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Sophia with an F, but

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I think I'm in the mood for a quickie. I

2:52

was over here thinking I was like, you

2:54

know, had a little broken wing, like a

2:56

little bird. But here

2:58

I am and I'm a fucking eagle and

3:00

I'm soaring through the air and

3:02

I have no issues, no qualms and

3:05

nothing to be therapized.

3:07

Like I am fucking healed

3:10

and I am 100% ready

3:12

to go. What's

3:23

up? Welcome to Club Bed. I

3:26

will be your host for the

3:28

evening. I am not recording

3:30

on the floor of my apartment today and

3:33

I'm not recording in any of

3:35

the regular suspects area. I'm

3:38

recording from my bed and I'm

3:41

really, really liking it. I'm like, why didn't

3:43

I do, see, I just got even more

3:45

comfortable. If you're just listening to

3:47

the audio of this, I do

3:49

post this to TikTok. But

3:52

if you guys haven't

3:54

yet, if you could please

3:57

share any episode that

3:59

you've found. entertaining with your friends

4:01

or your family. Maybe

4:03

not the family. I can be

4:05

a little bit raunchy, but I think your

4:08

mom and your dad would love it, to

4:10

be honest, and your little brother and sister.

4:13

It's like a worst nightmare, but. You

4:16

heard my little brother. Potty

4:19

mouth. Yeah, if

4:21

you could share with people,

4:25

I'm just trying to get the word out about

4:27

the show because I don't

4:30

really post to social media as much as

4:32

I should. And it used to be

4:34

the kind of thing where if

4:37

you had a big

4:39

podcast, not even a big podcast, but

4:41

like if you had a podcast with

4:43

a substantial following, then people

4:46

would go check out your socials. Now,

4:49

if you have a big following on your

4:52

socials, people will go check out

4:54

your podcast. So for anyone actually

4:56

entering into the podcast space, and I

4:58

know a lot of you guys have

5:00

thought about it, because the

5:03

market is so goddamn saturated.

5:05

But honestly, if you are

5:07

curious about

5:09

starting your own podcast, biggest

5:12

piece of advice is to

5:15

absolutely pursue it, but

5:18

just know that you're

5:21

not gonna really get anywhere until

5:24

you have people listening. And how are you gonna

5:26

have people listening? They're not

5:28

gonna find you on the podcast

5:30

app, like very rarely. And

5:34

the main way they're gonna come across you is either

5:36

by word of mouth, which I am

5:40

humbly asking you guys to help

5:42

me with, or

5:44

by, you know, being

5:46

like the next Alex Earl and

5:48

posting six TikToks a day, which

5:52

is gonna be my new MO. I

5:55

spend so much time and blood,

5:57

sweat, and tears into... the

6:00

podcast itself and just really

6:03

trying to do quality content. And

6:06

I think that's

6:08

great and I'm not going to stop

6:10

giving guys quality content, but I am

6:14

going to shift my energy

6:16

a little bit towards social

6:19

media because that is

6:21

the fucking currency baby. And

6:23

you know what you can either hop

6:25

on or get run over and I'm

6:27

going to hop on. So

6:30

with all of that said

6:32

I want to just

6:34

give you guys like

6:36

a teeny little update.

6:39

Number one, my EMDR

6:41

therapist broke

6:43

up with me. Call

6:46

that karma and that's what I get

6:48

for breaking up with my ex-boyfriend

6:51

of two years. I've

6:53

never had a situation like

6:55

this with a therapist ever. I've heard

6:58

horror stories and she's not

7:00

my main therapist, you know, like

7:02

my main therapist. Her name is Megan.

7:05

We talk every single week on Tuesday

7:07

for 45 minutes or an hour,

7:11

but it's not Megan. This

7:14

was a lady that Megan

7:17

actually referred to me and

7:19

said that she's

7:22

heard really great things and if you're going to

7:24

do EMDR like you really need to do it,

7:26

right? EMDR for

7:28

those of you who don't know stands

7:31

for I rapid eye movement

7:35

therapy something in that

7:37

realm and basically

7:40

it says well, it doesn't

7:42

say it's been

7:44

clinically proven that you

7:47

can process things particularly

7:50

trauma much better

7:52

if the left and

7:54

the right brain are being activated. So

7:57

yeah, I. had,

8:01

I think, three sessions with

8:03

her. And then on the

8:06

third session, we really got

8:09

into the weeds. And that was the session

8:11

where I had to

8:13

recall said traumatic

8:15

event or events and

8:19

talk through them while

8:22

I was holding on to this machine. There's different

8:24

ways you can do EMDR. And

8:28

she told me that she

8:31

wanted me to recall the

8:33

incident, but in a very matter

8:35

of fact way. Don't tell me

8:38

how you felt. Don't tell

8:40

me all of the little tiny details,

8:42

because I know it's kind of complex.

