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Every little thing you
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think that you need Every
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little thing you think that
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you need Every
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little thing that's just feeding
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your greed Oh, I bet
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that you'll be fine without
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it You're
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listening to The Minimalist Podcast with Joshua
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Fields Milburn and T.K. Coleman Thank
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you, Malabama. Hello, everybody.
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Coming up today on this free
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public minimal episode, a caller has
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a question about what nourishing
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activities she can fill her empty
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life with after decluttering.
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We're going to talk
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about some quiet spaces, some things
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that T.K. and I do with
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our downtime. But another listener has
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podcast at theminimalists.com. Our
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first question today is from Victoria. Hi,
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my name is Victoria. I'm
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calling from Washington, DC, and
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I'm a Patreon subscriber. I
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love your books, love your documentaries,
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love your podcasts, and
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I listen to everything. So
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my question is, what do you fill
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your time with? I
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know, Josh, that you don't have home
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internet and or TV. So
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I know you mentioned you read a lot, you
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write every day, you
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record the podcast, you spend a lot
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of time outdoors. But
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how do you fill your
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downtime when you are not using
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home internet or, you
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know, shopping or spending money? So
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my question is, what do you do with
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all of those empty hours that you find
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yourself with? Thanks. TK,
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this is such an important question,
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but it's probably not important for the reasons you
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might think it is important. I
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can answer it practically. It is
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true that in my own personal space,
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I don't have home internet or a
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TV. Now, my wife has home
3:09
internet and a TV in the
3:11
shared space that we have. But in
3:13
my own space, I find those things to
3:15
be a bit of a distraction for
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me. I don't think
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they're evil or bad. The reason I think
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this is an important question, though, is
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because it presupposes
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that one should fill their
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what? Downtime or free time
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with activities, with more.
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And man, that resonates
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with me so deeply and
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it troubles me so deeply
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because I feel exactly the
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way Victoria feels. What
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should I do with this free time? I'd like
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to start with an analogy. I've got so much
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to say about this, so let's go back and
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forth here. But the analogy
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is about an empty room. When
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you move into a new house. We feel compelled
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to fill an empty room
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with stuff. Now, nothing wrong
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with that. But what
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should I fill this room with? Everyone knows
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that one has to have a couch in
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their living room. You must
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have a coffee table, you must have
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a TV, you must have internet. And
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in your kitchen, your dining room, you
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must have a dining table with six
4:22
chairs. And in your garage, you must
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have a certain number of shelves that
4:27
store your tools and all of the
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quote unquote essentials. We
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must fill the room, we
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must fill the space with
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stuff. And the
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same thing happens to be true with our downtime.
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And do you remember not that long ago,
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TK, when you would stop at
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a red light, you just
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had nothing to do, it was true downtime. But
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now when we stop at a red light, what
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happens? Ah, I
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need to fill this time with screen
4:57
time. I need
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to fill this time with something. And
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that's why this is an important question. Because
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we're constantly filling our lives with more,
5:08
more stuff, more obligations,
5:11
more screen time. We're
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filling our lives in a
5:16
way that is distracting us from
5:18
what is actually meaningful. We're
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getting rid of the quiet life.
5:24
We're getting rid of quiet time. We're
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getting rid of solitude. We're
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doing more. But of course, doing
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hinders being. And
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one thing I had to realize, and it wasn't
5:37
even that long ago, is I
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had to stop doing in
5:42
order to start being. You
5:46
can't do silence. You
5:48
can't do quiet. And
5:52
yet we try to. What
5:55
must I do with this
5:57
quiet time? But that doing often
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interrupts. the being.
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But of course peace arises the moment
6:04
you realize there is nothing, nothing
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that must be done in this
6:10
moment. There are infinite possibilities.
6:12
There's a lot of things I could do
6:15
right now. What
6:18
I've learned is that stillness, when
6:20
I actually embrace stillness, it's
6:22
uncomfortable. But that
6:25
stillness pasteurizes the
6:27
chaos in my mind. You
6:31
know, when you talk about the screens, I
6:34
think about how I just got off
6:37
an airplane and there's a screen in front
6:39
of me the entire time and I had pretty
6:41
limited control over my ability to turn
6:43
it off for at least about the first 20 minutes
6:46
off the plane ride. Several of the
6:48
people around me were trying to turn theirs off and
6:50
it wasn't just me. You just didn't have the power
6:52
to turn it off. My
6:54
suspicion is that someone paid for
6:56
that time and
6:58
they are obligated to let
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whatever the advertisements are play.
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I don't know, but all I know is that I had
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the screen in front of me and I couldn't be without
7:07
it. When I go to pump
7:09
gas, most of the
7:11
time there's a screen that's there playing something
7:14
for me and the speakers are so loud
7:16
that I am definitely going to hear whatever
7:18
is being blasted out at me. Average
7:21
bathroom now, you go into the
7:23
bathroom and as a guy you're standing in
7:25
front of a urinal and like, there you
7:28
go. You got a TV show to watch
7:30
because God forbid that for this 10 to
7:33
20 seconds you be without something
7:35
to look at. Sometimes you know, like
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people have their phones out as they're
7:40
going and it's just, we are so
7:42
inundated with having something to fill up
7:44
our time that it gives
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rise to these questions like, Hey, if
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that were all taken away, what
7:52
would we fill it up with? Because
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we live in a culture that treats
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time as something to be filled up
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space as something to be. build
8:00
up. And history can be a
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great teacher here because we can ask,
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well, what did human beings do for
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the overwhelming majority of history? Because
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this business of having a bunch of screens
8:12
that we can use to stimulate ourselves is
8:15
a pretty recent phenomenon. Most
8:18
people didn't have that. What did they do? Well, they
8:21
looked each other in the eyes. They
8:24
spoke to each other and listened to each other.
