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You cannot step into something new by

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judging or hating where you are now . You

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have to do it through desire

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and through love the

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desire to be this new you and to

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love yourself enough to do it . Hello

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, my loves , and welcome to the Purposeful Lifestyle

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Development Podcast , where we discuss all

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things thought , work and manifestation but

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we use neuroscience in the study of the brain

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to do so . I'm your host , tessa

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Spiezak . I'm a board certified practitioner

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, master , life and health coach and seasoned

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executive speaker . If you're ready to

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create your highest value lifestyle

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and turn your dream life into a reality , you're

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in the right place . Let's get right into

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today's episode . Hello

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, hello , my loves . I always start

0:51

this episode with welcome back to

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you , but today I'm

0:55

starting with I'm back . It

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has been a wonderful few

1:00

weeks taking a bit of a brain

1:02

break to travel with my

1:04

family , let myself recharge

1:06

, honestly regain

1:08

some brain power and

1:10

to be super real , allow

1:13

a bit of new creative

1:15

energy to come into play . So

1:18

thank you so much for your patience

1:20

, as I took these last few weeks

1:22

off from the podcast and

1:25

, to be quite honest , taking

1:27

a break was a really difficult decision

1:29

for me to make because , truthfully

1:32

, there's this big part

1:34

of me . That I mean for those of

1:36

you who have tuned in for a while now or for

1:38

those of you that know me . You know I

1:40

am a bit of a recovering perfectionist

1:42

. But there was this big part

1:44

of me that honestly wanted to

1:46

go through the life journey of

1:48

this podcast and be able to say

1:51

I never took a break . I

1:53

never missed a single week . Every

1:55

week was just as good as the week before

1:57

that , or even better , and I never missed

2:00

a beat . But

2:02

that's not how it worked out and , honestly , that's

2:04

not what I'm all about . I really

2:06

, at the core of it , want to make sure that I'm providing

2:09

you guys in my community with really

2:11

quality content that actually

2:13

does set you up for a good week ahead . And

2:16

I think intuitively and

2:18

I'm going to come back to intuition here in a minute

2:20

that plays on a lot of what I want to talk about

2:23

but intuitively I knew that

2:25

it was just really important to

2:27

get myself more realigned

2:29

again with my why and my

2:31

purpose and to share that with you guys

2:34

. It is to spread love and light

2:36

in the world . I truthfully , honestly

2:38

, at my core , believe that

2:40

when people are happier and when

2:42

we're more in tune with our purpose and

2:45

we're actively pouring good

2:47

, intentionally pouring good into

2:49

our own cup , which then

2:51

, as the flow of reality goes , our

2:54

cup begins to overflow

2:56

. All of those good things that we poured

2:58

into our own selves . That

3:00

starts to overflow into those around

3:02

us and when enough

3:04

of us do it , it really tips the scale

3:06

in favor of good and of

3:08

beauty in this world . So

3:11

, that being said , just

3:13

as a heads up for what this episode

3:15

is about today , I mean , of course , I

3:18

definitely want to give you a quick update on what

3:20

I've been up to and what's been going on

3:22

, and I'm really drawn to have

3:25

a conversation today about our

3:27

intuition , what I believe

3:29

is our sixth sense . I want to talk about how

3:31

we tap into it and how do we use

3:33

it , especially right

3:36

now , and especially in terms

3:38

of changing seasons or our

3:40

new eras in life . And

3:43

