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Welcome back to more Reddit

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stories. I'm Shane, and

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today I'm joined by Ian and

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Amanda. Hello. Happy to be

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here. Thank you, Ian. The

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theme today is, am I safe? And

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by that I mean, there's a lot of people in this

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who think they're chill, who think they're cool, but

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they're the type of people that you're like, I should not

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hang out with you. Why was I invited

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on this episode? Yeah, also, wait, I

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know why I was invited, because I

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can tell you that you're not safe. You

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make everyone. Yeah, yeah, and you

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make everybody feel safe. It's true, because

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I- Unless they don't

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like physical touch. Yeah, which I learned

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pretty quickly. And then I go, I need

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to stop touching everybody. Ha ha ha ha

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ha ha ha ha. So

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we're gonna read through these, and at the end,

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we're gonna kind of vote on who we think

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is the least safe person out of all of

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these stories. Okay. Here we go, our first story.

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Am I the asshole for making my

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16-year-old son drink an 18-pack of beer

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that he stole? I'm

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sorry. I mean, I already see the

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thought process, that dude is like cigarette,

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because they do have his cigarettes. Yep.

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Cigarettes and beer are not the same thing.

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Okay, okay. I think this is Peter Griffin

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who wrote this. Okay. My

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16-year-old son started his senior year this week.

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This last weekend of summer, we agreed to

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let him go to a friend's house. We've

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been quarantined all summer along with his friend.

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This was written in 2020, August of 2020.

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His parents are our friends. They're serious about

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sickness. It was supposed to be

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just them two, the parents being out of town,

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and they were supposed to be just playing video

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games. Well, that's not what they had

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planned. They planned a little

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get together with only like five

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people. I found this out

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after I found the 18-pack in my fridge

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in the garage this afternoon. Turns out my

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kids stole it from the gas station and

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put it there until the get together started

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a few hours later. I went

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to the gas station and confirmed he stole it. I

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paid them and made sure they didn't press charges. which

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cost me an extra $100. I

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figured this is the most expensive beer I've ever paid

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for, so we might as well drink it, right? I

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parked his ass on the couch right next to me

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as we shared beer after beer of his stolen 18

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pack. We just watched NBA games like

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we normally do, except this time, I

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wasn't the only one drinking beers. By

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beer 3, he was noticeably intoxicated. He

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threw up at beer 7, but he

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still seemed coherent. My wife asked

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me to stop at this point, which I would

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have, but my son literally yelled from the bathroom,

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fuck him, I'm good. By beer

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9, he was throwing up again and crying

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for mommy. She babied him to sleep with

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water and snacks, then made him breakfast in

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bed the next morning. I told him to

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wake the fuck up and weed whack the

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backyard. We are a few

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days removed from this, and my wife is still

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really mad at me. She says this is what

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teenagers do, and my response was way too harsh.

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Apparently, we should have just grounded him. Uh,

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yeah, I mean he committed a crime.

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Okay, hold on, I want to back it up even

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more. So did

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the gas station person like extort

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him for more money? I was

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gonna say, was he like, yeah, and also $100? Yeah, give

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me an 18 pack, but give me $100 or I'm calling the

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cops? I

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mean, yeah, he did blackmail him, but he also,

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I guess the dad did basically let the guy

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know like, oh, my son stole it. So

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then the gas station guy did have probably the

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means to press charges. That was smart, that was

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smart on him. The dad did save money by

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probably avoiding all that. It's

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still kind of, it is sketchy.

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Yeah, and also like, I'm

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sorry, but it sounds like his dad was

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like setting his son up for a good

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time, like a good chill hang sesh with

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him. I know, it's like, hey, you did

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this bad thing. You stole something from a

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gas station. Now we're going to drink beer

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and watch NBA. What? Yeah, I will say

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I'm not super shocked by this because I

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feel like I've heard a lot of parents

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doing this back in the day. Like I

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definitely got pulled over. and they made us pour

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out every beer can, but this was the

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cops. They didn't make me like sit and drink it.

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But like honestly, I think growing

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up, I've known parents to do that.

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Here's my only issue, is

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that your kid could get alcohol poisoning.

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So after he throws up once, it's

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like you're done, and

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yes, wake up and weed whack. That's

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probably what I would do. I would be like, all right, four.

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I mean, I don't know. I don't know

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though, that's so risky, alcohol poisoning.

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Yeah. Well, it's also you're

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giving alcohol to a miner. You're also forcing alcohol

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to a miner. There's a lot

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of levels to it. When you say miner, it makes

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it sound way worse. Yeah, it is way worse. I

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feel like it's like a felony. I

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think it is a felony. Nine

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beers is a lot of alcohol, and

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we don't even know what kind of

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alcohol this is, because beer is a

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shitty letter. But like a different, different,

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it's probably like Bud Light or something,

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but nine Bud Lights. I get

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the argument of like the European style of like,

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oh, well, like a beer or

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wine with dinner. But that is

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so different than getting your kid

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drunk. Well, he stole it. Which

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makes me think that he maybe

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it's very strict. Well,

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he stole it because they probably didn't have anyone who can

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buy it, because he's 16. Dude,

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I'm gonna stop there. How

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did you get alcohol when you were a teen? Not that

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we're trying to teach people how to get alcohol legally, but

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how did you get alcohol when you were a teen? Idyll

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of sisters. You look

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a lot alike. But my parents were

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very, they

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were more open about that. But I don't

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think my parents would ever make me sit

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and chug alcohol. They'd be

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like, you know what? They'd probably bring me back

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to the gas station and go, this

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is my daughter, she stole this. What does she

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have to face? That's probably what my mom would

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do. Realistically.

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Dad drank the beers too. Like, hey, the dad has

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a problem. Yeah,

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that's weird. It's like you're trying

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to train your kid to become an alcoholic where

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he's like, no, no, no, no. Well, keep drinking.

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Yeah, some comments here. You're the asshole. If a

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child is throwing up from the amount of alcohol

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they drink, it's time to stop. I know you

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want to act all macho before your son, but

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giving him alcohol poisoning isn't the way to go

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about it. Neither is permanent brain damage or a

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coma. Just take his electronics away next time or

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something or make him pay the hundred bucks, you

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know, be a parent or something. Someone

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else said, you're the asshole and abuser

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for deliberately trying to give your son

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alcohol poisoning and jeopardizing his life. Had

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he needed medical help, you'd be charged

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with child abuse or endangerment at minimum.

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Someone else said, you're the asshole. He should not

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have stolen beer, but that doesn't mean you should

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potentially give him alcohol poisoning or brain damage. Alcohol

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is rather harmful to those whose brains have yet to fully

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develop, which is around the age of 25. I'm

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not going to tell you how to parent, but I

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really don't think that putting a child's health in danger

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is the right thing to do. OP

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responded to that saying, thanks for your post.

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Are you aware of any studies that you

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can provide to show that one time drunkenness

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for a 16 year old could lead to

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brain damage? Oh, there were

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20 down votes. Yeah, this guy is

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out for blood to just be like,

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all right, we're both going to drink

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nine beers is like, what?

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Like that's crazy behavior. Yeah. Well, he

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said they split it. So I beer

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seven still seemed coherent by beer nine.

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He was throwing up again and crying

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for mommy. She babied him to sleep.

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So they both drink nine beers. So

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I think the dad also in my mind, dad

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also saw it as an opportunity to be like,

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I can drink nine beers as well. Yeah, that

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way. Yeah. No, it's horrible. It's

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clear that he's like passing on maybe something.

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Because as a parent, if

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I if I found out my son

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drank nine beers, that's also worth like

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being like, hey. We need to sit

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down and talk. I'd be like, whoa. I'm

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like, you're not you should never drink

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that amount. Like, you know, because I

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agree. When someone's a teenager you can't

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just be like you cannot drink alcohol.

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I can prevent you I can control you Yeah,

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then they're gonna like hey if

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you're gonna not listen to if

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you're gonna go around our backs and

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do stuff that teenagers do sometimes Yeah,

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be safe like be smart

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about it because you can die you

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can get super messed up permanently from even

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one night and I

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just think he should have he completely missed

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all the steps of like make

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him pay make him

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work and pay and Apologize

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to you know, it's not a bad punishment

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If you think about it of like if he wakes

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up hungover weed wax He'll be fine by the next

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night He's 16 and then he's just like they kind

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of got away with it. Correct. Yeah

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insane stupid. It's weird All

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right Next story. I don't feel safer

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on that dad. Nope. Nope Am

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I the asshole for adding olive oil to my

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girlfriend's meals? Oh Oh,

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oh no. Oh, no. I think

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I know where this is going really I

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feel like we've seen I feel like we've seen these

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guys before okay. Oh I

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a 24 year old male have been with my

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girlfriend Mari a 22 year old woman for two years Mari

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is a fitness buff She's all about healthy eating

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exercise and weightlifting and I love that about her

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the problem started a few months ago Mari

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used to have really bad body image problems around

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when we first started going out It was harmful

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bad for her and bad for her mind She's

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taken incredible strides to fix her body image

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problems such as therapy and slowly incorporating more

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food into her meals She hasn't

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had a flare-up of those problems for the

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last year and I am very proud of

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her However, as of late I feel that

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her body image problems have flared up with

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some changes in her lifestyle She wakes up

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at 5 a.m. Every day to go on

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a run Her portions are considerably smaller and

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she goes weightlifting five days a week with

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Pilates on the other two to me It

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seemed that her intense and strict regimen was

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from her body image problems because she's shed

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off the curves She gained when she started

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her recovery. I really liked her curves and

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she's become rather lean now I

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voiced my concerns to her and she told

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me that she's currently on a cut following

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her bulk. This is where I might be

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the asshole. I was still very worried

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about her so I started sneaking olive oil into

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her meals. I do a majority

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of the cooking but she preps the ingredients for

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her meals, ways and measures for macros in her

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tracking app. She isn't allergic or

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anything but I've been adding enough to add

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a considerable amount of extra calories. This has

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been going on for about three months and

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she's frustrated that she's plateaued in her progress

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and even gained a bit of weight. That

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is until she found the empty olive oil

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bottles in the garbage bin. Mari

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does the grocery shopping and she asked me

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about the bottles. There were about five from

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this week. Oh my god! That

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is so much. God,

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their toilet must be insane.

