8:00

years ago, I would have made all this money. You

8:02

might have got fired from Amazon. You

8:04

might have been going to work one day at Amazon and

8:07

gone to a car accident that changed your health. You

8:10

don't know. The fuck's the matter

8:12

with all of you? Nobody

8:15

fucking knows. Nobody

8:18

knows. Nobody

8:20

knew. Nobody

8:22

knew. Enough.

8:26

You can't fear decisions. It's

8:28

the way we live as humans. You're making decisions

8:30

every day. You decided to come here. You

8:33

might have not. We are crippled

8:35

by the unknown when we can't control

8:37

it. I mean, the amount

8:39

of questions that were asked to me the last three

8:41

days asking to control some

8:43

shit that you don't control. You

8:47

have to let go. What

8:49

you're really saying is, I'm scared

8:52

to fuck up and then have people judge me for

8:54

it. You

8:56

gotta make decisions and you gotta move. The

8:59

answer to your question, Gabriel, is you have no alternative. Being

9:02

a human being is making decisions and living

9:04

with it. That's the game and there's no

9:06

other way to do it. Whoa!

9:14

Or just chill with your dog every day. I don't

9:16

fucking know. Run it. Be

9:19

gone, hey Gary. What is your

9:21

advice for a mom like myself who

9:23

took a hiatus from corporate to raise

9:25

her family and now has fear around

9:27

the gap in her resume because it

9:29

doesn't actually reflect what she's capable of

9:31

on the job? What's your advice

9:34

for women like me? Clap it up for

9:36

Nikki. Whoa! I

9:43

got a great news alert. Great

9:46

news alert. This

9:48

resume shit is bullshit.

9:52

Whoa! I

9:56

have great news alert for all of you. The resume? is

10:00

some 1992 shit. I

10:05

don't think I've ever looked at a resume in my fucking

10:07

life. A

10:10

better one, one of the things that impacted

10:12

me at the selfie station, a

10:14

young woman told me, I made a video which I remember,

10:17

of talking about like, so many of

10:19

you, this is gonna hit heavy. As a matter of fact,

10:21

if this hits heavy, make some noise, cause I love this

10:24

one, it's even, I'm gonna answer this one. No, I

10:26

don't mean hitting heavy the overall thing, I know that,

10:28

but wait. I mean this little part I'm

10:30

about to say. A

10:33

young woman came up to me and said, you made a video that

10:35

changed my life. The

10:37

video was, you said it was okay for me

10:39

to quit if I was in

10:41

a toxic job, even though I was

10:43

only in it for six months, cause

10:45

I was scared that if my resume had

10:47

me somewhere for six months, it would look bad,

10:49

and that was some shit the old world was

10:52

teaching all of us, and you told

10:54

me it was okay, and I quit, and I've been so

10:56

much happier. How many people here by way

10:59

of making sound are scared to leave

11:01

their job because they don't like how

11:03

it's gonna look on the resume cause it's such a short

11:05

window? Good,

11:09

so 23 people just got the fucking answer

11:11

they needed. Yeah. Nikki,

11:15

to answer your question, you

11:17

are so fortunate to be living in the world

11:19

that we're living in right now, which is based

11:21

on the following. Companies are

11:23

looking at the resume less and less.

11:26

Companies are looking at what college you went

11:29

to less and less. The world

11:31

moves, it ebbs and flows. 70

11:34

years ago, nobody gave a fuck about what

11:36

college you went to. It was vocational, it

11:38

was skill based. Last 50 years, that fucking

11:40

college thing mattered. When me and my fucking

11:42

boys right there went to Mount Ida, nobody,

11:45

let's fucking go. Everyone

11:50

thought we were fucking losers. Nobody's

11:52

ever heard of Mount Ida, and I promise you when

11:54

I look at all of them and what they've

11:57

accomplished and who they are as men, we fucking

11:59

won. So,

12:05

Nicky, to answer your question, every

12:08

company that gives a shit that you are

12:10

a stay-at-home mom and don't realize that the

12:12

skill sets that you learn of

12:15

raising children are wildly, wildly

12:18

relevant for the world we live in today is a

12:22

fucking company that you don't want

12:24

hiring you in the first fucking

12:26

place. Heart

12:35

skills are a commodity. AI can do that

12:38

shit. Soft skills of

12:40

managing humans is the fucking game.

