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4:04

hot people, welcome to Spooky Gate Bullshit, I'm Johnny

4:06

and I'm Tyler and this is our weekly hangout

4:09

where we get to go over all of the

4:11

Spooky Gate Bullshit that we just didn't have time

4:13

to cover in the main show. That's right, because

4:15

it's Friday night, we're in the middle of a

4:17

heatwave and that is truly Rojo Caliente. Yeah, it

4:19

actually is and when I say hot people, I

4:21

actually mean hot people. I hope you're all well

4:23

if you're listening to this as it's dropping because

4:27

it's been wild. I

4:29

know that sometimes Little

4:31

Miss SSRI runs hot

4:34

and I'm like, ooh it's been real hot,

4:36

but this is verifiable. Yeah, it's in the

4:38

news and it's happening in lots of places

4:41

all over the world right now. They're

4:43

calling it an oppressive heatwave, at least

4:45

here in Toronto, and oppressive it is.

4:48

I feel my rights being stripped as

4:51

I experience my day to day. It has

4:53

been between 30 and 35 degrees and I'm

4:55

just not equipped for that. No one is,

4:58

who is? I don't know. Maybe

5:00

people in California, but I don't even know.

5:02

I feel like nobody wants to be sitting

5:04

in 35 degree weather. No,

5:07

in fact, over the last few days,

5:09

I've been like, I never want to

5:11

move to California. I'm not

5:13

a California girl. No, because here's the tea.

5:15

How have we spent our days? Well, basically

5:17

we've decided to just stay up all night

5:20

long because that is when it's the

5:22

coolest and then we just sleep all

5:24

morning into the afternoon. We

5:27

use the power of black coat

5:29

curtains to our full

5:31

advantage. And we've

5:33

been passing the time by binging true crime adjacent

5:36

documentaries. So let's talk about that for a minute.

5:38

Oh yeah. That's way more interesting than just telling

5:40

people who aren't in the room with us how

5:42

hot it is. It's true. We've

5:44

watched so many crime documentaries. I don't even know if

5:46

they're like, well, yeah, I guess they are all kind

5:48

of crime documentaries. But how do we start? We started

5:51

with Love Fraud. Yeah, which is from 2020. If

5:54

you don't know about Love Fraud, girlies, I

5:56

don't want to spoil it for you. But

5:58

there is this dude, Richard Scruggs. Scott Smith among

6:01

many other names, but he totally

6:03

just fucked around and found out

6:05

being a bigamist and all of

6:07

these other things and like frauding

6:09

women across the US, it was

6:11

wild. He married like, what was

6:13

it, 10 women or something? I

6:15

don't even know. And frauded even

6:17

more, it's wild. It's

6:19

like just when you think it can't get any

6:21

worse and he can't become any shittier, he does.

6:24

Yeah, so four episodes, go check it out. I

6:26

think Showtime did it, we watched it through Apple

6:28

TV. It also has

6:31

the cringiest bounty hunter.

6:34

Hi. Carla was her name? Carla, I

6:36

think she thinks she is the

6:38

most hardcore individual ever and you know what, I'm

6:40

not gonna tell her otherwise, you live your fantasy.

6:42

That's it, she is living her bounty hunter fantasy.

6:45

It's intense. Operating out of like defunct

6:48

Sonics or something. Oh my God, right,

6:50

yeah, like you're like running a fucking

6:53

agency out of an old drive through, chain

6:56

smoking and just, oh I love it, I

6:58

love it, but anyway, yeah, we watched that.

7:01

That was four episodes and then what

7:03

was the next one that we watched?

7:05

The next one was the 7M cult

7:07

document crew. Yes, Dancing with the Devil.

7:09

That was wild. Yeah, that one's on

7:11

Netflix, that one's three episodes. That one's

7:14

like new too, right? This shit's still happening.

7:16

Basically there is this like TikTok dancer cults

7:21

in California that's operating

7:23

as a church and

7:25

it's fucking nuts. Well, it has connections to

7:28

this church that's been operating for like the

7:30

last 20 years or so and anyway, it's

7:32

like old victims of

7:34

the church meet new recently

7:36

defected victims of the TikTok dance cult

7:38

church and they kind of come together,

7:41

share their stories and like go

7:43

after these people. It's

7:45

wild, check it out. And

7:47

then that led us into the Netflix

7:49

Ashley Madison documentary. Yeah. Now look, I

7:52

had watched the Ashley Madison documentary that's

7:54

on Disney Plus, like that was like

7:56

a few months ago but you hadn't

7:58

really dove in. into the whole world.

