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Building. A company that brings joy to
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millions around the world can be a
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labor of love and true reflection of
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your deepest passions. But. As
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the years go by, you might start
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to feel a creeping sense of unease.
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Annoying question that you can't shake. You.
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Are you really. Beneath. The accolades
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and achievements you've turned a passion
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into a community and a community.
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And to accompany. A. What can
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you take with you when you walk away. This.
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Is the story of Next A
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Been a cofounder of Resident Advisor,
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the global platform that reshape the
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electronic music landscape the over two
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decades Nick lived and breathed all
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re nurturing it from a small
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side hustle to a cultural juggernaut
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are a became the center of
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electronic music and a way that
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cannot be overstated. Looking. For
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the outside in it seemed like the
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absolute dream job. And. By
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all accounts, it was. Going to
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Incredible rapes, meeting the greatest musicians,
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and hosting stages at the biggest
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festivals. But even as the company
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swords to new heights, Nick found
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himself grappling with a profound in
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a struggle. It becomes so
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entwined with his role, so consumed by
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the demands of leadership that he'd lost
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touch with his own identity. The.
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Realization hit him like a lightning bolt
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To truly find himself. he'd need to
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do the unthinkable. It. Need to
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walk away from the company he loved and the
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mission the had to find him. This
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is a conversation about the
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often overlooked cost of success,
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the courage required to let
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go, and the transformative power
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of self discovery. Okay, without
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further ado, my conversation with
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Next, the bane of Resident
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Advisor. Let's do this. right?
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Now. We go straight into air. Let's go
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again. What made you stop? Or a.
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I grew up as an only child
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in Sydney. And. I had
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a brother who are still do have a rather but
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he lived in England. And I
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would see him once a year. Older, Older, ideas,
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older. And. He was
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a international Dj and he would
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be booked serve tourist raia once
2:09
a year in the summer and
2:11
he would come out and am.
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And. So he actually introduced me to music from
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a really young age. And to look up to
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him yet hugely hugely and I'm a many was
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my older brother he was eight years old. I
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was a very successful international Dj. I was falling
2:24
in love with music. Yeah, sure, sometimes you still
2:26
I was a prank. Rest
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of your brothers so far enough back and
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I looked up to him. he's the He's
2:33
and played some of the fatherly role for
2:35
Made by Site, yet neither was a huge
2:37
amount of admiration and and I remember he
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said take me to shows from a really
2:41
young age sovereign be like a New Year's.
2:43
Eve I must have been fourteen fifteen
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and I'm understanding in the booth while
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he was Dj. And if you think
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about what a sensory overload clubs or
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even for adults can imagine is, a
2:54
fifteen year old boy like I was
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completely mesmerized a that moments and I
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remember thinking. I.
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I want to be part of this in
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I was developing her. A. Relationship
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with the music. It was hugely important
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to me I growing up as a
3:09
kid I kid about two things: cricket
3:11
and electronic music. And. And
3:13
they were there like my to siege person
3:15
points and at one point I realized I
3:17
wasn't gonna make a career out of line
3:20
crickets and and so I really fell in
3:22
love with the dance music community in Sydney
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to the point where growing up as an
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only child apart from this one month a
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year or really craved to the senses belonging.
3:31
And actually sounds. In.
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The Music and in the community
3:35
in Sydney and. I
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did what many seventeen year olds did us,
3:40
worked hard, I saved up money. I bought
3:42
turntables cause I thought well I love his
3:44
music. It moves me emotionally. I'm gonna be
3:46
a teacher. For.
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The turntables. Following a my brother's
3:50
footsteps. Boatloads of records. You know
3:52
how to be. recollection before I
3:55
even had turntables and then over
3:57
the next year as. Me
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Dejiang. Wednesday don't just at home I
4:01
realized that I wasn't. Technically.
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Anywhere near as good. As my
4:06
friends. Which. Is obsolete.
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Deeply frustrating and. And
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I realized why. Our town not gonna be a
4:12
Dj. but this isn't gonna be my. Contribution.
4:15
To this community this is not how I'm gonna have relates
4:17
her and be a part of it. And
4:20
so I thought to myself, whilst, whilst can I
4:22
do it. And. I
4:25
loved writing growing up. And.
4:28
So I thought to myself. Well. What
4:30
am I right? About The music? And. It
4:32
didn't there wasn't anywhere on the Internet that
4:35
I felt was really showcasing and celebrating the
4:37
music that really moved. And I
4:39
was fortunate enough to through. The.
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Rave scene in Sydney. Mates add some
4:44
other people who. An infinitely more
4:46
technical ability to me when it came
4:49
to building web sites. And and we
4:51
just got talking about this idea of
4:53
whoop, the community in Sydney would really
4:55
benefit from. Having. A place to talked
4:57
about the music that we love celebrating. These are
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the showcasing this ah this and helping people find
5:01
the best parties because I didn't exist. And
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so. Are I was
5:06
born just a desert out of a
5:09
desire to just contribute meaningfully to the
5:11
community and the culture in Sydney. And
5:13
what we didn't realize at the time
5:15
was by creating something hyperlocal for Sydney.
5:18
It could them behind the local for all
5:20
these different cities around the world, as in
5:22
the sort of a database infrastructure you'd created
5:24
was essentially replicable because of the hype. A
5:26
localized where exactly and you know it. It
5:28
was like pre my Space Precise books and
5:30
it had a real community was kind of
5:32
built. For. Community by community and
5:34
it had a real. Community.
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Feel to it so you know every city
5:38
had it's own forum. And different people
5:41
who loved electronic music would go on there.
5:43
In his eye we kind of his party
5:45
and then they would meet up and that
5:47
We talk about the night online and and
5:49
things like that. And so it was a
5:51
social network Before social networks were what they
5:53
are today and. And
5:56
so we were. We.
5:59
Would. contributing meaningfully to
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the thing that we cared deeply about
6:04
and that was hugely rewarding. We never expected
6:07
it to become what it's become today but
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it was just as a kid I just
6:12
wanted to be a part of this thing and this
6:14
allowed me to be immersed in
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it in an even more meaningful way.
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Okay so a little
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interlude very quickly but I haven't told
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you fun fact so when I was younger
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used to love raving too I mean I still do but
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now I have a wife and child it's a lot harder
6:32
to find my excuses and I
6:34
was very inspired by RA back in the day and obviously like
6:36
all young people you know I want to go to raves can't
6:39
really afford them they're I mean not that
6:41
they're expensive but they are everything's expensive when you're younger
6:43
so I created a blog called live
6:45
rave review.com and I used to
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just blag my way I used to go to every
