0:10

And at the time I believed that

0:12

the only way to get taken care of was

0:14

an antidepressant and the sleeping

0:16

tablet . That's what the doctor said . I was

0:19

going to be on for the rest of my life . But

0:21

you know what ? There is another model that

0:23

we have researched and experienced

0:25

and we're here to share with you , and that model

0:27

is that your body

0:30

wants to heal , and

0:32

when you allow your

0:34

body to heal by giving it the

0:37

right stuff and removing the

0:39

bad stuff , it will heal

0:41

. You just need to know what

0:43

you need to give and what you need to pull

0:45

away . I mean , in a nutshell

0:48

, this is how amazing

0:50

the body is . We start off

0:52

as one cell , one cell

0:54

bed . Yes , yes , after

0:57

an act , after an act

0:59

A love maker's act . And

1:01

after that , one cell

1:03

, then it becomes a

1:05

trillion cells . How

1:07

does that happen ? It's programmed

1:10

. The cells know what they need to do

1:12

. Your body knows what

1:14

it needs to do to heal , and

1:16

that's why we encourage you to stay

1:18

with us and find out about

1:20

today's topic .

1:22

Yeah , so we're here

1:24

for you . We're going to be here

1:26

week after week after

1:29

week delivering a word of health

1:31

, delivering a word of prevention

1:33

, reversal and health . We want to walk

1:36

alongside you with that path

1:38

of having long term health

1:40

. Not about you know . Ok , well , you know , I

1:42

got something next week . How am I going to get

1:44

there ? But how do I have

1:47

a long , happy , vibrant life

1:49

? Because the research now

1:52

shows that , on average

1:54

people , the last 20%

1:57

of everyone's doesn't have to

1:59

be us , but the last 20%

2:01

of people's lives is

2:03

lived in ill health , meaning

2:06

if you live to be 80 , that

2:08

means from 64 to 80 , you

2:11

are living in poor health . There's a lot

2:13

going on . It could be a chronic

2:15

disease , it could be arthritis , you might have pain

2:17

, you might not feel good , but you're . You're

2:19

not feeling good for that

2:21

last 20 because you're following

2:24

the model you've heard over

2:26

and over and over again and you believe

2:28

that story because that other model

2:30

, the conventional model

2:32

of medicine , is there to keep you

2:34

going , but it's not keep

2:37

you going at a quality of life , and that's

2:39

what we want to talk about is having that quality

2:41

of life until you're done , until

2:44

your last breath . You are in

2:46

optimal health , until , okay , that's it

2:48

done , see ya , but it was all

2:50

good right to the end .

2:52

Until your last breath .

2:53

Yeah .

2:54

So what are we going to talk about today ?

2:56

Well , may we have today's conversation

2:59

schedule up today Our lovely producer

3:01

, jenna , behind the scenes , who makes

3:03

everything look so good for us . Thank

3:06

you , jenna . So today I

3:08

got a question , actually almost

3:10

a statement , actually

3:14

almost a statement but today we're going to be talking about depression

3:16

and mental health , mental illnesses and

3:19

your gut , say

3:21

what ? Because

3:24

we don't normally talk about that . So

3:26

we're going to talk about the gut , brain

3:29

bromance and how some

3:31

of that is controlled . I like that bromance

3:34

Bromance , the gut brain

3:36

bromance controlled . I like that Bromance Bromance , the gut

3:38

brain bromance , and

3:41

we're going to get into gut microbiome and brain toxicity . We're going to learn

3:43

how all this is intertwined because it doesn't

3:45

cut off here at the neck . Now

3:48

, this is actually a connection here , this

3:50

neck thing .

3:50

Yeah , the neck actually is there to connect

3:52

the brain and the body .

3:55

Yeah , this head connects to the rest , so it's

3:57

all one big , happy family . It's

3:59

not a separate thing , and

4:01

we'll have this week's frankenfood

4:03

ingredient later in the week and today's

4:05

relationship chat because , yeah , being

4:08

together almost 44 years at this

4:10

point , we've learned a couple things , just a few , yeah

4:12

, and we're going to ask the question

4:15

who's changing

4:17

first ?

4:18

We'll find out .

4:21

And when we get in some empowerment conversation

4:23

to finish off the day , I

4:25

want to talk about the question most

4:28

of us say all day long to somebody

4:30

how are you doing ? But

4:33

do we really care when we ask that

4:35

question ?

4:36

Great lineup .

4:37

Yes , all righty , so let's

4:39

get into it . So

4:42

when we're talking about Remember

4:45

the questions , Make

4:48

sure to ask your questions , oh yes , I want to let everyone

4:51

know .

4:51

I'm here to kind of yeah Well , we're here as a team , yeah , we are a team Totally . I want to

4:53

let everyone know . I'm here to kind of yeah , well , we're here as a team .

4:54

Yeah , we are a team , totally a team , I want to let everyone know in

4:56

the chat , wherever you're watching this , you can put

4:58

in your questions comments and

5:01

our producer general will bring them up . As they

5:03

come up , we'll tackle them as we can

5:05

. Hopefully they're

5:07

pertinent to the show and , again , we

5:10

won't be able to get to everything , but we'll try to

5:12

do our best to get to the ones that

5:14

we can . Okay , so

5:16

today , talking about depression

5:19

and your gut , you

5:21

know , normally when we think about mental

5:23

health we're thinking about

5:26

the brain and what's going on in the brain

5:28

. But what we need to consider

5:31

is when we've got problems

5:34

with depression and other mental

5:36

disorders going on , we

5:39

need to be looking at the gut , because

5:42

there could possibly be , and

5:44

most likely be , something

5:46

going on in our gut health that's

5:48

actually throwing off our brain health

5:50

, and this is so important because , again

5:53

, going back to conventional medicine , we

5:55

don't really talk about that . It's

5:58

not really , are you ?

5:59

kidding . In my neck of the woods , a

6:02

doctor talking about how's your

6:04

gut health ?

6:05

in conventional medicine .

6:07

Sorry , I'm there right now . I've got my one

6:09

foot there and then one foot in the

6:11

other model , the

6:14

integrative functional medicine model

6:16

, and no , we don't talk about that .

6:19

Yeah , because health issues

6:22

of the body can manifest themselves

6:24

in brain health problems

6:26

. In today's world

6:28

we've got an epidemic

6:31

of I

6:33

didn't say pandemic , but we've got an epidemic

6:36

of what's called neuro inflammation

6:38

. We have a societal

6:40

problem of brain inflammation

6:43

.

6:43

Now we've heard about inflammation throughout the body

6:46

, but we've got a societal problem

6:48

of brain inflammation , inflamed

6:51

brains and I like to say

6:53

, with the word inflammation , I like people

6:55

to know just think , replace it with

6:57

fire , fire your brains on

6:59

fire .

