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This podcast has
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bad words. Every
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little thing you
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think that you
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need. Every
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little thing you think that
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you need. Every
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little thing that's just feeding
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your greed. Oh, I bet
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that you'll be fine without
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it. You're
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Joshua Fields Milburn and T.K. Coleman.
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Thank you, Malabama. Hello, everybody.
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Today we're joined by our
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returning champion. Lisa
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Ann is here. Lisa is the host
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of the new Sirius XM radio show,
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Better Haves. She is also the author
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of The Life Back. Four
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more from loss to
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less is more, where she discusses
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everything she did to simplify her
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life. Last time we had Lisa
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on the show, we talked about
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porn addiction on episode 258. But
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today she's in studio because
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we want to talk about rental
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culture, including finding happiness by owning
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fewer things. Coming
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up on this free public minimal episode,
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a caller has a question about what
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she should do when her style, preferences
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and tastes continue to evolve over time.
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And then we've got a lightning round
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question about which things are better to
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rent than own. Followed by
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our right here, right now segment and a
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listener tip for you. You can check out
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Let's start with our callers. If you have a question or a comment
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Our phone number is 406-219-7839 or
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right from your phone to
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podcast at theminimalists.com. Our first
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question today is from Inka.
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This is Inka, based in Amsterdam. Very
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suddenly, I have hired a professional
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organizer to help me to collaborate
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and organize. One
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thing I've noticed throughout the years
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is that as I grow older,
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going to different stages of my life, my
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interests and preference and styles and
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tastes really change. So I end
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up getting rid of a lot
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of old stuff and keeping the new style.
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But it makes me worry that is there
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something that will continue happening as
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I keep changing and growing
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as a person and always going through
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the same, getting rid of old and
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keeping the new style
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or at one
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point of your life that your taste
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and your personality,
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your styles, will probably
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stay more constant and
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stable. So you don't have to keep going
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through this process. Curious to
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hear your thoughts. Thank you. Lisa
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Ann, I thought this was the perfect question
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to start out with because it is true
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that our tastes, our preferences, our
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personal style does evolve over time. But
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sometimes it also solidifies. You figure out
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what you like. But it's also OK
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if that changes over a period of
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time as well. I've often said that
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trendy is just an adjective that means
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soon to go out of style. If
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you see something that is a TikTok
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fashion trend, I can almost guarantee
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that a month from now or a year from
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now or certainly a decade from now, it
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will have gone out of style. Or maybe it will be back
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in style 15. years from now,
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but what happens is as we let
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go of a trend, well why
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do we do that? It's because we don't
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fit in anymore. So trends are maybe a
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shortcut for us to fit in.
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But I've always thought of
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you as someone who is
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hyper stylish, but also aggressively
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simple. Can you talk about
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that? Yeah, I think, yeah, we are going
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to see things that tempt us and you have
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to look at it as this
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might be a disposable item. Is it a cheap
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enough buy that it's trendy and it's going to
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accessorize something else I already have? But you have
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to also know that by next year, it's
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going to be almost looked down upon to wear it. Anything
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that comes on that strong is going to go out
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just as strong. So to avoid
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those pitfalls is really to look at things
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and say, I'd like to buy smart pieces
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that go with everything. And if once in a while
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I add something and it's fun, that's
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not that practical, maybe it'll have resale
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value. They've now even started
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a cute TikTok thing, a
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bag that you order for $20 and you
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fill this bag with
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clothes and it's shipped back their
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charge. And then you get a
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coupons like Target or these others. For young people,
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this is so cool because now they can just
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quickly get rid of all of these items. Nobody
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has to approve them. But I
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say sticking with simple pieces, we all wear
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a lot of black because it goes with
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everything because you don't just order laundry because
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it's super simple. You eventually realize
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those things make more work. You talked
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about your first documentary. Do you really
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want to take your one weekend off
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and be cleaning out your garage? That's
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what you're going to do with your one weekend off when you
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keep playing with your kids, your dog, your family, whatever. Do
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you really want to take one weekend off to do
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your closet? It's going to be the same thing if
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you continue to fall into trends. And
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yes, we will change and our style will change and it's
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okay to get rid of some things. But
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that is money. But you're also saying I'm willing
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to look at this $200 and say I'm just going to
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use it for a little bit of time. And I'm throwing
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it out the window. That's right. We
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have some questions here about rentals and when
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it's better to rent versus own, but you
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said something to Mallory in an email that
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I found really fascinating. You've been experimenting with
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renting clothes recently, is that right? I
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have and I love it. This is the
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coolest thing ever. So it's newly and
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newly is six items for $98 a month.
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Not a sponsor, by the way. Not a sponsor. What's
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interesting about rental can be a deduction
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from your taxes if you're using these
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things for business, whereas buying clothes is
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no longer a deduction because you could
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be wearing them offset for other things.
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Oh, wow. So there's a little loophole.
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And what I decided I was going
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to do, example, I'm wearing a trench
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coat today. I decided I would look
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at all the items that we wear
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for a certain period of time. Raincoats.
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In New York City, you're going to use a raincoat for maybe
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two months and then you're going to store it for 10. So
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that was first on my list. Coats. I had
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so many fun, colorful coats this winter that I
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didn't have to buy. I can have royal blue.
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I can have green. I can have red. I
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can have all these colors. And then in a
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month, you just pack it
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right back up again and send it
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back. It also helps curb my appetite
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to shop because you're always on
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their platform and seeing what new items have
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come in. You click this little hanger. It
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puts it in your closet. And then when
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it's turned for you to return your six
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items and get six more, you already
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have this little closet put together. Now, you know what?
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The temperature is going to be OK. I'm going on
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a vacation. I'll get some sun dresses. What have you?
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Such a fun way to enjoy the entire
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exercise from shopping online to looking at things
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you don't need, to putting them in your
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cart and then going back two days later
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and saying, I'd never wear that. All
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of that is just exciting
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and it's so efficient. It's also great
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for the environment. It's also great for
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storage. So and I look
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at it as I only want
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to rent items that are worth over three hundred
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dollars. OK, so I got into the math of
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it as well. And I broke down the site.