so for my folks that are ready to

3:45

change , or you're in the midst of an up

3:47

level or getting ready for an up level

3:49

, this one is for you

3:51

. So , super

3:54

quick , before I get into it , just for

3:56

a fun little backstory on my

3:58

summer travels , I want

4:00

to talk about that just super briefly , but I will

4:02

put a time marker in the show notes . If

4:04

you don't care at all and you're just here for

4:06

the juicy stuff and the message , you can skip

4:08

ahead to that . But I

4:11

think I had mentioned on my last

4:13

episode , before I took my break , that

4:15

I was traveling the summer and

4:17

this first place that we went was

4:19

Italy . Something that has been

4:22

on my dream board and my vision

4:24

board since forever . It

4:26

was to spend some summer

4:28

time in Italy and it manifested

4:31

for me . Actually I think honestly

4:33

I'm being a little silly , but a better way to say

4:35

that was that my mother-in-law

4:38

. She manifested it for herself

4:40

and I was just a happy byproduct

4:42

of her wish and her own intention

4:45

. We actually went as her

4:47

retirement celebration and

4:49

I guess she's been telling her family for years

4:52

, or even more like decades , since they

4:54

were kids , that when she retires

4:56

she wants a family trip to Italy

4:59

. She didn't care how it happened , she

5:01

wasn't even sure when she

5:03

was retiring , so that didn't matter , she

5:06

just knew that's what she wants . And a

5:08

side note here , she spent

5:10

her career as an epidemiologist , so

5:12

that's someone who studies infectious

5:15

disease and how it spreads . So

5:17

, needless to say , she's had a

5:19

busy few years before this coming

5:21

up retirement , so definitely

5:24

. It was absolutely , without a doubt , a

5:26

privilege to go . We were so lucky

5:28

and blessed to go , but the

5:30

fact is that when she finally decided

5:32

like hey , I'm retiring

5:35

, she told the family , like you know

5:37

, I've been telling you this your whole life pick

5:39

a date , find the travel agent , make

5:42

sure it happened . And we

5:44

stepped up to the plate . We made it happen . There

5:46

was nine of us for 10

5:48

days and we did a bit of a tour

5:50

. We traveled through the beautiful

5:53

Tuscan countryside , we

5:55

had some amazing wine and the most

5:57

breathtaking sightseeing . Then

6:00

we made our way to Rome to see the Sistine

6:02

Chapel and some old religious art and

6:04

, yeah , I'm still speechless

6:06

. Even so , many

6:08

years later and so many people

6:11

having gone through this area , the

6:13

energy of that place is still just

6:15

something else . And

6:18

even aside from that , just seeing the dedication

6:21

and the time and the thought that

6:23

went into the infrastructure to

6:25

do that detailed work , it

6:27

was something really , really incredible . And

6:29

if you ever get the opportunity , it's

6:32

worth the long lines , it's worth

6:34

the heat just to experience it . So

6:37

, after Rome , we went

6:39

to what I have to say is probably my

6:41

favorite place in the

6:43

whole world now , which is Capri . It's

6:46

this tiny little island up the west coast

6:48

of kind of mid Italy

6:51

. It's in the Tirian Sea and

6:53

it was like nothing I

6:55

have ever , ever seen . It

6:57

was very , very well to do Beautiful

7:00

shopping , gorgeous outdoor lunches

7:02

. We had way too many apparel

7:05

spritz and lemon cellos , but

7:07

it was a highlight of the summer , I think . For me , that

7:09

place , it speaks to my soul

7:12

. It was amazing . It made me

7:14

feel so motivated

7:16

I don't even know what the right word is

7:18

it just made me feel like hell

7:21

. Yes , this place is so

7:23

cool . But after Capri

7:26

, we had a look around Napoli

7:28

before heading home , dead

7:30

tired , but the whole trip was so great

7:33

to get to see so many pieces of this country

7:35

and by the end of it , you know , we fared

7:37

the jet lag pretty well , so I'm very

7:39

glad for that . So after we got

7:42

home from this once in a

7:44

lifetime , super special , super magical

7:46

trip , something that is so

7:48

different than what I'm used to , we

7:50

had like 72 hours to get a

7:52

little bit of sleep , get it together , recalibrate

7:55

in you know a completely different time

7:57

zone , and drive down to the

8:00

Gulf of Mexico for my mom's birthday . Now

8:02

, this is really , really special

8:04

and something that I could not miss , because

8:07

we have been going to the same beach

8:09

for her birthday every single

8:11

year since I was a little girl and

8:14

it is so , so special , not