7:00

Brains are on fire and , as you can imagine , that's

7:03

not good . So there's an old saying

7:05

a way to a man's heart

7:07

or a woman's heart is through their stomach

7:09

. But actually , uh

7:12

, what we need to understand is that food

7:14

that enters into our stomach is

7:16

a way to the brain , so

7:18

that food entering the stomach can

7:21

cause problems to the brain . So

7:23

that's what we're going to be looking about today . Now

7:25

I've got an amazing statement here

7:27

. Well , I didn't make it , but I just want to

7:30

bring this up , because Hippocrates

7:33

, known as the father of medicine

7:35

, once said now this I've

7:37

got to read this quote Hippocrates

7:40

once said bad digestion

7:42

is the root of all evil

7:44

and that death sits

7:47

in the bowels . Well

7:50

, you know what ? Did he say that

7:52

50 years ago , 100

7:55

years ago ? No , he

7:58

said that over 2,000

8:00

years ago , in his lifetime . Over

8:03

2,000 years ago , hippocrates

8:05

the father of medicine was

8:10

already stating that bad digestion is the root of all evil and death lies in the bowels . So

8:13

this is not like A smart doctor , but

8:17

he said that that long ago , thousands of years

8:19

ago . So it's not like this is

8:21

not known . This is not like . This

8:23

is new . Oh my gosh , we just discovered

8:25

about this . This is actually

8:27

widely known in the medical

8:29

field , except it's

8:32

not used . It's not practically

8:34

used in today's

8:37

conventional medicine . That's right .

8:39

There's plenty of research articles

8:41

out there . The science is there , but

8:44

we're not talking about it in conventional

8:46

medicine . So that's why we're bringing it up

8:48

here yeah . Because we're talking about the stuff

8:50

that really helps with the other model of

8:52

the body allowing itself to heal .

8:54

Yeah , and I

8:57

just want to let everybody know we're probably going to end

8:59

up having this topic be a two-parter

9:01

. I'm not sure if we'll be able to cover everything today

9:04

, because we want to give you some great steps

9:06

positively moving forward

9:08

, but today I really

9:11

want to get us to understand

9:14

that , if there's some

9:16

mental disorders going

9:18

on , that what

9:20

we need to look at is what could be going

9:22

on in our gut health and what's going

9:25

on in our nutrition panel and

9:27

some of the other areas that could

9:29

be affecting that . It's not just about what's

9:31

going on up here Now

9:33

. There's two pathways

9:35

that our gut and the brain

9:37

talk . Our gut and brain talk

9:39

constantly , 24-7 , and

9:41

we'll be talking about that . That's amazing once

9:44

you start to understand that One is

9:46

through the bloodstream and the other is through

9:48

the vagus nerve .

9:50

Ah , the vagus nerve , the vagus

9:52

nerve .

9:53

Now , today we're going to concentrate

9:55

on the vagus nerve , which is one

9:57

of the main pathways of the gut

10:00

, and the brain are constantly talking

10:02

. Do we have a gut-brain

10:05

bromance going on ? Is

10:08

there something happening ? Is there maybe

10:10

a picture or a video that might even give

10:12

us an idea of what we could be ? There we go

10:14

? Maybe a picture or a video that might even give us an idea of what we

10:16

could be ? There we go . So the vagus nerve runs

10:19

from the stem of the brain

10:21

.

10:21

Can we just see that one more time ? Can we just see that one more time

10:23

?

10:23

Thank you .

10:25

Okay , so you see those nerve fibers

10:28

going down the arm and then down

10:30

the back .

10:32

Yeah , the spine . The spine , yeah , yeah

10:34

yeah , Well

10:37

, the vagus nerve goes

10:39

down the brainstem and travels

10:42

all the way through the central nervous

10:44

system to the gut . Now understand

10:46

, when we say the gut , what we actually

10:49

mean is what's called the GI

10:51

tract , the gastrointestinal tract

10:53

, and that includes the stomach

10:55

, the intestines and the colon . So when you

10:57

say gut , it's kind of a generic

10:59

term but , just to understand , that means

11:01

your stomach , your intestines

11:04

and your colon . That's

11:06

what actually is your gut . So

11:09

now , one of the main things

11:12

that that vagus nerve does because the

11:14

vagus nerve , because

11:16

it's connected right directly

11:18

down to the gut

11:20

, one of the main things it does

11:23

all day is talk . Those

11:26

two systems talk 24-7

11:29

, every day , every second

11:31

, every moment . Your gut

11:34

and brain are connected and we'll get

11:36

into the depth of that . But when you

11:38

start to understand that that all

11:40

day long they're interconnected and

11:43

what's going on up here is

11:45

affecting what's going on down here , and

11:47

what's going on down here is

11:49

affecting what's going on up here

11:51

.

11:53

Let them just chew that up a little bit

11:55

for a second . So what's happening

11:57

here is

12:00

being felt in the stomach and the gut , and

12:02

what's happening in the gut is being felt

12:05

and affecting the brain . So

12:07

it's a highway back and forth . I

12:10

don't know about you , but there's not a lot of doctors

12:12

talking about that in the office . So

12:15

this stuff is really yeah

12:17

. I mean , nobody's talking about gut health for

12:19

depression , treating the gut

12:21

for depression .

12:23

Well , some are I mean a lot are In the functional

12:25

world .

12:25

Yeah , integrative medicine yeah .

12:27

Yeah , and understand the majority

12:30

of our immune cells

12:32

.

12:32

The majority of our immune system

12:34

is in the gut 60%

12:37

, Just so you know 60%

12:39

of the immune system is in your gut , and your immune

12:42

system is your army

12:44

. It helps you fight infection . So

12:47

are we giving the

12:49

soldiers good food to be able

12:51

to fight , or are we giving the soldiers bad

12:53

food so they're on their backs and

12:57

they can't fight ?

12:57

Yeah , and those immune

12:59

cells that live in the gut are

13:02

just below the gut lining and

13:04

they talk back and forth to the brain

13:06

to say , hey , here's what's going on , here's what's

13:08

happening . And just understanding

13:10

that we actually have more nerves

13:14

in our gut system

13:16

than we have in any part of the body . We

13:18

always think that there's more kind of nerves

13:20

and cells and neurons going up here in the brain

13:23

, yeah . But there's actually more going

13:25

in on our gut , and again our gut

13:27

, meaning our stomach , our intestines and our colon

13:30

. There's more immune

13:32

so the more cells down

13:34

there talking than anywhere in our body

13:36

. More than in the brain , in the brain and

13:39

so that's why a lot of times we hear you know it's

13:41

not an actual technical thing , but you know

13:43

, you hear the saying well , the gut's the second brain

13:45

. Because , yes , because of all the

13:48

talking that's going on between these

13:50

two areas . Now , when that vagus

13:53

nerve from the stem

13:55

here of the brain , brainstem

13:57

, brainstem , goes to the gut

13:59

, what it does is it fingers

14:02

out once it reaches the gut and

14:04

it actually surrounds

14:06

the gut , the stomach and

14:08

all the walls of that , almost

14:10

like a knitted sweater . You

14:12

know , if you can imagine a sweater that you know

14:14

somebody's knitted and you wear and it's all

14:17

kind of nice , well , it doesn't

14:19

. It's not just some kind of rod that goes

14:21

down . Yes , it starts that way , but then it goes

14:23

. It's knitted all around

14:26

that gut system With nerve

14:28

fibers . With nerve fibers that interact

14:30

, yeah , that talk to each other , that

14:38

talk to each other , yeah . So there's examples of this , and this is , you know , we don't

14:40

really think about it , but here's an example , just

14:42

a very , very simple example , of how

14:44

the gut and the brain talk . If

14:47

you have a headache , the

14:49

normal thing to do not the normal

14:52

, but the usual thing to do is take some aspirin

14:54

. And when

14:57

you take the aspirin for a headache

14:59

, we don't put

15:02

it in our ears , we

15:04

don't try to put it inside our head

15:06

or up our nose or you know

15:08

, I don't know , maybe somebody , no , I

15:10

don't think so , ben . But with the aspirin

15:13

, what do we do ? We swallow it , it

15:16

goes down into our gut and

15:19

the aspirin does what it does

15:21

in our intestinal system and

15:24

then talks through

15:27

the nervous system to

15:29

our brain to alleviate

15:31

the headache . So

15:34

when you break it down and realize what's going on

15:36

here , it's like oh wait , that

15:38

makes sense . And the bloodstream , and the bloodstream

15:41

through the bloodstream , and the nervous system Up

15:43

to the brain .

