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Now you know. Well,

1:23

hello there. Welcome back

1:26

to the program.

1:29

I am Daria Morgendorfer. And

1:34

I am Betnai Jelani Hamilton. And this is the

1:36

read. Thanks for coming back. Thank

1:38

you. Well, here

1:40

we are on a Friday

1:43

or whatever. And

1:46

it's time to check in. How are

1:49

you feeling? I'm OK. Yeah, we're a

1:51

little late this week because of partying

1:53

for me. Sorry about that. But I'm

1:57

not really that sorry because I'm I

2:00

really deserved this week of celebration

2:02

and I'm not done yet. So

2:04

it was

2:07

so nice. I've been to like

2:10

three or four graduation parties over this last

2:12

week, but it's just something about,

2:14

I was with my family last weekend in

2:17

Texas, and then my friends, so

2:19

many of y'all surprised me flying in,

2:21

I didn't know we're gonna be

2:23

there, and you came, and I'm

2:25

just, just feel really

2:28

loved and

2:30

grateful for the people who care

2:33

about me. And also

2:35

still really thrilled to be done with

2:38

grad school. I can't believe I really

2:40

did that. So I'm gonna keep the

2:42

celebration is going throughout June. But

2:45

yeah. I'm gonna- Got to,

2:47

got to. I mean, what other ways? I

2:50

mean, my robe is purple. That's a great

2:53

gay color to build off of. I

2:55

think it's my, I think I've like accepted

2:58

it as my favorite color officially in

3:00

that old life. I

3:03

see it. Cause like when I was a kid, I was like

3:05

blue, cause I haven't said blue. And

3:09

then I think for a lot of like

3:12

my adolescents and 20s, I

3:15

was like black. I think it's mostly, Yeah,

3:18

that's what I remember. Is black a color or a shade?

3:20

I'm not having a conversation. I like

3:22

that, like black. But

3:25

I've noticed like, if I'm, I don't know,

3:27

playing a game or something and it goes

3:29

like, Oh, make this a color. I

3:32

usually pick purple. Yeah, I'm not mad at

3:34

it. It's beautiful. So- I

3:37

enjoy the color a lot. Yeah, but

3:39

that's me, you know, adjusting and having

3:41

a pretty good time. What about you? How are

3:44

you feeling? I'm

3:46

tired in a way I can't

3:48

put into words. Overall

3:51

miserable. I felt pretty

3:53

shitty after your party.

3:57

Cause I was so low energy. Like

3:59

I- didn't feel like I was in

4:01

party mode because I was like, oh,

4:06

I'm extremely exhausted and I think

4:08

I'm also disassociated and, woo,

4:13

thankfully I wasn't expecting your party

4:16

to have like homemade

4:19

Jamaican food. So that was,

4:21

that helped a lot and

4:24

those passion fruit lemonades and stuff. But

4:27

yeah, I don't know.

4:29

I need like a charger.

4:32

Okay, for like your mental

4:35

health. Okay. Yeah. All

4:37

right. That makes sense. I mean, you have been doing a

4:39

lot. I think you, when you showed up, you were like,

4:41

yeah, I just came off of four shows. So, we're now-

4:45

Oh, thanks San Francisco for coming out.

4:47

Thank you to the person who made

4:49

me that awesome Beyonce

4:52

jacket that you were ferociously

4:54

waving in my face for

4:56

the majority of the event.

5:01

I didn't know what

5:04

it was hab- Like I be performing

5:06

and just trying to like not

5:09

bomb. And so

5:11

I saw you, but I thought it

5:14

was just Beyonce merch and you were

5:16

like waving it in solidarity with me,

5:18

a Beyonce fan. And

5:20

then someone, Jaleesa, who graciously

5:23

hosted, came backstage and was

5:26

like, so this person made you this? And

5:28

I realized it was like a

5:31

custom made knitted denim jacket that

5:36

says Beyonce knows me on the back. Oh,

5:38

how nice. Oh, I didn't

5:40

realize it was like made for me and

5:42

you wanted me to have it, but I

5:44

have it now. Thank you. I really like

5:47

it a lot. I probably wear it once

5:49

and then

5:51

wrap it in protective shielding

5:56

and keep it safe somewhere. I really

5:58

appreciate it. And all the- other things

6:00

y'all seem to bring me when

6:03

I come places. Thanks.

6:06

Yeah. Well, you have some break. You

6:08

have a break, right? Till

6:10

July. Yes. Yeah.

6:14

Um, Black

6:16

Excellence this week. Going

6:20

to, first of

6:22

all, like a literal

6:24

baby. This is a

6:28

young boy named Ace Liam

6:30

Ankara. He is a toddler

6:32

in Ghana, who

6:35

has set the Gimme's world record

6:37

as the world's youngest male artist

6:40

at one year and 152 days old.

6:44

He's an actual living

6:46

toddler baby person. Wow. And

6:50

an artist whose work

6:52

has been on display to professional

6:54

exhibition at the Museum of Science

6:57

and Technology in in

7:00

Accra from last

7:03

December through January. So

7:05

disqualified him for

7:07

a Gimme's world record

7:09

title. And this young

7:12

man has sold nine of the 10 pieces

7:14

that were on display. He was

7:17

even commissioned by the First Lady. And

7:19

when I looked at his work, first

7:23

of all, this is one of the cutest living

7:26

people. Adorable. So I'm looking at it

7:28

now. This is so cute. But also

7:30

like, this

7:32

is a child prodigy. Like this is like,

7:35

like it wasn't just like, oh, he like

7:37

did some cute art and he's so young.

7:39

Like, no, these are the pieces.

7:41

Like, of course he sold these. This is

7:43

lovely. Like

7:46

I abstract, I guess, but

7:48

this is stuff I would fully expect to

7:50

see like an adult artist

7:53

have like, you could

7:55

tell me Picasso did this and I would be

7:57

like, oh, yeah, sure he did. Oh, my God.

8:00

I don't know no different. So yeah. Oh

8:04

wow. Look at this child is not

8:06

even two. He's not

8:08

even two years old. Uh, but I

8:10

believe his mother said that she could

8:13

tell that something was going on from

8:15

about six months when

8:17

he started painting. Um, there's

8:19

even a photo here on, I think this is

8:21

BBC's website of some of that. And it's like,

8:23

no, yeah. He got the call. He, he

8:27

was fully into it. And,

8:29

um, yeah, I, you know,

8:31

now I guess is actually selling art

8:33

and museums

8:36

and stuff at

8:39

one in a half or

8:41

something. I don't know, man, you know, a couple

8:43

months. Yeah. What is so wild

8:45

about this to me is that like, I don't

8:48

abstract art. I don't really get. So

8:50

I don't, I tend to not comment on

8:52

it, but I don't,

8:56

it's just astonishing to me that what looks

8:58

to me, I don't, I

9:00

don't know. I don't want to sound disrespectful,

9:02

but to me abstract art pretty much all

9:05

looks like a toddler made it. So

9:08

the fact that this looks like every toddler's

9:10

artwork to me and yet the art world

9:12

can see the difference in it and is

9:14

like, no, this is actually not like every

9:17

other one and a half year old. Well,

9:20

I took like a couple of our classes

9:22

in, in college and

9:24

we like read and

9:26

watched numerous things about

9:28

people like Jackson Pollock

9:30

and, and we kind

9:34

of went into fierce

9:36

studies and discussions of all kinds

9:38

of art. But, um,

9:40

I don't think that I have any like super

9:43

elevated eye when it comes to this sort of

9:45

thing, but I do look at it, um,

9:49

for what it, it is. You know what I mean?

9:51

This is, this isn't just

9:53

to me. When I look at this, I

9:56

wouldn't think if you told me

9:58

that a toddler made it all. although I understand

10:00

what you're saying, because it feels

10:03

like there are a lot of decisions

10:05

that are still made in this. Yeah,

10:08

that's the part I can't see because

10:10

my eye is not trained. I

10:13

can fully see abstract art

10:15

that I feel like feels intentional

10:18

and artistic and beautiful.

10:20

And then like, this is a

10:22

mess and a racket and girl,

10:25

like, you know what I'm saying?

10:27

Like, whatever. Congratulations,

10:30

baby. This is so sweet. And his

10:32

mom a pretty suit. Literal, baby. This

10:34

picture of the First Lady. Work, mama.

10:37

Oh, she's a painter too. That's how he got

10:39

into it. Got it. But

10:42

I mean, is this not one of the

10:44

cutest living people? No, he's so adorable. And

10:46

just standing next to him, he's giant paintings

10:48

like, yeah, that's me. Yep. I

10:51

do what I does. I

10:54

mean, this isn't even really giving. You know,

10:56

it's just a little something, something I threw

10:58

together. Adorable. Also,

11:02

Joe Mazzula's made history as the youngest NBA

11:04

head coach to reach the finals. Oh. He's

11:07

the head coach of the Celtics. Celtics?

11:09

Yes, he is. It

11:12

depends on who you ask, I guess, that

11:14

pronunciation. Either way, before this,

11:17

his youngest head coach to reach the finals, oh,

11:19

the youngest head coach to reach the finals was

11:21

Bill Russell. And

11:24

apparently, the Celtics will be facing off

11:27

against the Mavericks of

11:29

Dallas starting

11:32

today. Yeah, tonight, Thursday, the day we

11:34

are recording here in, well, not a

11:37

few hours. But yeah, I had

11:39

to Google if Joe Mazzula was black. He is, so shout out

11:41

to you. The block

11:43

of shot too, he doesn't play. So I guess

11:45

that's what I got in there. Who do you

11:47

have? The Celtics or the Mavericks?

11:50

Who do you think is going on? The Mavericks, just because

11:52

I prefer Dallas, Texas. Wow. OK. Over

11:55

Boston, I think probably most black people do.

11:58

Yeah, absolutely. As far as cities go. OK. So

12:00

that's the reason. That's good enough.

12:02

That's good enough. And

12:05

I've actually performed in Boston and not

12:07

Dallas yet. So I guess

12:10

that was rude of me. Time to

12:12

fix it. OK,

12:16

it's time for some pop

12:18

culture nonsense and some hot

12:20

tops. Dicks.

12:25

Oh, wait, that's a movie. It is. What

12:27

are you doing here? OK,

12:31

so let's just get this out of the

12:33

way. 34 counts. Thoughts?

12:36

34 counts. Oh,

12:39

Trump. You

12:41

really have not given a fuck about anything with

12:43

so high. And

12:46

I love that for you. Congratulations. Makes

12:48

me feel good for you. When

12:50

I tell you as soon as I didn't have

12:52

to open up this computer and type nothing else,

12:54

I shut this bitch down. I

12:57

get it. I took Twitter off

12:59

of my phone. I'm living a completely different life.

13:01

But yes, I did see that. How could I

13:03

miss it? I

13:07

think it kind of as

13:09

exciting, not as exciting, but

13:11

happy. Genuinely pleased to

13:14

see Trump actually be found guilty.

13:17

My

13:20

any feelings, hope,

13:23

or expectation that this

13:25

nigga is actually going to go to

13:27

jail is nonexistent. It's just something about

13:29

him where I don't think he's actually

13:31

going to face any real

13:33

consequences. Like, I just don't. America

13:36

is set up so that. I think

13:38

that something is the fact that he

13:41

hasn't or anything. Right, right.

13:43

So there's that. There's the history of

13:45

it. But this

13:47

country is built to

13:49

support white men like Donald

13:52

Trump. America don't want to turn on

13:54

this nigga. They don't want to put

13:56

this fool in jail. So I don't

13:58

see that happening. And so there's only one. only so

14:00

much joy I can really get out of it, but

14:02

34 felonies,

14:04

nigga, you, you

14:07

racked up 34 felonies in like

14:09

10 minutes. That's crazy. And yet I

14:13

had nearly no reaction because I don't fucking

14:15

care because I know it's not gonna make

14:17

any difference. It's not gonna keep them off

14:20

the ballot. It's not gonna stop them from

14:22

winning. It's not really gonna

14:24

change anybody's mind about the motherfucker. He's not

14:26

going to jail. I doubt he'll pay a

14:28

fucking fine. If anything, maybe

14:31

they'll speak harshly to him for five

14:33

seconds in the courtroom. Maybe.

14:36

If that, I doubt that. That's a great

14:38

try. Maybe someone will point a finger. Maybe

14:41

someone will point a finger. Yes, and

14:43

the Democrats will be mad. Other than that, I'm

14:45

like, oh wow. Yeah, if he wins, the Democrats

14:47

are gonna be mad and talk about how wrong

14:49

it is that a felon can be president and

14:51

all this other stuff. And then they are gonna

14:54

go right to the Capitol and

14:56

certify the election and install him

14:58

as president anyway. So it's like,

15:01

I can't care more than y'all do, y'all. I just

15:03

don't have a lot of hope. But if it happens,

15:05

I'll be over, like cartwheeling

15:08

through this bitch. But I don't know,

15:10

man. It's not looking good as far

15:12

as this country and the state of

15:14

affairs. I just want

15:16

them to put him in orange because

15:20

I'm curious of

15:22

what he would give in

15:25

a monochromatic style.

