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down. This

0:59

is the Friends All. And

1:04

this ain't no shit that I put

1:06

to the table. You did. And what

1:08

you posted, what you posted, I'm getting

1:10

so sick of you not taking accountability

1:12

or responsibility for your words, brother. That's

1:14

right. Oh, no, that's

1:16

right. That's that's that's

1:19

you know what it is. It's for

1:21

older than new. Okay, because we're going

1:23

to our kind of in the Friends

1:25

on Smithsonian. Okay. Because in

1:30

this case, you know,

1:33

it's Monique and sometimes sometimes she's

1:35

right. And in this case, she

1:37

was right. Because this is what

1:39

this motherfucker did. You know what

1:41

he posted what he said this

1:44

week. I cannot believe this. I

1:46

can actually can't believe this person

1:48

said this. None other than

1:50

Bosey. Okay. Who

1:53

then said something nasty again.

1:55

He's a he's a nasty

1:57

sexual miscreant. Everything that he

1:59

does. is just scuzzy

2:01

and gutter and filthy and

2:03

sniperish and

2:06

you know, scuzzy and whatever scuzzy means,

2:09

that's what it is. And so anyway,

2:11

this week, Busi was telling his mama

2:13

to let her cheeks hang and

2:16

put a swimsuit on there on vacation. He told

2:18

his mama, as a matter of fact, I'll just

2:20

let him tell you his self. Oh God. Oh,

2:22

man. Mama, you

2:24

got on a baby suit? What

2:28

you got on tightest them cheeks out? Man,

2:31

you gotta let your cheeks hang out, man. You

2:34

gotta put on a two piece, man. You

2:37

gotta put on a two piece and let them cheeks hang.

2:40

Ooh, look at them cheeks. Look

2:43

at them cheeks, mama. They got

2:45

some old men on my life. They

2:48

got some old men on my life with cheeks. What's

2:50

the last thing you said? They got some old

2:52

man on my life. Some old man

2:55

on my life. He was on

2:57

Instagram live on a new account because he's

2:59

always banned from Instagram. And

3:01

they're on a family vacation, apparently looked like

3:04

somewhere like Myrtle Beach or something like that.

3:07

And- Sounds about it. Hey,

3:09

you know, he had Atlantic City.

3:11

Anyway, he had, he

3:15

had his mama on vacation with him

3:17

and he was asking her, did

3:19

she have a swimsuit on? Was she putting one

3:22

on? He suggested to her. She was telling him,

3:24

no, she was pushing back. He was telling her,

3:26

you know, yes, you should. Yes,

3:28

you need to let your cheeks out. Referring

3:30

to her ass cheeks and her butt cleavage

3:33

letting that out of a swimsuit, his

3:35

mother. Now people are up

3:37

in arms about this. And I wasn't

3:39

surprised personally by what he said to

3:41

her because remember this is Boussie, we

3:43

talking about the same person who got

3:46

his son blown at a young age

3:48

by a grown woman and a bunch

3:50

of other shit. Oh gosh, I forgot that. Yeah,

3:52

a bunch of other shit. So I

3:54

wasn't surprised because we know he's a

3:56

nasty sexual miscreant and deviant, right? But

3:59

what surprised me about this. I was

4:02

I didn't know boozy had a mama. Oh

4:07

my God. I did. I've never I

4:09

have when have you ever thought about

4:11

boozy having a mama or somebody being

4:13

boozy's mama? You never thought

4:15

about I never thought about him coming from

4:18

nobody. I thought this motherfucker just grew

4:21

up like like a barnacle. You know

4:23

I'm saying on the side of a

4:25

like a crustacean on the side of

4:27

a boat down in Louisiana, Louisiana somewhere.

4:30

You know what I'm saying? I thought

4:32

that's how I thought he just grew

4:35

like in a peachy dish. You know what

4:37

I'm saying? Like bag, teario

4:39

vaginal. He just grew. I didn't know

4:41

that. I didn't know. I

4:43

didn't know. I didn't know. I didn't

4:46

know. I didn't know boozy had a

4:48

mama. Oh, I've never thought about nobody

4:50

being little boozy's mama. What have you

4:52

ever thought about little boozy having a

4:55

mother? That's what I was I was

4:57

like mouth open. I was like, oh,

4:59

she got a mama. I never thought

5:02

about it. I didn't know

5:04

boozy had no damn mama. Where have you

5:07

ever thought boozy have a goddamn mama? You

5:10

ain't never thought about boozy. Who

5:12

is little boozy's mama? That's

5:14

what we need to find out. Who

5:16

in the hell is little boozy's mama? We need

5:18

to get him cuz I'm gonna start doing some

5:20

digging and some good old fashioned

5:23

gossiping. We need to find out who

5:25

in the hell little boozy. I just

5:27

never thought about him having a mother.

5:29

I never thought about that ever in my

5:31

life. So that's what shocked me. And I

5:33

guess we can sit there to rest. boozy

5:36

do have a mom. He do have a

5:38

mom. You know, he does. I just didn't

5:40

I do. Play around and she gonna end

5:42

up on a juice network. That's why I'm

5:45

over here just like, I don't know. I

5:47

don't know. I want to know more about

5:49

him. Had a mama. I just never knew

5:51

that at all. I knew he had children.

5:53

I knew that he had land. You

5:56

know, girlfriends. I just

5:58

did not know that he had a

6:00

mother. I never had a mom. And I

6:02

was I was I was shocked

6:07

when I saw him in conversation with

6:10

his mama today. And so that's all

6:12

I want to share with y'all. And

6:14

for that to be the introduction. That's

6:16

it. Who knew? Busy had a mama.

6:19

I had no idea that he had a

6:21

mother. I thought the nigga just I don't

6:24

know. I thought he just appeared just was

6:26

he just was you have to be

6:28

like God is and that's

6:31

just where they stop it. I thought I thought

6:33

Busy just he just was Lucy.

6:35

You know what I'm saying? I never imagined

6:37

him having a mama and I was shocked

6:39

to find out that he does in fact

6:41

have a mom. And I found out today.

6:44

So well, that's why he wanted his momma

6:46

to had him cheeks out which he wanted

6:48

you know everyone to know that he had

6:50

a mom with some cheeks out. I might

6:52

be close and have like a playful relationship.

6:54

I would talk to my mom like that.

6:57

Yeah, but you're normal. You know, you

6:59

haven't done weirdo, you

7:01

know, get your cheeks out. Yeah, you're

7:03

also like girl girls. Girls been hitting

7:05

each other on the ass for years

7:07

without any, you know, consequence and stuff

7:10

like that. So that's different. Busy

7:12

is an ignorant ass,

7:15

yellow eyeball having the

7:18

Louisiana native who has

7:21

upon his own, you know, taking it

7:23

up on his own brigade to be

7:25

against anything other than

7:28

what he knows to be normal because I used

7:30

to think it was just a gay thing. But

7:32

now I know this and then motherfucker just don't,

7:34

you know what I'm saying? He just don't know

7:36

nothing about nothing. So in addition to his ignorance

7:38

towards the gays, he's just an ignorant nasty, you

7:42

know, he's like a switch. You ever

7:45

like you ever had to go get a switch

7:47

off a tree, like a broken stick on the

7:50

ground just covered in dust. It's you

7:52

calling him a barnacle. Yeah. Barnacle,

7:54

Lucy, Barnacle, Lucy, that's what Lucy

7:56

the barnacle. That's what I thought

7:58

he was. He just grew

8:01

off of something that, you know, like

8:03

the ruins or remains of something. You

8:06

know what I'm saying? I thought he just, who lived, I thought

8:08

he lived under the sea. I did. But

8:11

now we know that he in fact

8:13

got a mama. And I just, I

8:16

was just, certain people, you just never

8:18

think about having a mama. You know,

8:20

he just, I just never equated that

8:22

human experience to Boussey. With that being

8:24

said, welcome to the Friends Zone. We're

8:26

looking at all things, mental health, mental

8:29

wellness, and who

8:31

knew? Who knew? We're

8:34

just leaving at that. Who knew? Who

8:36

knew? I'm almost tempted

8:38

to ask, hello.

8:41

I'm almost tempted to ask, who else you don't see happening

8:43

to mama, but I'm going to just leave it out. No,

8:46

don't pick up that as a second. No, no, no, no,

8:48

no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,

8:50

no, no, no, no, no, no, no, we don't have that

8:52

moment. I just needed

8:54

to get it out that I wanted to ask. I don't actually

8:56

want you to answer. It's rhetorical. It's

8:58

rhetorical. I'm sorry. Thank you.

9:00

How are your weekends? Good. What

9:03

did y'all do? Sexy red. It

9:05

was good. You know what I'm saying?

9:07

I had a great weekend. I

9:13

had a great weekend. Shout out to Juneteenth here

9:15

in New York City and the

9:17

layout. Oh, did y'all go to the layout? I

9:19

went to the layout. And you guys

9:22

both got so much love. I saw so

9:24

many people that love the friends. I don't

9:26

love you both. I brought up both of

9:28

your names and just really wanted to

9:30

share love. I saw you were next to Unique. You

9:32

took a picture and Unique was in

9:34

front of it with the hat. That's

9:37

what you are. My little

9:39

brother. Yeah, I

9:41

don't know Unique, but shout out to Unique because

9:43

he made the photo. Shit. You

9:45

know what I'm saying? Yeah, he was literally right

9:47

in front of you with like a big crochet. I

9:50

was like, what are the odds? Yeah, I would

9:52

be next to each other. I

9:54

would have been like, hey, man, you're

9:57

unique. I'm

10:00

trying. But

10:02

now it was cool though, the layout

10:04

was cool. There's so many different beautiful

10:06

types of people out there. I

10:09

had a couple of nutcrackers. You

10:11

know what I'm saying? And it was just

10:14

really, really great. Everybody was out there and

10:16

it was fine. From the time you would

10:18

be like. Fine ass motherfuckers out there. Whatever

10:20

you wanted, they was out there. I'm telling

10:22

you. At the layout. I saw, because you

10:24

saw how people do that DAP10, those

10:26

DAP10 videos. Y'all seen them where

10:28

the girls go up to guys they think are 10 and

10:31

they dap them up. I was like,

10:33

what? I want to do one. Where was

10:35

this at this time? And I also want to do one

10:37

of them 20 V1s. I

10:40

want to be the one. No. I want to be the

10:42

one. And. And. And. And. And. And.

10:44

I want to do it alone. I definitely want

10:46

to do it alone. No. No.

10:52

Speaking of what these things say, my YouTube

10:54

algorithm and a chokehold and I want it

10:56

released immediately. Y'all seen that nigga with them

10:58

Ferris wheel teeth that was on, I guess

11:01

he was on the balloon shows and now

11:03

he's going viral. And the plumber.

11:05

Yes. Oh, the plumber. Oh

11:07

my God. I said, well, I know. I don't want

11:09

to expose him. You not even qualify. You do all

11:11

the boat tightening with his teeth. It looked like he

11:14

just get out on out of the pipe and

11:17

get to tighten. He had

11:19

the biggest, longest. So that

11:21

nigga was, I was like saber tooth ass.

11:23

That motherfucker. I had never seen nothing like

11:25

that. How your teeth and we're trying

11:27

to just give it to girls. Like, I was like,

11:29

the girl still going. The

11:32

girl still going. It's crazy. Crazy.

11:35

Anyway, I didn't even make it that far into

11:37

that part. And I left it with the layout.

11:39

I had a great just as just so you

11:41

know that. And everyday people was great as well.

11:43

I swung through there. Everyday people

11:45

was great. It was just

11:47

like this time. I didn't do Tompkins. I

11:51

did not do Tompkins. No, I did.