15:43

yeah .

15:43

And it goes up to the brain . So

15:46

when you really start to realize this , oh

15:48

yeah , okay . So these things

15:50

are connected , they are talking to each other .

15:53

Yeah , the neck does have a function

15:55

.

15:55

It connects the brain to the body

15:58

so

16:00

a couple little things here , that means

16:02

, you know , they're just a couple medical

16:04

. But you know this is understanding , like

16:06

all about this , because the big

16:08

point here is to get to start to understand

16:11

that you know what's going

16:13

on up here , my moods

16:15

and how I feel , and maybe I have anxiety

16:18

, overwhelmed depression . There's , you

16:20

know , things like ADHD and ADD

16:22

with kids and autism and this , and that

16:25

we need to be looking

16:27

at other areas . We need to be looking at the

16:29

gut health of what's going on

16:31

. Okay , so your

16:33

central nervous system produces

16:36

chemicals like dopamine

16:39

, serotonin

16:41

and acetylcholine

16:43

. That's right Right .

16:44

And I just wanted to say that 80%

16:47

of your happy hormones , which

16:49

is the serotonin , the dopamine , are

16:52

created in your gut . Yeah

16:54

, your happy hormones are

16:56

created in your gut , 80%

17:00

. If your gut's not in good form , guess

17:02

what ? It's not going to get created . And

17:05

if your happy hormones aren't created , well

17:07

then your brain's going to be affected

17:09

and you're going to be showing signs of anxiety

17:13

, depression mood disorders

17:16

headaches all kinds of different things

17:18

problems sleeping with memory .

17:20

I mean those hormones

17:23

that we just mentioned , and chemical

17:25

, natural chemicals regulate

17:28

our mood , regulate our thoughts , regulate

17:30

our emotions and how we're feeling

17:32

. I mean you know , so understanding

17:34

that those got to be in good order

17:36

. Now depression

17:39

has been associated with and

17:41

you would know this and working in this area

17:43

, so much with low levels of

17:46

serotonin . Now

17:49

, normally there's some drugs

17:51

that say , okay , we need to boost the serotonin

17:53

levels , but the

17:55

problem is there's

17:58

side effects . The problem , though , is

18:00

okay , we're boosting serotonin levels , but

18:02

maybe there's a gut health issue

18:04

which is limiting and

18:06

causing the serotonin levels to not

18:09

be produced properly naturally

18:11

, as they should be . So we're throwing

18:13

something in there to help

18:15

, but we haven't taken care of the

18:18

good start . Hey , ac from sunny California

18:20

, good to see you .

18:22

Yeah . So , like what Michael's saying is , we're

18:24

not taking care of the root problem . You

18:26

know the

18:33

root problem is the gut health . We can . One model the conventional medical model knows

18:35

how to just give you the pill , but then the health model the natural health model knows how to

18:37

just give you the pill . But

18:48

then the health model , the natural health model your body healing is okay . Why don't we

18:50

repair our gut so that we have continuous , long-term sustainable serotonin production . Which

18:52

one sounds more productive ?

18:54

Which one sounds more productive , to have

18:56

that quality of life till the end

18:58

, because we know the other

19:00

one can help

19:02

.

19:03

Yeah .

19:03

But it's not giving us that quality

19:06

of life . Again , going back to the last 20%

19:08

of life , we know people aren't having a good

19:10

quality of life .

19:11

Right and

19:20

I just wanted to interject . You know , if you're on medication to increase

19:22

your serotonin levels , if you're on an antidepressant , hey look , I was there . I know

19:24

that space , but I want to give you hope that you can actually learn

19:26

how to repair your gut and

19:30

slowly , once that's repaired

19:32

, you can slowly get titrated off

19:35

with the help of your doctor . So I don't

19:37

want you to feel ashamed

19:39

, because that's not what we're about

19:41

, because I've been there . I want you to understand

19:44

that if you are taking an

19:46

antidepressant , hey , you know some

19:48

people need it and it will help you . But

19:50

do you really want to be on it long term or do you

19:52

want to get to the root cause ? You

19:55

, but do you really want to be on it long term or do you want to get to the root

19:58

cause ? Well , we encourage you to get to the root cause and let your body

20:00

heal because it wants to heal . Yeah , yeah , it

20:02

really really wants to heal it wants to do

20:04

that , naturally yeah , yeah we're

20:06

just .

