relationship. I contracted COVID

7:24

for the first time. I spent the

7:26

last two days quarantine in the corner

7:28

of my house. I'm pretty miserable, and

7:31

it's made worse by my wife's lack

7:33

of empathy. She made sure that when

7:35

she made lunch yesterday for the kids,

7:37

she didn't make me anything. She asked

7:40

me how I feel zero times, offered

7:42

zero support, and only made comments in

7:44

passing about how pissed she would be

7:46

if I infected anyone else. I honestly

7:48

can't fathom how she can hate me

7:51

so much. At least my daughter asked

7:53

me how I was feeling. Then, down

7:55

in the comments, the wife replies. See,

7:57

this is why you can't believe- everything

8:00

you read on Reddit. This came across

8:02

my feed randomly, by the way. Did

8:04

you tell everyone where and how you

8:06

got COVID? We have two kids. One

8:09

is a medically fragile preemie and isn't

8:11

even a year old. On my husband's

8:13

third work trip in November, I spent

8:16

the night in the ER with the

8:18

baby after frantically looking for childcare for

8:20

the older kid. I say

8:22

work trip in quotation marks because it

8:25

was more of a team bonding trip

8:27

full of fun activities and trips to

8:29

restaurants. After that traumatic experience, I

8:31

said no more work travel until the

8:33

baby was two. My husband told me

8:35

that he was being sent to New

8:37

York, which led me to believe that

8:39

it was a mandatory work trip having

8:41

to do with his promotion. He wanted to

8:44

fly out the day before Mother's Day

8:46

and I had to remind him that

8:48

it was Mother's Day. He ended up

8:50

flying across the country for his trip Tuesday

8:52

through Friday while I stayed home with

8:54

the kids. I found out that this

8:56

was not a mandatory work trip when

8:58

he asked me if I wanted a

9:00

souvenir from the Met in the middle of

9:02

a work day. He caught COVID in New

9:04

York, by the way. So I was a

9:06

solo parent from Tuesday to Friday. Then I

9:09

had a half day of help before

9:11

dealing with a sick husband and now

9:13

I'm solo parenting again while trying to

9:15

keep myself and my kids healthy, including

9:17

my preemie baby. I made lunch for

9:19

myself and the kids because I'm spread

9:22

thin and I'm at my own breaking

9:24

point with how exhausted and run down

9:26

I am. I didn't get a thank

9:28

you for staying home alone with the

9:30

kids for his trip until Sunday, even

9:32

after bringing up the lack of acknowledgement

9:34

multiple times. I'm sleeping on the couch

9:36

so that he can have the bed

9:38

and quarantine in our bedroom. I went

9:40

to a school fundraiser for our daughter

9:43

Saturday evening before we knew that it

9:45

was COVID and I received angry texts

9:47

because I didn't reply immediately to his

9:49

request for me to stop and get

9:51

him Sudafed on my way home. Which

9:53

I did, by the way. We've done

9:55

couples therapy in the past. Nothing changes.

9:57

I was stupid and didn't protect myself.

10:00

financially before becoming a stay-at-home

10:02

mom and becoming entirely dependent

10:04

on my husband. I have

10:06

PTSD from my pregnancy, in

10:08

vitro fertilization, hospitalization followed by a premature

10:10

labor, and then a nearly three months

10:12

stay in the NICU. This time last

10:15

year when I had to be hospitalized,

10:17

our oldest got COVID and we weren't

10:19

allowed to visit the baby for the

10:21

first two weeks of her life. So

10:24

yeah, COVID is a big deal to

10:26

me and I'm doing everything I can

10:28

to keep myself and the kids safe.

10:30

But I mean, so I guess none

10:32

of that matters. Our next Reddit post

10:35

comes from r slash relationship advice. I'm

10:37

a 25 year old woman

10:39

and my boyfriend is 26. His sister

10:41

is weirdly obsessed with him. He's taking

10:43

her on holiday and I don't know

10:46

how to convince him that it's super

10:48

weird. I've been dating my boyfriend Mike

10:50

for just under 18 months. Our relationship

10:52

has become really serious. We even started

10:54

to discuss things like marriage, children, etc.

10:57

We moved from England to Wales about

10:59

six months ago because I got a

11:01

job opportunity that requires us to relocate.

11:03

He was able to convert to working

11:05

from home so he stayed employed by

11:07

his old company. We now live

11:09

about 70 miles away from our hometown.