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I looked at brands like anthropology. I really like
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anthropology theory and I look at things
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that maybe I wouldn't buy that it
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was black I'd buy it but if it's a
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different color I'm not so get all my colors
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that accent my black on newly
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and it's just been a fun whole thing
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I always love that coat. It's rented. I
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have it for two more weeks Like it's
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just a cute a way
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to borrow and share and not clutter your
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life and less than a hundred dollars a
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month To have a whole month
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of shopping pleasure I'm thrilled it's saving me
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even more money that I was saving at
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the same time last year And
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even if we just assume that everything is
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exactly three hundred dollars and nothing more That's
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like a hundred dollars for eighteen hundred dollar
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value. Yeah. All right. Yep. Wow. That's some
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good math right there So
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how much of a role this trends
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play in in your choices? Not
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too much but a little bit because I feel like
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if I'm going to rent it I did rent this
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really trendy blue coat that I thought was super fun.
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I was like, okay This is great would never buy
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it because it's super trendy. So I think if you
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have a trendy urge Rental could
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be a way to really flex that And
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you can also buy the items at a discounted
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price after you wear them So if you're trying
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to see what brands work for you or something's
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comfortable, maybe you'll want to buy a couple of
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things I'm trying not to because I really want
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to use it as a straight rental. Yeah.
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Yeah, it's fascinating And we'll be talking
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a lot about renting today, but I'm
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harkening back to one of our very
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first tour stops It was in 2011
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and there was a guy we were
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in Albuquerque, New Mexico It was Nicodemus
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and I and he said
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whenever I need any sort of big tools
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I just get them from my storage
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locker and my storage locker is Craigslist
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And so what he does say I need a chainsaw
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to cut down a tree that's in my yard I'm
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not gonna go buy a chainsaw But it was difficult
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for him to find one to just rent for a day
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And so he said I just go
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buy it from Craigslist for a hundred dollars or
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whatever it is and I sell it You two
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days later. I sell it back on Craigslist. He's
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effectively renting it and then So when
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we think about renting, what we're often thinking
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about is I'm going to rent that car
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for a day or whatever, but with clothing,
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I would never even think of it or
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a chainsaw. I would never think about that
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as an option. You have to
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buy your clothing. And what you're really
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questioning here is that you don't have
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to do anything. There are other alternatives.
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And for myself, you know, I could stay in
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a very basic wardrobe, but because I'm still hosting
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events and doing appearances, I do
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have the need to buy different things. And these
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are things that I'm not going to wear in
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my everyday life. So I also, when I get
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my event schedule, all of my event outfits this
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year have also been rentals. Cute little jumpers, little
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dresses. And I'm like, it's so fun. I take
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a ton of pictures in it and bye bye.
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Someone else can go have fun in this outfit.
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It's been really fascinating. And
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not everyone is a celebrity who is
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going to events where they need to
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dress a particular way. But
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for most of us, there tends to
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be some sort of an event, whether
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it's a wedding or a funeral or
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a graduation, where you might wear something
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you wouldn't typically wear. And
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as a guy, we're often relegated to going
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to like men's warehouse or something like that.
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But there is a stigma for women. And there was a question about
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that coming up. But Inca, I'd
11:15
love to send you a copy of our minimalist
11:17
rule book, because I think ultimately what we're talking
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about here is setting up
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boundaries. And there are certain
11:23
things, Lisa, you don't rent everything that you
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own. But there are certain things
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where it makes sense, especially with respect to
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trendy styles, where you're like, I'm going to
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set up some boundaries around that. Maybe your
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boundary is I'm only going to purchase one
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thing a month or two things a month.
11:38
Or maybe your boundary now is I'm going
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to rent it for 30 days. And if
11:43
I find I'm getting immense value from it,
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then I'm going to find a way to
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purchase it, almost test driving some of those
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items. So setting up some
11:51
boundaries are important. That's what the minimalist rule book does. 16
11:54
rules for living with less. You can download
11:56
it for free at the minimalist.com or you
11:58
can buy the audio book version. if
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you are interested in that. Before we
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move on to the lightning round, any
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other thoughts on trendiness? Because when we get
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caught up in trendy, even like if you
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wear all black, you can wear a trendy
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version of black. The way things are cut
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this season are gonna be different from the
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way they were cut in 2009. Remember
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the deep V-necks were back in the day.
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And if you're wearing something that was trendy
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like that before, you kind of look crazy
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today. Or you see someone breaking out a
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brand new trend that you're not yet familiar
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with. You're like, oh, what's wrong with that?
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And then you see it a month later
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or three months later and you're like, oh,
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now everyone is wearing it. Yeah,
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I mean, that's just how it happened. You know
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this from ads. You know this from what
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we're supposed to be doing, which is working,
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spending, working, spending. This is really the whole
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idea and concept. Think you see it more
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in New York because you're walking and you
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actually get even more tempted to shop there
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because you see everyone, you grow up, oh,
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that Kelly Green coat. That looks so cute.
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I wonder where she got that. Your mind
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starts going. It's a trigger. So
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now it's like, okay, I'll go to a rental and see
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if I can get a Kelly Green coat. I'm not buying
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it. I'm not buying anything that I wouldn't be able to
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wear year after year. And I do
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look at quality pieces now and say, you'll
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spend, you'll buy less items, but you buy
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quality pieces that will last you longer. You
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take better care of your things when you're
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buying less. Yeah, that's absolutely
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true. Because if you own fewer things, you have
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the resources to take care of them as well.
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If you have just huge walking
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clothes that's full of stuff, you can't possibly take
13:30
care of all of that. I remember
13:32
when I was back in the corporate world, I
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had 12 suits and I had 70 dress shirts.
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Now I want you to think about this for a moment.
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They're all really nice, expensive dress shirts from Brooks Brothers, but
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how long does it take
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you to wear 70 dress shirts? It's
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gonna take me several months, but why do I have that
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many? And many of them, like maybe
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two dozen of them were white dress shirts. What
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the hell am I doing with two dozen? I
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was just holding on to it. I'd buy new ones.
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Well, why? Because that's what you're supposed to do. to
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do or I really like that pinstripe one. And
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so when we're talking about the timeless things
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that you own, if you own a few
14:06
timeless things, they work repeatedly. No one notices
14:09
if you wear, you know, if you have
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three pairs of jeans and you're rotating through
14:13
those three pairs of jeans, you don't need
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40 pairs of pants. And
14:18
however, if you have the same bright
14:20
orange sweatshirt on every day, people are
14:22
going to recognize that. Now,
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Lisa, you're dressed right now. You have on like a
14:27
mock turtleneck and you have blue jeans
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on. You could wear that every day and
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no one's going to be like, oh, didn't you wear that yesterday?
