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Welcome to the Moth Podcast. I'm
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Teak Milan, writer, journalist, leadership coach,
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A want to share was the much
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love stories that appears in a point
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of beauty. This was some strong Leonardo
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and he told this out of Boston.
2:33
Main stage with some of the night
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was small Susana live. In
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two thousand and ten, I'm
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standing in this grimy little
2:48
gym and will have to
2:51
Mexico finally watching. Landlords are
2:53
neighbors. And
2:55
now for those of you that don't know
2:57
what that is, Loot Shot is the arts
3:00
of Mexican Wrestling. The
3:02
pageantry and acrobatics or seconds and
3:05
none. And while the story
3:07
lines narratives of good versus evil
3:09
would feel familiar to you, there's
3:11
a special match to law
3:13
suits, because in Mexican culture, it
3:16
is sick. Now.
3:20
I've always had a fascination with love
3:23
New Driver says watching it on the
3:25
T V with my dad. And
3:29
it's always been so spectacular, but
3:31
those warriors were so far, it's
3:33
it in their master for a
3:35
dollar flipping every which. But.
3:39
I would learn later that
3:41
those same warriors were your
3:43
everyday teachers. Taxi.
3:46
Drivers, office workers,
3:49
But. In the Ring. When.
3:52
That masks came on. They were
3:54
guy. And.
3:58
As a scrawny kids. Some
4:00
in significant neighborhood in Queens,
4:02
New York City. I
4:05
wanted a feel that. I
4:08
wanted to know. Would admit to
4:10
be a hero. As
4:13
so now standing there I was
4:15
incomplete. Ah, So much so
4:18
that I wait for hours after the
4:20
event just to approach a promoter and
4:22
asked. If. I may start
4:24
training with the local tournaments. Now
4:29
to employ things to know. I'm
4:32
not Mexican. Yes
4:37
I'm latino good at think. Maybe
4:42
more pointedly? at the time
4:45
I had a zero wrestling
4:47
experience. But. I
4:49
may have saved just a little bit until the
4:51
promoter that I was a wrestler back home in
4:54
the United States. Whatever
4:56
was, he goes backstage, comes back with
4:58
a little piece of paper with an
5:00
address scribbled all over it says. Show.
5:03
Up here Friday. He
5:06
didn't say way. To
5:09
show p a product. So why did
5:11
but old quest Five hours too early.
5:15
But. I waited. and I waded.
5:18
Than. After a while. Incomes.
5:22
The. Trainer. And. It
5:25
is. These legendary
5:27
for the Eagles season medals
5:29
from Natural Libra same. I
5:33
lose it. And
5:36
he comes up to me silently. Size.
5:39
Meal and in the white his voice goes,
5:41
hop in the ring. And
5:44
the ring the ring as
5:47
an iron frame with plywood
5:49
on top, some sprinkling of
5:51
roberts and an old wine
5:53
or billboards securing it. Sounds
5:55
not a bouncy things all
5:57
or imagine it's. The
6:02
wrestlers were
6:05
amateurs twice my size and
6:08
everything I did was
6:10
clumsy and tense and
6:13
so they saw that and decided
6:15
to deliver the punishment just to see
6:17
if I would come back the next
6:19
day. And so the
6:21
slaps to the chest started stinging that
6:24
much more, the body slams a little
6:26
more vicious and the blows, the falls
6:28
or bumps as we call it in
6:30
wrestling that much more aggressive for me
6:33
than anyone else in the ring. But
6:37
I came back and
6:40
I kept coming back because where I'm
6:42
from giving up is not in the
6:44
cards and
6:46
after three months of training
6:48
I'm finally granted my first
6:51
match and
6:53
because of my hard work and
6:56
likely the novelty of an
6:58
American luchador I
7:01
am slated in as the sub main
7:03
event. Now to be clear that
7:06
is not the main event. I'm
7:09
still the warm up act. And
7:13
the night comes and it's the
7:15
same rickety ring and some makeshift
7:17
arena with folding
7:19
chairs but the
7:21
lights and the mariachi music
7:25
is blaring and it feels
7:27
glorious and
7:31
they call out my name and
7:34
all the blood rushes right out of
7:36
my body. It all
7:38
becomes a blur. But
7:41
I pull myself together, I get pumped
7:43
and I step out in
7:46
all white and gold. The
7:48
night in shining armor with
7:50
a 14 foot velvet cape.
7:56
I hit that ring and I'm looking
7:59
good. And
8:01
then I get my ass kicked. I
8:06
lose that match bad. And
8:09
so I go backstage, beaten, battered,
8:12
but at least it's all over.