8:27
They sat alone with themselves and they paid
8:29
attention to what came up for them. They
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engaged in meaningful productive work,
8:35
not necessarily because they got paid for it,
8:37
although that was a thing too, but
8:40
also because they enjoyed working with
8:42
their hands or building things for
8:44
other people. Obbies were
8:47
a big thing and being an amateur
8:49
was respected. At that time, it was
8:51
true to its etymological roots. It meant
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to love. It didn't mean to be
8:55
a hack, to be a second rate
8:57
person who has not figured out a
8:59
way to do the really important thing,
9:01
which is to monetize it. And so
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there are a lot of things that we can do at that
9:06
time, but I think the
9:08
notion of filling it up, the
9:10
notion of it being full as
9:12
some kind of default is
9:15
the sort of assumption that we want to challenge.
9:17
One of the themes we talk about a lot
9:19
on this show is that as
9:22
long as you're clinging to the familiar, you
9:24
make yourself unavailable to the possibility of
9:26
something new. And when we
9:29
cling to familiar things like, well, I
9:31
keep the TV on and I keep
9:33
the cell phone on because if I
9:35
ever get bored, then I know that I
9:37
got something to do. Well, there might
9:40
be all sorts of amazing possibilities and
9:42
creative ideas and interesting relationships that are knocking
9:44
at your door, but you can't hear
9:46
them because of the noise. And if
9:48
you're willing to take the risk of saying,
9:50
you know what? I
9:53
can survive a little bit by
9:55
not having some instant gratification by
9:58
way of checking phone notification. and
10:00
watching TV programs, why
10:02
don't I flirt with the silence,
10:04
flirt with the stillness, flirt with
10:06
the space, flirt with the
10:08
free time to see if
10:10
there's something here worth dating,
10:13
worth engaging at a deeper
10:15
level, and worth becoming
10:17
one with in a way that
10:19
transcends life as I've known it. I
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love that you're talking about a sort
10:24
of reframing there, flirting with the quiet
10:26
time. Maybe it's not downtime
10:28
that needs to be filled, maybe
10:30
it's already filled with silence,
10:33
maybe it's already filled with peace,
10:36
maybe it's already filled
10:39
with tranquility. Doesn't mean
10:41
that it's boredom, in fact, you can reframe
10:43
that as the thing we're so afraid of.
10:46
We're afraid of being bored. We
10:49
stop at the red light and we reach for
10:52
the phone because what's going
10:54
on out there, as
10:56
opposed to what's going on in
10:58
here, in my heart, in my mind.
11:00
And yes, that is a
11:03
bit uncomfortable, especially at first because
11:05
we're so accustomed to what? Seeking
11:08
pleasure. That pleasure
11:10
seeking becomes a problem because
11:13
as we seek out pleasure,
11:15
we continue to seek out more
11:18
and more and more. We
11:20
up our threshold repeatedly. That's
11:22
the reason that hedonism doesn't work on
11:24
a long enough timeline because
11:26
we get everything we thought we wanted and
11:28
it ceases to be what we want right
11:30
now. And so we discard it and
11:33
we get the next thing. And so
11:35
we seek out what? We
11:37
seek out the things that are
11:39
supposed to make us happy. Well,
11:42
here's a thought for you. How
11:45
many things have you purchased that were going
11:47
to make you happy? Where
11:49
are those things now? How
11:52
many things have you done? Accomplished
11:56
And those accomplishments were going to
11:58
make you happy. But.
12:00
Today. And did it
12:03
last. You. Know
12:05
what does last? Know. The
12:07
stillness, the silence that's underneath
12:09
it all. The
12:12
great friend of mine once told me that. He.
12:14
Speaks only. When.
12:17
Speaking will add more
12:19
value than silence. Minute
12:22
I aspire toward the
12:24
quiet life, I value
12:26
the client. Now. My
12:29
behaviors don't always match that. Is
12:31
true I can give you. Some.
12:34
Examples of things that I do a Victoria
12:36
mentioned a few and I write every day.
12:38
I read every day. I do both those
12:40
things really slowly. by the way. Not
12:43
by. Choice necessarily, but that is
12:45
my regular pace. I'm just. I'm
12:47
a really slow reader. And
12:50
I exercise every day as well. But.
12:53
Those things aren't so much about the doing,
12:55
it's just I feel so compelled to do
12:57
those things that. The doing
12:59
is a byproduct of being compelled
13:01
by them. Where. I go
13:04
wrong. However, Is. When.
13:06
I seek out the things that I
13:08
should be doing. That's why hesitate even
13:11
talk about. yes, I write everyday, exercise
13:13
every day, I read every day. It's
13:15
because it's gonna be easy for someone
13:18
list listen to this to prescription eyes
13:20
that and think oh, You
13:22
know what the right thing to do is get
13:24
rid of my Tv and get rid of my
13:26
Internet. And. Read
13:28
and Write. And. Exercise every
13:30
day, For. Some people that my
13:32
word. For. Other people. They.
13:34
My feel like oh. I've been
13:37
forced to do these things. Remember back
13:39
in school when they forced the book
13:41
on to you. You must read this
13:43
book. You felt far less compelled to
13:45
read it then if you were to
13:47
seek out on your own. The be
13:49
much more compelling if you pick it
13:51
up on the show. Yourself
13:53
and say, well, what is
13:56
this. Is one
13:58
area where I do relate to Victoria. How
14:00
is. Sometimes
14:02
it does help me. To.
14:04
Get a picture, Of. What
14:06
it might look like to live
14:08
a certain kind of life, especially
14:10
something as new to me. So
14:12
when you think about the way
14:14
people learn language, we learn language
14:17
by hearing other people's say specific
14:19
words and sentences in that language.
14:21
And although we might use different
14:23
words or we might articulate different
14:25
thoughts than the people were learning
14:27
from. We. Need specific examples
14:29
to help build our vocabulary? And so it
14:31
is. what other aspects of life? If I'm
14:33
trying to live more simply and my life
14:35
has been filled with all kinds of clutter,
14:37
it can be helpful for me to build
14:39
my vocabulary by asking someone else. like a
14:41
man, what does it look like for you
14:43
when you get rid of your Tv? What
14:45
does a life look like for you when
14:47
you're not on your phone five hours a
14:49
day scrolling? Maybe that's the only life that
14:51
I know, or things that I've asked you
14:53
before like. Are you doing
14:55
with our fast food? Or you do it
14:58
when you get hungry and you live in a world where
15:00
you can pull over it at a drive through. And.