11:53

Tompkins Sunday. My arms was too short

11:55

to box with Brooklyn. All the way

11:57

across. It was too much. It

11:59

was so much. There's so many parties going on, and I

12:01

love that it was so many parties going on. You

12:03

know? I love how

12:05

we bring in someone in New

12:07

York. Yeah. We

12:10

right out of the saute. I

12:12

had a good time. It is Pride

12:14

Month. So there

12:16

are gay people here all month. I

12:19

mean, all of the time, obviously. But especially

12:22

more during this month. So I got to

12:24

see some people this weekend. Got really

12:26

fucked up on Saturday. Did

12:28

it all again on Sunday. Went to

12:30

a house party. And I get

12:33

to see one of my friends. I saw India

12:35

last week. India. And one of my friends, too,

12:37

this week. Yeah. I haven't seen her in so

12:39

long. India was here. She performed

12:41

at Radio City with

12:44

Free National. Shout out to them. They

12:46

were opening for Gary Clark, which was

12:48

amazing. Shout out to everybody. That was

12:50

dope. Really, really

12:52

funny seeing India just be

12:56

the beautiful, amazing professional that

12:58

she is. So shout out to

13:00

her. And shout out to India's

13:02

fans. Whether you have heard of her through the

13:04

show or if you just know of her already

13:06

and you listen to the show. She

13:09

dropped vinyl for her last album, and the vinyl

13:11

sold out. One of her

13:13

fans showed up to the show. And he brought

13:15

his vinyl for her to sign. I thought that was

13:17

so dope. And, lowkey, I wanted to steal it off

13:19

his ass. It

13:22

was just really, really dope to see her vinyl. Because

13:24

I really, really wanted one. Me too. I told

13:26

her. She was like, I'll send you one. I'll send

13:28

you one. But I know she's been touring. You

13:30

know how she did. Yeah, I know. I

13:32

have to get to LA. But we love

13:34

her nonetheless. Yes, it's

13:37

amazing. I told India, I was

13:39

like, girl, what you doing next year? You want to

13:41

move in together? And she was like, baby, daddy. Because

13:43

you know she got that dog, and that dog is

13:45

my child. So shout out to India.

13:47

If you see her, tweet her. Tell her. Give

13:49

a sign to his shout back. But yeah,

13:51

it's been a great week

13:53

and a half, I think. It's been great. A

13:56

lot more ups than downs. There's still been

13:58

some downs. But I ain't been stoned. I'm staying

14:00

down there, okay? We love to hear that.

14:02

I ain't been sniping in the gutters. Like,

14:04

I don't want to say his name and bring back

14:06

the original point and go back to mothers, but I've been

14:09

doing better than most other weeks and days that I have

14:11

had. Fran, what about you? How

14:13

have you been? What's been up? What's going

14:15

on? Tell the people. And also one last

14:17

thing. It's hard to stay down when the

14:19

summertime hits New York. Like,

14:22

everything just shifts in you. Whatever

14:24

you was experiencing is right out

14:26

the window. Fran, I was like, maybe I can do one more year

14:28

in New York. It started to

14:31

get a little nice out. You must've seen some.

14:34

If you seen some, say some. I

14:40

did. I wish it would sound like which. I

14:43

saw a couple of things. I was,

14:45

as you can hear, I am whooped.

14:49

I am sick. I'm under the weather. I

14:52

was with the girls. Shout

14:55

out to Crystal and Kia,

14:57

Jade and Toya. We were

14:59

on a beautiful European cruise

15:02

in the French Riviera. Yes,

15:04

yes. We were doing our thing. It

15:06

was so much fun. I'm not a cruise

15:08

girly. Because of what

15:11

I'm experiencing right this moment, I'm not

15:13

a cruise girly because I just feel

15:15

like it's like a petri dish in

15:17

the ocean. But I wanted

15:19

to celebrate Crystal. And

15:22

this is what she wanted to do.

15:24

I surprised her, actually, because she said we

15:26

were linked last year. And

15:29

I never followed up about

15:31

it, because honestly, I was like, am I really

15:33

cold? But then I

15:35

just booked everything. And

15:37

it was super cute because she had no idea. And

15:39

I just popped up on them in

15:41

Spain at the hotel. Yeah, they were

15:43

in the lobby waiting for their rooms, having

15:46

drinks. And I just popped up on

15:48

her cane. She was like, what the fuck? She

15:52

was so confused. She just stood there frozen

15:54

with her hands covered in her face. And

15:59

of course, we got a moment. It was

16:02

just really beautiful. It's exactly what I

16:04

like for us to feel. Yeah,

16:07

I told her I have

16:09

to do a better job of showing

16:11

up and I want you to feel loved and supported.

16:14

And so that was great. And the trip was great. I

16:17

mean, I'm sick, but really it's because I was the

16:19

only one coming from the West Coast. So

16:23

my body, yeah, just had a

16:25

much harder time adjusting to the time

16:27

zones in Europe. I was on a

16:29

nine hour difference from

16:31

the West Coast to all the cities we

16:34

were hitting. We hit a different city

16:36

every day. So it was a lot

16:38

of moving around and I couldn't fully

16:40

adjust. But I'll tell

16:42

more about it during the

16:44

wellness segment because I actually wanted to kind of

16:46

go back and forth with the saunty because I

16:48

know you experienced that same cruise last year. So

16:51

yeah, I want to ask you about the boat too. Yeah, I

16:53

know people are going to have questions just like what

16:55

we did and where it was and when it was

16:58

like and blah, blah, blah. So we'll do that. But

17:00

yeah, I'm just sick trying to like nourish

17:04

myself and get myself back. It's just

17:06

hard. That 14 hour travel

17:09

is a motherfucker. It's just a lot. Yeah, I feel

17:11

you. Yes, it was hard and it don't

17:13

matter how you travel. Like, yeah, fucking

17:15

hurt. So I just

17:17

got to rest. And then like that time changes. Like

17:19

it's not like a full 12 or you know,

17:21

like it's not like anywhere evenly to kind of

17:24

change. So it's like hard to adjust to that.

17:26

Like I left here in the morning and

17:28

got to Spain in the morning. So my body

17:30

was like, what are we doing right now? But

17:33

it's all good. I just need I wanted

17:35

to make sure we could record. So I'm sorry

17:38

if my energy is not the best today. I'm

17:40

going to try my best to hang in there.

17:42

Sorry for the coughs and the

17:44

very clear sickness, but we're going to power through

17:46

try to get this episode out this week. We

17:49

love you, friend. But

17:52

with that being said, do you guys have any

17:54

announcements or anything that you want to talk

17:56

about or mention before we jump right in?

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18:06

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19:40

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19:42

of you that have, have started, I've seen

19:44

the comments on patreon. Yeah. They're

19:47

like, what the fuck? Yes. Yes.

19:51

And onto the binge. No, yeah. On

19:53

the binge, you know, we watch

19:55

it and right now we're watching

19:57

the Gerard Carmichael show. It's

19:59

been a ride. So make

20:01

sure that you check that out if you want

20:03

to hear our spirited and honest Perspectives

20:07

and commentary from watching the Gerard

20:09

Carmichael reality show on Mac Okay

20:23

this week Dustin Ross you have

20:25

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20:30

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sent you hi Terry. Love you So

21:40

last week's episode titled drunk

21:43

bar lies, thank you Dustin Ross We

21:46

engaged in a mid-year

21:49

mental health check-in those of you listening

21:51

said you really needed that Did

21:54

some check-ins of your own and

21:56

shared some of your thoughts you had a lot to

21:58

say who stood out to you with Sante Shout

22:00

out to everybody in the gated community.

22:03

I wanted to shout out beautifully.

22:05

Rina or Renna, excuse me if

22:07

I'm saying your name wrong. I just love that it was

22:09

beautifully and you are beautiful. So if I'm saying your name

22:12

wrong, excuse me. Their

22:14

comment is the timing of this mid-year

22:16

assessment is Kismet. Having received my bachelor's

22:18

degree as a single mom who's working

22:20

full time, I was going

22:22

hard for the last four years. Shout out to

22:24

you. Now that I have

22:26

a lot of time freed up, it's driving me crazy to

22:28

think of how much I sacrificed to obtain my degree.

22:31

But now I can be a fully present parent and shift

22:33

into a new work position to give it my all. I'm

22:36

so happy to spend the rest of this

22:38

year shifting into focusing on my life and

22:40

more importantly, my autonomy. Shout out

22:43

to you, Renna or Rina. I think it's dope that

22:45

you have done so much and you got your degree

22:47

and now you can focus on being your good parent.

22:49

When we have these assessments, like friend, that was right

22:51

on time because you

22:54

know, I just said earlier, it's nice out and I was

22:56

thinking like, maybe I could stay in New York one more

22:58

time. So it's like literally right on time for us to

23:00

be trying to figure out like what gears you want to

23:02

shift into. Yeah. Since

23:05

you got your fucking degree. What about you, friend? What

23:07

did you find out there? What

23:10

did you find out there in the

23:13

street? So a lot of people tagged me.

23:16

Remember when I was talking about one of

23:18

my favorite things about Portland being that it's

23:20

a walkable city. Now it was designed. So

23:23

a lot of people tag me. Apparently there's

23:25

an account on TikTok

23:27

called John John. That's J

23:29

O N J O N

23:32

dot MP4. And that's literally

23:34

what he does. Apparently like he

23:36

is, he is in urban design

23:39

and he walks through different cities and tells

23:41

you like what makes it a walkable city,

23:43

what doesn't make it a walkable city. And

23:46

he kind of just like walks through different neighborhoods

23:48

and kind of schools you on what you should

23:50

look for. You know, he pops

23:53

in different places, maybe even giving you some

23:55

insight. If that's something you're looking for

23:57

a city that, you know, there's a lot

23:59

of parts. There's a lot of schools

24:01

nearby and libraries and markets and

24:03

you don't have to rely on transportation or a

24:06

car. I think

24:08

that's a really great account and thank you to

24:10

those of you who tagged me a million times

24:12

to make sure that I saw it. Because

24:14

he- I got it. Yeah.

24:16

Essentially, this is his- Shit! I

24:20

only seen no way! This

24:23

is his brand. This

24:25

is what he does. And

24:30

so it was really cool to see and to

24:33

remind him. Yeah, yeah,

24:35

yeah, yeah. Okay! It really be like

24:37

that. At

24:39

least this one was useful. It

24:44

wasn't like JLo News, which like

24:47

I said, please. A

24:50

lot of you- Somebody said- You see JLo

24:52

head? No. You know what people

24:55

say? I know friends said to the- and then they still tag

24:57

you? That's crazy. That's

24:59

crazy. But anyway- Or when

25:01

you talking about somebody and they tagged the person. Motherfucker,

25:04

I didn't want to tag them. I

25:06

just wanted to say it. Why are you tagging the

25:08

people on here? Trying

25:10

to start something. Oh Jesus. I don't want

25:12

to get into it with nobody. I just wanted to say that

25:15

in peace. I thought y'all was

25:17

a safe spay. God

25:19

damn. Anyway-

25:22

But that's interesting to me. What about you? What

25:24

about you, Justin Ross? What did you find in

25:27

this video? Well, because you know that's where I

25:29

was at. Oh,

25:32

Asante is crazy. Well,

25:34

you know it's actually Juneteenth. No,

25:36

that was on Patsy Cline. Crazy. Crazy.

25:39

I don't feel it. Anyway,

25:41

shout out to Opalie. I'm

25:44

crazy for trying. I'm

25:47

crazy for trying. Crazy.

25:50

They made you sing that in high

25:52

school. Okay. Patsy Cline, that was the

25:54

first cool white lady. Patsy

25:56

Cline. Oh no, she was because Dolly came

25:59

up. before her, Dolly came

26:01

before her. Anyway, Opal

26:04

Lee, today is Juneteenth. Opal Lee

26:06

is the 97 year old Texan

26:08

woman and living legend who made

26:11

the push to make Juneteenth a national holiday.

26:14

And this past Friday, she was given the

26:16

keys to her brand new home, which

26:18

was built on the same tree lined

26:21

corner lot in Fort Worth that her

26:23

family was driven from by a racist

26:25

mob when she was 12 years old.

26:28

Yeah. So this is full

26:30

circle. That's powerful. Yeah. Shout out to

26:32

Opal Lee, Google Opal Lee. You

26:34

know what I'm saying? Also,

26:37

shout out to Mr.

26:40

Duffy, D-U-F-F-Y-Y-Y, who

26:43

said, wherever Quilla is, I hope she is thriving.

26:46

This is a 17 year old

26:48

classic video. And tell me you don't remember

26:50

this. And hold up, man. It's

26:52

your girl, Queen. Not for rocking Jordan, but

26:54

I also rock Fela. Fela. Hold up, big

26:56

baby. That's what I said.