8:00

Not at all. So you got into

8:02

this affair. Yeah. I

8:05

remember when like the whole Ashley Madison thing went

8:07

down because it was huge news. And

8:09

I remember we were living in Halifax at the time and

8:11

it was around the same time that like the rent boy

8:13

bubble burst. Yes. So I thought

8:16

it was all kind of like connected. But anyway, I

8:18

didn't realize how deep that scandal went. I

8:20

also did not realize that they were operating out

8:23

of Toronto. I know. A hometown

8:25

operation. Right? If things

8:27

have gone a different way, maybe you could

8:29

have been rubbing elbows now. Oh yeah. I

8:31

could have been a bot girl on Ashley

8:33

Madison too. Oh my God. And

8:35

then speaking of things that kind of died around

8:38

that time, Pornhub was based out of like Montreal,

8:40

right? Yeah. Around the time that we

8:42

were in Montreal. Mm hmm. It's true.

8:44

Maybe I've been a sleeper agent the whole time and I

8:46

just haven't been telling you. Oh maybe. Yeah.

8:49

I mean you could tell me. Pornhub X Ashley Madison. That's

8:51

me. Yeah. Anyway,

8:54

it was wild. It was wild, but

8:56

yeah, I hadn't like sat down and

8:58

really like rotted to a couple of

9:00

documentaries like that in a good long

9:02

while. So it was kind of refreshing.

9:04

Yeah, it was nice to get that

9:06

document stench on. Yeah. So we had

9:08

fun. Highly recommend. Again, I think the

9:11

latter two that we talked about both

9:13

are on Netflix. Both are like three

9:15

one hour episodes each. So yeah,

9:17

it's like a three hour engagement. Yeah, it's not

9:19

too bad. That's not bad for a heat wave.

9:21

But on that, no. Yeah. If

9:23

you have any biting documentaries that you

9:25

think we should watch. Yeah. Because

9:28

I want more now. Baby. I'm

9:30

a hungry bottom for documentaries. Absolutely. Yeah, I'm

9:32

a hungry bottom with an Apple TV account.

9:34

So like hook me up. All

9:36

right. Anything else you want to talk about

9:38

before we get into it? I mean like there's always TV.

9:41

There is always TV. But like is there

9:43

anything seriously that you need to get into before the

9:45

spooky gay bullshit of it all today? You know what?

9:48

Yeah. I did a good deed this

9:50

week. What did you do? I saved a pigeon. Oh my God.

9:53

Okay, so here's the tea. This was the first day

9:55

of the heat wave. Yeah. And

9:58

I'm out at the top of the day

10:00

with Daphne. We're taking the dogs at one

10:02

at a time because in this heat, that's

10:04

all you can really manage is one dog

10:06

at a time Yeah, and then all of

10:08

a sudden Daphne finds like something very interesting

10:10

like something just grabs her attention She runs

10:12

over to a fence and there's a pigeon

10:14

on the ground. There are pigeons everywhere. Yeah,

10:16

there's nothing surprising Yeah, however,

10:18

this pigeon would not move did

10:21

not move could not move was

10:23

apparently struggling Yeah, and not just like as we

10:26

all were in the heat way No, and this

10:28

was before like the heat had even really

10:30

hit so I knew the heat was

10:32

coming Yeah, but it hadn't quite come

10:34

yet. But anyway, I could tell that

10:36

this pigeon wasn't able to to walk

10:38

Yeah, so I ended up calling wildlife

10:40

services Great. I appreciate

10:42

what they do. They are very difficult to get

10:44

a hold of however And I'm like for something

10:46

that sometimes deals with emergencies. I feel like this

10:48

should be a little bit more streamlined But they're

10:50

a volunteer service. They operate on donations. I'm not

10:52

gonna come for them at all They do a

10:54

lot of great things for a lot of wild

10:56

animals. Sure However, I ended up

10:58

having to send this pigeon in a box

11:01

in an uber on a heat wave Wave

11:04

day to the wildlife foundation which was

11:06

on the other side of the city.