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rave I ever wanted to free eventually
6:52
tons of festivals all just from writing
6:54
you know just reviews yeah
6:56
of the raves which is amazing because
6:58
I and
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I was inspired by RA back in the day
7:02
that you could even do that and it
7:05
was so easy of it to set up a blog
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yeah um anyway just thought I'd let you know that
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because uh kindred spirits in terms of you know how
7:11
to get free tickets to raves well just write about
7:13
them and people would quite like to just you know
7:16
have been published it's niche yeah and you find niche
7:18
audiences and for the first three or four years that's
7:21
what it was yeah right like we weren't successful it was
7:23
just me and I didn't actually care about monetizing I just
7:25
wanted free tickets to raves but for the first three or
7:27
four years neither did we right you know we started it
7:29
just as a hobby it wasn't designed
7:31
to be a global media
7:33
brand and tech platform it
7:36
was designed to allow us to be close
7:38
to the music that we loved and so
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it was never about making
7:43
money initially you know I think we
7:45
had our costs were 50 a
7:47
month you know we started the business with I put in $400
7:49
and my co-founder Paul put
7:51
in $400 and that's the only money that's ever gone
7:53
into the business and and so it
7:55
never was about making money and and I think that was
7:58
one of the things that allowed it to actually Develop
8:00
organically and actually build this sense of
8:03
trust with the community Because
8:05
we weren't we didn't need to kind of accelerate
8:07
the growth or cut corners we could
8:09
actually just build something that we felt was
8:11
purposeful and Was actually
8:13
making a contribution to the culture if
8:16
you're an electronic music fan like me You
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imagine you got the coolest fucking job in the world You
8:20
go to all the raves you want to all the festivals you want to
8:22
meet all the artists you want to Hey, is
8:25
that true and being what are some great examples of
8:27
that then make me jealous? It's
8:30
definitely true. Okay. All right Commission
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complete. I can
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confirm that I Think
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for me it was the it
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was actually the moments that I had of realizing
8:46
how special What
8:48
we had created was that meant the most
8:51
to me. So I remember growing up in
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Sydney as a child. I heard
8:56
about this festival called sonar in Barcelona and
8:59
I just and I heard about it from
9:01
my brother and I just had such a desire
9:04
to One day go
9:06
to Barcelona as a participant and
9:09
just see the city and to see the festival
9:11
and then fast forward 1015
9:14
years. I'm not only am
9:16
I at sonar. We are Curating
9:18
and presenting one of the main stages at
9:20
the festival. We've got the RA logo on,
9:22
you know, both sides of the stage and
9:26
and we did that for a number of years and every
9:29
single year when I went and
9:31
I had that experience I arrived
9:34
and it literally took my breath away
9:36
because I realized that at one point
9:38
I was a little kid who just dreamt
9:41
one day of even being at this thing
9:43
and here we were
9:45
actually being an integrated part of it
9:47
being a you know, the international media
9:49
partner for the festival and actually Presenting
9:52
this stage and it never
9:54
didn't have a certain reverence to it whenever
9:56
I got there Even after having done it
9:58
for five years each year year when I
10:00
arrived there in June and I saw the stage, I
10:02
felt that little pulse in my heart and
10:05
it was interesting. We had lots
10:07
of those moments along the way of, you
10:09
know, there would be, I
10:12
remember there was a group called
10:14
Tyrant which used to be Sasha,
10:16
Lee Burridge and Craig Richards and
10:18
they would tour Sydney, they
10:20
would tour Australia, sorry, and
10:23
I would make a point of seeing them and sometimes Sasha
10:26
would play Friday Night in Sydney and Saturday Night in Melbourne
10:28
and I would see them Friday Night in Sydney and then
10:30
I would fly to Melbourne and for Saturday Night
10:33
and then I remember when we did our
10:35
ten year series of parties where we did
10:37
ten parties around the world in ten clubs
10:39
with ten secret headliners, we
10:41
had this idea of actually bringing Tyrant
10:44
back together for one night and
10:46
we actually managed to make that happen
10:48
and here, like I remember being that
10:51
kid again who was so
10:53
influenced by these artists
10:56
growing up to the point where I decided that this is
10:58
actually what I want to be my career and
11:00
here we were many years later actually like
11:03
putting on events and actually inviting them to
11:05
come and play and building
11:07
a relationship with these people who I'd looked up to
11:09
for so long and another one
11:12
of those moments was the
11:16
Robert Miles record, Children, probably
11:19
the first dance music record I fully
11:21
fell in love with and
11:23
potentially the record that started the journey
11:26
that I went on and
11:28
I about seven
11:31
years or eight years into RA, Robert
11:34
Miles actually emailed RA
11:36
just about something to do with his label
11:39
page to say hey, like I see you got my label page,
11:41
how do I make changes or what have you and
11:44
that for me was such
11:46
an incredible moment because here was the
11:49
producer and creator of this one
11:52
piece of music that potentially changed the
11:54
trajectory of my life And
11:56
now seven or eight years on, he's
11:59
emailing us. To. Say hey, like your
12:01
platform clearly mean so much to the industry that I
12:03
want to make sure that the why are represented on
12:05
it is accurate. It just
12:07
lie remedy day like I was just lay
12:09
was mansour It was just such an incredible
12:11
moment and and are it was beautiful. Given
12:13
I could write back to him and actually
12:15
just say like you don't know this part
12:17
in a your music actually was the thing
12:19
that I fell in love with initially and
12:21
and when he said. He
12:24
was he was very touched and know
12:26
thanks my just sort of I can
12:28
pay taxes yes yes yes yes organ
12:30
well I can say that I am
12:32
and so it was actually just growing
12:35
up with growing up personally and growing
12:37
up in this culture. In.
12:40
A way that just was filled with
12:43
these moments is. Kind
12:47
of reverence for. Where
12:49
I was at the time and where I
12:51
come from and I just dreamt about you
12:54
know, being a part of this community in
12:56
Sydney and he I was now part this
12:58
community globally. And and yep there and we
13:00
were. We were making it up as we
13:02
went along the whole time. Like I remember
13:04
the first. Party. We did
13:07
internationally. Was it the Miami Winter
13:09
Music Conference back when I was
13:11
a thing and. You.
13:13
Know there's many ways to. Organize.
13:16
A party, but quite often. What?
13:18
What happens is you. He higher than
13:20
you and you get the. Venue: For free.
13:23
You keep the door, money, Paleo costs
13:25
and end of any gets the ball
13:27
as like a simple us we're was
13:29
he didn't notice of the time so
13:31
we were like looking for have any
13:33
to do our first event at the
13:35
Monument to Music Conference. A first ever
13:37
international event ends is like forty two
13:39
thousand forty thousand fossella and and we
13:41
get introduced see. Ah, a
13:44
promoter there And a venue I know, Who.
13:48
We. Start speaking to and he says yeah
13:50
I've got this venue. Scary for you guys
13:52
ah is can be twelve grand. And.
13:55
And will sing like a lot of money but we don't
13:57
know any better and we need have any we want to
13:59
do this party. So Paul
14:01
actually had. About
14:03
that amount of money in savings. And.
14:05
Say he actually like transferred his personal savings
14:08
to this promoter in Miami see for us
14:10
to do a party at this club that
14:12
we'd never heard of or been to. So
14:15
we arrive in Miami and of this was a
14:17
we have to sell. More. Than
14:20
twelve grams where the tickets otherwise with
14:22
completely broke and we arrive in Miami
14:24
and the first thing we do is
14:27
like go to the club we realize
14:29
that the club is still being made
14:31
still people painting the walls in the
14:33
club and and the and in the
14:36
shower the next day. And.
14:39
This. Is a time. Also when like he was
14:41
already buy tickets in advance. your kind of like
14:43
relying on people's of turn off to the door
14:45
and we get and and we speak into the
14:47
promoter and and is what yeah no novels you'll
14:49
definitely ready. Definitely do it Anyway that time comes
14:51
round to the to the. To
14:54
the event and we are. We.
14:57
What we walked in and this
14:59
daughters both open in about an
15:01
hour and still people painting the
15:03
like central columns in the club
15:05
and to the point where like
15:07
the pied still drying his people
15:09
are entering and fortunately for us
15:11
the party was hugely successful and
15:13
we made. You. Know probably like
15:15
four thousand, five hundred dollars or something.
15:18
like enough to us like to cover
15:20
I toss with this you know hugely
15:22
successful party and it was just a
15:24
good example is just really how green
15:27
we were and how much we had
15:29
to learn. but it was also a
15:31
beautiful experience. but am. And
15:33
not mistake with medical. Best
15:35
part in the world. What's. Your
15:38
opinion style. I'm telling you that with the by
15:40
far his head was it was a guy like
15:42
a way on was the most of us. both
15:44
of us festival. Hours of us rice.
15:49
Blustery, I think is the best festival agreed
15:51
in the world. I'm.
15:54
Burning. Mans incredible, but I think of it
15:56
more as a social experiment. totally agree with
15:58
or without and a festival. Crown
16:05
in Amsterdam in its
16:07
time. Was. For a
16:09
the best club. In. The world. That.
16:12
Was a very, very special place.
16:14
And part of what made it
16:17
special was it's impermanence. And.
16:19
I think there's a magic. In that. And.
16:25
And. I think the end in London. Nascar.
16:28
And back in the day and
16:30
was a really really special club
16:32
and along with fabric. Those.
16:34
Two places where she usually influential in
16:36
my last on rent fabric. You pause
16:38
the owed is to see yourself nine.
16:40
I went last if there. Is
16:43
still relevant. You know
16:46
Fab represents yes if is supposedly both s
16:48
am I know I'm like offer goes awry.
16:50
If everyone's time a week around, the fact
16:52
that I'm going to rave a light riot
16:55
can probably get through Monday. Suck up to
16:57
say tends to be the way. And
17:01
I. We
17:03
know even in my heyday couple times a
17:05
month maybe three by need some time off
17:07
I imagine news to goes right over time.
17:10
So. How did you function
17:12
and over you? Just completely sober?
17:14
thousand? that? I
17:17
remarkable hangover. Resilience,
17:20
Where. I. Used to
17:23
call it bounced back ability and it
17:25
was. Second, To none. And
17:28
that's a secret source of running businesses. and I
17:30
literally was once he has also running the business
17:32
because. I. Remember the year.
17:35
Before. I got divorced My ex
17:37
wife said to me. Do.
17:40
You realize how many weekends you're away?
17:42
Last. Year. And. This,
17:45
he didn't feel any different. Nothing special about
17:47
another. An absolute know it it. As
17:49
she says, thirty seven. And
17:52
to stay second weekends away? Rating?