8:16

only for her but for me too , and

8:18

now getting to bring my family

8:21

where I used to as

8:23

you know a six-year-old girl make

8:25

sand castles and sand

8:28

angels . I'm now bringing my family so

8:30

that's a little bit of a happy tear to

8:32

bring us all together very new season

8:34

, very beautiful , and I think

8:36

there's something really magical about revisiting

8:39

such familiar places and channeling

8:42

your favorite memories , especially

8:44

in contrast to the new

8:46

things that you're actively bringing into your

8:48

life . It's a really solid

8:50

anchoring or grounding point

8:52

to see what it is you want

8:55

and where you want to go moving

8:57

forward , for me at least . So

8:59

once we got home from that beach

9:02

trip to celebrate my mom , we

9:04

had just a minute before we packed up again

9:06

to head somewhere . That , I

9:08

gotta say , was a bit different

9:10

for me , and now I'm a traveler

9:12

. I love it , I prioritize it

9:14

in my life . It is very , very important

9:17

to me , but I've never really been

9:19

a mountain girly

9:21

. But y'all , the

9:24

last in line of our travels was

9:26

going to Whitefish , montana

9:28

somewhere . Admittedly , I gotta

9:30

say I've never really thought about

9:33

before , but I

9:35

get it . I get why y'all are so in

9:37

love with Montana . We were there

9:39

for our dear friend , kirstie in Holmes wedding

9:41

. It was so , so beautiful . We cried

9:44

tears of happiness , danced until

9:46

we were all barefoot . It was amazing

9:48

. But it was right on the lake

9:50

and it had the mountains in the background

9:53

. There's so many beautiful trails

9:55

. I love it . We did

9:57

so so much exploring . We had to buy bear

9:59

spray , of all things , did not

10:01

see any bears , which I

10:04

feel like I'm disappointed at

10:06

, but I I feel like that's also probably

10:08

very ignorant . I just wanted to see some off

10:10

in the distance . I've never seen a bear

10:12

in real life before , but

10:14

it was absolutely beautiful

10:17

. We went to Glacier National

10:19

Park and I'm a hiker , or

10:21

at least I thought I was , but I

10:23

have never seen anything

10:25

like this , so much untouched

10:28

land . It really really does

10:30

something for my soul . I

10:33

think it's another thing that , for me at least , that

10:35

same feeling , that grounding

10:37

, it's a real strong reminder of nature

10:40

and creation and all the forces

10:42

that be that are outside of us

10:44

and outside of human intervention

10:46

and human creation . I don't know

10:48

, it feels like a cleanse to me when you

10:50

get to be that connected

10:52

to nature . And again I

10:54

recognize how big of a blessing

10:57

and a privilege it is to be able to spend

10:59

a summer celebrating our parents

11:01

and celebrating our friends and getting

11:03

that time to unplug a bit

11:06

, to dive into the lessons

11:08

that we learn along the way while we aren't

11:10

so distracted . But one

11:12

concept that kept coming up for me

11:14

and just finding its way into

11:16

my thoughts while we swung from

11:18

that busy , hectic planning

11:21

to fully relaxed and unplugged

11:23

and then back again into the craziness

11:25

, but it was the thought of how

11:28

we get into a space where

11:31

we are able to intuitively

11:33

tap in , how to better

11:35

listen to your inner self and when

11:37

to trust it . And how do we differentiate

11:40

, how do we know when something

11:42

is an intuitive thought or a

11:44

nudge versus

11:46

maybe an older part

11:48

of our subconscious , some

11:51

subconscious thought , maybe a limiting

11:53

belief or something that doesn't serve

11:55

us at this time , et cetera . All

11:57

of that Because , as I said at the beginning

12:00

here , I believe our intuition

12:02

is just as

12:04

much of a sense for us as taste

12:07

, touch , sight , hearing

12:09

, all of that . But I believe that the only

12:11

reason we don't consider it to be is

12:14

because it's something that we can't

12:16

measure across the board . You can

12:18

measure your sight . Put something over your eye , tell

12:20

me , read this . You can measure

12:22

your hearing . Raise your hand when you hear the beep

12:24

, something like this . But you can't necessarily

12:27

test intuition in

12:29

that same way , but I do want

12:31

to talk about it a little . Let's talk about your

12:33

intuition . What is it ? Let's

12:36

start by defining it . Y'all know I really like to

12:38

start with a definition here , but intuition

12:41

is the ability to understand

12:44

something immediately , without