11:08

Yes in like North York. Oh, oh,

11:10

that's not okay So it's like

11:12

a total outside of the city. It's a

11:14

40-minute ride. Yeah, but anyway, but anyway, we

11:16

paid for a 40 minute row Okay, yes,

11:18

you know what and I'm not mad. No,

11:21

no, it was a good deed It was

11:23

like donating $40 to the Wildlife Foundation So

11:27

anyway, the pigeon did arrive and I

11:29

did get their patient number, but

11:31

I haven't called to check in on them Yeah, oh my

11:33

god, you need to I do I was thinking about it

11:35

today So I need to call and see how they're doing

11:38

How a little pigeon friend is doing because I don't know

11:40

I guess I'm like the pigeon guy now cuz yeah

11:42

second pigeon I've saved this year really Remember

11:44

the other one was caught in oh yeah,

11:47

and I cut a pigeon out of Pingeon

11:49

editing I came you were gone.

11:51

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I came back upstairs I

11:53

got our step ladder because it was on

11:55

a balcony that I couldn't reach from the

11:57

street. I got the step ladder I climbed

11:59

it And then I used some scissors

12:01

and I freed this pigeon. Tyler fucks so

12:03

hard with pigeons. I love it. I mean,

12:06

we owe it to them. We do. We

12:08

made them dumb. As a society. Yeah. Yeah.

12:10

We like made them do our bidding, deliver

12:12

our mail. And then when we got cars

12:14

and shit and email, we were like, buy

12:16

pigeons. Fuck you. Yeah. Well, I mean, and

12:18

like a little bit before email to a

12:20

little bit. We got the post service, you

12:23

know, that kind of fucked up the pigeons

12:25

flow to a little bit. It's a bit.

12:27

But I feel like like the last carrier

12:29

pigeon was probably used in like the what

12:31

the 80s? Yeah, probably. Yeah. And then we

12:33

really fucked them up with email. You're right.

12:35

But here's the thing. When I was calling

12:37

the Wildlife Foundation and I was explaining like

12:40

the situation and describing this pigeon, they're like,

12:42

please just make sure it doesn't have any

12:44

tags because it might not be a wild

12:46

pigeon. Okay. I didn't really think about the

12:48

fact that people have pigeons for pets. You're

12:50

right. I don't either. Yeah. But it wasn't

12:52

tagged. No, it wasn't. No, it definitely wasn't.

12:54

But anyway, I hope they're doing well. Oh

12:57

my God. I love that for you. You're

12:59

the pigeon lady. I'm alone and I'm so

13:01

happy for you. I'll

13:03

take it. That's my man. Right. Okay. Well,

13:05

pigeon lady, you're starting us off this week.

13:07

Yeah, I am. Okay. And and the story

13:09

of Tyler and the pigeon actually wasn't the

13:11

first piece of spooky gay bullshit for today.

13:13

No, it wasn't. I got I got a

13:15

bit more news to share with you beyond

13:18

that. But I really hope that you don't

13:20

come in on the next episode with the

13:22

news that like the pigeons been put down

13:24

or something like that. I don't know. I

13:26

really don't know how well they're doing. I

13:28

hope that's not the case. But if I

13:30

do find out I will share I will

13:32

share the news. Okay. We're going to roll

13:34

the dice folks. We will. But anyway, do

13:36

you want to get into some good news

13:38

to start the day? Absolutely. That doesn't always

13:40

happen. But today I actually have some really

13:42

good news to share and this good news

13:45

comes from Thailand and you probably maybe have

13:47

seen this already because this is a big

13:49

deal. Same-sex marriage is about

13:51

to be legalized in Thailand.

13:53

Yeah, I saw a panjina

13:55

heels was posting about it.

13:58

Yeah drag queen. of the

14:00

world, etc. Yeah. So

14:02

the Senate has passed the final reading

14:04

of a new marriage equality bill that

14:07

is going to make same-sex marriage

14:09

legal in Thailand. So this is

14:11

a historic victory. And it's going

14:13

to actually make Thailand the very

14:15

first country in Southeast Asia

14:17

to recognize same-sex marriage. And it's going

14:20

to make them the third country in

14:22

Asia to legalize same-sex marriage. So the

14:24

countries that did it before was Taiwan.