15:29

But I feel like he'd probably go somewhere and put

15:31

him that sort of drab,

15:33

like olive-y, olive color.

15:37

Yeah, even when he got arrested in Atlanta, it

15:39

was like they let him show up and just

15:41

kind of do a drive-through booking. That nigga wasn't

15:43

even really there, so. They

15:45

didn't even put the bracelets on him, did they? The

15:47

rules are very different for him. As much as people

15:50

want to act like the

15:52

justice system is equal across

15:55

the board when dealing with all defendants,

15:57

it clearly is not. I

16:00

don't, I mean, I

16:02

hope, I truly do hope something comes

16:04

up this, but I won't be shocked

16:06

if it doesn't. Cause look, look at this nigga.

16:09

Y'all live through the presidency. I'm just kind of hoping for

16:12

a meteor at this point, you know? Or, you know, just

16:15

something to just sort of kill him a little

16:17

bit. Not

16:20

a person, but maybe a, just

16:22

cause I don't want y'all to get in trouble, but

16:24

maybe some sort of medical emergency. Remember

16:27

when he had COVID, me and Jade really

16:29

got hyped cause the nigga was talking about

16:31

the vaccine. That didn't even do nothing. No.

16:34

And she is 213 years old. Like

16:38

we be giving Biden all this, you

16:40

know, hell about being old boots and

16:42

stuff. Cause it like shows more. Right.

16:45

But they are both ancient. Yeah.

16:48

That's just because I don't

16:50

think Joe Biden goes to the

16:52

med spa like Trump does. Trump's they

16:55

get nipped and tucked and Botox and

16:57

all that other shit down. Waste training.

17:01

He probably owns Zimpy, all that shit. So I

17:04

don't, I think that's really cause Trump is only

17:06

like four or five years younger than Joe Biden.

17:09

He's not no young man. And it shows when

17:11

he speaks. Right. So I

17:13

don't, it's just Biden can't speak. And

17:15

then those are the spectrum. That's like

17:17

different sides of all. Biden be acting

17:19

like he owned this show, starting off

17:21

a sentence, talking about one thing. And

17:25

then just you end up talking

17:27

about the price of oranges down the Kroger and

17:29

you're like, how did we get here? Exactly. Joe

17:31

Biden's mind wanders like that. Of

17:34

him turning back when they asked him

17:36

like, Oh, they were like, Oh, Trump.

17:38

And he sort of like, that was

17:40

a short circuit. I wasn't like a,

17:43

it wasn't. He wasn't

17:45

being shady or funny or nothing. That man

17:48

turned around, stopped, forgot what happened that fast

17:50

and then had to play it off and

17:52

walk away. Perfect.

17:55

Yeah. Good

17:59

luck to everybody. female

18:02

rap has had a week. Yikes.

18:07

I'll start with the one I guess that

18:09

sort of has a happier conclusion.

18:11

Megan Thee

18:14

Stallion had an issue in Atlanta

18:17

when she arrived for her

18:20

hot girl concert on

18:23

this past Saturday, I believe. She

18:27

was forced to cancel the show due

18:31

to Atlanta overall

18:33

just, I

18:36

guess the water just... What

18:40

happened? The mayor declared a state

18:42

of emergency. There was a main

18:44

break somewhere and the massive water

18:46

issue that left

18:49

whole parts of downtown without water. You

18:53

know, people and... Yep, all

18:55

of them. It was

18:57

going down. Apparently

19:02

someone from

19:05

the venue or someplace initially said

19:07

that this would be fine, Megan

19:09

could perform. And then, you

19:12

know, they said that minds

19:15

were changed and the show was canceled about

19:18

30 minutes before the doors were supposed to

19:20

open. And that was a blast and so

19:22

much fun for everyone. So

19:27

she kind of laughed about it on

19:30

Instagram. I think she

19:32

posted a rehearsal

19:34

clip or something on the stage or whatever

19:37

to capture something like until I figure out

19:39

a resolution. There was very much live

19:41

and direct dealing with issues. The

19:46

show was rescheduled to the following Monday,

19:48

the third of June. I

19:52

saw clips of that as well. It looked like

19:54

it was a fun show. I'm sure there were plenty

19:57

of people who were supposed to go see the show

19:59

who couldn't make it. make it still for one reason

20:01

or the next, especially because it was

20:03

a week day. But

20:07

who did make the show was every

20:12

housewife I don't give a damn about from Atlanta,

20:15

each one, every one of

20:17

the bitches I don't give a fuck about

20:19

being anywhere. Right

20:22

there. Me, myself, K. Fury. Right.

20:25

But she seemed like, Megan seemed like she

20:27

was having a ball with them. Yes. She

20:30

appreciated that. She called them out by name in that video.

20:32

Right. She said, Sharae,

20:35

Phaedra, like girl what you want

20:37

these niggas to do? Ha ha ha ha ha ha

20:39

ha. Sharae over

20:41

there getting a fake out there, Dr.

20:44

It, Phaedra bouncing around between different reality

20:46

shows going wherever anybody will take her

20:48

like. I mean what else she? But

20:50

Megan- Hershey was good on the traders.

20:54

Megan was, she was lit up. Adds

20:56

up, I've never watched that, but Phaedra,

20:58

Trader, I, yeah. Sounds like a good

21:00

match for her. Yeah, it does. Peanut

21:02

butter and jelly. Peanut butter and peanut

21:05

butter. And Lotto came out, Lotto was

21:07

there. Oh yeah, I thought

21:09

she brought out Lotto. Yeah,

21:11

she, you know, Atlanta, that makes sense.

21:15

I saw a couple of the videos of

21:17

being backstage thrown ass with Flo Milly and,

21:19

and Glorilla. I loved it. And I was

21:21

like, look at these girls generally having a

21:23

good time. Each one of these relevant female

21:26

rappers who

21:29

seem to be genuinely enjoying one

21:31

another's time without compromise

21:34

or strings. Yeah.

21:38

Nicki Minaj was arrested in

21:40

Amsterdam quite

21:43

recently after apparently the

21:49

man rolled up on her over

21:52

some pre-rolls or something. She had some weed

21:54

on her. They

21:58

said it was the. and

22:01

security guards, pre-rolls, something like that.

22:03

Anyway, she kind of like live

22:05

streamed the entire situation with these

22:08

white people who literally

22:10

threw her in the chokey. Like

22:12

they, the

22:14

way that they slammed this door was just like,

22:16

okay, y'all are trying to be funny. And

22:21

for what? And you know what, the thing about

22:23

this that kind of like, the

22:26

reason I shook my head so ferociously

22:28

is because personally I

22:31

had just come across a tweet

22:36

or a three, one of the damn,

22:38

whatever. I came across somebody just

22:42

a few days prior to that who

22:46

would, had like posted a clip of her

22:48

show in Amsterdam,

22:50

I think, made the first one. And

22:53

the caption was something to the effect of why

22:57

do we put Nicki

22:59

Minaj in the same conversation

23:02

as like a Beyonce or Taylor Swift

23:04

or all these other people. Cause they're

23:06

selling out stadiums across the world and

23:08

she sold out like something,

23:11

something, thousand C Arena in Amsterdam.

23:13

And I was like, we

23:16

can line this person up and

23:18

the next person up for so

23:20

many reasonable things. This

23:22

black girl, rap girl sold

23:24

out an arena in

23:27

Amsterdam, racist ass Netherlands. Can

23:29

we not just let her have a good

23:31

time with these people who came to see

23:34

her? And like, why do we even, like

23:36

for what? Why y'all always gotta make a

23:38

thread, quote a thread about some old irrelevant

23:40

ass shit. Like what, like I was literally

23:42

just like, this is a

23:45

black woman who

23:48

performs primarily music

23:51

for a black culture. There's pop and other

23:53

things in there obviously, but she's a hip

23:55

hop performer and she sold out. in

24:00

an arena in the

24:02

Netherlands, like let her

24:04

get her tans or whatever and move on. If

24:06

you gonna line her up about it, it can

24:08

be something reasonable. Boom, two days later they're like,

24:12

so we actually have to measure

24:14

those pre-rows, me-gris. So you're

24:17

under arrest. I'm

24:20

like, this is exactly what the fuck I'm talking about. I

24:22

ain't gonna fuck, but this lady is black. They don't give

24:24

a fuck, that weed is legal, whatever

24:27

the fucking situation is. You're in the airport, you're not.

24:30

I mean, yes, obviously, right? Right.

24:33

But I was just like, this is so funny to me that

24:35

it was just like, I was just

24:37

thinking about this very

24:39

situation and here it go. So yes,

24:42

I don't know what, especially

24:45

because I think she had another show in

24:48

Amsterdam or something, so I'm not sure

24:50

where she was even going or whatnot.

24:53

From Manchester, they trying to keep her

24:55

from Manchester. Oh, I didn't want to. Oh

24:58

yeah, she said that this is all

25:00

a big scheme, that Todd set up. And

25:04

they're being paid big money to sabotage her tour

25:06

because people are mad that it's successful and they

25:08

can't eat off of her. So. I

25:10

was like, girl, so you didn't even need to

25:12

bring pre-rows because you're clearly high, but it's not.

25:16

And like, fine, it's Amsterdam.

25:19

Like, duh. Right,

25:22

but. But yeah, you cannot fly.

25:24

You cannot, no. What

25:26

took me down was when she, first of all, she was like,

25:28

oh yeah, this is Amsterdam where weed is legal. It's like, we

25:31

all know that, but also they're

25:33

very clear about what you can do

25:35

at the airport and it's not take

25:37

their product out. So. Also,

25:41

let's just keep it a buck. First of all, I've

25:44

been to Amsterdam twice. I

25:46

was so high on both of those. I didn't

25:48

need to bring that. I was like, I

25:50

will find it in the States. Girl,

25:52

there was nothing. I'm

25:55

already going to be high for the rest of the week. Like,

25:59

but all. Yeah, yeah. It's

26:02

not like record breaking one

26:04

of a kind weed. I

26:08

mean, it's good. It's more of

26:10

the culture around weed that's so

26:12

nice. Exactly. It is the fact

26:14

that you can go and get all of the weed.

26:16

They go to the coffee shop where they have more

26:19

weed and put weed

26:21

in your coffee. And then

26:23

they also have shrooms. Like the girl, it's the

26:25

fact that yes, you can just go about your

26:27

day and motherfuckers are just all riding bikes and

26:29

living on, riding bikes and living on boats and

26:32

just getting high from the morning to, you know,

26:34

dusk. Literally living in

26:36

a Hans Christian Andersen book. That is the, you

26:38

get up and you go to the coffee shop

26:40

and you have a nice morning beverage, coffee or

26:42

tea or whatever you want. They got a little

26:44

snacks and shit and you smoke your little weed.

26:46

And they have a lot of spots like that

26:48

around Amsterdam where you can go eat food and

26:51

smoke, play games like bars and stuff. Yes. It's

26:53

more of that. The weed is nice.

26:55

Yes, you could do a lot worse,

26:57

but it's more of how much fun

26:59

and how social you get to be

27:01

outside with it that makes Amsterdam so

27:03

appealing. So it was just funny to

27:05

me that she mentioned that this was

27:07

Amsterdam. Like girl, no airports will let

27:09

you do this. So not even Amsterdam.

27:11

And Amsterdam will warn you because you've

27:14

been frolicking around their fucking canals and

27:16

their rolling hills and valleys and shit.

27:18

You may have forgotten the rules. Exactly.

27:22

You may have forgotten you still have some on

27:24

you. Right. Which is extremely

27:26

bad. And so, I mean,

27:28

do I think they probably

27:30

did the most behind this because she was black?

27:33

I'm sure. I'm not saying the number. Yes. It's

27:35

like not racist. But when she said they took

27:37

her luggage without consent, I was like, do you

27:39

know what it means to be airport security girl?

27:41

They don't need to. Yeah, and that's why I

27:43

was like, I had to clock out of some

27:45

of it because it was like, it's

27:49

bad enough that it's happening, but

27:52

you like making it into like

27:55

a conspiracy. It's

27:57

a little embarrassing. Right. It

27:59

could just be. We had a couple of

28:01

pre-rolls and now they doing all this and I'm sitting in a

28:03

jail cell. I mean, yeah, but

28:06

they could have been like... And I'm a famous

28:08

bad black bitch with a bright pink wig on

28:10

or whatever, so they was gonna look

28:12

east my ass anyway. They was gonna look me up and

28:14

down anyway. Oh, like,

28:17

yeah, I don't know. I

28:19

just feel like Nicki would

28:22

have access to good weed regardless that I

28:24

don't know why you would need to fly

28:26

with it. Right, everywhere. I believe that it's

28:28

somebody on her team who has some pre-rolls

28:30

or whatever on him and wasn't thinking... I

28:33

fully believe this and this could have happened.