15:02
Cc your hunger just like that.
15:05
When. You start Santa, that would he do well.
15:07
You might have to spend more time when
15:09
props well as pie gets harder, but here's
15:11
a way to make it easier and so
15:13
that kind of prescription stuff can be helpful
15:15
as long as you don't follow it like
15:18
a rule, but you treated as a sort
15:20
of jump start. To. Catalyze your
15:22
own creative thinking around ways that you
15:24
can play the game. For me, that's
15:26
taking walks as playing board games, playing
15:28
card games are engaging in conversation. If
15:30
I ever find myself, I typically don't
15:32
feel boards, but if I ever find
15:34
myself in a type of situation, I
15:36
think of all the people. I
15:39
always say like I was I supposed to
15:41
talk to the more. You know, let
15:43
me call my Aunt. Oh. would be
15:46
glad to hear from me that i haven't
15:48
talked on a long time and check on
15:50
her see how she's doing you know there's
15:52
always something to feel the time up with
15:54
but you get a better feel for what
15:56
those things are when you're not looking at
15:58
time as a problem to solve But
16:00
as the gift of life itself and
16:02
you think about how to engage these
16:05
things with intentionality Based on what you
16:07
value not on what our compulsive society
16:09
says you've got to do in order
16:12
to be normal I
16:14
agree with you that often when we
16:16
see those templates from someone else's life
16:18
it can be instructive As
16:21
long as it doesn't become didactic you should
16:23
do it this way But if
16:25
I see tk likes to go on long walks
16:27
Yeah, I like that that fits into my life
16:29
as soon as I hear board games I check
16:31
out immediately that's not for me, but that's not
16:33
an indictment on your playing of board games I
16:35
just know that's not something That
16:38
I personally enjoy And
16:41
so when you see these different
16:43
recipes It's about adjusting the recipe
16:45
for taste for you as opposed
16:47
to blindly following the recipe like
16:49
oh, yeah I really hate
16:51
the way that black pepper
16:53
tastes But this recipe calls
16:55
for black pepper. So I guess I just put
16:57
black pepper in the recipe No, you don't the
17:00
question that is compelling then is What
17:03
do I say? No, no to from someone
17:05
else's recipe and in fact What
17:08
can I let go of is a much
17:10
more powerful question than what can I
17:13
do? And
17:16
in those moments of boredom or Downtime
17:19
right i'm asking myself.
17:21
What can I let go of here as
17:23
opposed to what should I? Do
17:25
I think there's one other component here that
17:28
I want to touch on before we move on and there
17:30
is a great deal
17:32
of emotion Especially now
17:35
in a world that is
17:37
bombarded with stimuli. There's
17:39
quite a bit of emotion Associated
17:42
with silence and it's quite often
17:44
what we would call negative emotions
17:46
or just unpleasant emotions You know
17:48
when we remove ourselves from the
17:50
world in that way When
17:52
we put our phone in our trunk for
17:55
an hour when we
17:58
disconnect the internet When
18:01
we cease to participate
18:03
in the cultural conversation of
18:05
the moment, there's a
18:07
stillness or a silence there that
18:10
is uncomfortable, and it begins to
18:12
bring up all of these emotions. TK,
18:14
you just released a book called Emotional
18:16
Clutter. People can download
18:19
it for free over at
18:21
theminimalists.com/Emotional Clutter. Professor Schall, I'll put
18:23
a link to that in the show notes as
18:25
well. There's an audiobook version as well, which I
18:27
really enjoyed recording with you. In
18:30
that book, you talk about many
18:33
of these unpleasant or negative emotions
18:35
that arise in these moments of
18:37
change. That's right.
18:40
We often make our
18:42
emotions the enemy. When
18:45
you see an enemy, you defend yourself against
18:47
them or you run in the opposite direction. But
18:50
when you can learn to see your
18:52
feelings as friends, which
18:54
sometimes mean that they convey
18:56
messages that you perhaps don't want to
18:59
hear but that you need to hear,
19:01
or they say things that aren't necessarily
19:03
fun or funny but are very important
19:05
and crucial to your journey, it changes
19:07
the relationship you have to them. One
19:09
of the things we talk about a
19:11
lot in Emotional Clutter is not so
19:13
much getting rid of emotions but reframing
19:16
the experience of emotion altogether so that
19:18
the energy that they produce in your
19:20
life is a congruent energy, a creative energy
19:22
that moves you forward. When
19:25
I think about this, one of the
19:27
negative emotions that often comes up, or I'll
19:29
call it uncomfortable emotions, with silence is awkwardness.
19:32
One great example of this is sort of like the
19:34
TV movie depiction of the first date. You
19:37
got someone that you like and you're sitting across
19:39
each other at a coffee shop or a restaurant
19:42
and you don't have anything to say. You're like, the food's
19:45
good. Yeah, it
19:47
is. Yeah. Yeah,
19:53
this is a nice place, isn't it? You know, we
19:55
all know that scene. We've all seen it before. It's like
19:57
you just want to get up and run out of time.
20:00
out, right? Because you're scared and you wish you
20:02
had a good question and you wish you had
20:04
something interesting to say and oh my gosh, this
20:06
person is going to think I'm crazy. They're never
20:08
going to like me because I don't have words.
20:11
How fragile must
20:13
our world be when everything
20:15
has to be held together, constantly
20:18
possessing words for every thought,
20:20
every feeling, every moment? But
20:22
what if we saw that
20:25
awkwardness as just a story that we've
20:27
learned to tell ourselves about this thing
20:29
that we call silence? Why should you
20:31
always have something to say? Who says
20:33
that on a first date it has
20:35
to be filled with words? Who says
20:37
silence can't be magical? Who says the
20:39
only way to communicate with that other
20:42
person in a non-stalkerish way is words?