14:26

I think they did that in like

14:28

2019. And then Nepal

14:31

did that, I think just earlier this

14:33

year, if I'm not mistaken. Get into

14:35

it. Yeah, so this is really great

14:37

news. So the bill gained a lot

14:39

of support of nearly all upper house

14:41

lawmakers. And now it

14:43

just needs to be sent to

14:45

the palace for endorsement by King

14:47

Maha Vajira Longhorn. After that,

14:49

the law will come into force in

14:51

120 days once it's

14:54

published in the Royal

14:56

Gazette. Okay. Very cool

14:58

news. Absolutely. Now, furthermore,

15:00

this new legislation changes references to men, women,

15:02

husbands and wives to gender neutral terms such

15:05

as spouse and person. Cool. And it said

15:07

that with this change, queer couples will also

15:09

have equal access to marriage, of course, but

15:12

also some of the same rights in areas

15:14

including child adoption, healthcare consent and inheritance. And

15:16

that's a really big deal. I know a

15:18

lot of queer people are like, who cares

15:21

if you get married? Like what does that

15:23

matter? But it matters if your partner is

15:25

on the deathbed and because you're not legally

15:27

married, you're not allowed to visit them. It

15:30

matters if you've built a life together and

15:32

have a home together and then you're not

15:34

allowed to claim that. You know what I

15:36

mean? And you know what? It also matters

15:39

if marriage is important to you. That's the

15:41

tea. At the end of the day, like

15:43

many of us have like logistical, political, et

15:46

cetera, you know, reasons for wanting to do

15:48

it. But then it's also just okay as

15:50

a queer person to just say, yeah, I

15:52

want to have a wedding. Yeah. You want

15:55

to have that. fantasy you want to have

15:57

that cake yeah you know yeah I feel

15:59

like we I just don't say that enough

16:01

specifically too cuz I'm always like so like

16:04

anti establishment with that shit right but it's

16:06

like yeah I mean if that floats your

16:08

bow fucking do it girl 100% no one

16:10

should be able to stop you so again

16:14

it's all about equal rights totally

16:16

now on that front this is

16:18

also going to apply to

16:21

trans people in Thailand so

16:23

trans people also get married

16:25

however legally they will still

16:27

have to be recognized according

16:29

to their assigned sex at

16:31

birth so there are activists

16:33

who are campaigning for gender

16:35

recognition law in Thailand to

16:37

hopefully change that to make

16:39

that even more correct yeah

16:43

absolutely isn't that the way it always is

16:45

I mean you can never just go like

16:47

oh yes we can get married because there's

16:49

always so much more work to do like

16:51

I know some people especially you know like

16:53

folks who aren't so acquainted with the community

16:55

you think like oh you know the gays

16:57

can get married you know shit's really you

16:59

know where it should be but it's like

17:01

usually there's still a bunch of other people

17:03

that don't have those same rights exactly and

17:05

it's usually the people who

17:07

really reap the privilege of this or

17:10

honestly people like Johnny and I were

17:12

we're like cisgendered white homos yep you

17:14

know and so many cisgendered white homos

17:17

once they get those rights that they

17:19

were fighting for they stopped fighting for

17:21

the rights of everybody behind them right

17:24

so it's really important as a community

17:26

to continue to advocate for these minor

17:28

changes because although they may seem minor

17:30

because they don't affect you they're huge

17:33

to somebody who wants to just be

17:35

recognized for who they are yeah so

17:38

of course there's a lot more work to

17:40

be done however I think it is okay

17:43

to take a moment to celebrate this victory

17:45

because it is a real big step forward

17:48

and honestly there were crowds celebrating outside the

17:50

government house in Thailand when it was announced

17:52

that this was happening they were waving their

17:54

rainbow flags and throwing rainbow-colored bouquets into the

17:56

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that. Hell yeah. Now,

40:10

well, actually, I'm really gonna be very excited to

40:13

see what animal ends up on a plane next. I'm

40:15

not. Maybe we should take some bets right now. What do you

40:17

think it's gonna be? I want,

40:19

okay, on my next flight, I want there

40:21

to be a red panda. Okay. Ethically

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sourced and safely transported. Okay.