28:35

I have to. Yeah, because Nicki

28:38

Minaj, I just... I have

28:40

to believe can get weed anywhere she goes.

28:43

Anywhere that she wants. So it's not... I

28:45

feel like she could have them just grow

28:48

it for her. Right. I

28:50

don't think it's that... I don't think it's some

28:53

big conspiracy to keep her out of Manchester that

28:55

sounds... Certainly not. Certainly not. Right, I don't think

28:57

it's that. But do I think it might have

28:59

been OD? Of course, of course, because it's like,

29:01

y'all... If it really was

29:03

just a few pre-rolls, then all they had to do was pull

29:05

it out and be like, you can't have this and throw it

29:07

away. But, like, talk about how they had to weigh them. I

29:12

said, wait, what? Right. So

29:15

I would not be... So they're fully trying to

29:17

make you miss your flight, Mimi. Yeah, we will

29:19

definitely make an example out of you. I wouldn't

29:21

be surprised at that, but the rest of this, like, girl, I'm gonna have to do it. But

29:25

the rest of this, like,

29:27

girl... Girl, they slammed that

29:30

goddamn door on her. And they

29:32

gave her bread crust and dirty

29:34

water. Like she was

29:36

an Azkaban, sis. Wow,

29:41

pre-rolls? Oh.

29:43

Okay. Yeah,

29:45

that was amazing. Well, if

29:47

it is somebody's pre-rolls or whatever, that they left

29:50

them there, surely they need to be fired. Because,

29:53

girl, what? Whoever

29:55

did that... They handled her like,

29:57

napping. I

30:00

think she's not even on charges. They just gave her

30:02

a fine and now she's done. Exactly. Of course, but

30:04

it was just like, they

30:07

really like, they said you

30:09

are under arrest and detained her in

30:12

like a van. What? Right,

30:14

if it really was just pre-rolls, it's nowhere

30:17

near that serious. Especially because weed

30:19

is legal in Amsterdam, why wouldn't you just

30:21

throw it away? Just throw it away. Or

30:24

put it in your own fucking pocket.

30:26

Put that again. I was a little

30:28

confused. Yeah,

30:33

no, it was confusing. The coverage was

30:35

a bit upsetting, so I just had

30:37

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download it today. Get started. Cardi

34:10

B, uh. I'm so glad, because that is

34:12

exactly what I was going to bring up.

34:14

Cardi B, uh. Mm.

34:19

I, it just got to

34:21

a point where I said, oh, yeah. Cardi's

34:24

three years old. And I just put my phone down. Mm.

34:29

I don't, OK. Hell,

34:32

because I have to like, the

34:35

way that I do not care, like, I,

34:37

what? So

34:40

there's a remix. And

34:42

you are the one who, I didn't even know this.

34:45

Yeah. The show that you went

34:47

to, the Megan concert, is

34:49

the one that Cardi B joins that Megan,

34:51

the Guerrilla, and the Megalord. And, you know,

34:54

uh, Guerrilla like

34:56

teased this remix. It

34:58

was a remix to Wannabe, which

35:00

features Megan on Guerrilla's latest

35:03

mixtape. I don't know what

35:05

these things are called anymore. Mixtape EP.

35:07

Who knows? Anything. I think it's a

35:09

mixtape. Either way, I

35:12

love that song. I love that song. I

35:14

love the original song a lot. That

35:18

is not my nigga, don't claim him. That's

35:20

my favorite line. I love that

35:22

part. But you know what? One of my

35:24

other favorite parts of the fuck is that one. Do

35:27

I look like fucking Superwoman? I

35:35

like Gloam. I love Gloam.

35:37

Anyway, she's just funny. She's

35:42

like, honestly, I'll circle back.

35:46

OK. So

35:49

Cardi B is on the remix. She

35:51

opens the song and, you

35:53

know, has this very

35:56

Cardi verse. Looking

35:59

good. Um, bitches

36:01

want my doctor. Uh,

36:04

I'm being subbed. I'm rich.

36:06

I'm fine. Um,

36:08

what's the line about being in a

36:11

car, a rat nigga bought her? Uh,

36:14

you know, a cardi-ism. Yes. It

36:17

is a very cardi-verse. Fun to ask our music.

36:19

Literally that. I'm fine.

36:21

Um, from the end of the verse is

36:23

something along the lines of, she did what

36:25

I had no idea. I thought she was

36:28

on the shelf Ikea. Hope

36:30

she talk like that when I see her bitch,

36:32

please don't nobody want to be a weak

36:35

looking ass. So something looking at so

36:37

great. She said great value me looking

36:39

at. So,

36:42

yep, that was it pretty

36:44

much. So this is apparently

36:46

directed at beer folks

36:50

home. Bia is also a rapper. She

36:53

wraps. And

36:58

so for whatever

37:01

reason, these two don't care for

37:03

each other and it's enough that

37:05

I guess cardi gives a fuck

37:07

to acknowledge her. Um,

37:11

so apparently they've been trading subs

37:14

for quite some time, including

37:16

pressure over both of them using a

37:18

sample by a

37:21

completely other female rapper, Missy

37:23

Elliott. And

37:27

just typical female rap nonsense.

37:31

Oh, you're going to be like me.

37:33

Oh, I wore that first. Oh, I

37:35

used that be. None

37:39

of the songs are better than she's a bitch. None

37:41

of the songs. I don't care. Like who

37:43

gives a fuck who use the sample first.

37:45

It was another nigga who also sampled it

37:48

and said that cardi was copying her. The

37:50

none of these are it is not your

37:52

song and none of y'all have cleared the

37:54

original who cares who jumped on the sample

37:56

first. Right. Like,

38:02

fuck y'all, you be talking. Anyway, so then

38:05

I actually don't know which one of these

38:07

things came first. I know that Bia recorded

38:11

herself on Instagram live. She was in

38:13

the studio and she posted a clip

38:17

of a Cardi B diss record. Yeah,

38:22

so Cardi went live first. Okay,

38:25

I wasn't sure who went live first. I

38:28

know Cardi had an extensive live video where she

38:30

was post plain clips of stuff. And I wasn't

38:33

sure if that came before the other thing. And

38:35

she said, if you lie about my pussy, make

38:37

sure you know what you're talking about. Because one

38:39

thing I will do is sue you hoes. So

38:43

I thought that the suit, okay,

38:46

so the lawsuit threat came before

38:48

the diss preview. Cardi

38:51

played this little snippet of

38:53

this, Bia diss

38:56

track or whatever, where she is

38:58

talking about like, oh, you can't be mad at

39:00

Offset for cheating because you been cheating.

39:03

And allegedly has

39:05

a sex tape of Cardi with some other

39:07

nigga. And right.

39:11

So that's why Cardi was like, okay, now, you know

39:13

one thing about me, I do sue the hoes

39:15

for lying. So please

39:18

don't. Right. So

39:21

please don't play with me. So then Bia got on

39:24

Instagram live and was like, I'm actually finna just play

39:26

the whole song, which I wish she had not. I

39:28

sat there and listened to it because, you

39:30

know, this is my job. But

39:33

I desperately wanted to turn it off. Nigga,

39:41

when I tell you. When Drake laughed over Bia

39:44

or Drezi, I was like, I don't, but

39:48

I guess I should have an opinion. People are

39:50

talking about it. I mean, at

39:52

least you. I cannot believe

39:54

she's so confidently sat

39:57

on Beyonce's internet, gleefully.

40:00

played whatever that was. God,

40:03

it was bad. And like stood ten behind it.

40:06

Bopping the whole time in the background like

40:08

she really knew it something. Wasn't

40:10

rapping along to the lyrics that you wrote. And

40:14

you sound bad on the recording. Like you sound

40:16

like you having trouble keeping up with the beat

40:18

on the track. Like you- But

40:21

you're talking about people keeping up with beats. And

40:24

somebody said, oh- It's not eating. Get

40:26

in the booth or you know, like get off Twitter and get

40:28

in the booth. And she was like, oh, y'all don't want me

40:30

in the booth, baby. My pen is really like that. And I

40:33

said, okay, first of all- Like what?

40:35

First of all- Please

40:42

don't play yourself further, Miss Girl.

40:45

Is this the pen of which you speak?

40:47

Is it- was the pen present

40:49

on this track? Because when I tell

40:52

you within 15 seconds, I wanted to

40:54

turn it off. And then I looked and I saw

40:56

that video was almost- It was almost three minutes long.

40:58

I said, I

41:00

really have to- It's

41:03

horrible. It's truly terrible.

41:06

Like she's- Like Cardi

41:08

B haters were eating up the culture

41:10

wave part, which is like, when

41:13

you are a rap- This is me. Okay.

41:17

I want y'all to hear me, right? Because

41:20

it does not gag me that y'all

41:22

like really be

41:24

putting the word bar over stuff

41:26

that is not eating it up.

41:31

Let's walk through the culture wave thing. Because first

41:33

I don't even know why she mentioned it in

41:35

this girl, this lady kids, because again, I don't

41:37

even know if these two have ever met one

41:39

another or why they don't

41:41

like each other. It's fucking stupid, but

41:43

fine. Let's examine the

41:45

fact that we are talking about a rap

41:48

bitch from the hood who

41:50

named one of her child's culture and

41:53

the other one wave. You

41:56

using them to mean

41:58

culture and wave. on

42:00

a song, it's not impressive. Those

42:04

are their names. Like

42:06

that's, what do you think of those names

42:08

were inspired by? It would have been more

42:10

impressive if you used culture to me, some

42:12

like probiotics and wave to mean ocean. Something

42:16

that it don't obviously the fuck means.

42:18

I'm tired, I'm tired. I don't care

42:20

about, I'm not. What

42:23

really took me down about

42:25

this song was that Bea

42:28

acted like we was supposed to

42:30

give a fuck if Cardi actually

42:32

did cheat on offset. Can we

42:34

discuss it? Can we dive into

42:36

that room? Can we get into

42:38

that space to that lead these

42:41

living quarters? So let's

42:43

say, let's

42:45

say throughout all of the stuff

42:47

we know that that lady got

42:49

her fuck on in her house.

42:52

How I'm supposed to feel? What'd

42:55

you think that mean? There's no way

42:58

in the world you think that we

43:00

really give a fuck if she cheated

43:02

on that man who has cheated on

43:04

her multiple times. There's no way you

43:06

think I care about that at all,

43:08

girl. It's like you

43:10

can lie. I be begging the girls to

43:12

cheat back. The girls at, and

43:15

you be, and what are we talking about? Why

43:17

are you even discussing this lady pussy when you

43:20

don't fucking know her? You could have easily jumped

43:22

in the room on, you

43:24

know, your accent is so heavy that a lot of

43:27

times I don't even really be knowing what that punch line is

43:29

or what you be saying. I have to, I think she did

43:31

say that. Did

43:33

she? But you can

43:35

get to the thing. Because there's

43:38

one, I don't remember if it's like

43:40

that or if it's enough, but there's

43:42

one song where she says something about

43:45

the gang hit that pussy and they said it was

43:47

regular degular. And like, she

43:50

didn't. Like Anunciation was not on her

43:52

side in that case. Cardi

43:54

has that issue quite a bit. You

43:57

know what I mean? The beat

43:59

thing again. And I don't

44:01

know how many times Cardi

44:04

has chased a beat. I'm

44:06

sure there are examples. I'm not interested

44:09

in dick writing anybody. Like

44:11

that would have again been a

44:13

fine angle if

44:17

you weren't also chasing the beat. You know what

44:20

I'm saying? So it's like, you don't really have

44:22

no space to talk about nobody's rap or writing

44:24

skills. Cause it's a whole

44:26

lot of money in this motherfucker. Isn't

44:28

that her? I put on

44:30

my jewelry just to go to a double take

44:33

out. Like it can't be the same

44:35

girl talking about her pain is really like that. You

44:38

can't, I just want

44:40

everybody to avoid comparing themselves or even the

44:42

appearance of comparing themselves to Kendrick Lamar and

44:45

what he can do. Cause you really gonna

44:47

embarrass yourself. But why did

44:49

you make that be so blatantly like,

44:54

what you can call it? Like

44:56

Kendrick's record. Well, we

45:01

won't get the answers to these questions. I

45:04

just don't. This is giving press. It

45:06

was extremely ineffective. Yes. It's almost like

45:09

somebody else is really behind whatever this

45:11

tension is between the two of them.