26:59

That's daddy grind gripping busting hoes in

27:01

the head. That's just what I do.

27:03

That's just what it meant. I

27:05

done came through in the peppermint.

27:08

Hold up, big baby. Y'all remember

27:10

little Quilla? Yes. I

27:12

don't remember that. Well, the internet, the

27:14

North remembers. I'm telling you. Yeah,

27:18

shout out to little Quilla. And that's it for me

27:20

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30:52

right. So this week we have

30:54

an interesting show. I

30:56

saw something that caught

30:58

my eye. And if I'm being honest, I

31:01

immediately sent it to X, D and J,

31:03

then we laughed. Okay. And

31:06

I know this was just at the headline.

31:10

And once I read more

31:12

and discovered more about this

31:14

situation, I felt like it

31:17

was something that we had to discuss on the

31:19

friend zone, because it just was so many layers

31:21

involved. So terrified.

31:24

Recently, on June

31:26

12th, this year, 2024, there was

31:29

an article published to People Magazine

31:31

by Brian Brandt and the headline

31:33

of the article, which made me,

31:36

oh, I'm just going to read it. This is the headline

31:38

of the article. And this is where I stopped. This

31:41

is what caught my attention. I'll put it that way. New

31:45

York veteran comes out as

31:48

gay in his obituary, says

31:50

he can now quote forever

31:53

rest in peace now.

31:59

Now, when I... I saw that. And

32:09

it's not. Happy Pride. And Lord

32:11

forgive me because, oh my

32:13

God, no. Because wait. I am not at

32:16

all laughing at the loss of life. There

32:18

were so many things that happened. Right. I'm

32:21

not. There were so many things

32:23

that happened. I'm not. I am

32:25

not. But the, the irony, the

32:28

satirical irony of, him

32:30

saying now I can forever rest

32:32

in peace. And there's more. So

32:36

according to the People Magazine article, right?

32:38

They said that Colonel Edward Thomas

32:40

Ryan said

32:42

that he, he was a New York veteran and

32:44

he can now rest easy. At

32:47

the end of his obituary, this

32:49

is what he wrote. This is a quote. And this

32:51

is another point where I, it's

32:54

quote, I must tell you

32:56

one more thing. I was

32:58

gay all my life. That's what he

33:00

was saying. What

33:04

is wrong with my dream? Oh,

33:20

whoo. Okay.

33:25

So his obituary was published. His

33:28

obituary God, please. Cause we are not

33:31

laughing at the loss of life in

33:33

no way. It's

33:36

just, it's just, it's just,

33:39

it's the way he said. Why

33:44

would he say, I must tell

33:46

you one more thing. Period. I

33:48

was gay all my life. Okay.

33:54

Yeah. So the obituary. I just need

33:56

you to know that. You're

34:01

fucking crazy. Because

34:03

it's the way you are reading it and you're in your

34:05

tent when you are reading it and

34:08

you are fucking crazy. I'm

34:10

telling you. Continue, please. OK. Because

34:13

so some good things,

34:15

right? So he

34:18

served with the Army's 10th Brigade. Now, he was 85

34:20

years old. OK,

34:22

he was a Vietnam vet. I don't know

34:24

what his personal politics were. Is a white

34:26

man? White man from upstate New York. I

34:29

don't know what his personal politics were. So I'm

34:32

not really caping for anybody here. And

34:34

I'm also not saying good. And

34:37

even a military background. That's my

34:39

point. That's already challenging. He had

34:41

a partner of 25 years that

34:44

passed away in 1994. From

34:48

what they say, it was a medical procedure

34:50

going wrong. Now, if you're lying

34:52

about being gay all your life, I don't know.

34:56

I don't know what's true or what's not. But anyway,

34:58

his partner's name

35:01

was Paul Cavanaro.

35:03

And he said that that was the love of his life

35:05

or whatever. And now they're going to be buried together. They're

35:08

being buried side by side so

35:10

they can have their eternal resting. The

35:12

sunset. That's good. They can be together for

35:14

the sunset. And so he

35:17

said that he was afraid of being ostracized.

35:19

So as I started reading this, I wanted

35:23

to know more about the

35:25

details surrounding this, right? Because

35:27

the People Magazine article, again,

35:29

although informative of the surface

35:31

level details, I

35:33

just had to know more about this

35:36

situation. So I did a little bit

35:38

of digging on Google. And I found

35:40

an article that had

35:42

a little bit more information. This is from ABC

35:44

7 New York. Katie

35:48

Kindlin wrote this article on June 14. It

35:51

says, family member reflects on New York a

35:54

military veteran who reveals an obituary he is gay.

35:56

So this is one of his family members now

35:59

offering. more context to the story. And

36:02

so this

36:06

is how the article opens. It says a military

36:09

veteran who went on to serve as

36:11

a firefighter and owned a local radio

36:13

station revealed in his obituary that he

36:15

was gay. A secret he said

36:17

he held his entire life. Colonel

36:19

Edward Thomas Ryan died at age

36:21

85 on June 1st, the first

36:23

day of pride month. Oh,

36:27

nice. See, friend,

36:32

look at this mouth. You miss. I need,

36:35

I need a meme of your mouth doing that because

36:39

that was

36:42

crazy. Okay.

36:46

So we're talking about pregame,

36:48

but then, so this is Colonel Edward

36:51

Thomas Ryan, a lifetime military career veteran.

36:53

You know what I'm saying?

36:57

Deep in the military. And guess what his

36:59

niece name is. Now his niece is the

37:01

one who spoke with Good Morning America. And

37:03

that's where ABC seven got this article from.

37:05

Guess what his niece name is. Linda

37:09

Sargent. Her last name

37:11

is Sargent. They got

37:14

a niece name. Okay.

37:21

She, after she listed his career

37:23

accolades and his survivors in

37:25

the obituary, there

37:28

was also a message from, from

37:31

Colonel Edward Thomas Ryan himself. He

37:33

says, I must tell you one

37:35

more thing. I was gay all

37:37

my life through grade school, through

37:40

high school, through college, through life.

37:42

These are the quotes from the

37:44

obituary. I know I was

37:46

in a loving and caring relationship with Paul Covingonaro of

37:48

North green. Bush.

38:00

He was the love of my life.

38:02

We had 25 great years together. Paul

38:04

died in 1994 from a

38:06

medical procedure gone wrong. I'll be buried

38:09

next to Paul. The

38:11

message continues. Here's the additional context we

38:13

were looking for, right? I'm

38:16

sorry for not having the courage to come out as

38:18

gay. I was afraid

38:20

of being ostracized by family, friends

38:23

and coworkers. Seeing how

38:25

people like me were treated. I just

38:28

could not do it. Now that

38:30

my secret is known, I'll forever rest

38:32

in peace. Linda

38:34

Sergeant said that her

38:37

uncle, who she called Uncle Ed and

38:39

cared for in his final years, did

38:41

speak with her about the message he

38:43

wanted to share after his passing. She

38:46

says, and I think she lying because if

38:48

he had this kind of support, why would

38:50

he feel like that in first place? But

38:52

she said, I said, Uncle Ed, if that's

38:54

what you want to tell the world, tell

38:56

the world that you're gay. Don't be ashamed

38:59

of it. Sergeant said he was

39:01

a great man, and I'm just so sorry that

39:03

he had to hide who he was. He

39:06

lived most of his life upstate in New

39:08

York, including in Albany, where he died. That

39:11

was where he passed away,

39:13

but he was raised in a town called Renessler,

39:17

and he had six siblings. All of them were passed

39:19

away. Now they added a picture to the article of

39:21

what he looked like as a child. And

39:24

I've often heard, well, here's the

39:26

picture. I was the American flag. He's

39:28

probably standing

39:31

like ears, ears. See

39:33

how his knees are? You know what?

39:37

Oh, so. So,

39:41

um, you know, I think that

39:43

sometimes, you know, you can tell, you know, I'm saying

39:45

people are who they are. We was born this way.

39:48

Um, but his niece, his

39:52

niece said, I think his siblings

39:54

knew, but it was never spoken

39:56

about. She said she never remembers

39:58

him discussing his private life. life.

40:01

And she says that during his

40:03

final days, she heard him talk about

40:05

wanting to reunite with Paul. He kept

40:07

saying, I want to go home. I

40:10

want to go be with Paul. And

40:12

he also said that he never had

40:14

another partner after that. And

40:16

so, yeah, you know, this is a situation where

40:18

he just, you

40:20

know, he decided I'm going to get the last

40:23

laugh on you motherfuckers one way or another. I

40:26

hear you all my life. It

40:29

makes you think about a lot of different stuff.

40:33

Like, I don't

40:35

know. Like, I feel like we should all come

40:37

out. You know what I mean? He came out

40:39

in his obituary. So why don't we all come

40:41

out? Like right now, what is one secret? Like

40:43

one thing about you guys each, right? That

40:46

you can reveal today on the show. This

40:50

is the thing you know about. You know,

40:52

just we just have a couple of questions

40:54

as an offshoot of this article. What's something

40:56

that people just don't know about you that

40:59

you can share today? My secret. I

41:01

sleep with the night light. I

41:04

don't mind going first. You know what I'm saying? I

41:06

really like you and I'll know that I'm

41:09

a person who is generally I have strong

41:11

opinions about stuff, but I don't allow my

41:13

emotions to like get the best of me

41:15

when it comes to just generally the way

41:18

I'll govern myself right in life. Politics

41:20

makes me tick. Politics,

41:23

things that go on in the political

41:25

space, they affect me on an emotional

41:27

level to the point where I wish

41:29

sometimes that like I would have started

41:31

over and dedicated my life to like

41:34

being a politician. I

41:37

do, but I would have been so deep in the

41:39

game, you are like. But

41:42

you're also young enough to be

41:44

a politician. I ain't gonna be laying

41:47

up somewhere sleeping with the fishies wearing

41:49

cement socks to somebody put a power

41:51

bounty on my head for me

41:53

telling them no on the urban planning you

41:55

talking about this place.

41:57

So real niggas have been living in this.

42:00

in the neighborhood for years. And since I care

42:02

about what the people care about, now y'all wanna

42:04

take me out of here, I don't need that

42:06

drama. So. I

42:08

totally get it. I told you I wanted to

42:11

be a politician. Once I was in the, once

42:14

I was in City Hall in New York,

42:16

as an assistant, I like peep game on

42:18

how they really move and the shit they

42:20

do, the shit they talk about behind the

42:22

scenes. I was like, ew. This

42:24

is nothing we think it is. I would

42:26

be so motivated by doing justice and

42:29

being of and for the people.

42:31

You think Jasmine Crockett, them AOC,

42:33

all the, baby y'all ain't never

42:36

seen that. Like when D Ross got on that

42:38

motherfucking floor, okay. When I tell you,

42:40

I would have

42:42

been, I'm just telling you,

42:44

like I would have been all about it

42:46

and very honest, very honest,

42:49

best buds with Maxine Waters, you know, cause

42:51

she, all this, she's older and just, spectrum

42:53

just don't look right. So I'd have been

42:55

locked in with her. You know what I'm

42:57

saying? And upwind just running shit. Just

43:00

running the show in all the right ways. And

43:02

it really, that's the one thing that's a trigger

43:04

point for me. You know what I'm

43:06

saying? It's like political views and

43:08

shit. Okay, so that's my secret.

43:10

God, I feel so glad that that's off my

43:13

chest. Yeah, that's a secret.

43:15

But I'm passionate about that. People think I don't give

43:17

a fuck about nothing. And that's why I design. But

43:20

I do care about, so I'm

43:22

opening up. I'm telling people that that's, you

43:24

know, something I care about. That's a lot

43:26

for me. I

43:28

thought you'd go and give me something

43:30

juicy, Dustin. I don't think I'd. I

43:32

don't think I'd. So

43:35

you ain't got to either. You know

43:37

what I'm saying? Just share something, you know, that

43:39

people don't know about you. I'm

43:42

trying to think, when

43:44

something people don't know, I

43:48

don't know why. I feel like I can't

43:50

think of anything that's interesting. Like, I feel like

43:53

I'm pretty trans, like friend, if you want,

43:55

I'll go first, okay? Second. I feel like

43:57

I'm pretty. Yeah, exactly. No, second, excuse me.