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it's gonna be something like crocodile

40:31

eggs that hatch on the

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40:36

you want on your flight. Or like little

40:38

turtles. Oh, yeah, little turtles. Though I

40:40

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40:42

That would be really awful for the little turtles. I

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don't really want this to happen. I'm just taking bets

40:46

on what I think will happen. That's

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kind of the difference. Okay. But

40:51

anyway. Okay, well, you do you. Do you wanna move

40:53

into the next piece of spooky gay bullshit? I would

40:55

love to move on from this topic, so yes. All

40:57

right, so this is the last piece of spooky gay

40:59

bullshit. And Johnny, it's time to meet your new mummy.

41:02

Oh, where? Is she in the room with

41:04

us right now? No, she's not. She's actually

41:06

in Egypt somewhere. Okay. Yeah,

41:08

because I'm talking about a recently discovered

41:10

mummified person who has begun to take

41:12

the internet by storm. Oh, one of

41:14

those mummies. Yeah. Okay, fresh.

41:17

So, I mean, actually not really. They're

41:19

kind of like thousands of years old.

41:21

They're a little bit stinky. Oh, you're

41:23

right. Yeah. Don't make

41:25

anybody feel less then. It's

41:27

not their fault they're thousands of years old. You're gonna be

41:29

stinky when you're thousands of years old. I'm not even gonna

41:31

be a thousand years old. Like I'm not even gonna have

41:33

that privilege to be some sort of like mummified remain. Baby,

41:36

I'm gonna be mellified. I'm gonna be dipped in honey. Yeah.

41:38

Why not? I'm down with it. Do

41:41

it. Beat me to the crows,

41:43

I don't care. Okay. Anyway, this news isn't

41:45

like super fresh, but it is something that's

41:47

been kind of going viral on the internet.

41:49

So it really begins nine months ago, when

41:52

a 3,500 year old cemetery from

41:55

the new kingdom period was uncovered in

41:57

Egypt. Doesn't sound too new. Do

50:00

you have the question? I got the

50:02

question. Okay, so let's get into this

50:04

my boyfriend made me cry But he

50:06

apologized and surprised me with ice cream

50:08

should I forgive him? Oh, yeah I

50:11

think you guys can have a conversation and

50:13

work towards some kind of resolution. I think

50:15

that's very healthy Yeah, here's the thing. I

50:17

don't know what made you cry and etc.

50:19

Like, you know, like what he did That's

50:21

what I mean, like I'm not making this

50:23

a you think Because

50:25

you know some of us cry for different reasons

50:28

And maybe it was something really intense and unforgivable

50:30

not knowing that it's hard to say but

50:32

in terms of like should I forgive? This

50:35

person I was err on the side of

50:37

trying to find forgiveness and common ground Especially

50:40

in the relationship because here's the tea like Tyler and

50:42

I've been together for 13 years I've

50:45

made you cry. You've made me cry Yeah, and

50:47

we've moved on from it and sometimes we fight

50:49

and sometimes we bicker and that's a part of

50:52

it It's never anything serious. We never it's not

50:54

it's not a situation where somebody feels unsafe No,

50:56

you know, that's the if it's not one of

50:58

those situations, then I think it is good to

51:01

try and work towards a resolution Yeah, because sometimes

51:03

you know our partner makes us cry sometimes our

51:05

parent makes us cry sometimes the movie Armageddon makes

51:07

us cry Yeah, and all three

51:09

of those have been true for me at different

51:11

times Next

51:13

question bake a loaf of bread or bake

51:16

some pastries. I'm a bread girl I

51:19

love like especially like fresh baked bread. You

51:21

don't even need butter You just fucking rip

51:23

a chunk off of it and eat it.

51:25

Hell. Yeah pinch that loaf. Yeah All

51:28

right, get high and drink dark chocolate

51:31

Or eat dark chocolate dark chocolate or salsa

51:33

Sun chips. I'm not a chocolate girl So

51:36

I'm gonna go for the Sun chip. I

51:38

would even go for the Sun chips too

51:40

and I like chocolate Yeah, what color should

51:42

I get my nails done next time? I

51:44

currently have pink and orange I

51:47

have like a chrome silver and I love it.

51:49

I love it. I think it's so cool Especially

51:51

if you're like going to a salon to do

51:53

it. It's hard to do at home It's hard

51:55

to get that like really like chrome polish because

51:58

nail powder you need powder to do it So

52:00

I'm on board with that. Just celebrate.

52:03

Oh, sorry. No, you go. You say it.