12:43

Stay-at-home moms understand that shit way more

12:45

than you fuckers out there. Next.

12:55

My question to you is, I kind of

12:57

asked you already where you are to spend

12:59

your hand over there,

13:02

and you encourage me to do this video. My

13:05

thing is fear, right? Fear of

13:07

doing this video, fear of public

13:09

speaking, fear of trying new things,

13:11

fear of starting that

13:13

Airbnb art class. I have put out

13:16

so many things just because fear of rejection,

13:18

fear of failure, I would love

13:28

to get rid of that fear and just say,

13:31

you know, fucking and do it,

13:33

but I just can't. So,

13:35

any advice that you have, I really appreciate it.

13:39

Clap it up for Marcy. This

13:45

is a good one. This is universal. My

13:48

friends, what's so great about

13:51

doing the selfie thing for three days and just

13:53

standing there and doing it with all of you

13:56

is you can like start to poke.

13:58

You know, my content. I can only do so

14:01

much, I give you the this, and sometimes, and

14:04

like a lot of times that it's humbling, it works.

14:06

But you know what it is in real life, sometimes you

14:08

gotta boom, and you gotta go back, and I gotta back,

14:10

it's like ping pong. We gotta go back and forth a couple

14:13

times. This

14:15

one, if it resonated

14:17

for you, is super universal. The

14:20

reality is, is most of

14:22

you are scared to fail in

14:24

front of someone. The

14:26

fear of failure is not an insular

14:28

thing, it's an external validation

14:30

or reputation thing. If

14:33

you are scared out there to fail in stuff

14:36

and not do stuff, it's because you're worried

14:38

about letting someone down and or

14:41

you've been conditioned to

14:44

be shameful of losing. I

14:47

don't attack eighth place trophies for

14:51

kicks and giggles. I'm

14:53

mad at eighth place trophies not because I

14:55

love competing and I wanna be a winner or

14:59

first is the only thing and everything else

15:02

sucks. I fucking hate eighth place trophies because

15:05

we're teaching children that losing is

15:07

bad. We're

15:10

giving them a trophy because they are being

15:12

told if you lose, it's so

15:14

bad that we have to hide it by

15:16

giving you this fake ass trophy. We're

15:20

conditioning these children to be scared

15:22

of losing. I

15:24

don't know if anybody's heard the news alert. Life

15:26

is only about losing. Life's

15:29

about losing. We're

15:32

all losing micro losses constantly.

15:35

We're constantly losing. You

15:38

fuck, we're fucking losing every day. You

15:41

need to fall in love with micro losing which

15:44

is how you get macro winning. You

15:47

understand? What

15:51

Marcy has to figure out is who she's scared to lose

15:53

in front of her, her mom, her

15:56

dad, three

15:59

different people said. I'm scared to lose

16:01

in front of my children. I don't want them to think

16:03

I lost. I said, no

16:05

child, so

16:07

relationship is based

16:09

on their parents' business

16:12

success. No

16:15

child is disappointed if

16:17

their parents don't build a big company.

16:20

Children are disappointed in their

16:23

parents when they don't get unconditional love.

16:26

Great job. There's

16:31

unlimited people. If you're in here

16:34

unconditionally loving your parent, but

16:36

your parent wasn't a massive

16:39

business success, make some fucking

16:41

noise. One

16:49

more time, if you are here and

16:52

you love the fuck out of your parents, yet

16:56

they weren't crushing it financially, clap

16:58

it the fuck up. Now,

17:07

now, if you

17:09

are sitting here and

17:11

you fucking hate your parents strictly

17:14

because they sucked in business

17:16

only, make

17:18

some noise. You're

17:21

a piece of shit. One

17:25

piece of shit and universal after

17:28

fucking May shit, clap it the fuck up.

