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infancy eighteen A wanted to provides you

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that six. Allow allow was I

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food. But he's a very quick synopsis

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of my twins. The eighteenth I lemme I wrote

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him because I was having an affair. At work

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with my straight home I work with that. I

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remember that. We have been sucking in the

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clean rooms meeting them six hats and people were becoming

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suspicious. I target for me that he. Well

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to speak to her and did the how I'm

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working late babe he was watching me and the

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a little we are know caught a very very

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long story short Zach go from became increasingly

5:48

aware of how late he was lucky and started

5:51

doing some thinking. Oh not mean

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my the other buff I know we call. It

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the girl got into his messages and sort of

5:58

see videos of mean him at doing. the

6:00

deed. You was cheating and filming it. You are

6:02

audacious. Yes, we recorded this sometimes for the thrill.

6:04

You are audacious. I

6:06

know he had my chat in archive so he

6:08

wouldn't get the WhatsApp notification but

6:10

he seems to think she connected his phone

6:13

to her WhatsApp on web and managed to

6:15

see everything. Lord have I. So,

6:18

so, so much happened but I'm going to try and

6:20

keep this really short. Okay. One day I was leaving

6:22

my job in the city and was walking across the

6:24

road when I heard a blacked out car speeding

6:27

towards me very, very fast. It sounds like a

6:29

movie. I had to

6:31

run so quickly but the car missed me by an inch and

6:33

it was obvious it was an attempt to take me down. Oh,

6:36

what is going on? By this point,

6:38

I should add, that Jack and I had

6:40

both left the company and are working in

6:42

separate firms, both in senior positions and

6:45

he and his girlfriend had split so Jack

6:47

and I started doing things like public dates

6:49

and sleepovers and these cheats were being beat.

6:51

Okay, honey. Anyway, I called Jack crying and

6:53

thinking nothing of it when I described the

6:55

car. He started asking me more and more

6:58

questions when we landed on the fact that

7:00

this was his ex-girlfriend. Murder.

7:04

Now, ciao. You know the gays don't mess around.

7:06

So if you're going to try and run me

7:08

over, you're going to get one coming. I

7:11

would kill you before you kill me. Oh my god. So

7:14

I knew that the ex-girlfriend had moved back in with

7:16

her mum and a few days later I drove

7:18

myself to her house. I got the address from Jack's phone.

7:20

He had no idea about what I'm about

7:22

to tell you. Okay. I arrived there at 11pm

7:25

and had no idea what I was going to

7:27

do. Whilst in the car, I remembered I had

7:29

laxatives. Oh my god. I was on some meds

7:31

that blocked me up. So laxatives were key at

7:33

the time. Let me

7:35

tell you, I took four laxatives.

7:37

Did you shit? Oh, why? Did

7:39

you shit, Afon? I

7:42

took four laxatives. The recommendation is one

7:45

because I wanted whatever was in me to start

7:47

cooking. I was

7:49

in the car for about 30 minutes and

7:51

then felt a strong pain in my stomach

7:54

as the shit is coming. I

7:56

walked up to the front door, squatted, and let

7:58

all my demons out of the That

8:01

said welcome to our home. This

8:07

is 2021. Whilst

8:09

we were still going through that weird

8:11

Covid period, whacked myself and

8:13

left. In

8:19

2023, Jack proposed to me and

8:21

we're happily in a relationship, but

8:23

he doesn't know what the biggest shit

8:25

of my life on his ex-girlfriend's mother's

8:27

childhood. But

8:30

either way, we're in love and happy. I

8:32

wanted to share this heinous story with you

8:34

because I thought you girls would laugh out

8:36

now. We have, thank you. Oh

8:39

my God. Congratulations

8:42

on your engagement. I'm so happy

8:44

this man has come out. You

8:46

guys get to live your truth.

8:49

You know what? I would say the

8:51

shit wasn't enough. If you try to run

8:53

me over and do more than shit and then you're fun to

8:55

do, I'm just on your face. You're trying to kill me. No,

8:59

I can't believe you tried to run

9:01

me over. Shit

9:04

is the kindest thing I'll do to you. Do

9:06

you know what's so hilarious about this update yet?

9:08

It's the fact that I thought the update would

9:10

be more about their relationship and how they sent

9:12

it out. But he wanted to give us the

9:15

tea on the dump that

9:17

he took outside the ex's warehouse. Thank you.

9:19

Thank you so very much. You guys are

9:21

the best. Thank you. Congratulations and thank

9:23

you. And I'm glad you were able to

9:26

help. Just under

9:28

note, I'll be very dry. I've started boxing. I've

9:32

been talking this, but I started

9:34

boxing. And my

9:36

trainer was like, oh, maybe by late of

9:38

the year or next year I can start

9:40

doing fights. Oh, me? I will never do fights.

9:44

I looked at her and was like, I'm here for street fighting.

9:46

I'm not here for big fighting. I'm

9:50

here because I want someone to... The

9:53

days that I was talking about my revenge... You might

9:55

be ready. You're going to be Ready now,

9:57

professionally. Everything is you can knock them

9:59

out. In a way that went to them

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matter of a bit wild I will never be matter

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the blood on what you need to do. My attitude

10:27

and it wasn't the that you contact by conceivably reminded

10:29

of business and then the. Next the a blessed is

10:31

the way it was described. As a blackout cause

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com it's what he lived as much

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as. Size of a magical you

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have tried to kill me I'm some sits medium

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sized. My sister who isn't the point

10:42

though he wasn't. I let your means and sat.

10:45

Lot on and I wish you a happy avast us

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very. Or doesn't mean they have to be just

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avid listener of your podcasts. I've listened see

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by since day one. I look forward few

11:00

episodes every week. You can make me laugh

11:02

and bring much joy to my weakness. I

11:04

wouldn't say that that. That

11:07

is this A from Legion Effect yet your

11:09

Podcast and it was about my insecurities about

11:11

been a family man. You guys gave me

11:13

some great advice and I've become a much

11:15

more confident and self loathing person as a

11:17

result. For they did. And besides lies,

11:19

he would really out his i'm standing

11:22

on the world's top My bats attacking.

11:24

The under my sentiments i'm a second a

11:27

school teacher in my late senses. to him

11:29

I teach in training had intentions of what

11:31

is some a teach us inspire us young

11:34

people especially by some responses backgrounds and help

11:36

improve their lives. Chances of the qualifying had

11:38

a short stints as a surprise he jumps

11:40

and then up on the job in an

11:43

inner city school in East London with a

11:45

challenge insight. That. Time

11:47

at that school Bd break my spirit.

11:49

the behavior was so vendors and there

11:52

was no discipline in the school. Pupil

11:54

with will categorically refused to follow my

11:56

instructions and. Disruptions. were

11:58

common in or less sense and very

12:00

little learning took place. I also suffered

12:03

a lot of verbal abuse in pupils.

12:05

I was often insulted and sometimes fauna,

12:07

and there was graffiti around the school

12:09

of homophoric comments about me. Fucking hell.

12:12

I was sometimes blamed for poor

12:14

behaviour since members of the SLT

12:16

would suggest that my pupils were misbehaving since

12:19

my lessons were not engaging enough and I'm

12:21

not trying to build a positive relationship with

12:23

the pupils. This sounds

12:25

crazy to non-teachers, but in some schools, teachers

12:27

are often blamed for poor behaviour. This affected

12:30

my mental health, and in some lessons, I

12:32

actually broke down in tears because I felt

12:34

powerless and had no control over the classes.

12:37

And neither school was not the right system

12:39

for me and even took off due to

12:41

work-related stress. I'm sorry. I therefore

12:43

moved to another school in a different

12:45

borough that serves a disadvantaged community. I

12:49

was looking forward to a fresh start. At

12:51

the interview, I really liked the school's ethos and

12:54

my teacher friend told me that it was

12:56

the best school in the borough. That

12:58

us, deadly poor, also looked

13:00

promising. All good until early October. Also,

13:02

I've said lies because any

13:04

time I've said it was coming, we would tell us to be

13:07

on the ground. And also, they took the bad kids out of

13:09

school. Yeah, yeah, yeah, they made my fair off.

13:11

Like every up-stead, the bad kids wasn't

13:13

a school trip. So, I've said it's

13:15

a lie anyway. All

13:18

was good until early October. A six-up video

13:20

was posted of me. A pupil from a

13:22

previous school, it must have been in junior time I was on

13:24

supply, had filmed

13:26

me. The video was a 10-second

13:29

clip of me sending a pupil out

13:31

of the class for consistently interrupting me.