8:14
And Rico Cisneros, the trainer, comes over
8:17
and says, go back in the ring,
8:21
get the crowd pumping and go save
8:23
the good guys. I
8:25
said, what the hell are you talking about? But
8:28
I panic, I run out there, I do
8:31
what I'm told only to get
8:33
annihilated again. By
8:35
the end of the event, there are
8:37
three bad guys, rudos as we call them,
8:40
one pinning my shoulders down onto
8:42
the mat, the other kicking me
8:44
repeatedly, and the third unmasks me.
8:48
The ultimate embarrassment in
8:51
Mexican wrestling. And
8:54
so I leave with a mixture
8:56
of emotions. I'm
8:59
embarrassed, I'm defeated. But
9:02
despite the beating, I feel like
9:04
I achieved something amazing.
9:07
I had become a Mexican wrestler for
9:09
Christ's sake. I
9:12
had lived out a childhood fantasy,
9:16
but I decided enough
9:18
fun, the adventure was over, time to
9:20
go home. So
9:23
I'm back in my little ass appointment in
9:25
Queens when I get a
9:27
phone call a month later from
9:29
a promoter asking me if I would
9:31
consider wrestling the welterweight champion of the
9:34
world. So
9:36
it seems this American Luchas had caused quite
9:39
a stir and audiences were still talking about
9:41
this guy. So it was meant
9:43
to be set as a special
9:45
event for the 75th anniversary of
9:48
the largest Mexican wrestling promotion in
9:50
the world and
9:53
staged at the National Museum
9:55
of Mexico City, which is
9:57
literally a palace. How
10:02
could I say no? I'm
10:05
terrified, but I had to
10:07
see how far I could take this thing, so
10:09
I accept. My
10:12
opponent, the welterweight champion of the world, his
10:15
name was Sangre
10:17
Azteca. Aztec
10:20
in blood. I
10:24
failed to mention that my wrestling
10:26
name was El Conquistador. The
10:31
Conqueror. Now
10:33
for anyone here that
10:36
recalls their colonial history, the
10:39
conquerors didn't do such nice things in Mexico.
10:42
It was a match made in heaven. The
10:46
storyline was set. But
10:50
upon touching ground in
10:52
Mexico, I'm explicitly told
10:54
there is no way I'm winning
10:56
this match. And
10:59
then I'm told that Sangre
11:02
Azteca refuses to choreograph
11:04
the match. Now
11:07
if you know anything about wrestling, you
11:09
know that the outcomes, yes, are predetermined,
11:11
but that also the matches are more
11:14
or less scripted. So
11:18
now not only am I being forced
11:20
to lose the match, I
11:22
could get really hurt. This
11:25
has gone too far. Ironically,
11:33
I'm billed as the good guy. Or
11:36
technical as we call it in Mexican wrestling.
11:41
But when the announcer
11:44
finally calls out, El
11:48
Conquistador, that's where
11:50
my heart and the entire
11:53
audience turns on me. Now
11:57
Mexican wrestling is a familial affair, so there was no way I could
11:59
win this match. as the grandmothers, everyone
12:01
down to the kids, start cursing at
12:03
me. I feel
12:05
like the entire arena wants to
12:08
see me massacred. And
12:11
in front of over a thousand
12:13
audience members, Sangres, Decca, and I
12:15
go mano a mano, one
12:18
on one. Two out
12:20
of three falls for more than 45 minutes.
12:25
And we go at it. We're
12:28
going blow for below, putting each other's
12:30
submission moves. We're fighting on the outside
12:32
of the ring. We're kicking and we're
12:34
going hard. At one
12:36
point in the match, revved up by the
12:38
insult of the audience, I looked down on
12:40
my opponent who I just body slammed, and
12:43
I smacked him. This
12:50
was a terrible mistake. All
12:55
of a sudden the chops started stinging
12:58
that much more, the punches and kicks
13:00
a little heavier, and things are going
13:02
a little too far. But
13:05
we go at it, and I stay
13:07
in there. And
13:10
for the climax of the match, I climb
13:12
up to the top rope to finish him
13:14
off with a high flying maneuver. And
13:17
it's just like I imagined as a
13:19
kid. It's magical.
13:24
And I'm soaring through the
13:26
air, only
13:30
to get caught off midair with a
13:32
drop kick to the chest. And
13:36
he pins me for the one, two, three. I
13:39
lose again. And
13:44
I'm leaving the ring, confused,
13:46
beaten, and
13:48
a swarm of kids surround
13:50
me, asking
13:53
me for autographs, embracing me, taking
13:56
photos, and it's bizarre.