20:44
You can be present and
20:46
you can be silent and you can not
20:48
have anything to say. You don't have to stare at them now
20:51
and check out the space that's right. They
20:53
listen to the music that's playing. They
20:56
don't feel the vibe. And
20:58
we all know that's true because we
21:01
all have someone in our life, whether
21:03
it is a significant other or a
21:05
sibling or a best friend,
21:07
someone you enjoy. I think about Nicodemus.
21:10
He and I can go on
21:12
a long road trip together and
21:15
spend two or three hours without saying
21:17
a word to each other, maybe
21:20
even longer. And it's
21:22
not awkward silence, it's just
21:24
silence. Awkward is
21:27
the story I'm telling myself because
21:29
I'm setting an expectation up that
21:31
I should be filling this space
21:33
with something. I should be filling
21:35
this empty room with some stuff.
21:37
I should be filling this silence
21:40
with conversation. There's nothing wrong with
21:42
stuff. There's nothing wrong with conversation
21:44
until it gets in the way
21:47
of your peace. Victoria, let's
21:49
send you a copy of the audiobook
21:51
version of Emotional Clutter. I really enjoyed
21:53
recording this with you, TK. You
21:56
have such a great audiobook voice in
21:58
the way that you performed
22:01
on this audio book. And then
22:03
we recorded these little mini podcast
22:06
conversations between each chapter, man,
22:08
you did such an awesome job with emotional
22:10
clutter. I'm excited to get this out into
22:12
the world. theminimalist.com/emotional clutter. If
22:14
you want to check that
22:16
out. Malabam,
22:20
let's move on to some social media
22:22
questions. Our first social media question
22:24
today is from Facebook. Cecilia has got something
22:26
for us. Living as a minimalist
22:28
has come natural to me, but lately I
22:31
found myself wanting a new car and a
22:33
little bit of high end jewelry. Why
22:36
do I struggle with the idea
22:38
of wanting lovely things and being
22:40
a minimalist? This is
22:42
a paradox for me, TK, because
22:44
I think the most lovely things
22:46
are often minimalist in nature. Minimalism
22:49
is beautiful to me because the
22:52
bones are the beauty. When I
22:54
see a really beautiful, minimalist space,
22:57
it can be high end. I think
22:59
of it as simple luxury. When
23:02
you go to a beautiful space and even a beautiful retail
23:04
store. I don't know if you've ever been to like one
23:06
of the James Pierce retail stores.
23:08
He's a clothing store. He sells
23:11
basic essential clothing, pants and
23:13
shirts. And, but he
23:15
creates a whole experience and it's
23:18
a beautiful space, but it
23:20
is aggressively simple. It doesn't
23:22
have too much. It also doesn't
23:25
have too little.
23:28
And I think that's important. And so you
23:30
might be at a point right now, Cecilia, where
23:32
you have too little and you
23:34
want to show off your personality. You
23:37
want to show certain parts
23:39
of yourself that you're currently not
23:41
able to express with your current
23:44
possessions or resources that you might
23:46
have, including your car. However,
23:48
if your
23:50
desires are not actually
23:53
your desires, that means they
23:55
were handed to you by someone else and
23:57
quite often that's what happens. It's a reason.
24:00
that we don't want to do advertisements on
24:02
a show like this because I
24:04
don't want to create a new
24:07
desire in you because
24:09
a corporation paid me to make
24:11
you feel inadequate and so the
24:13
question I have to ask myself is Will
24:16
that high-end jewelry enhance your life?
24:18
Maybe you get to decide and
24:21
then you get to ask yourself some questions We've
24:23
got these six questions. You can ask before you
24:25
buy something. It's a wallpaper. You can put on
24:27
your phone Just go to the minimalist comm slash
24:29
before we'll put a link to that in the
24:32
show notes But what you can do
24:34
is you ask yourself some of these questions. Is this
24:36
the best use of this money? Maybe
24:38
I want this really nice ring or nice
24:40
bracelet. Okay, that's art. It's
24:42
jewelry. It can be beautiful Is
24:45
that the best use of this money? Will this
24:47
actually add value to my life? Is
24:50
this something I desire or is
24:52
it a mimetic desire is someone else
24:54
desiring this for me? And then
24:56
they're imposing their desires on me whether
24:59
that's a corporation or more likely It's
25:01
someone from our peer group because they
25:04
think the jewelry or the car looks
25:06
good and is Impressive and
25:09
of course, I want to impress the people closest to me
25:12
One of the most impressive things to me. However is
25:15
always the person who
25:17
doesn't need those
25:20
things For validation. I
25:22
know plenty of people wear really nice jewelry
25:24
or nice clothing and they're real fashionable But
25:28
the people are most impression impressive even from
25:30
that group or the people who aren't
25:32
trying to impress me That's
25:35
right. You know buying decisions aren't
25:37
made in the abstract There's always
25:39
an element of comparison and prices
25:42
in some sense Represent
25:44
that we all know the experience of
25:46
saying things like hey man I
25:48
like that pair of shoes and not for
25:50
$300. I like that jacket not for $500
25:54
That's a beautiful home. Not for me at
25:56
5 mil, right? Like
26:00
is an abstract statement. There's no cost
26:02
to liking anything. But once you put
26:04
a price tag on that, I like,
26:07
it contextualizes it in a
26:09
way that makes you think about
26:12
it in terms of a trade-off. We've
26:14
often quoted Thomas Sowell, there are no
26:16
solutions, only trade-offs. And so
26:18
when I think about budgets, I
26:21
think about budgets in terms
26:23
of the fact that we're all
26:25
finite. So we only have
26:27
a finite quantity of money. We only
26:30
have a finite amount of time, a
26:32
finite amount of energy, a finite ability
26:34
to pay attention to a finite number
26:37
of things. And none of
26:39
us can be two places or three
26:41
places at the same time. And so
26:43
when you're making decisions, asking yourself, is
26:45
it in the budget means a lot
26:47
more than can I afford it in
26:49
the abstract. It means given
26:51
the fact that a trade-off will
26:53
have to be made, that I will have
26:55
to make myself a little less available to
26:57
something else in order to become available to
26:59
that, that I will have to put at
27:01
risk my ability to buy, do or have
27:04
something else in order to have that. Then
27:07
you actually give yourself the freedom to
27:10
do whatever you want within the budget
27:12
without condemning yourself, but also you secure
27:14
for yourself the ability to think critically
27:17
about how important that is to you.