17:37

Does anybody else feel like the last three, four minutes,

17:39

like eventually we just like, I

17:41

almost feel like VCon needs to just change

17:45

everything. Like we just have to fucking

17:47

change people's perspectives. Like how is anyone

17:50

confused about I need to win in

17:52

business for my kids to be proud?

17:54

Hearing what we just heard. How are

17:56

you fucking confused? You

17:58

make up shit. My friends, I love

18:00

you with all my heart, but a lot of you

18:03

make up shit. We make up

18:05

shit because we believed fake

18:07

society. Somebody said, bro, I feel

18:10

like you got me out of the matrix. And

18:13

I'm like, in it now. I'm like, it's not

18:15

the matrix, my man. It's called

18:17

perspective. The

18:19

matrix we hear about, it's

18:22

called perspective. You wanna decide

18:24

everything is shit? Everything is shit.

18:27

You wanna decide everything is good? Everything

18:29

is good. This is not delusion.

18:32

This is how you deal with shit. And

18:35

there's just too many people hurting and insecure inside,

18:37

which is why they deal with venom. And

18:40

we need to fucking figure out how to

18:42

make the world friends with each other. Do

18:44

you understand? Whoa! She

18:52

needs to figure out who she's scared

18:54

to lose in front of and she

18:56

needs to deploy therapy, meditation, putting positivity

18:58

in her ears, and most of all,

19:00

have the conversation with the person. Most

19:03

of you are here that have any

19:05

anxiety in your chest are one

19:07

singular conversation away of saying

19:09

it out loud to the

19:11

person that's fucking you up. Normally, one of

19:14

the four to seven people closest to you in

19:16

the world, and if you leave VCon with

19:18

anything, not a fucking

19:20

pin, though they're cool. Even

19:25

not even the great new friends you've made,

19:27

which is fucking profound, it's

19:30

with the courage to go home and

19:32

have one conversation that you've been sitting on. You

19:36

need to tell someone in your life that

19:38

their judgment of you has become

19:40

your judgment of yourself and

19:43

you're fucking done with that shit.

19:46

["Woo-Woo!" from the audience applauding and cheering.] Throw

19:49

it up. It was good. Packer

19:52

for VCon, saw the text. One

19:55

question I think would be helpful for a lot of people

19:57

to answer is, people struggle

19:59

with this. this fear of how

20:01

do I express myself, how do I feel good about

20:03

who I am when I'm in a social situation, what's

20:06

my identity, who am I? And I think it takes

20:08

time for some people to get to a point where

20:10

they have a confidence in who they are and they

20:12

know who they are. What advice do

20:14

you have for people to get closer to that point

20:18

so that they can really just feel that

20:20

confident with themselves? And what exploration or ideas

20:22

or hacks do you think will help people

20:25

get in touch with who they are? Let's

20:27

clap it up for Daniel. This

20:32

question really matters a lot to me. Run it

20:34

back one more time, I want you to pay attention

20:36

because I was doing this thing and you might have

20:38

been not paying attention, listen. Packing for VCon, solve the

20:40

text. One question I think would be

20:42

helpful for a lot of people to answer is, people

20:46

struggle with this fear of how

20:48

do I express myself, how do I feel good

20:50

about who I am when I'm in a social

20:53

situation, what's my identity, who am I? And

20:55

I think it takes time for some people to get to a

20:57

point where they have a confidence in who they are and they

20:59

know who they are. What advice do you

21:01

have for people to get closer to that point so

21:05

that they can really just feel that confident

21:07

with themselves? And what exploration or ideas or

21:09

hacks do you think will help people get

21:12

in touch with who they are? Thank

21:16

you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank

21:18

you. Thank you. I got this. I

21:21

got this. I got this. I got this. I got this.

21:24

I got this. I don't know if you heard, but

21:29

high school is over. Yeah.