12:46

the need for conscious reasoning . So

12:49

that means it's the ability to understand

12:51

or just know something immediately

12:54

, right off the bat , based on your feelings

12:56

, rather than having to be presented

12:58

with facts , consider those

13:00

facts and intentionally

13:03

make a conscious choice . It's

13:05

more of a natural ability or a power

13:08

that makes it possible to know

13:10

something without direct proof of

13:12

evidence . It's a feeling that guides

13:14

a person to act in a certain way without

13:17

even fully needing to understand

13:19

why . And now this isn't

13:21

a woo-woo concept , even though I admittedly

13:24

personally use it in woo-woo ways

13:26

but in psychology it's believed

13:28

that intuition comes from natural

13:30

human powers of pattern

13:33

matching . That's all really good

13:35

pattern matching . And the mind , basically

13:37

instinctively , is able to

13:40

comb through stored experience

13:42

, even things that are in long-term memory

13:44

and the subconscious for similar

13:47

situations that allow us

13:49

to make those

13:51

instant in the moment judgments

13:54

just based off them

13:56

, based on those past experiences , basically

14:00

using all of our insights

14:02

faster than a way that we're

14:04

aware of or maybe even capable

14:08

to logically do , if

14:10

that makes sense . It's just a quick , natural

14:13

process in the brain and

14:15

super simple explanation for

14:17

this is highway hypnosis . We've

14:20

talked about this one before on the podcast

14:22

just because it is such a well-known phenomena

14:24

and something that I think most of us

14:27

have experienced . But highway

14:29

hypnosis is where someone

14:31

who's driving has traveled for

14:33

miles without a conscious

14:35

thought about the activity of driving

14:37

the car . Especially this happens when

14:39

it's a route they've taken over and over again

14:41

. But the brain knows what to expect

14:43

. Therefore , it knows what to look for and it

14:46

lets you kind of go into a bit of

14:48

autopilot . And

14:50

there are more arguments , which I also have explained

14:52

before that intuition was

14:55

a survival instinct gained

14:57

in that older part of our brain through

14:59

our hunter-gatherer days . But

15:02

we know that the brain can't

15:04

function if we are in constant hyperdrive

15:06

, actively thinking about and scanning everything

15:09

. We can't do it just like our

15:11

ancestors couldn't do that . So

15:13

instead , instead

15:15

of the brain constantly scanning for

15:18

a threat even when there is no sight

15:20

of one around , the subconscious

15:22

takes over in a way , and it's trusting

15:25

that what you already know and

15:27

the signs of danger that you already know or the signs

15:29

of change that you already know , like think

15:32

back hunter-gatherer days , just like

15:35

wrestling , leaves in the distance

15:37

where it should be quiet , and you

15:39

know it's normally quiet . You

15:41

may instinctively know that that could be a predator

15:43

and your body prepares for it and you're

15:46

ready to run and your heartbeat starts faster

15:48

and your adrenaline starts going . All

15:50

of this happens without you having

15:52

to have the instinctive thought

15:54

of I believe that there is a predator

15:57

, because this piece of land is normally

15:59

quiet and I heard wrestling

16:01

, that sounded like footsteps . You don't have to

16:03

go through all of that . It's just I

16:06

snapped . I don't know if you could hear that , but it's really

16:08

quick , instantaneous

16:10

, and that part of the intuition

16:13

is what I want to talk about today . Sometimes

16:16

our intuition is telling us something

16:19

, but it's not so instantaneous

16:21

. It's more of that gut

16:23

feeling and a big time

16:26

where I think that really comes into play

16:28

for us . When we get that gut feeling , that

16:30

internal draw , is

16:32

when our intuition is telling us that what we're

16:34

doing now does not serve

16:36

us to our best and maybe that just

16:39

means that it's time to move

16:41

into a new season , greet something

16:43

new , a new era , if you will

16:45

. Now I kind of went into

16:47

what I've been up to and clearly my

16:50

last season blessed to be able to

16:52

do it was about rest

16:54

, rejuvenation , travel

16:57

, learning , applying the lessons

16:59

that I know and I've learned along the way , and

17:02

that season really allowed

17:04

me to create an

17:06

intuitive space that

17:09

was able to tell me very clearly

17:11

Look , I'm refreshed , I'm

17:13

good , this season