27:19
So if you want that necklace, there's
27:22
no one outside yourself who can
27:24
tell you if that's a good choice. Like,
27:27
just remind yourself that there's a trade-off, that
27:30
the moment you purchase that necklace, you're becoming a
27:32
little less available to something else, and
27:34
you're putting at risk your ability to buy
27:37
something else. And if you can
27:39
look at that something else and go, yeah,
27:42
at the level of priority, I think this
27:44
is the thing that's gonna move the needle
27:46
in my life, then you're good.
27:49
It just so happens to be the case that
27:51
for many of us, that's not the
27:53
thing that moves the needle in our lives.
27:55
And unfortunately, we often find out after the
27:58
purchase is made and we're spending years. is
28:00
working off the debt that we accumulated by
28:02
doing that. As long as you do that
28:04
critical thinking beforehand, you'll know what's best for
28:06
you. I think it's also
28:08
important to remember what we were talking about
28:11
with the first question. You yourself are complete
28:13
in an empty room, but
28:15
then don't interpret that as, well, I guess
28:17
I don't need anything ever because
28:20
I'm already complete. You
28:22
are complete. The question then
28:24
is, what's going to
28:27
augment my life? What experiences,
28:29
what relationships, what creative endeavors,
28:31
what career or vocation or
28:33
profession are going to augment
28:35
my life? But then
28:38
also what material possessions are
28:40
going to enhance my life? What's
28:42
going to bring in beauty? Because as we talked
28:44
about with Erwin McManus, beauty
28:47
is essential. Now, we
28:49
don't want to just keep
28:51
beauty onto our lives with
28:53
the exclusion of the deeper,
28:55
more fulfilling things, but
28:58
that's why minimalism is so appealing to me.
29:01
Because we do get down to the
29:03
bones are the beauty. Does
29:06
it mean living with nothing? It
29:08
means living with that which is
29:10
essential plus that which
29:13
enhances my life in some
29:15
meaningful way. Welcome
29:19
back, y'all. Malabama, what time is
29:21
it? You know what time it is. It's
29:23
time for the lightning round where we answer your
29:25
questions from TikTok. Yes, indeed. You
29:27
can follow the minimalist on TikTok, Instagram,
29:30
Facebook, X, threads, any of these other
29:32
platforms. We are at the minimalists on
29:34
the socials. Now, during the lightning round,
29:36
we each have 60 seconds TK. To
29:39
answer your question with a short, shareable, less than 140
29:41
character response, we call
29:43
them minimal maxims. Professor Sean puts
29:45
those minimal maxims in the show
29:47
notes over at theminimalists.com/podcast so you
29:49
can copy and share our pithy
29:51
answers on social media if you'd
29:53
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29:55
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30:21
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30:23
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you're on our email list over at TheMinimalists.email,
30:34
it looks like Pepper has a question for
30:36
us. I like the structure
30:38
behind your letting go process, but can you
30:40
talk about your process for letting go of
30:42
the emotions that are tied to the things?
30:45
It's interesting. So the letting go process just says
30:47
a review, real simple. If I want to get
30:49
rid of something and I can sell it, I
30:51
try to sell it. If I can't sell it
30:53
in seven days, I lower the price.
30:55
If I can't sell it in 30 days, I donate it.
30:58
And if I can't donate it, I recycle
31:00
it. If I can't recycle it, then I
31:02
trash it. I do the same thing with
31:05
emotions. I try to recycle my emotions and
31:07
donate my emotions. That's one of the worst
31:09
things, isn't it? Donating
31:11
your emotions? Yes, that isn't that
31:14
what happens. You get around someone who's real
31:16
sad, they donate that sadness to
31:18
you, right? I know that
31:20
that happens to me quite a bit
31:22
when I get around someone who's real
31:24
joyous and it's like infectious, it's contagious.
31:26
Like, oh, that joy can be
31:28
contagious. And so in a weird way, I
31:31
guess that is kind of what happens. Although
31:33
it doesn't get rid of my emotion, it
31:35
almost amplifies my emotion. If I'm joyous and
31:38
I'm your joyous and before
31:40
we know it, we're manic and
31:42
we're exhausted after an hour of
31:44
conversation, especially TK and I since we're
31:46
both introverts. Spend an hour together, two hours
31:48
together. At the end of it, we're like,
31:51
oh, all right. We're like, I
31:53
had enough of this guy. I hope I never
31:55
see him again. on
32:00
the clock TK, what are you guys, something 50 for us?
32:02
Yeah, our feelings are teachers to be
32:05
engaged, not demons to be exercised. You
32:07
know, we have these unpleasant
32:09
emotional experiences and we treat those
32:12
feelings as if they are evil
32:14
spirits to be cast out and
32:16
we seek out the psychological priest,
32:19
hoping that they can sprinkle some
32:21
holy water over the soul and get that anger
32:23
out of us, get that jealousy out of us.
32:25
And we're so busy trying to get rid of
32:27
it, push it out that we
32:29
never take the time to sit with it,
32:32
to walk with it, to listen to it
32:34
and learn from it and become wiser. And
32:37
you know, my process for letting go of feelings,
32:39
it's like my process for letting go of
32:42
my teachers. I don't, I
32:44
don't, I keep them around for as long as
32:46
I can. Some of my teachers come, some of
32:48
them go. None of them are with
32:50
me for a lifetime because everything comes to an end,
32:53
but I try to learn from them as long as
32:55
I have them. It's like that scene in the movie
32:57
Avatar near the end of the movie where everything is
33:00
going to hell and the main protagonist is just in
33:02
a deep sleep and everybody needs this guy to wake
33:04
up, wake up. That's
33:06
what our feelings are there for, to wake us up,
33:08
to remind us that we are alive. Hey, wake up.