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And then I throw a blazer on top
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of it and it looks even more different.
14:38
But no staples, basic pieces. It's
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also helped with packing. You know,
14:42
when you're on a trip, I just had a trip where
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I was on a layover and I found out my next
14:47
flight wasn't going to be for 11 hours. Years
14:49
ago, that would be a problem, but I only had a
14:51
carry on. So I went to Expedia and said, who else
14:53
has a flight out of this airport in the next hour
14:56
or two? I could buy it because I
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don't have a bag pack. So I was
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able to just roll to the next terminal and get home
15:02
at the right time again and do that. Now,
15:04
again, they're able to spend the money on the ticket
15:07
because I'm not buying as many other things. So
15:09
now you're using your money to make your life
15:11
more comfortable in a better way. And
15:14
I didn't have to abandon a bag on a plane, which
15:16
you're not supposed to do on a layover because they have
15:18
to take all the bags off the plane. I'm like, this
15:20
is why it's great to travel with a carry on. So
15:22
you pack basics that go and you could wear them every
15:24
day. Once you're not worried about someone
15:26
losing your stuff. All of that. Although
15:28
air tags are really fun to track. If
15:31
you have to pack a suitcase and you land, the
15:33
first thing you should do is watch your bag go
15:35
all the way through around the airport and down to
15:37
the terminal. It's just fun to watch. Yeah, yeah.
15:40
I love that. You know, one thing I'll
15:42
say about trends is that I'm
15:44
a firm believer in the idea that we don't get our
15:46
identity from the world. We give
15:48
identity to the world and that we
15:50
have the power to name things, label
15:52
things and crown them in a
15:55
way that changes the way everyone else responds to it.
15:57
And we see this all the time in the celebrity
15:59
world. We all know that Russell
16:01
Westbrook can wear whatever he wants to
16:03
wear. And the moment he puts that
16:05
outfit on, it doesn't matter what it
16:07
is, the world is gonna say that's
16:09
trending now. So it's not just what
16:11
you wear, it's also how you wear.
16:13
It's that phenomenon we call swag, right?
16:16
It's the confidence, it's the self assurance, it's
16:19
the sense of, I like this
16:21
so much that even if you laughed
16:23
at me, I would laugh at you because
16:25
you actually think it's hilarious for me to
16:27
be this cool. And when you have
16:29
that kind of confidence, the world buys into it. And
16:31
of course, no one has everyone
16:33
agree with them about anything, but I
16:36
do believe in that power. And one of the first
16:38
things I would say about this topic is focus
16:41
on those things that you like so much because
16:43
they make you feel relaxed when you wear them.
16:45
They make you feel confident when you wear them.
16:47
When you go to sleep, do you wear things
16:50
because of how you think the world responds? Or
16:52
because of what feels soothing on your body? What
16:54
are those things that feel so soothing to you,
16:56
so good to you, so smooth to you, that
16:58
when you look at yourself in the mirror, you
17:01
say, yeah, I look good,
17:03
I feel good. That's
17:05
90% of it right there because when
17:08
you go out into the world, there's always gonna be somebody that makes
17:10
fun of you. You can go buy the $3,000 or whatever it
17:12
is. The other
17:14
day, by the way, I told Josh, he says, one day,
17:16
man, I'm gonna buy me like a $3,000 suit. And
17:20
he says, I'm glad you think that's a
17:22
really expensive baller price for a suit. He's
17:25
like, you gotta dream bigger, man. I
17:28
think I might've said like $800 or something like that.
17:31
But you can go buy the expensive outfit and
17:34
copy the people on the cover of magazines
17:36
and people will still reject you if you
17:39
don't wear it with confidence. Yeah,
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yeah, I'll just pause there. Well, there's the
17:43
Russell Westbrook swag. That's one bit of it,
17:45
right? But then there's also like the Larry
17:48
David swag. Oh, the best swag ever. Right,
17:50
we're- The same corduroy pants, those bands, and
17:54
the shirt, and the shirt, and the shirt, and then the corduroy
17:56
blazer. Oh, I love all
17:58
of these. And
18:01
where's the overlap on the Venn diagram between
18:03
the two of them is they're both confident
18:05
in what they're wearing and it
18:07
doesn't change who they are as a
18:09
person. It's almost like they're daring you
18:11
to say something about their outfit. Both
18:13
of them. Yeah. Yeah.
18:17
Where Russell Westbrook shows up in the new
18:19
trend that he has created the trend, right?
18:21
You see him on the NBA runway equivalent,
18:23
right? You see him before the game and
18:25
now on the NBA app, they're actually showing
18:27
like fit checks, right? Yep. And
18:29
with NFL. Right. Right.
18:32
And yet you see Larry David and he's not
18:34
walking down a runway looking any different than he
18:36
would if he's just in the back of an
18:38
Uber. It's always. It looks like
18:41
he drives to set in those clothes, works all day
18:43
and then goes and does his other things. He
18:45
doesn't carry a wardrobe bag. This is just what he wears. That's
18:47
right. Amazing. Yeah. So
18:50
Lisa, for someone who says, yeah, I get all that.
18:52
If you're famous, you can get away
18:54
with it because Larry David and Russell Westbrook both have
18:57
that in common, right? What would you say to the
18:59
person who says, look, I'm not a celebrity. I'm not,
19:01
I'm not famous. How do I get
19:03
the power to make something cool merely by loving
19:05
it? I think that's just your
19:07
choice. I mean, you should feel so cool in
19:09
it that other people's opinions aren't what's mattering. And
19:11
I love that you use the word comfort because
19:14
if you feel comfort, comfortable in something, you're going
19:16
to thrive. Your day is going to be easy.
19:18
You're not going to be fidgety. You're not going
19:21
to be checking yourself all the time. So I
19:23
think it's really a self inspired feeling of Larry
19:25
David never looked in the mirror and said, I
19:27
wonder what people are going to think about me
19:29
dressed like this. And there was a day he
19:31
wasn't famous. That's just who
19:33
he is. He knows who he is. Know who you
19:35
are and be comfortable who you are. We've all
19:38
seen the guy who this is the first time he's
19:40
ever worn a suit and he's like tugging at
19:42
the collar and like hiking the pants are too
19:45
tight. And yeah, or the woman who's never worn
19:47
high heels before, but now all of a sudden
19:49
for this event, she's forced to wear high heels
19:51
or feels compelled to wear them because she thinks
19:54
society is forcing her to do that. And
19:56
high heels can be great. If you want to wear them. However,
19:59
if you're you're forced to it, you see
20:01
the awkwardness. It's like a baby
20:04
giraffe trying to walk for the first time.