17:55
Pretty. much the guys in there was some weddings
17:57
into birthdays is buffy never primarily had like things
17:59
like wedding Yeah, exactly. And
18:02
so it really became such a part of
18:04
who I was. And I was also so
18:07
energized by being in
18:09
these environments that I
18:12
was kind of riding high on
18:14
those experiences. And I think
18:18
it also was a level of disconnection to
18:20
myself that it actually meant
18:23
that I wasn't fully feeling actually perhaps how
18:25
tired I was or how stressed I was.
18:28
And I also really wanted
18:30
to show people within
18:32
the company that you could do both.
18:35
You could go out. And actually
18:37
going out is an important part of working at
18:39
the company. One unique thing about RA is every
18:42
single person in the company is
18:44
a raver. Yeah, of course. So from the person in
18:46
accounts to the engineering team to the editorial team, of
18:48
course. Without it's one of the things
18:51
that we always said from the beginning. We want to
18:53
make sure that every single person in the business is
18:55
connected with this shared passion point. And I think that's
18:57
one of the best things that we ever did in
19:00
terms of one of the best cultural decisions we ever made.
19:03
But I also wanted to show that we're
19:05
here to work as well. And so almost
19:07
like a badge of honor, I would
19:09
be the first one in the office on
19:12
Monday morning. So if people saw me out,
19:14
they would know, OK, he went out and
19:16
he definitely goes out. But there
19:18
he is Monday morning, first one in at
19:20
the office. You were out, but you were also in
19:22
in. Exactly. Got it. And I
19:24
was trying to lead
19:27
from the front in that way
19:29
to show that those two things could
19:31
be combined and they were both important.
19:34
And so that was fueling my
19:37
bounce back ability. Bounce back ability. So
19:39
you could have been a cricketer after all. Perhaps
19:42
should have been. Naughty cricketer. You're built
19:44
for it. That would have been. That's
19:46
the next life. So first
19:48
four years, really just a hobby. When
19:51
does that change? So after we
19:53
were doing it as a side hustle for
19:55
the first four years, and
19:58
I Remember actually being. The in
20:00
St. Paul Paul was working for
20:02
design and development agency I was
20:05
working for advertising or marketing agency
20:07
and pulled in Berlin May in
20:09
London and I remember even actually
20:11
and I will actually was walking
20:13
through that yesterday was says working
20:16
for this. Advertising.
20:18
Agency and then at lunchtime I would
20:20
meet up in Golden Square inside with
20:22
the person who was selling the banner
20:24
ads on our I Said The Times
20:27
Three actually had three full time staff
20:29
working on our A whilst we were
20:31
still full time for other people, and
20:33
then after four years we had enough
20:36
money in the bank account from selling
20:38
on our advertising on the web sites.
20:40
C Survive. And. So we thought
20:42
you know what is got three months? We
20:44
can always get another job, another ad agency
20:46
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the show notes. Building
23:02
all companies tough, building
23:04
bootstrap companies come with
23:07
particular limitations, of course. How
23:09
did you deal with that?
23:12
I've always been a very optimistic person. So
23:15
I actually didn't see a
23:17
lot of the limitations that might come
23:19
otherwise with not having access
23:21
to a large chunk of
23:23
capital. Typical entrepreneur. Yeah. Naively
23:26
optimistic. And
23:30
also, because we never had
23:32
financial targets in terms of like, okay, we need
23:34
to be at this number to still be to
23:37
make investors happy or to do whatever.
23:40
And our running costs were so low
23:43
because our office at
23:45
the beginning was a friend who was also running
23:47
another startup. I would go to his house in
23:49
the morning. We would sit at either end of
23:52
his long dining room table, and we would work
23:54
together. And we did that for like a year
23:56
and a half. That was the office, basically. And
23:59
so our overheads were very. low and we would just
24:01
hire someone new when we had
24:03
enough money in the bank account to do so.
24:05
So, you know, initially we were three people and
24:07
then we were four people and then we were
24:10
five people. But it was always based on this
24:12
idea of we wanted to build an economically sustainable
24:14
business. So we never kind of overextended ourselves and
24:16
put us under undue pressure because we hired 20
24:18
people and then we needed to figure out how
24:21
we were going to pay them. So we grew
24:23
it in a very organic way. And I think
24:25
the the world and the Internet was a
24:27
different place back then. We had realistically
24:30
seven or eight years of doing what we were doing
24:34
before anyone really cared, you know, in terms of
24:36
scale. We cared and we because we didn't mind
24:38
if 10 people read us or 10,000 people
24:41
were reading the site. It was the same to us like we
24:43
were just excited to be a part of it. We were passionate
24:45
about what we were doing, what we were building, what we were
24:47
creating together. And but
24:49
realistically, it took a long time before
24:52
it really started to build scale and
24:54
the awareness really, really grew. And so
24:56
up until that point, like the team
24:58
was small. And because we spent the
25:00
first four years doing it without
25:02
taking out a penny, we had a lot of
25:04
other people, members of the community who saw what
25:06
we were doing, saw that we were doing it
25:09
for the love of it and decided that they
25:11
wanted to contribute and be part of it, too.
25:13
So, you know, the initial like I always
25:15
say, like, I raise the sum of its parts, like Paul
25:17
and I, yes, we connected initially
25:19
and we had this idea and we developed this
25:22
idea. But there's been hundreds and hundreds of people
25:24
that have contributed meaningfully over the years from the
25:26
first four or five years volunteers who were just
25:28
doing it because they love the music as well,
25:30
through to other people who have
25:32
had, you know, 10 plus year careers working
25:35
on the platform that they've all contributed in their own way.
25:37
And so, yeah,
25:40
I don't remember this, these moments
25:42
of like grand limitations, because it
25:44
always felt like we were just
25:46
growing at a natural pace and we didn't
25:48
have this external pressure to grow artificially
25:51
or to accelerate growth to hit certain
25:54
targets. And
25:57
I think it's very different now if Now
25:59
if you start. Hang. Out
26:02
of evil. if it looks good, other people
26:04
will look at that and they'll try and
26:06
raise money. Not, I do it faster than
26:08
you are. The world is different and like
26:10
we have seven or eight years are just
26:12
doing things our way and building trust and
26:14
building a community that I think is really
26:16
help sustain the brand and the company since
26:18
then. And because that's something it's very difficult
26:20
to buy or to manufacture and say actually
26:22
I think we. Started. At
26:24
at a time when. It.
26:27
Was okay if something. Took a while to gripe.
26:29
And. You know,
26:31
whilst we didn't take investment, we invested
26:33
so much time. I think the cost
26:35
was actually a personal cost. I remember
26:37
waking up at. Five. In the
26:39
morning. Working. Said. Two
26:42
three hours then going to the job that
26:44
was paying me. then at lunchtime been a
26:46
meeting and gardens grab but then doing more
26:49
work than finishing that job than going time
26:51
working til midnight when I am gonna miss
26:53
the as the as the project grew. It
26:56
just required more and more and more
26:58
of us and so you know, really
27:00
honest relationship to the time because my
27:02
relationship was with All right and. So.
27:05
We you know I'd I always say it. it
27:07
it happen so organically that I think if if
27:09
someone had told the nineteen year old version of
27:11
me. This is how side you're
27:13
gonna have to work for the next twenty
27:16
years for this thing to be. This thing
27:18
the nineteen year old me doesn't accept like
27:20
no way like it, but it happened organically
27:22
Lights. We just started this thing and we
27:24
committed to a community five. I'm going to
27:27
defy bits of content a day, polls in
27:29
a different bits of content, updates and less
27:31
to see what happens and Canada manageable, but
27:33
we were working so hard all of the
27:36
times, especially while to do another job as
27:38
well, that it had an impact on. Relationships.
27:41
Obviously and. And
27:43
like personal well being suicide committed to this
27:46
project and. And. I guess there's
27:48
like an unseen cost of that that. Adds.
27:50
Up over time. And. So
27:53
think that's where the. That's.
27:55
Where the impact as fell on a personal
27:57
level perhaps more than. A failure
27:59
on a business like because I think we actually
28:01
grew in the way that we. Hope to
28:03
grow. We're gonna grime thirty percent year on year.
28:06
Basically. Since the beginning cause it
28:08
aside. And. Said
28:10
business wise as well as felt like
28:12
the trajectory been consistent and solid and
28:14
but I think that level as commitment
28:16
an effort that was required on a
28:18
personal point of view. Ah,
28:21
That's. Whether that's where there's an unseen cost and
28:23
that's where I think actually there's some. You.
28:26
Know in retrospect this and funniest
28:28
things I wish I'd done differently.
28:30
And when things take a toll,
28:32
you know sometimes people act out.
28:35
And lash out and have these that is
28:37
he mentions of unseen. Unconscious
28:39
behaviors. With. Any moments
28:41
of shame and there any moments you're embarrassed
28:43
by in your leadership style in the way
28:45
that you showed up at work. The
28:49
one that hangs heaviest on my
28:51
heart is the fracturing as my
28:53
relationship with my toes under pull.