20:06

It's how we help the body

20:08

not heal naturally or we

20:11

hinder that natural process

20:13

. Let's

20:15

briefly talk about gut microbiome

20:17

. We've heard this word , but gut microbiome

20:20

and that's about the bacteria in

20:22

the gut system . We've got around a thousand

20:24

types of bacteria in the gut system

20:26

. We think of bacteria like oh

20:28

my gosh , that's horrible bacteria . No , it's

20:30

good . We have natural gut bacteria

20:32

. Some are good , some are bad , but

20:35

we have a natural balance

20:37

of the good and the bad bacteria

20:39

. Our body has a system of keeping that in

20:41

balance , keeping that in check . Factors

20:57

will get into nutrition and stress . Those are two of the

20:59

main ones . And shall I say , toxins too is when they get out of balance

21:01

. When that gut microbiome gets out of balance and

21:04

through our lifestyle factors we

21:07

can throw that out of whack very

21:10

easily where , all of a sudden , the

21:12

bad bacteria is starting to run the show

21:14

over the good bacteria , and

21:16

when we had changes in our gut

21:19

microbiome in a

21:21

negative way , shall I say , where

21:23

the bad bacteria are growing

21:25

and multiplying and taking over the good

21:28

bacteria , then

21:30

we can start to see changes in the

21:32

brain Because , again , going back to

21:34

the two talking 24-7 , things

21:37

that are going on in the gut can start

21:39

to change things in the brain , and that's when we can

21:41

start to see things like the depression

21:43

. We can start to see mood disorders

21:45

. We can start to see other

21:48

things like cognitive decline . Alzheimer's

21:51

insomnia , Parkinson

21:53

uh , parkinson's disease a

21:55

lot anxiety , those brain

21:57

health issues , because

22:00

if we've got a microbiome

22:03

imbalance going on in our

22:05

gut , then

22:07

the toxicity issues

22:09

are actually talking to the brain and starting

22:11

to throw the brain off . Because

22:14

I do want to say there's

22:17

kind of a bottom line here is that

22:19

toxic gut bacteria

22:22

can actually poison

22:25

our brain . So

22:27

when we get that out of balance and have

22:29

a toxic gut or I might say

22:31

just poor gut health , then

22:34

we can actually start to poison our brain

22:36

through our gut system

22:38

. Now I'm going to

22:40

have our beautiful Dr Isabel get

22:42

into explaining a very

22:45

natural thing that

22:47

should be happening to

22:49

alleviate toxins in

22:52

our gut system , in our digestion

22:54

system . However

22:56

, sitting in front of over

22:58

half a million people , I

23:00

have heard from you and I know that

23:03

there's so many- people , half

23:05

a million people that I've seen one-on-one

23:07

, face-to-face , yeah , over the 30 plus

23:09

years as a doctor . Not all at one time

23:11

I know . But over half a million

23:13

people face face , one-on-one yeah

23:15

, is that there

23:18

is a problem out there for people alleviating

23:21

toxicity out of their digestive

23:23

system and that is

23:25

through . We've got a couple natural ways

23:27

. We've got sweat , we've

23:29

got peeing urination

23:31

urination , you know ? oh , yeah , well you

23:33

keep it technical body you

23:36

know I'm going with the uh , yeah

23:38

, the non-technical , and

23:40

you could say bowel movements . I'm going with poop , yeah

23:42

, pooping . So for

23:45

a couple minutes we're going to get into a pooping

23:47

class , because this is so important we

23:50

need to be alleviating those toxins in our

23:52

body .

23:52

That's right so take it away .

23:57

Give us a poop class .

23:58

The topic of this conversation

24:00

is how's your poop ? I

24:06

never really understood this

24:08

until I experienced the

24:10

importance of having good poop the importance of having good

24:12

poop . So the study shows

24:15

that you want to be having 30

24:20

centimeters , which is

24:22

about what is that , babe ?

24:26

About two feet , probably a foot and a half .

24:29

A foot and a half you want to be pooping this

24:31

every day , not all at one time

24:33

, but this every day , and

24:35

it can be this twice

24:38

a day . Okay , so

24:41

are you doing that and

24:43

is your poop the

24:47

size of like a hot

24:49

dog ? Is it the and you

24:52

can do by doing your index finger and your

24:54

thumb ? Is it round like that

24:56

, or does it look like rabbit poops

24:58

? Okay , rabbit poops is

25:00

constipation .

25:02

You want to , so I just like little pebbles

25:04

or little stones yeah , little pellets

25:06

, yeah that means hydration , right

25:09

right , or dehydration , or

25:11

dehydration . Dehydration , yeah , you're not hydrated , right exactly

25:13

.

25:13

So the key is you want to be pooping this

25:16

much one and

25:20

a half feet every day , or

25:22

30 centimeters and you want the

25:24

size of your poop to be from your index

25:26

finger to your thumb

25:28

. Now , a lot of people may say but , I , don't look

25:31

. Well , start looking . Looking because it's very

25:33

important . The reason you want to start looking is

25:35

because if imagine

25:37

a toilet system that backs up

25:39

with poop , then

25:42

it gets up all over your I'm

25:45

being dramatical , of course it gets

25:47

up all over the floor

25:49

and it's a mess to clean up . Well

25:51

, that's what happens in your system . If

25:53

you aren't pooping what we

25:55

just talked about then all those toxins

25:58

because poop is toxins , that's your

26:00

body's way of getting rid of toxins If

26:02

you aren't pooping correctly , then all that poop

26:04

gets matted onto the

26:07

inside lining of your colon

26:09

and you get sick the

26:14

inside lining of your colon and you get sick because your body absorbs the toxins back into the

26:16

bloodstream , circulates into your brain and you get sick . A lot

26:18

of people with headaches is because they're constipated

26:20

. So it's very important

26:22

to take a look after

26:25

your poop and see what it's

26:27

looking like .

26:28

Because that's medicine .

26:30

That's your body , your

26:32

body that wants to heal , telling

26:34

you , hmm , I'm not doing too good

26:36

.

26:36

I'm backed up , my pipes are backed up .

26:38

Yeah .

26:39

And that also can lead toward cancers

26:41

too . Yes , exactly when

26:43

you aren't alleviating that

26:45

toxicity , natural , it's

26:47

staying in your body systems and circulating

26:50

around and

26:52

, with what we're talking about today

26:54

, you're now creating

26:57

bad bacteria in

26:59

your digestive system and in your gut

27:01

health , which , again , your

27:04

nervous system is

27:06

going to pick up on , your bloodstream is going to pick

27:08

up on and your brain's

27:10

going to pick up on , so that becomes

27:13

, you know , such a toxic

27:15

it's an important topic to talk about

27:17

. Nobody likes talking about it , but we got to talk about

27:19

yeah , okay yeah , and I'm amazed how

27:21

many times you've been in front of people and

27:23

you know you had something to say where somebody

27:26

said oh yeah , I just poop every couple few days

27:28

. Oh , I'm like whoa , how are

27:30

they ? Where's the food going ? Yeah

27:32

are you cleaning ? I mean what's going on

27:34

there , because that's what's getting backed up ? yeah

27:37

, there's a backup there , so

27:39

if it's happening

27:41

, you got to really be looking at that , and that's a whole

27:43

other discussion yeah , how do you clean

27:45

all that up ?

27:47

welcome back you healthy brain enthusiasts

27:49

to the md and chef team show . We're going to continue on our discussion about your gut and depression . Welcome back you healthy brain enthusiasts to the MD

27:52

and Chef Team Show . We're going to continue on our discussion

27:54

about your gut and depression

27:56

and the connection and

27:58

hopefully you came back after Dr Isabel's

28:01

poop discussion , because yeah

28:04

, I mean it's . You got to poop every

28:06

day .

28:06

It is so , so important . It's one of those

28:09

topics you just don't hear anybody . Well

28:11

, I won't say anybody , but most people just don't talk

28:13

about it . You don't hear much in the medical field .

28:16

Are there any questions ? When we came

28:18

back ?

28:18

But it is so , so important that

28:21

it's one of those topics we need to talk about

28:23

.

28:23

Right , I didn't mean to cut you off .

28:25

I remembered we wanted to see if there were any questions

28:27

. Nope , not this time . We See if there were any questions . No , not this time . We're talking

28:29

about the gut microbiome . Okay , so

28:32

we've been talking about the gut to the brain . Now let's

28:34

talk about the other way around , because

28:43

it's been proven that two hours of psychological stress will throw off our

28:45

gut microbiome balance

28:47

. So two hours of psychological

28:49

stress .

28:50

Who doesn't experience that ?

28:53

balance . So two hours of psychological stress

28:55

. Who doesn't experience that , where you're in a situation for two hours where

28:57

it is just massively stressful ? Now I'm not talking

28:59

about you know , hey , I'm moving and I'm stressed

29:01

because of the move . I'm talking about

29:03

something in life that's happening where

29:05

I mean it could be

29:08

a job situation , a career situation

29:10

, a relationship situation , you

29:14

know people , just something in life where

29:16

psychologically you are just

29:18

in your mind , you're just stressed

29:21

and you're kind of anxious

29:24

and wired from it . That

29:26

actually has been proven to throw

29:28

off your gut microbiome

29:31

and start to ignite the bad

29:34

bacteria in your gut system . Now

29:37

, if that happens every once

29:39

in a while okay , it's not , you know

29:41

your body will naturally bring

29:43

it back in .