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I just love the plural

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bottles. Five bottles? Because

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she does not recall buying or even seeing olive oil in

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our cabinets. I usually sneak the

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bottles off to dispose of them but hadn't had the chance.

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So I came clean and told her that when I cook

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I add some olive oil and just didn't tell her. She

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got very upset with me and asked why I would do that. I

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told her that I voiced my concern about her fitness

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obsession many times but she brushed me off. So as

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her partner I took measures into my own hands. She's

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currently staying at her sister's. How

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I saw it was that I was protecting

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my partner from another downward spiral. But

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my brother, who is a gym rat, said that I

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was an ass for doing that to her. Regardless

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of my concerns, am I the

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asshole? Edit, the bottles are really small. I

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wasn't forcing her to suck back a 500 ml bottle daily. I

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do believe as well that two of the empty bottles were

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left over from the last time. Uh,

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still. Dude, if you're gonna sneak

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olive oil in, what else are you gonna sneak into her

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food? Yeah. That's

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controlling his ass. This is the flip side of, I

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mean the other one was arguably worse, but we had

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the guy who was putting sawdust in his. Yeah,

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that's what I was thinking of. But,

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but I've, this is not the

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first time that we've had boyfriends trying to

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like fuck with their boyfriends.

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partners well and and the end of major

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tell is he only he only hit it

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in there in one sentence was he was

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like I really liked her curves

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and now they're going away and it's like

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and it's like oh okay this is a

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youth it like this is you and you're

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like I'm gonna take her health into my

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hands and also not tell her and

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also think about like then

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she's gonna be questioning her diet

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and probably trying to cut in other

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places and then flare up even more yeah yeah

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no that's makes me

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crazy she will probably break up with

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him because if she has in this

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story broken up with him because how frustrating is

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that because you know you can

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question like whether it's healthy or not to be

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working out that amount but she is putting in

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that work and she's been frustrated

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for months at like not seeing the

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results that she's been putting in her

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partner was sabotaging her work and

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not telling her it's so it's

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a lot of olive oil are we yeah

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a lot of all of it's gotta be

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a all right gotta be a lot let's

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see if there's answers in the comments here

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you're the asshole huge this only hurts her

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and will likely make an unhealthy relationship she

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has with food even worse in

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the comments he says he only adds

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three to four tablespoons ish per

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meal that's a lot and he puts it

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in her protein shake to oh

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they don't recommend more than one

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to two ish tablespoons a day

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for olive oil so he's at

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least tripling the recommended amount protein

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shake and dinner more if he's

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doing this to lunches and snacks

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and excess olive oil can

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cause diarrhea acne rashes and if he's using

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too much it can actually possibly trash her

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kidneys or cause low blood pressure that can

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lead to fainting and that's in addition to

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sabotaging her mental health and setting her back

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in her recovery and now she'll have

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trust issues with people or maybe just

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boyfriends handling her food Jesus fucking Christ

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lastly someone said did it ever occur

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to you that the next step for

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her could have been cutting calories more

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you might have endangered her to relapse into

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unhealthy habits she wanted to be leaner and

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you manipulated her diet to make her gain

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weight because why you like

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her more curvy how about supporting her

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for making healthy healthier choices and being

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proud of her you deliberately sabotaged her

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I'm concerned for your relationship but even

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more for her mental health you're the

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asshole my dude yeah yeah I just

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looked it up four tablespoons of olive

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oil is almost 500 calories

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that he's oh it's a certain amount no for

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like I meal prep for my whole week

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and when I'm like meal prepping for my

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whole week I'm using less than four tablespoons

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of olive oil so that's like a week

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of olive oil yeah he's also putting in

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a protein shake so it's not even being

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cooked disgusting it's not even cooked like it's

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not like there's none of its burning off

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that's just pure olive oil in that that's

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disgusting it's a lot it's too much of

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a daily I hate to compare this to

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murder but I'm gonna

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because so many partners sneak

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in little bits of like poison into

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their partners food to slowly kill them

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I know it sounds insane yeah but

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if you can sneak something into someone's

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food for that many months because you

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want them you want

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to have power over them to do something you want

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I mean that's like it it's a gateway to olive

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oil oh it's so it's so vulnerable

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it's so vulnerable to be like hey I was slipping

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in something that you are putting in your body like

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that's just scary and

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also like it's it's so

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weird because like this is

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something that maybe could have been overcome

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with like a single

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conversation about like hey like

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I'm concerned about your health

15:38

yeah you see your cutting blah blah

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blah like you have a conversation about it and

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then maybe you could figure something out and he

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did talk to her I voiced my concerns and

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she told me that she's currently on a cut

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following her bulk which is a thing people do

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yeah I mean he

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doesn't really talk extensively of feeling like I

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think she's in danger I think her body's

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in danger he mentions the curves He

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mentioned, like, I think my

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theory, and I mean, we don't know

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these people, but my theory,

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same with the other stories we've gotten, is like,

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no, you wanted to control her body. He's

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way less than- You wanted her body to look a way that is more

16:17

attractive to you. He wants control over

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her. Yeah. But you don't get to

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control people's bodies. And also, even if she

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did have a severe problem, even if it was dangerous,

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and people were like, oh man- Get a professional. But

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you don't do this. This

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isn't going to help. That is

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a psychological- It's a psychological thing. And

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if you don't treat the psychological

16:38

aspect of it, you're not fixing it. Verdict

16:41

is asshole. Not

16:43

surprised. Any story of someone manipulating

16:45

someone's food and not telling them, immediate

16:48

asshole. No matter what it is. For results that

16:50

they want. Yeah, no matter

16:52

what. Or they think that partner wants.

16:54

Yeah. Yeah. All

16:57

right. Oh, better than sawdust,

16:59

but that's a real low bar. Okay.

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So we think that guy's worse than the dad.

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I trust that. That guy's like a poisoner

17:07

from Game of Thrones. Yes, exactly. His little

17:09

finger. Yeah. All right.

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Next story. Am I

17:14

the asshole for convincing my best friend to

17:16

kick out two drunk women after his birthday

17:18

party? Okay. My

17:21

friend hosted his birthday at his apartment yesterday night. There

17:23

was a lot of boos and a lot of people.

17:25

The party started at around eight and went on till

17:27

1 a.m. By about 1 30

17:30

in the morning, most people had gotten their way

17:32

home. There were a few different designated drivers except

17:34

for a small group of women. I

17:36

will admit I made the jungle juice a little stronger

17:38

than I intended, but I was not trying

17:40

to get anyone drunk. You made jungle. No,

17:42

you're looking to get everybody wasted. If you make

17:44

jungle juice, people are expected to get drunk. In

17:47

fact, I hate being around drunk women. They

17:50

just make me very uncomfortable and I like to

17:52

have a few other non-drunk female witnesses around whenever

17:54

I'm near a drunk woman. Oh,

17:56

I already don't feel safe around this bridge. Well, if

17:58

I was a woman, I wouldn't. feel safe. I

18:01

was too drunk to drive and these two drunk girls

18:03

were not having a good time. They were hurling in

18:05

the toilet. My friend offered to let the three of

18:08

us crash at his place. They were fine with it

18:10

but I was immediately uncomfortable. I pulled my friend aside

18:12

and asked if we really needed to let them stay.

18:14

He said yeah he got an air mattress just for

18:16

this reason. I tried to be upfront about it. These

18:18

two girls were very drunk and were not as drunk

18:21

as me and him. I said it'd make me very

18:23

uncomfortable to have to spend the night with these women.

18:26

It took some convincing but eventually I got him

18:28

to kick these girls out. They were upset but

18:30

it's not really either of our faults that

18:32

they didn't prepare. They somehow got home so

18:34

they were fine. Come morning one

18:37

of these girls was blowing up my phone telling me that

18:39

I was a huge dick to convince him to not let

18:41

them stay. A bunch of people are saying

18:43

I need to apologize but honestly I feel like it's

18:45

not something I need to apologize for. I voiced

18:47

that I was uncomfortable with them being there and

18:49

my friend wanted me to feel more comfortable. There's

18:52

nothing bad about that. If there is then kick

18:54

me up. Okay

18:56

first of all this guy's is uncomfortable because

18:58

he's uncomfortable of what will what he will

19:00

do. Yeah that's what

19:02

I see. He's uncomfortable because he's

19:05

like uh-oh they put me in

19:07

a rough situation. Never

19:09

send three very drunk girls

19:11

who are sick home by

19:14

themselves. He's 100% the asshole.

19:16

It's like I'm sorry if

19:19

you're uncomfortable you're going to have to deal.

19:21

Don't make jungle juice. It's also

19:23

just like a weird tell that he's like I

19:26

feel uncomfortable around drunk women. Yes.