17:15

served its purpose and it's come

17:17

to an end and I am ready to put the work in

17:20

and when I do and I'm ready to rebuild

17:22

that structure , rebuild

17:24

that growth zone , I

17:26

know it'll be for something great

17:29

. I don't have fear necessarily

17:31

around it , or even if I do , it's not something

17:33

enough to keep me away . But

17:35

I'm ready for that new season and

17:38

I believe we all ebb and flow between the seasons

17:40

in our life . I did an episode

17:42

gosh , I couldn't even tell you maybe

17:44

last summer , but it's titled EBS and

17:46

Flows . That was one of my

17:48

most popular ones . It was , I

17:51

think , pretty decently insightful

17:53

, for especially what a lot of the folks that

17:55

I was working with at the time . You know again

17:57

, probably around the same time of the year , but

17:59

it's that ebbing and flowing between the

18:02

seasons of our lives , changing

18:04

, growing , building and then

18:07

enjoying and living in that growth

18:09

, slowing down and being a bit

18:11

softer than we are when

18:13

we are in that more rigid growth

18:16

mode . So I want to talk about

18:18

that shift , the shift when

18:20

you know it's time to move into

18:22

something new . You intuitively

18:25

know that you're ready for the new season

18:27

, for that new era , and you're ready

18:29

for something to change . That

18:32

feeling is a strong one , and it can show up in

18:34

a lot of different ways . Maybe

18:36

it starts to feel

18:38

like you're stuck , kind

18:40

of like stuck in the mud . Or maybe

18:43

, when you finish your day , you have that

18:45

familiar thought of ugh

18:48

, I wish it had gone this

18:50

way instead . I wish I had done this instead

18:53

. I wish my life looked like this . And you know that

18:55

whatever you're doing now , while it

18:57

might have suited you , for a thousand

19:00

different reasons , a whole host

19:02

of different reasons , anything from that's what you knew that

19:05

made sense to you needed comfort

19:07

after something else . Whatever

19:10

that reason is , you

19:12

know it doesn't serve you anymore and

19:14

a lot of us can be directed

19:17

to get these feelings in

19:20

a few different ways . A

19:22

lot of times some external change begets the change you want to

19:24

see in you . And let me explain to you what I mean by that

19:26

, because there's a few different ways this can show

19:31

up . I know , for me personally

19:33

and a lot of us , I'm directed by the seasons . Mention this a little

19:37

bit before , I believe it was actually in that ebbs and flips , but I'm not sure

19:39

what it was in Flo's episode . But

19:42

I'm still a bit conditioned

19:44

by the seasons . You know , january

19:47

to March , I'm in that growth , pushing

19:49

, creating zone , but

19:51

then about springtime , march

19:53

to May , it's mine and my loved one's birthdays

19:56

. It's my favorite season . It's

19:58

, you know , everything is beautiful . I'm still

20:00

feeling really inspired , but I

20:03

am also more inspired to

20:05

enjoy the growth that I've put in

20:07

the beginning of the year . Then , about

20:09

June to August is , you

20:11

know , summertime . My kiddos home

20:13

work is changing a little bit . I

20:16

get to at least , even

20:19

if I'm not changing my activities as much . My

20:21

head space is . I want to relax

20:24

and allow the flow and

20:26

allow the almost

20:28

feminine side of the more masculine

20:31

that I had been in for that year is I had

20:33

been pushing , growing , grinding , and then

20:35

it's time to relax

20:37

, enjoy and receive it

20:39

right Before

20:41

moving into the holiday season

20:43

, which for me is about family

20:46

gratitude and I am less

20:48

so rigid on myself , I'm much

20:50

more outwardly focused , but

20:52

this is the point in the year that I'm

20:55

ready to get back into that growth zone . I'm ready

20:57

to build and move and groove and grow

20:59

and all of that . But

21:01

this can also happen for a lot of people with

21:04

just the normal happenings

21:06

of life , which also can be a bit seasonal

21:08

too . Maybe right now at this time

21:10

, if you've just gone back to school or

21:13

someone in your house has , or there's

21:15

some change in dynamic after summer

21:17

, like this , is a very popular time to move

21:20

or again just create that

21:22

new routine , like for me

21:24

, my travel season is over , my

21:26

step son is back in school , my husband

21:29

is getting busier with the work in his

21:31

universities , and so it makes

21:33

sense that , aside from

21:35

my normal seasonal flow , the