29:44

Right right .

29:45

But if you're in situations

29:48

where , like every day , you're

29:50

in a couple hours of psychological

29:53

stress , your

29:56

gut , talking to your

29:58

brain , talking to your gut , is actually

30:01

starting to throw off your microbiome

30:04

balance and there could

30:06

be some problems there . Now it's actually

30:08

your brain starting to throw off the

30:10

gut because of what's happening

30:12

down there and compromise . And

30:14

what happens is when you start to

30:16

throw off that gut

30:19

bacteria , you start to

30:21

compromise how your body

30:23

is absorbing nutrients

30:26

because with the good and the bad gut bacteria

30:28

again , it's normally imbalanced . Your body , you

30:30

know it breaks down the nutrients that

30:32

we eat and it's done properly

30:34

. So the good goes up into our

30:37

system and up into ourselves and the bad

30:39

is passed through , you know , by

30:41

urination

30:43

and pooping and sweating , like we talked about

30:45

. Toxicity is going out

30:47

, pee urinating , toxicity is going

30:50

out .

30:50

Pee urinating .

30:52

Toxicity is going out and naturally happens

30:54

. But

31:03

when we're psychologically stressed and throwing that off in our systems , then our

31:05

gut bacteria kind of starts to lose how it's supposed to be

31:07

doing things properly .

31:09

And that's because of the vagus nerve . Yeah

31:11

, because the vagus nerve's speaking down .

31:13

Yeah , yeah , through all the gut , through all the

31:15

nerve endings and that and throwing things

31:17

off . Now here's an example Lactobacillus

31:22

, which is a good

31:24

gut bacteria good bacteria normally

31:27

breaks down sugars and prevents

31:29

harmful bacteria from lining

31:31

the intestines and protects

31:34

against fungal infections . And

31:37

I'm going to ask you in a moment to kind of elaborate

31:39

a little bit on those fungal infections , because there

31:41

are a lot of things that could be happening there with

31:43

that

31:46

in the brain and

31:48

through the vagus nerve is talking down

31:50

into the gut , the

31:53

lactobacillus bacteria

31:55

fails at its purpose

31:58

of breaking down sugars and

32:00

preventing harmful bacteria and

32:02

when that happens and it happens too

32:04

often we're starting

32:06

to allow creation of

32:08

fungal infections

32:11

and throwing off the different things that

32:13

could be going on in our intestines . Now

32:16

, when I talk about fungal infections

32:18

of the gut , what are some things

32:20

that that brings to mind to you ?

32:21

So , fungal just means yeast infection

32:24

, candida , and

32:26

you start experiencing signs of candida

32:28

. Your bum is a little itchy . Or

32:31

if you're a woman , you'll

32:34

get vaginal itching . That's

32:37

because our

32:39

body has this bacteria all

32:41

over it , not just inside

32:43

your gut , but it's got bacteria outside the

32:46

lactobacillus and it keeps everybody

32:48

under control . It keeps the candida

32:50

, the fungus , under control and

32:52

everything else . It's kind of like the

32:54

watchdog . But when you're feeding

32:56

it bad food like sugar which

32:59

just , by the way , is as bad as smoking

33:01

cigarettes , it will

33:04

then the sugar kind of knocks out

33:06

the back . It actually the sugar

33:08

increases the fungal infection

33:10

because it fits food for

33:13

the fungus . So if you've

33:15

got a yeast infection , like a

33:17

woman with a vaginal candidiasis

33:20

or thrush , she'll need

33:22

to have a cream to

33:25

help overcome that . Or

33:27

the inside of your mouth is white

33:29

, that's because the lactobacillus

33:32

is no longer there and the candida

33:35

, the fungal infection , is taken over

33:37

and uh and , but

33:39

there's treatment . But the key is it

33:41

could be better if you learn how to balance

33:43

and eat correctly . You see , like our

33:46

, our , our gut actually

33:48

starts in our mouth and ends

33:50

up , aren't

33:53

? Digestive system actually starts in

33:55

our mouth and ends out through

33:58

our bum , and so what we

34:00

put in our mouth begins breaking

34:02

down and then it gets digested into

34:04

the stomach . So that's just , it's

34:06

a continuum . It's not just

34:08

like the gut , it's

34:10

the whole . It's not just like the gut , it's the , it's the whole .

34:12

It's the whole tube and

34:14

what's interesting with what you said there is

34:17

, with that fungal infection , things

34:19

like candida and that with

34:21

what we've just talked about here recently

34:24

is we also look at , well , what's going

34:26

on in our brain health . Is this

34:28

person under a lot of stress

34:30

psychologically ? Is there

34:32

something going on

34:34

in their lives from a stressor

34:37

point of view that's actually

34:39

throwing off what's going on

34:41

in the gut ? So it's actually looking at both

34:43

ends of the brain

34:45

, the gut , the whole bromance of these

34:48

two working together , where this

34:50

isn't a whole separate thing , where , oh

34:52

, you've got something here , so we're just going to look

34:54

at that now . It's all interconnected

34:57

. So we have to be looking at all these different areas

34:59

, wondering which way they could

35:01

go right now I was

35:04

. I was wondering

35:06

there's a question . Is there jenna ? Do

35:08

we have a question ? Or maybe

35:11

there is , maybe there isn't . Oh , there we go

35:13

, Ah

35:15

. Ac Sports Live has a question

35:17

.

35:17

Like a colonoscopy flush .

35:19

How often should we cleanse

35:21

our guts like a colonoscopy flush

35:24

?

35:24

Yeah , colonoscopy is

35:26

the tube that when you go see the , you

35:29

go to the gastroenterologist and a colonoscopy

35:31

is . They put a tube up and then they

35:34

um I think what

35:36

you know they check for colon cancer . I think

35:38

what , uh , what

35:40

um AC is talking about is

35:42

, uh , uh

35:45

, colon enema . It's an enema where a

35:47

tube goes in . I don't recommend

35:50

those at all because what's

35:52

happening is you're getting water

35:54

pushed into your large intestine

35:57

and then sometimes the poop

35:59

from the large intestine gets pushed

36:01

up into your small intestine

36:03

. There's a valve right there and

36:05

so you can get overgrowth of

36:08

bacteria from the large intestine

36:10

inside the small intestine because

36:12

of the enema , which is

36:15

not a good idea . Okay , I know it's big

36:17

around the world , but this

36:20

is the key you can actually clean

36:22

out your gut every single day

36:24

. It's very , very simple . In

36:27

a nutshell , you can be doing it by eating your

36:29

greens , drinking your water

36:31

. You can take vitamin

36:34

C . Vitamin C will help you clear out

36:36

. You can take magnesium citrate

36:38

. That'll

36:40

help clear you out . You can eat prunes

36:42

every day , three or four prunes

36:45

at dinnertime . That'll make sure that you're

36:47

cleaning everything out , okay . So

36:49

I hope that answers your question .