52:05

Just celebrating. I got good insurance and my

52:07

meds went down from two hundred dollars to

52:09

a month to ten dollars a month. Congratulations.

52:11

Oh my God. Congratulations. I'm not even question,

52:14

but that is worth celebrating. Absolutely. Very nice.

52:16

Treat yourself. Are chips or

52:18

ice cream better when you're sad?

52:20

Yes and no chips and ice

52:23

cream are just always good. But

52:27

between the two. Oh,

52:29

which. Oh, I would

52:32

go for chips. I thought it was like, no, yes

52:34

and no. It's

52:36

like if you're sad, especially if you're

52:38

sad, I don't think you should choose. Yeah,

52:41

I think you should have both. Yeah.

52:43

Anyway, get that wearing a two piece

52:45

shirt slash skirt moment, a dusty citrus

52:47

color recommendations for a complimentary color. Dusty

52:50

citrus. I think a purple would

52:52

look real cute with that. Oh,

52:54

I was going to say like

52:56

a vibrant like green. Oh,

52:58

yeah. You know what? Like a like

53:01

a coral. I feel like that would be really cute,

53:03

like a citrusy

53:05

yellow and a coral. That could

53:08

be nice. Those are all options. Should I

53:10

study French or German visiting Paris and Berlin?

53:12

Yes. I mean, if you can study both,

53:14

do it between the two. I'd study French

53:17

because I found French easier to learn than

53:19

German. I took German for a semester. Fair

53:21

enough. Yeah. Yeah. I would recommend that, too,

53:23

because I don't know. French literature is very

53:25

nice. Yeah. Why do you hate Taylor Swift

53:28

so much? I love all three of you.

53:30

Three. Oh, like us and you're

53:32

including her and it feels like I'm in a

53:34

broken home. Oh, girl. Like just listen. Here's

53:36

the thing. Like who you like. Yeah. You

53:38

like what you like. I don't like chocolate

53:41

that shouldn't stop you from liking chocolate. You

53:43

know what I mean? Yeah. And I don't

53:45

think anybody should be judged for the things

53:47

that they like if it's if it's harmless.

53:49

And in my opinion, your taste in music

53:52

is completely harmless. So just like

53:54

what you like. Yeah. And it's cool. And it's

53:56

all good. And you know what people make fun

53:58

of my favorite musicians. all the time.

54:00

Yeah. And you know what I do? I

54:03

go and enjoy their music. Yeah. And that's

54:05

cool. Exactly. Okay. Um, and if you want

54:07

to offset the hate, go buy one of

54:09

her like million repressings of her albums. Yeah.

54:12

She'll love versions. She'll be so happy about

54:14

that. I'm sure she'll do a loop de

54:16

loop in her private jet. Trying

54:19

to decide our summer vacation.

54:21

Beach or desert to see

54:23

aliens in cacti. Oh,

54:26

beach or desert to see aliens in cacti. Oh,

54:28

trying to decide on our summer vacation. Beach or

54:30

desert to see. I like a beach. I don't

54:32

know. Like go see aliens on the beach. Because

54:34

the beach, you kind of get a little bit

54:36

of a desert moment if you, if you turn

54:38

around the right way. Yeah. Back

54:42

to the ocean, you're in the desert. Exactly.

54:44

Duvet or flat sheet. Ooh. Duvet. Yeah. I

54:46

feel like it's more airy, you know? And

54:49

you can change the weight if you want

54:51

something light, you just put in a lighter,

54:53

a lighter comfort. I will say though, we've

54:55

been living that coverlet life. That's true. We've

54:58

been living quilted coverlet life for a while

55:00

now. And I think of it as a

55:02

covering for a whole few seconds. It is

55:05

very nice, but a duvet does just hit

55:07

differently. It does. Duvet is very nice. Because

55:09

you can do the different inserts. Okay. Do

55:11

I treat myself to a milkshake? Hell yeah.

55:14

How should I celebrate 21 as someone with

55:16

no close friends or no friends living close

55:18

and a boyfriend who is younger? I mean,

55:20

listen, you don't have to get drunk to

55:23

celebrate your 21st birthday. We don't want all

55:25

have to be JoJo Siwa. Yeah. You

55:28

know what I did? Yeah. I got Dr. Pepper and

55:30

I went and I saw some art when I turned,

55:32

well, 19. Yeah. But when I turned of age, I

55:34

didn't even go to a bar, I didn't even drink.