28:56
if he think of. This.
28:58
Is the longest standing relationship I've ever had in my
29:00
life. Because. We've basically spoken
29:02
to each other every day. So
29:05
more than two decades And. We.
29:07
Became very close as a result of
29:09
building this thing together and Poland. I
29:11
have very different people the in a
29:13
way that's beautiful complementary of what we're
29:15
building. But
29:18
about I'd say probably about. Seven.
29:20
Eight years ago, that relationship started
29:22
to fracture. And. Who
29:24
noticed. It
29:28
fractured before I think either of us really
29:30
noticed am of their can't speak for him
29:33
but it's. Looking back, it was
29:35
fracturing earlier than I noticed. And.
29:38
I wish I'd had the skills
29:40
and attributes to be able to
29:42
course correct that. Because.
29:45
He nods had that kind of deteriorated for. A.
29:47
Number a number of years
29:49
and. Some.
29:51
Me I think it was. Me: Not feeling
29:54
secure and else. In. myself that
29:56
i was projecting a lot of my
29:58
own insecurities on to him and not
30:01
being, not really having the skills or
30:03
the trust in myself or the
30:06
knowledge to be able to have
30:09
the sort of conversations that we needed to
30:11
have to acknowledge what was happening in
30:14
a way that would have allowed us to heal
30:17
together. And that's
30:19
actually happened later, like our relationship now is
30:21
in as good a place as I
30:23
remember it being. And I'm really proud of the work
30:25
we've done to get there. But it's really
30:27
the work we've done individually. And
30:30
I think
30:33
in retrospect, it's,
30:36
you know, I believe you can only really lead
30:38
others to the level that you can lead yourself. And
30:41
I, you know,
30:43
growing up starting this company really young, and
30:47
learning a lot just as I went, I
30:51
didn't have the ability to fully know who
30:53
I was or lead myself in a way
30:55
that allowed me
30:57
to best do that for others. And really, as
30:59
a CEO, that's essentially what we're trying to do,
31:02
right? Build an environment where other people can be
31:04
successful as themselves and feel proud of their contribution
31:07
to a mission they believe in. And
31:10
we did we did that successfully. But
31:13
if I look back on my
31:17
own journey within that, and when you talk about was
31:19
there something that I feel a sense
31:21
of shame for or disappointment? Yeah,
31:23
it's definitely it's the fracturing of that relationship
31:25
because it's, you know, it's
31:27
such a deep relationship as a result of the journey
31:29
that we've been on together. And
31:34
my own ego
31:36
in some way, limited
31:38
my capacity to
31:43
work through that with him in an honest and
31:45
vulnerable way. You know, I was able
31:48
to just look at the things that he wasn't
31:50
doing, or the things that frustrated me, you
31:52
know, without the sense of awareness that actually
31:54
these are the things that exist inside of
31:56
me, and I'm effectively projecting them onto him.
31:59
But What actually happened? Were you
32:01
able to communicate this stuff to him? Were you
32:03
just being passive aggressive to each other for years
32:05
until it boiled over? Yeah, like
32:08
definitely passive aggressive. You
32:11
know, just subconsciously
32:14
and consciously just like distancing
32:16
ourselves. And
32:19
I think there's also there's an unseen cost
32:21
within the business. You know, it kind of feels like
32:23
if you look at it in a family context, it's
32:25
kind of like, you know, mum and dad fighting and
32:27
mum and dad think that no one notices, but everyone
32:30
notices. And that's just
32:32
not helpful. And, you know,
32:34
I think great leadership in that moment would
32:36
have been, hey, like this thing, the reality
32:38
of this situation is this, like it
32:41
needs to change how we're going to deal with that. And,
32:44
you know, it went on way longer than it than
32:47
it than it should have. And yeah,
32:49
and I feel a real sense of sadness. Who called
32:51
her? Who who was
32:54
the person who clearly identified
32:56
that this was happening to create the moment of
32:58
change? What
33:02
a good question. I
33:09
don't know. We're
33:11
getting feedback from your colleagues, the two of you. Yes,
33:16
we were. I
33:19
think I think it was
33:23
becoming less enjoyable to
33:25
work together. That was a significant shift.
33:28
It had been really
33:30
enjoyable up until that point. And there'd
33:33
been a real mutual respect for the
33:35
complementary skills and characteristics that we both
33:37
have. And I just remember
33:39
that it just wasn't as
33:41
enjoyable anymore. And
33:45
and I would just
33:48
distance myself from from him
33:50
in in projects or in meetings or what
33:53
have you in a way that was
33:56
Not helpful in the fact that we were
33:58
growing this company together. And
34:00
I remember. Staff.
34:03
Used to talk about the fact that there
34:05
was. A disharmony
34:07
at the top. But we
34:09
wouldn't necessarily have any. We realize
34:11
how. Present.
34:14
A was. Or. The impact that
34:16
it was having and if we had I think
34:18
we would have dealt with it sooner and but
34:20
it wasn't There wasn't. On
34:23
I look back on it now and I
34:25
realized that we should is had to conversations
34:27
we ended up having in these facilitated environments
34:29
far sooner and I remember we used to
34:32
walk. We. Should just go on
34:34
walks at lunchtime together along the canal
34:36
and a London. And that's when we
34:38
started to have these deep conversations about.
34:41
The fact that we we wanted to really
34:43
happy ending what we were doing and things
34:45
that needed needed to change, but I can't
34:47
remember who actually brought it to the for
34:49
because it felt like a very much like
34:52
a gradual. but it's all that. we just
34:54
kind of been slipping into a place where.
34:57
It was. Not. Good for us
34:59
or the business reader be threatening to lightly the
35:01
company with a soul I love We don't sort
35:03
this out. Access to happen. When.
35:08
I remember at one point I thought, if
35:10
we can't sort this out. This
35:12
is Not working for me and.
35:16
Now I've given my life to these companies to
35:18
the prospect of stepping away. Like
35:20
a reason, credibly jarring for me. And
35:23
and I think that was one of the things that.
35:26
Highlighted. How much we needed to
35:28
do to actually repair this and that was
35:30
interview with it was in the best interest
35:33
of the company that we repair but also
35:35
in the best interest of ourselves because we'd
35:37
given so much to this and for it
35:39
and I the be as enjoyable as it
35:41
once was and and I think also just
35:44
up like the the pressure's in the stress
35:46
of running a company which gets to on
35:48
your one hundred a hundred and twenty full
35:50
time people as people who'd never been in
35:53
that situation before. That. Is
35:55
I often liken it to
35:57
a. I can lobster being
35:59
boiled. where over a number of
36:01
years the work just
36:03
gets more and more and more and
36:05
the responsibility gets more and more to
36:07
the point where you don't even necessarily
36:09
notice it. And it actually wasn't until
36:11
I stepped away that I actually felt
36:13
how much weight I've been carrying up
36:15
until that point in terms of responsibility.
36:18
And so I think the stresses of
36:20
just running this business also was taking
36:22
its toll on us personally, which made
36:24
it more
36:26
difficult for us to nurture
36:29
the relationship together. And I think in my own,
36:32
obviously I can only speak for me, but had
36:34
I been
36:36
willing to share that, or had I even been aware of it,
36:38
but had I been willing to share it and say like, I'm
36:42
really struggling here. Like this, this
36:44
feels like a lot and I'm
36:46
not sure where we go from here. I
36:49
think that would have created the space for perhaps
36:51
him to share something similar and for us to
36:53
work through it together. I
36:57
remember our last conversation and it feels
36:59
like you went through a real transition. I
37:02
want to know what about your
37:04
leadership style has changed
37:06
from who you were to who
37:08
you are now. So 20 years, how has
37:11
your leadership style changed? I
37:19
would say authenticity. I
37:21
don't think I knew who I was then, and I
37:24
certainly wasn't confident enough to show up
37:26
as myself. Whereas
37:28
now I feel more confident in who
37:31
I am and more
37:34
confident in my ability to actually just show
37:36
up in any given situation as that person
37:38
without the need to seek validation in terms
37:40
of how the other person might respond to
37:43
me. I'm
37:45
more confident in my self-assessment and actually being able
37:48
to speak to that, which I
37:50
don't think I was back then.