45:13

And it's not organic because Cardi herself

45:15

said that she never had no issues

45:18

with Bia until all of this shit started

45:20

popping off. Bia had no issues with her.

45:22

Bia used to be tweeting a whole

45:25

bunch of support and loving her. Let's

45:27

do a Latina girl record together. It

45:29

would eat that. She got a

45:31

Nicki Minaj feature. She deleted all the teeth. There we

45:33

go. It's not a shade. It's not a gag. This

45:35

is a thing that happened. Do

45:37

I believe that Nicki Minaj is twirling

45:39

her mustache somewhere and gassing this? No,

45:42

I don't. I think that a lot

45:44

of the time y'all let stand accounts

45:46

and y'all let like, you know, certain

45:49

temperatures gas you into doing dumb shit.

45:51

You know what I'm saying? And Bia

45:53

has been around for a minute. You

45:59

know, so you kind of. whatever

46:01

is going to kind of, I think,

46:04

get something over, get some eyes and

46:06

ears over in that direction is probably

46:08

beneficial for you now. I wouldn't be

46:10

surprised if it's niggas in

46:12

your camp that

46:15

are gassing you up to beef up

46:17

with this girl while some other people

46:19

might point it to the next female

46:21

rapper or, you know, to Miss Pink.

46:23

It's probably niggas in your own

46:25

team or in your own camp trying to

46:27

gas you up to do this shit. Me

46:30

and my homegirls are laughing about your tattoos

46:33

in our group chat. Do you have embarrassing

46:35

guesses? Oh my God, I thought you didn't,

46:38

why would you say that? The song not even

46:40

good, like you didn't even eat. You didn't eat.

46:42

But people are going to tell you that you

46:44

eat just because of the fucking

46:47

Captain America, civil

46:49

war ass state of a

46:52

female rap. Where it's like, I hate that bitch. So

46:54

anybody else who got something to say about her, you

46:57

ate. No. No,

46:59

it's in your best interest as someone

47:01

who hates this person for no reason

47:04

to uplift the stuff that's actually good.

47:06

Like the ammunition, because that's not it.

47:08

It's not. And then being like, oh,

47:11

me and my homegirls all like they're just eating. It

47:14

was fine, but it wasn't great.

47:17

It was just there. So. And

47:20

you still. To

47:22

be like, yeah, me and my homegirls, I'll be in

47:25

the group chat talking about you and talking about your

47:27

tattoos. And we just think you're giving dirty even after

47:29

you've had a bath. Like it's first of all, is

47:31

that supposed to be a read? And

47:34

secondly, you mean to tell me you and

47:36

your homegirl sit up and talk about me.

47:40

Y'all sit up and discuss me because I

47:42

can promise you you can go through every

47:44

message in my phone. I've never talked about

47:47

you. So why are you and

47:49

your homegirls in your group chat dissecting my

47:51

tattoos is giving press. And then you told

47:53

us about it. Why would you do that?

47:58

You don't understand what you look like right now. great

48:00

value Cardi B at all. I always thought you look

48:02

more like a great value Paula Patton and

48:04

I still feel that way. This

48:08

whole thing, I'm like

48:10

this is not even at least Kendrick

48:12

gave me something I could listen to.

48:15

Neither one, I didn't want to press

48:17

replay on neither one of y'all's verses.

48:21

Not one of

48:23

them. Speaking of Drake though. Do

48:26

we have to? I was just gonna ask if you

48:28

had heard it because you know this is the music

48:30

of your people. It

48:32

truly is hate and it's actually

48:34

disrespectful that you would say something

48:37

so heinous and so ugly especially

48:39

after having a celebratory event at

48:41

a Jamaican restaurant in Brooklyn. Wow

48:43

I hope that y'all at home

48:46

heard that. That

48:49

bullshit that that man just did has absolutely

48:51

nothing to do with the island of my

48:53

people and that's the point. That's the point.

48:57

That's the point. I don't know why he allowed

49:00

this record to come out now of all

49:02

times because I would have called Snow Day

49:04

or whatever that man's hot make snowstorm. I

49:06

would have called her and say push it

49:09

back. I've the girls already

49:12

told you that I send cease and desist. Don't

49:14

make me have to do this. This is not the time.

49:16

Now it is

49:19

obviously like a

49:22

comedy song. It is meant

49:24

to be like not

49:26

taken seriously. Obviously. The

49:29

thing though is I think that it is

49:33

comedy that is very very

49:35

very specific to niggas from

49:37

Canada. Okay

49:40

okay. Or

49:42

just people who want to laugh at Drake right now

49:44

I guess. Which

49:46

is yeah the rest of

49:48

us. Like I don't get you being in on

49:50

the joke and not Canadian

49:53

because first of all I don't know

49:55

y'all talking about Jamaican besides like Wagwan

49:57

and bear traffic I don't know. What

50:01

the fuck these niggas were talking about? Cheezing

50:04

and cheezing and all this.

50:06

I don't speak that. I

50:08

don't speak that. Okay?

50:11

And the thing about it that really gags me is

50:14

like, I don't feel like I have this issue when it comes

50:16

to British niggas, when it comes to the UK niggas. Cause

50:19

it's a very similar thing when it

50:21

comes to them as also a very

50:23

ridiculous Jamaican population and you know,

50:25

London and those places as well. But

50:29

you Torontonians, it's something

50:34

where they sound like NPCs in

50:37

a game that AI made about

50:39

Jamaica. Yikes. Okay.

50:43

Harsh but fair. And like have

50:45

fun with it. You know, sometimes

50:47

it's that was, what

50:52

is that one clip of that white girl where she was

50:54

just like, you left your mom's in the hood. Somebody

50:57

go smoke that dude fam. You

51:01

don't leave your mom's, no, you got money and you left your

51:03

mom's in the hood. Yo, you're sick

51:05

to my stomach fam. Like I think that's

51:07

hilarious. Oh wow. I've

51:09

never heard it in my life. But this,

51:13

I heard it and I was like, this

51:18

exists. I know you wanna

51:20

be. And I'm sure that

51:24

someone, you know, someone

51:28

in, what do they call us?

51:30

Our neighbors up North or whatever.

51:33

Someone's up there probably having

51:35

a good time with that. I'm

51:38

sure they find it very funny. It

51:41

reminds me of, you know,

51:45

that ridiculous person and he's

51:47

continued consistently collaborating

51:50

with sexy red and when she

51:52

did a

51:55

thousand jugs, whoo.

52:00

She took a thousand miles by

52:02

the Massacarlton. Yep,

52:05

that's who it is. We

52:08

did another nigger remix. We already

52:10

had one. Yeah,

52:12

she did one. Sexy Red did one ages and

52:14

ages ago. And it's like, oh,

52:17

this is like a joke song.

52:21

That one, again, I get a little

52:23

bit more of the joke because I

52:26

understand like Black

52:28

American and

52:32

the hood is a bit more, I

52:37

recognize that accent,

52:40

even though I'm not from where she's

52:42

from. I

52:46

know what she's saying. Like this,

52:48

I was just like, okay,

52:51

they decided that this should come out and exist

52:53

and it does now. All right, the amount of

52:55

people who were in my fucking mentions like, how

52:57

do you feel about this, this is so- This

52:59

has nothing to do with your makings. It has

53:02

nothing to do with us. Stop

53:04

it. Stop

53:06

it. Oh man, you know how

53:08

when your mood is already kind of low

53:10

or fucked up, every little thing pisses you

53:12

off that much? Do I? Do

53:15

I? Do I? It was

53:17

a hypothetical question. I

53:22

can give you a list of the people that

53:25

I have disrespected in the past 24 hours, just

53:27

in the wild, because I don't give a fuck.

53:29

Okay. Everybody's getting eight of

53:31

us. It's that time. It's that time.

53:35

When I saw Waguandal Island, I

53:37

said there's no way the Jamaicans

53:39

are gonna appreciate this. There

53:41

is no, where is Adonis? That's

53:44

spotty because I feel

53:47

like Jamaican Americans are

53:50

the ones who are usually like, ew, stop

53:52

it. Like hardcore

53:54

fed bread, still, Baka-ya

53:56

Jamaicans. They just love

53:58

that people. People love

54:01

them. They be thinking, like

54:03

think of Adele and Selena Deon. Selene

54:05

Deon won't even think I've ever said

54:07

Jamaica. Like they just- They went up

54:09

for Adele and them band too nuts. They love

54:11

it. And then she making flag bikini, they did.

54:14

They love it. I

54:16

loved it. So

54:20

it's spotty sometimes. That was fun, you know,

54:22

she was, wasn't she dating a Jamaican? So

54:24

she was into it, she was into it,

54:26

but. Yeah, so do. This

54:29

is, yeah, I'm

54:31

sorry. You know about Chet Hanks and

54:33

how many Jamaicans that did not bother.

54:37

Probably would've told us to shut our

54:39

fat asses up and let him enjoy

54:41

Jamaican culture and appreciate. Probably, did. Did,

54:45

did. Literally

54:49

did. I'm

54:52

like, girl, okay. But that song specifically,

54:54

when I listen to it, I'm like,

54:56

okay, I know, again, no

54:59

che, there are, there's a huge Jamaican.

55:01

I have lots of family in like,

55:04

not, I don't know if I have family in Toronto.

55:06

I have family in, I don't know if it's

55:08

Quebec or Montreal, but I know I have

55:10

family in Canada, tons of Jamaicans there. So

55:13

it's just a part, like a lot of,

55:17

a lot of Jamaican parts was like a part

55:19

of their slang and stuff like that, which is

55:21

fine. So it doesn't

55:25

bother me as

55:27

much, here's the

55:29

specifics of that. Actually, I'm enjoying unpacking

55:31

this because it's specific to Drake. It

55:33

has nothing to do with the Torontonian

55:36

accent or any Canadian accent. It's like

55:38

Drake wouldn't just say, Wagwan, this, this,

55:40

then, a third. He'll then come out

55:43

in like, you know, a

55:45

Rasta Marina and have

55:47

like, like Buju

55:49

Bantan come and perform with him and

55:52

start like wearing a costume as he

55:54

does with a lot of things. Your

55:56

culture as a joke. I

55:59

don't think that that's. It's like the

56:01

thing by and large when you hear

56:03

the stuff. So

56:05

again, when I listen to this song, I'm like, this

56:07

doesn't sound like them emulating Jamaican people,

56:09

it sounds like the way that certain

56:12

people from Canada speak. And this

56:14

is probably meant to be really

56:16

funny to them. And because

56:18

I'm not one of them, I don't get it.

56:21

And so a lot of people are, I

56:23

saw a lot of people like, Drake's good,

56:25

Kendrick destroyed his artistry.

56:28

Why would he? This is a funny,

56:30

it's supposed to be a funny song. You probably just don't

56:33

get it because it's not funny for you. Right,

56:35

there is that. I mean- And

56:37

I won't gag if someone's like, I'm reporting

56:39

live from the six, it's not funny to

56:42

me either. I don't know. I

56:45

don't know. Like, I

56:48

don't know what a lot of what they were even saying,

56:50

man. Well,

56:55

okay, I'm glad we got your thoughts. You

56:59

started it. I didn't have any intention of it. Well,

57:01

I mean, cause even I got tagged

57:03

in it. So I'm like, I know if they came

57:05

and told me to listen to it, then they was

57:07

on your ass heavy. I'm

57:09

also sexy rated out. I'm

57:11

sick of her. I'm

57:13

tired. Like, I'm just gonna keep it

57:15

a butt. Like, it's been, she, been

57:19

talking about how Trump loved the hood or whatever.

57:22

We tried to, you know, not we, but

57:24

the girls key feed around that. Just be like,

57:26

oh, she a little stupid. Y'all don't worry about

57:29

it. And now they're gagging. And

57:31

now they shocked at this giant

57:33

maggot on stage. Using translers

57:36

for fun, being an

57:38

overall tasteless, classless dumb

57:40

ass, thinking that

57:42

you were gonna take the rap shit song and go

57:45

give it to Drake and then not get cleared. I'm

57:47

done. I'm having

57:49

all the hood fun that I need with

57:51

Glorilla. Aint need the fuck way?

57:53

That's really it. And Glorilla's political view is,

57:57

at the end of the day, the day gotta end.

58:00

The end. And I'll agree. Yeah.

58:04

I actually think that's the end. I'm tired

58:06

of this other one. She can actually get

58:08

missing. I think Trump

58:11

is in her pocket just like Amber Rose actually.

58:13

Because she's been heavy on this Trump shit for

58:15

a while. And I think all they needed was

58:17

that one clip to then

58:19

fully run with. I wouldn't be shocked.