19:28

Like why women specifically? Because he's

19:34

afraid of like what will happen. Yeah it's

19:37

some weird ass behavior like if a friend of

19:39

mine was saying stuff like that I'd be like

19:41

what? Also jungle juice. Yeah

19:44

I don't make jungle juice. I've left

19:46

my jungle juice was literally probably in What's

19:49

in it again? The point of a jungle juice

19:52

is that everything is in it. And and most

19:54

of the everything is hard liquor. Yes. Yeah

19:56

yeah yeah. Insane. It's like yeah if

19:58

you made jungle juice Because

20:01

you're expecting everybody to get very fucked

20:03

up. I think if you're making the

20:05

drinks, especially making jungle juice, you should

20:08

feel some amount of responsibility for how

20:10

drunk people get. You know?

20:13

Listen, drunk girls, they're a lot. They

20:15

can be a lot, okay? I have definitely

20:17

thrown up on the side of someone's car.

20:20

I was awful while we

20:22

were driving. But don't let...

20:26

I was not driving. No. I

20:28

was like, I'm gonna eat screaming vomiting. And

20:33

then we parked in the next morning and we got out and I was

20:35

like, we didn't wash it off. Sorry.

20:39

And then the Northeast in the winter said

20:41

just froze. Correct. Really? Oh.

20:44

But they can be annoying, but you never let them

20:46

just go. And he doesn't even mention

20:49

any sort of means of like how he... if

20:51

he's gonna kick him out, how he's trying to help him get

20:54

home. No, he just sent them out the door. Alright, some comments

20:56

here. You're the asshole. Yeah.

20:59

I'm like... Is

21:08

this guy from Australia? I'm like...

21:11

Ears? Like... Yeah, Chlaugh.

21:13

The assault on people. Yeah, mental assault on

21:15

Xinfire Man. Thecatch and he's just like, that's

21:17

the guy that you ate a AR denied

21:19

home flash, so this guy'sF contrast

21:21

is pretty big. I

21:25

don't know. Yeah, I'm like... Ears,

21:27

flameth... I want to hear that

21:29

from like a Australian accent.

21:31

Um, Mike, fricking grow a

21:33

pair. You put two drunk

21:36

females out on their ears. Over your comfort? Pussy.

21:39

Have you ever read the news? Every flaming day

21:41

there's a story about women being attacked by men. How

21:44

would you have felt if you found out these ladies have been attacked?

21:46

Major asshole. Wow! See?

21:49

So much better. I would watch your show.

21:52

Whatever show that is. I don't know. That

21:54

was as close as I get to Billy Be butcher.

22:01

All right, this

22:03

next one's a doozy. So buckle

22:05

up. Okay. My mother

22:07

tried to trick me, a 26 year old

22:10

woman, into joining my sister, 31, for

22:12

dinner after she

22:14

tested me around her husband, who's

22:17

31. Wait. This

22:20

is actually crazy and there's going to be lots of details

22:22

so please bear with me. My sister recently

22:24

got married. It's been about three to four months.

22:26

I didn't really see much of them after the

22:28

wedding, honeymoon and then back to work. But once

22:30

a month our family all gets together and my

22:33

parents host a huge feast. Since this

22:35

took place a week ago, it was

22:37

for the month of August. During this

22:39

dinner, my brother-in-law was being extremely weird

22:41

towards me. He was complimenting my body,

22:43

ignoring my sister, and just straight up

22:45

acting so strange. It was completely unexpected

22:47

for several reasons. One being

22:49

his wife was sitting right next to me

22:51

and two, he has only been married a

22:53

few months. Also, he's just never spoken to

22:56

slash about me like that before. I felt

22:59

really uncomfortable and I'm sure it translated to

23:01

the rest of the room because what the

23:03

fuck. Except it was weird because nobody was

23:05

pointing anything out. I was extremely confused and

23:07

just wanted to leave. I left early but

23:09

when I got home I just felt so

23:11

icky. I don't even know how to describe

23:13

it. I decided to message my sister and

23:15

let her know his behavior made me uncomfortable.

23:17

I told her that it was also concerning

23:19

that he felt comfortable enough to say those

23:21

things in front of my parents and brother.

23:24

I explained that if she didn't

23:26

feel comfortable being in the middle I would

23:28

wouldn't mind explaining this to him myself. His

23:30

behavior was so unnerving that I FaceTimed

23:33

my boyfriend who was away for work

23:35

in the US. I told him it

23:37

was weird and how suddenly my brother-in-law's

23:39

behavior towards me went from that of

23:41

siblings to this horribly uncomfortable situation. He

23:43

was pissed, rightfully so. My sister

23:45

didn't respond to my text until the next day. She asked

23:47

to meet up so I did. I was

23:50

expecting her to be upset and to have

23:52

him apologize for what he said. Instead she

23:54

admits it was all a test and

23:56

I passed. I

23:59

was confused to say the least. What

24:01

did she mean by a test? Past?

24:03

Like what's going on? Turns out

24:06

she had her husband do those things on purpose

24:08

because she wanted to see how I would react

24:10

if he had those if he had said those

24:12

things to me and meant them. My reaction and

24:15

choice to message her afterwards told her I could

24:17

be trusted around him. I was offended

24:19

to say the least. Why would she think

24:21

I couldn't be trusted? Well, let me tell

24:23

you in my opinion, the not very valid

24:26

reason for this lack of trust. My

24:28

sister has been married before. She was 27 and

24:30

the divorce was about 10 months into marriage. Her

24:33

ex was a psycho to say the least. He

24:35

had known me longer than he did my sister.

24:37

I was actually the one who had introduced

24:39

them. They got along well and

24:41

eventually started dating. It looked like the healthiest

24:43

and most romantic relationship to grace planet earth

24:45

except when they got married during their marriage,

24:47

I was staying with them because it was

24:49

closer to commute to work. They had

24:52

extra bedrooms and I would pay rent

24:54

and cook and clean myself. My underwear,

24:56

bras and panties would often go missing.

24:58

It started off small. I

25:00

just assumed it got mixed up in my sister's

25:02

laundry and would turn up eventually. But it was

25:04

happening more frequently to the point I was buying

25:07

underwear almost weekly. I kept pressuring my

25:09

sister to admit she was stealing my underwear

25:11

and she was adamant it wasn't her. I

25:13

decided just to ignore it and go about

25:15

my day. Something I haven't even considered an

25:17

option was the real reason. My former

25:19

brother in law was stealing my underwear. I don't

25:22

know nor did I want to know what he

25:24

was doing with it when I found out. But

25:26

I was so disgusted and confused someone I thought

25:28

was my friend was actually just a perv. He

25:30

admitted he had never really loved my sister and

25:32

was just using her to get to me. I

25:35

was just so creeped out and I pressed charges

25:38

against him for his sickening behavior. I was able

25:40

to get a restraining order and my sister divorced

25:42

him almost instantly after finding out. This was four

25:44

years ago. She used something traumatic

25:46

that happened to me and flipped it to make

25:48

it seem Like I'm the one who was

25:51

untrustworthy. She Claimed I must have strung him

25:53

along for him to think like that. And

25:55

this test with my new brother in law

25:57

was just to prove I wasn't doing it

25:59

again. Safe to say I was

26:01

extremely hurt and angry by her response. so I

26:03

told her never to speak or contact me again

26:05

if that's what she really thought of me. My

26:07

family found out and for the most part agreed

26:10

her behavior is crazy, but my mother stood by

26:12

her actions and said my sister was just trying

26:14

to protect yourself from being hurt again. I told

26:16

her if she had just been honest with me

26:18

from the start, I wouldn't have been as bothered.

26:20

There's a right way to approach things and are

26:22

always. This isn't just wrong, it's also crazy. Why

26:25

is she so adamant? it's my life goal to

26:27

hurt her? I didn't know that her ex was

26:29

going to turn. Out like that. So why am

26:31

I being punished She claimed by should have

26:33

had some indication. Ah, he liked me but

26:35

he really made it seem like he was

26:37

head over heels for my sister. How am

26:39

I supposed to know what's going on in

26:41

someone elses mind? Anyway, the next month the

26:43

family dinner was that for early this month

26:46

yesterday and it was the most compatible date

26:48

for everyone schedule. I told my parents to

26:50

expect me not to show up of my

26:52

sister and brother lower going. It was even

26:54

because I refused to ever speak to her

26:56

again. I just said that because the situation

26:58

was so fresh. I told my mother. I

27:00

would apologize when I had cooled down a little,

27:02

it was just difficult to face them when they

27:04

made me feel like a horrible person for a

27:06

situation that was out of my control. My.

27:09

Mother assured me my sister wouldn't attend so

27:12

I agreed to come. I'd ah when I

27:14

arrived they were both there. He felt like

27:16

an ambush and it's sort of was. My

27:18

sister demanded I apologize for my reaction because

27:20

it was my own fault it happened in

27:22

the first place. For I can't lie, I

27:24

say that I told her she should remove

27:26

my number and the title of being my

27:29

sister if she really felt that way. I

27:31

just need advice because therapy isn't scheduled for

27:33

another two weeks and I feel like I

27:35

just rubbed a soap opera story line. I

27:38

feel kind of bad because I do understand my

27:40

sister had or trust broken completely by her acts,

27:42

but I feel like that distress shouldn't be aimed

27:44

at me rather than the person who actually caused

27:46

it. I was the one who introduced her to

27:48

the a hole in the first place and I

27:51

feel guilty for that already. But I'm failing to

27:53

see how her schemes to manipulate me into thinking

27:55

she's been wronged by a husband once again is

27:57

justified. I want to apologize to her for one

27:59

reason: Ever introducing that man to her,

28:01

I really need her to see that I

28:03

was. I wasn't trying anything when her ex

28:05

was dealing my underwear, I was just as

28:07

in the dark as her. How do I

28:09

go about doing the above? Because I want

28:11

to put this behind me and move on.

