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Today's question is such an important
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question and it's this. It says,
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what kinds of things should we consider?
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better before giving birth to our child.
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Yeah. I mean, what are those things you
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need to talk about before that
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baby comes? And whether it's
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a first baby or second, third,
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whatever, there's a lot to
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discuss. And I think just top
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of the list, some of the things to
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discuss are baby names. Like
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what are we going to name this
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child? There's the significance of
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what a name means. And if we're
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going to have family heritage involved,
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and then are we going to be fair to both
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sides of the family and how we do that and
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talking through all that. Number two, I would say
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birth plan, which
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really needs to be probably more
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up to the wife, I would say. Like how does
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she want to give birth?
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Right, because there's a lot of choices. These
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days, it's not just hospital birth
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or at home birth. You have a birthing
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center where you're with a doula or a
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midwife. We know a
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lot of people who've kind of been a
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combo where they meet at the birthing center for all their
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appointments, but then the midwife and doula comes to their home
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and they get birth at home. Do
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you want to be medicated or non-medicated? And I
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agree with Dave as a woman who's given birth
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four times. Let the woman decide that. I think
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the woman has more, the wife has more to
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say with more weight on this because
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she's the one who's enduring this. We've
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talked to couples where having a
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medicated birth or non-medicated
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birth is like a real issue and it
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could be just in your personal beliefs about
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medications. Just talk
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through that, but no, there's really no
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right or wrong way here. You want that baby
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to come into this world healthy. That's the ultimate
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thing is you want the mother and the baby
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to be healthy, right? Absolutely. So
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know that you're on the same team here and try
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to talk through those things. What else do you think
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is important? I think practically you need to decide who
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you want at the hospital with you if
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you want anyone in the room with you
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besides the two of you, a mom
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or talk through that ahead of The
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more things you can pre-decide, the less stressful it is.
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And then I think for after you get home with
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the baby, to talk about
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how you can best
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try to
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establish some kind of a routine together
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of making sure that you're both
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getting as much rest as possible and
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it's going to be hard in those early weeks, but you'll get through it. And
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then beyond that, how's life
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going to change in terms of work schedules?
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Are we going to take maternity or paternity leave?
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What financial decisions do we need to make to
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kind of help make a way
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for all this? I mean, having a
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baby, it's one of the greatest gifts
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in life. I mean, such a gift. Children
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are a blessing from the Lord, the Bible
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says, and they really are, but they are
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also, they're a complicated blessing because they will
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change every part of your life instantly. And
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so I think that you just have to kind of
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be ready for that. If
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it's your first child, I think that you need to
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pretty quickly decide like, who are we going to trust
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to watch this child? Because
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you've got to keep focusing on your
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marriage. You're not just parents,
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your husband and wife first, and
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you got to make sure that you get those date
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nights. I mean, early on in our marriage, our baby,
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first baby was just a few weeks old and my
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mom was like, all right, I'm going
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to come and watch this baby. You guys need
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to get out of this house. And
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I'm so glad she did. And it felt weird and awkward
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at first to leave and go grab
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some dinner somewhere. But it
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was so important. She was very wisely
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reminding us that you've got to get in a rhythm of
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connecting his husband and wife and not just his
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mom and dad. I love that.
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And that's, I mean, that's something that we were kind of
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challenged to do right from the start. And
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we're getting up with that with each of our kids and even now
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that we have kids that are growing up. I
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want to say too, one of the biggest things where
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we see husbands and wives really not on the same
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page is all the different duties
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that need to happen.
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