33:10
I know I don't feel pleasant right now, but there's
33:13
something you need to think about, something you need to
33:15
process. There's something you need to ask. You need to
33:17
wake up to your humanity, wake up to the power
33:19
of your vulnerability, wake up to your capacity to love
33:21
and to listen. You got to wake up to what
33:23
you really want for you. Wake up to your need
33:26
to stand up for yourself. Wake up. You
33:28
don't want to get rid of those friends. You
33:30
don't want to get rid of those allies. They're
33:32
messengers there to teach you something. And when you
33:34
listen, it begins to transform the experience. How
33:37
do you let go of the emotions that
33:39
are tied to things? You
33:43
simply stop clinging. Letting
33:45
go is not something you do. It
33:48
is something you stop doing. You
33:51
stop clinging to those emotions. And
33:54
all of a sudden, they begin to disappear. This
33:57
too shall pass. And
34:00
all of a sudden, that sadness that
34:02
I felt yesterday, I don't
34:04
feel it today. The problem
34:06
is we start to cling to
34:08
these so-called negative emotions, because
34:10
they give us a sense of certainty.
34:14
Every negative emotion that you
34:16
experience, it points
34:19
toward your biggest fear. And
34:22
that fear is, I
34:25
am not enough. Which
34:28
is the biggest lie you've ever
34:30
been told. When
34:32
you cling to a negative emotion, what
34:35
you're clinging to is that story. I
34:38
am not enough. We
34:40
don't need to pathologize those negative emotions.
34:43
It's not bad to feel sad.
34:46
It's not bad to feel angry. It's
34:49
not bad to feel disappointed.
34:51
It's not bad to feel upset.
34:53
It's not bad to feel grief. In
34:55
fact, there's an appropriate time for all
34:57
of those things. But
35:00
when I hold on to them really tightly, because
35:02
they give me that sense of certainty, I am
35:05
enough, but only with all of these negative
35:07
emotions that I cling to. Well,
35:10
then we don't make room for
35:12
the positive emotions,
35:15
for the pleasant emotions, but
35:17
to the other side of that emotional coin.
35:21
Imagine me giving you a box and
35:24
saying, Hey,
35:28
Josh, I got this box here. How do
35:31
I let this go? The
35:33
first question to ask is, well, what is
35:35
it? Because if
35:38
that's a car battery inside that box,
35:41
then the answer to the question
35:43
might differ from if it's
35:45
a bunch of cash, knowing
35:48
when it's me. Easy
35:51
solution. Well, you might want to ask, where did it
35:53
come from? And why are you trying to let it
35:55
go? No question. No question. That
36:00
was a sign up for our Patreon. Wasn't
36:02
there some deal you made with Ryan like that? I
36:04
forget. There's like a no question deal that you guys
36:06
have. I'm
36:08
trying to think of this. So, um, there's
36:12
some type of like, Oh,
36:14
you're scenario. So you are mistaking Ryan
36:16
and I for a scene from the
36:18
movie, The Town. Yes. Starring Ben Affleck.
36:21
Yes. And, uh, the guy with the
36:23
forearms, Jeremy Renner. Um, and
36:27
there's a moment in there where. Ben
36:29
Affleck walks in room. He's like, I really need you,
36:31
uh, to, he goes, we're going
36:34
somewhere. We're going to hurt some people and
36:36
you can't ask me any questions ever. And
36:38
he goes, okay, whose car are we taking?
36:42
But that sounds like something Ryan would say.
36:44
Yes, absolutely. He would definitely be the guy
36:47
like, all right, whose car are we taking?
36:49
I always, who's that
36:51
Ben Affleck and, and Jeremy Renner. Yeah.
36:54
I always confuse you and Ryan with those two guys.
36:57
It's understandable. It's
36:59
the forearms. But
37:02
you know, like the point of this analogy is,
37:04
Hey, look, there's no one way to
37:06
get rid of everything, right? And
37:09
a part of knowing how to let
37:11
go of something involves identifying what it
37:13
is and that means taking time to
37:15
unwrap it, taking time to unpack it,
37:17
unbox it and look at it and
37:20
be present with it long enough to
37:22
say, okay, this is
37:24
cash. The way we need to think about letting
37:26
go of this is different. This
37:28
is a car battery. The
37:31
rules regarding how and where and when
37:33
we let this go is also different.