8:45

Just explain to

8:47

me from beginning to end what

8:50

happened. And

8:54

think about it in terms of you need to

8:56

tell me the entirety of the story in 20

8:58

minutes. And

9:02

I was like, ma'am,

9:04

have you heard of a fucking

9:07

mini episode? Baby

9:09

girl, I think I fucking

9:12

know how to tell a story

9:14

in 20 minutes. So

9:16

I go through the whole thing,

9:18

and she asked

9:21

me right after I finish

9:24

how I felt. This story is

9:26

not sexual. Just

9:28

kidding. I would never have sex for 20

9:31

minutes. Actually, I've heard that that is the

9:34

ideal amount of time for

9:37

a woman to be able to really

9:39

relax and get into it and

9:41

have a successful orgasm. I

9:46

heard that 20 minutes is kind of

9:48

the sweet spot. Well, 20 minutes minimum,

9:50

let's be real. Let's

9:52

be real, because girls can take their

9:54

fucking time. So I recall

9:57

this incident, and

9:59

just horrifying

12:01

incident, but

12:03

that incident is just poking

12:05

the bear. And the

12:07

bear actually lies

12:10

somewhere in early childhood.

12:13

And that's the, that's where you

12:15

need to get. Like you need

12:17

to get into those weeds. I'm

12:20

like, I can't, like,

12:22

what? I'm

12:24

supposed to remember shit from when I was four

12:27

years old. I don't fully get that whole thing,

12:29

but she explains

12:31

those things to me. And

12:35

mind you, I'm going in for a full

12:37

session. And last week

12:39

she told me, okay, this

12:42

is a normal response and we are

12:44

going to continue on this path. And,

12:46

you know, sometimes it takes a few

12:48

sessions. All of a sudden

12:50

I'm sitting in her office on

12:53

the couch with a box of

12:55

tissues and homegirl is just like,

12:57

yeah, no, I

12:59

want you to just like

13:01

continue doing your talk therapy

13:04

separately. And maybe

13:06

we can reconvene down the road.

13:10

My first reaction was to cry.

13:15

I was feeling very emotional that day. I'm not going

13:17

to lie, but like then

13:19

my second reaction, which

13:21

was me telling her, which

13:24

was less of a reaction. It

13:26

was me straight up saying, I

13:29

feel like my

13:31

abandonment issues are getting very

13:33

triggered right now and I'm also confused. Like,

13:36

can you explain this to me more? And

13:39

I don't have like a

13:41

bunch of clarity as to why, but she

13:43

basically was like. My

13:46

response was not indicative of

13:49

that being the

13:51

pressure point in my life. And

13:54

that being the thing that has made me operate in

13:57

the future. in

14:00

whatever way I am now, and that it was

14:02

something much earlier. And

14:07

we went on to have like

14:09

a very productive conversation. I looked

14:11

at her and I was like, I

14:13

guess I'm healed. I

14:16

was over here thinking I was like, you

14:18

know, had a little broken wing, like a

14:20

little bird, but here

14:22

I am and I'm a fucking eagle and

14:24

I'm soaring through the air. And

14:27

I have no issues, no qualms,

14:29

and nothing to be

14:31

therippized. Like I am

14:33

fucking healed and

14:36

I am a hundred percent

14:39

ready to go and ready

14:41

to move forth and operate

14:43

in this fully healed. I have

14:46

no fucking issues, state of mind.

14:49

I didn't say it in exactly those words. I

14:52

wouldn't swear in front of her. I at

14:54

least would try not to, but I genuinely

14:56

made a joke. And I was like, oh,

14:58

so that means like, I've done the work,

15:00

I'm good. And

15:02

she laughed and told me,

15:04

listen, I don't

15:06

want to have you do

15:09

a bunch more EMDR if

15:13

I don't think it's working. And

15:16

I actually really respect that she did

15:19

that. And

15:21

I respect that she did it

15:23

so early on too. I really appreciate it.

15:25

It was like a very

15:27

different vibe from how we left

15:29

off the last session. So

15:32

that's really interesting. Also, do

15:35

we find it a little bit interesting

15:37

that these sessions are

15:39

$390 per session? That

15:47

is New York for you. And

15:49

trust me, at first when I heard

15:51

that number, I was like,

15:55

I don't know about this.

15:58

Like that is fucking, That is a lot

16:00

of money, 400 bucks

16:02

on a weekly basis. Not

16:05

to mention I have Megan, who's

16:07

a superstar and

16:09

a psychiatrist who I see like every six

16:12

months. But it was

16:15

a little bit bizarre to me that she

16:17

treated this session like it

16:20

was gonna be this full EMDR session, but

16:22

within five minutes of sitting down, she's like,

16:24

oh, we're actually not doing EMDR. Like

16:27

couldn't you have just kind of told me

16:30

that at the end of last

16:32

session? Cause between

16:34

the Uber and the 390 bucks and

16:38

the time that I spend here and

16:41

in the fucking Uber, like I'm

16:43

paying a pretty penny. Why

16:45

was I not told this earlier? Because

16:48

I understand she probably didn't wanna do

16:50

it over the phone or fucking email,

16:52

then I would have been actually horrified.