43:59

You're trying. I feel like I'm pretty open

44:01

about. No, I'm not trying to.

44:03

I just went before her. So I

44:05

just, my number was off. Excuse me.

44:08

No erasure, brother. No erasure. To

44:10

the spirit of the earlier part of the conversation, before I

44:12

get to this part of this conversation, right? It's

44:15

unfortunate that this man had to live his

44:17

life with this secret. And I actually

44:20

think about that type of stuff today,

44:22

like how everybody, each individual, has something

44:24

that they're dealing with, whether it's personal

44:27

stuff happening now, or whether they're deep-rooted

44:29

secrets. I feel like everybody

44:31

has something that they've dealt with, whether they

44:33

done killed somebody. I don't know,

44:35

not to go all the way dark, or

44:37

whether they didn't cheat on a test when

44:39

they was younger. I'm a drug-car-michael mama, comparing

44:41

cheating and killing, right? Everybody

44:45

has something that they don't wanna talk

44:48

about or haven't talked about. And

44:50

I feel like I've talked about a lot of different things

44:52

to a lot of different people. But

44:54

in the

44:56

spirit of what that's interesting, just

45:00

here's gonna be my answer, right? Because

45:03

I was really just thinking about the depth of

45:05

that, like having to be in the closet, and

45:07

I didn't deal with that. So for me, I

45:09

don't really have anything that heavy, or that, like,

45:11

you know, on my deathbed, like now

45:14

that I've died, what will I say at my own funeral? I

45:17

just don't know what will be like

45:19

that thing. But like one regret

45:21

that I have in my life is that

45:23

I didn't take education super, super serious. Like

45:25

I know I can always go back to

45:28

school and like get degrees and do

45:30

those things. But had I done it

45:32

earlier on, I definitely would have gone

45:34

harder in science. I definitely would be

45:36

full on nerd. I'd be in a

45:38

lab right now doing lab tests, coat,

45:40

washing, all sorts. Like

45:43

I just like that order. I

45:45

like that, like, I like how all of that

45:48

looks. That's why it's like I've never seen myself

45:50

so far, like in a boardroom, you know, businessman

45:52

trying to do that whole thing because

45:54

of the monotony of that. But as

45:57

far as like experimentation, whether it's just,

46:00

experimenting on behavior or experimenting on, you know, little

46:02

things in the Petri dish, blood tests, and I

46:04

don't know, just some sort of information

46:07

gathering. Like I've always enjoyed that. So

46:10

that's not a secret per se, because I feel like people

46:12

know that I'm nerdy, but I always kick myself because it's

46:14

like, damn, if I would have like, like I could have

46:17

really become somebody in science and

46:19

done something that way. Like this is, everybody

46:21

always thinks like, Oh, you know, entertainment, which

46:24

entertainment is cool, and it's fun, and it's

46:26

definitely necessary. And I think that's why I

46:28

connect so much with art because art is

46:30

so emotional. But there's something that's

46:32

also emotional about science that I've

46:34

always connected to. And that's something

46:37

I've always kind of just wanted to get

46:40

into somehow. I don't know. So any

46:42

nerds out there want to, you know, give me the info.

46:44

I love that y'all went back to school. Have

46:47

y'all ever, I guess on the other

46:50

side of that coin, I guess being young in

46:52

New York, when

46:54

you grew up in New York, a lot of us were

47:04

party kids really young. That when I

47:06

think back now, I'm like, Oh my

47:08

God, like I think of Noah, and

47:11

I can't imagine Noah, like taking the

47:13

train by himself right now. You know,

47:15

like there's things that I'm like, yo,

47:17

the shit that we did, like commuting

47:20

over an hour to school, we would be

47:22

at the club because Copacabana had

47:25

teen night. And but

47:27

even we were younger, we were

47:29

like, you they didn't they let

47:31

you in at 15. Like that was the

47:34

starting point. And we were 13, 14.

47:36

We looked, you know,

47:39

we all have bodies really young. And so we

47:41

would be wearing like sheer

47:43

body. And you were seeing the movie 13 friends.

47:47

Literally, I only

47:50

difference is I was never

47:52

into drugs, like with the

47:54

drinking. Hello, all me, which

47:56

now thinking back, I'm like,

47:58

that's so problematic. Isn't it weird

48:00

when you think back to shit now at the

48:02

age you're at and you're like, that's so gross.

48:05

Like I had a neighbor

48:08

who with me being that age,

48:10

he was a bouncer and he

48:12

would get me in to places.

48:15

Lucky for me, he never did anything

48:17

weird. I knew he

48:19

liked me, so we definitely, me and my

48:21

friends used that to our advantage, but he

48:23

never like did anything, you know? But

48:26

he used to get us in and I remember I

48:28

got super drunk. And

48:30

he like slipped me on his shoulder and was knocking on

48:33

my shoulder. Make sure your ass got home.

48:35

He was looking out. He had too much to

48:37

drink. My

48:40

mom was so pissed, like what the fuck, that's

48:42

embarrassing. It's like, I'm glad you had that, but

48:44

it is also like weird. Like, you know, like-

48:46

Cause he's like a grown man. He was like

48:48

in his mid twenties, you know? And I was

48:50

13, 14. Like

48:52

he had no business encouraging,

48:55

I should say, me

48:57

and my friends to come to his bar,

49:00

but you know the bar he worked at. It's

49:02

cause he, we knew we would get in. And

49:04

then because he was cool, obviously with the bartenders,

49:06

they would kind of, he'd be like, give them

49:09

whatever they want. So we were drinking

49:11

Long Island ice teas and all kinds

49:13

of stupid shit at that age.

49:15

Cause you don't really know about drinking. And

49:20

you just, you know, getting fucked up. And

49:23

I feel like now that I'm in my forties, I'm

49:25

going through this thing now, where

49:27

I'm thinking back to

49:29

shit, I was situations I

49:31

was in that were unbelievably

49:33

inappropriate with adults that should

49:35

have looked out for

49:38

me. That's not even, you know what I

49:40

mean? But it's like hitting me now, like

49:42

it's hitting me now at this age, even

49:45

people I dated things that's back

49:47

then I thought, Oh, you know, I

49:49

was lucky they were older men. That now I'm like,

49:51

ew, the fuck was wrong with

49:53

you? But that

49:55

especially like my neighbor,

49:57

just having my, me and my friends.

50:00

group, pissy ass jump. It's

50:02

just so bad. And New Yorkers are a lot of

50:04

us have that story because our life the

50:07

first like the young. Yeah,

50:09

I know. I'm not going to say that.

50:12

I'm going to clip my tongue. But we

50:14

would just say that. Let

50:17

me just be quiet. OK, have you

50:19

guys ever found out anything surprising

50:22

about somebody that you thought you

50:24

knew well when they passed away?

50:26

Ooh. Something

50:28

surprising when they passed away. I'll

50:31

go. So one of

50:33

my friends passed away years ago, like maybe.

50:37

Maybe seven, eight years ago, they passed

50:39

away and. Oh,

50:42

I can say this is one of my, you know, who

50:45

I'm talking about. But once one of my friends passed away

50:48

years ago and they had a

50:50

child the whole time that I knew them

50:52

or whatever. And when they passed

50:54

away, I found out that that was their sister's

50:56

child. It wasn't their child. It

50:58

was really there. It was really their sister's child.

51:01

And they had told me and a whole bunch of

51:03

other people that that was their child. And

51:06

when the person passed away, this is like when I first

51:09

I've been in New York with 14 years. So this

51:11

was like this is way this is like

51:13

10 years ago. It has happened.

51:15

And so, yes. And when they passed away, we find

51:18

out that that was not their kid in the family.

51:20

Everybody else knew, but like the

51:22

friends, the friends

51:24

thought that was the person's child. Shit.

51:27

Was their sibling younger? Is that

51:29

why they like they didn't take

51:32

the rest of them? They lied to all

51:34

of us about their being their child. And

51:36

it was really their their

51:39

sister's child. I don't want to say

51:41

the gender because I'm trying to keep it

51:43

as vague as possible. But it

51:45

was really their sister's child. Oh,

51:47

see, I misunderstood. I thought that was

51:49

like everyone thought that that was their

51:51

child. And then in the end, we

51:53

learned it was a sister's child. But

51:55

you say they were just pretending. Mm

51:58

hmm. Oh, that's they were pretending to the. And

52:00

I was like, and even the parts, the child, the

52:05

child was grown, you know what I'm saying? And

52:07

they knew what this person had apparently told us.

52:11

It was crazy. And it really was,

52:13

I don't want to go too far into detail, but

52:17

it just was so shocking to me. Cause I was

52:20

like, all this time I thought that was that person's

52:22

child. And it's not that I thought that they told

52:24

me and everybody, that they were

52:26

friends with that that was their kid. Yeah.

52:30

They had you on the blue. And then we get there.

52:32

Yeah. The whole family. Cause like, it

52:34

was crazy. Well, yeah. So that happened to me in my life.

52:38

That was like 10 years ago. That's so trippy.

52:41

Damn. Only thing I could think of that I have no problem

52:43

sharing. Cause

52:45

it's low key funny. So when my

52:47

grandfather passed, um, my grandfather passed away,

52:51

we were all like. Oh, That

52:53

means I had energy. Right. That

52:55

family friend that you're just like, Oh, interesting. And

52:57

y'all get together now, you know? And the rumor

52:59

was, you know, I

53:01

was like, Oh my God. I'm on a I'm

53:07

on a I'm on a

53:12

I'm on a I'm

53:15

on a Main

53:17

train. And

53:20

you just can't I can't even

53:25

You can't. Because

53:31

some of those complexity people.

53:33

Background stuff. OY. That's

53:38

a y'all that I'm not. But

53:43

it changed. Let

53:48

me tell you something about old people.

53:50

Old people have been they started. You

53:53

know what I'm saying? Secrets that are

53:55

so fucking crazy about whose mama's

53:57

whose whose son is extra. who's

54:00

like with who? And be

54:02

holding it. Secret families. Holding the

54:04

secret. Take it to the grave. What? I'm

54:08

dying right now. And they don't put nothing

54:10

there, obituary. I wish that before

54:12

my grandmother passed that she was just like, fuck

54:14

it. You know, like I really wish that she

54:16

was like, listen, boom, boom, and boom. But

54:19

we never got to that. But I

54:21

think it's kind of, I'm like, all right girl. Do

54:25

your thing. She was

54:27

trouble, so. The only thing I could think

54:29

of, I can't really tell that on you.

54:34

There was an acquaintance that passed a few

54:36

years ago that I knew. But finding out

54:39

what they did for their day job and

54:42

their family and stuff was like a while for

54:44

me. Cause it was somebody

54:46

I knew. I

54:48

think they were closeted. So that's why it's

54:50

like, I don't really want to share too much information. But

54:53

seeing their family and all that afterwards. Oh, that

54:55

you didn't know. I was

54:57

talking to, well, they were

54:59

acquaintances, but we wasn't doing that. But

55:02

I knew. That they were doing that. The person that

55:04

they was doing. So it was

55:07

hard for them. And for me, I

55:09

was just like. Did a bunch of gay people show up to the

55:11

funeral? I

55:14

know the family was like. I was not present. But

55:17

I just know the

55:20

person that I knew, they

55:22

ran into a couple of other people that

55:24

knew this acquaintance. And it wasn't at the

55:26

funeral. There was like a gathering somewhere else,

55:28

like after for, because this person like people

55:30

knew him. And I was like, okay. And

55:33

then at the gathering, there was like a couple of the people

55:36

that knew him intimately as well. And I

55:38

was just like, damn, oh boy was getting busy. Which

55:41

I got a story about that too. Cause

55:45

friends, your point, I was like, I mean, Nino fucked up

55:47

the way he did. I

55:50

was like, I mean, Nino fucked up the

55:52

way he did his family, but it was cool that, as

55:55

far as him and the lifestyle, he was different the way that he was. Cause I

55:57

was like, you know, he was kind of racking them

55:59

up. I was like. You know, I ain't mad at that, you know, because

56:01

he had a lot of to show up. Well, so

56:03

I know somebody passed away back

56:06

home in Michigan and their family

56:08

ain't know they was gay. And but

56:11

the gay community knew that was gay. And

56:13

so and they all came out. Yeah.