11:12

Because it's so far, we rarely visit

11:14

home, maybe once every six weeks or

11:16

so. Whenever we visit, we stay with

11:19

Mike's parents and every time we go,

11:21

his sister is incredibly obsessed with Mike

11:23

and won't leave him alone. It's

11:26

to the point where it's really weird and

11:28

almost like she has some weird romantic feelings

11:30

for him. I've brought this up to Mike

11:32

and he says that I'm being crazy, but

11:35

I'm not. For example, she'll snuggle up to

11:37

him on the sofa so I have to

11:39

sit somewhere else. She'll ask for him to

11:41

take her shopping to places that I don't

11:44

like. She'll make him take her to restaurants

11:46

and they'll have fancy meals together. It's so

11:48

weird how she treats him like a boyfriend.

11:50

They have a holiday to Spain booked for

11:53

this summer in the town that Mike grew

11:55

up in. They booked this before we were

11:57

dating, but it's just those two going to the

11:59

house. knowing, and it makes me feel

12:01

extremely uncomfortable. I first asked for him to

12:04

change the booking so I could come along

12:06

as well. I said that I would pay

12:08

my own way, obviously. He said that he

12:10

contacted the travel agents, but they weren't able

12:12

to change the bookings anymore and that they

12:14

couldn't book a separate package for me because

12:17

the hotel was booked up. Yesterday,

12:19

I told him that I think it's really weird

12:21

that he wants to spend two weeks alone with

12:24

her in a foreign country, and when I said

12:26

this to him, he blew up at me and

12:28

kicked me out of the house. Like

12:30

genuinely kicked me out of the house for

12:33

just questioning him about this, which made me

12:35

feel it's even more weird than I thought.

12:37

We ended up having a huge argument, like

12:39

the biggest we've ever had. And

12:41

now, I'm considering booking a separate hotel near

12:43

the one that they're staying at just so

12:46

I can keep an eye on her. I've

12:48

been texting him and ringing him, and he

12:50

hasn't answered or responded to me at all.

12:52

I don't understand how he doesn't see this

12:54

as weird, especially considering how obsessed she is

12:57

with him, as I mentioned earlier. It just

12:59

makes me feel sick, and I don't know what

13:01

to do. How do I express

13:03

to him that this is not normal? How do

13:05

I show him there's something weird about how his

13:07

sister treats him? Alright, I'm hitting the

13:09

comments, and

13:13

okay, in a comment, OP clarifies,

13:15

the sister in this story is

13:17

nine years old. And

13:20

by the sound of it, he also misses

13:22

his little sister. It's sweet! You

13:25

know, the sad thing is that this is

13:27

actually a major green flag for the boyfriend

13:29

because it shows the boyfriend is, you know,

13:31

caring and loving. It's kind of paternal, the

13:33

way he's treating his little sister. He wants

13:35

to build a relationship with her and, you

13:37

know, just be a good older brother. But

13:40

OP is so ballistically jealous

13:42

that she can't see it.

13:44

She's honestly threatened by a

13:46

nine-year-old. A third-grader, you guys.

13:49

Our next Reddit post comes from r

13:51

slash sex offender support. He

13:54

wants me jobless and homeless because

13:56

I possessed... Oh, geez, I gotta

13:58

call this, uh... inappropriate content

14:01

of children. I was

14:03

denied an accepted job after a background

14:05

check. The reason they gave is because

14:07

I'm on the registry, even though I'm

14:09

only level 1, low risk, not publicly

14:12

listed. I even voluntarily disclosed my registry

14:14

status, as it didn't show up on

14:16

the background check. So much for honesty!

14:19

It's clear the registry is straight punishment.

14:21

I have a college degree and I've

14:23

been trying to find a job for

14:25

a year now. I'm also looking for

14:27

a new apartment and I have a

14:29

pet. How will I know if

14:32

my neighbors have been convicted of animal

14:34

cruelty in the past? Is there some

14:36

kind of registry for that? I'm worried

14:38

about potential neighbors drunk driving into my

14:40

place. Is there a driving while intoxicated

14:42

registry out there? I don't want addicts

14:44

hanging out near my house, coming and

14:46

going at all hours. Could my neighbor

14:48

be on a heroin dealer registry? I

14:50

better know if I need to keep

14:52

things locked up. Is there a theft

14:54

registry? What about the HR guy who

14:56

signed off on my denial who goes

14:58

home to slap his wife around? Is

15:00

there a domestic violence registry that he

15:02

needs to worry about? I don't want

15:05

to be murdered by a neighbor. Is

15:07

there a murder registry? I'm 45, motivated,

15:09

doing everything I can correctly, with a

15:11

lot of life left to live, but

15:13

society thinks that I'm scum of the

15:15

earth. If I were a murderer after

15:18

getting this far along in the job

15:20

hunt, society would say that I've redeemed

15:22

myself. I

15:26

love this comment from Akantasephala.

15:28

Gosh, that pesky term I

15:30

can't say on YouTube, ruining

15:33

poor OP's life. It just

15:36

magically found its way into their

15:38

possession. Won't someone think of the

15:40

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