28:13

I was just finally here healing from her

28:15

former marriage and now this one is about

28:18

also putting me in a very uncomfortable position

28:20

with my sister, my brother law, and my

28:22

own mother. Any. Advice on how to

28:24

tackle apologizing, getting my sister's trust back,

28:26

and showing her I truly what the

28:28

best for her. p Apologies for spelling

28:30

such grammar mistakes. It's two am and

28:32

I usually sleep around ten pm. It

28:34

possible that parts of this what makes

28:36

and so I'm more than happy. Try

28:38

and make things easier to understand the

28:40

comments. I'm just so tired that my

28:42

brain is working at ten percent right

28:44

now. I'm says where they got. I

28:47

feel very like. Connected.

28:50

To the sunk. As I can understand

28:52

everyone's role, Nasa mom will always try

28:54

to get the sisters or brothers to

28:56

has when they're still mad. That's like

28:59

always the moms role and the owners.

29:01

I will say though, it's harder to

29:03

admit that someone was just not that

29:05

into you. Cry. Like it's

29:07

really hard to admit that you're always gonna try.

29:09

To blame the only other girl.

29:11

In the situation which is terrible,

29:14

we need to stop doing that.

29:16

I personally think that See has

29:18

C needs. Time to heal. My

29:21

only advice would hurt to be is. I

29:24

would do exactly what she did. I be like

29:26

do Not contact. Me right now I need

29:28

space and time to heal and unfortunately

29:30

celtics he can't contact her mom either.

29:32

Correct, The mom is gonna continue to.

29:34

Yep, yeah, try to try to be

29:37

the peacemaker, but in only like that's

29:39

lied. It's it's. really I would say

29:41

that everything she said I agree with like

29:43

the only thing that she's really incredibly sorry.

29:45

For his. The. Introduce

29:48

her to the asshole. What she didn't

29:50

know right now sees when cornered. she's

29:52

not ready, says up, process is not

29:55

healed. She's been cornered any other sister.

29:57

Can. Literally has some issues that. The

30:00

work they'll the I see. Data his eyes

30:02

ceiling her. Sisters. Underwear. The

30:04

under her roof and it is is hulu anyway and

30:06

horses and it for and us and it's crazy. It's

30:09

like how do you. Yeah. How

30:11

do you make sense of such in

30:13

in seen situation? Wow and unfortunately the

30:15

way the she did was like oh

30:17

my sister must have been at fault

30:20

for that of sad to blame the

30:22

person tale as old as time. At.

30:24

Another time, blaming the woman is lighter.

30:26

What'd you do to make him do.

30:28

That yeah and a decent be so

30:30

sexy around my husband's. Yeah, exactly.

30:32

I think. Ah,

30:34

Goddess. So it's so

30:36

complicated. I do agree. I, you know,

30:39

You could debate on. While. You. Know.

30:41

Contact for us your life is external

30:44

about what I agree of like at

30:46

least founder in a while like Cel

30:48

contact gotta You gotta give yourself some

30:50

space and get away because they're. Her.

30:52

Sister in or mom rolling in to this impossible for

30:54

her job like get over for a while. Or

30:57

Cicero haven't taken any responsibility for

30:59

what see has done in it

31:01

which is just put all the

31:03

blame on her poor sister. Who.

31:06

Now is probably just like. Living.

31:08

Every day also. The husband

31:10

does new husband agreeing to go along

31:12

with that guys off but if I

31:14

marry someone there like hey I'm also

31:16

to hit on my sister denied a

31:18

bike. I. Be like are why I guess

31:20

yeah about that as a suitable. You

31:23

just nice. Yeah. You

31:28

look good also. where you eat those

31:30

most potatoes is good. I

31:33

would I would not like. My

31:35

poker face is ah no as.

31:38

That's just me that she has unhealthy or

31:40

licenses. The My pillow Oh my God. If

31:42

I ever if like. The

31:44

does she? I'm not. Feeling Marietta's as

31:46

you need a working under husband sounds like

31:48

a ride or die though. Ah do you

31:50

go along with that science and or it

31:52

out on earth and are I had some

31:54

comments here. You have nothing to

31:56

apologize for. your sister, her husband, and your

31:58

mother. or fucking nuts. What other stones are

32:01

they going to come up with to try

32:03

and trap you into supposedly confirming their delusions.

32:05

Someone. Else at what you wear your father

32:07

and other family members doing during this

32:09

charade, Why? Why didn't anyone speak up

32:11

or have your back? Totally creepy. You

32:13

deserved to be treated better by everyone

32:15

who was there. She. Said

32:17

my dad wasn't pleased with what my brother

32:20

in law had said during the August dinner.

32:22

Then when he found out the plan, he

32:24

forbade him from entering the family home. Again,

32:26

That my mother lied and said that see

32:28

that he wasn't invited, but they showed up

32:31

anyway. Oh my ah. Apparently he was livid

32:33

and threatened to call the police if they

32:35

didn't leave. I left after I said what

32:37

I said so I don't know what happened.

32:39

I love for my brother. My brother called

32:41

me and told me everything that went down

32:44

from when I left the August dinner and

32:46

this month dinner. My brother. And Dad are

32:48

amazing and I'm going to update the post some

32:50

point to make sure everyone knows this. Separate only

32:52

allows you to make one update so I wanted

32:54

to make it worth your while you're While they've

32:57

been supportive and I have tried to talk some

32:59

sense into my mother their words not mine. I've

33:01

not spoken to my mother in a few days,

33:03

which is so odd for me because I always

33:05

call or at least once a day and of

33:08

course haven't spoken to my sister or her husband

33:10

yeah, I never adding a three that she can

33:12

maintain contact with her father and her brother. And

33:14

that makes sense to me that the father for

33:16

some reason that a sense of. The father and

33:19

brother lives of what this is insane

33:21

behavior. Yeah and and and I was

33:23

The sister Would see that be like

33:25

they're other men who are like that's.

33:27

On. Him like that's. That.

33:29

If a dude doing that, that's on their

33:32

eggs. and also of the do that

33:34

can just easily hit on assessor where

33:36

it's believable. He.

33:38

Was only do the same thought of they go.

33:40

I I don't know our undies I was,

33:42

I have is. I think that's the thing

33:45

that I can't get over this whole story

33:47

where it's like. Everything

33:49

in this story all this turmoil

33:52

was caused by one fucking perv

33:54

later. Like any and he's is

33:56

like living his life out, probably

33:59

completely oblivious. Oh underwear are

34:01

of the i got a trunk full

34:03

of underwear six i like he gets

34:05

away some even mine he's fine he's

34:07

is live in his life as by

34:10

like he is cause. Just.

34:12

As years and years worth of

34:14

all like see as said. Broken

34:16

a sandwich completely by being

34:18

a perv. It's like, know

34:20

guys, Stop. Focusing on the

34:23

conspiracy theories, it's one per view

34:25

that broke the family let seal

34:27

it altogether, but it's so hard

34:29

to see that. Will.

34:31

We have adopted. Oh oh and it's

34:33

that she got her underwear back this up

34:36

the it's a dual doesn't want her underwear

34:38

but if it is is not a short

34:40

updates so holy against go. A

34:42

lot has happened the last couple of days.

34:44

I have tried to read all the comments

34:47

and taking everyone's advice. This has been the

34:49

outcome. I. Lost a sister and a

34:51

mother in two days. It's heartbreaking more than

34:53

anything. I had a meet up with everyone.

34:55

My boyfriend came with me so I had

34:58

support during the conversation. Honestly, it was hard

35:00

to look at any of them for the

35:02

way they treated me. I'm so thankful to

35:04

everyone are opening my eyes to the crazy

35:06

behavior exhibited in the first part of the

35:09

story in front of everyone. My mother admitted

35:11

to knowing about the plants from the start.

35:13

Sister. Confided in her and she agreed

35:15

it was a good idea. she supported her

35:18

son in law by openly harassing her daughter.

35:20

I'm in complete shock and it just hurts

35:22

so much knowing she would condone this Considering

35:24

she knew how much I was affected by

35:26

the first husband, she knew I was having

35:28

a difficult time in therapy. It took me

35:30

a long time to trust people again. After

35:32

that and I feel like once again by

35:34

trust has been broken. I don't know how

35:36

ever going to trust anyone again. I'm really

35:39

thankful my boyfriend was there to comfort me

35:41

because it was so hard keeping my coat

35:43

composure around them. My sister was not

35:45

budging at all. She kept maintaining she was

35:47

in the right. She said the only reason

35:49

I wouldn't apologizes because deep down I knew

35:51

what her ex was like. She said i

35:54

just like getting attention from him knowing he

35:56

was married to my sister. She also claimed

35:58

by overreacted and if it's acting. It's

36:00

not harassment. I told her

36:02

she and I told her she shouldn't expect

36:04

any calls, less tax, or just not to

36:06

be contacted by me until I received the

36:08

apology I deserve from her for both her

36:10

and my brother in law. Speaking of, he

36:12

was pretty south throughout the whole thing, probably

36:14

because my father threatened his life if he

36:17

spoke bad about me. He.

36:19

Did say that the only reason he did

36:21

it was to placate my sister because she

36:23

kept accusing him of ogling me. but still

36:26

no apology from him. You're.

36:28

Right is already like weird. My. Mother.

36:30

This one broke my heart the most. She

36:32

told me I was exaggerating that I should

36:34

be happy to have passed my sister's test.

36:37

She actually said the words we can all

36:39

move on Now. I. Was in are

36:41

to be honest. how could she think that things

36:43

would just go back to normal after this? I

36:45

ask why she was supporting such delusional behavior. She

36:47

said it was because she loved my sister and

36:49

wanted her to be happy. I asked her she

36:51

loved me as much as my sister. She.