56:17

That family. You talk about miles on

56:19

the pier. The

56:23

whole family was like, looking like

56:25

that meme of that girl. The

56:30

whole damn family. That

56:32

said, damn, if

56:35

you don't, if you don't

56:37

know, now you know. What's

56:40

with that lady saying the

56:42

stole the music from Dionne

56:45

Warwick? Surprise, surprise. Surprise,

56:49

surprise. Hell yeah. Okay,

56:52

anyway, now so this also when

56:55

I tell you I would have also got me

56:58

to think. That's

57:00

what I want to be. I

57:05

don't want to be the gay section. And

57:13

then it's like it's like the unwelcome gay.

57:15

But imagine if they know it's like more

57:17

gay people then the imagine being more and

57:19

more family than family. This was like, this

57:22

is like

57:24

it was too many too hard to handle. Like

57:28

that in all these years, he will

57:31

not say it. We all

57:34

know it. But he will not

57:36

say it. And he's in 60s now. And

57:39

he will not say it. And in my mind,

57:41

I'm like, I'm wondering if

57:43

he's gonna do something like this, you know, or

57:45

maybe he's just gonna take it to the grave

57:47

because that's a different generation, you know. They

57:52

just moved so different than this new

57:54

generation. So I can't you know, we

57:56

got to just be supportive of whatever

57:58

he he's like He has

58:00

like his roommate that he's been living with

58:02

for 30 years in San Francisco, you know

58:05

what I'm saying? He's

58:08

always had red hair. I'm convinced. His

58:13

eyebrows are always arched and my

58:15

grandfather used to be living. He

58:23

would come with the red doobie with

58:25

the pins, you know what I'm saying?

58:27

Hey. K-pasa.

58:30

Shit, what's up? Okay.

58:33

Meguota Pingas. I'm convinced. Straight

58:36

up. You know, the more things change, the

58:40

more things change for some people, there

58:43

has been that like that life event, whether

58:45

it's something that's happened with family or something

58:47

that's happened at work, there's been that life

58:49

event that it said like, I am never

58:51

coming out. I know, like never. But

58:55

again, that shows up, like how Dustin asked about secrets,

58:57

that shows up in different ways in different scenarios. Like

58:59

even with love, while some people, while they can't figure

59:01

out why they can't connect with love, like that one

59:03

life event has happened to them and they're like, well,

59:06

I'll never love again or I'll never, you know, trust

59:08

a bitch or whatever niggas be saying, you know, like,

59:10

that thing has happened and there are some people that

59:12

will never come out or they will never speak those

59:14

words because they don't want to break a heart or

59:16

be looked at as different or be treated

59:19

like how they saw somebody else treated or experienced that

59:21

thing that happened back then and what other way it

59:23

showed up. So for me, it's

59:25

like, I can't, there

59:28

are scenarios that are just like not my business, right?

59:31

But what is within my power is, you know,

59:33

do I, I can walk away when I need

59:35

to walk away or if I

59:38

find myself in a scenario with somebody, cause they're, you know,

59:40

love a marriage, they're always talking about being

59:42

separated and they're still being paperworked. If I

59:44

end up in a situation like that, you

59:46

know, it's up to me what I decide

59:48

to do it cause sometimes people

59:50

say that, but that's not actually the case,

59:52

you know? So things are

59:55

complex, you know? You know, things are just

59:57

complex. Things just made me think about. DL.

1:00:00

women. I

1:00:02

wonder how many women, how many women,

1:00:04

wives and mothers are living their lives

1:00:07

every day functioning as homemakers.

1:00:09

I had an office like that too. Wait a

1:00:12

minute. Y'all saw my aunt.

1:00:15

You remember, remember, I was

1:00:17

on a past mark. I was,

1:00:19

yes, with the Thames and the

1:00:21

wife beater and like the Shaves.

1:00:23

I forgot about that. I forgot

1:00:26

about that. Yes.

1:00:28

She was always a really young, beautiful, body out

1:00:30

of hair, just gorgeous women. I

1:00:39

think my family, I'm assuming, obviously I

1:00:41

wasn't there, but I'm assuming that their

1:00:43

childhood was just really rough because all

1:00:45

of them got the fuck. They're like,

1:00:49

don't talk to each other. It just

1:00:51

must've been too tumultuous. But she,

1:00:53

at that time, a lot of what women would

1:00:55

do is they'd marry the first person to get the

1:00:58

fuck out their house. Maybe

1:01:00

18 getting married just

1:01:03

to get out of their house. She

1:01:05

did that, was married for a long

1:01:08

time, had her beautiful children, beautiful

1:01:11

house always. They always had that

1:01:13

perfect life where it's like wife,

1:01:16

husband, kids, they always had a nice

1:01:18

ass car. As kids

1:01:20

from the projects, you used to love that shit.

1:01:22

I'm like, that's cool. I like seeing y'all when

1:01:24

you get settled and get out of here. That

1:01:28

was always inspiring to

1:01:30

me. Then they divorced

1:01:33

finally. All that beauty

1:01:36

shit out the fucking window. Now

1:01:38

she be wearing jean shorts and

1:01:40

10. Your whole

1:01:42

star with the wife

1:01:44

beater, the Shaves sides.

1:01:47

I remember it was just like,

1:01:49

whoa, a complete 180. Now she's

1:01:51

just so in her element. She

1:01:54

has her girlfriend. Her girlfriend is

1:01:56

the same one. Yeah, that's in

1:01:58

her heels and her hands. And

1:02:00

my aunt is just, I'm like,

1:02:02

wow. Wish that didn't happen until

1:02:04

she was like in her 40s. And

1:02:08

that's so interesting, like how people, I

1:02:12

wonder what happened. I never

1:02:14

had that combo with her because I also don't know

1:02:16

if that's like inappropriate, but I'm always like, what happened?

1:02:19

And make you be like, fuck the bullshit. Like I

1:02:22

can't do this no more. And

1:02:24

the fear. Some people would say they breaking point. And

1:02:27

the fear too, I'm sure of like, you fucking up your

1:02:29

household. Yeah, I'm sure that is a lot of pressure too.

1:02:31

You know, you don't want to do that to your kids

1:02:33

and your husband, but who knows? You don't want your

1:02:35

kids resenting you or whatever to be

1:02:38

adversarial to you. Or you know what I'm

1:02:40

saying? Having that sort of drama. I know,

1:02:42

but I just thought about that shit though.

1:02:44

Like how many women be going

1:02:46

on girl's trips and not like y'alls girl?

1:02:48

I mean like, you know what I'm saying? No,

1:02:50

for real. But you know what I mean? Like how many

1:02:52

women be doing that shit like to get away and actually

1:02:55

be full out lesbians? Yeah,

1:02:57

you know what I'm saying? So it's just

1:02:59

a lot when we think about this. Listeners

1:03:03

writing. Let

1:03:05

us know if you on the DL just make

1:03:07

a weird thing of dressing right in. Let us,

1:03:10

yeah. Who y'all

1:03:12

think is gay? That ain't came out yet. I'm

1:03:14

just playing. What the fuck? I'm

1:03:18

just playing. But no, we're just putting the

1:03:20

discussion with that. I just thought that was

1:03:23

a really interesting article. I

1:03:25

think to firstly discuss, cause it's a lot

1:03:28

of people that just have secrets or have

1:03:30

parts of themselves that they have not been

1:03:32

forthcoming about. And some people are choosing

1:03:34

to just let it go. I guess in death, me

1:03:37

personally, I don't give a fuck what happened once I'm

1:03:39

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1:03:41

what I'm saying? Also, I'm gonna say it on the

1:03:43

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1:03:46

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you're in your early 20s, you know. But

1:08:03

I think because those were cheaper cruises,

1:08:06

it was a completely different experience. Like

1:08:08

the food, it was buffet style, which

1:08:11

I know a lot of people like, but

1:08:14

the cleanliness of buffet style really affects

1:08:16

me personally. Like I don't- Especially

1:08:18

on a boat. On a boat,

1:08:20

people leaning over. A

1:08:22

bunch of strange, I don't think my food consumption

1:08:25

regulated period. So that whole, you can only eat

1:08:27

when the restaurants open and it is a 24

1:08:29

hour menu. It's three

1:08:32

hot pockets on it. You know what I'm saying?

1:08:34

Like I don't, that don't work for me.

1:08:37

But I was amazed on this ship.

1:08:40

The restaurants are open pretty much

1:08:42

all day. The restaurants. And

1:08:44

it's crazy because you can, it's included,

1:08:46

which I was shocked. It's included. Yup.

1:08:49

Even though like the room service- Open

1:08:51

late. They have like a cafeteria

1:08:54

style part called the galley, which if you

1:08:56

don't want to rest your food, you can

1:08:58

go get like something quick, like a quick

1:09:00

burger and some ramen. And everything was so

1:09:02

good. Like I was shocked. And

1:09:05

y'all know I was a little challenged because

1:09:07

I'm in the middle of like working out

1:09:09

and just like really being on my square.

1:09:11

So I- Oh, did you

1:09:13

see the gym on the boat? It was really

1:09:15

nice to work out. And I'll say that, shout

1:09:17

out to me and Kia. We stayed on our

1:09:19

ship. We did not play. We

1:09:22

got our workouts in. We got our walks

1:09:24

in because the ship has a fucking track.

1:09:27

Like an actual track on the

1:09:29

rooftop, which is crazy to me.

1:09:32

So we- You can put some hoes

1:09:34

on it. We

1:09:36

walked the track. Prostitutes up there. But

1:09:39

really, just walking around the ship,

1:09:42

just walking around the ship because it's so

1:09:44

big, you were getting your

1:09:46

steps in regardless. Like it didn't really matter.

1:09:48

And then obviously when we were disembarking, like

1:09:51

we stopped in Cairns, Marseille,

1:09:53

Palma de Mallorca in

1:09:55

Spain, Ibiza, which is

1:09:58

really beautiful, and Barcelona. Luther

1:20:00

means like, I don't know

1:20:02

the color system. Yes. So like, this is

1:20:04

like a black, blue, I read

1:20:07

that. So they really

1:20:09

have like scenes. Just

1:20:12

roll up on me. I'll roll up on you. I

1:20:14

ain't got time to be cracking the code. They

1:20:17

really have scenes and you know, codes and shit

1:20:19

that if you're not up on it, you're not

1:20:21

up on it. But honestly,

1:20:23

it was so cool. We

1:20:26

had so many what I considered angels, just

1:20:28

people that were like looking out for us.

1:20:30

And I love that feeling like in

1:20:33

Ibiza, we had gone to dinner in

1:20:35

this beautiful restaurant that was

1:20:37

up in a castle. And

1:20:39

the thing about it to get to that castle, it

1:20:41

was like at the top of the city. And

1:20:44

it was like this very

1:20:46

narrow winding road. And

1:20:49

so by the time we finished, cause of course

1:20:51

it's us and we talking, laughing, eating, it was

1:20:53

like midnight. And the dude

1:20:55

was like, I'll drive you

1:20:57

guys. Like the actual dude from the

1:20:59

restaurant was like, I'll drive you guys.

1:21:02

Yeah. He was like, you guys

1:21:04

should not be walking down there. And

1:21:06

it'll be impossible to get a cab. So

1:21:09

he was like, I'll drive you guys. And

1:21:11

he literally drove us back to the shuttle.

1:21:14

And really he wanted to drive us back to the ship, but

1:21:16

we were like, no, no, no. Like, you don't have to do

1:21:18

that. Cause I would have been a lot for him, but just

1:21:21

like that, you know, like people just looking

1:21:23

out for us. Even the last night, my

1:21:26

flight was at 6 AM. Which

1:21:28

is where I'm sick. And

1:21:30

I had to, I didn't sleep. So we like

1:21:33

stayed up, did our thing. And then the car

1:21:35

came and got me at 4 AM. And

1:21:38

it was a woman that we had, that

1:21:40

had driven us before. And she said to me, I didn't,

1:21:42

she said to me, I'm going to come get you at

1:21:45

4 AM. Cause me and

1:21:47

her got into a whole conversation, obviously when we were in the

1:21:49

car, she was like, I don't feel

1:21:51

comfortable with you calling a cab at

1:21:53

4 AM

1:21:55

by yourself. You're not traveling with the other girls.