37:35
It's the same thing with anything going
37:37
on in your interior. And
37:45
be present with it long enough to
37:47
know what it is, what it is,
37:49
not merely in terms of what words
37:51
can I use to describe it like
37:54
this is anger. This is sadness. This
37:56
is jealousy, but what it is in
37:58
the sense of what it means. to
38:00
me. Why am I feeling
38:02
that and what are my stories around
38:04
that? And it's that process of unpacking
38:06
it that gives you the
38:09
wisdom to know what to do with it and what
38:11
to hang on to. I've got another
38:13
question here for you in a moment but
38:15
first real quick for right here right now
38:17
here's one thing that's going on in the
38:20
life of the minimalist TK I love what
38:22
you did with the Minimalism Life
38:24
podcast. So for those of you who don't know
38:26
we have this little side project it's called Minimalism
38:28
Life you can check it out at minimalism.com which
38:30
by the way
38:32
beautiful site redesign that should be
38:35
implemented by the time this episode
38:37
comes out stunning
38:39
website aggressively minimalist
38:41
minimalism.com it's
38:43
the best in minimalist design
38:46
and art and travel and
38:48
well-being and intentional living minimalist
38:50
lifestyle and you can check
38:52
out all of the archives over there but we
38:54
also have this little micro podcast
38:56
called the Minimalism Life podcast we'll put a
38:58
link to both of these in the show
39:01
notes and for the last
39:03
couple years once a month I've been
39:05
publishing an episode there and they're usually
39:07
three to five minutes long I'll read
39:10
something and then I'll provide some additional
39:12
commentary about something that I've written about
39:14
letting go or about different insights that
39:16
I've had and TK just started doing
39:19
these episodes on his own as well
39:21
and the first one you did is
39:23
about how the experts are all right
39:26
and the experts are all wrong and
39:28
I won't spoil it but I'll encourage
39:30
you to go listen to it it's
39:32
about a five-minute episode and
39:34
I just get such joy from listening
39:36
to that because you always give me
39:38
these different perspectives and doing it in
39:41
these bite-sized chunks is a beautiful way
39:43
to celebrate that wisdom I can play
39:45
it for five minutes and I walk
39:47
away with one or two or three
39:50
things that have added value to my
39:52
life in this attenuated time frame so
39:54
bravo plenty more of those episodes to
39:56
come as well minimalism.com it's
39:59
the Minimalism Life podcast. You can check
40:01
out all of my archives over there. And
40:04
of course, TK is doing the new
40:06
season there at Minimalism Life. Let's
40:09
move on over to Fams. The Friday
40:11
afternoon, Minimal Zoom, every month, the first
40:13
Friday of each month, we do a
40:15
Zoom call with our lovely Patreon subscribers
40:17
and Malabamas there in the chat. She's
40:19
collecting your additional questions that we don't
40:21
get to in that Zoom
40:23
call. You can turn your camera on, we interact
40:25
with you. It's like having a live event or
40:28
just having a simple Zoom call with a minimalist
40:30
or you turn your camera off, turn your mic off and
40:33
just be a fly on the
40:35
wall. You can witness the conversations,
40:37
the joy, the laughter, the tears
40:39
that happen on these Friday afternoon,
40:41
minimalist Zooms. Malabama.
40:44
Sarah had a question. Can
40:46
owning things deprive you of the
40:49
joy of sharing them? For example,
40:51
if you buy home workout equipment, does
40:54
that keep you from potentially connecting with
40:56
a community at a gym? Rob
40:58
Bell has this great chapter in
41:01
a book that came out in 2009. The
41:04
book is called Drops Like Stars. And
41:07
in that chapter, I
41:10
read it at our most recent Sunday symposium that
41:12
we did, the live event that we did. By the
41:14
way, we're on tour right now. theminimalists.com/tour
41:16
free tour stops, seven of
41:18
them all across California, people
41:20
coming from all over the
41:22
world to these events. You
41:25
can check those out if there are still some tickets
41:27
left. theminimalists.com for all
41:29
the details there. But
41:32
when we did the most recent Sunday
41:34
symposium live event, I read something from that
41:36
book and he talks about, there's
41:39
a difference between owning a thing and
41:41
possessing a thing. And he gives
41:43
a few examples. The example I absolutely love
41:45
from the book is, he
41:47
says, I've got this guitar and he describes
41:50
the guitar and all the pedals and the
41:52
strings and the brand and the guitar, he
41:54
describes it. He owns that guitar. He
41:57
has a friend though, Jeff, who comes over to his house from
41:59
time to time. time. Jeff
42:02
takes that guitar off the wall and
42:05
he possesses that guitar. No,
42:07
he doesn't own it, but he's
42:09
able to possess it. And
42:12
you've heard me talk about the difference
42:14
between ownership and access to a thing,
42:16
but what Rob Bell illuminates
42:19
there is there's a real difference. It's
42:21
possible to own something and cling to it really
42:23
tightly and you don't get any joy from it
42:25
and no one else gets joy from it as
42:27
well. It's also possible to possess
42:31
something, to possess that guitar.
42:34
Rob said he does things
42:36
with that guitar I couldn't even
42:38
imagine doing. I
42:41
own it, but he possesses
42:44
it. Wow.
42:48
That's fascinating, that's
42:51
awesome. There's so much more
42:55
than the things we own and that
42:57
kind of illustrates in this really beautiful way
43:00
just how it's us who gives
43:02
definition to the stuff rather than
43:05
the other way around. That's the
43:07
fundamental difference between consumerism and creativity.
43:09
Consumerism says you are what you
43:12
own and what you own is
43:14
what gives meaning to your life.
43:16
Whereas creativity says I am the
43:19
capacity to impact my world.
43:22
I am the capacity to negotiate
43:24
possibility. I am the capacity
43:26
to bring forth what has not yet been
43:28
and I give meaning to the things that
43:30
I own and to the things around me.
43:34
To this question, I think it's
43:36
interesting because on one end that
43:40
is certainly true in a very cool
43:42
way. One of the things you
43:44
know is that before I come here there's
43:47
a monastery that I go to to spend a little time in
43:49
it, but they recently
43:51
closed. It's no
43:53
longer open to the public. I
43:55
went on the last day and
43:58
there's a guy who works in the gift shop and
44:00
I went in there to say goodbye to
44:02
him. And the gift shop
44:04
is mostly empty. There's nothing really there. And
44:06
I make some comment about, oh,
44:09
you know, wish they had like some books or something like that.
44:13
And he kind of looks around and he's like, don't
44:15
with me. And this monastery
44:17
is all empty. Now it's been like a couple
44:19
of years before it since any nuns have been
44:21
there. And he walks me around
44:24
and we go through all these different contours
44:26
and we end up in a library. And
44:29
he says, I'm going to have to, you know,
44:32
figure out what happens with all of this. He
44:34
goes, but whatever you
44:37
want. And I say, you mean you'll
44:40
sell me some of the books in here? He goes,
44:42
no. He goes, take what you want. Oh,
44:45
my stars. And he's like, you got two minutes. This
44:48
is super. The price is
44:51
right. And it's just like
44:53
running down. Supermarket sweep. They
44:55
gave them the carts and they got to go around
44:57
the grocery store for two minutes. And that's exactly what
44:59
that is. Oh, Michelle had to be furious. She's with
45:01
me. She's
45:04
holding you down. And the
45:07
first thing I do, I'm not kidding you, is I laugh.