36:54

Said yes. It seemed hesitant, but I don't want

36:56

to read too much into that. I told her

36:58

I wanted an apology for her schemes. She refused.

37:00

So I gave are the same conditions I gave

37:02

my sister and brother in law until I get

37:04

an apology. I simply I'm not speaking to all

37:06

three of them. As a result, I also probably

37:09

have to go low contact with my brother and

37:11

dad because they both live with my mother. I

37:13

mean, I'll hang out with them outside and without

37:15

the presence of my mother, but whether she'll let

37:17

them is the question. I know some of you

37:19

have suggested spending time with my boyfriend, family on

37:22

holidays and occasions. I think it was just. One

37:24

person but oh well. I haven't met my

37:26

boyfriend family before because they live in the

37:28

Us but after the situation have taken two

37:30

weeks paid holiday for the end of this

37:32

month and he's taking me to meet them

37:34

for the first time. I hope it goes

37:37

well because they might be the only family

37:39

I have now. My therapy session has been

37:41

moved to tomorrow because I requested an emergency

37:43

appointment. Wish me luck! Anyway, my biggest things

37:45

goes to all you redditors for helping me

37:47

see the situation for when it was for

37:49

your advice and compassion. I'm really grateful. I

37:52

don't think I would have been able. to

37:54

get through this on my own it's likely

37:56

i would have caved and apologize just for

37:58

the pattern to repeat itself truly Thank you

38:00

so much. Wishing you all the best. And I

38:02

hope you know that your advice might just have

38:04

saved me from my need to always please others.

38:07

I'll look back on this moment. Anytime I feel

38:09

like putting someone else's feelings above my own comfort.

38:12

Hope your hearts are filled with love and happiness. Oh,

38:15

wow. Damn. That sucks.

38:19

But that was a special, but what doesn't

38:21

suck is it sounds like the sister really

38:24

needs to get a lot of emergency

38:26

therapy sessions because she clearly

38:28

did the same thing to the other brother. She

38:31

has a huge amount of

38:33

insecurity and jealousy around her sister. So she

38:36

implants that and then she implanted that

38:38

in the new brother-in-law. Yeah. It sounded

38:40

like he was a little bit also.

38:43

He was also weird, but also like she,

38:45

she went from like a really traumatic,

38:47

like the sister went from a horrible

38:49

relationship and was married pretty quick, like

38:51

into a new guy. If, if she's

38:53

having those trust issues, it's like you

38:55

shouldn't be doing this. Yeah.

38:57

Like you're doing that type of test. Why don't you

38:59

go to therapy? Why don't you go to couples therapy

39:02

if you don't trust your like, but

39:04

also she's putting the, it's not about our

39:06

partner. She's putting it on her sister. Yeah.

39:08

No, I mean, uh, the, this woman does

39:10

have to get away from this. I am

39:12

absolutely shocked that the mom

39:14

knew about it, knew about the ploy in

39:16

the first place and went along with it.

39:19

And to me, like that,

39:22

it sounds like the mom is just

39:24

very selfish where she just, she wants

39:26

her two daughters. She wants, she wants,

39:28

you know, everything to be happy. And

39:30

she doesn't really think about like what

39:33

this event could do to this person. A

39:35

telling line is when he's talking about, I'll

39:37

probably hang out with my dad and brother outside

39:40

of the presence of my mother, whether she'll let

39:42

them. And I'm like, Oh, so the mom is

39:44

a horrible, abusive person. I, I

39:46

don't know. She's a controlling person at the very, I

39:49

see, I see, I see the mom's

39:52

like, I don't condone her behavior,

39:54

but I see the mom's version of it. I

39:57

swear to God, a mom's only goal

39:59

is to keep the family together. sometimes

40:01

so it's like she'll do anything to

40:03

keep the sisters together and it

40:05

sounds like over years she's

40:08

made a lot of packs with

40:10

the devil to keep the sisters

40:12

together that she's so far in

40:15

that she's completely risked her whole

40:17

relationship with her husband but also

40:19

there's a huge controlling element of it where

40:22

it's like if she lets them get out

40:24

of the house. Well a lot of a

40:26

lot of people just use shame and guilt

40:28

yeah like like how could you see her

40:30

when they have in a bubble you know

40:32

it's like and the husband's not gonna want

40:34

to deal with a lot of peacekeeping behavior

40:36

by parents and people in general can

40:39

very easily turn into controlling and abusive

40:41

behavior yeah it can be a form

40:43

of it because it's manipulation you have

40:45

to let it let it play out

40:47

let the sisters or brothers or siblings

40:50

let their journey play out there they're

40:52

adults you cannot get in there too much

40:54

you cannot let them hug when they're not

40:56

ready yeah stop doing and you

40:58

also just can't fucking lie to people like you

41:00

lie on that level that's crazy someone said I

41:02

don't feel safe in this situation you go yeah

41:04

yeah it's not gonna be that situation acting is

41:06

not a real event acting

41:09

is not harassment crazy that's the end

41:11

of the wild line one

41:13

comment on this update good for you OP

41:15

I absolutely would not have anything to do

41:17

with either of them until they recognize their

41:20

behavior was unacceptable as well also I can't

41:22

say I very much faith in your sister's

41:24

new marriage if she finds this acceptable regardless

41:26

glad you made a decision you're at peace

41:28

with OP responded thank you it was a

41:30

difficult decision our culture is centered around family

41:32

which is why we would get together as

41:34

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41:36

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41:38

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41:40

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45:24

a 26 year old man, humiliated and

45:26

shattered my girlfriend's confidence. His girlfriend

45:28

being 25. He's old? He's 26. 26, 25.

45:31

I humiliated and shattered my girlfriend's

45:36

confidence. This is relationship advice so

45:38

he's not asking if he's the asshole but he's asking

45:40

for advice on what to do. Well he's about to find

45:42

out. Yeah. My

45:45

girlfriend and I moved in together last year. We

45:47

live in a fairly safe neighborhood but during the

45:49

night there are some sketchy drunk men hanging around

45:51

who also scare me quite honestly. My girlfriend however

45:54

wasn't really scared to walk alone at night and

45:56

would say that she's just as strong as those

45:58

men and can take care of herself. My

46:00

girlfriend is 5'10 and works out two times a

46:02

week. She's indeed very strong compared to most women,

46:05

but she was obviously delusional to think that her strength

46:07

was comparable to that of an average man. She would

46:09

even go as far as saying that if someone should

46:12

be worried about walking alone at night, then it should

46:14

be me as I'm a scrawny 5'9 man. I

46:18

love her. She's like, bitch. Yeah,

46:20

I work out two times. I

46:23

thought this was one of the situations where it would be

46:25

better to just shut up than be correct, so I mostly

46:27

stopped showing my concerns to her. Yesterday,

46:30

she went out with some of her friends

46:32

and called me at 1am saying that she'll

46:34

come alone via public transportation. She doesn't have

46:36

a license. I told her that it's

46:38

dangerous and I should come pick her up, but she

46:40

insisted on coming by herself. I couldn't sleep till she

46:42

came home an hour later. She

46:45

was so angry at me for not trusting her that she can

46:47

take care of herself. That was

46:49

when I decided to demonstrate to her the disparity between the strength of

46:51

men and women. Oh, jeez. She

46:53

thought I was joking at first, but when she

46:55

realized that I was dead serious, she happily took

46:57

the opportunity to prove how wrong I was. I

47:00

basically told her to ground me as hard as she could, and

47:02

then I quickly got out of her grip and grounded her

47:04

for several minutes till she surrendered. She

47:07

cried a lot throughout this whole time, and I could

47:09

also see the fear in her eyes, even though she

47:11

knew very well that I would never hurt her. I

47:14

humiliated her. I slept on the

47:16

couch that night. She didn't want to talk about

47:18

it in the morning and said that she's fine,

47:20

but she's still obviously very upset about it. I

47:22

feel horrible that I've shattered her confidence like that,

47:24

and I don't think she will ever feel safe

47:26

walking alone at night again. I'm probably

47:29

a horrible person for doing that, and I

47:31

wish I could have just trusted her more to take care of herself. I

47:34

know this relationship is probably over, but is there anything

47:36

I could do to make up for it? Um...

47:39

I wouldn't say the relationship is over. I

47:42

would say... I

47:44

think...it's almost like... Look,

47:48

she consented to this weird-ass test,

47:50

but I think it's... It's

47:53

strange that he's like, I held her down for multiple minutes.

47:55

Like, was that necessary? Yeah.