1:21:57

Like I would feel better if you let me

1:21:59

come and pick you. And she really came and

1:22:02

she was sitting outside of the hotel and it was

1:22:04

all true because when I came out the hotel, even

1:22:06

though it was a very nice hotel, nice area, there

1:22:08

was a lot of drunk men because there was a

1:22:10

festival that had just closed out. So

1:22:13

I was happy to see her basically. Wow,

1:22:16

that beautiful. And then she did the same.

1:22:18

Yeah, and she came back and got the

1:22:20

girls when they were headed out

1:22:22

for their flight later on in the day, she

1:22:24

drove back and came and got them. So little

1:22:27

things like that that I just felt really

1:22:30

cared for and loved and

1:22:33

nurtured in the different cities by different

1:22:35

angels that were just making

1:22:37

sure that we were safe and sound. But

1:22:40

honestly, like I said, I'm not a cruise

1:22:42

girl. And

1:22:44

I don't know how other cruises at this point

1:22:46

are because I've really never enjoyed them. But

1:22:49

this one is really nice. Like if

1:22:51

you are looking to go on a cruise and you

1:22:53

want to save up, this

1:22:55

is something that like I said, it is pricey.

1:22:58

They have a lot of different ones too. You don't have

1:23:00

to go on like a French Riviera

1:23:03

one, but to me, it's

1:23:05

just worth it. You get so much out

1:23:07

of it. The amount of cities we saw

1:23:10

in a week span is

1:23:12

crazy to think about. And then you

1:23:14

said the food is good on the boat and it's different types of

1:23:16

food. So for people that travel and food is like a thing for

1:23:18

them too. They

1:23:20

have, you know, oh, they had the Korean spot.

1:23:23

And did you play the game? Oh,

1:23:25

yes, which I hated. And Crystal loved the game. And

1:23:27

every time the girl was like, let's play the drinking

1:23:29

game. I was like, come on, man, we already did

1:23:31

this. Yeah, they

1:23:33

did it several times.

1:23:37

Yeah, but I love going back. Yeah,

1:23:40

like, you know, I made myself get out like

1:23:42

quick by myself because I just didn't want to

1:23:44

play. I'm like, just bring in my food. OK,

1:23:47

well, you know, but it was. And

1:23:51

I don't, you know, I know I'm not drinking this

1:23:53

year, so I was

1:23:55

having mocktails and they were very

1:23:57

good. They were made, you know, with fresh.

1:24:00

fruits and fresh juices. I

1:24:03

know you had a liquor credit too. I'd have been like Fran, tap

1:24:05

your bracelet right here for me. Okay. I'd

1:24:07

have been there double fisted. But,

1:24:14

you know, that's more so for people that were concerned

1:24:16

like, oh, I'm not a drinker. How is that? I

1:24:19

didn't feel any pressure like I missed

1:24:21

that at all. Yeah. Even

1:24:23

dietary things. Yeah. And it was fun. And, you

1:24:25

know, we're in a friend group, but we don't,

1:24:27

we're not corny. We're not going to be like,

1:24:29

wow, you're not drinking. Everybody

1:24:32

was just kind of like, all right, that's what Fran's on this year.

1:24:34

So it just was. Did you, did you

1:24:36

smell weed on the boat from anyone that

1:24:38

you did not know? Well,

1:24:43

did you even go into the smoke? You didn't even see

1:24:45

the smoke room. The

1:24:47

casino in the back of the. You

1:24:51

got to ask the question you want to answer to. I

1:24:55

just caught myself too. So yeah. Great.

1:24:58

Yes. This, it seemed like some people having fun.

1:25:02

Okay. So yeah. I know some

1:25:04

tastes of the same. That's

1:25:07

good. But yeah. And

1:25:11

I do love, you know, we all had a terrace. Yep.

1:25:15

We all had a terrace. I have to buy

1:25:17

that hammock. That hammock. I have

1:25:19

never seen a hammock like that in my life. I was

1:25:21

surprised they didn't sell it on the boat. I

1:25:23

was like, I would look to see if there was

1:25:25

a virgin voyage hammock. Cause I was like, what the

1:25:28

fuck kind of hammock is this? It's like, it

1:25:30

was heavenly friend. You get

1:25:32

in it and it like. So nice. Takes

1:25:34

your whole, like it just spreads completely from the

1:25:37

top of your head to your

1:25:39

toes and swaddles you and

1:25:41

like kind of cocoons you. And you're just like, what

1:25:43

the fuck? It's like the perfect material spreads

1:25:45

out perfectly. Yeah. That's good. That

1:25:48

boat crashing into some waves and shit. I

1:25:50

don't want to fly up out the goddamn

1:25:52

hammock. So it better wrap me up. Yeah.

1:25:55

Nope. And I love the check too. Like

1:26:00

the TV and the iPad.

1:26:02

Yeah, like how you could set different

1:26:04

moods. Did you watch the Virgin? The video

1:26:06

you first got on there? Yeah, yeah,

1:26:08

yeah. And they have like LED lights.

1:26:11

So if you want to be Zen or sexy

1:26:13

or whatever mood you're trying to set, you'll press

1:26:15

these different buttons and these lights will kind of

1:26:17

come on, which I thought was cool. The

1:26:21

window shades like open and close

1:26:24

with a press of a button, like little cool

1:26:26

shit like that. That was really cool for the

1:26:28

experience. I would have been in that hammock looking

1:26:31

like, you know them pictures of newborns

1:26:33

when they'd be like a week old and they have

1:26:35

them right. All you see is their face sticking out

1:26:37

of that family. That's how they been looking. That

1:26:40

was Toya every time we'd be like, where you at? You come

1:26:42

in the dinner, she'd be like, I'm in the hammock. I'm gonna

1:26:45

be late. But

1:26:48

we had so much fun and there was only one

1:26:50

day at sea. We

1:26:53

were on there for 10 days, I think, on

1:26:55

the actual ship only one day at sea. How

1:26:58

were the clubs and nightclubs on

1:27:00

the ship? I didn't go in,

1:27:03

but you could tell it was popping

1:27:05

because the lines were long, people came

1:27:07

dressed with their heels and their dresses.

1:27:10

People weren't playing with the outfits and

1:27:13

just really trying to flex on that ship. Black

1:27:15

people get clothes for vacation. That's the black age.

1:27:17

And the sandals. You have

1:27:20

your outfits, yeah, cross body bag. The

1:27:25

jewel sandal with a big jewel between the big

1:27:27

toe and the wrist. Yup, and their

1:27:29

braids. A lot of aunties was so happy to

1:27:31

see us on there and we'd pass each other

1:27:33

and they'd be like, all right. And

1:27:35

like, yeah, so just,

1:27:38

it was cool, man. Was it

1:27:40

any niggas on the ship? Like good looking

1:27:42

dudes? Yeah. No.

1:27:47

Not least not for me. I didn't see anything

1:27:49

that I was like, oh, okay. I

1:27:51

trust you. Yeah, it's just,

1:27:54

it isn't that. In

1:27:56

the different cities, when you

1:27:59

come out. Yes, there was like

1:28:01

gorgeous people on the beach. I was

1:28:03

like, friend, give me my bags. I ain't getting back

1:28:05

on that boat. How'd it been? Oh

1:28:09

my God, my fucking, no,

1:28:11

for real. And speaking of, do

1:28:13

y'all know that when I got

1:28:15

to Barcelona, I'm at the

1:28:18

airport, my bag doesn't come out. Stop

1:28:20

playing with me. Do you

1:28:22

know how I wanted to die? Like, I was like,

1:28:25

you got to be fucking kidding me. We're

1:28:28

getting on this ship tomorrow. So

1:28:31

I go to the window. Mind you, the

1:28:33

window line is long. It took

1:28:35

me like an hour and a half before the

1:28:52

show, but I felt

1:28:54

like I know she goes through this every day. So it's

1:28:56

a lot of thing for her, but I feel like you

1:28:58

should show, right? You should show a little

1:29:00

more empathy for the people that are traveling

1:29:02

from around the world and losing their shit.

1:29:04

And she just doesn't have that in at

1:29:07

all. She basically was in her

1:29:09

way of being like, chill the fuck out. This happens

1:29:11

all the time. We're going to get you your bag.

1:29:14

So long story short, right,

1:29:16

I'm like, she sends me a link.

1:29:20

She's like, oh, the bag is still in

1:29:22

Amsterdam. I'm like, why is the bag in

1:29:24

Amsterdam if I'm in Spain? She's

1:29:27

like, oh, it seems like they just

1:29:29

didn't put it on the plane. Why did they not put

1:29:31

it on the plane? I just was not understanding. They

1:29:33

just didn't put it on the plane. And

1:29:37

then they didn't know where it was. What?

1:29:41

I'm like, why do y'all put all these tags

1:29:43

and codes and shit on it if y'all

1:29:45

not going to keep track? This is where Jay

1:29:47

told me to like, you should get

1:29:49

an Apple Tag to keeping your

1:29:51

bag. So you know where it is. So you know where it

1:29:53

is at all times. I was like, but I should do that.

1:29:56

Especially for international travel. But

1:29:59

I was sick to myself. stomach and I didn't, I

1:30:02

finally updated the link and

1:30:04

I saw that they had found it and put

1:30:06

it on the last flight. Talk

1:30:08

about me getting so fucking lucky,

1:30:11

leaving Amsterdam and heading

1:30:13

to Barcelona and we went and picked it up at the

1:30:15

airport and it was like one in the morning. We

1:30:18

had to literally go to

1:30:21

the airport at one in the morning to go

1:30:23

get my bag. Because

1:30:25

they were like, we'll deliver it, but I didn't trust them.

1:30:28

Right. Hell no, they lost it in the first damn

1:30:30

place. Right. Exactly. I didn't

1:30:32

trust that shit, especially the way she was talking to me. And I'm

1:30:36

glad I did it because when we got there,

1:30:38

there was nobody there. The bags were

1:30:40

just sitting there. I was like, no. So I

1:30:42

grabbed it and we got

1:30:44

back to the hotel like two in the morning.

1:30:46

Talk about a stressful way to fucking start to

1:30:48

trip. That is a nightmare. Right. I

1:30:51

was sick to my stomach thinking, what the fuck

1:30:53

am I going to do if

1:30:55

they lost this bag for real? Because there was

1:30:57

a dude there, this tall Indian dude that told

1:31:00

me he lost his

1:31:02

bag for five days. This was day five

1:31:04

and they had no information. Oh my

1:31:06

God. He was

1:31:08

like, I've literally been wearing the same shit that

1:31:10

I had on, which I was like, bro, you're going

1:31:13

to go back so terrible. Oh my God, you scooted it over.

1:31:15

I'm like, what's up? Ooh. But

1:31:19

five days, I was sick to

1:31:21

my stomach. So

1:31:23

that was a really stressful start to

1:31:25

the trip. And then, luckily

1:31:27

after that, everything was pretty smooth until

1:31:30

I'm leaving and in Amsterdam,

1:31:33

they call my name. It's like I have

1:31:35

smoke with Amsterdam energetically because every part of

1:31:37

this trip was perfect. But then

1:31:40

you get to Amsterdam and that's where all

1:31:42

the shit that was fucked up on the

1:31:44

strip happened at the airport

1:31:46

in Amsterdam. They call my name at the

1:31:48

gate. So I'm confused because

1:31:50

I'm like, what the fuck? I'm already checked in.

1:31:52

Yeah. So I go to

1:31:54

her. I'm like, Hey, you just said my last name. She's

1:31:56

like, yes, you've

1:31:58

been picked. for random

1:32:01

search. Oh my

1:32:03

God. I never heard of that at the gate. Oh,

1:32:06

in Amsterdam, that happened to me one time. At the

1:32:08

gate? So you let

1:32:10

me go through customs. That's why I should go into

1:32:13

Amsterdam. You let me go through security. That's why I

1:32:15

would shoot going into Amsterdam. Because when we got there,

1:32:17

and then when we were leaving, I got checked twice.