13:33

It was nothing scandalous or unprofessional, but

13:35

the video went viral and all the teenagers across

13:37

the UK found me in the area and I became a

13:39

meme. All the pupils from my

13:41

previous school were commenting and making really nasty

13:44

comments about me. And unfortunately, even the pupils

13:46

from my coven school began

13:48

to talk around the school and

13:51

made me capital. Pupils would

13:53

make nasty comments as I walked in

13:55

the corridor in reference to the video. People in

13:57

my lessons would make slight comments made

14:00

me feel underminded. During

14:02

the year, pupils were consistently talking to me

14:04

and antagonizing me. For example, pupils will play

14:06

knock down ginger with my tool at lunchtime and

14:10

kick it open and run away. At

14:12

lunchtime, I had to start turning off

14:14

the lights and hiding in the corner to

14:16

have lunch so that pupils would leave me

14:18

alone. Fucking hell, it's like a bullet, like

14:20

you're being bullied. Pupils were consistently opening

14:23

my door whilst I'm teaching and shouting re-comment

14:25

and then run away. Pupils will call me

14:27

a rubbish teacher to my face and say

14:29

that I need to learn to teach. Some

14:31

would even walk out of my class. On most

14:33

days, I felt like a babysitter as opposed to

14:35

an educator. I was battling just to get

14:38

the pupils to pick a pen and write to the

14:40

date and title and I often felt at war with

14:42

my pupils. To what's the end

14:44

of the year, I had emotional breakdowns and cried in

14:46

a few lessons. I was simply unable

14:48

to teach in many of my lessons due to their

14:51

behaviour. Additionally, another teacher let it slip that I

14:53

was leaving the school and the pupils were very

14:55

happy. Most people in my lessons were clapping and

14:58

cheering, oh no. Recently, I've

15:00

gone back to 30s since I feel pathetic

15:02

that children have always bullied me wherever I've

15:04

gone. I've signed off work three

15:06

times to work with let it stress my

15:08

career. My mental health has recently taken another

15:11

battering. In my current school that I started

15:13

at in January of this year in a

15:15

different East London borough, I've had kids purposely

15:17

push me, what in hell? But then

15:19

lie and say they were pushed into me.

15:22

I've had five incidents of homophobia in my

15:24

first two weeks. My current school feels traumatic

15:26

as it reminds me of my very first

15:28

school. I've cried many times and I've completely

15:30

lost faith. The kids have destroyed all my

15:32

resources and displays. At the end of every

15:34

day, my classroom is a mess. I've been

15:36

hit by pens a few times. Sometimes in

15:38

the evening, I can hear the kids voices

15:40

screaming in my head. In my short teaching

15:42

career, I've worked in four schools in four

15:44

different boroughs. I can't keep job hopping. I

15:46

feel very envious of my friends who is

15:49

a science teacher and has only

15:51

ever worked in one school and is happy there. Why can't

15:53

that be me? I've got

15:55

my eye on some of said outstanding schools

15:57

in an affluent part of Essex. I've only

15:59

ever in an inner city area, so I'm looking

16:01

for schools with an easier intake. I

16:03

have not been lucky so far in finding the

16:05

right school and I hope things will get better for

16:08

me around this time. I suppose my question is,

16:10

am I disillusioned? Do I like mental resilience?

16:12

Should I leave teaching or do you think

16:14

that the perfect school for me exists somewhere?

16:16

I thought of teaching in private school, maybe

16:18

an international school or a grammar school or

16:20

an all-girls school. I love teaching itself. I

16:22

love imparting knowledge. I just hate the poor

16:24

behaviour and lack of respect from both pupils

16:26

and parents. Teaching is meant to be a

16:28

rewarding career but so far since qualifying, teaching

16:30

has been thankless and has made me feel

16:32

demoralised. The only thing that gets me out

16:35

of bed and race mornings is the money.

16:37

I don't know what else to do with

16:39

my life. I'm a French and Spanish teacher and

16:41

I don't know what else I can do to utilise my

16:43

language skills. Also, although salary negotiations

16:45

at each school I've worked in, I've now

16:47

reached the top of my pay scale in

16:49

teaching. I can't afford to take a pay cut

16:51

in London. I also feel like I've invested so

16:54

much into my professional thinking this would be a

16:56

long-term career and I don't have a backup plan.

16:59

I don't know what else to do.

17:01

I'm also scared of becoming another statistic

17:04

in case you never knew there

17:06

was a recruitment and retention crisis

17:08

in teaching. One in three teachers

17:10

quit within five years after qualifying.

17:12

What do you think? Keep up

17:14

the good work. Warm wishes. Firstly,

17:16

being a statistic is not your problem. That should

17:18

not be a reason why you don't want to

17:20

do this. I don't see the benefit of

17:22

putting yourself through hardship to prove a point. To

17:25

who exactly? To who? Pause

17:28

it. One in three teachers quit for good reason.

17:30

If they're going through

17:32

half of what you're going through, I

17:34

would have quit. Clearly, it's for good

17:36

reason. Clearly, the

17:39

career is not as fulfilling as many people

17:41

like to do it. I think teaching one of

17:43

those careers, right? I can't lie, you have to

17:45

enjoy it. Yeah, you do. It's two tasks

17:47

to actually not enjoy it and to do it.

17:49

There's so much bureaucracy attached to it as well. It's

17:51

just like, yeah, you have to be, you say

17:53

you've got that passion and you've had bad experiences.

18:00

I don't think that you should be putting

18:02

yourself through this anymore. Like, it's just way

18:04

too much. It's affecting your mental health. And

18:06

you know what? There's other ways you can teach. And at

18:09

the end of the dilemma, you said that at

18:11

the end of the email, sorry, you said that

18:13

you really enjoy imparting knowledge. There's so many ways

18:15

that you can still do that. Maybe you can

18:17

shoot art, maybe you can shoot it privately. Maybe

18:19

you can do, you know, smaller groups. I'm sure

18:21

there's other ways in which you can utilize your

18:23

teaching skills. Or like, adults. Exactly.

18:25

Yeah, teaching like, yeah, exactly. Older students.

18:28

Maybe you can go into lecturing. There's so

18:30

many other things you can do. I just don't

18:32

think that you should be putting yourself through this.

18:34

It sounds very tumultuous. It sounds very, yeah, it

18:37

just sounds heartbreaking. I think I'd also be the

18:39

teacher. You kind of have some version of Brazilian.

18:42

So I, because I remember being in school, we

18:44

were fucking really cool. Like,

18:47

there was a teacher today that

18:49

I, Miss Bawaki, we are so,

18:51

I am so sorry. What did that lady say?

18:53

We were just, like, there

18:55

were some teachers that we just decided that we

18:57

were just going to be pricks to. Like, we

19:00

would just go on a silent strike. We

19:02

just wouldn't say anything. We just would be

19:04

quiet, won't say a word. And this person's frustrated. We

19:06

won't say a word. We'll go in, so we'll

19:08

go knock on the door and be like, it's dumb attacking

19:10

here. And we're just using

19:13

dumb things. Like, our kids are

19:15

so fucking stupid. Yeah. And then,

19:17

and also kids are social, we're also really smart. Cause

19:19

when they clock a weakness. Oh yeah. Once they realize

19:21

that you can be. Once they realize that

19:23

they are guessing to you, you won't know peace.

19:25

One teacher made a mistake of telling us that

19:28

she got left on the aisle. Oh no.

19:31

Because we mocked her. She

19:34

should have kept that in drafts. It's like, it's in every day

19:36

we were, we're walking down the clock there. Do you know,

19:38

we had seats here, seats here. We walked down the block.

19:40

Oh, he's not there. We were

19:43

awful. Like awful, awful. Kids

19:45

were awful. She didn't ever have told you guys. But

19:47

it was probably, it was probably her weird way of

19:49

trying to bond, but that's not how you bond with

19:51

kids. Like, I'm not going to be the room. And

19:53

I just, I think you should put yourself first.

19:55

I don't think you can deal with it. I don't like it.

19:58

You're having breakdowns. that are

20:00

not yours. Fuck them kids. Exactly. Like,

20:03

on the bottom of the heart. Fuck them

20:05

kids. Like, find something more fulfilling. Find

20:08

something that won't have you consistently breaking

20:10

down. Like, you're saying you're going home

20:12

and you're hearing their laughter in your

20:14

sleep. That's nothing. Yeah, that's not

20:17

too far. That's too far. I

20:20

definitely, yeah, I

20:22

don't think that this career is necessarily for you. And

20:24

I know you want it to be, but

20:27

I just don't think it is that you've been

20:29

through four different schools and you've had the same

20:31

experience consecutively. You have to start putting

20:33

yourself first. And I know like teaching is one of

20:35

those things. It's like vocational and all the rest of

20:37

it. But like I was saying, I feel like

20:39

there's other ways that you can utilize

20:41

these skills and the qualifications that you have.

20:44

Like, teaching has so many transferable skills.