20:06
It's like, oh no, what am
20:08
I doing? And it's because you've been
20:10
told you have to wear this. This
20:12
is what you are supposed to do.
20:15
And when someone else tells you what you're supposed
20:17
to wear, of course it's not going to feel
20:19
comfortable the first time you wear it. Nanko,
20:21
thank you so much for your question.
20:24
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20:26
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at TheMinimalists.email. Malabama, what was our
21:39
question of the week this week? What's
21:42
one thing you'd rather rent than own
21:44
and what's one thing you'd rather own
21:46
than rent? Now I want to get
21:48
into the specifics, TK. We could talk
21:50
about something that you want to rent versus
21:53
own, something you'd like to own versus rent,
21:55
but do you have something pithy and
21:57
philosophical for us? I'll
22:00
say ownership is an illusion and everything
22:02
is a rental. I mean,
22:04
when you really think about it, ownership is more of
22:06
a political legal concept. It refers
22:09
to our ability to go into a court
22:11
of law and to get the state to
22:13
enforce my opinions about how
22:15
something should be used, or it's about my
22:17
political right to defend my opinions about how
22:20
this should be used against your opinions about
22:22
how it should be used. But if I'm
22:24
walking through nature and a
22:26
lion sees my body, he
22:28
just sees food. He's not thinking
22:31
that dude owns that body. He thinks that
22:33
dude's neck is going to be in my
22:35
mouth. But when it comes to you, on
22:37
the other hand, I have to think of
22:39
my body in terms of ownership and you
22:41
have to think of my body in terms
22:43
of ownership because I have the right to
22:45
put my hands on my body in a
22:47
way that you don't. Same thing with my
22:49
car, same thing with my house, and so
22:51
on. And so it's more of a legal
22:53
concept. But when you really think about it
22:55
in nature, ownership doesn't exist. There are things
22:57
that fall under our custody. There are things
22:59
that we have the power to influence, but
23:02
in nature, things just are, man. And we're
23:04
just making our way. So it's
23:06
all an illusion anyway. You can see
23:08
why we have him on the show, right? So
23:13
glad the lion's not really in here. Important
23:16
ones. I don't know which one of us
23:18
would jump in between you and the lion.
23:21
I'm not sure. That's a tough one. I
23:24
think the lion might run away from TK. He's
23:27
got that voice that will terrify all of
23:29
us. Here's something
23:31
to pity for you. Ownership is a burden whenever it
23:33
gets in the way of a blessing. And
23:36
so when I think about it as a
23:38
legal concept, some things that make sense to
23:40
own as a preference,
23:42
right? And so TK, when you
23:45
and I were talking before this conversation, you
23:47
said something fascinating to me. You said you
23:49
would rather own your home than rent it,
23:52
and you would rather rent your car than
23:54
own it. And that was interesting to
23:56
me because I'm the exact opposite from TK. you
24:00
would pathologize and say, well, TK is
24:02
clearly wrong about both of those things.
24:04
But tell me why you would prefer
24:06
one versus the other. Because
24:09
ownership is a legal political concept, then
24:12
what I choose to own is entirely
24:14
about where do
24:16
I want to be the most opinionated. And
24:18
it turns out that when it comes to renting
24:20
a car, if I rent a car,
24:22
then the people who really own it don't
24:25
really have a whole lot of opinions about
24:27
what I do with it beyond a certain
24:29
measure of maintenance and paying my bills. When
24:31
it comes to a home, I
24:34
want to have a whole lot of opinions about what
24:36
I do in that space. And when
24:38
I'm a renter, the areas where
24:40
I do need to be opinionated, I just
24:42
don't have that power. So I think
24:44
what you choose to own versus rent is really
24:46
going to boil down to where are those areas
24:48
where I really need to have the power to
24:51
call the shots? Where are those areas where I
24:53
really need a lot of freedom? And where are
24:55
the other areas where I'm okay with someone else
24:57
having a say over what color it has to
24:59
be or how it needs to be used and
25:01
so on. So that's where it's at for me.
25:04
Lee San, what about you? Is there anything
25:06
that stands out? We already talked about renting
25:08
clothes, which was a revelation to me. A
25:10
huge revelation to me as well. And it came
25:12
to me, a girlfriend, we were on vacation, she had different
25:14
sundress every day and she's like, I rent them all. And
25:16
I was like, what? For
25:19
myself in this new life that I started
25:21
living, December of 2019, thanks to becoming a
25:25
minimalist, was I'm renting. I'm
25:27
renting my apartment, I don't have a
25:29
car. And I've started to realize
25:31
that I really want to rent everything. I
25:34
don't want to own anything. And that's just
25:36
my opinion, how I'm living. But what I
25:38
love is the freedom of knowing I have
25:40
this choice every time I'm thinking,
25:42
do I want to renew my lease? Would
25:44
I want to live somewhere else? I have
25:46
so little belongings. I could easily pick up
25:48
my life and go, I'm exploring Italy right
25:51
now. I'm looking at all these things and
25:53
I'm realizing, oh, maybe I buy a place
25:55
in Italy that I Airbnb and rent to
25:57
others. And then when I want it, it's
25:59
only. almost like I'm borrowing it from myself. I
26:02
don't really want to call it 100% mine. I
26:05
don't want to put tchotchkes around. I want
26:07
it to be a really easy for somebody
26:09
to come in, share the space, have a
26:11
great experience, make memories with their friends and
26:14
leave. And then I go into that space
26:16
and borrow it from myself. I
26:18
love this feeling, but mind you, from
26:20
23 to 50 to 49, I
26:24
was a homeowner. I was also a landlord.
26:27
I was also the HOA president for two
26:29
years where I lived. So I've done all
26:31
of these things and now I'm kind of
26:33
in this like, huh, life is just easy.