21:38

lives of the people around me are changing too , so

21:40

it helps direct that new era

21:43

, and so one of the things I

21:45

coach on a lot is that when there's

21:47

already some change in dynamic

21:49

, like you are already navigating

21:52

some change in your schedule or

21:55

something like that , just a change in your life

21:57

. I think it's the best time to really

21:59

catapult into that new change that you

22:01

want , basically using that

22:03

change , especially if

22:06

there is an inherent change in your schedule

22:08

. Use that to help build another

22:10

one . It's a lot easier to

22:12

create new habits and build out

22:14

new habit stacks when you're somewhat

22:17

forced out of old habits . You're not

22:19

having to will your way out or

22:21

try your way out . It's that life

22:23

change . So you're just away from

22:25

it and instead of falling back into something

22:27

that you don't like , intentionally

22:29

creating something new . But

22:32

regardless of how this time comes

22:34

about , you know when

22:36

it's time and most

22:39

people will change . Even though I don't necessarily

22:41

like this sentence , it's

22:45

a truth , it's very true . But

22:47

when the pain or discomfort of

22:50

staying the same is greater

22:52

than a discomfort of change

22:54

, that's when most people will change

22:57

. And I don't say discomfort like a dirty

22:59

word , I'm more so referencing

23:01

that pick your hard

23:04

saying , and I think you might have heard this one

23:06

before . If you haven't , it's so good . But

23:08

this pick your hard quote

23:10

lists out hards and the

23:12

opposites of so it goes

23:15

. Yes , marriage is hard

23:17

, but divorce is hard too , so

23:19

pick your hard . Staying

23:22

fit is hard , but obesity

23:24

is hard , so pick your hard . Being

23:27

in debt is hard , but so is

23:29

being financially disciplined . The

23:31

pain of not communicating versus

23:34

the pain of having a hard conversation

23:36

, right Depending on the conversation

23:39

usually and

23:41

of course we're not talking about specific outliers

23:43

here but you get the sentiment that you

23:45

get to pick your hard . So

23:47

, yes , change can be hard . We've

23:50

talked about that . It's difficult for the brain

23:52

. We're not really wired that

23:54

way . The brain is naturally

23:56

resistant to uncertainty

23:58

. I've said it before . But the brain's

24:00

whole job is to help protect you from

24:02

threats , to keep you alive , even

24:05

if things aren't life or death situations

24:07

. The brain doesn't really register

24:09

it on a scale that way . So

24:12

it's important to know that

24:14

, yeah , routines , patterns

24:16

. They provide us a sense of security , and

24:19

trying to deviate from that pattern

24:21

or that routine that you've already set

24:23

in can trigger

24:26

some discomfort . So please

24:28

refer back to choose your hard . But

24:30

there's also a good side of that coin Is

24:33

that the brain really likes routine

24:36

, likes pattern , so

24:38

we can create that new pattern

24:40

that becomes more familiar

24:42

and becomes that new . But

24:45

I like to be aware so that when things

24:47

are difficult . We're not blaming ourselves , we're

24:50

not putting any judgment on ourselves . We're like oh yeah

24:52

, this is just what the brain does . Change

24:54

introduces us to some type of uncertainty

24:57

that activates the brain's threat

24:59

response . So that's why

25:01

even the prospect of change whether

25:03

it's good change or not , right it can evoke

25:06

a little resistance . It's just our brain

25:08

perceiving it as a potential threat . It has nothing

25:10

to do with our motivation , our discipline

25:12

, our drive , how much we want it

25:15

, what kind of person we are , nothing like that

25:17

. It's just how we human . It's

25:19

how the brain works . So , knowing

25:22

all of this , how do we say

25:24

OK , cool , but how do we change

25:26

something about ourselves and change

25:28

something about our day to day activities to

25:31

be more in line with what you want ? Well

25:34

, I'm going to give you the formula for

25:36

exactly how to apply this to your

25:38

life . And , of course , since

25:40

our reasoning is backed up in neuroscience

25:43

, so is the formula as always

25:45

. First and foremost

25:47

sorry if this sounds a bit repetitive , but we

25:49

always got to start here , guys , we

25:52

have to cultivate some kind of awareness . This

25:55

is going to help your prefrontal cortex

25:57

override whatever default

25:59

patterns and how

26:01

it's set in its ways , so to speak . So