20:46

You'll be actually be very surprised what

20:48

other things you can do with those

20:50

qualifications. So like, put yourself first, put

20:52

your mental health first, and don't feel

20:54

this need to, you don't have

20:56

anything to prove. And if anything, you've proved it. You've been doing

20:58

it. It's not as if you haven't gotten into it and

21:00

you're fighting for your life to get into the

21:02

career. You've done it. It probably isn't really for

21:04

you. Maybe it doesn't mesh well with your personality.

21:07

And yeah, like you've done it. So don't, you haven't

21:09

not been successful. Do you know what I mean? You've

21:12

actually done it. You stood in front of the classroom

21:14

and you've done what needed to be done. It's just,

21:16

it just hasn't worked out in your favor, unfortunately. But

21:19

I'm sorry that you went through that. That's

21:21

horrible. It can be really cool. It's not

21:23

personal to you. It's just what, well, maybe

21:25

some of them have been personal to you. But for the most part,

21:28

kids are just nasty to teachers. And I feel like

21:30

it must be so much worse now because they've got TikTok.

21:32

Exactly. But they can actually like talk lips over

21:34

your internet and go, Oh, it's a complete

21:36

and how bad it must be now. It's a

21:38

completely different time. I think it's like,

21:41

we didn't know what teacher went through in their past school. We

21:43

had no idea. We had no idea

21:45

exactly. But now we have like the internet and all the

21:47

things that I can't even imagine. I don't think it's for

21:49

you. I think maybe, do you know they've got like, they

21:52

have those colleges in central London. It's like, adult. Yeah.

21:55

Yeah. I'm sure there are many adult things that you can teach. I feel

21:57

like the money there's slaps because these people are paying for it. Yeah.

22:00

I think you should go into adults. I think

22:02

kids are way too cool and I think it's

22:04

affecting you and yourself too

22:06

much. I know you're going to go

22:08

to... I wasn't from an affluent area

22:10

in Essex but... Those kids are

22:12

mean to you. Those kids are okay. Some of

22:14

those posh kids and those rich kids. Yeah, they

22:16

can be just as cool. I

22:19

went to a nice college. I went to Haven Sixth Form

22:21

College which was in an affluent area. Not Haven

22:23

College. Haven Sixth Form College. Very

22:26

important. And those kids were really

22:28

cool too. And that was a nice area. So

22:31

that's worth noting. I just think it's that

22:33

age group. Well what about younger younger children? Have

22:35

you thought about maybe primary school? They don't need French or

22:37

Spanish. Oh yeah, for us. No, no, no. No,

22:39

no kids. Say we, we, buddy. Yeah, it's a different kind of

22:41

we, we, innit. It's a different kind of we, we, we, we,

22:43

we, in it. So, you know, maybe not. Do you know what?

22:46

Yeah, this is... I was watching... So have you ever seen the

22:48

film Kindergarten Cop?

22:53

Mm-hmm. That's one of my favourite, favourite...

22:55

They don't make films out there. Oh my God, same! I

22:58

love that film! Like those had a 90s film. It's

23:00

one of my favourite films. And my husband Nick,

23:02

he knows that. So he found some show on

23:04

YouTube where they basically reunited all the kids and

23:06

what they look like now. They grow, obviously they're

23:08

grown. I like to watch it again. I totally

23:10

love that film. It's amazing. So all of this

23:12

scene, this scene must have been in, during

23:15

Covid time. And they're like maybe a

23:17

couple of years older than me now. All the kids

23:19

that were in the class or whatever. Like

23:21

with the twins, do you remember? Our mum says that

23:24

our dad's a real sex machine. And

23:26

then there was the other boy that was like,

23:28

why do you have a penis? And girls have

23:30

a vagina. Like all of them were there. It

23:32

was so cute. And on the Zoom, they're just

23:34

reminiscing about filming and what it was like to

23:36

be on set. And then suddenly Arnold's watching it.

23:38

It comes on. Not Arnold! It was so, so

23:41

good. Like, oh, that was so much fun. But they were

23:43

all surprised. They were all completely shocked. They did not see

23:45

it coming at all. Oh, that's so cute! And the guy

23:47

that played the... He's now a man that played Dominic. And

23:49

he's like, Mike's like, Mr. P. Wall,

23:51

he's a sports coach. He's better

23:53

than you, too. He was there. How

23:56

do you remember? I don't know. That one. So much.

23:58

That one is one of my favourite films. I

24:00

don't know. I'm like, just my idea,

24:02

we should have like, a meeting night with like

24:04

a few of our fav listeners. Not a

24:07

fave, but you know, and then do that.

24:09

Our favorite film. Yeah, because kindergarten cup is

24:11

your top tier. Cadet

24:13

Kelly. Ah, Cadet Kelly's a really, really fucking

24:15

good film. A popular film. There's another

24:17

film called, you definitely want, probably won't know the film.

24:20

It's called Treat Beverly Hills. Oh

24:22

my God, Treat Beverly Hills. No, I don't know that one.

24:24

It stars the Shelley Longare.

24:26

It was my favorite film ever.

24:29

And it was about this Hollywood, like this Beverly

24:31

Hills housewife whose husband leaves her. Yeah. And

24:34

her daughters in like camp. In, no, not

24:36

camp, like scouts, brownies, whatever the American equivalent

24:38

is. And they need a scout leader because one

24:40

of the scout leader drops out. And so her mum does it, but

24:42

no one thinks she'll be able to do it because she's this like,

24:45

prissy little Beverly Hills housewife. And she acts, oh,

24:47

it's so good. It's like, we literally won my

24:49

favorite film. I love them, Oscar

24:51

film. There's one point similar to this, where this

24:53

teacher goes into an inner city school, where she

24:56

changes them. So you're thinking of

24:58

Dangerous Minds with Michelle Pfeiffer. Yes. Yeah.

25:02

That's where the soundtrack is. Coolio.

25:05

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

25:09

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

25:12

Yeah. Right. Next

25:14

time. Next time. Let's go. Hi,

25:17

Tony and Audrey. Hello. I've

25:20

enjoyed listening to your podcast for a few years and

25:22

loved your recent episodes of Jordan Stevens and Laura Bates.

25:25

Thank you. Thank you so much for listening. Thank

25:27

you so much. Thank you. Thank you

25:29

so much for watching. I hope you enjoyed everything and wishing you guys all

25:31

the love and blessings. My dilemma is my mom

25:33

is gatekeeping my nuts. As in you're. And then you

25:35

can't. I think so. Beginner of

25:37

January. I couldn't find

25:39

my vibrator. Oh, literally. At

25:42

the time I really needed it. I go

25:44

husband needs two. I looked everywhere in my room and

25:46

couldn't find it. I'm so adamant that my mom

25:48

has taken it. Oh, unfortunately,

25:50

this isn't the first time. Wrong

25:53

story. Things are going to Googleed

26:00

it and told me that she cried. Oh, six

26:02

months, please. Totally not, man. She made me throw

26:04

it in the black bin bag and in the

26:06

bin. I know my mom just

26:08

doesn't trust me, period. She's told me in the

26:11

past. Recently, she was throwing shade at me about

26:13

sleeping with boys and said she needed to

26:15

talk to me one-on-one, but she still hasn't. Now

26:18

onto my dad. My dad is being

26:20

overbearing. He doesn't like me going out too much

26:22

and coming back late. I do understand it's their

26:24

house. However, there's no need for my dad to

26:27

be waiting outside the door like the King's God

26:29

for sips and fucking in palace. This is not

26:31

the princess treatment I asked for. God. God.

26:34

For context, I'm a black Brit girl in her

26:37

early 20s. He's just finished university recently and

26:39

had to move back home. That is the

26:41

worst of times. Honestly, that is the most,

26:43

that is depression one-on-one. That's the worst of

26:45

times. My parents are Christian and black

26:47

African. I'm still trying to

26:49

figure out myself with my sexuality and religious beliefs.

26:51

How do I approach this issue? How do I

26:53

get my parents to trust me? I don't want to

26:55

be worried if she's gone through my things when I'm out

26:57

of the house. I've started

27:00

to hide my diary too. If she ever reads my

27:02

diary, honestly think she would collapse after reading it. How

27:04

do I tell my dad to give me breathing space

27:06

and not call me constantly when I'm out? I

27:08

knew when I moved back home, my freedom would be limited.