45:10
And I say, there is no person on
45:12
this planet who's more likely to
45:14
be in this situation. I'm in an
45:16
episode of Twilight Zone right now. I'm
45:18
in the middle of a Catholic library
45:21
that's so vast, shelves
45:23
and shelves of books by
45:25
section. My wife is right here
45:28
too. And I can have as
45:30
much as I want. And I also have two
45:32
minutes to make my decisions. So the
45:34
first thing I say to myself is leave
45:36
some for somebody else. That's
45:38
the first thing I say. And I go,
45:40
be realistic and be fair. Don't just hoard.
45:43
And so I stayed honest to that. I got seven
45:45
books and my wife was cool. The first thing I
45:47
do is I go to the section on Mary, then
45:50
I go to the section on history. Here's what's cool.
45:52
As I'm looking, scanning the shelves, I see a
45:54
few things on my wish list. Couple of things
45:56
that are really expensive. Couple of things that are
45:59
rare find. and I get
46:01
them and I'm like, all right, I'm ready, you know,
46:03
and you know, I get the books that I wanted.
46:05
But one of the things I was telling Michelle when we left is,
46:08
man, can you
46:10
imagine how meaningless of
46:12
an offer that would have been if I
46:15
were a billionaire whose house
46:17
had a full library with every
46:19
book on my wish list? I
46:21
wouldn't have needed that guy and I wouldn't have
46:23
even seen the magic of the moment. But that
46:26
moment was so magical. I just
46:28
went to say goodbye to a guy that
46:30
I liked. I made an offhand
46:32
comment about books and he
46:34
took me into a part of this monastery that
46:37
I had never seen before, which was really cool
46:39
because he's taken me through all these different contours.
46:41
And I'm like, I think I just listened to
46:43
a true crime where some guy was being taken
46:45
in the place like this, like, it was
46:48
a magical experience. It was crazy. I got
46:51
a chance to see this big library and
46:53
everything about it was so meaningful. And sometimes
46:55
when you don't have everything that you want
46:57
and you can't get everything you want on
46:59
your own, it provides you
47:01
with the gift that is connecting
47:04
with, collaborating with other people. We
47:06
always want to be the power player. We always
47:09
want to be the giver. Everybody has a dream
47:11
of being more generous. None of
47:13
us dream of being the person who is
47:15
the recipient of such generosity, you
47:17
know? And one of the most beautiful aspects
47:19
of being human is letting other people feed
47:22
into us, letting other people do nice things
47:24
for us and the connection, the moments that
47:26
we get to have with each other. And
47:28
so that is one of
47:30
the beautiful possibilities that gets opened up
47:33
when you're not hoarding and you're not dependent upon
47:35
yourself for everything. You get to be honest and
47:38
say, I can't meet all of my needs. I
47:40
meet other people. At the same
47:42
time, I don't think that we should live
47:44
in fear of not getting those experiences.
47:46
If there's something that you're better off
47:48
owning because that's more convenient for you
47:50
and that's right for you, I don't
47:52
think it's healthy to say, oh, it's
47:55
a bad thing for me to own stuff
47:57
because it's going to take away the magic.
48:00
From my life. I think there are pros
48:02
and cons with everything and you don't make
48:04
decisions by trying to predict Which ones will
48:07
lead to magic because the magic comes from
48:09
living in alignment with your values And
48:12
so to go back to Sarah's question
48:14
directly just to wrap this up really quickly What
48:17
I've understood is that ownership can be
48:19
great or it can be a burden.
48:21
Yeah access can be great Right.
48:25
And so if you own something you certainly
48:27
have access to it or I suspect
48:30
you have access to it But
48:33
if you have access to it, you don't necessarily need
48:35
to own it and that's a question about going
48:37
to the gym However, it doesn't
48:39
mean that having your own gym at
48:41
home is not preferable to
48:43
you And so yes, it's
48:46
true that if you buy something it
48:48
might actually prevent Connection
48:51
or sometimes the things you buy sometimes
48:53
the things you own like that guitar
48:55
on Rob Bell's wall You
48:58
know what? That actually enhances his
49:00
connection because a friend comes over and
49:03
Rob owns the thing But his
49:05
friends get to possess that thing for
49:08
that moment. We got a lot more to
49:10
talk about, Malabama What do you got for
49:12
us first? Here's a minimalist insight from one of our
49:14
listeners Hi,
49:17
fellow minimalist. This is for the
49:19
weekend from Hamburg, Germany I
49:21
have a minimalist tip for new parents who don't want
49:24
to spend a lot of money on expensive nursery
49:27
furniture Instead
49:29
of a classic changing table. I simply
49:31
bought a hide adjustable desk and put
49:33
a small shelf underneath it. I Now
49:36
have a changing table that I can use
49:39
as a tall mom without getting back pain
49:41
And the best thing is that we can
49:43
use the table as a desk later on Please
49:46
keep doing what you're doing much love from
49:48
Germany All
49:52
right y'all we'll see you on patreon for
49:54
the full two-hour maximal edition of episode 429
49:57
which includes answers to a bunch more questions like
50:00
How do I deal with the
50:02
judgment that I receive from family,
50:05
friends, and coworkers when they see
50:07
me decluttering my life? What
50:10
do I do with the shame that
50:12
I'm carrying from my past
50:14
mistakes? How do
50:16
we let go of bad memories so
50:19
we can live more fully in
50:21
the present moment? Plus a million
50:23
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50:25
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50:27
tiny cabin in the woods, and
50:30
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51:15
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51:19
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51:22
people and use
51:24
things. Because
51:26
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51:30
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51:33
Every little thing you think
51:36
that you need. Every
51:39
little thing you think that you
51:41
need. Every
51:43
little thing that you see
51:45
in your greed. Every
51:48
little thing that you see in your
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