21:33

The amount of people that put other

21:35

people's opinions of

21:38

them on a pedestal is

21:40

an issue. It is a concern

21:42

of mine even with myself. I don't, I

21:44

would die if you valued my

21:46

opinion of you over your opinion

21:48

of yourself. When

21:50

I tell you to answer

21:53

his question directly, how do you go through the

21:55

system? It's one of the biggest reasons I'm so

21:57

excited about VCon. As I pushed early

21:59

on, and I tried to find other moments

22:01

with all of you, pushing you

22:03

to the answer to this question, which

22:05

is called practice. The

22:08

way you get better at anything in the world is

22:10

practice. You wanna get better

22:12

at basketball, you practice. You wanna get better at

22:15

singing, you practice. You wanna

22:17

get better at DJing, you practice. You

22:19

wanna cook better, you practice. You wanna

22:21

be a better entrepreneur, you practice.

22:24

You wanna get better at

22:26

having self-confidence, you practice on

22:28

not valuing someone else's opinion

22:31

over your own opinion of yourself. You

22:35

practice by putting yourself out there

22:37

more. More, more.

22:40

The context of this conference is

22:42

super powerful and will be no

22:44

question an aggressive theme of mine

22:48

for 2024 is to push you

22:50

to say hello to more people.

22:52

More, more, because what you're gonna

22:54

get here, as you know, is

22:56

positive reinforcement. You're gonna get reciprocated

22:59

likely at a high percentage in

23:01

a good way. You may,

23:04

by the way, I'm not naive. I'm

23:06

sure that even though we've tried to push

23:08

this nice movement like all this, that some people

23:10

weren't receptive and things like that, sure they might

23:12

have been dealing with something, they might be introverted

23:14

themselves, but you get practice. The

23:16

way you get more confident in yourself is

23:19

you stop putting other people's opinions of

23:21

yourself in front of yours. Then they

23:23

go to me, but Gary, what if

23:26

it's my opinion of myself that I

23:28

suck? Then I remind them that that

23:30

was instilled in you. If

23:32

you think you suck as you

23:35

sit here today, that you suck,

23:37

I want you to understand something. That

23:40

was somebody else's voice putting that inside

23:42

of your head. That

23:45

person felt sucky

23:47

about themselves too. Something

23:50

I'm about to start making a lot of content

23:52

around is called fuck

23:54

your grandparents. Yep,

23:58

new big pillar for me. coming in 2024,

24:02

whole framework. It's called fuck

24:05

your grandparents. Let

24:07

me tell you why. All,

24:09

so many people in here running around

24:11

with so much fucking anger and hate

24:13

towards their mom and their dad, and

24:16

giving granny a pass when she was the

24:18

one that fucking made them. So

24:21

many people in this room,

24:24

mad as fuck, daddy, when

24:31

daddy's dad fucked them the fuck up.

24:36

So a lot of you love grandma. She

24:39

gave you some cookies and shit. Hate

24:43

your fucking mom, but

24:45

the grandma was the fucking problem. But

24:49

here's where it gets interesting. 2026,

24:53

I'm coming out with fuck

24:55

your grandparents, parents. My

25:01

friends, how about instead of

25:04

being really fucking mad at your parents, then

25:06

moving that on to hating the shit out of your

25:09

grandparents, then deciding your great

25:11

grandparents were the actual shit, and

25:14

then starting some weird fucking family

25:16

tree fucking hate framework. How

25:20

about we start deploying compassion? How

25:23

about you start feeling bad for your mom and dad? How

25:27

about the people here that haven't talked to a relative,

25:29

a brother, a sister, a cousin, a

25:31

mom or an aunt, how about you leave VCon

25:33

and fucking call them and say I'm sorry, because

25:35

this shit doesn't actually fucking matter? And

25:41

you know what's most interesting to me is

25:44

how not loud that clap is,

25:48

right? You know what was just

25:50

interesting about everything is y'all aren't ready. You

25:53

like resentment as your partner.

25:56

You like the ability to blame someone

25:58

else. We need

26:01

to get off that drug. We

26:03

need to start deploying compassion, not

26:07

resentment. And

26:11

you want to build a business with this emotional framework? You're

26:26

not building shit until you're good.