1:32:19

And I was like, I ain't never

1:32:21

did that before. Right. I ain't never

1:32:23

did that before. And then they were

1:32:25

rude as fuck. They

1:32:27

were rude as fuck. It

1:32:30

really pissed me off because it was two

1:32:32

biracial girls. And in my

1:32:34

mind, not saying that because

1:32:36

they're biracial, they're supposed to be nice to me. But

1:32:38

at least some. I'm thinking,

1:32:40

we got a little something connected. Some

1:32:43

sort of camaraderie. Something.

1:32:45

They was rude as fuck. I

1:32:48

asked them, why was I being searched? The girl

1:32:50

was like, you don't need to ask me anything.

1:32:53

Then they start asking me, what do I do for a

1:32:55

living? You don't need to ask me

1:32:57

anything. She said, what do you do

1:32:59

for a living? How much do I

1:33:02

make a year? What was I on the ship

1:33:04

for? She was like, how did you

1:33:06

pay for all this? And

1:33:08

in my mind, I'm like, are they supposed to?

1:33:11

Do they have the right to ask me these

1:33:13

questions? No. I

1:33:15

don't know. But they was asking me all types of questions

1:33:17

like that too. And I was being vague

1:33:19

and just smiling. And it was two

1:33:21

African ladies. It

1:33:23

was me and two African ladies. And they were like, are

1:33:26

y'all together? I was like,

1:33:28

what? What? See,

1:33:34

that's why racism is like that. And

1:33:37

racism is never funny. So never mind. That's

1:33:39

not funny. No, but bro, that shit

1:33:41

had me hot. Are y'all together? And when

1:33:43

I said no, he looked at me like

1:33:45

I was lying, the dude. Because

1:33:49

he gave me that look like, are you short, bitch? I

1:33:52

don't know her. What the fuck is happening

1:33:54

right now? And then the old lady was

1:33:56

kind of. She was like. I

1:34:00

won't say she was getting mad at me, but

1:34:02

I had an attitude because I felt like they

1:34:05

were being disrespectful and I

1:34:07

was being violated and I paid entirely too

1:34:09

much for my motherfucking right to be treated

1:34:11

that way. And so

1:34:13

I wasn't being just

1:34:15

kind of meek and going along with everything they

1:34:17

were asking. Everything they asked, I said, why are

1:34:19

you asking me that? Can you show me where

1:34:21

you're supposed to be asking

1:34:23

that? I was asking and advocating for myself and

1:34:25

the African ladies was not fucking with that. They

1:34:28

was looking at me like, bitch, if you don't

1:34:30

shut the fuck up. No,

1:34:32

I fucking tell you. They can get harassed if they

1:34:34

want to. I just hated that

1:34:36

because I was like, what is happening right now? This

1:34:39

is crazy. And then when I get back

1:34:41

to Portland, I get stopped

1:34:43

to get in front of the random search. But this time the

1:34:45

cop was nice and he kept it real with me. He was

1:34:47

like, I'm going to keep it real. Americans

1:34:50

coming from Amsterdam be having hella

1:34:53

drugs. I said,

1:34:55

okay, but I only saw

1:34:57

me being stopped. So

1:34:59

what was it about me? And

1:35:02

he kind of looked at me and it was

1:35:04

that unspoken like, bitch, you know

1:35:06

why you? You know,

1:35:09

like you can say, he was like, you

1:35:12

got that swag about you.

1:35:15

It just was like so to

1:35:17

have had such a nice trip. That

1:35:19

makes you know when it's done on the other way.

1:35:22

Yeah, like it's an end in that

1:35:24

level of disrespect and people just treating

1:35:26

me like I'm some fucking drug

1:35:29

mule or criminal and disrespecting me

1:35:31

as without even knowing. And the

1:35:33

thing is, once they check everything

1:35:35

and see that there

1:35:37

was nothing, you would think that there'd be like

1:35:39

a softening of

1:35:41

some sort. They're just doing their job. And

1:35:44

then throwing your shit and you got

1:35:46

to pack it up. Crazy.

1:35:50

I was livid. That makes me

1:35:52

want to go anywhere. And

1:35:54

the girl took a picture of me, one of

1:35:56

the biracial girls in Amsterdam. She thought I didn't

1:35:58

see. I saw her

1:36:01

pretend. Look what she did. She told

1:36:03

the other girl to take a picture of her, but

1:36:05

she was facing me. So I was in the background

1:36:07

of it and I saw it. Because

1:36:10

in this whole gate, your picture

1:36:13

is gonna be right parallel to me. And

1:36:17

why are you taking pictures of the gate? You're working right

1:36:19

now. And I

1:36:21

saw the girl that took it kind of look at me,

1:36:23

which just gave it away to me. So I was just

1:36:25

like, I was like, I don't know what they

1:36:27

got going on, but it

1:36:30

just bothered me. And they were staring at me

1:36:32

when I was walking. Because you feel powerless, because

1:36:34

you're at the mercy of these bitches that. And

1:36:36

you know you can do but so much.

1:36:39

Yeah, yeah. To their disrespect, because

1:36:41

then you get blacklisted and you can't fly.

1:36:43

I don't like that feeling. And then I

1:36:45

get on the plane and

1:36:47

the stewardess European lady, bitch,

1:36:49

the whole time. She

1:36:52

didn't ask me if I wanted something

1:36:54

to drink. She walked past my seat,

1:36:56

literally around me, and went

1:36:58

to the lady behind me. So

1:37:01

I saw Pete that, I was like, okay, honest

1:37:04

mistake maybe. Everyone

1:37:06

else gets their dinner. To

1:37:10

the point that the Asian lady who

1:37:12

wasn't even serving my side comes

1:37:14

to me and goes, I'm so sorry you didn't get

1:37:16

your meal. And

1:37:19

brings me my meal. And I was so

1:37:21

shocked. Like what is happening right now? I

1:37:23

just felt like I entered this portal of

1:37:26

racism or what Kia

1:37:28

called original recipe racism in Europe.

1:37:30

Yeah, that's what it is Kia. Yeah.

1:37:34

Which had me, bro. So that's how

1:37:36

my trip ended, which was so unfortunate. I'm

1:37:38

sorry that happened to you. So unfortunate.

1:37:41

I feel like that's a lot of what got me sick

1:37:43

too because I don't deal with energy

1:37:45

like that on a regular basis. The

1:37:48

time zone, the travel, people being dickheads. I was like,

1:37:50

I need to get back to my bubble. Tucked you

1:37:52

out. Yeah, like it

1:37:55

just shocked my system. But all

1:37:57

in all, it was a great trip.

1:38:00

Crystal was super happy, which at the end of the

1:38:02

day is what we were all hoping for. And

1:38:05

I know, Sante, you were like, no more cruises, honey.

1:38:07

But this one was a good one. It was actually

1:38:10

fun. Because it wasn't a lot of

1:38:12

days to see. I just said a shorter one. I

1:38:14

feel you on that. I definitely feel you on

1:38:16

that. Because it was a lot. Just a shorter one. Yeah, like,

1:38:19

clearly my system could not even take that. Because I'll be

1:38:21

back again. Because like you said, the Virgin

1:38:23

Voyages was nice. It was. Beautiful. And the

1:38:25

ship itself is just beautiful. It's a beautiful

1:38:27

ship. So many amenities. And there's so many

1:38:29

cool things to do on there, like the dinner

1:38:31

shows. The hot tubs. The hot

1:38:34

tubs. The plunge pool. The plunge

1:38:36

pools, saunas. They have Himalayan floors

1:38:38

that you can lay on. It's

1:38:40

very wellness space, which I loved.

1:38:43

I loved the whole spa suite. You could pay

1:38:45

for a day pass. Did you get

1:38:48

a day pass? Right. Or you paid for the

1:38:50

whole week. And then you can kind of

1:38:52

just go in and out. So I love

1:38:54

that. I just think it's a very well

1:38:56

thought out business model. And

1:38:58

so if you and your partner or your girls

1:39:00

or whatever, if you're looking to kind of splurge

1:39:03

on a cruise, which is, I

1:39:05

know that's not everybody's thing, I would

1:39:07

say to pick Virgin. Because

1:39:10

out of all the ones I've been on, this

1:39:12

one was like stunning. How many days would you

1:39:14

guys do? I wouldn't do

1:39:16

more than like seven. Because

1:39:18

10 was a lot. Seven

1:39:20

is the max. But you know,

1:39:22

five, six. Yeah,

1:39:25

but then it's tricky because you won't

1:39:27

see as much if you go on a short

1:39:29

one. So it's like, that's the

1:39:31

trade off too. We got a lot done.

1:39:33

We saw so much. See,

1:39:36

that's the thing. Because y'all weren't at sea as

1:39:38

much, I probably would have liked that a little

1:39:40

bit more too. Yeah, just

1:39:42

literally every day was a different city.

1:39:44

It would point at 6 in

1:39:46

the morning. And you had

1:39:48

all day. And then you had to

1:39:50

be back on the ship, let's say, by like 8 PM. The

1:39:53

only one that was overnight was Ibiza, because

1:39:55

that's the party city. And then

1:39:58

people wanted to go to the club and hit. The

1:40:00

EDM, like David Garo was

1:40:02

there. Vince Staples

1:40:04

was there. Yeah, we even saw that we

1:40:06

just missed Andre 3000. So

1:40:08

like. Oh, wow. I know. I

1:40:11

was like, wow, that's just so good. If he ain't

1:40:13

doing, hey, y'all, he

1:40:15

can get the fuck back to America. But

1:40:20

it was cool that the ship was at the port overnight.

1:40:23

So it kind of was funny because we came

1:40:25

back at like maybe one in the morning and

1:40:28

we saw the young kids leaving at one in

1:40:30

the morning. So we're coming in there going out.

1:40:32

I was like, oh, I remember those days. They

1:40:35

looked like they was just about to have a fucking blast.

1:40:37

A lot of them didn't come back till the next morning.

1:40:40

We actually left it be delayed. And you could go on and off as

1:40:42

much as you wanted when you die. Yeah, as much as you wanted. Come

1:40:44

on, like a check in, check out system. It's completely up to

1:40:46

you, which I just

1:40:49

think is so cool. And there's no curfew or

1:40:51

nothing, you know? As long as you're back by

1:40:53

the time they need to leave, that's really all

1:40:55

that matters. I remember when I

1:40:57

went on a cruise, they didn't want you to bring

1:40:59

alcohol back on the boat when you went in doctor,

1:41:01

whatever they wanted. Oh yeah, you can't bring stuff back

1:41:03

on the boat. You can't. And

1:41:05

so they would take it and have it too at the end.

1:41:08

But so I remember what we did was we

1:41:10

have bought like some one liter water bottles or

1:41:12

whatever, filled them up with the liquor. And that's

1:41:14

how we got the liquor back on the boat.

1:41:16

That is so crazy. There was a

1:41:18

girl that just got banned for doing that. Why were

1:41:20

you the risk that? That was so crazy. There was

1:41:22

a girl, she was like a TikTok prank and she

1:41:24

was doing that where she was just trying to see

1:41:26

how much she can get away with doing it. And

1:41:29

apparently she was banned from some cruise line or something.

1:41:32

But I don't get that because you have so much liquor

1:41:34

on the boat. Yeah, but you know,

1:41:36

some people ain't got the money to buy the

1:41:39

paper. Well, in the Virgin, a lot of it's

1:41:41

included or there's credit cards, right? Yeah, that's what

1:41:43

I'm saying. And that's

1:41:45

the thing, that little tap system is

1:41:47

attached to your credit card. So like, if

1:41:49

you're paying, other people sometimes ain't got no

1:41:51

money outside of the cruise, so they

1:41:53

bring what they got from home or donations

1:41:56

or whatever. Right, right, yeah. But...

1:42:00

Even the Ibiza one made me laugh though,

1:42:02

because even when we had to leave the

1:42:04

next day, people would still come and drunk,

1:42:06

hungover, and late. I was like, y'all crazy

1:42:08

holding up a whole shit. Like, that's

1:42:10

an audacity. Of

1:42:13

course. I feel like it, and they,

1:42:15

you know, have to come to the next port. Like,

1:42:17

that shit is on you. That was

1:42:19

accidents. We saw some,

1:42:21

the ambulance coming to pick people

1:42:23

up. Damn. People breaking arms and

1:42:26

falling. It was lit on that boat. No,

1:42:28

it was. It was a lot of crazy. When there

1:42:30

was a mosh pit or some shit. What

1:42:32

was that? That was one point we were

1:42:34

at dinner, and they made an announcement asking for

1:42:36

like a whole crew of friends saying their names.