36:51

AC . Yeah , and it's got so much to do with

36:53

fiber . In today's world , we know that

36:55

we're not getting enough fiber . Right

36:57

, you know ? I'm not saying we aren't because

36:59

we're really work on that . It

37:02

shows , excuse me , research shows that

37:04

most people aren't getting enough fiber and

37:06

that's because they're eating foods that have no

37:08

fiber . They're

37:12

having sugars and starches and frankenfoods , which we'll

37:14

talk about in a moment . But if you are getting a eating

37:17

daily where you're eating live

37:19

foods , where we're talking vegetables

37:23

and greens , types of salad

37:26

greens , lettuce greens and

37:28

and fruits and , like isabel said

37:30

, maybe just a one or two prunes

37:32

or a couple prunes a day , or three or four , or

37:35

three or four or four or five , whatever

37:37

you need . Depending if you need it . But

37:39

if you're eating those live

37:41

foods which have natural fibers

37:43

and your daily intake should

37:45

be a minimum of 60%

37:48

to 70% of those live

37:50

foods then you're

37:52

going to have enough fiber . You're going to cleanse and if you

37:54

stay hydrated , properly hydrated

37:57

, your body is constantly cleansing

37:59

through the sweating , through the urination , through

38:01

the pooping . It's set up to do that . So

38:04

if there's a problem where we're having to look

38:06

at what AC is talking about

38:08

, then , yes , you might have gotten to

38:10

a point where you need that just

38:13

for a fix and a reboot

38:15

. But when you reboot you don't

38:17

want to go back into that again where

38:19

you need to reboot again because during that

38:21

time everything's kind of toxic

38:24

. So it's looking at your daily

38:26

habits of what you're putting through . Is

38:28

that flushing your system and keeping

38:31

you clean ?

38:32

Well said , babe .

38:33

Hey , so just to recap

38:35

, just looking at the time , I want to recap a little

38:37

bit on what we're talking about today .

38:39

Time babe , it just goes so fast .

38:42

Your gut and brain have a bromance

38:44

. If we could have that video please , jen , I'd

38:46

appreciate that your gut and your

38:49

brain have a bromance , that

38:55

your gut and your brain have a bromance . They are speaking 24-7 , every day

38:57

, through your bloodstream and the vagus nerve , understanding it as a

38:59

two-way street . What's going

39:02

on in the brain is affecting your microbiome

39:04

and the gut , and your gut health

39:06

is affecting your brain

39:08

health . So , understanding that

39:11

if you personally maybe

39:13

have some things going on with mental

39:16

health as far as mood disorders

39:19

, anxiety , depression , overwhelm

39:22

, things like ADD and ADHD

39:24

and those types of things , we

39:28

need to be looking at our gut health .

39:30

And how can they do that , beth ? How

39:33

can they start taking good care Before we

39:35

end right now ? What three things

39:37

can they do to start working on

39:39

their gut health ?

39:39

Okay , as we just talked about with

39:41

answering AC's questions , we

39:44

need to be cleansing out our system and

39:47

we need to feed the good bacteria

39:49

. So three things . Number one

39:51

is proper hydration . Make sure

39:53

your hydration is coming from

39:55

water . Yep , hydration

39:59

. Make sure your hydration is coming from water . Yep , a couple cups of coffees

40:01

a day is fine , but not from sugary drinks , which feed the bad bacteria . Right , okay

40:04

, all those different ones that are out there because the coffee

40:06

does kind of get things

40:08

a couple cups of coffee is okay . I mean we can't go

40:10

over the top with it .

40:11

But you know we don't want one , six to eight

40:13

, some people just need one . Yeah , one or two , but

40:15

you know a ?

40:16

couple , uh , or whether it's a green

40:18

tea , which is fantastic , but I'm just saying your

40:21

hydration needs to be good

40:23

so that you've got your urination going

40:25

to clean you out . Number two is getting

40:27

good fiber into yourself , and

40:29

that comes through eating your vegetables

40:32

, eating a rainbow of vegetables

40:34

, an an array of vegetables , eating

40:37

your salad greens and your lettuces

40:39

multiple types of lettuces and

40:43

having those types of things flushing

40:45

you through . Don't be too high

40:47

on having too

40:50

much , let's say , too much red

40:52

meat , as the westernized

40:55

diet is . You got a big plate of meat

40:57

. We

41:00

love meat , love it , but it's not to be like . Your plate is a

41:02

big amount of meat , big

41:05

piece of meat , a potato

41:07

and all . There's one spear of broccoli

41:09

. You're not , don't do that , you're not

41:11

getting enough fiber to flush your

41:13

system through .

41:15

And I just want to say before you go into your third

41:17

recap , like what people can do

41:19

is fiber , think of it is

41:21

like a scrub brush . You know it's

41:23

like a scrub brush on the inside lining

41:25

of your colon and it kind

41:27

of cleans things out every

41:30

single day . So you should be eating that

41:32

all throughout out the day , as good

41:34

you get that with your vegetables

41:36

and fruits and yummy

41:38

stuff and third and third

41:40

is understanding that the brain affects

41:42

the gut .

41:43

If you've got some things going on that

41:45

are causing you a lot of stress

41:48

and psychological disorder

41:50

, have a look at that , start

41:52

to think about , okay , what's throwing me

41:54

off here , what's throwing me off that could

41:57

be affecting my gut

41:59

health Because , again , it goes both ways

42:01

and then maybe work on

42:03

something where , okay , I need to reach

42:05

out . Maybe I need to work on some meditation

42:08

type techniques . I

42:10

might be adding some different things

42:12

into my life that can lower my

42:14

stressors , and that could be many different things

42:16

. But we'll talk about those

42:19

, those few things you could do , but just understand

42:21

that there's a bromance going on

42:23

between your gut and your brain

42:25

, and if there's something going on either way

42:27

, we need to look at the full system

42:29

because you could be

42:31

depressed , because your gut health is not

42:34

well .

42:35

Yes , who knew ? Huh .

42:37

Who knew ?

42:38

I sure didn't learn that in medical training . But

42:41

now you know , but now you know

42:43

.

42:44

So now we can and I think I'm just you know I'm

42:46

in part two next week because I want

42:48

to continue this on on the gut , health and the brain

42:50

and that we'll get into more of what

42:52

not to do and what

42:55

we should do . I

42:58

know we gave it a quick recap , but next week I want to get into more what not to do and what

43:00

we should do and a good path

43:02

forward to making sure that that gut

43:04

brain bromance , that whole highway

43:08

is working well , optimally for

43:10

our future .

43:11

Because it's your best friend , your stomach , your

43:14

gut health is your best friend , your stomach

43:17

your gut .

43:17

Health is your best friend . Yes , controls

43:19

a lot , okay , hey . So today let's

43:21

get into frankenfood . May

43:23

I have the video for frankenfood

43:26

, please ? Today , let's get into this

43:28

week's frankenfood ingredient

43:31

. Now

43:34

you might wonder , well , what the heck is

43:36

frankenfood ? Well , frankenfood is like Frankenstein

43:39

it's foods that are supposedly foods

43:41

that are created in

43:43

a plant

43:45

, a laboratory , a laboratory . We

43:49

want to be looking at food that comes

43:51

from a plant and

43:53

not made in a plant

43:55

.

43:55

That's right .