58:21

Why is she on stage at white

58:23

country artist shows and shit? Like what's

58:25

going on? What is this with white

58:28

certain segments of like country conservative

58:30

or whatever white people embracing sexy red

58:33

because she is. Nevermind. I'm also over

58:35

it and I don't these kids. Kaya

58:38

like girl, you're literally getting played. You

58:40

are. You are. Google

58:44

token racial and

58:46

see like that's you. That's you. What

58:48

are you doing? But I actually

58:51

thought especially with the thousand jugs song was like,

58:53

Oh, this is like a social

58:55

experiment. One

58:58

day she go wipe off these tattoos and these

59:00

piercings and stuff are going to be fake. And

59:02

she don't have like, you

59:04

know, a blowout and be like, I just really

59:06

wanted to see, you know,

59:08

what blah, blah, blah would give. Right. But

59:12

the truth of the matter is no,

59:14

you're a spectacle. You say ridiculous ghetto

59:16

things on songs to, you know, a

59:18

beat. And there's one thousand and 10

59:20

percent of space for that. The same way there's a space

59:22

for Nikki Rico, nasty Rhapsody and all these other girls that

59:24

are nothing alike. Right. But

59:27

you're not going to get on my motherfucking line and be talking

59:29

about the hood loves Trump

59:31

and be like, you can use slurs for

59:33

the girls and also like take records that

59:35

you ain't right. Beat it. Like

59:40

beat it completely get missing.

59:42

Fuck you. Okay. There's

59:44

more, but I'm done. I don't have anything

59:46

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59:49

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Send your questions to AskTheRead@gmail.com. We

1:00:46

may read them aloud on the show. Um,

1:00:49

I've got some nice homosexual mess here in

1:00:51

honor of Pride Month. Yeah. Uh,

1:00:55

whoo, it's been a, well, let's just,

1:00:58

you know what, let's just, let's just dive right into

1:01:00

it. This first letter comes from

1:01:03

Janelle who says, I

1:01:05

met my wife Tessa on Hinge six months

1:01:07

ago. Of course you did, Janelle. Yep. We

1:01:10

were on the same page, about so many

1:01:13

fundamental things up front and immediately hit it off. We

1:01:16

exchanged numbers after a week of messaging on the app and

1:01:18

met in person the next day, watched musicals,

1:01:21

drank Spike Tot chocolate, and spent the night

1:01:23

together. Jesus Christ. Like

1:01:25

what? Okay. We hung out

1:01:28

every weekend after that, either at her place

1:01:30

or mine. Then we decided our first official

1:01:32

date would be a trip to Vegas at

1:01:34

the end of January. After you moved in

1:01:36

together. She planned and paid for everything. This

1:01:39

is so lesbian. This, it is. Jesus

1:01:42

Christ, man. The. Okay.

1:01:49

Before we went on the trip, my friend jokingly said something

1:01:51

about us getting married while we were in Vegas. I

1:01:54

shared with my friend said with Tessa and she said, oh,

1:01:57

well, I have thought about it. And that catapulted. us

1:02:00

down the stereotypical lesbian timeline. No, girl,

1:02:02

let me stop you right there. The

1:02:06

fact that y'all met in person the

1:02:08

next day and spent the night after

1:02:10

watching musicals and drinking hot chocolate, that

1:02:12

kind of put a y'all down the

1:02:14

stereotypical lesbian timeline. Like, what do

1:02:16

y'all be talking about? We

1:02:19

didn't get married in Vegas, but we did

1:02:21

elope shortly after. And then I

1:02:23

U-Hauled from Baltimore to Philly to move in with

1:02:25

her. So we

1:02:29

went from meeting to getting married in about

1:02:31

60 days. We

1:02:37

had a lot of big conversations before committing

1:02:39

to marriage. You need to. I

1:02:42

even showed up on the trip with a pre-wedding

1:02:44

workbook. I made it

1:02:46

very clear up front that my intention

1:02:49

for marriage was for me to be a

1:02:52

housewife. I've done a lot of work on

1:02:54

myself and at this point in my healing

1:02:56

journey, serving capitalism can't be my priority. She

1:02:59

was with it and said the

1:03:01

only way she'd expect me to

1:03:04

get a job was if she

1:03:06

lost hers. Fast

1:03:08

forward to last night when my wife asked

1:03:10

me to move out. She

1:03:13

said she doesn't want to live

1:03:15

together but still wants to be

1:03:17

married. Now, while

1:03:19

I believe that's totally possible, that's not the marriage

1:03:21

I signed up for. She said she's

1:03:24

not even willing to pay my first, last and security

1:03:26

deposit for me to get a place. So I really

1:03:28

don't know what she expects me to do. I'm

1:03:30

a housewife and I spent all my savings to

1:03:32

move here, but she

1:03:34

said living alone is the healthiest option for her

1:03:36

and is ultimately what she wants. So

1:03:39

do I move out? We're married, so she

1:03:41

can't legally put me out, right? Even

1:03:44

if I do move out, it couldn't be for

1:03:46

at least several months while I job hunt, interview,

1:03:48

get hired and collect enough pay stubs to even

1:03:50

qualify for a place. A part of

1:03:52

me just wants to stay here and live

1:03:54

the life that I signed up for, but

1:03:56

the other part doesn't want to stay where

1:03:58

I'm not wanted. This is also triggering because

1:04:00

I've been unstably housed before, thanks to homophobic

1:04:02

parents, and I never thought I'd be in

1:04:04

this kind of situation again. Any advice is

1:04:06

appreciated, thanks, love the show. Janelle.

1:04:12

Okay, so I'm just gonna say one thing. Okay.

1:04:18

I feel like you can probably offer more

1:04:20

assistance anywhere,

1:04:23

because this is lesbian,

1:04:26

the story. Thank you, thank you, thank you,

1:04:29

thank you. So

1:04:31

I just wanna offer

1:04:36

a question, Janelle. When

1:04:39

you think of your wife and you

1:04:41

think of this situation, do

1:04:43

the part of you ever consider that you

1:04:45

do not know this bitch? Ha

1:04:48

ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha

1:04:50

ha ha ha ha ha ha ha. That's

1:04:54

it, I'm done. Janelle's

1:04:57

first line was like, my wife got me fucked up, and

1:04:59

I'm like, do

1:05:04

she? I think y'all got each

1:05:06

other fucked up. I think y'all. So,

1:05:11

okay, first question, do I move out? Yes.

1:05:17

Yeah. We're

1:05:19

married, so she can't legally put me out, right? I have no idea. Please

1:05:23

consult a divorce attorney in your

1:05:25

state for answers

1:05:27

to that question. Probably not though. Or a lesbian in

1:05:29

shirt, because I'm sure one of them can tell you.

1:05:32

She's probably gonna have to initiate divorce proceedings,

1:05:35

and you could probably fight her on that

1:05:37

for a while. So, you know, I think

1:05:39

you should make plans to move out, but

1:05:41

you're right. Practically speaking, it is gonna take

1:05:43

time for you to find a job, make

1:05:46

money, collect stubs, all that. So,

1:05:48

but consult a

1:05:50

divorce attorney about what you legally can

1:05:52

do, your rights and all that. I

1:05:57

want to say... that

1:06:02

I really understand what

1:06:05

it's like to meet a woman that

1:06:07

you click with and things just seem

1:06:09

so great. And you're like, this is what

1:06:11

we do. This is the stereotype. They

1:06:13

talk about us in the movies and TV shows like

1:06:15

this. They depict us this way because this is quite

1:06:17

literally what we do. So I

1:06:20

get it. However, you married somebody

1:06:22

you knew for two months. I

1:06:26

don't care how many

1:06:29

fundamental things y'all were on the same page

1:06:31

about. I don't care if that spiked hot

1:06:33

chocolate was the best thing you had ever

1:06:35

put in her mouth, your mouth until

1:06:38

you had her pussy. Like I don't, it doesn't

1:06:40

matter. Like y'all had so much fun

1:06:43

and all this other shit. Great. Like

1:06:46

that is the newness and the Russia

1:06:48

feelings and all that when dating. That's

1:06:50

a fun thing. Like you should enjoy

1:06:52

those moments. You should enjoy that time.

1:06:55

What you should not do is then

1:06:58

legally hit yourself to

1:07:00

somebody that you have not even known for

1:07:02

a full season. Like

1:07:06

you got married. What y'all y'all met

1:07:08

in December. So you got

1:07:10

married by February. You didn't even know her at

1:07:12

Thanksgiving and you were married by Valentine's day. Sweetie.

1:07:21

I mean, if it's any consolation,

1:07:23

you clearly have it in you

1:07:25

to, you know, go ahead and

1:07:29

divorce and get another wife by

1:07:31

far. I

1:07:36

don't think you should do that, but yes,

1:07:38

Kip here is why you're clearly capable. I

1:07:41

think, um, I

1:07:45

think trusting that somebody you met

1:07:50

eight or nine weeks ago to the

1:07:53

point to take care of you, to take

1:07:55

care of your life, to the point

1:07:57

where you quit your job and spent

1:08:00

all your to leave your city and

1:08:02

move into hers is

1:08:04

a... such a

1:08:06

big sign to me as a therapist that

1:08:08

I feel obligated to tell you to go

1:08:10

find one yourself. Like... Cowboy

1:08:12

Carter is everything in relationship. You...

1:08:15

I... I'm

1:08:22

done. Like, people... I

1:08:24

don't even know why y'all write us this much. You... You

1:08:28

have... You wanna just... You said a

1:08:30

part of you just wants to stay there and live the

1:08:32

life that you signed up for, but if

1:08:35

she doesn't want you in the home, you're

1:08:37

not gonna have the life that you signed

1:08:39

up for, because you probably signed up for

1:08:42

something that's peaceful, loving, kind, supportive, where you

1:08:44

also didn't have to... And that's another thing.

1:08:47

At this point in my healing journey, serving

1:08:49

capitalism can't be my priority. Baby,

1:08:52

I would... Let me

1:08:54

welcome you back to the real world,

1:08:56

where none of us want to prioritize

1:08:58

that, and yet, if we want

1:09:00

a roof over our heads and electricity

1:09:03

in our homes, we

1:09:05

must go to work. There...

1:09:09

It's great. It's great if you're like, that's

1:09:11

my... my goal is to be out of

1:09:13

the working world. My goal is to be

1:09:16

a... a housewife and a mom

1:09:18

or whatever. That's fine if that's what you

1:09:20

want. But wanting that so badly

1:09:22

that you go and get married to somebody,

1:09:24

you just met. Because

1:09:26

she said, oh, yeah, I'll do that. You ain't

1:09:29

gotta get a job unless... Like, baby, you don't

1:09:31

know this girl. She could be a pathological goddamn

1:09:33

liar. Why on earth would

1:09:35

you then trust her with your

1:09:37

health, safety, well-being? Somebody

1:09:40

you literally just met. That's

1:09:43

why you need to... You have got to call

1:09:45

the lady. Um, ASAP.

1:09:47

You've got to find somebody to help you figure

1:09:49

out how you ended up in that place, because

1:09:51

this was... a

1:09:53

bad idea from the very beginning. And from the... When

1:09:55

you said, I met my wife

1:09:58

six months ago... I

1:10:00

knew right then this was going to be an absolute

1:10:02

clusterfuck and it did not disappoint. So

1:10:07

yeah, I mean, I'm sorry that is triggering. I'm sorry

1:10:09

that you had homophobic parents. You were probably kicked out

1:10:11

of the house as a teenager like that. Truly

1:10:14

does. That is truly terrible. But

1:10:17

in the future, I already

1:10:20

don't recommend that women depend on

1:10:22

anybody, male, female or anything else.

1:10:25

I already don't recommend that y'all

1:10:27

completely depend financially on anybody else.

1:10:30

I don't. Yeah. Everybody needs some pocket money to

1:10:32

make their own decisions with and live their own

1:10:34

life with. But in the future, you're definitely going

1:10:36

to have to, if you decide to do this

1:10:38

again, it's going to have to be with somebody

1:10:40

that you've long you've known. I mean,

1:10:44

let's say a year. Let's just say

1:10:46

a year. Let's

1:10:48

just throw that out there. Just not, not

1:10:50

two months, not two months

1:10:53

between seeing you on hinge and calling

1:10:55

you my lawfully wedded. Best

1:11:01

of luck to you, Janelle. But yeah, if

1:11:03

I were you, I would actually start looking

1:11:05

for jobs back home and I would prepare

1:11:07

myself if you have a

1:11:10

fringe chosen family, somebody like that, that you can

1:11:12

crash with. I would probably be trying to do

1:11:14

that. But yeah, chalk

1:11:17

this up as a lesbian mistake and try

1:11:19

to move on with your life. And

1:11:22

the good thing about it is because

1:11:24

you are a queer woman, any future spouse

1:11:26

of yours is probably not going to be

1:11:28

too turned off by this. They're

1:11:32

probably going to be like, oh yeah, haven't we

1:11:34

all wanted to marry a girl we just fucking

1:11:36

met. So it'll be fine.