26:35
I go on to an app, my ice
26:37
maker's not making ice. Boom, that comes up
26:39
great. We've got this fixed, have a good
26:41
day. I love this simplicity
26:43
that I'm feeling now. This is who I am
26:45
right now. And that's why I said
26:48
that ownership is a burden whenever it gets
26:50
in the way of a blessing. Homeownership can
26:52
sound really great. I am
26:54
anti-home ownership for me, not
26:57
for anyone else. If anyone else
26:59
wants to own a home, great, so be
27:01
it. Now, here's the problem. Interesting
27:03
coming from a man in LA too. Right,
27:05
also coming from a man who bought a
27:08
home in Ojai a few years ago. And
27:11
when my wife and I came to this agreement,
27:13
I was like, I want to still pretend that I'm
27:15
renting this. So you're the landlord. And
27:18
if anything needs to get sick, Malabamal
27:21
was the mid-tempered. I never know with
27:23
you, wherever, I never know
27:25
with you. Is there a landlord outfit
27:27
or something? I
27:31
never know with you guys. I have a
27:33
landlord kink. You have to admit that the
27:35
greatest thing about renting is the fact that when it
27:37
starts to rain and things are gonna leak, it's not
27:39
really as much of a crisis. Oh, there's
27:41
something leaking. I'll
27:44
call someone. I don't want to have to call myself to
27:46
fix it. Exactly.
27:49
I got to give some credit to Brian in community chats.
27:51
I was rolling when I read this. He
27:53
said, Mitch Hedberg had a joke about renting
27:55
and he's kind of paraphrasing here, but
27:57
he said, I don't need to go to Home Depot. to
28:00
the apartment depot. The apartment depot is just an
28:02
empty store with a bunch of people standing around
28:04
saying, we ain't got to fix shit. I
28:09
love that. And that's how I feel
28:11
about homeownership. Now, thankfully, I don't want
28:13
to own a home. I much rather
28:15
rent because I see the benefits of
28:17
having the ability to walk away when
28:20
I want to walk away, but
28:22
also not needing to
28:24
fix things when a big thing
28:26
comes. I mean, so the rain we've had over
28:29
the last two years, in Ojai, there was a 48
28:31
hour period where we had 17 inches
28:33
of rain. So it was, I
28:35
think, 24 years worth of rain
28:37
in like a three month
28:39
period. Wow. And so my
28:41
crawl space flooded three times.
28:43
We have three sump pumps down there and
28:46
like it not only is it a really
28:48
costly headache, but it's still a headache, even
28:50
if it didn't cost me anything. If I
28:53
was renting the place, I'd say, Hey, dear
28:55
landlord, we've got to fix this.
28:57
Now to your point, TK, having
28:59
the autonomy and the
29:02
freedom to fix it my way is
29:05
maybe the bigger benefit of being able to own.
29:07
So I can see that, but also I recognize
29:09
that if it doesn't get fixed in the way
29:11
that I want to fix renting,
29:13
that means you have the ability to walk away.
29:15
I made a list of a few other things
29:17
that make sense for me to rent movies. Quite
29:19
often I prefer to rent a movie or if
29:21
you're just going to a movie theater, that's a
29:24
type of renting. You took an Uber here, I
29:26
believe, or a Lyft and that's
29:28
a type of renting. It's aggressively short
29:30
term renting, but that's exactly what
29:32
it is. We often don't think
29:34
about it, but going to a movie theater, you're
29:36
renting a movie or renting that seat for that
29:38
two hour period of time. Rental
29:41
cars, and we're getting ready to head over to
29:43
Nashville pretty soon for some media stuff we're doing
29:45
with the Ramsey folks. And that
29:47
is something that I'm going to rent a
29:49
car. I'm not going to buy a car
29:51
while I'm there, obviously, but I also rent
29:53
the seat on the plane that flies me
29:55
there. I don't have a private jet yet.
29:57
A minimalist private jet. I'm going to. gonna
30:00
buy a BMW and then sell it on
30:02
eBay. Get my BMW out of the storage
30:04
locker. And
30:07
so we did a whole episode
30:10
about this, about home ownership versus home renting. You can
30:12
check that out. It's episode 345, Malabama. If
30:16
you could put that link to that in the
30:18
show notes. But before we move on to our
30:20
right here, right now segment, I wanted to read
30:22
some other folks. They answered this question on Patreon.
30:25
What's one thing you'd rather rent than own? And
30:27
what's one thing you'd rather own than rent? You
30:30
want to read a few of those for us, Bama? Yeah, I
30:32
loved what Shai said. She said, I don't
30:34
like renting because I value autonomy and I
30:36
don't want to have to follow someone else's
30:38
rules in order to borrow something. I'm all
30:40
about owning my own stuff because it means
30:42
I can do what I want with it
30:44
when I want and let go of it
30:46
when I'm done. A
30:48
lot of the topics that popped up, a
30:50
lot of people talked about books. Tim said,
30:52
I would rather own books. I know I'll
30:54
want to make all sorts of pencil, underline
30:56
and notes in the margins. But
30:59
Heather said, I prefer renting books. We borrow
31:01
around 30 books a week from
31:03
the library to read with the kids. You know,
31:05
that's fascinating to me because I think I'm closer
31:07
to Heather. I do own some books, but most
31:10
of the books that I own, I own for
31:12
a temporary period of time and I pass it
31:14
on to someone else. Yeah, of course. Lisa, you
31:16
were talking before we started recording about you sort
31:19
of are doing this with some friends now where
31:21
you're mailing them books. Yeah, a friend reached out
31:23
to me before his surgery. He
31:25
was having hernia surgery. He said, hey, can you recommend
31:27
a couple of good books for during my recovery? I
31:29
said, I'll one up you for the same cost of
31:32
me sending you one book. I'm going
31:34
to send you the last six to eight books that I
31:36
loved in a priority mailbox. I'll ship them to you right
31:38
now. And that just started this
31:40
thing where each time the stack is five or
31:42
six books, we reach out and our group
31:45
of friends, all right, who is looking for something new to
31:47
read. Great, pass it to you. And then then you pass
31:49
it and you pass it. I also do the library, but
31:51
it was a great way for me to get rid of
31:53
books that I didn't think I was going to read a
31:56
second time. You know, some books you will read again. people
32:00
use things I read again because there's different little
32:02
triggers that remind you you pick up something new
32:04
each time and it's just a good I
32:06
feel like books that make my heart feel
32:08
good. I keep because I want to reread
32:10
and touch in with that. But any sports
32:12
books or anything I'm reading took them.
32:15
So sharing those books has been really fun.