26:29

You aren't building

26:32

shit until you're fucking good. Do

26:37

you understand? Y'all

26:39

aren't ready, but I'm telling you,

26:41

me and Snoop 2026, fuck

26:47

your grandparents, go. Run

26:49

it. Hey Gary,

26:51

I would love to know how you

26:54

teach people how to take fear and

26:56

to actually flip it around and to

26:58

turn it into a strength. Great

27:05

question, one more time. Hey

27:09

Gary, I would love to know how you teach

27:11

people how to take fear and

27:13

to actually flip it around and

27:16

to turn it into a strength.

27:18

Let's clap it up for Dylan. I

27:25

wanted to talk about fear today because it is the

27:27

punchline. Just so you know,

27:29

the world is weaponizing fear to make you think

27:32

shit. Everybody, left, right,

27:34

up, down, this, that, country.

27:37

Everybody does the same shit. I

27:39

don't want to hear your boring conversations about

27:42

politics or this, that, it's all the

27:44

same shit. Everyone's imposing fear on you. Everyone.

27:48

Everything you must do is, to

27:51

the answer to this question, understand

27:53

fear. Why? Why

27:56

are you scared of

27:58

your kids getting kidnapped and you won't let them go? really

28:01

the media pumps in in your head

28:03

because fear gets ratings doesn't it? Fear

28:07

gets clicks. Fucking

28:09

pisses me off. The

28:11

way I teach people as we talk about it, I just don't think, I

28:14

mean every day that goes by I think about fear. I

28:16

spend an obnoxious amount of time on fear.

28:18

My intuition is that most people in this

28:21

room are not spending every day thinking about

28:24

how fear plays a part in their life.

28:27

Why are they scared and what are they scared of? The

28:30

answer to the question is that it's not that I know that I teach, it's

28:33

that I know that it's

28:35

something we need to talk about. And the more we talk

28:37

about it, the more likely we

28:40

can do something about it. The more educated

28:42

we are. People are like Gary you hate education. I'm like,

28:44

the fuck are you talking about? I

28:48

don't hate education. All I do

28:50

is education. I hate the way

28:52

that education is being sold to our

28:54

children in 2023. We

28:57

need to educate more about fear, understand

29:02

fear and understand it. That's how. Let's

29:05

keep it going. Hey,

29:09

what's up Gary. Thank you for the events.

29:13

I want to ask you a question. Can

29:17

you tell us one time when you take

29:19

a break from

29:21

the event? Because one

29:24

time when you take

29:26

a big risk, conquer

29:28

your fear, things went

29:31

extremely great and then

29:33

another time when you conquer your fear,

29:35

like you do

29:37

that things and the things went extremely

29:39

wrong. This is from James,

29:42

thank you. Thank you James, let's clap it

29:44

up. I

29:50

was scared to ride my bike. I

29:53

think I was like nine or ten. Everybody

29:56

else had been riding their bike. I

29:59

didn't want to scratch my bike. That's my fucking knee. I

30:03

was scared to swim. I was old

30:05

as fuck. I

30:07

was playing knock hockey at a pool place and

30:10

I overheard that my mom was like, yay, Liz is

30:12

swimming. I fucking stopped playing knock hockey.