1:11:38

But I definitely do think you need to

1:11:40

talk through your issues with a therapist because

1:11:43

there's a lot of red flags here in

1:11:45

your, your own behavior, babe. Best of luck

1:11:47

to you though. Our next letter

1:11:49

comes from Jules who says, I recently

1:11:51

found out that my best friend of 30

1:11:53

years has been talking cash about my husband.

1:11:58

Joe and I have been like brother and sister since we were

1:12:00

three. three years old and our dads are best friends too. He's

1:12:03

listed in my will as the person to execute

1:12:05

my estate if my husband and I pass away

1:12:07

at the same time since my husband and I

1:12:09

are both only children. My

1:12:11

husband and I started dating when we were 13 and we

1:12:13

got married shortly after college. Joe was the man

1:12:15

of honor in our wedding and I always thought

1:12:17

he was like a brother to my husband too.

1:12:20

And he's even lived with us a few times

1:12:22

over the years during different life transitions. Like

1:12:24

any couple, my husband and I have had our

1:12:26

share of ups and downs, but I've been careful

1:12:28

not to overshare family and friends because my mama

1:12:30

always says, you might forgive something, but the people

1:12:33

you've told may not. Long

1:12:35

story short, my husband decided to go to the gym one

1:12:37

day when he called out of work. He was taking a

1:12:39

shower in the locker room and when he turned the shower

1:12:41

off, he overheard a familiar voice. It was

1:12:43

my best friend talking in the locker room to his partner

1:12:46

on the phone. My husband is nosy like the

1:12:48

rest of the world so he stayed in the shower to catch the

1:12:50

tea. Imagine his surprise when he

1:12:52

realized the conversation was about him and I, how

1:12:54

my best friend has never really liked my husband,

1:12:56

only tolerates him and felt like I settled for

1:12:58

this life in Illinois instead of going to be

1:13:01

an attorney in LA, which was one of my

1:13:03

childhood dreams. My

1:13:05

husband said that he stayed in the shower and waited

1:13:07

for the, oh, they went on the phone. They was

1:13:09

in the locker room together. Okay, and waited for them

1:13:11

to depart the locker room because he didn't feel the

1:13:13

need to confront my best friend. When

1:13:15

he got home, he told me what happened and

1:13:17

to say I'm floored is an understatement. Joe has

1:13:20

never given me any indication that he doesn't like

1:13:22

my husband and is even supposed to be the

1:13:24

man of honor again at our 15 year vow

1:13:26

renewal in Barbados next month. I

1:13:29

asked my husband if he wants me to say something

1:13:31

to him and uninvite him since we've paid for all

1:13:33

his expenses, but he insisted that I don't say anything

1:13:35

because he shouldn't have been over, he

1:13:37

shouldn't have been listening to their private conversations.

1:13:41

I feel like this information completely changes our

1:13:43

friendship dynamic. How can I continue with allowing

1:13:45

him to share an important milestone in my

1:13:47

marriage when he thinks I settled? How can

1:13:49

I really believe we're friends when he's holding

1:13:51

out his true feelings from me? How can

1:13:53

I continue to make my husband feel uncomfortable

1:13:55

in his own home when we invite

1:13:57

our friends over for cookouts and game nights? I

1:14:00

think I should go against my husband's wishes and

1:14:02

confront my friend? Or do I fake

1:14:04

the funk in my friendship until Joe

1:14:06

is honest with me? What would you

1:14:08

do? Thanks, Jules. I'm

1:14:13

not faking that with no fraud ass bitch. I don't

1:14:15

even fuck with what, like

1:14:17

to be honest with you, that's the

1:14:19

kind of energy and shit talking in

1:14:21

tone that was probably not exclusive to

1:14:24

that one conversation that your husband heard.

1:14:26

So no, Shay, I would just be like, so

1:14:28

I know that you feel this and you've said

1:14:30

this, that in a third, where

1:14:33

and how I know about it is

1:14:35

actually fucking irrelevant because it's

1:14:37

true. So let's go ahead and

1:14:39

discuss it. Now, if you can deduce that, oh,

1:14:41

your nigga must've been in the shower and listening

1:14:43

to what the fuck we were saying, well, you

1:14:45

were talking shit about him, so let's stay on

1:14:47

topic. I don't go fuck. Like

1:14:49

the messy bitch here is you for saying

1:14:52

these things and feeling these things behind my

1:14:54

back and then coming in my face and

1:14:56

in my nigga's face and our space and

1:14:58

being fraud about it. So

1:15:00

what's it giving? You won't be at the fucking wedding.

1:15:03

You don't need to be involved in any of that

1:15:05

and you shouldn't feel any type of way about it

1:15:07

clearly because you feel some type of way about

1:15:09

it. So saves you some time

1:15:11

and a suit and tickets and all that

1:15:14

other shit, bitch, you can stay the fucking

1:15:16

home. Now, the

1:15:18

larger point, because to

1:15:20

keep it real, friend to friend,

1:15:23

fuck this nigga. It don't even really gotta

1:15:25

be like, the fact is that you're saying

1:15:28

this shit to other people and

1:15:31

in spaces that whoever the fuck adhered

1:15:33

on top of that, but you're not

1:15:35

saying anything to me. So

1:15:37

the meat of my issue now is not

1:15:39

even that you have an issue with my

1:15:41

nigga, even though you probably do have an

1:15:43

issue with it. Like he don't like your

1:15:45

nigga, even though who the fuck cares. My

1:15:48

issue is who are you? What's the giving?

1:15:50

What else are you not saying in front

1:15:52

of me? What is this friendship giving? Why

1:15:56

do you feel like you can't have these conversations

1:15:58

with me? Do

1:16:00

you have an issue with the way that I

1:16:02

speak or I express? Is there some sort of

1:16:05

tension or underlying thing that's going on here? Because

1:16:07

that's a lot of strong feelings about somebody that's

1:16:09

supposed to be your bestie. That you're including yourself

1:16:11

in all of these milestones and stuff like that,

1:16:13

but you're not getting off your chest. So what

1:16:16

is it giving? Now,

1:16:20

the person with the master's in mental health

1:16:23

counseling can give you their perspective. Well, I

1:16:25

mean, I agree with you. I

1:16:27

think I don't disagree

1:16:29

with anything you just said. As far as

1:16:31

your husband being like, I

1:16:34

wasn't supposed to be listening to their private conversation.

1:16:36

It's not a private conversation if you have it

1:16:38

in a place, a public place where other people

1:16:40

are also present. You can't be

1:16:42

mad that people overheard you talking shit at

1:16:45

Applebee's if you was talking shit at the Applebee's.

1:16:47

It's not a private Applebee's. Other people are here

1:16:49

too, girl. It's the same thing with this locker

1:16:51

room. No, it's not

1:16:53

open to the whole goddamn world, but you're not the only

1:16:56

people who can come in and out this bitch. You're not

1:16:58

at home. So that's the risk

1:17:00

you take when you decide to do something

1:17:02

like that in public. It just has really

1:17:05

backfired on your

1:17:07

friend Joe here. And you're

1:17:12

talking about him. It's not

1:17:14

even like he overheard Joe

1:17:17

talking about one of your other

1:17:19

friends that came around in the mouth or something like that

1:17:21

or whatever. So

1:17:23

what, he don't got no reason to feel his own type of way or say

1:17:26

something to me about my best friend lying to my face? Yeah.

1:17:32

I wouldn't really have an issue

1:17:34

with my, if my friend, let's say I'm married and my

1:17:36

friend don't like my nigga. I don't really have a problem

1:17:38

with you talking about that with

1:17:40

your partner before you talk about it with me,

1:17:44

because that's a very normal thing to do. However, you and your man, you're

1:17:50

and you said

1:17:52

y'all got married shortly after college. Y'all been together since y'all were

1:17:54

13. He's known you all

1:17:56

your life. So he's known this nigga also since y'all

1:17:59

were 13. He has

1:18:01

disliked this nigga for 20 years. That's

1:18:05

what it is for me. It's not that

1:18:07

he said something to somebody else first, it's that

1:18:10

he's been sitting on it for this fucking long

1:18:12

and never said nothing. Feels

1:18:15

like, and I think what might

1:18:17

have pissed me off the most is finding

1:18:20

out that you secretly feel like I'm

1:18:22

not even living the life that I

1:18:24

deserve and that I settled for something.

1:18:26

I settled? Instead of going to

1:18:28

do something that I wanted to do when I was

1:18:31

a kid. Like now, Jules,

1:18:33

only you can tell

1:18:35

us whether he is correct about

1:18:37

that. But the fact that he's

1:18:39

had... Because it stood out to me. Right, right.

1:18:43

But the fact that he's had these feelings for this

1:18:45

long and never once said something to

1:18:47

you, I would go against my

1:18:50

husband's wishes and say

1:18:52

something anyway. I'm

1:18:55

not gonna be able to just

1:18:57

pretend like I don't know this

1:18:59

information. It's too much. It

1:19:01

is too much. Because it's... Yeah,

1:19:03

you don't like him, but you feeling this way about

1:19:06

me. That's what I'm... Exactly.

1:19:08

That's why I'm like, fuck this nigga. Especially

1:19:10

if you talking about something like, oh, well

1:19:12

you had these dreams of being Olivia Pope

1:19:15

and da-da-da-da-da, and maybe this relationship kind of

1:19:17

put something on there. I think that's a

1:19:19

valid thing for a friend to feel and

1:19:22

say to their friend at

1:19:25

some point in two goddamn decades. But

1:19:27

you'll run your mouth in a locker

1:19:29

room or whatever

1:19:31

the fuck to... No. Where

1:19:33

anybody could be listening. Like, y'all weren't

1:19:36

thinking clearly. He and his partner were not thinking

1:19:38

clearly about this at all. Because that is definitely

1:19:41

a conversation for the car or the home. Like,

1:19:43

that is something private where you know nobody. Absolutely.

1:19:45

Like, all y'all live in the same city that's

1:19:47

too risky. This is just... We're being careless and

1:19:49

sloppy and now it's blowing up in your face.

1:19:51

But like I said, it's probably not the first

1:19:54

time that they've talked about that. Because it wasn't

1:19:56

giving that conversation. Why would you have

1:19:58

that kind of a conversation? revelation for

1:20:00

the first time. In the locker room, right. No.

1:20:03

That's something to say. After all this time of

1:20:05

them being together? Exactly. Please. Exactly.

1:20:08

So I mean, it

1:20:10

could be that he feels like, I

1:20:13

mean, it actually could be that you settled for

1:20:15

this life in Illinois. I don't know you. It

1:20:17

could also be that the dream you had as

1:20:19

a child is not the dream you have as

1:20:21

an adult because we grow up. My god. So

1:20:23

it's just wild. I

1:20:26

wanted to be a pediatrician when I was a kid.

1:20:29

Right. Best friend is not

1:20:31

even strong enough of a phrase. Y'all have

1:20:33

no, y'all's dads were best friends. So this

1:20:35

was, y'all had no choice but to be

1:20:37

close. Y'all literally

1:20:40

grew up together. I just can't

1:20:42

understand somebody like that not

1:20:44

saying to me. Even when I say, when

1:20:46

I tell him, oh, you know, me and

1:20:48

my man that I've been dating, you know,

1:20:51

we talking about getting married or I'm engaged.

1:20:53

If you are my best fucking friend, I'm

1:20:56

expecting you to say something if you

1:20:58

truly disapprove of my man. Because I'm

1:21:00

assuming that my best friend is looking

1:21:03

out for

1:21:06

my best interests. So

1:21:08

if you feel that way about him, I

1:21:10

want to know why. Because maybe you're seeing

1:21:13

something that I don't. Because I'm over here

1:21:15

rose-colored glasses stigmatized behind this nigga loving him

1:21:17

so much. Even his draws don't stink. So

1:21:19

like, yeah, sometimes you do need

1:21:21

friends to be like, girl, I would just like to

1:21:23

point out that he doesn't work or whatever. You know,

1:21:25

something, something. However, it is just

1:21:30

to harbor these feelings

1:21:32

secretly for decades. I

1:21:35

just don't. This is

1:21:37

the sort of thing that could really permanently

1:21:40

damage a relationship. Like, y'all might not

1:21:42

bounce back. Because

1:21:45

it's so much of there's so many

1:21:47

layers to it that are way bigger

1:21:49

than, well, you don't care for this

1:21:51

guy or me marrying him. It's like

1:21:53

trust. It

1:21:56

is really trust for me. There's so much

1:21:58

betrayal in our lives. a

1:22:00

lot of that and I would genuinely be

1:22:03

hurt by the things you are saying. Again,

1:22:05

as Crystal pointed out, that you were

1:22:07

saying about me, not even just

1:22:09

him, but feeling like I

1:22:11

have made this like, you

1:22:14

know, little ass choice to just settle

1:22:16

and not pursue my dreams or live

1:22:18

up to my potential or whatever the

1:22:20

fuck based on what? Like

1:22:23

maybe Joe's just messy. Like

1:22:25

maybe though, like there are some people that just run

1:22:27

them out just because I

1:22:29

didn't want to say it. Like

1:22:33

I just drive the lesbians and I'm like,

1:22:35

You and your gay husband was at the

1:22:37

gym talking shit. Y'all would be, man. That's

1:22:39

the first thing I thought. Why are you

1:22:41

such a stereotype? Like what

1:22:43

is she running on? You probably don't even have a problem.