43:56

All right and not made in a plant , that's

43:58

right , all right . So , and this is so , so important , because what we need to understand

44:00

is the regulations on this type

44:02

of stuff , and that the food

44:04

companies put into food is so

44:07

lax , it's very , very minimal . Yeah

44:10

, there's a few regulations , but there's not many

44:12

, and it even depends on what country of the world

44:14

. Some countries have regulations for

44:16

this and others have it for that . I

44:18

mean , you could go to one country , to another

44:20

and you might have a good food in this country

44:22

and a bad food in that country , but we need to

44:24

learn to read the labels , because it's up to

44:26

us . Right now , the regulations

44:29

are about as good as when it

44:32

was in the 1950s

44:34

or so with cigarettes , when there was no

44:36

regulations . We're in that type

44:38

of area now with

44:40

food , where

44:43

we have to be our

44:46

own sheriff , shall I say . We have to be

44:48

armed to understand

44:50

. Well , wait a second . I just read that

44:52

this is in here , but what is

44:54

it ? And so that's

44:56

what this part is all about . So today

44:58

, which ?

44:58

I love , because the food industry

45:01

will trick you . You know

45:03

, yeah , but you're smarter than that . The food

45:05

industry will put on the , on the label healthy

45:08

, low fat , blah

45:10

blah blah or get it

45:12

, but the point is you natural ? You

45:14

got to be the investigator and that's want

45:17

to just , yeah , arm you up , yeah , yeah

45:19

. So what ?

45:20

frankenfood are we talking about ? Okay , so today let's talk about trans

45:23

fats . Now

45:25

, with the trans fats , we're going to talk

45:28

about the type

45:30

of fats that have basically

45:32

chemical properties . They're not real

45:34

foods , they're . Usually they are a type

45:36

of certain chemical properties in

45:38

fats that

45:41

not a normal fats but are created , that

45:43

are usually found in processed foods

45:46

such as baked goods , snack foods

45:48

, cookies , crackers , fried

45:50

foods , margarines

45:52

, the stuff they call

45:55

it like oh , it's almost butter , yay

45:57

, it's good you

45:59

know . And those types of things

46:01

. Certain vegetable oils we'll

46:03

talk about . These types of

46:05

trans fats can

46:08

increase our risk of heart disease

46:10

, obesity , pre-diabetes

46:14

, diabetes , poor brain

46:16

health can be

46:18

well , if we have a lot of these trans fats going

46:20

into our gut health , again it's going to go back

46:22

to creating bad bacteria

46:25

. So these can lead to poor brain

46:27

health , can lead to everything , to almost

46:29

like to things like depression

46:32

and Alzheimer's .

46:35

I know our food can be medicine or it

46:37

can be our poison and you know

46:39

, some of the things that I like to talk about with

46:41

trans fats is it's just

46:43

the reason they're putting trans fats

46:46

in is because it makes it have a longer

46:48

shelf life . Is that

46:50

I mean , do you want to eat something that's that's

46:52

got that ? No , you don't . You want to eat something that's

46:54

fresh and alive and ready to give you kapow

46:57

power for your , for your energy so

47:00

something a little bit quickly about

47:02

trans fats , just a couple different

47:04

things .

47:05

Is margarine ?

47:06

because I want relationship chat I

47:08

know I want to do so

47:14

margarine ?

47:15

no , um , that's a

47:17

frankenfood things out there that are

47:19

, like they call them on the label , like almost

47:22

butter , almost , or , or

47:25

they'll even have margarine , extra virgin

47:27

olive oil , margarine , or something , and

47:29

then you read it and you find out , well , there's like basically

47:31

two percent , uh , extra virgin

47:34

olive oil , and then the rest and you see what they

47:36

did .

47:36

They tricked you . They thought oh , you see the extra virgin olive oil , oh , then the rest . And you see what they did . They tricked

47:38

you . They thought oh , you see the extra virgin olive oil , oh

47:40

, it must be good it must be good , but then it's

47:42

only two percent .

47:44

Yeah , it's low percentage . It's only had

47:46

the thresholds of what the

47:48

marketing says , of what has to be

47:50

in there , or so low that it just

47:52

sucks you in . It's .

47:53

You're smarter than that .

47:55

Butter , please , please . Or

47:57

ghee the real thing or ghee which

47:59

is clarified butter Oils . We want

48:01

to stay away from Soybean

48:04

, canola , corn , sunflower

48:07

, safflower . Those

48:09

fats are not good for

48:11

us Sunflower

48:13

, safflower , corn , canola

48:16

and soybean . If you're eating

48:18

those , they

48:20

are very , very bad for our digestive

48:22

system and our gut system . Okay , Emulsifiers

48:26

I just want to briefly talk on that . Emulsifiers

48:28

when you read the word and labels , emulsifiers

48:31

, which they have in there so many times again

48:34

, this is something that's not regulated . Emulsifiers

48:38

can contain trans fats . So

48:40

the label might say no trans fats

48:42

, but emulsifiers

48:44

can contain trans fats

48:46

because

48:48

they're not regulated . They might have monoglyceride

48:53

and diglycerides in them

48:55

, which are trans fats , but

48:57

there's no regulation on

48:59

the word emulsifier .

49:00

So stay away from emulsifiers .

49:02

So be careful . If you're reading a label

49:04

and you see that it says there's emulsifiers

49:06

in it , just understand that could be

49:08

trans fats , even though maybe they might say

49:10

no trans fats . Okay , and this is their way

49:13

of the food industry getting around

49:15

things , trying to trick us all righty

49:17

. So now I

49:19

want to get into , hopefully

49:21

, the uh , you know . That just helps you to understand

49:23

what's in these labels and all that . And we have to

49:25

be so , so careful . We have to be the sheriffs

49:28

of our own health we have to yeah

49:30

, we have to . Let's get into our

49:32

relationship chat . I know this lady dying in

49:34

a relationship chat . I know this old lady is dying to

49:36

get in a relationship chat . Here we go

49:38

. Wait a second . What ? What

49:41

? Punching bags , gloves

49:43

, no just for fun . Well

49:45

, you know , they're squaring off a little bit . There might

49:47

be something going on . So

49:49

what are we talking about today in the relationship

49:52

chat ?

49:52

my dear , Well , I've entitled

49:54

this who is Changing First

49:57

, my

50:00

dear . Well , I've entitled this who is changing first . There's a story

50:02

to this . There's a story to this when Michael and I I think

50:04

we had been together for 25

50:07

years we hit a wall hmm

50:09

, and we were like , hmm , are

50:12

we going , are we staying ? And

50:15

so what I realized

50:18

? The big aha moment that I had

50:20

at that time was it takes

50:23

two people to

50:25

be married , but only one

50:27

person to improve

50:29

the marriage . And how

50:32

does that happen ? By that person making

50:34

the decision to

50:36

work on themselves , by

50:40

that person making the decision to work on themselves . And so I realized I was going to

50:42

start working on myself and doing a lot of personal development and reading books

50:45

, like you know , character building

50:47

books , lots , a huge , a huge

50:49

amount of books . And we still

50:51

have the books . And I just

50:53

realized that at

50:56

that point I didn't like who I

50:58

was . I was a yeller , I

51:00

was angry , I was reactive

51:03

, remember .

51:04

Yeah .