16:55

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17:17

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17:19

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17:21

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17:24

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17:27

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17:30

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17:33

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17:36

of course ended up at the goddamn club. You

17:38

know what I wore? Tall boots, a

17:41

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17:45

my Skims fits everybody t-shirt. And

17:49

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17:52

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17:54

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17:57

this t-shirt hugs your body. in

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18:03

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Sleuts. So

18:55

yeah, that that

18:57

is my EMDR experience.

19:03

Can't say it worked for me. Can't

19:06

say I wouldn't recommend it because I

19:09

just I didn't it wasn't

19:11

happening. And I've heard

19:13

it's really really beneficial and helpful and

19:15

life-changing for a lot of people. But I guess I am not one of

19:17

those people. So

19:20

to ayahuasca fucking land

19:22

we go. And

19:25

it kind of felt a little bit

19:27

nice to hear her say like, yeah,

19:29

that's not the issue here. The

19:31

issue is like dates way back.

19:35

I don't know why that was like kind of comforting, but it

19:37

fucking was. And that's

19:39

it for today's mini you guys.

19:41

I just like have

19:43

been kind of thinking about the whole thing

19:45

in my head and like

19:47

trying to figure it out. And

19:50

if something similar has ever happened to you

19:52

or if you have any insight into EMDR,

19:55

please DM me. Please,

19:57

please, please DM me or better

19:59

yet. right to

20:01

my anonymous questions

20:04

link. There's a

20:06

link in the description of this

20:09

episode. And there's also

20:11

a link on the Sophia

20:13

F podcast page. Is

20:17

it Sophia F pod page? I should

20:19

fucking know that. Just type in Sophia

20:21

Franklin and it will be there. And

20:25

if you go to the highlight reels,

20:27

there is one where you can select

20:30

it and you can

20:32

write it in there, but I'm so

20:34

curious. And besides

20:36

that, I mean, dating life, non-existent.

20:38

I did have a little bit

20:40

of a blunder and I, I

20:45

just, I cannot keep secrets with

20:47

you guys. Like I really fucking

20:50

can't. I fucked

20:52

up and

20:54

I reached out to him. It

20:59

was very impulsive. It was like, I

21:01

was going through a

21:03

really not great day and I

21:05

was like, sleep to prat and like, dah, dah,

21:07

dah, dah, all the things. And

21:10

I fucked up and I reached out

21:12

and I opened the channel of communication.

21:14

And I never once

21:16

said, let's get back

21:18

together. I made a

21:20

mistake. Like I'm not, no, I'm not

21:22

that wild, but it was

21:25

a mistake on my part. And it's like, now

21:27

I have to put the jack in the box

21:30

back in the fucking box. So

21:33

10 out of 10 do not recommend

21:35

doing that because it's like you

21:37

break up with someone and then you have to

21:39

just do it all over again. And

21:41

no one wants to fucking do that. So

21:44

that's me. However, I

21:47

want to end this on a high note. I

21:49

am leaving for the Hamptons tomorrow and

21:52

I'm really genuinely

21:54

excited, which is very different

21:57

than how I've been in the past when I

21:59

went to the Hamptons. or thought about

22:01

going to the Hamptons, it

22:03

has like such a connotation

22:05

to it. Like you just

22:07

think Lana Del

22:09

Rey and Aesop Rocky in

22:12

the music video National Anthem, if you

22:14

haven't seen that, go check it out

22:16

right now. It

22:18

just very rich, very

22:21

snobby, very exclusive, just

22:25

like it just, or maybe it's just me, but I

22:27

highly doubt it. I just made it to be this

22:29

thing in my head and like every

22:31

time I would go and stay at a

22:33

friend's house or anybody's house, I would make

22:36

sure that I looked

22:38

fucking perfect. And I

22:41

got the spray tan and I had

22:43

the coolest, cutest outfits you've ever fucking

22:45

seen. This time around,

22:48

I booked this house off Airbnb

22:52

last night, last night,

22:54

and I leave tomorrow morning, rented

22:57

the car last night. I

23:00

just wanna go lay by the pool. I don't

23:02

even know if I'm gonna go to the club, flash

23:06

forward, and you guys are definitely gonna see

23:08

me at fucking surf lodge or some shit.

23:11

I just wanna lay by the pool,

23:14

day drink and apparel spritz. And

23:16

honestly, I'll probably be working.

23:20

That is the real reality. But

23:24

you know what? I will let you guys

23:26

know. And with that,

23:28

sloots, I love you guys so fucking

23:30

much and I will talk to you

23:32

next week. Thank

23:34

you.