26:04

how to move away from

26:06

the patterns and the habits and

26:09

the things that we want to change . We have

26:11

to cultivate some awareness . So what does that

26:13

mean ? Take your day inventory

26:15

. Take a very serious

26:17

and real look at what's going on

26:20

in your life , what your schedule looks like , what

26:22

conscious and unconscious thoughts

26:24

you have throughout the day , which

26:27

ones of those are serving you , which

26:29

ones do you want to keep , maybe uplift

26:31

, do a little more , give yourself a pat on the back

26:33

for , or which ones do

26:35

you want to do away with , even if

26:37

you're not sure yet how

26:39

you want to get rid of them ? Just note

26:41

the ones you want to get rid of and

26:44

then walk through the steps of your day

26:46

and actually feel through the

26:48

steps of your day . And this is in thought

26:50

, right , because emotions are energy

26:52

in motion . So how does your energy

26:55

feel when you think about

26:57

your day ? What feels like flow

26:59

and what feels like resistance

27:01

or a block in the road ? And

27:04

I really suggest trying to do this as

27:06

objectively as you can , meaning

27:08

don't put any judgment on

27:11

the things you want to change . Here's an example

27:13

. I just did this with a client before , so

27:16

think of it this way Maybe

27:18

one of the things that's holding

27:20

you back from stepping into your

27:22

next era and your next season and

27:24

being the you that is more you that you want

27:26

to be . But something that's holding you back

27:29

is your sleep routine

27:31

. You're staying up way too late and that

27:33

ruins your morning and you don't

27:35

know how to change it . And da , da , da , da da . I

27:38

don't want you to be the

27:40

judge here . I don't want you to judge that

27:42

because , objectively , being

27:45

up at two in the morning it's not

27:47

a good or bad thing . There

27:49

is no arbitrary value

27:51

and it doesn't change the type of

27:53

person you are when you are awake

27:56

versus asleep . However

27:58

, when we've moved past that judgment

28:00

, we can recognize

28:02

that being up at 2 am

28:05

does change

28:07

how you go through your day . Right , it

28:09

does take away that morning routine . It does

28:11

make you groggy x , y , z

28:14

, so we want to correct it . But

28:16

I need you to hear this clearly you

28:18

cannot step into something new by

28:20

judging or hating where you are now . You

28:23

have to do it through desire

28:25

and through love the desire

28:27

to be this new you and to love

28:30

yourself enough to do it , and

28:33

you want to use really mindful

28:35

and thoughtful practices to do so

28:37

. It might take a while to

28:39

feel through and be able to feel through

28:41

what you need to do . And this is why things

28:44

like meditation , journaling

28:46

, yoga , tapping , whatever they're

28:48

so important , because they give

28:51

you that chance to think . You

28:53

can brain dump , you can clear the

28:55

noise , you can get past the normal

28:57

ruminating rolodex

28:59

of thoughts right . To

29:02

create that new habit . You're actually

29:04

going to have to rewire old

29:06

neural pathways or old ways

29:08

of thinking , just ingrained thought patterns

29:10

, and create a new response to those

29:13

situations . It requires

29:15

mindfulness in terms of

29:17

think of it this way , in terms of your

29:19

conscious awareness of your

29:22

own brain's behaviors and patterns at

29:24

the very moment that they occur . That

29:27

way you are able to

29:29

be in control , to be in the driver's seat

29:31

and change those habits into

29:34

the direction that you want . Then

29:36

the key is to keep

29:38

your focus there . Keep your

29:40

focus on the thing that you want . I

29:43

remind you guys , get clear

29:46

on what that ideal day

29:48

looks like . Create that focus

29:50

in your mind and keep visualizing

29:53

it Literally . This is my challenge to you Schedule

29:56

out a time for you to visualize

29:58

and go through the motions . If you can have

30:00

it stack on this , great . If that's

30:02

maybe taking a piece of your hot girl

30:04

walk or your walk outside and

30:07

visualizing that perfect day without your

30:09

headphones in , great , awesome . If

30:11

that is setting five minutes

30:13

to close your eyes down , quiet

30:16

your head , space down and sit after

30:18

a workout , great . If you

30:20

want to start taking a bath and you'll do it there , I don't

30:22

care Whatever makes more

30:24

sense to you , but schedule

30:27

in that time to

30:29