47:58

Like, I don't know. Like, if she agrees... to

48:00

this weird thing and you

48:03

know I think that's fine I don't think

48:05

it was a good idea I don't know

48:07

I don't think it's like really proving a

48:09

point no no it's a

48:12

weird way to hand it's a weird way to

48:14

solve the very weird way the weird way and

48:16

I'm like you know for

48:18

one I mean there's I have a lot of opinions on all

48:20

this for one I don't care about

48:22

your physical strength like are they acting

48:24

like weapons don't exist I'm like dude

48:26

yeah the fuck also size

48:29

kind of doesn't matter you're walking alone at night like it

48:32

might be two people what are you thinking

48:34

like I don't know I do think it's stupid

48:36

for people to walk alone at night and

48:38

to be cocky about it it's dumb now we

48:40

live in Los Angeles which is a place

48:42

where you don't walk alone yeah I'm like I'm

48:45

like where did this person grow up yeah

48:48

it's like the people it's like the

48:50

people that leave like their laptop like

48:52

visible in a car and then they're

48:54

yeah you know surprised when somebody breaks

48:57

into it it's like you

49:00

have to like I have to have some like a where

49:02

I did it I'm not gonna I did I

49:04

was going on a

49:06

date I was very I put my computer

49:09

literally right there but it wasn't one thing it's

49:12

one thing look I I

49:15

accidentally left my I've been I'm a very safe

49:17

person I left my car unlocked I swear to

49:20

God once in my life and then I my

49:22

car got robbed once but

49:25

like there are people who are cocky about it

49:27

like I've I swear to God I've known

49:29

people who would leave their keys in their car and

49:32

then their car would get stolen that's my mom

49:34

it's just like why do you cash yeah like

49:37

I don't know um I also

49:39

just think I also think like I

49:42

think this is it takes two to

49:44

tango in this situation for me I feel like I

49:48

loved her confidence I loved it but I

49:50

could feel that he did all of that

49:52

because he was building resentment over and over

49:54

and over and I will say if you're

49:56

in a partnership it gets kind of old

49:58

when you're like I could take care

50:00

of myself. Like, why don't you

50:02

trust me? It's also like,

50:05

hey, like, if you're in

50:07

a partnership, collaborate with me. Like,

50:10

maybe, you know what I mean? I felt

50:12

like she was being a little, playing it

50:14

a little too tough, where it's like, cool.

50:17

You work out two times a week, nice.

50:20

You know, you're five, 10, nice. But

50:22

like, you're in a relationship.

50:25

It's a collaborative thing. Let him pick you

50:27

up once in a while. No,

50:29

if he's offering to pick you up and you're going, no,

50:31

I'm gonna walk home at 1 a.m., it's like, don't

50:34

do that unless you are in a,

50:37

unless that is your singular only

50:39

option. Don't do that. I don't care

50:41

where you are. Either resentment was already too high on both

50:43

sides. If

50:46

I was him though, if I would be

50:48

like, I would really lay it out of

50:50

like, hey, please, I don't care if you're

50:52

fucking six-five. I don't want you, I

50:55

feel uncomfortable with you doing that. Yeah,

50:57

like it should be a conversation of

50:59

like, this is

51:01

important to me, that I don't want you. Our

51:03

safety is, we're a team. We should

51:06

care about our safety. We have to

51:08

see though how he was saying it though. Like,

51:10

it sounds like both of them kind of were

51:12

like, you're scrawny, five, nine, you're five, 10, you

51:15

work out two times a week, nah, nah.

51:17

I think this, yeah, I think this

51:19

came from more of a weird place of like, resentment

51:22

and anger too, which is, I don't like him.

51:24

Let me be clear. I do not

51:26

like how he handled this. No.

51:28

All of oil guys still the least safe.

51:31

Yes, what? Okay,

51:34

comments here. The fuck did I just read?

51:36

You harmed and terrified your girlfriend to win

51:38

an argument? Another commenter. Seriously, when my dad,

51:40

cousins and partner ever worried about me, they

51:42

just brought me a taser, pepper spray and

51:44

took me to the range to learn how

51:46

to properly shoot. I now carry all those

51:48

things just to give them the extra peace

51:50

of mind. Even though I think I'm perfectly

51:52

capable of handling myself as I've lived in

51:54

many places and traveled to even more places

51:56

completely alone and not once been fearful in

51:58

any of those situations. They didn't physically

52:01

assault me to prove a point though. They

52:03

did things to actually help me protect myself.

52:05

Yeah The problem is

52:07

you approved your point and then took it too

52:09

far. You shouldn't have made her cry In fact,

52:12

you only needed to show her she couldn't hold

52:14

you down. You need some self-reflection Another

52:17

commenter also, she's not exactly going

52:19

to gouge out her boyfriend's eyes Wow,

52:22

it's not the men on the street or the

52:24

bus. She needs to be worried about it's the

52:26

one in her house Um, someone said even

52:28

though she knew very well that I would

52:30

never hurt her She doesn't know that at

52:32

all and you've made sure that she will

52:34

always think you will now congrats There is

52:37

nothing you can do here. Just leave her

52:39

alone Ironically women are more likely

52:41

to be attacked by men. They know rather

52:43

than by strangers. Correct. So congratulations on also

52:45

showing her that threat is real Those

52:49

are all yeah, it's so it's very true

52:52

Those are all and I think people should be extremely

52:54

cautious out in the world But it is 100% true

52:58

a person's partner is like no one.

53:00

Oh, it's always the husband or the

53:02

wife. I always know you're Gateway

53:11

There's an edit here I can't possibly

53:13

answer all of your comments what I did was

53:15

the soul I admit it I can't

53:17

express how sorry I am for doing that I

53:19

thought I was doing the right thing But instead

53:21

I assaulted her by trying to prevent exactly that

53:24

don't learn from me But please keep yourself safe

53:26

out there if not for you then for the

53:28

ones who love you So I mean

53:30

Amanda you you've talked about not always feeling

53:32

afraid when walking alone and you have Muay

53:34

Thai experience How

53:36

do you miss it? But I don't work out more

53:39

than twice a week I do but you still I

53:41

think and you kind of expressed how you felt about

53:43

this this woman's mindset. Yeah, I would

53:45

say like The moment you

53:47

start to get really cocky is when you're in

53:49

trouble like there So

53:52

many things could happen. I will say though

53:54

like Adrenaline

53:56

can come in but yes, I

53:59

I am trained in Muay Thai It is really good for

54:01

me to know but I am sparring

54:04

with a person that I know really well. I'm

54:06

not on the street Surprised

54:08

scared like it's dark

54:10

It's dark, but I will say

54:12

like I was taught at

54:14

a young age like don't be on

54:16

your phone don't have headphones I am

54:18

constantly looking around but I've worked in

54:20

restaurants I've definitely had run-ins with a

54:22

terrible thing that's happened to me in

54:25

the night and I was like wow I

54:28

was not prepared for that What

54:30

whoa, I wasn't prepared for that if that

54:32

went any further what would I have done

54:34

right but? Yeah,

54:37

I I will say that I

54:39

think it's very important to have

54:41

plan B plan C plan D Right

54:44

like taser all

54:46

that stuff is really important. I'm not that scared, but

54:48

I am very aware Yeah,

54:50

I'm I'm looking at and I feel like the

54:52

other thing you learn and any sort of like

54:54

any instructor would tell you is Like you're not

54:56

fighting is not your your plan a ever like

54:58

you do not want to end up in there

55:00

They're never in the right position for you to

55:02

fight them. They're not like right like

55:04

you ready square up You

55:07

ready like hello. They do victim.

55:09

I am Robert Yeah, you know what

55:11

you teach you if they grab right here

55:13

what to do sure which is like a

55:15

thing But how often are people gonna be like? Yeah

55:18

for them to go it you have to

55:20

predict the unpredictable which you can't do The

55:23

cockiness thing reminds me of a statistic which is

55:27

That the people who are most likely

55:29

to get lost out hiking are like

55:31

I got it are super experienced men

55:33

Like with like that you think oh well. He's

55:35

a professional. He's never get there the ones It's

55:38

cockiness that leads to a lot of this.

55:40

Yeah I

55:43

also I don't know you've got it is the worst thing

55:45

to think yeah And I will

55:47

say I stopped listening to it because

55:49

it made me very scared and paranoid

55:51

I listen to a a Any I

55:54

survived God it is

55:56

so rough, but I will say some of those stories. I

55:58

was like oh good to know Oh, good

56:00

to know like getting locked in the trunk like

56:02

all these little things and all

56:05

these women stories are like Oh, yeah, I heard

56:07

this thing once. Oh, I heard this honestly,

56:09

it's just fill yourself up

56:12

with knowledge and Different

56:14

plans and know that you

56:16

won't know but your body also will

56:18

have enough adrenaline. Yeah to get you

56:20

to a place Hopefully

56:23

of safety. It's also the thing It's a psychological

56:25

thing of like when you take all the precautions

56:27

and things bad things don't happen You start to

56:29

go. Well, I don't need to take these precautions.

56:31

No bad things are it's like you

56:33

got to keep doing it I can survivor the moment you

56:35

feel comfortable is when you're getting voted out It

56:37

reminds me of I just think about when my brother

56:39

and I went camping and a park ranger told us

56:41

to hang our food Up because a bear was spotted

56:43

nearby. We got my brothers like we got a double

56:45

sealed in our car. It's gonna be fine We're gonna

56:47

be all wrong. And then that bear came into our

56:50

camp and messed up There

56:53

was like I heard what you said Alright

57:00

next story This is a 22 year

57:02

old woman. My boyfriend who's 24

57:04

is a passport, bro Oh, and

57:07

I had no idea. I don't know

57:09

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57:11

from relationship advice I've been

57:14

with my boyfriend for eight months things have been

57:16

going really well between us up until a few

57:18

days ago a little backstory I'm from a central

57:20

European country and he's American. He said he settled

57:22

in my country because of work opportunities We met

57:25

in a coffee house where I work as a

57:27

barista We clicked instantly and started going out a

57:29

few weeks later. Everything was so good and we

57:31

had so much fun Fast forward

57:33

to last week. He asked me to help him

57:36

with some documentation I was happy

57:38

to as I know my language can be

57:40

hard to understand and even translate sometimes when

57:42

I was searching online on his Laptop, I

57:44

stumbled upon some weird websites. They

57:46

were all about passport bros I

57:49

didn't even know what the hell that was at first

57:51

and basically they all had tips on how to settle

57:53

in foreign countries Where to

57:55

find a traditional bride and which country

57:57

has the most beautiful women, etc I

58:00

was shocked and so confused. I know I

58:02

shouldn't have done it, but I wanted to

58:04

gain some clarity and check his profile on

58:06

some of these websites. He

58:09

had full-on conversations about Eastern European countries,

58:11

European women, how easy or hard it

58:13

is to take them out on dates,

58:15

if it would be better to settle

58:17

down in Asia instead, and so on.