30:14

I was nine and a half. I ran

30:16

and jumped in the pool and

30:18

tried to make pretend that I learned how to swim first. I

30:21

was scared to ask girls out. I

30:26

was scared to do a million fucking things. I

30:29

was scared to answer as part of it. To answer your

30:31

question, every time I was scared, once I

30:33

did it, I wasn't fucking scared anymore. This

30:36

is why I think kids should still be fighting each

30:38

other. I

30:44

think one of the things that we fucked up, besides

30:46

eighth place trophies, is kids don't

30:48

fight in grammar school anymore. I

30:51

think you should all go home from VCon and

30:54

tell your little ones to punch some kid in the face

30:56

tomorrow. Not

31:00

for your kid, but once that kid gets

31:02

punched in the face, they won't be scared

31:04

of getting punched in the face anymore. I'm

31:07

kidding, I'm kidding, I'm kidding. I'm

31:10

not fucking kidding. But

31:14

why I wanted to tell that story is we need to think. If

31:17

you sterilize everything, you

31:19

groom zoo animals. I

31:22

don't know if you know what happens when a zoo animal gets put

31:24

back in the wild. It gets killed

31:26

in 37 seconds. We

31:29

need to get comfortable with fear

31:31

and losing as a society, understand

31:33

it, play with it, and

31:36

build. The answer to your question,

31:38

brother, is everything I was scared of once I did it

31:40

was a win, and it's never been a

31:42

loss in my life. It might have not worked

31:44

out the way I wanted to, but I

31:46

promise you, I don't even remember. I've

31:49

lost so much, I've got

31:51

so many micro losses. I'm an entrepreneur.

31:54

I'm bringing doorbells at eight years old trying

31:56

to sell something. When the first four people

31:58

say no, those are losses. I've

32:01

lost so much, it's my comfort

32:03

zone. I'm a fucking Jets

32:05

fan. Bunch

32:11

of buddies of mine, a bunch of people rolling, how'd

32:13

you feel yesterday with the Andrew Shultz roast? I'm

32:15

like motherfucker, I'm from Jersey. I

32:18

was born in the 80s, I grew up in the 80s and 90s. My

32:21

friends made fun of me way worse than that

32:23

last night when I went in between one class

32:25

to another and fucking the hallway, motherfucker.

32:28

Give a fuck about some jokes. We

32:32

need to be tougher, we need to get more

32:34

comfortable with fear. One more, I know I'm running

32:36

late, but I'm fucking feeling it. Yo,

32:41

this is my fucking conference. This

32:45

is my fucking conference. Run

32:51

it. Gary,

32:53

super grateful I met you today, You

32:55

all just need to know that I feel safe when

32:59

you sit around any other official and

33:02

name the people who areain frowide orse across the

33:04

board TEA. When

33:06

you walk now this Nephilim would lead you a competing

33:08

race that pictures everything else. If you agree you

33:10

are by my request. When you walk up to

33:13

me and say hi, which is super cool to

33:15

you, my question is how can I allow my

33:17

colksnemployee to feel safe when he uses fear

33:19

to get them to do things without

33:21

undermining his authority? If

33:24

there's a boss above. So

33:26

look, this fucking

33:28

notion that fear is a great motivator is

33:32

actually true. The

33:35

problem is it's not sustainable. It

33:38

works in the short term, but it fucks

33:40

up the whole system. You may

33:42

get what you want in the short term, but deep

33:44

down all those people fucking hate you. And

33:47

if they hate you, they'll steal from you, they'll

33:50

backstab you, they'll leave you, and

33:52

how can you blame them? You fucking used

33:55

fear to motivate them. You're

33:57

the worst. So.

34:00

So the answer to this question is it seems like he's a

34:02

senior dude with

34:04

a boss that uses fear. How does he help?

34:06

What he does, and a lot of you are

34:08

doing right now, is you're a buffer, right?

34:11

You eat the shit from him,

34:14

but you try to make it good for your little crew. How

34:16

many people right now are in a corporate

34:18

or business environment where the ultimate boss drives

34:21

fear and you're trying to be the

34:23

middle person to balance it, to protect them, but

34:26

you're eating the shit from the boss? Clap your hands. Stand

34:29

up, actually. Stand up. Stand the fuck up.

34:31

If you're one of these people right now,

34:33

please don't bullshit me. Don't be scared.

34:35

Don't be scared. Stand up. Every

34:41

one of those people need to quit their fucking job. Yeah.

34:45

Yeah. Thank

34:49

you. You can sit. Now,

34:53

easy for me to say all fancy on this

34:56

fucking stage. What

34:58

I'd probably do first is have

35:00

one real kind candor conversation. Hey,

35:03

boss, I've been here for

35:05

three years, two years, six months, nine years. This

35:08

is the real situation. This

35:11

is it. You're scaring people. I'm trying

35:13

to make it, but it's wearing

35:15

on me. It's not sustainable. It's not my

35:17

business. Are you capable of

35:19

adjusting to this? Maybe I'm the first person ever

35:22

telling you this. Maybe you don't even see it.