27:11

So in my toy away and calling me asking for

27:13

my location at night is just annoying and an

27:15

ongoing cycle at this point. Regardless of

27:18

what my parents do will say, I'm going to do

27:20

it regardless. Sorry, not sorry. Yeah, don't get

27:22

that now. I'm just so tired. Kiss my

27:24

pee. I need a new hiding spot

27:26

as well. I just want to go out and

27:28

have a night in peace. Is that much to

27:30

ask for? I'm even considering moving out for a

27:32

bit to do my master's degree too. Extra

27:34

degree and freedom. That doesn't sound too bad

27:36

to me. So if it's long, any advice

27:38

would be appreciated. Much love. Your

27:41

parents are not going to trust you by the way. I

27:43

don't think that's something that you're actually going to get. Like

27:45

for example, I think things that your mum finding

27:47

your toy, you coming home late and whatever

27:49

late looks like to them, they're not going

27:51

to trust you. And

27:54

you're not the only one. I remember when I moved

27:56

back home after uni. I remember

27:58

the day. I don't remember the day

28:01

of vividly. You know that meme of the boy

28:03

looking at the window crying and with one tear?

28:06

That was me in my unique dorm. What

28:08

is, like what is this? I would

28:11

go out, or I'd been done years

28:13

of just going out and not reporting to anyone.

28:16

Nobody knew where I was, I did what I like, when I won, I

28:18

do what I want, and how I won, and when I won, and

28:21

I was just living my life gloriously. I'll go

28:23

home, I'll get just, I'm like, where you going?

28:25

Why? And it's so

28:28

passive as well, because they do it as if they're

28:30

trying to make a conversation, but really they are absolutely,

28:32

they're using tabs on you. But it's, yeah.

28:34

When they come home, why? It's

28:37

like, I'm a grown-up woman. And it's my, because it was like,

28:39

when I was, kind of, I was just

28:41

saying, since when you were in uni, you're still being

28:43

chaperoned in some way. When I was a gun of

28:45

help in an Oxford uniform. I was going down, the

28:49

Oxford town knew me. I was in Simon and

28:51

me, I was in Liquid, I was in what

28:53

was the club, like, and Bruno in the club,

28:55

academy. Oh, there's a gun, damn.

28:59

Do you know what? I was such a bad, like,

29:01

I didn't even go home during the holidays. Like, I

29:03

was one of those last people that would still be

29:05

on campus till the last minute. I remember one Christmas.

29:07

Before I went home. I didn't, I didn't go home

29:09

until I was like, they're 20. He might be 20.

29:11

I think you were like, you should go home now.

29:14

Everyone's gone now. I feel like the last, when

29:16

there was no one left on campus, apart from

29:19

the staff, that's when I would start

29:21

to be packing my hat and going. And I

29:23

would just be the first person back. January 1st,

29:25

January 2nd, I

29:27

am back. I'm gone. Back on the weekends. I'm

29:29

on the campus. And no, even though it was

29:31

a point. So when I first, you know, the

29:33

second year, we're moving with your friends. All my

29:35

friends moved in, right? And I got a placement.

29:37

So I lived in Technica, and placement was in

29:39

Waterston. Oxford is, sorry, what was

29:42

I doing back then? The close up. Yeah, yeah. I think

29:44

for the first couple of weeks, I was going to my

29:46

placement from home. I said, you know what? Nah, nah. I'm

29:49

going back. I'm

29:51

going back to Oxford. I would do that too.

29:53

I would journey to Waterston. I'd like to take

29:55

that freedom. But I need the freedom. So

29:58

know that this... This

30:00

is, you're not the only one going through this. And also

30:02

eventually it just kind of, they get tired. So

30:05

it was really bad. They'd be the first couple of months, but

30:07

then I was there for years. So eventually they just kind of

30:09

leave you alone and you do your own thing. I

30:11

would definitely suggest a better hiding place. Like

30:14

I'm a big woman and I think I'd feel sick

30:17

if my mum found a sex point. Oh my God,

30:19

that's how my mum Googled it to find out exactly what it was. I

30:21

don't know if there's a way in

30:23

which you can maybe, because that is a bit of a

30:25

violation. I will say that. It's a huge violation. I totally

30:28

agree with what you're saying. It's not going to stop. As

30:30

long as you're under their roof, it's probably, they're going to

30:32

continue to be a little bit overbearing,

30:34

a little bit overprotective. But what you can absolutely

30:36

have complete agency over is your personal space. Like that

30:39

one, I would probably leave with that and just tell

30:41

your parents that they should not be guiding your room.

30:43

Like put your foot down. I mean, the way you're

30:45

talking, it's not giving that like they're strict. I thought

30:47

it was a different street. I think it is strict.

30:50

I found a little way in front of her. And

30:52

overbearing. I feel like

30:54

they're overprotective. Do you

30:56

know what I mean? But I'm not getting the sense that

30:58

like she can't check them on this. Yeah.

31:01

You know what I mean? Because she's like, I want to

31:03

do what I'm going to do anyway. Like ain't nobody going

31:05

to stop me. So there must be a certain level of

31:07

leniency there somewhere. So I would just use that opportunity to

31:09

be like, my room is off limits. And

31:12

then maybe with the other stuff, you might just have

31:14

to just hold that. Where would you suggest her to

31:16

hide? What's a good hiding place? Where's

31:18

her mum not going to go? Because she said

31:20

that they redid, they, you know. It's so weird because

31:23

I live alone and I still hide it. Yeah.

31:25

Who's father is having no hiding? I don't have it on

31:27

display. It's still like the

31:29

back of my drawers. It's mad.

31:32

Yeah. But yeah. That's so interesting.

31:34

But yeah, I think maybe accept

31:36

the fact that they're going to be on you a little

31:38

bit. But tell them not to

31:40

be going through your stuff. That's an absolute violation. Cause they

31:42

may like what they, they may not like. Maybe hide it

31:44

under the mattress. Yeah. Hide it somewhere that

31:46

your mum's not going to look. They just, just that

31:48

one I say that because I don't want you spending money

31:51

on vibrators. Cause them things are not that cheap. Yeah. To

31:53

keep on buying them if she's going to dash it every time. Just

31:55

more if I know what it's for. Like I just

31:58

can't even imagine. Because

32:00

my mum, if my

32:02

mum was to find anything, her

32:04

sadness would be like, so

32:07

she can't even find a man to fuck. Yeah,

32:09

it's like, wait. No

32:13

mum will even sleep with her. Like I said, how can a

32:16

girl with serious stigma will marry her? No mum will fuck her?

32:18

Like, what is going on? I think that's where

32:20

mum's like paying. I think if my mum found my

32:22

dildo, then I

32:24

think she would be very concerned. She

32:26

would be very concerned. Yeah, yeah, yeah. She

32:29

should be. She would be very

32:31

black and veiny. I'm not going to please. And veiny. And

32:33

like, if she found that, she, and it's got

32:35

suction for the wall. So if

32:37

my mum found that, oh my God, I'd be

32:40

mortified because that one, there's no disguise in it.

32:42

But the vibrator, I could just be like, oh,

32:44

but it's something from my headache. Like if I

32:46

have a headache, do you know what I mean?

32:48

My lower back, it's like a massage, it's like

32:50

a little, you know, portable massager. Like, you know,

32:52

from my back. You thought my mum might know what it is.

32:54

Yeah, my mum wouldn't know what, yeah. I could say my mum, it

32:56

was a charger. And my mum wouldn't know what

32:58

to Google. Do you know what I mean?

33:00

She wouldn't even know what to type in or how to describe it. But

33:03

my dildo, Lord.

33:05

There's no hiding that one. And for God, I didn't give a strap

33:07

one. Like, oh, that would have been mental.

33:10

But yeah, anyway. You

33:12

are. I love you so

33:14

deeply. I

33:17

don't think, I radiate, like, I hope you feel

33:20

it. I feel it, like, you look at

33:22

me like. I feel it, I look at

33:24

the adoration. Absolute fascination of just like how

33:26

my mind works. I'm deeply in love with

33:28

you. And then you train a thought

33:30

in how you maneuver life. I love it. I'm crazy,

33:32

innit? I'm just a crazy, crazy person. You're

33:34

crazy, I'm lover. I'm lover.

33:39

I'm lover, I'm really. I'm gonna have to

33:41

be clear. I

33:45

don't know why I'm so lonely. Okay. Okay,

33:49

okay. Sorry, sis. Sorry, sis.

33:51

Yeah, sorry. I take better and just

33:53

accept. But I think with time, they'll

33:55

become more lenient. Also, look

33:57

into this option about moving out. Cause you just say it sounds like.

34:00

I think it might be an option. If you can do that, cause it. If

34:02

it absolutely helps, then yes, do it. Do it. Go.

34:05

Can't be on sody on the internet. Exactly.

34:07

Exactly. Right, next dilemma. Next

34:09

dilemma. Let's go. Hi, girls.

34:12

I just want to give you your flowers before I

34:15

begin my dilemma. I've been listening to the

34:17

receipts from when they were full with you to

34:19

now two. Girl, same. I've

34:21

not always had the same opinion as you guys, but

34:23

I've loved hearing your take on things and being part

34:25

of this journey. I don't think you guys know how

34:27

amazing you are. And I pray that God will continue

34:30

to increase you in every way possible. Amen. Audrey,

34:32

I just want to say that you are a breath of fresh air. And

34:34

no matter how much the dad

34:36

jokes, dad joke, I will still laugh. I know

34:39

that you would be an amazing mom to Anaya.