37:53
When I started Resident Advisor, I was only 19. So
37:56
We were really making it up as
37:59
we went along and I said, the
38:01
was and and I remember these moments
38:03
in as the company grew lab. Throughout
38:06
the year fifty one way to the I would
38:08
just be as may as I could bake and
38:10
then we would get to that. We would have
38:13
these kind of summit as we used to call
38:15
them. They would get the whole company together and
38:17
been at the beginning that was twenty people and
38:19
and at one point I was up to one
38:21
hundred people and I would stand up in front
38:23
of those people and I would guess kind of
38:25
a year and speech to kind of recap how
38:27
the year was and share some thoughts and. I
38:29
would. Essentially. Step
38:33
into the role of wise to see I
38:35
needed to be. And so
38:37
I would get up on stage and I
38:39
would talk with dramatic pauses and intonations and
38:41
hand gestures and things like that in and
38:43
it would be like an over prepared speech
38:46
or presentation and I would come off the
38:48
stage thinking of absolutely nailed that That's exactly
38:50
was he I should dates and then I
38:52
would have people come up to me and
38:54
say. Hey. Who's
38:56
that? And. Why?
38:59
Didn't realize I was doing was actually.
39:02
Stepping into a role. Rather,
39:04
Than remaining authentic to. so I was.
39:07
And I think that was because I
39:09
was not secure enough within myself to
39:11
actually stand there in front of everyone
39:13
just as myself. just as to see
39:15
Yahoo for Cozier built the company and.
39:18
On it's license I'm someone's anymore.
39:21
And. And the willingness
39:23
to. Actually, Just be
39:25
as authentically me as possible in any
39:27
given situation. Professional, personal, I would say
39:30
the biggest in my. Approach
39:32
to leadership. How much
39:34
about is a function of age and
39:36
maturity? Or.
39:38
The fact that. You know, running
39:40
narratives through our heads state you're successful
39:43
now is built a successful company so
39:45
there's more confidence to say. I've
39:47
made a I'm a success. I
39:52
think we were successful company. Even
39:54
when I wasn't able to be fully
39:57
authentic, Myself. Am.
39:59
To actually like fully. To I was
40:01
like the company was actually I'm
40:03
tracking really successfully. And.
40:07
I was tethering. A
40:09
significant portion of my identity and my confidence
40:11
to the success of the company. So.
40:14
Actually, like I was energized and
40:16
emboldened by. You. Know the external validation
40:18
that I would get a lot of people saying
40:20
wow, like this thing so big and you're so
40:22
young and it's so great and all of these
40:25
things would actually give me this. I
40:27
guess is kind of what artificial confidence. That.
40:29
Things were the with things were going well
40:31
and that I was doing a good job
40:33
and and it wasn't until. You
40:36
know I'm a last moments actually going through
40:38
a divorce that. I was forced
40:40
to essentially have a breakdown personally
40:43
and then rebuild myself. From that
40:45
point that I actually realize the
40:47
gap between. Who. I was
40:50
and I was pretending to be. And.
40:52
Saw it actually say it wasn't the
40:54
success of the business that actually drugs
40:56
that change or gave me the deeper
40:58
sense of confidence. It was actually. A
41:01
life event. That. Forced
41:04
me to. Self
41:07
in choir. And. Really
41:09
discover who? Who. I was into I am.
41:13
So divorce is obviously quite a big
41:15
like transition moment. Big change in your
41:17
life and people move through the change
41:19
either positive or negative is are they
41:21
yours has been very positive, very reflective.
41:23
I'm I'm wondering if you mentioned just
41:26
authentic. I'm wondering if you want showing
41:28
up as are authentic self our home
41:30
as well and that's what led to
41:32
conversations. A Divorce A big change in
41:34
your personal life. Yeah,
41:36
I don't think I was, but unknowingly.
41:39
So. I. Didn't
41:41
have a true sense of who I
41:44
was. said probably thirty five years and.
41:47
You. Know the thing that actually spock
41:49
the transition was. I in
41:51
ninety nine percent of people's phones. I
41:54
was Nick era. And.
41:56
At one point I ask myself the question,
41:59
who am I. without
42:01
this company and I realised I
42:03
couldn't answer it. And it was that
42:05
moment where I knew, okay, I need
42:08
to step away and I need to make some changes in
42:10
my life to actually be able to answer that question. And
42:12
as long as I'm tethered to it in a day-to-day capacity,
42:14
I'll never truly know. And so it
42:18
was, but the
42:20
moment of divorce really sparked that self-inquiry
42:23
that led me to that question. And
42:25
so, yeah, I think it was a
42:27
huge blessing. I remember my acupuncturist who
42:30
worked not far from here actually, she,
42:33
when I saw her the day after,
42:36
you know, it all happened, she
42:39
said, well
42:41
done, you've done this on purpose. And
42:44
I couldn't wrap my head around it at the time. And
42:46
I remember that was just ringing around and around and around
42:48
in my head. And I look back
42:51
on that now and she was right. You
42:53
know, I didn't have the, I think
42:55
for men, especially men who grow up
42:57
in, you know, patriarchal condition society, we
43:01
often need a moment of deep
43:05
distress to actually break
43:07
ourselves open and actually start
43:09
to really inquire as to
43:11
who we truly are. And
43:15
it's, you know, that moment was
43:17
so dark for me and I felt so lost because
43:20
I identified as a husband and
43:22
I was central to a great group of
43:24
friends and I was co-CEO of this company
43:26
and all of these things were that were
43:28
kind of shaping my identity to the world,
43:30
but also to myself kind of
43:32
evaporated in, you
43:35
know, in a split second. And I
43:37
felt hugely lost at that moment. I didn't know who
43:39
I was. And so the rebuilding
43:42
process kind of began at that moment. And
43:46
it was in hindsight, it
43:48
was a huge blessing because I don't think had I
43:50
not had that level of Distress
43:52
and felt as lost as I did, I
43:54
wouldn't have necessarily been incentivized in the same
43:56
way to, you know, fumble around in the
43:58
dark and find the. The ladder and
44:01
pull myself out. and it
44:03
was.e multiple year. Journey.
44:06
That. Actually really helped me learn more
44:08
about who I was, learn to trust
44:10
that and. Feel. Worthy
44:12
in that senses who I was
44:14
and side to combat your question
44:16
around. Not. Showing up authentically
44:18
at home, In in hindsight
44:21
know, but I wasn't conscious of of the time.
44:23
And. Am because I don't
44:25
think I had that like self confidence
44:28
with the myself to be fully myself
44:30
and and I think what happens in
44:32
that situation and I see it happening
44:34
lots of relationships is. When we're.
44:37
Either consciously or subconsciously.
44:39
Playing. A role within a relationship. We.
44:42
Never fully trust the last the comes from.
44:45
Because. Subconsciously we now it's not the authentic
44:47
version of us, liked it as a facade. I
44:49
guess. I you're playing a role exactly right. And
44:51
to be conscious or unconscious, it was unconscious for
44:53
me. But. I think the impacted my is.
44:56
We. Can never truly trust and love
44:58
the Comes Back because we're not been
45:00
fully authentic and. That
45:02
was a genuine had to. And
45:05
I am I. I'm grateful for that
45:07
for that moment, as. Difficult. As
45:09
it was and you mentioned earlier this sort of
45:11
showing off his yourself fifty one weeks of the
45:13
air and and the fifty seconds you've got your
45:15
in a keynote we can you go to present
45:18
in front of the company in your a different
45:20
person. So who are you in the fifty one
45:22
weeks like how are you describing yourself and is
45:24
that a good version of yourself anyway. Definitely
45:28
up. It's a it's as
45:30
a version. I'm I'm I'm
45:32
proud of them. I was
45:34
optimistic, playful, very personable, So.
45:37
Really able to. Get. On with
45:39
people. And.
45:41
Build. An environment where people felt.
45:44
Supported. And. Motivated.
45:47
To contribute to the project and so
45:49
I am proud of that version and.
45:52
There was. It. Was just
45:55
a real sense of and this is
45:57
could is outsell genuinely to me like
45:59
we just in this together and were
46:01
trying to build this idea and create
46:03
this company with this shared set of
46:06
skills and what. I.
46:08
That's why. Also weird when I kind of
46:11
went into this like C O mode where
46:13
I I I. I was kind
46:15
of stepping outside of myself to become something that
46:17
I thought I needed to be. That actually, throughout
46:19
the rest of the year I didn't think I
46:21
needed to be that. but. That's.
46:24
Borne out of just and insecurity or
46:26
camp stepping on the front of his
46:28
company. They need a a leader see
46:31
I so I bet a perform that
46:33
role. Where is actually if we just
46:35
read my since. The As
46:37
Optimistic. Not. Easily sometimes
46:40
charismatic. Version. Of myself than
46:42
it would have maintained that connection and actually. What?
46:45
I'm saying at that point would have landed. With.
46:48
Much more depth and realness. Said.
46:50
What happened in those moments? So sounds to me
46:52
like there was a feedback loop that really opened
46:54
your eyes. Enough. Fifty Second
46:57
week as we call it. That one week
46:59
where things were different. Was. That I
47:01
open a will happen. Who told you
47:03
the you one yourself. While. I
47:05
was actually came after. After.