35:25

Maybe you were trained by fear, the

35:27

grandparent thing. But you

35:29

have to have one conversation and

35:31

then see if it does anything. All of

35:33

you should be having one real conversation, kind

35:36

candor, right? You don't

35:38

have to be mean to your boss. Have empathy for

35:40

your boss in that situation. Maybe that's how they

35:42

got it, trained to build what they want, but

35:44

you need to have it. You

35:46

need to have it and you need to see what happens. That's

35:49

the answer. One more. That's

35:59

it. No more? That's

36:01

it? Good. You

36:04

have something to say? Get up here, Kiwi. Let's

36:08

clap it up for the keynote, Kawawa. I

36:12

see this fucker all over the world. He gets to go to every

36:15

keynote that I have. See him everywhere. He

36:18

waved at me. This is some improv shit. Let's

36:20

see what the fuck happens. I'm

36:23

terrified of public speaking, so here we fucking go.

36:31

That must be the, honestly, top five

36:33

moments for me. The fact that the

36:36

person that bought the Kiwi, the keynote,

36:38

Kawawa is scared fucking shitless

36:40

of public speaking and now is asked

36:42

for the mic in the second year

36:44

of VCon means this fucking community is

36:48

doing something right. Let's stand up

36:50

and make some fucking noise for this

36:52

motherfucker. So,

37:04

I got the keynote, Kawawa, just before VCon last

37:06

year. First time meeting Gary

37:08

at VCon last year. I've

37:10

been to multiple keynotes. I've listened to

37:13

hundreds of hours of these stuff. And

37:16

it's always been just start. And

37:20

lots of insecurity, lots of bullshit in my

37:22

head, et cetera, et cetera. So

37:25

I'm going to these keynotes and I go

37:28

to one in Naples, Florida, some brokers

37:30

thing in January. And

37:32

my wife last year bought me a GoPro for Go

37:35

Dive in New Mexico. I went

37:37

to a gift code event and I wore it on my chest

37:39

and Gary made some comments. Got

37:42

back, looked at the content, heads were missing.

37:45

So I put it on top of my head. I

37:49

get to Naples and I'm filming

37:51

it and as we're walking

37:53

out after the keynote, talking

37:55

to DRock and I'm saying, this isn't my thing.

37:59

I'm very insecure. and all these kinds of things

38:02

and he leans in and he says, dude, you got a

38:04

fucking camera on your head. So

38:08

from that point on, I went

38:10

to a sports betting conference last week, 1500 people

38:13

likely, only one there with a GoPro

38:15

on their head. I come

38:17

to this thinking, I wouldn't be the

38:19

only one with a GoPro on my head and here we

38:21

are, only person with a GoPro on my

38:23

head. So I

38:29

am a perfect example of

38:31

being an industry of sports betting for 30

38:33

years. I

38:36

know my shit. I'm more

38:38

confident and understand everything in the space,

38:40

but I'm terrified and speaking

38:42

and getting out there and showing this stuff.

38:46

So thanks to Gary again, having done all

38:48

this stuff for the GoPro on the

38:50

head. Here the fuck I am.