34:41

And I pray that God will cover you

34:43

and your family from any evil. Amen. Totally.

34:46

I want to say that I appreciate you for being

34:48

on a politically you. This society really hates the impact

34:50

of being both soft and strong and you embody those

34:52

things. I want to say thank you for

34:54

being so open and vulnerable and everything you talked about your mom. It's

34:57

so difficult to share such a private moment in your

34:59

life. So thank you. Thank you to being the woman

35:01

that you are. And I hope you don't change for

35:03

anything or anyone's validation. Thank you. Now

35:06

onto my dilemma. I'll keep things short and sweet.

35:09

My friend, let's call her Leslie, is someone

35:11

who loves to host things. One

35:13

of Leslie's love languages, I act for service. So

35:15

she jumps at an opportunity to do things for

35:17

her friends. And a lot of the time, we'll

35:19

be hosting an event. For context, we are at

35:21

uni. So she hosts things in our university accommodation

35:24

where we live in the same flat. Whether it's

35:26

just a games night, girls night, paint and sip,

35:28

you name it, it will 100% be

35:30

in our flat. At first, I really used

35:33

to enjoy this because who doesn't like socialising

35:35

with friends? How? Whether.

35:39

As of recently, I started to find myself

35:41

not enjoying it as much. Because

35:44

I live with Leslie and I'm her friend,

35:46

I feel this unsaid expectation to help us

35:48

set up and prepare. Of course, as Africans,

35:51

we have been socialised to clean before inviting

35:53

people around. So I always help clean and

35:55

set up before the events, during the events

35:57

and even after. These events and

36:00

on as late as 4am. Sometimes I

36:02

miss the fun things like games and

36:04

just outrageous come bros that can only

36:07

happen in group sessions. It's almost like

36:09

I'm experiencing FOMO even though I'm there.

36:12

Leslie is a gem and a lot of the work comes

36:14

from her part but at the same time it should

36:16

because she's the one who wanted to host it.

36:18

I think everyone knows these events are 10 times

36:20

better when you're the guest and because I'm never

36:22

the guest it just doesn't feel as fun as

36:24

it used to. How can I go

36:27

about this? I don't feel like it would be fair

36:29

to watch Leslie prepare for herself because she's always hosting

36:31

from 12 or more people.

36:33

At the same time I too want to enjoy

36:35

it. What should I do ladies? Things

36:37

in advance. So basically her friends

36:39

organise events and she's always helping so she ever feels

36:41

like she's part of the fun and

36:43

it's just not fun for her anymore. So what she

36:45

should be. She's tired. I'm

36:50

putting bun on the wall, I'm using blue talk,

36:52

I'm setting up a snack everyday trying to eat

36:55

which is by the way so

36:57

bloody expensive. I'm making conch fill.

37:00

I'm tired. I'm tired of this going

37:02

dead. I think she just needs

37:04

to tell her because at the top

37:06

of the email he said that she really enjoys this.

37:08

This is her love language. She gets the thrills out

37:11

of it, she gets the kick out of it. So

37:13

you just need to be like this. I

37:15

just need to bow out a little bit. I'm happy for you to

37:18

host and do whatever. But

37:21

I can't help you with every single one. Just

37:25

let her know that she should get on

37:27

with it by herself. Or maybe reduce it

37:29

and just be like look let's just try, I don't know,

37:31

let's just say for example you're hosting something a couple of

37:33

times a week. That's a lot in a

37:35

month. So maybe say look let's just do twice

37:38

a month, let's just do a big thing where

37:40

we're both hosting it together and I'm happy to

37:42

contribute. So it's going to be more than that

37:44

financially in terms of my energy. Because how

37:46

do you guys even have this much time? Surely you should

37:48

be studying like if you guys are in uni. Do

37:50

you know what I mean? So yeah, just

37:53

tell her to reduce it and yeah see if that helps. That's

37:55

what I would do. I just feel like look can we just

37:57

cut it down a little bit and maybe just do it twice a

37:59

week. Twice a mom feel. I have a big

38:01

things wife month. That of doing it weekly

38:03

or whatever because it's time consuming. It's energy

38:06

consuming. It's financially can see man and yet

38:08

I don't want I want my pots for

38:10

me. I. Got. She enjoys the even she

38:12

dressed i sound like it's too much or wherever

38:14

us I think you'd be surprised. How it is

38:16

someone that this who enjoys ice and stuff you'd be

38:18

surprised how much at you that when you how. He

38:21

gave us a hidden the yeah I

38:24

wasn't sure how I enjoyed cited. As

38:26

she had enjoyed. Soon as I see bet we probably

38:28

won't see. What actually my new and

38:30

now and doing it has also thing and maybe

38:32

this I blow up a black as as as

38:34

I would have enough about you have increased as

38:37

much as you did only be a guest and

38:39

is one and I think you'd be surprised by

38:41

how been the cigarette. Yes please do it because

38:43

she sounds like something a she enjoys. do not

38:45

have coal if I give something of that too

38:48

many cooks enjoyment. The if you're an athlete yeah knew

38:50

that I just he says i echo of leave me and.

38:52

Five it is just as it's know about. Are we going to

38:55

be the guess that islam yeah and if it's like a thing

38:57

was has not you Helps I get that the and. Co

38:59

the prepping any oh to

39:01

specious Egypt. Don't. Be home. yeah

39:03

if any but seven off on mess up

39:05

in the library at us. An episode of

39:08

of the A He just he agrees that

39:10

wouldn't be smart enough out by. Yeah yeah

39:12

yeah, I think you're right. I. Think.

39:14

Yeah. I think shouldn't we have the money? Yeah

39:16

you'd be like my the didn't we didn't up there

39:18

and things that you don't need you so she says

39:21

has the gesture. Delaying it I said by we should

39:23

either the A. With the i want city this nut

39:25

have done it yet. And. You probably didn't

39:27

want to be a pleasant as you live.

39:29

David Eg Benefits makes you enjoy. Yeah, just

39:31

felt obligated to help. And which is

39:33

nice to. Be but now you're tired of doing that

39:35

as these sorts. What I think is. A.

39:37

Redneck is that they are to islam a

39:39

you enjoy doing so That's okay. yeah yeah

39:41

yeah exactly as they decide your friends near

39:43

a some fun. Miss

39:46

Alamo next Salamone. This.

39:48

Honey and old realize Sassy! Thank you for

39:50

being such amazing for. Kosice. I love the

39:52

since your perspective than him in your advice

39:54

wishing you all the. success i'm betting today

39:56

i'm the one in need of some

39:59

serious big sister We've got you, honey.

40:01

So I'm from a country in southern Africa and

40:03

three years ago I moved to a city in

40:05

hopes of starting my first corporate job and a

40:07

few months later I managed to get it. Congratulations.

40:09

Everything was going great as I didn't need to pay

40:11

rent because I was living with my auntie and

40:13

would focus on saving to try and

40:15

finish university. My university costs are

40:18

quite expensive so it would take a huge chunk

40:20

of my paycheck and I couldn't save much because,

40:22

you know, cost of living. Before I moved I

40:24

used to stay with my mum at a house

40:26

owned by my auntie in a different city. My

40:29

aunt left us live there, my whole life rent

40:31

free in exchange to maintain the property and oversee

40:33

some businesses on high behalf. After I

40:35

moved out I left my mum and

40:37

brother there and everything was good until

40:39

almost a year ago. I found out my mum

40:42

was scammed out of almost £8,000 and

40:44

my wealth turned upside down. I found

40:46

out that she had gotten into significant

40:48

debt and people were listening to take

40:50

her to the police because of it.

40:52

Her and her sister, the one I live with,

40:54

got into massive arguments because my aunt used to

40:56

send her money to maintain the house and a

40:58

lot of the bills went unpaid for months. I'm

41:00

guessing she used the money to give the scammers.

41:03

She and my brother basically ran away and came

41:05

to the city I was staying in to seek

41:07

refuge at my other brother's house. In

41:10

the months that followed saying that my aunt became

41:12

impossible because she would take out her anger on

41:14

me and it took a toll on my mental health.