51:06

And so I started working on myself . But

51:08

then I was like , well , what about him

51:10

? How come he is not changing ? You

51:12

need to change too , but you

51:15

know , michael did at his

51:17

timing , but not right away . So

51:20

here's the question If

51:24

you're in a tough part of your life

51:26

and you're like , okay , I've got to , I've got

51:28

to start working on myself . And I'll tell you personal

51:31

development , working on yourself

51:33

is about the hardest thing I've ever had

51:35

to do . Working on yourself is about the hardest thing I've ever had

51:37

to do , plus also working on my limbic system and the

51:39

ACE scores . But working on yourself

51:42

is pretty hard and you've

51:44

just got to decide . Are you

51:46

going to work on your marriage ? And if you are , ask

51:48

yourself these three questions Is

51:50

it worth it ? Is working

51:52

on yourself to stay in the marriage worth it

51:54

? If it is great , then

51:56

work on yourself to stay in the marriage worth it . If it is great

51:58

, then work on yourself . The other person will like

52:01

the results and start working on themselves too

52:03

. I promise you , it

52:05

happened with Michael . I know it'll happen with the

52:07

other person , with your partner . If

52:14

the answer is no , it's not worth it because you're not safe , well then get out of the situation

52:16

, get into a safe house , find a safe place to live in , but

52:19

if you're not safe in your marriage , well then

52:21

, don't continue on , ok . And

52:24

the third is ask

52:26

yourself Are

52:29

you not going to change because

52:31

you don't want to be the first to change , you

52:34

know ? Well then I just , in

52:36

all honesty , please , in all honesty

52:38

, please , don't be that person . Please

52:41

, don't be the person that says , well , I'm not going

52:43

to change because you're not changing first

52:45

, just begin the changing , because

52:47

if your marriage breaks up because

52:50

you didn't go first

52:52

which is the title of this relationship

52:54

chat then you

52:57

could end up in divorce court alone

52:59

after the divorce because

53:02

you didn't put in the effort . And I just want

53:04

to say that I'm really glad that

53:06

I started the first step , because

53:09

I'm here where I

53:11

am at right now and we're

53:14

about to celebrate our 44th

53:16

anniversary . 44th anniversary

53:18

yeah , a few weeks and a few weeks , and

53:21

we have come a long way and I'm really

53:23

excited about where we're going now yeah

53:25

but it hasn't been easy no , it's

53:27

taken a lot of work and I totally agree with

53:29

you .

53:30

Back then , um , I

53:32

was probably in the camp of uh

53:34

well , you really need need to change .

53:37

And I sure felt that .

53:39

And yet , and as time went

53:41

on , as Isabel made some changes

53:43

and was working on herself and really

53:46

becoming an amazing , amazing woman

53:48

, it

53:51

just flashed in my eyes more

53:53

and more about dude hey

53:55

, you're a mess too , you got a lot

53:57

of work to go here , and so

54:00

again , it just goes back to , as you said

54:02

, you know two people together and maybe

54:04

it's not working , but they're

54:06

both not doing

54:08

anything about becoming their best

54:10

and they're

54:12

too stubborn for one of them to at

54:14

least say well , you know what , I

54:16

want to be my best and I'm going to move forward , and if

54:19

you come along , fantastic . If you don't , well

54:21

then okay , that's probably not going to work Because

54:25

, yeah , you need to , you need

54:27

to .

54:27

Yeah .

54:29

And see how it goes from there .

54:30

But yeah , so , to recap , you change

54:33

you and they'll follow

54:35

, and if they don't , well then you

54:37

just need to make decisions on what you're going to do

54:39

. Okay , I'm grateful I

54:41

changed . I worked on me

54:43

. Well , actually , god worked on me because

54:45

I can't change me . God helped me change . Yeah

54:48

, thank you God . But

55:00

I'm glad I did , because I just feel like I'm a better mom , a better doctor , a better

55:02

human being being .

55:03

I have more patience with people , I love people , I'm not angry at people and

55:05

I love our relationship and where we're going , so yeah , yeah I , we're only

55:07

speaking from experience both

55:10

of us , both of us , and and also then

55:12

comes the realization that we , just we

55:14

want to be our best while we're here on the planet

55:16

. And it's a work in progress

55:18

and , and you know , wanting

55:21

to learn how to hey , what's what's my

55:23

best ?

55:24

yeah yeah and keep , because you know what your best

55:26

is not I

55:28

just want to finish off with an empowerment

55:30

thought .

55:31

Before we , before we leave and

55:33

this is a little bit about

55:35

how , on a daily basis

55:37

, I'm sure we all do

55:39

this we see people

55:42

. We might make this statement hey

55:44

, how are you ? You know whether you say , how are you going

55:46

, how are you doing ? Hey , what's up

55:48

? You know as we're passing people . But

55:51

the thing is , do we really

55:54

care ? Do we really

55:56

care when we're making that statement ? I

55:58

mean , we're just throwing it out there all

56:00

over . And I just find that we've gotten to a

56:02

point in society that

56:05

I mean through the pandemic

56:07

, recent pandemic , you know , socialize again

56:09

. And there was that little bit of a what do you call it

56:11

? honeymoon

56:20

phase right after the pandemic , when we all came

56:22

together and we're all like , oh yeah , it's so great

56:24

to be with people . But now we're back into the daily

56:26

things of life . But

56:29

you know , when we see a friend or

56:31

we see somebody , we know or we might see

56:33

them in public , and

56:35

just you know I know it's not always

56:37

going to be like this , but just think , you know , when

56:39

you say to them , hey , how are you going , or

56:42

hey , how's it going , and

56:47

you just kind of keep on walking and don't even listen to what the response is , because I get that all the time I actually

56:49

respond to people . When they say , hey , how are you

56:51

doing ? I'll respond oh , fantastic

56:54

, and they're gone , like

56:57

they're just saying it . And

56:59

so this isn't a blast to everybody out there

57:01

. It's just to understand that . Let's

57:04

get back to that thing where , if

57:06

you're going to say how are

57:08

you doing , how are you going , then

57:11

actually mean it , put something behind

57:13

it . Put something behind it and maybe even just look

57:15

to see if they're responding to you

57:17

, because you might catch

57:19

somebody on that day who

57:22

really needed somebody to ask

57:24

them that question and care . You

57:37

might find that you might be the person that day that made a massive difference in that person's life , because somebody

57:39

smiled at me and asked that question and asked that question . But behind

57:41

that there they

57:43

could feel that there was an actual person

57:46

who cared and maybe they

57:48

stopped in their tracks and said well , actually

57:50

, now that you ask . So

57:52

I guess what I'm saying is don't ask if

57:55

you're not willing to listen , that's right . Stop

57:58

and listen , stop and listen , yeah , because

58:02

it's so true in today's society . So that's something I'm personally working on

58:04

, because I never know

58:07

when I ask that question , as I see

58:09

somebody or pass on somebody who I

58:11

might make a massive difference in their life

58:13

today , where they need to talk , they

58:16

need an ear , they need

58:18

to be heard . I want to leave that

58:20

with you today on our empowerment talk . So

58:22

, hey , just to let you know , yeah , we're

58:25

here every week at the ND and Chef

58:27

Team Show . We're here for you , we're

58:29

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58:32

. We're here just to

58:34

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58:36

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58:39

, living your optimal life

58:41

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58:44

that , as that research shows

58:46

that most people that last

58:48

20% of life are living in an

58:50

ill health , we

58:52

don't want that to be you . We

58:55

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58:57

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58:59

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59:34

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59:36

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59:38

we're going to take it to the next step of

59:41

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59:43

and maybe what we shouldn't do

59:45

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59:47

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59:50

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