38:53

That was terrifying. I

39:02

have good

39:06

news and bad news. The

39:08

good news is, and he

39:10

just whispered that was terrifying. The good news is

39:13

you just practice something that was

39:15

incredibly, by the way, one of the things that most

39:17

people in the world are scared of public speaking, you

39:20

just conquered that or started the

39:22

process and you deserve a

39:24

massive round of applause. I

39:37

have bad news though. I have

39:39

bad, bad, bad news. I have

39:41

bad news. You're also

39:43

a fucking liar. There's somebody else with a

39:45

GoPro. All

39:50

right, get out of here. Get

39:54

out of here, you dorks. People

40:04

are obsessed with

40:06

judging things while they're still

40:08

in progress. People

40:13

are obsessed with judging things while

40:16

they're still in progress. V

40:20

friends is a

40:22

baby. You don't judge a

40:24

man at two and a

40:26

half years old. I

40:39

met so many of you one on one today and

40:42

I've had so many other interactions with you over the last

40:44

ten years, two years, three years. I

40:47

judge none of you. I

40:49

judge absolutely none of you. Every

40:52

one of us is on our

40:54

journey. There will be good years,

40:56

there will be bad years. This

40:58

year I saw a lot of you for the second

41:00

year and some of you accomplished the things

41:03

you said to me you were going to do last year

41:05

at VCon. Others

41:08

were on a path to accomplishing

41:10

it but a tragedy in

41:12

their actual life stopped them. Others

41:17

couldn't even start the

41:19

progress because the day they got

41:21

back after VCon the high came

41:23

down and real life took over.

41:27

My friends, so many

41:29

of you are judging others while

41:32

they're still a work in progress. And

41:35

the one that you're judging the most is

41:38

yourself. If

41:40

I could somehow get this community over

41:42

the next 40 years to

41:45

stop judging themselves and

41:48

start being a friend to

41:51

themselves, everything,

41:55

and I mean everything, will

41:58

change. I

42:01

am a more fortunate man than most because

42:04

of my circumstance. I

42:06

started further along, not

42:09

because of anything other than the emotional

42:11

infrastructure I had with my DNA, my

42:14

parents, and my circumstance. Yet

42:16

I have plenty of things to continue to work

42:18

on and have worked on. We're

42:20

all on our journey. You must

42:22

stop judging yourself. And

42:26

I am incredibly honored

42:28

that I get to with these

42:31

characters, with

42:33

these characters that are gonna come out right now,

42:37

I, yeah, watch

42:39

this, it's gonna be really funny, with these

42:41

characters that

42:43

I, let's go AA, let's

42:48

fucking go black hat. Get

42:52

up here. Alert

42:54

fucking ape. The

42:59

heart trooper, who's got love for the

43:01

black hat? Has

43:06

anyone ever thought why a

43:09

black hat is the

43:11

fucking mascot of V friends? Because

43:14

we, I've got a lot of thoughts on

43:16

it. We

43:19

picked a black hat. The world told

43:21

us that a black

43:23

hat was unlucky, that a

43:26

black hat was bad. We

43:29

are going to over next 40 to 50 years, change

43:33

the fucking script. We

43:38

are gonna teach the world that a

43:40

black hat is lucky. We're

43:43

gonna change a lot of other

43:45

perspectives along the way too. But

43:48

most of all, we're gonna start with this little

43:51

small community in this stadium tonight. And

43:56

we're gonna start by changing our collective perspective.

44:00

perspectives day by day. I

44:02

wish you nothing but health. I

44:05

wish you nothing but happiness. I

44:08

wish you nothing but the strength to

44:10

start being accountable to

44:13

the truth, not how you want to

44:15

paint it. I

44:18

wanna see you back here in a couple hours. I want

44:20

every ass in the seat for Jordan

44:22

fucking Sparks. Because

44:25

I want the opportunity to give you one last hug,

44:28

one last dap, one

44:30

last selfie, before we go

44:33

back out and do this shit virtual, because

44:35

we do, and

44:37

then we're gonna get our asses back together in a fucking

44:40

year. Maybe

44:44

in Toronto. Maybe

44:49

in Atlanta. Maybe

44:53

in Dubai. Maybe

44:59

a new fucking jersey. The

45:04

truth is I actually do not know where the fuck

45:06

next year's money gone is, but

45:08

I can tell you one thing right now, every

45:10

fucking person here is gonna plus one up

45:12

next year, because what I saw

45:15

in people's eyes this year was

45:17

last year was not a fucking fluke.

45:19

People got into their fucking dome this

45:21

year that this shit's fucking different, and

45:23

I can't wait to see all you

45:25

next fucking year.