41:16

I started drinking a lot more and had to

41:19

take a break from university classes. I felt very

41:21

useless because I wasn't earning enough to even

41:23

help. My brother took out a loan to

41:25

pay off my sister's debt. Fast forward

41:27

to now I moved out of my aunt's house in

41:29

January and started living with my mum. My

41:32

brother found us a small one-bedroom

41:34

apartment and he covers the rent and I

41:36

mostly cover the groceries. Here's my

41:38

dilemma. I recently found out basically

41:40

by snooping around my mum's phone after seeing a

41:42

weird number that my mum still keeps in contact

41:45

with the scammers. I almost lost

41:47

my share. She even went the extent of

41:49

asking other family members who were unaware of

41:51

the gravity of the situation for money to

41:53

help the scammers. Honestly I

41:55

don't understand. I've tried to but I can't.

41:57

She knows how badly this is impacted. I'm

42:01

the one who has to consider to take out a

42:03

loan to cover the remainder of my uni cost, which

42:05

is just about £800, simply

42:07

because I can't afford to save for school and

42:10

buy groceries and cover my transport costs. Ever

42:12

since then, I couldn't confront her about it because she

42:14

is very emotional and defensive about it. I

42:17

try to delete the numbers and block them, but I think

42:19

they found a way to remain in contact. I know she's

42:21

the victim in all of this, but she's starting to feel

42:23

a lot like the villain. Whenever she asks me for

42:25

money, I always find an excuse, so I don't know

42:27

if she's sending it to the scammers or if she

42:29

needs it. I don't know how to help

42:31

her, and now that we live together,

42:33

I'm getting more and more agitated. She gets upset

42:36

when I don't send her money, knowing how bad

42:38

I'm struggling. I can't trust her, I feel like

42:40

she's betraying us. It's just awful because

42:42

I think she's in a really bad place mentally, and

42:44

anything I say pisses her off. Please help

42:47

me, I think this will ruin our relationship. Anything

42:49

you say will be helpful. Oh

42:51

god. I know, that's a lot, boy. That's

42:55

a lot. Do you know what?

42:57

I feel like it

43:00

would be interesting to know how she got involved

43:04

with these people in the first place.

43:07

How did this even come about because £8,000 to

43:09

random scammers is mad. She's

43:14

definitely the victim in the sense that these people

43:16

target specific people that are vulnerable and all the

43:18

rest of it. I think if it were me, I think

43:21

that before sometimes you can

43:23

get to the solution, you need to understand

43:25

the root of the issue. I

43:27

don't know if it seems like you

43:29

know that she's been scammed, but I don't know

43:32

if you know the genesis of how all of

43:34

this started. I would need to get to the

43:36

root cause because I think that that's probably one

43:38

of the best ways that you're going to be

43:40

able to figure out how to move forward. Obviously,

43:42

you're in a really tricky position. You're trying to

43:44

pay for school, you're trying to pay

43:46

for groceries and maintain just your lifestyle and know your

43:48

mum's on top of you. I think you

43:50

just have to be stringent with her. At the end

43:53

of the day, you know that her rent is being

43:55

covered, food is being provided, so she's got her basic

43:57

necessities. What exactly does she need

43:59

the money for? Like for me, I feel like when

44:01

people break trust, especially when it comes to money and

44:03

stuff, and they're coming to you for more money, you've

44:05

got every right to be like, what do you need

44:08

it for? You're going to have to run me receipts

44:10

of what you want this for. I'm going to have

44:12

to go with you to make sure you make these

44:14

practices, whatever, because trust has been broken. Like you have

44:16

to be treated like a small child, unfortunately. It's not a

44:18

thing of like, you've broken trust, you've been scammed, you're still talking

44:20

to the standards, and I'm just going to be running you money.

44:23

So if you've

44:25

got the capacity to do that, then that's what I

44:27

would, that's probably what I would do. But I wouldn't

44:29

enable her by giving, just giving her more money for

44:31

the fee. You know,

44:33

I think a lot of people are in this situation with

44:36

their parents. And I was I would say, like, second,

44:38

first generation, second generation Africans, just

44:41

because it's the world I know more

44:44

about. And I think it's this

44:46

thing of like, it might not be scammers, it might

44:48

be scammers, might not be scammers. It might be they're

44:51

sending money back home, or they use money for other

44:53

things and things like that. And like, it's just frustrating

44:55

because it's like, you're keeping, you're giving your money and

44:57

the money you're not seeing what it's been used on.

44:59

Like, I like the many people who give their mum a

45:01

lot of money, I would love to be like, I'm giving

45:03

my money and I see that she's buying Gucci this I

45:05

would, like, I would love that that money's been spent on

45:08

her. But for my for example, my issue is that my

45:10

mum says money back home. Like,

45:12

and it just is, anyway,

45:15

that's a whole different story. So I feel like this

45:17

situation, a lot of people have it with their parents,

45:19

maybe their parents are not great with money, then have

45:22

to handle money. I mean, they're all scamming

45:24

somehow or just doing something that's just kind of

45:26

like, I don't know how to help you. I

45:28

think the first thing to do is actually sit

45:30

down and have an honest, uncomfortable, they'll be sharing,

45:33

they'll be to become a baby, blah, blah,

45:35

blah, blah, blah, have an honest confession with

45:37

her. What's owed? Who what's owed to? How much

45:39

like, as in, how did it get

45:41

owed? And what's happening? Beautiful harvest because if this thing

45:43

I feel like it's probably a case of maybe she's

45:45

owed them more than you know, maybe there's more to

45:47

the story than what you actually know. So I think

45:49

it's actually worth I think many of us have parents

45:51

who are maybe not great with money or just kind

45:53

of higgie hugger, and just sit them down and like,

45:55

what is going on with your finances, think about exactly

45:57

what's going on with your finances. what

46:00

is owed and then from there if you can afford

46:02

to you and your brother you say okay every month

46:04

we're gonna give you this set amount and that is

46:06

all we're giving you. Figure

46:09

it has to solve because in my mind your mom is a more

46:11

shit than what she's making out to be. So

46:13

I think sit down and have that really it's

46:16

not going to be easy conversation I promise you it's

46:18

not going to be easy at all but

46:21

it's necessary because the thing is for

46:23

many people when your parents do things

46:26

it falls on you it's you that has to

46:28

like pay off these things when they don't pay

46:30

their bills when they're in debt where maybe getting

46:32

scammed by scammers sending money it's you that has

46:34

to fix it. So

46:37

have that really sank on this conversation

46:39

and find out exactly what the situation

46:41

is who are these people how

46:44

much does she actually owe them and what

46:46

now I think is what needs

46:48

to happen. Same. Because you know

46:50

like I was saying she's clearly she's broken trust

46:52

yeah so you're not in

46:54

a position and she's not and I know

46:56

she's a big woman but she's not really

46:58

deserving of you just giving her money. Yeah. The trust has

47:01

been broken now so you have to show me what you need

47:03

it for unfortunately I'm not just gonna keep on giving you

47:05

money and I don't know where it's going or you

47:07

know it's fueling a big art problem or you know

47:09

if you've got a gambling addiction whatever whatever it is

47:11

I think there's more to it as well I don't

47:13

think it's a straightforward scammers what does

47:16

that even mean I don't know but yeah

47:19

I would do the same thing yeah very very

47:21

serious conversation with her. Let her know the gravity

47:23

of the situation I thought like sometimes we hire

47:25

things from our parents as well we want them

47:27

to think everything's hunky-dory we've got it on the

47:29

blast she needs to understand no this is look

47:31

at the domino effect it's having like it's affecting

47:33

your uni it's caused you to drink it's caused

47:35

family risk with the system and you've lost the privilege

47:37

I mean you thought we're living in a nice house no

47:40

no bill free now look yeah I mean and

47:42

look at look at how this has impacted

47:44

everybody because of you know decisions that she's

47:46

made she needs to understand the gravitas of

47:49

the situation yeah have that conversation and then

47:51

just take it from there but I personally

47:53

would not be killed giving her

47:55

money yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah that one I think that's a

47:57

practical thing that you can start. with.

48:00

Yeah. I'm just not handing her money because she's, you know,

48:02

we don't know what she's doing with it. I think it

48:04

happens more often than what people talk about, especially with their

48:06

parents being in debt and things like that. And it's embarrassing

48:09

because she's like, what, what are we going to do? But

48:11

yeah, yeah, have that fun conversation and good luck. Where is

48:13

this? I'm very sorry about that. Right.

48:15

Next, Alima. Next, Alima. Okay. Hi, angels. Let

48:17

me give you your flowers and say you

48:20

are both amazing. I love listening to the

48:22

podcast. Thank you for giving us two days

48:24

worth of joy and love. I hope the

48:26

rest of 2024 is amazing for

48:28

you. I have been dating this

48:30

guy for six months now and everything is

48:32

going really well. He

48:35

always wears caps, beanies

48:37

and hats in general. I know where

48:39

this is going. Are you being catfished?