47:08
The moment as divorce. I.
47:11
Was. Effectively broken open
47:13
and. But. I I
47:15
didn't leave the company at that point. I kept
47:17
working. And. And
47:20
so I would come into work and I would
47:22
be. Some. In a meeting
47:24
room with one or two colleagues? And
47:27
I was physically there. but not
47:29
mentally. That ends. I.
47:32
Was. No longer able like the.
47:35
That. The ceilings I had was
47:37
so strong and overwhelming with what was
47:39
going on for me personally that I
47:41
wasn't able to override them cognitively and
47:44
I might just start crying in the
47:46
middle of amazing and. And. Will
47:48
you cry previously? Not only on some
47:51
doubts, Css is at an. animal
47:54
i will you out with that
47:56
they like nightmare sit on the
47:58
home crying and And
48:00
so I would find
48:02
myself in a position where, you know, one
48:04
of my colleagues and we have to remember this is a
48:06
company where essentially colleagues become friends. We're
48:09
literally we're in this together and some of
48:11
my most deep and important friendships have developed
48:13
through people working at the company and me
48:15
working with them. And and
48:17
I would just start crying in a meeting and
48:19
and one of them would be like, you
48:21
know, are you okay or what's up? And
48:23
I was no longer
48:26
able to pretend that I was okay. And
48:29
so I would just have to
48:31
tell them or choose to just tell them how it
48:33
is. And what
48:35
I didn't realize at the time was that
48:39
by me as the co-leader of
48:42
the company being deeply
48:44
vulnerable in that moment, it
48:47
actually vastly increased the level of
48:49
trust and intimacy that I had
48:51
with people within the company. And
48:54
there isn't a high functioning leadership team out
48:56
there that isn't built on trust and intimacy.
48:59
And what I didn't realize was my
49:01
unwillingness to show those parts of myself
49:05
was actually creating a barrier
49:07
and distance that wasn't
49:09
conducive to building a great company. And
49:12
so by me breaking down in those moments and
49:16
actually revealing myself fully, it
49:19
then created the space for other people to do
49:21
the same in a way
49:23
that transformed many of my relationships, which
49:25
I thought were good, but they became
49:27
great as a result. And it was
49:29
in those moments and in those conversations
49:32
that I started to
49:34
get feedback about things like that
49:36
keynote address like who was that? Because all
49:38
of a sudden it created space for people
49:41
to actually give me honest
49:43
feedback in a way that I could truly
49:46
hear it and then receive
49:49
it openheartedly and then make the
49:51
necessary changes. So it
49:54
took my vulnerability and my
49:56
willingness to reveal who I was
49:59
and how I was. I was feeling to
50:01
create the space for other people within the company to
50:03
realise that it's safe for them to do the same.
50:06
So after two decades of
50:08
building the company from a
50:11
side hustle thing that is
50:14
just for fun because you want to get a race to
50:17
the largest independent ticketing website in
50:19
the world, definitely electronic
50:21
dance music website full
50:23
stop, right? Yeah.
50:27
Like building a really big company like that
50:29
over two decades, I suppose you've gone through
50:31
all of this work and sounds like you've
50:33
got to a really great point and you're
50:35
so in love with what you do
50:37
and the culture of the team where you've got to personally.
50:40
Why leave? Because
50:45
I couldn't answer that question of
50:48
who am I without RA and
50:51
I knew that I would never be
50:53
able to truly answer that question whilst
50:55
I was tethered to it on
50:58
a day to day basis. And when did that
51:00
question first appear in your head? 2018
51:05
probably. Same time as you were divorced. And
51:14
I'd also realised that around the
51:16
same time I realised that I'd never been
51:18
bored. You have
51:20
to remember I'm so committed to this project. I love
51:22
it so much. I'm so passionate about what we're building.
51:24
I love the team. I love what we're contributing to
51:26
the culture that in every
51:29
spare moment I
51:31
was working. It didn't feel like work, but
51:34
I was working. So even if I was at a festival
51:37
and there was a few hours before the group
51:39
were going to go
51:41
on an adventure or what have you, like
51:43
I'd be answering emails or if I'm on
51:45
holiday, like I'm waking up early answering
51:48
the emails just to like make sure that we're on top
51:50
of things and then I'm enjoying the holiday. And
51:53
it never felt like I was working. Like it just, it
51:55
was, I was so enmeshed with it. And
51:59
the. Then I had
52:01
a realization that I'd never been
52:04
bored and I really felt like there would be
52:07
a benefit to being bored and to feeling
52:09
bored. I knew that
52:11
whilst I was running it on a day-to-day basis,
52:13
I would never actually have the
52:15
ability to be bored for an extended period. So
52:18
actually when I stepped away, I actually committed
52:20
to being bored for three months and
52:23
that meant literally like going to the
52:25
beach without my phone, spending entire afternoons
52:27
on the couch, not reading, not looking
52:29
at my phone, not listening to music,
52:31
just fully immersing myself in the discomfort
52:33
of being bored and did
52:35
that for three months. That
52:38
was something that never could have happened if I was still
52:40
working on a day-to-day basis for the company. Then
52:43
it was at the end of that
52:46
three months that I was
52:48
like, okay, what now? What
52:50
will I do next? But
52:52
before you get to what now, what question did you answer?
52:55
So who did you find out you were? What
52:57
happened in a process like that? It's
53:03
very much an inward journey and
53:05
I remember actually the one
53:08
really significant moment of change actually was I
53:10
was sat in my first therapy session in
53:12
2018 and the therapist that
53:17
came very well recommended and I sat down
53:19
with him and I was explaining my situation
53:21
to him. I
53:24
was explaining things to him that felt really important to me and
53:27
he said, none of that matters and
53:29
I was like, what? He said, the only
53:31
thing that matters is your
53:33
relationship to yourself and
53:36
it took me three weeks of saying
53:39
that question again and again in my
53:41
mind to start to even realize what
53:44
that meant. Once
53:48
I did, I realized I
53:50
don't have a relationship with myself. I've got
53:53
a relationship with lots of other people. I
53:55
used to think I had 50 best friends. All
53:58
around the world, one of the most beautiful people.
54:00
beautiful things about running this international company, being
54:03
immersed in the culture that I love was
54:05
I developed these really beautiful relationships with people
54:08
around the world built on this shared passion
54:10
point. And, but I didn't
54:13
realize that there was an unseen cost
54:15
of giving myself to these relationships.
54:17
Like I used to not walk to the shops
54:19
to get milk without calling someone. And
54:21
it could be like someone in London, it could
54:23
be someone in Buenos Aires, whatever, but I was
54:25
always just in contact with someone else. I'd
54:27
go on holidays, never on my own. I was always with big
54:29
groups and I'd be the one organizing it. And,
54:32
and so it was a real
54:34
kind of course correction in terms of like how I do
54:37
life. And so it
54:39
was a realization that, oh, I don't have a
54:41
relationship with myself, but I need to, and
54:43
I want to. And then
54:45
that became the primary focus.
54:48
And that was the journey that I'm still
54:50
on very much. Yeah, I know.
54:53
I always think there's a really odd paradox
54:56
that, you know, we're suffering
54:58
from such a mental health epidemic.
55:00
And the core function
55:02
of that is loneliness. And
55:05
yeah, the great unlock to finding
55:07
inner peace and joy is ironically
55:10
solitude, you know, chosen
55:12
solitude. It's obviously a very different thing,
55:14
but it's so fascinating to me how
55:18
the two extreme ends of the
55:20
spectrum of happiness
55:22
and fulfillment and despair
55:24
and sadness is actually the idea
55:26
of being alone. Yeah.
55:28
It's just weird to me. But I mean, obviously many
55:31
things are paradoxes in life, but you know, that one
55:33
particular, you know, hearing you talk with
55:35
such passion about being given the space to be
55:37
alone and what that unlocks for
55:39
you. And just
55:41
the realization that one should
55:43
be alone and one should spend
55:45
time alone. And for the next
55:47
couple of years in that process, I actually swung
55:49
the pendulum far too much the other way. Like
55:52
how people often do, right? Yeah, I went from
55:54
being, you know, central to a big
55:56
group of friends, always with people, organizing big events,
55:58
all of these things. who just
56:01
literally like always being on my own, hardly
56:03
ever seeing anyone. And actually
56:05
learning to really love that in
56:07
a way that the old Nick never
56:09
could have imagined. And eventually
56:12
got myself to a point where I started to love it
56:14
too much. And I realized that I needed to actually like,
56:17
come back and find the middle
56:19
way. You mentioned, you started
56:21
the business at 19 years old and
56:24
it grew 30% year on year, pretty
56:26
much like clockwork until COVID. Obviously
56:30
COVID is a pivotal moment for a lot of
56:32
businesses and many failed, but I can't even imagine
56:36
when people can't go raving, they can't get tickets, they
56:38
can't go out, they can't do things. What it's
56:40
like for a company, for culture,
56:42
for you, your stress levels, your leadership style.