32:17
Now you have a new conversation when you get
32:20
on your monthly FaceTime or your phone call of
32:22
like, did you finish it? How did you like
32:24
it? What's your favorite part? I couldn't believe this
32:26
story. Now you're also engaging in a dialogue that's
32:28
bringing you closer and giving you almost
32:30
like you saw the same movie. But
32:33
books are very different to read because
32:35
everyone has their own picture that they're
32:37
picturing, right? Your imagination is more peaked
32:39
when you read. TK, does any
32:41
of that resonate with you because you are
32:43
a book lover. He recently did the he's
32:45
doing something on Patreon called Thursday Conversations. Book
32:47
Soccer. Book Admirer. And
32:50
he the first person he interviewed interviewing
32:52
interesting people. It's like eavesdropping on a
32:54
FaceTime call between two interesting people. The
32:57
first person he did one of these
32:59
conversations with was his wife. And
33:02
I think what she said to him was, I
33:04
feel like if we did had a house that
33:06
was nothing but books and just a few cushions,
33:09
then you would be perfectly happy. So there's
33:11
something about books that speak to you and
33:14
book ownership that speaks to you in a
33:16
way you don't even feel attached to them
33:18
so much as it's almost like setting up
33:20
an ambiance for you. Yeah, books are a
33:22
mystical experience for me. I literally hug my
33:24
books and I love hugging a book more
33:26
than I love hugging a person. I
33:29
truly love my books. I
33:31
also don't borrow them because I need
33:34
to reserve the right to destroy that book.
33:38
I tell people don't give me that book because
33:40
it's not my job to preserve the book. It's
33:42
my job. I imagine you burning books in your
33:44
house now. I'm destroying them. Oh no, don't ever
33:46
do that. I cry if I
33:48
saw a book burning. See you writing notes, right?
33:51
Yeah, yeah, it's my job. When I pick up
33:53
a book, my goal is to transform my soul.
33:55
It's not to make sure the book looks the
33:57
same. It's to make sure that when I'm done
33:59
with I'm not the same and in
34:01
order to get there I might need to destroy
34:03
that book or do things to the book that
34:05
make you feel like I destroyed it I need
34:07
to take notes. I need to dog-gear the pages
34:10
I need to underline and I'm a very ridiculous
34:12
underliner But I go back and I reread everything
34:14
that I underline and I may take notes Not
34:16
every book is equally destroyed in that way
34:18
Some books look pretty pristine, but I need
34:21
that freedom to do it And so ownership
34:23
is what makes that possible if you loan
34:26
me a book or I rented one I'd be
34:28
paying fines all the time I'd be losing friends all
34:30
the time and I just don't want that level of
34:32
responsibility If you like if you rented a car, but
34:34
you had to smash out the windows every time You're
34:37
gonna get barred from every car rental
34:39
place eventually. Yeah. Yeah We
34:41
had a couple other comments here about housing,
34:43
Malabama. Yeah, and said I love owning our
34:46
own home I get to decide how I want
34:48
to take care of it and love the freedom
34:50
in the stability of home ownership We
34:52
worked hard to get this place and we are thankful to
34:54
have it Nastasia said I tend to
34:57
live in a dwelling for two to three
34:59
years at a time and move cities and
35:01
states about every ten years While
35:03
I love the idea of having my own
35:05
home the maintenance and feeling stuck to one
35:07
location feels too overwhelming to me I prefer
35:09
to rent places that look and feel like something
35:11
I would own and have more freedom to get
35:14
up and go wherever I want now
35:16
if I was able to own a vacation home somewhere
35:18
and I didn't have to take care of it And
35:20
someone else managed it or cleaned it, but I got
35:23
to design and choose the location that would be nice
35:25
Miss out that you're describing renting a house
35:32
If I'm able to own a vacation home
35:34
somewhere where I didn't have to take care
35:36
of it and someone else managed it and
35:38
cleaned It that's an Airbnb, which is awesome
35:41
The good news is you have access
35:43
to the RBO or Airbnb now
35:45
I totally get the the desire to own
35:48
it maybe as an asset that you know
35:50
You're you're using it to rent out to
35:52
other people to make some sort
35:54
of income But that comes with a lot
35:56
of burden as well. Yeah, Lisa. You've
35:58
owned houses. You've you've been a landlord
36:01
and there's a lot of headache involved in
36:03
that. There is. There is a lot of
36:05
work. It is constant and mother nature plays a
36:07
big role. You know, every time something happens, you're
36:09
like, earthquake, what have you? You have to scope
36:11
everything out. Is there a new crack? What do
36:14
we have to worry about? Like there's always weather
36:16
is scary when you're a homeowner. All
36:19
right. So for both of you, because we got L.A.
36:21
and New York. How do
36:23
you feel about the equity argument? How do
36:25
you cope with that? Because both of you
36:27
live in cities where it's like the amount
36:29
you're paying every month for rent, you
36:32
add that up over a couple of years.
36:34
That's a lot of money gone. Yes. That's
36:36
not going towards equity. Like, how do
36:38
you reconcile that? Part of that is I
36:40
think a third of my mortgage goes to
36:42
taxes, which is wild. So you also have
36:44
to recognize that you don't actually own the
36:46
home, even if you own it outright. So
36:48
two things. I don't own the home. The
36:50
bank owns the home and I give them
36:52
money every single month. But let's say that
36:54
I came across the windfall and all of
36:56
a sudden I just paid it off immediately.
36:58
I still don't really own the home. Right.
37:01
Good luck owning the home, but not paying
37:03
taxes for a year or two years. You're
37:05
still paying rent to the government for having
37:07
that land. You're paying
37:10
it every single month. You're paying it quarterly or
37:12
however you pay it. So that's another level, by
37:14
the way, at which ownership is an illusion. Right.
37:16
That's exactly that's true for your car, too. That's
37:19
right. Good luck. You can own it in
37:21
the sense that you just can't drive it anywhere. Right.
37:23
You could own it and have it housed on your
37:25
property. Like there is a neighbor of mine who has
37:27
a car that's up on blocks. It looks like it's
37:30
been there for three decades. I don't
37:32
I doubt they're paying any taxes on it, but
37:34
it's just it's like the biggest paperweight I've ever
37:36
seen. Uh huh. And
37:38
so and then also owning a
37:40
car in a place like New York City
37:43
is it's cost prohibitive, right? It's a thousand dollars
37:45
a month to park a car. Right. Oh, my. So why do
37:47
you want to have a car? You're going to spend
37:49
more on the parking space than you are on the
37:51
car. And let's remember when you move it and you go
37:53
into a lot in Lower East Side, it's $50
37:55
for three hours. So now you're
37:58
moving your car from your thousand dollar a month. to
38:00
go use it in a $50 a day spot or $75.