58:19

He decided to settle down in my

58:22

country. I feel dehumanized and like

58:24

he fetishized me and the women from my

58:26

country. Also, our whole relationship has been built

58:28

on a lie because he told me he

58:30

settled down here because he got a job

58:33

offer. After I

58:35

found all this stuff, I quickly took a few pictures

58:37

as proof and then made up an excuse to come

58:39

home. He tried to reach out a few times, but

58:41

I told him I don't feel well, so I can't

58:44

meet up right now. I can't even

58:46

look at him. I feel so disgusted. Am I

58:48

overreacting? How can I confront him about all this?

58:51

What? You just opened Pandora's

58:53

box. I, I, I, what? This

58:56

is a thing? Are you really surprised to hear

58:58

about this? I'm not surprised, but I didn't know

59:01

it had a name. Oh, I didn't know either.

59:03

I thought it was just undercover shit. Um,

59:05

let's see if the comments have some more stuff. Visit

59:08

the passport bros subreddit. It's an

59:10

eye opener and the relationship. I

59:13

would just exit the relationship. You're both young and

59:15

you have time to find someone who will respect

59:18

you. My understanding is passport bros want submissive women

59:20

who do all the labor and likely still contribute

59:22

50% financially. It's a

59:24

lose slash win situation for you. If

59:27

you guys live separately, I just text him the

59:29

pictures and inform him you don't plan on being

59:32

his docile Euro wife and let him know that

59:34

one thing European women and American women have in

59:36

common is none of them are going to settle

59:38

for a weirdo. Another commenter said,

59:40

I'd actually not even recommend showing him the

59:42

proof. Then he'll just know to hide it

59:44

better for the next girl. Uh,

59:47

yeah, I mean this guy's a predator. Yeah.

59:50

Whoa. I feel like this

59:52

behavior has been going on since I mean,

59:54

probably forever, but like, I think, I think

59:56

back to like, you

59:59

know, the fifties. Oh, totally. Oh, absolutely.

1:00:01

Like, oh, you need to find like, oh,

1:00:04

like these women in this area are

1:00:06

very subservient and they still listen to

1:00:08

men. Like, you know, it's that. Here's

1:00:11

the thing. Why didn't why? I

1:00:14

was about to say, why do men want that? Nobody

1:00:16

wants to fuck them where they live. And then I'm

1:00:18

like, God, why? Why am I even asking that? It's

1:00:20

like, but it's just I

1:00:23

don't date those type of men because

1:00:25

they're terrible. Why would you want just

1:00:27

a submissive? Like, what are

1:00:29

we talking about? You have to look

1:00:31

on the other side of the world

1:00:33

for somebody to be interested in. That's

1:00:35

so true. Awful. The the

1:00:37

our passport bros has over two thousand

1:00:39

members. On this subreddit, they discuss

1:00:42

where to travel in order to find a proper

1:00:44

wife who will actually appreciate them. Yeah, a tradwife.

1:00:47

God, disgusting. Dump his ass now.

1:00:49

I would honestly be like, hello.

1:00:53

Um, here are the pictures. I'm going to the

1:00:55

police and I have a detective on

1:00:58

on speed dial, man. Watch

1:01:00

your back because I'm

1:01:02

going to find you and I'm going to follow you and

1:01:05

find every woman that you find. You're

1:01:07

never going to be alone. Never forget

1:01:09

my face and then send a selfie

1:01:11

from down here. Never

1:01:16

forget the text. Prepare, prepare,

1:01:18

prepare. OK, here's a

1:01:20

post from our passport bros.

1:01:22

It's only from a couple of days ago. Is

1:01:25

Manila a good spot? Mid 20s

1:01:27

Canadian guy ready to spend the winter somewhere

1:01:29

warm and go from there. I worked hard

1:01:31

and saved a lot of money to travel

1:01:33

and explore the world. Is Manila a good

1:01:35

spot to find a partner? I've been single

1:01:37

for a year and honestly, I don't even

1:01:39

want to bother here. Shit looks really bleak.

1:01:41

Top comment. Manila is a great

1:01:44

spot to party and smash. They are

1:01:46

too westernized and easy to put out

1:01:48

for girlfriend wifey material. They also cheat

1:01:50

a lot. I have fucked 50 plus

1:01:52

married or taken Filipino women. Vietnam is

1:01:54

the spot for girlfriend wife hunting. Way

1:01:57

more traditional and conservative. God damn,

1:01:59

I can't. believe people write

1:02:01

this shit out guys some guys just

1:02:03

live in a fantasy world yeah yeah

1:02:06

but passport bro I didn't know

1:02:08

that that was like a like a labeled thing

1:02:11

yeah Wow well there's an update did

1:02:13

he find the love of his life

1:02:15

we'll see I wanted to come

1:02:18

on here and reply to a few things and

1:02:20

give a little update I had no idea the

1:02:22

last post was going to blow up so quickly

1:02:24

and get so many comments for this reason I

1:02:26

didn't go into too many details in my last

1:02:29

post when I read his comments on those websites

1:02:31

it felt dehumanizing and fetishizing they were making stereotypes

1:02:33

about us that are either untrue or outdated we

1:02:35

have all kinds of women here just like in

1:02:37

other countries some like to party some don't some

1:02:40

are looking for flings somewhat long-term relationships some want

1:02:42

to stay single and childless forever it's not true

1:02:44

that most of us are submissive women who obey

1:02:46

our husbands try telling that to a

1:02:48

central European woman face-to-face and see her reaction

1:02:51

haha to he told me

1:02:53

he only came for work and how it's

1:02:55

funny we met because he wasn't planning on

1:02:57

getting into a relationship judging by his comments

1:02:59

online it was a lie and he came

1:03:01

here to look for a traditional wife three

1:03:03

surprisingly he never actually told me that he

1:03:05

wanted a traditional relationship he doesn't do anything

1:03:07

that's considered traditional in my culture either I

1:03:09

work hard for my own money and go

1:03:11

to university so I don't want to be

1:03:13

a housewife or stay-at-home mom in the near

1:03:15

future we've talked about this so he knows

1:03:17

what worries me is that someone online told

1:03:20

him to start a relationship and then to

1:03:22

try to make it more traditional over time

1:03:24

I don't know if that's what he's trying to do or

1:03:27

if he's changed his mind I have no way of

1:03:29

knowing and don't want to take the risk of wasting

1:03:31

my time for he works at an

1:03:33

IT company allegedly I've never been to his

1:03:35

workplace so I have no proof of this

1:03:37

it might be my naivete to think it's

1:03:40

true but we we have a lot of

1:03:42

companies like this in my country and a

1:03:44

lot of foreigners work in IT in the

1:03:46

capital city so who knows five traditional women

1:03:48

and traditional relationship can mean different things in

1:03:50

different countries depending on culture and social norms

1:03:53

he wants a traditional woman by American standards

1:03:55

but that's not the same as what we

1:03:57

consider a traditional woman here it's pretty clear

1:03:59

from his online comments that he has

1:04:01

no clue about this difference. It's offensive because

1:04:03

it shows he knows nothing about our culture

1:04:06

and history and is just relying on stereotypes

1:04:08

and outdated assumptions. Six, some people in the

1:04:10

comments tried to justify his desire for a

1:04:12

traditional wife, saying that European women should be

1:04:15

happy and understanding about this. But what does

1:04:17

he bring to the table? Why should a

1:04:19

traditional Central European woman choose him instead of

1:04:22

a man from our country who speaks our

1:04:24

language, knows our customs and traditions, grew up

1:04:26

in our culture and respects us according to

1:04:28

our standards? To imply that I should be

1:04:31

grateful that an American man chose me like

1:04:33

I'm some product is offensive and makes me

1:04:35

look like I'm inferior. Very weird logic, sorry.

1:04:38

Some people commented that my post was

1:04:40

rage bait or fake because of my

1:04:42

English or because Central European women won't

1:04:45

think like this. This just proves the ignorance some

1:04:47

people have about my country. Women

1:04:49

here have careers, open their own businesses,

1:04:51

or learn to become doctors, lawyers, beauticians,

1:04:53

chefs, etc., etc. Most of us in

1:04:55

younger generations have modern mentalities except for

1:04:57

some villages but villagers probably won't go

1:04:59

for an American man who doesn't know

1:05:02

a thing about our country. Most

1:05:04

of us learn a second language since we are six

1:05:07

to eight years old. My niece literally goes to

1:05:09

a bilingual kindergarten and learns two languages at the

1:05:11

age of three so I'm not sure why it's

1:05:13

so far fetched that people here speak English as

1:05:15

well. We are not some idiots who have no

1:05:17

idea about the modern world. Most of us speak

1:05:20

at least one or two foreign languages, usually English

1:05:22

and German, sometimes Spanish, except the Boomers and Gen

1:05:24

X. They had to learn Russian back in the

1:05:26

day. And to the person who said that Central

1:05:29

European countries are basically the same as England or

1:05:31

France, it sounds like someone failed their history class.