48:42

This is an issue for me. Just when I

48:45

asked why you always wore them, you told me

48:47

it's something he's done since he was a kid

48:49

and just was better wearing them. He's

48:51

been bald in a little bit. So a few

48:53

months ago, I made some rosemary oil and

48:55

he was very happy to use it. He's

49:00

trying to help him out. Why are

49:02

you laughing? He's been a stressor worker

49:04

recently and decided to cut his own

49:06

hair. He told me he had a Britney moment

49:08

and shaved it all off. He

49:10

has not let me see his haircut

49:14

and has started wearing hats in bed during

49:16

sex. Well,

49:18

I used to do that with my one Dutch cat, so I've not wanted

49:20

him to be a judge. You

49:22

used to wear your one Dutch hat, you were in sex! Audrey,

49:28

you used to wear your one Dutch hat. You

49:32

used to wear a one Dutch cap,

49:34

you're the lemakawait. I

49:38

used to wear my one Dutch cap. I spent good

49:41

money on that cap and I

49:43

used to wear it all the time. You were

49:45

in sex. During sex, I had my one Dutch

49:47

cap on. It was pink and brown. I

49:50

loved that hat. I had no one trying to take

49:52

it off. I told him, I was like, don't

49:55

ever take my hat off. I don't actually know why,

49:57

because I don't think my hair was a mess. So

50:00

I don't know why but yeah I used to keep mother

50:02

and dutch cap on during sex. You used to fuck with

50:04

face caps! Yeah with cap caps! Yeah with a cap on.

50:09

I don't know how I knew it wasn't good. Because there is no way good

50:11

sex allows you to keep a hat on. Okay

50:16

back to your dilemma. Can

50:20

you not let me see this haircut and decide wearing

50:23

hats in bed during sex and straight out the shower.

50:29

You can relax. You

50:31

will play fighting the other day. I'm

50:41

a bloody lover! I'm

50:44

a bloody lover! I'm

50:56

playing! Play

50:58

fighting has revealed many of things. No

51:00

play fighting is not

51:03

funny! That was a real fight in

51:05

real quick you know. Oh my goodness. Okay

51:09

we're play fighting the other day. And I took his hat

51:12

off. He was so mad. I

51:16

didn't fix me for four hours. Oh

51:25

my god! I should not be

51:27

laughing because my damn lashes are gonna fall off.

51:30

Oh my god. I apologise so many times.

51:34

He didn't even sleep in the same bed as me that night.

51:38

He was stupid. Oh

51:40

my god. Oh my.

51:43

I went home in the morning without speaking and

51:45

a few days later went round to his

51:47

house to talk. He had previously not applied

51:49

to my apology messages and calls. He told

51:52

me he didn't want to talk to me. Had

51:54

we didn't like anyone seeing his hair and

51:56

needed time to basically decide if he wanted to continue

51:58

to be with me because I'm a... He

52:02

told media when it suits me about it

52:04

as he didn't like anyone seen his head.

52:06

news and some spicy decide if I could

52:08

see be with me at the site Sides

52:10

Advice: Someone so really insecure. And of hundred

52:13

yards. So much. I even bought you

52:15

can somehow grow shampoo and it for a

52:17

birthday was on china. Give space by sooner

52:19

can be punished or something. I have my

52:21

control. Obama. How long the space to

52:23

each month for never again. Any advice on.

52:25

How to fix it would be

52:27

amazing Thank you Oh sorry with

52:29

in between his mouth it's not

52:31

the is Lydia switch with a

52:33

fight against is insecure about A

52:35

and that by people who are

52:37

lots had the insecurities and that's

52:39

absolutely fine Why I'm. Ah,

52:52

Out About. This

52:57

is not say about what yeah I will

52:59

say this Normally you know be understood things

53:01

as. I

53:13

was a very small number. Of

53:15

the get up needing think that this is

53:17

of that various Dc of I really believe

53:20

it. I read about in an area and

53:22

maybe lives. He's wearing the hat and so

53:24

that the have a flat yeah yeah yeah

53:26

like Leslie was guided him back to them

53:29

in between. say but he's. Better at

53:31

the same time. I feel like the punishment is

53:33

not much in the plan. Yes, know to the Emmys

53:35

and up for the given him by your side of

53:37

a how. I

53:45

got lucky with. Much good luck

53:47

with a arm. A good not into

53:50

the of. Yeah,

53:53

I I strongly believe he's very,

53:55

very. Genuinely. Upset

53:58

about a yes and but yeah? The punishment's

54:00

not matching the crime, hon. I think you've

54:02

apologized. You're clearly remorseful. That's all

54:04

you can do. I think it's gonna have to be

54:06

a time thing. But at

54:08

the same time, I don't think,

54:11

yeah, you've done everything that you could

54:13

possibly do. If

54:16

this is worthy of breaking up over,

54:18

then I don't think he's a very serious

54:20

person to begin with. But yeah, there's

54:22

nothing else you can do, hon. I don't really know

54:24

if she's apologized and she's sincerely sorry.

54:27

Yeah, and also, do you know what? You've

54:29

apologized now. Stop talking about it.

54:31

Because I think sometimes when someone's really embarrassed by

54:33

something, the more it makes it go on for

54:35

longer. Yeah, and especially because you brought him the

54:37

hair growth, hair oil, and stuff like that. I

54:39

think once you've apologized, just kind of move on. Because

54:43

being embarrassed by something, the more people keep lamenting on

54:45

it, it feels like, oh, it's not stopping. Actually, you've

54:47

apologized. You're like, stop talking about it now. Let's just

54:49

carry on and do something else. So stop

54:51

talking about it. Let's move on from the

54:53

situation and just maybe just approach him and

54:56

they're like, no more stories. And

54:58

maybe call what you're up to today, like there's no

55:00

more solids. It's enough. You tackled it head

55:02

on. It's this insecurity that's already...

55:05

Okay. I'll

55:08

be your soldier. Nothing, I have nothing left,

55:10

man. You. I

55:16

mostly laugh because of how angry it is.

55:18

Like, yes, but I leave. Like, I get

55:21

it. I'm like, oh, it's okay. No, but

55:23

bro was wearing a hat out of

55:25

the shower. Like, you can't

55:27

talk. Yeah, he... One duck's doing that. I know,

55:29

during sex. So I understand his position a little bit.

55:32

But let it go now. Yeah, yeah. But I

55:34

think you're right. Just change subjects. Yeah, yeah. Stop

55:37

apologizing. Oh, you never get to fight for that work. Yeah,

55:39

yeah, yeah. Just like, change your day. Yeah, carry on.

55:41

As we were. Last dilemma? Last dilemma. Hi,

55:43

girls. I love your podcast so, so

55:45

much. You guys have basically raised me. I've been

55:47

watching since 17 and I'm 24 now. I'm

55:50

so appreciative of all the work you guys do. Oh,

55:53

thank you. Thank you. Right, so my

55:55

dilemma. I'm 24, seeing a 25-year-old black man. Let's

55:58

call him Tay. We've been... The and have

56:00

a T is things a player he

56:02

super supportive, smart, intelligent, sexy and we

56:05

have really good say okay we onset

56:07

of relationship. Because I don't want to be in one fab.

56:09

I still full time jobs and once

56:11

enjoy my life and experience life in

56:13

a freeway in my twenties. We've had

56:16

conversations in the past about the relationship

56:18

and although he would want. To.

56:20

Be in once. He says he's happy with

56:22

me living my life single. As long as I don't

56:24

sleep with other men. ha. You see, I'm

56:26

bisexual and I'm currently sexually active with

56:28

both men and women. Pay those about

56:30

the women but not the men are.

56:32

I don't tell him as I know

56:34

he. Will get sepa tennis and probably stop seeing

56:36

me. Also I hate men seat in that by i

56:39

me so I often just end up doing why one.

56:41

On this one particular weekends I had a guy

56:44

coming from Hinge. let's call this guy crazy

56:46

guys. We had a couple of days and thought

56:48

we'd have off last night in together but mine

56:50

He bought one and snacks and we had the

56:52

best time. Carry had so much fun gauss

56:54

I couldn't believe it. even got the point where

56:57

we were outside having a race and drunk at

56:59

three. I love complete utter chaos and good vibe.

57:01

This left the next morning and I cleans

57:03

up the mess as the next day pay was.

57:05

Coming honey! It

57:08

sounds mad me seeing. One wire off

57:10

to the other but the weekend is A

57:12

D T days not my me zombie get

57:14

mine anyway. Take Hums Ipa and we were

57:16

also having a great time as the C

57:18

D. Except the neighbor bought the

57:20

may become cynical. My daughter veins an

57:22

issue with the noise. She said how

57:25

the was a cbc it and how

57:27

even the data for with all the

57:29

bang and ah so I would say

57:31

the country the whoop. I

57:34

heard about. And apologize quickly. However, not

57:36

quick enough as hey Omaha ne But

57:38

it's not. Wow,

57:40

I told. Him that we should keep

57:42

the noise that as an advocate as the

57:44

neighbor can hear sometimes. He said he wasn't

57:46

there yesterday and asked me the I was

57:48

we are So as soon as I had

57:50

already like him before and how to my

57:52

stadiums I stuck with that story as it's.