1:22:45

You just, you just running them out. In the fucking

1:22:47

gym, girl. They couldn't wait till y'all got home.

1:22:49

Really? Stupid. But

1:22:52

I think it's for the best. Cause you needed to know

1:22:54

this. You needed to know that he really. Absolutely.

1:22:57

You never liked him. You

1:22:59

only tolerate him. I really need to know why. Is

1:23:02

it because of something that happened when we were 14?

1:23:06

Or do you really see an issue with this

1:23:08

man as he is right now? Like let's

1:23:11

all be serious adults and have

1:23:13

a grown up conversation here. I

1:23:15

would absolutely confront my friend

1:23:18

and I would, I would,

1:23:20

I will encourage you to

1:23:23

be honest about your feelings, but

1:23:26

also don't be, don't be, I

1:23:32

think a lot of times when we have hurt feelings, we

1:23:34

don't want the hurt to show.

1:23:36

We don't want people to know that they've hurt

1:23:39

us and the anger is

1:23:41

there and it's also righteous, but underneath

1:23:43

that anger, so much of

1:23:45

the time is deeply wounded feelings.

1:23:48

And so I would stress that to

1:23:50

him, like, I'm devastated that I've known

1:23:52

you since we were three and you felt like

1:23:54

you couldn't say this to my face. There's

1:23:56

actually to that point, so much

1:23:58

power in that. that

1:24:00

sometimes people don't recognize

1:24:04

or acknowledge because of that same point

1:24:06

they wanna like hold on

1:24:08

to that hurt or hide

1:24:10

it because they see it as

1:24:13

vulnerability. Laying your vulnerability out in

1:24:15

a place where you should be

1:24:17

permitted to do so, your

1:24:19

best friend or your mom or something like

1:24:22

that. Like there's nothing, there's so much strength

1:24:24

in that. Cause it's like, so what you

1:24:26

gonna do when I tell you that you

1:24:28

hurt me and that's valid. Oh,

1:24:32

well you shouldn't have settled. Okay, well now we know

1:24:34

who you are and what is given. Thank

1:24:37

you. And I'm not gonna sit here and play this

1:24:39

back and forth Game of

1:24:41

Thrones and shit. You did some foul shit.

1:24:43

My feelings are hurt behind it.

1:24:45

What's up? Right. His

1:24:48

response to that would dictate how we

1:24:50

move on. I

1:24:52

don't think it's impossible. I just think it's

1:24:55

unlikely. I think

1:24:57

it's unlikely that somebody who was so reckless

1:24:59

as to be talking like this

1:25:01

in a place where other people could hear

1:25:03

it would then respond in an adult

1:25:05

immature way. Oh,

1:25:08

it might be more than one

1:25:10

conversation if it's about salvaging the

1:25:12

relationship before. Oh, absolutely. Because he's

1:25:14

gonna go. But

1:25:16

as far as coming to the, y'all are

1:25:18

having a 15 year vow renewal next month

1:25:20

in Barbados, that's a trap. Oh,

1:25:23

1000% turn out. Next

1:25:25

month is not gonna be enough time for

1:25:27

anybody's feelings to be soothed. For you to

1:25:29

then stand up there and act like you

1:25:31

were the best man.

1:25:34

What do you mean? Ah!

1:25:37

You go ahead and take that linen short

1:25:39

set right back to Macy's bitch because you

1:25:41

won't be present. Not

1:25:44

the best man, the man of honor, still

1:25:46

the bride's best man. That's who you were.

1:25:49

You stood up there and you was gonna stand up

1:25:51

there again. Something about Joe

1:25:53

is giving punk bitch, is giving weak bitch.

1:25:55

What are you scared of? And

1:25:58

or simply messy and nasty. Okay,

1:26:00

or messy and nasty. Either

1:26:02

way, you... Something...

1:26:04

You have to say something. There...

1:26:07

Yes. Your husband sounds like a

1:26:09

sweet man, because this

1:26:11

whole, I shouldn't have been over listening to today,

1:26:13

private conversations is like... We were

1:26:15

talking shit about you. How darling, and

1:26:17

doing it in a place where anyone could hear,

1:26:19

sir, it's not like you held a cup up

1:26:21

to their bedroom door and snuck it to their

1:26:23

house. I tell my husband

1:26:25

to his face, I'm clearing them. When

1:26:28

I see y'all, so you just get... Yeah. Get

1:26:31

ready for it to all... I'm clearing them. Right. If

1:26:33

your husband... I don't give a fuck. If your husband

1:26:35

didn't want you to say nothing, he shouldn't have told

1:26:37

you. I wish he would

1:26:39

say something. Oh, so such and such told

1:26:41

me, you got damn right, he told me,

1:26:43

and so what's up? Sure did. Sure did.

1:26:45

Because your big, stupid, messy ass was gossiping

1:26:47

the goddamn locker room like it's private. It's

1:26:49

not. You know everybody who go to the gym

1:26:51

can come up in this bitch? It's

1:26:54

not exclusive. It's not soundproof booth that you're in.

1:27:00

We didn't hack your iMessage to get this information. Goofy. Goddamn.

1:27:06

So yeah, I would confront Joe. I

1:27:09

would cut off this man of honor in Barbados next month.

1:27:12

You absolutely not doing that. You said you already paid

1:27:14

for it. Hopefully you can switch out the... No,

1:27:17

they don't never let you change names on airline tickets, but

1:27:20

something, something. Because y'all paid. Y'all

1:27:23

paid all expenses for him to come to Barbados.

1:27:26

And not even really like your man. That is...

1:27:29

Oh, Lord, God, please. Can

1:27:32

you... Like, what? I

1:27:34

pray to God I don't have no friends who would feel

1:27:36

that way about my man and then let me marry him

1:27:38

and never say nothing. You know it

1:27:41

won't be me, bitch. I know it won't be

1:27:43

me. Because I like some of y'all. I will

1:27:45

actually be like okay with some of y'all niggas

1:27:47

and I'm still very short and cordial when I

1:27:49

see them in person because, bitch, the day you

1:27:51

go missing, you

1:27:53

won't see her here for me again, Chris. I

1:27:58

am not ever interested in making friends with motherfuckers.

1:28:00

but I'm also not going to, it won't be

1:28:02

like, oh, well I don't like them. And so

1:28:04

that's why I don't sit and make small talk

1:28:06

when such as having a party. It's just like,

1:28:09

that's not how I give it up to the

1:28:11

plus ones. And I

1:28:13

had no feeling that if I'm in

1:28:15

a situation and that's the energy that

1:28:18

it gives. But if I have a

1:28:20

problem with your

1:28:22

person, especially in

1:28:25

the way that I feel like it affects you,

1:28:27

oh yeah. I'm

1:28:31

not wasting time. Right. Because I don't

1:28:33

want my friend to sign a contract

1:28:35

binding her to this nigga that I

1:28:37

think is holding her back in life.

1:28:41

Now she can, she's grown. She can make her own decisions, but

1:28:43

I need to be able to sleep at night. Yes.

1:28:46

And if I truly care about

1:28:48

you, I'm gonna say something way

1:28:50

before now. Hey girl,

1:28:52

you know remember when we were 12 and

1:28:56

we were watching Murder She Wrote and you were like,

1:28:58

girl, I'm

1:29:01

gonna be a detective or whatever. And I

1:29:03

just feel like ever since Cletus came around,

1:29:06

you blah, blah, blah. And

1:29:08

you say to me, well sis, I

1:29:11

don't give a fuck about Murder She Wrote. I

1:29:13

actually wanna be a housewife because capitalism. So

1:29:16

I need you to be with

1:29:18

me on this. I'm gonna be like,

1:29:21

okay girl, glad we tapped in. Right.

1:29:23

You know what? And I

1:29:25

will be down to the weddings. You know how

1:29:27

I feel. Yeah. That's it. Yeah,

1:29:29

literally that. Gossiping about your best

1:29:31

friends. And

1:29:34

it's things that you never said to her. It's

1:29:37

things you never, it would be different.

1:29:39

Because you're right. Like your partner at

1:29:41

home, in the bed, whatever. Like,

1:29:44

ugh, I

1:29:46

hate this. And

1:29:49

then you go tell your friend. You're like,

1:29:51

well I can't stand that nigga Lionel. Every

1:29:53

time, every time. That

1:29:55

nigga gets on my nerves. Oh,

1:30:01

um, best of luck, Jules.

1:30:03

I hope y'all can work it out, but if

1:30:05

he responds all defensive and... That's possible. ...and, ah,

1:30:07

ah, ah, why you this? And why you that?

1:30:09

I just feel like

1:30:12

you want people around you who can admit when

1:30:14

they were wrong. And... You

1:30:16

have to take accountability. You have to. And talking

1:30:18

this type of shit about your best friend's man

1:30:21

when you ain't never said nothing to her, you're

1:30:23

just wrong. And if you can't

1:30:25

acknowledge that... I can't do it wrong. ...save your energy.

1:30:29

But yeah, I'm sorry. Happy

1:30:32

Pride? I guess. We are out here,

1:30:34

that's why I'm giving it for her. Oh,

1:30:40

sorry, girl. It's just like this sometimes.

1:30:43

But best of luck in having that conversation. And

1:30:46

yeah, don't let that nigga come to Barbados on

1:30:48

your dime. All right. That

1:30:50

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1:30:53

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1:32:05

read. Do you have anything?

1:32:08

Not really. I just have a list of questions

1:32:10

that I want to ask, but not a

1:32:12

real read. Oh, I

1:32:14

was about to say, what am I forgetting this, the

1:32:17

dream lawsuit? But I was going to

1:32:19

depth. Yeah. So no, that's not even

1:32:21

on my list. It

1:32:23

wasn't even a read for me because

1:32:25

I just, it

1:32:28

was more so I was going to say, but I

1:32:30

did want to bring this up in the hot tops.

1:32:32

We saw how that

1:32:34

escalated into a whole other thing.

1:32:37

What I do want to say about it is

1:32:40

that while nothing is like, we're

1:32:42

dealing with accusations

1:32:46

of statements made from one of

1:32:50

his alleged former

1:32:52

protege. And the

1:32:54

things that she

1:32:56

described happening to her,

1:32:58

I think within a year after

1:33:01

working with the dream, it's

1:33:03

like really monstrous,

1:33:06

horrific, violent things

1:33:08

that, you know, if you haven't read

1:33:11

about, I would

1:33:13

urge you to go take a look

1:33:15

at. But one of the things I

1:33:17

found interesting also were some of the

1:33:19

descriptions of the way that

1:33:21

she claims he spoke to her

1:33:23

about artistry and the

1:33:26

manipulative tactics that were used

1:33:28

because there's something in that

1:33:31

to me. Absolutely.