56:44
Can you take us back to that moment
56:46
in 2020, 2021? How
56:49
did you get through it? What was your
56:51
reality inside the business? So
56:55
overlaid with the significance of that moment, I
56:58
had already made my own mind up that
57:00
it was time to step away. So
57:03
I energetically to some degree,
57:05
I've already left, but
57:07
practically I'm still there because we're just like
57:09
integrating the succession plan. Then
57:12
COVID happens. And obviously
57:15
that's not the time to depart because it's kind
57:17
of all hands to the pump. And
57:19
so- It must've felt very better after
57:22
20 years finally getting to that moment and
57:24
there's a bloody pandemic. Bit
57:26
of one way of saying it. Yeah. It
57:32
was indescribably
57:36
hard. We lost 95% of
57:38
revenue overnight and
57:42
we are a sustainable
57:44
business economically. So we
57:46
need to earn one more pound
57:49
than we spend at the end of every year to remain
57:51
viable. And fortunately
57:53
we'd built something
57:55
of a chest. We had a
57:58
golden rule from the beginning where we always- wanted
58:00
to make sure that no matter what happens, we
58:02
had enough money in the account to pay three
58:04
months worth of salaries. So whether we were five
58:06
people, 10 people, we'd have it.
58:09
And luckily, we've managed to kind of
58:11
maintain that golden rule throughout our growth
58:13
and development. And that was essentially the
58:15
thing that saved the company, because
58:18
we actually had a pool of funds that we
58:20
could use to pay people when the literally the
58:22
revenue tap was almost completely turned
58:24
off. Do you want to do layoffs? I mean,
58:26
fundamentally, we did weren't doing
58:28
anything. We did we like,
58:30
but we really tried to you
58:34
have to remember, it's such a almost like
58:36
a family, this this company and and, and
58:39
the sense of kind of like devastation
58:41
and having to actually lay
58:44
off a huge number of people. And we're also you
58:46
have to remember, it was such a time of like,
58:50
unknowingness. Like, we didn't know really what was
58:52
happening. We didn't know how long it was going to last.
58:55
We didn't know what it meant for us, for
58:57
the culture, for the world. And
59:00
I just remember that it was
59:02
basically like every day just being
59:04
immersed in spreadsheets without CFO. And
59:06
we were just sat around and we were just like, you
59:08
know, the spreadsheets went from the
59:11
predominant color being black to the predominant
59:13
color being red, like very, very quickly.
59:15
And it was it was frightening to
59:17
think, okay, we could lose
59:19
this company here. And through
59:22
no fault of our own, really. And, and
59:25
I remember it was
59:27
just, you know, every day we were
59:29
working incredibly hard to like try and
59:31
figure out how we were going to
59:33
get ourselves through this, how
59:37
we could communicate to staff with
59:40
realness, that we
59:43
really don't know what's going on. But we are
59:45
committed to trying to do this in the most
59:47
array way possible. And then also
59:49
realizing that the only way we get
59:51
through this is actually by laying off some people because we
59:53
need to cut costs massively. And how did that go? We
59:57
ended up it was basically every week we're like, okay,
59:59
we think we can we can survive if okay, we're
1:00:01
just gonna let go of like 10 people we have
1:00:03
to do this week and then like a
1:00:05
fortnight would go past and we realized that the
1:00:08
trend was that this situation is going to continue. We're
1:00:10
not going to generate any more revenue than
1:00:12
another 10 people and so it was kind
1:00:14
of done in stages. I did like death by 1000 paper
1:00:17
cuts. Well, because
1:00:19
it meant that people we were paying people and
1:00:21
employing people for as long as we could to
1:00:23
try and manage things
1:00:25
to actually not
1:00:28
not have to actually just like cut
1:00:33
You know, you know just cut a huge like
1:00:35
half the company off It's it's so this
1:00:37
is really interesting because the the conventional wisdom
1:00:40
having been through this stuff myself and having
1:00:42
therefore asked a lot of people about how to deal with
1:00:44
this is Even
1:00:48
though it's the humane thing to do what you're describing
1:00:50
you're keeping people in jobs for as long as you
1:00:53
can etc culturally,
1:00:55
it's very hard for
1:00:57
a culture of people to Keep
1:01:00
getting that shock and disappointment whether it's in
1:01:02
your control or out your control obviously pandemic
1:01:05
you do get the Extra sensitivity
1:01:07
of people having the awareness that is out
1:01:09
of your control. However that
1:01:13
sort of emotional cultural
1:01:15
shock inside the company to keep
1:01:17
happening The conventional
1:01:19
wisdom is even though that's kind
1:01:21
actually that's the biggest killer to
1:01:24
company culture because it creates Just
1:01:27
an ongoing trauma over
1:01:29
and over and over and over again shrinking
1:01:31
and shrinking and shrinking versus the Incredibly
1:01:34
brutal way of doing the opposite which
1:01:36
is you cut half the team even though you don't need to
1:01:38
cut half the team at That point you sort of take the
1:01:40
opinion that this is what's going to happen The
1:01:43
writing feels like it's on the wall about this. It's
1:01:46
gonna fucking suck Either
1:01:48
way ten people tend to react badly if you
1:01:50
let go of ten people or fifty people right?
1:01:52
It's it's horrible for everyone. So
1:01:54
you deal with it once and you
1:01:57
deal with a culture fall out once
1:01:59
properly But you you at least give people the
1:02:01
kind of confidence that's not gonna happen again. So
1:02:03
this was the advice I was given. I had a whole bunch
1:02:05
of layoffs 18 months ago. I
1:02:07
didn't wanna do it and I didn't want this advice to be
1:02:09
true, but I asked enough people and that was the advice that
1:02:12
was given. And I was like, well, you know what? You don't
1:02:14
go and seek other people's experience if you're not gonna then take
1:02:16
it. And I did and it was probably the right decision. I'm
1:02:19
wondering if listening to this, you're
1:02:21
wondering on reflection, well, we
1:02:23
can compare. How was that experience? Do
1:02:25
you think there's some truth in the
1:02:28
experience share that I've offered? Is that
1:02:30
actually what played out or did it
1:02:33
go well? I
1:02:35
think there's wisdom in what you shared. The
1:02:38
difference for us was- Other people's wisdom. There's
1:02:40
wisdom in what other people shared. The
1:02:42
difference for us was our
1:02:45
workload went up because
1:02:48
all of a sudden there's millions
1:02:51
of people with tickets that want
1:02:53
their money back. There's event
1:02:56
organizers in the thousands
1:02:58
around the world that
1:03:00
are also scrambling themselves to either move their
1:03:02
shows online or cancel them or reschedule them
1:03:04
or what have you. We're
1:03:07
having to develop products with our
1:03:09
engineering team to be able to do
1:03:12
mass refunds, different types of refunds
1:03:14
for different situations. So the
1:03:17
company's workload skyrocketed
1:03:19
in that moment. So it wasn't a case
1:03:21
of actually, well, we can just like do
1:03:24
what you're doing and actually have this one
1:03:26
moment of deep distress and then hopefully beyond
1:03:28
that because we actually needed people
1:03:30
for as long as possible because
1:03:32
the moment we released 10 people because we
1:03:34
needed to to keep the company going, it
1:03:37
wasn't like there was that
1:03:39
like the workload that those 10 people were
1:03:41
responsible for then fell on the people remaining.
1:03:44
And so actually what was happening is the people who
1:03:46
were still in the business had to shoulder
1:03:48
the burden of work for a company
1:03:51
that was 100 people and then eventually became 50 people.
1:03:53
But there were still 100 people's worth of work there.
1:03:56
And so actually it was a really difficult
1:03:59
moment. culturally because there was a
1:04:01
huge amount of stress within the business because people didn't know if
1:04:04
the company was going to survive, people didn't know if they were,
1:04:06
if their jobs were going to be there in a few weeks
1:04:08
time and on top of that there was a huge amount of
1:04:10
work to be done. Yeah and they say
1:04:12
that growth solves all culture problems so 30% month,
1:04:14
you know year-on-year sorry
1:04:16
for 18 years
1:04:19
or 19 years whatever it is would
1:04:22
create a magical culture
1:04:24
where things seem to be fine.