57:54

An. Embargo A bit drunk and messy, so maybe that's

57:57

the noise that she was seventy, but he got

57:59

really sick. pay them. comment about the banging

58:01

so loud that I could have come

58:03

through the wall. He thought she was insinuating

58:05

loud sex. He

58:08

was right because me and that Chris guy were going

58:10

at it all night. But now my

58:12

neighbour snitched and I literally didn't know what to do.

58:15

After some back and forth and me tried to ask Clueless, he

58:17

went to knock on my neighbour's door to

58:19

ask her personally. He did this twice. I

58:21

did not want to stop him as I did

58:23

not want to come across as guilty. My neighbour

58:25

spilled the tea and basically told him that this

58:27

banging usually happens late at night and

58:30

I often have company. Okay I'm lying but

58:32

how dare you go. How

58:34

fucking dare you. I tried to play

58:36

this off but he was not buying it. Now

58:38

we are on fragile terms. My

58:40

question to you is ladies, shall I leave this

58:42

situation alone? I feel like he doesn't trust me.

58:44

No shit. I feel like I always

58:47

have to prove myself to him. He asked to

58:49

see my call off for more evidence

58:51

and proof of what I was up to that night. No.

58:53

I was one step ahead and deleted everything but I can't

58:55

help but think I'm doing way too much for a man

58:58

who isn't my man. Situations

59:00

like this are one of the main reasons why

59:02

I don't want to enter a relationship as I

59:04

don't like having to answer to anyone. However, trying

59:06

to protect his feelings and missing out a few

59:08

details, I feel like now it's come back to

59:10

bite me in the butt. I'm unsure of what

59:12

to do or say. I know I don't want

59:14

to stop seeing Chris and I do really like,

59:17

hey, but this isn't the first time he's gotten

59:19

suspicious of me and demands evidence. I hate feeling

59:21

controlled, what should I do, thanks in advance. Oh.

59:23

Spicky one still. Actually, do you know what?

59:26

Actually it's not sticky at all. It's not

59:28

sticky at all. I feel like you're saying

59:30

that you don't want to be in a

59:32

relationship and so there's a certain level of

59:34

transparency with the pay but

59:37

at the same time you guys are moving like

59:39

you're in a relationship. So you're not really

59:42

standing on business with what the things that you're saying

59:44

that you want because why do you have

59:46

to huddle someone's feelings? I think if

59:49

you want to stand in your convictions and this is what you want,

59:51

you have to make it clear to him. And to

59:53

be fair, you have to give him the option because

59:55

if he thinks that you guys are seeing each other

59:57

and exclusively sleeping with one another and you're sleeping with

59:59

other people. That's not the

1:00:01

contract. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You know what I mean? So

1:00:03

I do think like actually you even need to accept

1:00:06

and be brutally honest and be accepted. Actually

1:00:08

he may not be cool with this and you may lose him

1:00:10

but at least you've got, at least you've been honest

1:00:12

and you, you know, you've been straight with him but

1:00:14

you can't have your pay can eat it. You can't say

1:00:16

that you want to be free but at the same time

1:00:18

you're lying to him because you're not really living in your

1:00:20

truth, are you? Do you know what I

1:00:22

mean? Yeah, yeah, yeah, absolutely. So yeah, I just think you

1:00:25

need to just accept that he may not be with it

1:00:27

and you may lose him but at least you know you

1:00:29

don't have to do these things that you're doing because now

1:00:31

you're having to lie to him, he's not in your neighborhood,

1:00:33

you're deleting. Even in a relationship,

1:00:35

I'm not going through my fucking cool

1:00:37

log. Even if that was my

1:00:40

man. So let alone some guy that in your

1:00:42

mind, that's not your man. I

1:00:44

think we need to revisit the conversation about what

1:00:46

this is with Tae. Like I

1:00:48

think in one Tae side question is, my thing is you

1:00:50

don't get to ask me those questions. As in like me

1:00:53

and you are spending time together, we know

1:00:55

that we're not exclusive. I

1:00:59

don't actually want to talk about anything I'm doing everyone else with

1:01:01

you, that's what we've got on. And I think

1:01:03

you need to revisit that conversation just to make sure that Tae

1:01:06

is still with it because I think sometimes something starts

1:01:08

casual and I think most people's assumption is when something

1:01:10

is casual, the situation is shipped, they expect it to

1:01:12

be rude, they expect it for you

1:01:14

to not treat them nicely. So when something is

1:01:16

casual and you treat someone nicely, they almost shop

1:01:18

and they think, oh maybe we are something. So

1:01:20

I think it's what I was saying to be

1:01:22

like, hey, just so we know exactly what this

1:01:24

is, I am dating other people. Maybe it'd

1:01:27

be honest to be like, I am seeking other men as

1:01:29

well. And if it's like, you know what, that's not what

1:01:31

I signed up for. I don't want to do that.

1:01:33

That's absolutely fair and you should be a last-knowner. But

1:01:35

I think 10 the full story that I'm seeking other

1:01:37

people, men and women, and I don't want to talk

1:01:39

to you about that. Exactly. Because I feel like

1:01:42

you're doing a lot for someone like- You don't talk to

1:01:44

my neighbor like- Yeah. Even if my man talks to my

1:01:46

neighbor, you explain. Exactly. All this like having to

1:01:48

lie when really and truly the whole point of you not

1:01:50

being exclusive is to avoid all that. Exactly. But

1:01:53

you're not avoiding these things because it's still happening. So

1:01:55

yeah, I think that yeah, for you

1:01:58

to live completely in this- lifestyle

1:02:00

that you want to live, you have to be

1:02:02

transparent because you're not being honest. So therefore you're

1:02:04

not actually living the life that you really want.

1:02:06

Yeah. A life of freedom. Because

1:02:08

I shouldn't have, you shouldn't have to, because she even said

1:02:10

I had to think ahead and I'd already deleted my call

1:02:13

log. That is stress. Like the whole, you don't want any

1:02:15

of that stuff. What is the point of what you're doing?

1:02:17

What is the point in doing what you're doing? I'm not going to be a man. I'm

1:02:19

not going to be in a relationship with men. Yeah. So yeah,

1:02:22

I just, I want you to free yourself

1:02:24

from the shackles of like what you're in and

1:02:27

coddling this man's feelings and stuff like that. But

1:02:30

I absolutely think that like, if his thing is that

1:02:32

you guys are only sleeping with each other and

1:02:35

knowing him, you probably fucking are with people anyway. But

1:02:37

like, especially what you don't know him. But don't you

1:02:39

say knowing him? I know, I

1:02:41

know. I'm sorry. I'm fully projecting. I'm

1:02:43

fully projecting. But like, yeah, like live

1:02:46

your true situation day in life.

1:02:48

And just, I think this works

1:02:50

if everybody is on wall

1:02:53

and everybody knows what the truth is and everyone

1:02:55

knows what's going on. Otherwise it's not fair and it

1:02:57

doesn't work. So be very honest with him. I'm sleeping

1:02:59

with men. I'm sleeping with women. I like

1:03:01

you and I see what you're around by understanding if you can't

1:03:03

deal with that. Yeah, simple. And we

1:03:05

move. That's all. Yeah. That's

1:03:07

all. Be honest, you know.

1:03:09

That's all. Again, going to my neighbour is wild. Yeah, that's

1:03:12

nuts. But your neighbour is a messy ass

1:03:14

bitch. She's a baggity bitch. She is out

1:03:16

of order for that. I'm sorry. In what planet would your

1:03:18

neighbour think that's okay? And also, she

1:03:20

doesn't know if this man's abusive towards you. I don't like things

1:03:22

like that. What this man abuses me? What if you're going to

1:03:24

get me in a lot of trouble and this

1:03:26

man's going to start punching me up? Like I said, you don't know

1:03:28

that. You don't get to do what you've just

1:03:31

done, you prick. It sounds like an old bag

1:03:33

that you live next door to. But that's by

1:03:35

the by. Your neighbour's out of order. That was

1:03:37

way too much detail. Couldn't you just come over

1:03:39

and say keep the noise down? He

1:03:41

went to the neighbour twice. No, even him. I don't like how he's

1:03:43

moving. Yeah, he's doing a lot. He's doing a lot. No.

1:03:46

I don't think his situation's going to work for him. I don't think he knows

1:03:48

how to be what you want him to

1:03:50

be. Yeah, definitely not.

1:03:52

Let him go is what I think. But

1:03:55

yeah, that's it, right? That's all

1:03:57

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