1:33:33

A lot of what we

1:33:35

say, it sounds like predatory

1:33:38

artist ass rhetoric,

1:33:40

you know, talking about creating

1:33:42

a sanctuary with your artist

1:33:45

and talking, you know, she

1:33:47

said, he said that he

1:33:49

needed to know everything

1:33:52

about her, things that embarrassed her, upset

1:33:54

her, angered her, excite her, every single

1:33:56

thought that she had. Stuff that I

1:33:58

fully... not only

1:34:00

have heard, maybe not

1:34:03

this particular artist or

1:34:05

musician, but I've heard things like

1:34:07

this said about artists, or said

1:34:10

from artists before. Also,

1:34:12

the constant, a lot of people are

1:34:14

like, why do people keep bringing

1:34:16

up Beyonce or Rihanna name or whatever? But

1:34:19

she says that Beyonce and

1:34:21

Rihanna name came up quite

1:34:24

a bit in working with

1:34:26

this man. And that he claimed

1:34:28

he could get her on

1:34:30

Beyonce's tour. And that

1:34:32

the reason that Rihanna had this and

1:34:35

Beyonce had this is because of things

1:34:37

that he did with them and blah,

1:34:39

blah, blah, blah, blah. So fully using

1:34:41

proximity to these women and the stuff

1:34:43

that they've made to manipulate

1:34:46

people. So I

1:34:48

did wanna bring it up again, Jesso. It

1:34:51

said that I have skimmed the top

1:34:53

of this story so far. And

1:34:57

girly, dream. If

1:35:04

you gotta get up here too, I

1:35:06

mean, if you gotta get up out of here too, those

1:35:10

are simply the things. I mean, I'm

1:35:12

talking about like somebody call Nivea cause

1:35:14

she's gonna say whatever needs to be

1:35:17

said. Like,

1:35:21

you know, but girl,

1:35:24

what? What? Didn't this

1:35:26

happen before? What are people? Wasn't he

1:35:28

accused of sexual assault or

1:35:30

something like that? Yes, back in 2015,

1:35:33

an assault case against Dream in connection

1:35:35

with allegations from former romantic partner, Lydia

1:35:37

Nam were dropped with prosecutors

1:35:39

saying the allegations could not be proven beyond

1:35:41

a reasonable doubt. That was in 2015, which

1:35:44

is allegedly around the same time that he

1:35:46

met this girl. So I'm not, it's like,

1:35:48

damn nigga, and now we have a pattern.

1:35:52

Ooh, ooh. This stuff is

1:35:54

scary though, like. It's man, it's starting

1:35:56

to feel like it's everybody. It's

1:36:00

just scary to me to think that people would

1:36:02

like... I

1:36:05

don't know, like reading the,

1:36:08

I don't know. I

1:36:12

don't know. But also like trying to

1:36:14

use other people's name

1:36:16

and successes and

1:36:18

proximity to lure folks

1:36:20

in. Like that is also a common practice, not

1:36:22

just by the accused. And all the girls wanna

1:36:25

hear, I can make you the next Beyonce, I

1:36:27

can make you the next Rihanna. Everybody wants to

1:36:29

hear that. So of course the girls are

1:36:31

eating that up and you talking

1:36:33

to the dream. So it's reasonable that it could

1:36:35

happen for you because this nigga has made hits

1:36:38

for everybody, for everybody.

1:36:42

So they take that power and they fuck people over

1:36:44

with it because they know they can do it. They

1:36:46

know they can get away with it. They

1:36:49

pray on people's dreams. It's really

1:36:51

fun. I also saw someone say something to

1:36:53

the effect of like, we have to also

1:36:55

acknowledge that like, this

1:36:58

is a part of, like

1:37:01

as far as like hip hop culture, some of this

1:37:03

stuff is like, we're just

1:37:05

getting to the point where it's

1:37:07

not openly celebrated and

1:37:09

talked about and accepted. Like this is something

1:37:12

where a lot of these people. Oh yeah.

1:37:15

These niggas used to brag about rape and sexual assault.

1:37:17

When Rick Ross was talking about putting something inside a

1:37:19

drinking machine. Oh and she didn't even know it, not even,

1:37:21

because we talked about that on this show. Right.

1:37:24

So. Used to openly brag about

1:37:27

sexual assault. So nothing

1:37:30

about it is shocking. It's just

1:37:32

more that if you thought this

1:37:34

was acceptable, it's just not right.

1:37:37

No, that's so dumb and basic to say.

1:37:39

I know that. No, it's, I mean, right.

1:37:42

But that's the thing. Like it's obviously

1:37:44

not about an inability to have consensual

1:37:46

sex because you're the dream. So

1:37:48

you could do it. It's not impossible.

1:37:51

It's about power. It's about taking something

1:37:53

from people. It's about- People would say

1:37:55

the same thing. Like when,

1:37:58

when Trey Song's allegations. all over the place and

1:38:00

stuff, that's like a thing I would see a

1:38:02

lot of the times. He was like, oh, he's

1:38:04

so attractive. Like, why would

1:38:06

he ever need to do something like that?

1:38:08

Whether they believe him or not. Like some

1:38:11

people, it will just be like confusing. And

1:38:13

I have to remind myself sometimes, like it

1:38:15

doesn't have

1:38:17

anything to do with whether or not

1:38:19

you can do that. Several athletes. Oh

1:38:22

yeah, Darren Sharper. Anytime

1:38:24

somebody fine get accused of sexual assault, that's something

1:38:26

that you'll see come up like that. Nigga ain't

1:38:28

gotta do it. None of them have to.

1:38:31

They choose to because they like being

1:38:33

horrible people. Like they like being abusers.

1:38:35

That's fun for them. They get off

1:38:37

on that. Yeah, the power

1:38:40

and violence of every person.

1:38:42

I said, whoever it is, tell us.

1:38:44

Whoever, the academic said he taking everybody

1:38:46

down. Who else? Please let us

1:38:49

know who else. Like don't keep no secrets from me.

1:38:51

If niggas is out here being predators, please tell me

1:38:53

about it. I want to know. But

1:38:55

yikes. It was just, I

1:38:58

read that like, oh, this is

1:39:00

terrible. God damn, God damn man.

1:39:05

I'm also thinking about, I don't think the dream was

1:39:07

on that show, but I

1:39:09

am thinking about, remember the, what the fuck

1:39:11

was that show that Rick Ross was a

1:39:13

judge? Oh, I don't know. And

1:39:15

he would like, he would

1:39:18

be getting like massages. Yeah.

1:39:20

While he was like

1:39:23

judging these rappers,

1:39:26

auditioning to like. Oh, signed. Signed

1:39:28

or something. It's the show, it's

1:39:30

called signed. Okay. It

1:39:34

was Rick Ross and like

1:39:36

two other main judges. But

1:39:39

I also remember being like, let's get right

1:39:41

up. Why

1:39:43

is this nigga getting a massage? In

1:39:48

the middle of like. It has nothing to

1:39:50

do with that. And smoking cigars and stuff.

1:39:52

Yeah, yeah. I don't know, whatever, I guess,

1:39:54

whatever. Horrible. Okay,

1:39:57

yeah. I really was just going to like mention it.

1:40:00

because I wanted, like I said, to

1:40:02

just say that we've brought

1:40:05

it. Yeah. I... Exciting.

1:40:10

Yes. Deeply. And I mean, the

1:40:12

dream has made some of my favorite

1:40:14

songs. Like I'm actually deeply

1:40:17

disappointed by this. Not that I

1:40:19

put it past really any man

1:40:21

or anybody, but goddamn, man. It's

1:40:23

just, I don't

1:40:25

know what it is about y'all. And why

1:40:28

do y'all just love assault? What is that?

1:40:32

You don't... Okay.

1:40:35

I'll never understand it. So it

1:40:38

is what it is. Is that it for you though? I

1:40:42

have a rant, but you can go ahead. Okay.

1:40:45

Well, it really, it's

1:40:48

unhinged. Okay. All right. Well, I'll

1:40:50

start off with something positive, which

1:40:52

is that the 30 year anniversary

1:40:54

of Sister Act Two is here

1:40:58

and the cast reunited to sing some of

1:41:00

the songs. Well,

1:41:04

Oh Happy Day and was

1:41:06

it the... Yeah,

1:41:09

they did Oh Happy Day and they did the... Oh

1:41:11

no, it's Oh Happy Day at the end too, right? I

1:41:14

think that's just the whole song. Okay. Well, anyway, I

1:41:16

saw this video. I saw a shorter clip of them

1:41:18

doing, you know, the first time they do it in

1:41:21

the movie when he's like acting all shy and stuff,

1:41:23

Oh Happy Day. And then his voice. So they did

1:41:25

that, but then I saw one where they were also

1:41:27

doing the big finale number at the end. So I

1:41:29

don't know if they just merged them together or what.

1:41:32

I saw two different clips. I think they were two

1:41:34

diff. I don't think they were one thing. Okay.

1:41:37

Yeah. Well, it was so nice to see most

1:41:39

of the cast. We don't know

1:41:42

where Lauren was, but we didn't really expect her

1:41:44

to be there, but it was just so nice

1:41:46

to see these faces that I saw. I did

1:41:48

not even think of her being present. Y'all knew

1:41:50

that. Y'all knew that. For like

1:41:52

a little minute. I was quite

1:41:55

pleased to see the rest of them.

1:41:57

And Cheryl Lee Ralph was there. after

1:41:59

she said, singing don't pay the bills

1:42:01

and it should have could have would've. It

1:42:05

was very bad. And now you up

1:42:07

her singing when the choir. I know Whoopi Goldberg is

1:42:09

like, well, I was gonna say, I know she's hard

1:42:11

to put on that. No, Whoopi looked so happy. I

1:42:15

think she really, really, really

1:42:17

tried those films. I mean,

1:42:19

they're great, they're excellent. They have held

1:42:21

up pretty well. And Whoopi

1:42:24

and her white socks and her fucking T.V.s. I

1:42:26

said, that's all. I mean. Ha ha

1:42:29

ha ha ha ha ha ha. On

1:42:33

national television, she don't give a fuck. Ha

1:42:35

ha ha ha ha. But

1:42:37

that was great. It made me feel old

1:42:39

as fuck. Cause how was that 30 years

1:42:41

ago? But, um. They're all grown adults. Yeah,

1:42:44

super grown, super grown. But

1:42:47

a lovely trip down memory lane.

1:42:49

That was so nice. Okay. Yeah, it

1:42:51

really was. I just have a

1:42:53

few things I want to talk about real quick.

1:42:55

Things that I don't quite understand that

1:42:57

I'm puzzled about. I need some clarity

1:42:59

here. First

1:43:02

of all, why does Carlton Banks hate

1:43:04

Tyler Perry? I

1:43:08

love this question. I

1:43:10

have the same question. I

1:43:13

need to know. But I think that I enjoy

1:43:15

the mystery maybe a little bit. Ha ha ha

1:43:17

ha ha. Because he chews. I

1:43:21

was literally like. Ha ha ha ha

1:43:23

ha ha ha. I was like, what

1:43:25

the fuck did that man try? Right.

1:43:27

Cause I didn't even know they

1:43:29

worked together. He directed House of Pain. Yes, he directed

1:43:31

12 episodes of Meet the

1:43:33

Browns. Oh, Meet the Browns. Sorry.

1:43:36

They're all the same. And, um. Wait, aren't

1:43:39

the Browns the family on House

1:43:41

of Pain? Nevermind.

1:43:44

No, I think those are the pains. But

1:43:46

I don't watch those shows. That would make

1:43:48

sense. That would make a lot

1:43:50

of sense. Ha ha ha ha. Oh yeah,

1:43:52

no, it's the other nigga and old girl

1:43:55

and bam on House of Pain and Meet

1:43:57

the Browns. Although those are the Browns. But

1:43:59

that. Mr. Brown and Cora

1:44:01

are also on. Yes,

1:44:03

like they're the. Those

1:44:06

are the two that Tyler put in

1:44:08

every. Cannon Brown. Yeah, right. Yeah. Tyler

1:44:11

will put them in anything. Yes. I

1:44:14

love them, no shade. I do. And

1:44:17

Tamela Mann, to this day, you

1:44:19

cannot tell me nothing about

1:44:21

that lady and her voice. Like just don't

1:44:23

even, okay. But

1:44:25

anyway. Like we do not, that lady is

1:44:27

the thing. Right. So if

1:44:29

you didn't hear about this Alfonso Ribeiro,

1:44:32

who is Carlton Banks, that's his real

1:44:34

name, the actor. That's just, I guess

1:44:36

the problem. Right. Talked about

1:44:38

how Fresh Prince Pigeon hold him and

1:44:40

he couldn't really get work doing anything

1:44:42

other than being a nerdy. Which he

1:44:44

said a lot. Right. That's not his

1:44:46

first time saying that. But somebody on

1:44:49

Twitter chimed in and tagged Tyler and

1:44:51

Alfonso and said, Tyler Pero need

1:44:53

to revamp Alfonso Ribeiro career. I just know

1:44:55

he could. And

1:44:58

he said, I don't need or ever want that man

1:45:00

to do anything for me. Full

1:45:04

stop. Now I

1:45:06

love it because I agree, but

1:45:08

I need to know what happened

1:45:11

on the set of Meet the Browns that

1:45:13

made you say never the fuck again. Because

1:45:17

by the time Meet the Browns

1:45:19

came out, Tyler Perry's reputation is

1:45:21

like not making good television or

1:45:23

movies had been well solidified. So

1:45:26

it can't be that Tyler Perry makes terrible programming

1:45:28

because you signed on to be a part of

1:45:30

that. I'm

1:45:33

extremely interested. And I'll probably never know.

1:45:35

Alfonso probably won't tell us. Tyler definitely

1:45:38

won't. But I want to know why

1:45:40