14:00
And I bend down to greet a few kids
14:02
and I feel this little pat on my shoulder
14:05
and a little boy says in my ear sisepuete
14:11
Yes, you can And
14:14
I'm beaten and
14:17
this kid wants to believe Wants
14:21
to believe that this character
14:23
should keep fighting And
14:27
So I do I
14:29
take that childhood fantasy and turn it into
14:32
an eight-year career as el conquisador Now
14:46
it's been almost
14:48
ten years since the last time I stepped in
14:50
the ring But
14:53
of course I think about my adventures as
14:55
a lucha ador all the time But
15:00
more than anything I think about
15:03
that little boy's words Because
15:07
when times get most difficult for me
15:09
and These
15:11
last two years have been some of
15:13
the most challenging tragic years of my
15:15
life of so many of our lives
15:20
El conquisador reminds me That
15:23
it's not always about winning It's
15:27
not about being the hero all the time It's
15:32
about moving through the failures
15:34
and getting up after the losses Because
15:41
as that little kid said that
15:44
kid that just wanted to believe sisepuete
15:51
Yes, you can yes We can.
16:07
What was on the another? Sign
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is a Britain based artist and Queens New York.
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His work has been featured at the
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Mass Smoker, and the Bronx Museum. With
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and Twenty Twenty Two. Son lives
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and works Brooklyn with his wife and
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along with many other favorite moth mainstays
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stories through the years in a new
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book. The Point of Beauty true stories
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of holding on and letting go we
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haven't linked where you the purchase. It
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included in the So. Description.
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Is so cool. That story. Can go from
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a phone mine to the stage to the
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and actually pits us the story. Twenty twenty
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through the moths punch line is a little
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bit of that. A
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day in and day out. I was
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embarrassed, punished physically or psychologically and was
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he were reprimanded for viewing my density.
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But I learned the sanctity of the mascot
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just kept coming back. We
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receive hundreds of the story pitches each
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month. sees another pitch from Money's a
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Nazi, one that's pretty special to the
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book itself. For years
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ago, in December Twenty sixteen, I was sitting
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in my office of the World Bank in
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Washington Dc staring at my computer screen and
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flu quite helpless that a news item popped
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up on my screen. A posting. We said
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that one of the oldest bookshop in Karachi,
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Pangea Brickhouse circa nineteen Forty Five, was about
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to close down. I read the article in
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it the with a photograph of the facade
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of the bookshop. I don't know what happened
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to me, but the photograph really pulls me
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and I said to myself this I can
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do. Money's
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as Macys story also included in the book
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is actually where we get the title of
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Point of Beauty and is so many other
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wonderful stories in the book. Remember
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I said I had a story in
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the book? Well he's a taste. i
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was my mother's fourth daughter And
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when I was 15, I sat my mother down and I
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said, Mommy, I got something to tell you. And
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she said, oh shit. And I said, Mom, I'm gay.
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Now she was shocked, but she became my
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fiercest ally. And when I moved to New York
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City, we talked daily. And
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one day she called me and she said, Teagaboo,
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why you got to be so manish? Why
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can't you be a soft butcher like Ellen DeGeneres? Now
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as a transgender person, what we know is
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that we may lose everybody that we thought
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loved us. And
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I was scared that I was gonna lose her. But
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a few days before I was to have my top surgery,
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I called my mother and I said, Mommy, I
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am having a double mastectomy in chest reconstruction. I'm
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a man. If
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you'd like to read the full story, pick up
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a point of beauty, two stories of holding on
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and letting go wherever you get your books. The
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core of a Moth story, whether it's
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presented on stage, broadcast over the airwaves,
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or is read on the page, the
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core is vulnerability, connection, and beauty, no
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matter how a story is shared. We
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hope you liked the book because we think it's really
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special. Plus, as I mentioned, the Moth
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it for this episode. From all of
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us here at the Moth, we hope you have a
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story-filled week. One final
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reminder, the Moth's new book, A Point of
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Beauty, True Stories of Holding On and Letting
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Go, is out on March 19th, wherever you
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get your books. We'll have a link to
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where you can purchase it in the show
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description. Cheek Milan has been an
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advocate in the LGBTQ community for over
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a decade. He is also a writer
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and consultant who carved a niche for
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himself as a media advocate and one
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of the leading voices for transgender equality.
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This episode of the Moth Podcast was
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produced by Sarah Austin-Janess, Sarah Jane Johnson,
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and me, Mark Sollinger. The
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rest of the Moth's leadership team
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includes Sarah Haberman, Jennifer Hickson, Meg
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Bowles, Kate Tellers, Marina Cluche, Suzanne
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Rest, Brandon G Grant Walker, Lee-Ann
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Gully, and Aldi Kaza. The Moth would
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