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environment to work in. She's really trying to
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develop something that moves away from that
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stereotypical shouty pressure cooker kitchen
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that we see across lots
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of professional kitchens that
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are shown on screen. And she's
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looking out for the people that work there,
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but her own needs seem to come way
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down the list. And I'm not even sure
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she knows what they are. Her first position
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is, I don't need anything. Like, calm
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me right at the bitter end of
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the series, says
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that heartbreaking thing about, I
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don't need enjoyment or amusement.
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And you're like screaming at
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the telly, dude, every
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human being needs those two things at
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some stage. And I think
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that is like a default position
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for these guys. So like
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you say, I agree 100%. I'm not sure if she
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even knows, but even if she did, she'd be like,
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yeah, like I really do would like to go to
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the cinema and see that movie. That's like in position,
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179 on my list. Can
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she learn to prioritize her own needs over
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others? Because lots of people will say, and
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certainly in the therapy room when they come,
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my needs are important. It's overindulgent.
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Think about myself. It's
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too much. Can she fit her
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own oxygen mask type thing before
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fitting other people's? And I've often
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used that however trite it is,
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because it's so counterintuitive. People look,
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you're sat on a plane and you're like, why would I fit
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my own mask? And then it suddenly dawns on you, because
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if you don't, you aren't going to be
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any good. And that's the bit that people
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miss often. And oftentimes
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carers do not know how to be
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cared for. They can't receive it. And
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they either find it hard to accept
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care or even recognize
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when care is being offered and how it could
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be beneficial to them. So I'd
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be worried about her not giving herself enough
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care. Also, is she trying to
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fix this system? Because there's no doubt that
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it's toxic in lots of ways. In
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the restaurant. Yeah, in the restaurant. And she could
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be, like you say, trying to care for her
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work family. But where do
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you get your cuddles? Where do you get
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your kisses? Where do you get your
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laughs? You might not even know you need them. Yeah,
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but that's, I think this is
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why, everybody I know that works in that business,
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they take huge breaks, like
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sabbaticals. You mean months
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off from- Yeah, or years, and then
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they'll go into a different kitchen. Because
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the burnout is real. Massive.
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Even though she's so young, if you
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don't recognize what you need
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for your soul, I mean- Yeah, I'd wanna
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be talking to Sydney about
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the sustainability of that lifestyle, and
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what else might need to be in place,
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like you say, breaks, how she
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supports herself, how she steps
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away from it in the short term, and
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then how she gives herself- To
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get some crucial physical love
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actually, from that, now that I think
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about it. When she makes her the
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omelette, I don't
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know if she knew she needed that hug. She
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sees something in that as well, Sydney.
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Yeah. She wants to bring
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her in as the operational manager of
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the whole shebang. Sabbaticals there. So
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there's a lovely scene towards the
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end of this season. Kami
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and Sydney- Oh,
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when they're under the table. Are under the table.
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So what's great about this is
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there's a physical need to mend the table.
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Yes. Which Kami is doing- The
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physical positions, they're in a very strange.
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Think Spider-Man and MJ. Yeah,
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exactly right. They are literally under
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the table with a
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screwdriver, trying to fix this
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thing. Weirdly intimate. It's hugely
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intimate. It's a great setting
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for this conversation to
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unfold. You could do this without
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me. I couldn't do it without you. Yeah, you could. I
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wouldn't even want to do it without you. You
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know, You make me better
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at this. You
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make me better at this. This
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is where, unbelievably,
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moments from opening or kind of dress
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rehearsal night, they found space for a
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moment of vulnerability. But it has to
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be squeezed into this moment of also
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fixing the table. So there's kind of
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worth in noting that it can't happen
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in a more spacious environment. Like
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you say, physically, pretty much almost on top
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of each other. Yeah. My
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teenage self just took over. By the end of that
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scene, I was just like, kiss, kiss, kiss, kiss, kiss.
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You are gonna be so disappointed. But
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also, I think she was lying when she said
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she wasn't jealous. Well,
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we'll come on to that. I mean, I really,
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I'm not sure about the world they were.
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I'm really not sure about Eva. And I'm
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not even sure that she wants him like
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that, but she wants him. Do
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you know what I mean? She wants what he sort
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of represents. It ends that
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particular scene where he asks her, you
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still like to cook, right? And
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moments later gives her her own chef
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whites with her initials on. It's validation
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from someone she respects. You're right, you're
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right. It could also be romantic. B.
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I like that it's opening. It's like I'm
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shouting kiss, kiss, kiss at the screen. I
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don't really want it to happen. Cause I
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hate it when series go all soapy and
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oh, now they're married. Now they've got kids. And it's
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just, you know. Where's the bear gonna go if that
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happens? Yeah. So season three
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is on its way very
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shortly, which is exciting. This is when it's good
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that I'm really lame watching shows because by the
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time I get around to it, the new one's
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about to come out. Whereas everyone else has been
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waiting like for like a year. I'm on the
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edge of my seat. Like when is season three
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coming? Come on. And that speculation
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that we've just been touching on has
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been happening in the wider world. So
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we will get into it in a
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bit more detail after that. the break.
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they won't, though. The best smile in that though, isn't
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it? It's sharper than that. It's not going to. She
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doesn't think she said she gets a bit annoyed when
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everyone's trying to pair them off. Does
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she said that? That doesn't surprise me because it would lessen
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her character. They're intense after
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a fairly short time of
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knowing each other, but I think
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that is because they see similarities
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in each other. I think it's more
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twinning and almost
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sibling-y. Could
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we see them as codependents? They're definitely
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enabling certain behaviours in each other, but
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they don't seem to be reflective about the
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differences between them either.
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There's safety and protection in seeing that they're
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similar. I see this real sense of belonging for her,
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but I think that is belonging to
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Kami and Nat and
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Richie's gang, as opposed
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to just Kami. Yes, I
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would agree with that. I
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think she's a bit of an ass to him, like
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for no reason. Like, you know when he doesn't
38:14
call her about the wall, they
38:17
break down the wall cause they find mould. Yeah. I
38:20
don't think she really cares that he
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didn't call her. I think it's more about he
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didn't call in general. He
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is, but I think she feels let down by
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the joint vision that they have. Absolutely,
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but she doesn't say that. No. Kami
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should be more present towards
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Yeah. the opening of this restaurant.
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He is with Claire, but I
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don't think that his presence
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with Claire is what's bothering Sydney. I
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think it's his absence from
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where she felt he should be.
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Yeah. Like he's promised and
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intimated that he wants a hundred percent from
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Sydney. She's kind of
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expecting that back. And
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certainly when he starts to be in
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a relationship with Claire, he's massively
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losing his focus. Sydney
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is giving all her time and energy into building this
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new enterprise with Kami. She's
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extremely hardworking and understanding. And often
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towards the end of the season,
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Kami's attention is just not focusing.
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I mean, this is where it's ramping up to
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opening time. Yes. And
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we get the sense of that. That's a ticking clock situation. Yeah,
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ever tightening deadline. And we see
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her working largely on her own. She's got a taste
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test on her own because she didn't turn up, like
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you say, choose the plates, run
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the overall movement of getting the place finished.
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And then as we keep saying,
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they mirror each other. Maybe that is their
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connection. They see those things in each other.
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They finish each other's sentences. They
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are twinning. All right, let's talk
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about those final few scenes. Kami's in
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the walk-in fridge. So
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it's a massive lock-in fridge that you
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get in kitchen. Yeah, there's huge ones you get. And the
39:55
handle breaks off. So you're stuck in there. And this
39:57
is basically his
39:59
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