1:42:39

Like, if they were on the ship,

1:42:41

we were like, oh my God, what happened to these crew

1:42:43

of friends, Lord? Damn. Dude, they get

1:42:45

left. So it was just a lot, but all the dogs.

1:42:47

I would have ordered around us shots. Like, this for

1:42:49

them friends, and they ain't come back. Let's pour up

1:42:51

one for them. It's another reason you get drunk on

1:42:54

the cruise. But

1:42:56

it was so much fun. So just

1:42:59

wanted to put that out there, because I know

1:43:01

it's summertime. People looking for things to do and

1:43:03

get into. Even if you're planning

1:43:05

stuff ahead, because obviously with stuff like this, you

1:43:07

got to plan ahead. So just something to think

1:43:09

about. And even if you've already had sex, you

1:43:12

don't have to be a virgin to go on a virgin blade.

1:43:15

Oh my God. I think people got that confused. You know

1:43:18

what I'm saying? They

1:43:20

don't want you to bring kids, but you can still. Yeah,

1:43:23

there was no kids. It was just super

1:43:25

chill. But that's it for me. That's it

1:43:27

for this week's. Well, it was just an

1:43:29

update on our truck girl strip

1:43:31

and how much fun we had. Just to

1:43:33

remind you to get up with your girls

1:43:35

this summer and do some fun things. It

1:43:37

felt really good to see everybody. Yeah,

1:43:40

like it felt good. I felt like full,

1:43:43

as they say. So I feel happy that we

1:43:47

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1:43:49

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Hi, I'm Josie. My daughter turns five today.

1:45:56

I'm also an Ohio State Highway Patrol trooper.

1:45:58

When you move over and slow down, you're

1:46:00

making sure I can get home to celebrate with my daughter.

1:46:02

When you see flashing lights, remember they're

1:46:04

not just roadside workers. Thank you for

1:46:06

moving over and slowing down. A

1:46:13

signed famous music man, which you

1:46:15

got this week. Well,

1:46:17

Frank, go ahead and grab your phone because it's

1:46:20

going to be short. My throat will

1:46:22

appreciate it. It's Juneteenth. So I

1:46:24

know every week I say there's not a lot

1:46:26

that I want to talk about. There are things

1:46:28

that I want to talk about. Unfortunately, I'm

1:46:31

going to time constraint, you know, and I don't want to

1:46:33

take away from the TV segment in case Dustin has some

1:46:35

things he wants to talk about. So we're going to get

1:46:37

right into listens lately while a friend

1:46:40

takes the time to pull out her listens lately if she

1:46:42

has any or doesn't as well. I

1:46:44

would like to just take a moment to say congrats

1:46:46

to Nashé. Tanaashé's nasty

1:46:48

has been going wild

1:46:50

numbers. She's on Billboard solo

1:46:53

by herself. She's been getting love

1:46:56

from Janet Jackson, Beyonce. All

1:46:58

the girls have been showing her love on

1:47:00

Instagram, on social media. And it's

1:47:02

just an amazing moment for her. I'm

1:47:05

loving the R&B girls right now.

1:47:07

Everybody's doing a little something something.

1:47:10

Victoria Monet, her all right music video has been

1:47:12

out and it's been popping. Crazy.

1:47:15

Mm hmm. Just beautiful.

1:47:17

Just beautiful. And

1:47:20

Victoria Monet video, she do that. Yeah.

1:47:23

See Deborah move. She she's

1:47:25

given a little. I like some

1:47:27

of the looks because she's given like some some

1:47:30

Busta Rhymes, Missy Elliott type of vibes, too. So

1:47:32

and then she goes back to real pop Angel

1:47:34

with the blonde wig and the white on. And

1:47:36

she just is beautiful. Great girl. Beautiful girl. Woman,

1:47:39

excuse me. Woman. Victoria Monet is a

1:47:41

woman. OK. A hell of a woman.

1:47:44

A hell of a woman. Yes. But now

1:47:46

we're just going to get on into listens lately because

1:47:48

that is the short update of the things that I

1:47:50

would like to get into for next week. And

1:47:52

I want to know what Fran has been listening to

1:47:54

while she has been out on

1:47:56

the boat, just being fine or out

1:47:58

in different countries. Tearing it

1:48:01

down shopping wise, food wise, in

1:48:03

the streets. From what you've been listening to. So

1:48:06

it was perfect as Kachanata dropped.

1:48:08

Yes. And I thought that he

1:48:10

was the little perfect soundtrack to

1:48:12

the trip in Europe. Like it

1:48:14

just couldn't have come out right

1:48:16

at a better time. It's called

1:48:18

Timeless. And the record that

1:48:20

I had on repeat was called Spit

1:48:22

It Out featuring Rochelle

1:48:24

Jordan. This is how it goes. Oh,

1:48:27

yeah. I

1:48:30

think it's time, baby. Conversations

1:48:36

have been on your

1:48:38

mind lately. You don't

1:48:40

need to look me in the eye. Crazy.

1:48:43

How you put all of you

1:48:45

to the top. I'm not a

1:48:47

crazy person. I'm a crazy person. I'm

1:48:51

a crazy person. I'm

1:48:53

a crazy person. How

1:48:55

you put all of you to the top. I

1:48:57

do that. You don't even try.

1:49:02

We figure out what we have. Where

1:49:05

my back feels so tight. When

1:49:07

I kiss and drop. It's

1:49:09

been like this since you.

1:49:11

But I didn't overthink. But

1:49:14

we once understood. You try

1:49:16

to get through. You want

1:49:18

to do. Spit it

1:49:20

out. Spit it out. Spit it out.

1:49:23

Spit it out. Spit

1:49:25

it out. Spit it out. Spit

1:49:27

it out. Spit it. Spit

1:49:29

it out. Spit

1:49:31

it out. Spit

1:49:34

it out. Spit it out. Spit

1:49:37

it out. You gotta spit

1:49:40

it out. See it right now. You gotta spit it out.

1:49:42

See it out loud. You got to spit it out. See

1:49:44

it right now. Yeah, you got to spit it out. See

1:49:46

it out loud. You've got to spit

1:49:48

it out till you're out loud. That's it. I

1:49:50

love that record. That's really it. Yes.

1:49:52

That so good. I love it. I

1:49:55

love your show, Jordan. Hell yeah. I always

1:49:57

love hearing her. So that's it for me. Just one

1:49:59

record this week. Oh, well, that's

1:50:01

what's up, friend. Dustin Ross, you

1:50:03

know, the people know that you like to

1:50:05

bump some tunes, which you've been listening to.

1:50:08

I'm listening to a couple of things. The

1:50:11

first song I've been listening to is by

1:50:13

Layla, and it's called Not My Problem.

1:50:30

Not my problem, not my

1:50:32

problem, not my problem, not

1:50:35

my problem, not my problem,

1:50:37

not my problem, not my

1:50:40

problem. That's why

1:50:42

I cannot confide in

1:50:44

you, looking within for

1:50:46

a sanctuary in my solitude.

1:50:49

Now I got the juice,

1:50:51

pajé fruit, and guava juice,

1:50:54

guava juice, mango juice, and

1:50:56

guava juice, yeah, yeah. Not

1:50:59

my problem, not my problem,

1:51:01

not my problem, not my

1:51:03

problem, not my problem, not

1:51:06

my problem, not my problem,

1:51:09

not my problem, not my problem,

1:51:11

not my problem. Yeah, the

1:51:13

next song I'm gonna play is an old

1:51:16

song. It's by the Four CMDs. It's called Love

1:51:18

Is A House. Just

1:51:30

remember, our doors to

1:51:33

your heart will always be

1:51:35

buried, buried as you live.

1:51:59

Thank you. Look for the

1:52:01

light if you're lost in

1:52:03

the light. I

1:52:06

will dream of my door

1:52:09

if you ever need one

1:52:12

or comfort. Darling,

1:52:15

I will dream. Yeah, Love and Sous, by

1:52:17

The Pushing Beast, without its next song I'm

1:52:20

going to play, actually comes from

1:52:23

the YouTube of it all.

1:52:26

It's a mashup created by

1:52:28

At Gis Carter, G-I-S-S Carter.

1:52:30

C-A-R-T-E-R. And it's called Cater

1:52:32

to Heaven. And

1:53:03

I say that

1:53:05

I've been waiting

1:53:08

my whole life

1:53:13

for you and

1:53:15

I. Is

1:53:18

this the real you? Is

1:53:22

this the real me? It

1:53:25

came to nothing but envy. Oh

1:53:28

Lord, let's please keep

1:53:31

moving on. Yes,

1:53:34

we're massing it up this week. That's

1:53:36

it for me, y'all. Yes. That's why.

1:53:40

At the top of the show, Dustin decided to

1:53:42

take me back to a time where I really

1:53:44

enjoyed American Idol. There was a contestant by the

1:53:46

name of Kimberly Locke. And she

1:53:48

had a single called Eighth World Wonder.

1:53:50

And I used to love that motherfucking

1:53:52

song. So I'm going to play right

1:53:54

here, right now. Here's how it goes.

1:54:30

You're so amazing. Seven

1:54:35

days and seven nights on thunder.

1:54:39

But what a rising

1:54:41

midnight, slipping under. I

1:54:44

think I fell in

1:54:46

love with the eight world

1:54:49

wonder. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

1:54:55

Yeah, I don't know. Just throw

1:54:58

the time. What a time. Can't really lie.

1:55:01

Anyway, speaking of a time, the

1:55:03

time is now. This

1:55:05

young lady, she dropped her project dopamine.

1:55:07

We've been waiting for it. Normani

1:55:10

is on the scene. And I

1:55:12

just would like to play this selection. There's

1:55:15

a few selections of office projects that I love. I

1:55:18

actually really, really appreciate the project. I've been

1:55:20

seeing some discourse. She's gone through a

1:55:22

lot to put the project out. And I'm not

1:55:24

trying to excuse any of what's going on. All I would

1:55:26

like to say is- Will she lose both her parents? Yeah,

1:55:28

both her parents. I mean,

1:55:31

like pivotal to your growth, to

1:55:33

your journey. So giving

1:55:35

her grace with that. But outside

1:55:38

of giving her grace, I enjoy the project. And

1:55:40

I feel like this is a great baseline

1:55:42

to start yourself out with. A lot of people forget,

1:55:44

like, yes, she was in a girl group. But

1:55:47

we have to be introduced to her in a certain

1:55:49

way. So if she comes out here just hooting and

1:55:51

hollering, we're going to be looking at her like some

1:55:53

of the other girls. We're like, girl, what are you

1:55:55

doing? So I actually like this aesthetic that we're going

1:55:57

for. Dopamine. There's a, there's a-

1:55:59

There's something really magical about it. And

1:56:01

we still got the Card

1:56:03

of East song on there. But today, I will be playing

1:56:06

this song called Take My Time, because I just really, I

1:56:08

really fuck with it. And I see remixes and potential, and

1:56:10

I like a visual for it. But none of that's in

1:56:12

my control. Whoever's out there, put some money into it, and

1:56:15

make some things happen. Take My Time. I

1:56:17

just can't explain how

1:56:20

my emotions start racing.

1:56:24

Every time that you are close to me,

1:56:26

yeah. I

1:56:29

get this feeling I keep chasing

1:56:31

out back. We're almost

1:56:34

there. Stop thinking. Wonder

1:56:36

what's keeping you from

1:56:39

my sins. You

1:56:41

got me considering this, but I'm for

1:56:45

you. Yeah, because

1:56:48

I want you to. Take my

1:56:50

time. Take my time. Take my

1:56:52

time. Baby, just don't take forever.

1:56:56

With all that you do. Take my

1:56:58

time. All my time. Take my time.

1:57:01

Baby, just don't take forever.

1:57:07

Wasn't prepared for you. You're a

1:57:09

time here. Although

1:57:12

your ways have been made feeling

1:57:14

fast. Yes. I thought, just.

1:57:17

I love it. And then

1:57:19

down there, Francie, you know. I

1:57:21

need to listen to the album. Listen

1:57:24