1:05:33

Please don't be ignorant and educate yourself. I

1:05:36

told my boyfriend, X, now that I'd like to break up

1:05:38

with him. We had a small conversation on the phone

1:05:40

and I told him I wasn't in a position to

1:05:42

continue the relationship for personal reasons. At first he was

1:05:44

confused and tried to convince me not to break up

1:05:46

but then he accepted it. Nine, to

1:05:48

the comments that suggested it, and thank you for

1:05:50

the idea by the way, I posted my story

1:05:52

in local groups so other women can be aware

1:05:54

of this whole passport bro thing and hopefully not

1:05:56

fall victim to men like this. As expected, they

1:05:58

found the whole thing to disgusting and we're

1:06:00

grateful for the heads up. We're not here

1:06:02

for others enjoyment and to fulfill some submissive

1:06:05

wife fantasy of someone who looks

1:06:07

at us as stereotypes rather than individuals

1:06:09

with varying personalities and preferences. 10.

1:06:13

I'm not against foreigners or mixed couples. My brother-in-law

1:06:15

is Arab, speaks my language and knows my culture.

1:06:17

We also speak some Arabic and know and respect

1:06:19

his culture too. He didn't come here as a

1:06:21

sex tourist, but as an actual worker who wanted

1:06:23

to change his life. If you go

1:06:25

to a country, go because you're interested in it and

1:06:27

want to learn about a new culture and have some

1:06:29

great opportunities, not because you want to desperately lie to

1:06:31

women just so you can get into a relationship or

1:06:33

get some sex. I can't speak

1:06:36

for everyone in my country, but most people

1:06:38

won't tolerate this behavior and will judge passport

1:06:40

bros negatively. It's hypocritical to want a traditional

1:06:42

wife, but constantly move from country to country

1:06:44

and woman to woman. That behavior definitely isn't

1:06:47

considered traditional, at least not in my country.

1:06:49

If you want casual relationships, that's fine because

1:06:51

there are women here who want the same,

1:06:53

but just be honest about it. Thank you

1:06:56

again for all the comments, explanations, and advice.

1:06:58

They were eye-opening and really helpful. Even though I'm

1:07:00

disappointed and feel a bit used, I'm grateful

1:07:02

that I know the whole truth now. We

1:07:04

live and we learn, I guess. Go

1:07:07

off queen! Yeah. Literally, put that on

1:07:10

a pillow. I don't think it would

1:07:12

fit. It's it's but like wow. It

1:07:14

is it is a funny thing

1:07:16

that I see is that a lot of

1:07:18

Americans, especially these American dudes, they think

1:07:21

they understand other cultures so well, but I

1:07:24

feel like as Americans in general, we

1:07:26

don't know. We don't know shit. We

1:07:28

don't know other cultures that well at

1:07:30

all and most of the world speaks English.

1:07:33

Like that's a that's a thing that a lot

1:07:35

of people I guess just don't realize. And they

1:07:37

learn multiple languages. But also if you're gonna marry

1:07:39

someone from another culture, you're you're marrying into that

1:07:41

culture as well. And if you don't respect it,

1:07:43

then you don't respect that person. And you don't

1:07:45

know it. I love what she said about traditional

1:07:48

you're looking for a traditional American

1:07:50

wife. It's a completely different

1:07:52

culture here. And and even these

1:07:54

current like internet bros, their

1:07:57

idea of a traditional wife is even a

1:07:59

weird thing. They don't want something that

1:08:01

never exists. It's

1:08:04

like a porn site that they saw a lot

1:08:06

of. It's that and just old

1:08:08

marketing from the 50s. Correct.

1:08:10

It's not even real. Uh-oh, husband's coming

1:08:13

home. I better put the cigarette out and

1:08:15

the meatloaf in. Yeah, yeah. It's

1:08:19

not real. It was never real.

1:08:22

And people just

1:08:24

want the idea

1:08:26

of an easy answer. I

1:08:31

just need a woman that can just have

1:08:33

sex with me and do what I want

1:08:35

them to do. And

1:08:38

maybe if he stayed in that relationship,

1:08:40

he would have, it sounded like he

1:08:43

potentially would have realized that that is

1:08:45

not real. And it's like, oh, this

1:08:48

is a human being, just like the

1:08:50

women back home. And she's full of

1:08:52

complex ideas and thoughts and feelings. Exactly.

1:08:55

And it's like, so you guys are,

1:08:57

you have people here too. It's

1:09:00

really like he's so gone. I

1:09:03

think it's harder for someone to look at

1:09:05

themselves, grow, become

1:09:08

a better person, explore,

1:09:10

be curious, feel rejection.

1:09:13

I think it's just so much harder to do

1:09:15

that. So they do everything in their power to

1:09:17

do sick, gross,

1:09:19

weird shit to be like, no,

1:09:21

no, no. This is fucked up. It's like, no,

1:09:24

just look at yourself and

1:09:26

go from there. And we're

1:09:28

seeing so much of this delusion in men from

1:09:31

these Reddit stories. And I see it on the internet all the

1:09:33

time. You see it

1:09:35

on TikTok. You see these talking

1:09:37

heads that are out there, the manosphere, as

1:09:39

I call it and people call it. And

1:09:42

I think what's happened for a lot of dudes is people

1:09:45

are feeling more empowered nowadays. They

1:09:49

are realizing, oh, I don't have to tolerate

1:09:51

this bullshit. And instead of men being like,

1:09:53

what can I do? That's better myself. They're

1:09:55

trying to work around it and blame. No,

1:09:58

no, no. Like

1:10:02

the ship of power is going away. They're like, don't leave

1:10:04

me here. And all the women are like, come.

1:10:08

Yeah. Unrelated. I

1:10:10

just realized I need to, I

1:10:12

do need to renew my passport. Completely

1:10:14

unrelated. Are you a passport bro? No,

1:10:17

right now I am passport-less. You're a passport-less.

1:10:19

OK. Then you're safe. I'm a passport-less. You're

1:10:22

safe. I'm safe. This

1:10:24

guy is not, passport bros are not

1:10:26

safe. Because I am coming for you. I

1:10:29

feel like now, you're going to start here.

1:10:31

I feel a fire. A vigilante of passport

1:10:34

bros. What's not safe to see right now?

1:10:37

If I go to Romania, are people going to start thinking

1:10:39

I'm a passport bro? It's very possible.

1:10:41

If you're around there dating people. I

1:10:44

don't think I am. I think I just want to see

1:10:46

the nice nature. Yeah, me too. I want to go to

1:10:48

Romania. That's fine. I'm a castle bro.

1:10:50

Whoa. Whoa. What? Hey,

1:10:53

I want to get into that castle. Whoa, man. What's your?

1:10:55

That seems weird. I'm

1:10:57

more of a traditional architecture kind of guy.

1:10:59

So. Well, slow down, man. Let's mess

1:11:02

up. I'm a fight for vengeance, bro. There

1:11:06

was a couple comments here. So happy

1:11:08

for this update. Good on you. Fellow European here.

1:11:10

And I love your putting people in their place

1:11:12

for stereotyping your culture and making excuses for horrible

1:11:14

misogyny. Someone else said, crazy how these

1:11:16

passport bros think everyone dreams of living

1:11:19

in their country while being some of the dumbest and

1:11:21

most uninformed people in the world. Lastly,

1:11:23

someone said, as an American, you have my

1:11:25

utmost respect. These guys are a national embarrassment,

1:11:27

and they need to be routed out wherever

1:11:30

they're found. Start a relationship and then try

1:11:32

to make it more traditional over time. I

1:11:34

can guarantee that's what he was doing. They

1:11:37

tried the same thing over here and are angry

1:11:39

that they don't have much luck. Yeah, which

1:11:41

is most of the stories we read here. Damn

1:11:44

it. Women are reading again. Yeah. Oh,

1:11:46

they're getting their protective themselves. It's so

1:11:48

fascinating to me the lengths men will go instead

1:11:50

of just going to therapy and like. Exactly. They

1:11:53

won't look at themselves. Instead, they'll be

1:11:55

like, oh, shit. They all have books

1:11:57

in schools. I must go across the

1:11:59

street. Where can

1:12:01

I go where they don't have books? Books in school

1:12:03

is nowhere man. No, I'm sorry. Why

1:12:06

don't you sit down and read a book about like how

1:12:09

to get better for dummies dude? How

1:12:11

to be better. I gotta

1:12:13

be honest, I don't feel safe around any any of these

1:12:15

people. I actually feel the safest

1:12:18

around the dad. The dad. Well

1:12:20

the ears, NBA. No, no. Somehow.

1:12:22

No, no. Somehow the

1:12:25

dad is for

1:12:27

me like they're all horrible. He's

1:12:30

a lot of these people ended up being worse than I

1:12:32

think the dad's just an alcoholic dad problem. But

1:12:35

they are lacking. That sucks.

1:12:38

Yeah, that's loud hungover. Yeah

1:12:40

loud allergies. Let

1:12:42

us know in the comments down below who

1:12:44

you think was the worst. They're all bad.

1:12:46

But who do you somehow think is number

1:12:48

one and we'll see

1:12:51

you next week for more Reddit stories.

1:12:55

I don't know how they get much crazier than this, but they keep

1:12:57

getting crazier. Thank you both

1:13:00

for joining me. Yeah. Anytime I am

1:13:02

like gonna gear up. I'm

1:13:04

gonna get a full leather outfit.

1:13:07

Sarah Christ is traveling the world. Sarah

1:13:09

Christ is rebooted. Full leather

1:13:11

just like passport bros with

1:13:13

an X on the back.

1:13:15

You have two swords. I

1:13:18

feel like you're gonna be like to catch

1:13:20

a predator, but it's to catch a passport

1:13:22

bro. Yeah, I'm gonna be on airplanes. Two

1:13:24

samurai swords like. So

1:13:27

what brings you to Manila? And

1:13:29

the guy's like we're in Milan.

1:13:35

She's like shit. She's like shit. Alright,

1:13:40

we'll see you next Saturday. Goodbye. Bye.