1:04:26
So how did culture
1:04:28
feel when you kept having to do this? What was it
1:04:31
like for you? Was that actually a
1:04:33
culture shock for yourself as a leader
1:04:35
to witness a
1:04:37
different reality inside the
1:04:39
business? Hugely it felt like
1:04:42
a very well it was kind of, it was
1:04:45
interesting there was a spirit
1:04:47
of togetherness because there
1:04:51
was a real connectedness between the leadership team
1:04:53
and the company and people
1:04:56
could see how much
1:04:58
it was impacting us emotionally and
1:05:01
we were fortunate that it
1:05:03
happened after years
1:05:06
of our own personal development and a
1:05:08
willingness to truly feel comfortable sharing what
1:05:10
was alive in us and what was
1:05:12
happening. So we could
1:05:15
be very real in the impact that it was
1:05:17
having on us and actually share in
1:05:19
a way that staff could visibly see how
1:05:21
distressing it was for us and they could
1:05:23
trust the information that we were giving them
1:05:25
because it's also that the
1:05:28
communication element in a crisis is
1:05:30
all it's another challenge right not only you looking at
1:05:32
the numbers how we're going to navigate our way through
1:05:34
this but actually what are
1:05:37
we going to share with staff that's real
1:05:40
that gives them a true sense of what's
1:05:42
going on but doesn't spook them to the
1:05:44
point where they're completely panicked. Yeah and they
1:05:46
just weren't they weren't situations that we'd found
1:05:48
ourselves in before we have over
1:05:50
all the years had an incredible retention rate at
1:05:52
the company and so never was there a situation
1:05:55
where we needed to let a lot of people
1:05:57
go or think about how we manage that or
1:05:59
how we communicate that internally. So it was
1:06:01
a huge culture shock to actually all
1:06:03
of a sudden be dealing with a
1:06:05
essentially an existential crisis and on one
1:06:07
hand maintaining that optimism that
1:06:10
we're gonna get through this and we'll survive but
1:06:13
on the other hand realizing that
1:06:16
if this thing continues for
1:06:19
years RA will
1:06:22
no longer cease to exist because it's built
1:06:24
on there being
1:06:26
live events around the world. When
1:06:31
you think back to letting people go what
1:06:34
did you learn? Doesn't sound like you had to do
1:06:36
all of that much before like a lot of leaders
1:06:38
do so do you remember do you
1:06:40
have any tips I guess for
1:06:42
people to actually let go of
1:06:45
people empathetically? Honesty
1:06:51
and a willingness
1:06:53
to feel the
1:06:56
feelings that are associated
1:06:58
with that experience. So if you're
1:07:01
for example have like I like it
1:07:03
really impacted me emotionally and
1:07:06
rather than just burying that I would
1:07:09
allow allow that emotion to be present in the
1:07:11
conversations I was having with people because
1:07:13
that was that was real for me and
1:07:17
it was distressing to have to let people
1:07:19
go and so actually just
1:07:21
allowing that emotion to be present I
1:07:24
think created a
1:07:26
more real experience in in those
1:07:28
moments and you know perhaps it was different for
1:07:30
us because you know there was this big external
1:07:32
event and people naturally had an understanding that we
1:07:34
were under an enormous amount of pressure and this
1:07:36
needed to happen but
1:07:38
I think it was just honesty would be the core
1:07:41
message in that and honesty in terms of what
1:07:43
I'm feeling but also honesty about the situation and
1:07:45
why we're taking the decisions that we're taking. What
1:07:48
about leaving RA? So you know you
1:07:50
eventually fire yourself essentially what
1:07:53
happened how does that all how does that actually
1:07:55
play out you had a plan a pandemic
1:07:57
happened you must have been like maybe
1:08:00
on the harbing of doom. I probably shouldn't try this
1:08:02
again, but you go and do it again. So who
1:08:05
are you communicating this with? What is a succession plan? How
1:08:07
long does it take? How does one leave
1:08:09
a company? So we were
1:08:12
fortunate that fairly early on
1:08:14
in the years of advancing that we
1:08:16
had hired someone as our
1:08:20
CFO, who we
1:08:22
sensed could actually be a great leader for the company. And
1:08:25
then he transitioned to being COO and
1:08:27
he was instrumental in the work that
1:08:29
we did to guide us through COVID.
1:08:32
I'm hugely grateful to him. And
1:08:34
so we were working incredibly
1:08:37
closely. So his name's David with Paul,
1:08:39
David and myself. And we were
1:08:42
having open conversations at that point as
1:08:44
well. And so there was
1:08:46
an awareness that at some point I
1:08:48
would be stepping away. And actually Paul
1:08:51
and I chose to both step away
1:08:53
at the same time to essentially create
1:08:55
a space for the next generation of
1:08:57
the company to be successful. I
1:08:59
genuinely believe that the next phase of the company
1:09:01
can be its most successful with
1:09:04
us having stepped away. And I think
1:09:06
that's only possible if there's a full
1:09:08
break. And so I'm on
1:09:10
the board now, but I'm not day to day
1:09:13
involved. And there's an
1:09:15
understanding that the people who are in
1:09:17
charge of the company now have the
1:09:19
autonomy to make the necessary decisions to
1:09:21
grow the company. And in
1:09:23
my experience, people work best in
1:09:26
a way that I call a freedom within a
1:09:28
framework. So the framework is clarity on the mission,
1:09:31
clarity on the values, a real understanding of what
1:09:33
they're there to do. But there's enough freedom within
1:09:35
that where they feel supported by the framework, but
1:09:37
there's enough freedom where they know that they can
1:09:40
be autonomous to a level that allows them
1:09:42
to actually feel that sense of agency and
1:09:45
make meaningful decisions on a day to day basis.
1:09:47
And I think that applies whether you're at the
1:09:50
top of the company or the bottom of the
1:09:52
company. And so for Paul and I, it was
1:09:54
really important that we created the space for the
1:09:56
next group of people who are going to take
1:09:58
the company forward. to actually
1:10:01
feel that sense of autonomy, feel that sense of
1:10:03
agency that it's now theirs, and how
1:10:05
it grows and how developed is fundamentally
1:10:07
down to their work and their ideas. And
1:10:10
so the step away was actually designed
1:10:12
to create that environment.
1:10:14
And obviously, having half
1:10:18
the company depart in COVID, and then
1:10:20
slowly we started to rebuild, all
1:10:23
of a sudden, now there's an opportunity
1:10:25
to hire new people and bring
1:10:28
in a more diverse set of ideas, people
1:10:30
from different parts of the world and actually
1:10:33
build the company. It was interesting because it
1:10:36
was an opportunity to build a company that
1:10:38
would be fit for purpose in four or
1:10:41
five years' time, rather than continuing
1:10:44
to build the company in a way
1:10:46
that was fit for purpose, perhaps for
1:10:48
five years ago. Yeah, so a complete,
1:10:50
well, complete restructure out of
1:10:52
necessity, and actually it was a
1:10:54
restructure that was, we literally like
1:10:56
blank piece of paper. If we were, after COVID
1:10:58
blank piece of paper, if we were building this
1:11:01
company today, what does it look like? And
1:11:03
take all the names off and actually
1:11:05
just like, what do the teams look like?
1:11:07
What did the structure look like? And actually
1:11:10
that process allowed us to make
1:11:12
a significant structural change in
1:11:14
a really relatively quick space
1:11:17
of time that is actually
1:11:21
the core fundamentals of what underpins the
1:11:23
success of the business today. And
1:11:25
it's important to celebrate endings. So how did
1:11:28
you celebrate leaving? How did you
1:11:30
literally leave? It
1:11:33
was very, very surreal because it
1:11:35
was COVID. And so the
1:11:37
offices were closed. And so
1:11:39
I remember being on a Zoom
1:11:42
with all of the company on the gallery
1:11:45
view and just Paul
1:11:48
and I just giving a speech
1:11:50
to say goodbye and
1:11:52
then just closing
1:11:54
the laptop and
1:11:57
bursting into tears. I'm
1:12:00
I'm. Just. Completely on a man in
1:12:02
that moment and. It
1:12:04
was the surrealist way to. Close.
1:12:07
That chapter of something that had meant so
1:12:10
much to me he had yes or of
1:12:12
I've given my last to this project on
1:12:14
a given everything I had to it I'm
1:12:17
incredibly proud of it. But. I
1:12:19
realize that it's time to head
1:12:21
in another direction. And.
1:12:23
To. Say good bye. Through.
1:12:26
Usc Grain. Felt.
1:12:28
So. Disconnected.
1:12:30
From that reality. And as
1:12:33
dumb as Inhumane is, it was
1:12:35
really sweet. Because. It
1:12:37
wasn't representative of what this thing
1:12:39
meant to me and say literally
1:12:41
just closed the laptop. I
1:12:43
am get it's I think about it now. I just closed
1:12:45
the laptop and. And. Was
1:12:48
the goodbye. And. Yeah.
1:12:51
Thinking about it today, it's sad that that's how
1:12:53
it had to end just as a result of.
1:12:56
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1:12:59
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