55:36

I wasn't interested. It's like whatever. A friend

55:38

threw me a house party, like a friend who

55:41

lived on their own, threw a house party for

55:43

my little 19 year old ass. So I went

55:45

to an older person's house, which was like a

55:47

safe place for me to get drunk. But then

55:49

everyone could be there and have fun. But they're

55:52

not around their friends. That's what they're saying. So

55:54

they're not really in that position. Yeah. Well, and

55:56

I don't have friends anymore. So funny

55:59

how the world works. I don't know go

56:01

go maybe to a museum or something like

56:03

that. Honestly, I feel like Do

56:05

people go to museums these days? I don't know. I

56:07

think they do It's something like I love doing it

56:09

and I don't do it as much as I should.

56:12

Mm-hmm So that would be my recommendation.

56:14

Okay. Now, I think we're like pretty close to the

56:16

end here So I think we might actually just be

56:18

able to like get all these questions Okay, I'm just

56:20

gonna turn off the timer because it's gonna go off

56:22

in 10 seconds. Sure. It's just gonna be loud So

56:25

here's the next question. Let's speed round it need

56:27

new living room set up one large

56:29

sectional or a sofa and a love

56:31

seat Mmm I would personally go

56:34

with two different pieces of furniture a sofa

56:36

and a love seat because a sectional was

56:38

probably only gonna fit one or two different

56:40

kind of ways and you're gonna be stuck

56:42

with that orientation Forever and also I think

56:44

you can find cuter things that are like

56:46

a sofa and a love seat a lot

56:49

of sectionals Let's be honest

56:51

a lot of them are really fucking ugly

56:53

Yeah, unless you want to like really pay

56:55

a stupid amount of money for one Yeah,

56:58

although I will highly recommend here

57:00

in Canada cozy coz e y it's like

57:02

a modular sofa company Literally, I fuck with

57:04

cozy so fucking hard Yeah, and then you

57:06

can buy bits and you can have like

57:08

a couch for a while and then you

57:10

can turn it into a sectional It's true.

57:12

You can add pieces and take them away

57:14

We've had one for we have like a

57:16

love seat sort of situation and we're you

57:18

know, we're two big dudes Yeah, and we've

57:20

had it for like three years now and

57:22

it's still and really like solid. It's held

57:24

up so well Yeah, yeah, I love it.

57:26

Okay healthy amount of time to spend on

57:28

hobbies versus with your partner. I love you

57:30

guys I mean it depends on the hobbies

57:33

and it depends on the partner Absolutely.

57:35

Um, I would

57:37

and with that being said I would

57:39

just have clear communication with your partner

57:41

that if you want to spend time

57:43

alone with your hobbies It's not a

57:45

personal thing. Exactly and ultimately it's Probably

57:48

gonna benefit your relationship to have things that you

57:50

do on your own Yeah I think it's good

57:53

to just have that conversation like if you are

57:55

kind of really invested in a certain hobby right

57:57

now and you You're wanting to give it a

57:59

lot of attention if you let your partner know

58:01

that you're doing that, then they won't necessarily maybe

58:03

misinterpret why it is that you're doing it. And

58:05

they might actually be more supportive of you and

58:08

be like, oh my God, I love this. The

58:10

person that I love is doing something that they

58:12

really enjoy and that makes me very happy. Exactly.

58:14

So I think, yeah, start off with a conversation

58:16

if you feel like that there is sort of

58:18

like an imbalance there and I'm sure you'll come

58:20

to an understanding. Totally. Okay, my

58:22

dog says, hi. Hello, your dog. Should I

58:25

get another tattoo? I really want a super

58:27

cool arm sleeve. Fuck yeah. Absolutely. If you're

58:29

not like robbing from your phone bill to go

58:31

get a tattoo, fucking do it. I'll tell you this, I

58:33

got a half sleeve in 2005, started

58:36

it and I was like, oh, I'm never gonna go lower than

58:38

my t-shirt because you know sleeves. And

58:40

now I'm like so happy that I finally just

58:42

like let myself have the thing I wanted and

58:44

got sleeves because I'm an artist, I have a

58:46

life that allows me to be tattooed and

58:49

I love the way I look. 100%, tattoos are cute.