visualize and move through

30:32

the feelings of

30:34

this new day . Your

30:36

brain doesn't know if you're just thinking about something

30:38

or you're actually experiencing

30:41

this . We've gone through

30:43

that right . Let your brain get used to this

30:45

new reality , to this new schedule

30:47

, to seeing it , to seeing this new set of habits

30:50

, to feeling it , whatever that is . Let

30:52

yourself practice this day in thought

30:54

so that when

30:57

you actually do it in action , it

30:59

is so much easier to go through the motions

31:01

and your brain isn't fighting you

31:03

with the fear of change or the fear

31:05

of newness . It's used to this , it's seen it , she

31:08

knows right . This

31:10

is what allows you to build those

31:13

entirely new neural pathways through

31:15

repetition and practice

31:17

of thinking and

31:19

feeling and acting . We're not

31:22

just doing the thing a thousand times

31:24

, we're thinking through it , we're feeling through it and

31:26

then , when we go to do it in person . It

31:28

is so much easier

31:30

. You are thinking about the new day

31:33

, the new reality , feeling through it , would feel

31:35

and acting more and

31:37

more in accordance with it , and

31:39

your brain isn't fighting you . It's

31:41

helping you along because this is what it knows

31:43

. It becomes so much easier . So

31:46

, as you get going , base

31:48

your habits on your desired identity

31:50

, who you want to be , who that next season

31:53

or era of you is . Who

31:56

you want to be and what you want to create

31:58

to receive this new era . This

32:00

means making your habits

32:02

a bit of your life project for

32:05

the time of the change . So

32:07

if you're like me , for instance , and

32:09

you're moving from that summer

32:11

flow , the rest period , into

32:14

a growth-focused period , or

32:16

maybe that means you're changing jobs , or

32:18

you are going to school and maybe

32:20

you've got a job , maybe your kids are back in

32:22

school . Whatever the case may be

32:24

, if it's time for you to

32:26

move into a new hard , that

32:29

is the formula based on

32:31

your brain . Figure out where

32:33

you are , what you like

32:36

about it and what you don't like

32:38

about it . Take inventory on your triggers

32:40

and your responses in the areas that

32:42

you want to change . Then get

32:44

clear on what you'd really really like instead

32:47

and script it out . Get comfortable

32:49

with your actual desire and

32:51

get comfortable visualizing yourself

32:54

doing exactly that . Then

32:57

, and only then , do we need to start

32:59

really getting

33:01

into that action . Is it so much

33:03

easier now ? We're not fighting against that resistance

33:06

Every single time you do

33:08

something , even the tiniest little

33:10

thing , if it's a new thought , the

33:12

new baby action , something you do or

33:14

don't do , whatever it is , even if it is the

33:16

smallest grain of rice

33:19

, little baby thing that is closer to what you want

33:21

and that aligns with that new you and

33:23

your new season , I want you to recognize

33:25

it . I want you to congratulate yourself

33:28

with a little pat on the back . I

33:30

want you to continue making those changes , even

33:32

if it's just little grains of rice at a time

33:34

. Remember

33:37

, we all get to pick our hard . I'm

33:39

going to leave you with this question today what

33:42

would you rather ? You are hard

33:44

to be ? Hard because

33:46

you're learning and working towards who you want to

33:48

be , or hard

33:51

because you know you aren't

33:53

living up to your own potential or your own desires

33:56

and your intuition is yelling

33:58

at you that you deserve more or you deserve different

34:00

. I'm here to tell you if

34:03

you desire it , you deserve it . My loves

34:05

, I cannot wait to hear what

34:07

this new season has in store for you

34:10

, whatever that growth piece is for you

34:12

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34:15

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34:53

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35:10

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35:13

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35:15

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35:22

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35:24

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35:26

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35:28

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35:30

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35:32

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