38:04
It's always just better to take the Uber or the cab
38:06
or the train or however you wanna get there. City
38:09
bikes. And it was
38:11
funny, because during the pandemic, a bunch of
38:13
people in my building bought cars because they
38:15
were offering such cheap parking. And
38:17
I was like, you know, this is so temporary. And by
38:19
the way, you love driving in the city now because there's
38:22
no one here. But once the cars
38:24
come back, you're not gonna wanna, and now they're all stuck
38:26
with these cars. Well, like I got this car. But you
38:28
know, to answer you, I feel the same. You
38:30
never really own the home. Also
38:32
remember, earthquake insurance, fire insurance, all
38:34
of these different things, believe it
38:37
or not, even though I'm
38:39
paying rent in the most expensive city in
38:41
New York City and I'm in this crazy
38:43
beautiful building, I am still spending less money
38:45
than when I owned my home here in
38:48
California. I had my mortgage, I had
38:50
my HOA, I had all of my insurance, all
38:52
of my taxes. And you would think, and it
38:54
seems silly, sure, you're not getting anything at the
38:56
end of the day, but
38:59
if something changes in the neighborhood, which did in
39:01
mind in Studio City where I live, that asset
39:03
that you thought was gaining value, gaining value, gaining
39:05
value, now comes down a bit in value and
39:07
you realize, oh, I just broke even at the
39:10
end of the day, I actually rented this place
39:12
the last 15 years. That's
39:14
right, and that's really what it is,
39:16
ultimately, by the time we're on our
39:18
death beds, it was all rented anyway.
39:21
And whatever legal arrangement you prefer, and
39:23
that's really what it is, it's a
39:25
preference. I prefer to have between now
39:27
and then, so be it. But
39:30
also recognizing that renting, at least for
39:33
me, is paying for the
39:35
ability to walk away whenever I want
39:37
to walk away. And
39:39
that is worth more, that freedom is
39:41
worth more to me than
39:44
the so-called peace of mind of
39:46
so-called ownership. What I like about
39:48
the way you two are talking
39:50
about this is in
39:53
contrast to a lot of
39:55
conventional conversations on financial literacy,
39:57
it's not just about the math. Well,
40:00
Well, here's the decision that's gonna reduce your debt,
40:02
or here's the decision that's gonna allow you to
40:04
have an extra few hundred dollars a month to
40:06
devote to your 401k. You're
40:09
talking about the other kinds of costs,
40:11
not just the maintenance costs and the
40:13
transaction costs, but what are the opportunity
40:15
costs? What are the psychological costs?
40:17
What are the costs to my relationships
40:19
and so on? And each
40:21
person has to decide that for themselves. That's
40:23
subjective. It's not just a matter of the
40:26
math. What are the costs which when you
40:28
pay, really ruin your day?
40:30
And what are those costs you don't mind paying?
40:32
What are those areas where you don't mind taking responsibility?
40:34
And what are those areas where you say, no, I
40:36
need the freedom to be lazy here. I need
40:38
to be the freedom to be the person that's
40:40
not getting the call at two o'clock in the morning
40:43
when that thing goes wrong. And
40:45
that's all very subjective. And I can
40:47
tell you when renting doesn't make sense.
40:49
Remember, I mean, I grew up in
40:51
a relatively impoverished neighborhood and everyone went
40:53
to the rent-to-own stores. In fact, it
40:55
was called rent-to-own. Remember those? Yes. Pennsylvania
40:57
and Ohio had tons of them. Furniture,
41:00
TV stands, TV's like, and
41:02
they were busy all the time. The
41:05
reason I want to rent something is to not own
41:07
it. Not rent-to-own. I want to rent not to own.
41:10
And that'd be a great title for this
41:12
episode, maybe. Rent not to own. Because
41:14
when you rent the coat
41:17
that you wore in here today, it's a
41:19
beautiful coat, but you don't have to own
41:21
it. You don't have to worry about it.
41:24
If you decide to own it, that is
41:26
great. But the interesting thing was the markup
41:28
on the coffee table or couch or TV
41:31
at these rent-to-own places, it's a
41:33
terrible idea to rent-to-own there because
41:35
what you're doing is you're spending
41:37
sometimes 1,000% interest when
41:41
it adds all up with the penalties and
41:44
everything else in order to buy a couch.
41:46
The couch is $300, ends up costing you
41:48
over $1,000. You're
41:50
like, why? Because these places
41:52
are often predatory and they prey on
41:55
people who don't have the means to
41:57
buy the thing up front and they
41:59
take advantage. of their desires, of
42:01
their impulses. It's the reason I have
42:03
so many problems with advertiser culture, right?
42:06
Because it preys on people and
42:08
convinces them to have an impulse
42:10
to desire something that they
42:13
must have right now and then
42:15
they provide the so-called solution. Malabama,
42:18
let's wrap up with a couple hobbies
42:20
that people mentioned. Sarah had a comment
42:22
for us. Yeah, this surprised me. She
42:24
said, I wish my husband would rent
42:26
tools and machinery rather than own everything.
42:29
But in the spirit of minimalism, I
42:31
understand and accept his desire to do
42:33
so. I think that's great because, so Sarah, what she
42:35
is saying is, you know what? I
42:37
don't want to own any freaking tools. And
42:40
you're right. You owning tools, Sarah, if
42:42
you're not going to use them, total waste of time, waste
42:44
of space. But for your husband, ownership
42:46
of those tools does a few things. One
42:48
is if he's using them regularly, it means
42:50
he has regular access to them. And maybe
42:52
if you're renting them, you don't have that
42:54
same sort of access. So if that access
42:56
is important and it requires ownership, great. But
42:58
also living in a big city like Los
43:00
Angeles or New York, you often have access
43:02
to things that you don't need to own.
43:05
And that's pretty awesome, too. If you want
43:07
to go to a sauna, you don't have
43:09
to have one in your apartment. You
43:11
can go down the street and go to
43:13
a sauna. You don't have to have a
43:15
second bedroom. You've turned into a gym in
43:17
your home. Maybe there's a shared gym in
43:19
your apartment or you go to a gym
43:21
somewhere else. Nikki had something for us. Yeah,
43:24
she said, I have purchased items for
43:26
new activities that I just knew I'd
43:28
stick with this time. But
43:30
that excitement eventually fizzles out. Now I'd
43:32
rather rent or borrow things at first
43:34
to see if it's something I truly
43:36
enjoy and will actually maintain.