58:52

Yeah, go love the way you look too. And

58:54

you can also love the way you look without

58:56

tattoos. That's true. Be afraid to be a

58:58

work in progress. I work at an

59:01

animal shelter. What are good names I can

59:03

name our adoptable dogs? Oh my God. Oh,

59:05

well, I mean, look, non-problematic drag queens are

59:07

always a great place to start. Absolutely. Yeah.

59:10

I think very human names for dogs are

59:13

very funny. I think the idea of like

59:15

a dog or a cat named Tim is

59:17

hilarious. Absolutely. Randall. Randall,

59:21

Bartholomewal. Yeah. Though

59:23

actually I've read that you should maybe

59:25

only keep like dog names to two

59:28

syllables. Yeah. Or any animal, like

59:30

even a cat. Yeah. So

59:32

yeah. There you go. Okay, we got two

59:34

more. Keep growing up, my gray streaks will

59:36

go back to coloring. Oh,

59:39

I don't know. I keep growing up with gray streaks. I

59:41

don't know, I'm fucking cool. I love that. Yeah, go with

59:43

your gray streaks and just vibe because you can always, if

59:45

you're not feeling it, you can dye it later, but it's

59:47

hard to go the other way around. So if you're unsure,

59:49

just go with the one that is harder

59:51

to achieve. Yeah, that's like a really striking look. Yeah,

59:53

I think it's cool. Yeah, do it. Okay,

59:56

tips for connecting to self post breakup

59:58

and amidst a likely failed attempt. at

1:00:00

casual dating. Oh I

1:00:04

mean honestly I mean

1:00:07

we've been in a relationship for such

1:00:09

a long time but I think the

1:00:11

important thing about like even being in

1:00:13

a successful long-term relationship is constantly like

1:00:15

discovering yourself and rediscovering yourself and it

1:00:17

sounds like maybe you haven't maybe taken

1:00:19

the time to do that because if

1:00:21

you're in a relationship maybe you're just

1:00:23

really focusing on the relationship. So now

1:00:25

look at this a moment as a

1:00:27

moment to date yourself. Take yourself on

1:00:29

dates. Be like what do you want

1:00:31

to do today me? Do you want

1:00:33

to go see a movie in the middle

1:00:36

of the afternoon? Let's go do that. Yeah

1:00:38

like not to be all notes to a

1:00:40

young poet but like there's nothing wrong with

1:00:42

like learning to be alone and like learning

1:00:44

to embrace solitude a little bit because yeah

1:00:46

in those quiet moments you find depth to

1:00:48

yourself that you may not have known otherwise.

1:00:50

The times that I value the most in

1:00:52

my life were times that I was able

1:00:54

to not worry so much about what

1:00:56

other people may want from me and just

1:00:59

kind of you know get in

1:01:01

touch with myself. Like I remember I worked

1:01:03

summer theater at a Newfoundland for a few

1:01:05

years and like especially near the end

1:01:07

of my time there like people would always be out

1:01:09

at the bar and like hanging out just not like

1:01:11

full summer camp all the time and I got to

1:01:13

a point where I was just like this is my

1:01:16

time off from school like I want to just read

1:01:18

things and learn things and like get

1:01:21

in touch with like culture and queerness

1:01:23

and like the time that I just

1:01:25

spent like alone in my like

1:01:27

space like reading and listening

1:01:29

and just being quiet and like going out

1:01:32

for like a walk in nature like I

1:01:34

discovered some big shit about myself. Yeah. You

1:01:36

know and those other people you know

1:01:40

the people that filled all of their time

1:01:42

with other people's needs a lot of those

1:01:44

people struggled. Exactly so I think this if

1:01:46

you look at it this is a maybe

1:01:48

an opportunity for you to get to do

1:01:50

that it's an opportunity for you to get

1:01:52

to date yourself and to learn new things

1:01:54

about yourself. Anyway with that being

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said thank you to everybody who submitted your

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gonna say sorry if we didn't get to

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I'm pretty sure. We did, I think so.

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Yeah, unless anybody snuck in under the door

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while we were talking. But. Which

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anyway as you can tell i'm fumbling over my

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words because the heat is finally getting to me

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yeah the heat is rising yeah you know how

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gloria estefan is like the rhythm is gonna get

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you well in this case the rhythm is the

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heat and i am the rhythms bitch so

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i'm gonna go are you gonna go too

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