43:39
Imagine how many pickleball rackets right now are
43:41
going unused because someone bought it and they
43:43
wanted to try it out. And then it's
43:45
like, I don't like this. But if we
43:47
could have rented it, could have tried it
43:49
out beforehand, you probably would've been better off.
43:52
I will say this year I did buckle
43:54
and I bought a set of
43:56
ski boots and a helmet because I ski
43:58
a lot, but I'm always renting. So I
44:00
realized I still don't want to own the skis and
44:02
have to transport them and everything else. But the
44:05
boots I shouldn't be sharing in the
44:07
helmet, I shouldn't be sharing. Now I'm
44:09
like germ wise, I'm ready, but I
44:11
waited three years and told myself until
44:13
you ski more than five times a
44:15
season, it's not worth you
44:18
buying a helmet and boots. Yes. Now
44:20
I'm going more than five pounds. But
44:22
I remember being, when I
44:24
was moving from Huntington Beach to LA, I
44:27
had roller blades, bike,
44:29
skateboard, tennis racket. I
44:32
did the same. Every activity I thought
44:34
I would stick with, I made one
44:36
great garage sale. Yes. A really good garage
44:38
sale. If
44:43
there's something you're not sure about, it often
44:45
makes sense. If you have access to renting
44:47
it beforehand, let me try it
44:49
out. And you know what? It might even be
44:51
slightly more expensive in that one transaction because renting
44:53
a tennis racket and then buying one later means
44:56
you doubled up on the cost. But think about
44:58
all the money you save. You know what? I
45:00
tried out tennis and after the
45:02
few lessons, I just didn't like it. Now
45:04
you're not stuck with owning that tennis racket
45:06
and you're not forced to sell it either.
45:08
But I agree. There are some things that it
45:11
makes sense to own, whether it's your ski
45:13
boots or your helmet or the underwear. I didn't
45:15
rent the underwear that I'm wearing right now. We're
45:17
not doing that. We're not doing that. We cannot
45:19
rent. Yeah, we're not doing that. By the
45:21
way, a life hack on how to rent a
45:24
book without renting one in case it's
45:26
not in the library. If there's some book you're thinking about and
45:28
you're really on the fence, that's a
45:30
feeling I can't relate to, by the way. If I think I
45:32
want the book, I just get it. But if there's some book
45:34
you're on the fence about, go
45:36
on YouTube or go on Spotify, whatever,
45:39
and Google the author and listen to a
45:41
podcast interview where they talk about that book. And
45:43
then check in with your body when you're
45:45
done and say, do I want more
45:47
of this or do I want less of
45:50
this? If you want more, go ahead and get the book.
45:52
If you got everything you needed from that interview and you
45:54
don't want any more, you know what you need to think
45:56
about the book. I like that.
45:59
What do you say, Ann's new book? is out by the
46:01
way. It's called The Life Back Four
46:03
More From Loss to Less Is More.
46:05
We're just getting started, y'all. We've got
46:08
a bundle of caller questions on the
46:10
private podcast. But first, real quick, for
46:12
right here, right now, here's one thing
46:14
that's going on in the life of
46:16
The Minimalist. The Everything Tour continues. Lisa
46:18
Ann, it's the 10th anniversary for our
46:20
second book, Everything That Remains. Wow.
46:22
Ryan and I- The anniversary
46:25
already. Wow. We did a 100-city
46:27
tour with that first book, 119 events back in 2014.
46:29
We're just doing,
46:32
I think it's seven events this year,
46:34
one a month. We still have three
46:36
left. It's Fresno this weekend. We'll be
46:38
in San Diego and San Francisco. There
46:40
are a few tickets left. It's our
46:42
first free tour since 2015. So
46:45
you can grab your tickets while
46:47
they're still available at theminimalists.com. We'd
46:50
love to see you there. Before we
46:52
get back to our callers, Malabama, what
46:54
else you got for us? Here's a minimalist insight from
46:56
one of our listeners. Hi,
46:59
minimalists. My name is Gloria, and I'm
47:01
from Sanford, Florida, and I am a
47:03
Patreon subscriber. Thank you so much
47:05
for all the work that you do in this
47:07
podcast. Over the last nine months, I
47:09
have decluttered about 3,000 pounds of
47:12
items. I like to say
47:14
I decluttered Gloria as I have found
47:16
myself underneath all the false identities and
47:18
clutter. During this process, I
47:20
have let go of so many other things
47:22
as well. Dr. John
47:24
Deloni once aptly pointed out to a caller
47:26
on his show that resentment
47:28
is learned behavior. This
47:30
helped me to identify the resentment in my own
47:32
heart and to help me let it go. I
47:35
realized I had learned resentment from my mother,
47:38
who resents my father and her own
47:40
parents. She learned it from her mother.
47:43
I saw the damage it does to one soul
47:45
and heart when we do not let go of
47:47
resentment. My 15 year
47:49
relationship with my fiancé has done
47:51
a 180 since healing and letting
47:53
go of this damaging
47:55
mentality. I encourage
47:58
anyone wrestling with resentment to
48:00
look at your own life and see who
48:02
did you learn it from. Gloria,
48:05
thank you so much for that deep comment. Wow!
48:08
3,000 pounds of stuff, but also
48:11
more important, letting go of that
48:13
resentment. For anyone else who has
48:15
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48:17
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48:19
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48:29
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48:32
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48:34
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48:38
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48:40
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48:42
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48:45
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48:47
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48:49
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48:53
And is it considered cheating
48:55
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48:58
I leave him if he keeps
49:00
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49:39
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49:41
Check out her new radio show. It's
49:43
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49:45
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49:48
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49:50
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49:52
from loss to less is
49:54
more. And that is our minimal episode
49:56
for today. If you leave here with
49:59
just One message. Let
50:01
it be this. Love people
50:04
and use things. Because
50:06
the opposite never works. Thanks
50:09
for listening, y'all. We'll see you next time. Peace.
50:13
Every little thing you think
50:15
that you need. Every
50:18
little thing you think that
50:20
you need. Every
50:23
little thing that you see
50:25
in your greed. Oh, I
50:27
bet that you'll be fine
50:29
without it.
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