Every June we hear the same questions - why do we have pride month? Why does this matter? Why isn’t there a straight month? In today’s episode I hope to highlight one main reason why I believe Pride is still so important in 2024.

183. Bad Advice

May 2nd, 2024 8m 32s

There are lots of pieces of advice that sound good (like “never go to bed angry”) that actually might not be as solid of advice as we thought.

182. How to Find the Right Therapist

Apr 25th, 2024 8m 20s

When you’re starting your therapy journey, it can be overwhelming trying to find a therapist. Finding the right therapist for you can be even more so. Trust me when I say you shouldn’t just go for the first therapist you find. You need to make

181. Excuses or Explanations?

Mar 28th, 2024 6m 47s

There is a subtle but important difference between an excuse and an explanation, and it primarily comes down to where responsibility is placed.

180. Fire Your Therapist

Mar 14th, 2024 7m 1s

The best therapists should be constantly losing their jobs, because it means they’ve done what they were hired to do.

179. My Favorite Communication Hack

Mar 7th, 2024 9m 19s

Communication is at the heart of ALL relationships, and miscommunication is often at the heart of many relationship problems. This hack can be a game changer for improving your communication skills!

178. Lessons in Forgiveness

Feb 8th, 2024 7m 39s

Forgiveness is hard, and we sometimes make it harder by expecting it to be something that it’s not.

177. How to Spend Attention

Jan 25th, 2024 8m 28s

Attention is a limited resource that must be budgeted and spent much like our money. And what you spend your attention on makes a big impact on your mental health.

176. Say it Now

Dec 14th, 2023 6m 6s

Don’t wait for the deathbed, the wedding, the Thanksgiving dinner, or any other big moment, to share how you feel with the people you love.

175. Expect the Expected

Dec 7th, 2023 6m 43s

As we head into the holidays, it can help remove a lot of disappointment or frustration if you just expect the expected.

174. You Actually CAN

Nov 30th, 2023 5m 41s

When we say that we “can’t” do something, that statement is almost never actually true. And recognizing what is the actual truth of the matter will create a much more empowering decision.

173. Discomfort vs Resentment

Nov 2nd, 2023 5m 57s

Life is about choosing which “hard” you prefer, and one of those choices is often between discomfort and resentment.

172. Never Say Never

Oct 19th, 2023 6m 22s

Absolute, black and white, all or nothing thinking, can be a very big problem for both relationships and individuals. In this episode, we look at where these thoughts are actually coming from and what we can do about them.

171. Don’t Do Your Best

Oct 12th, 2023 5m 40s

I don’t really love the advice that we give to people to “do your best.” Sometimes the pressure to do your best gets to be too much, and when people feel like they can’t do their best, they choose to do nothing.

170. Emerald Pools and Waterfalls

Sep 28th, 2023 5m 47s

Sometimes the pain caused by an unmet expectation is far worse than the experience itself. But the good news is that this "expectation pain" is optional!

169. Just Choose It

Sep 21st, 2023 6m 11s

If you are always struggling to make decisions because you are so concerned about making "the right choice" then I have some good news for you: there is no such thing!

168. You are Definitely Wrong

Aug 3rd, 2023 6m 12s

Did you know it is 100% guaranteed that there is something you believe to be true that you are wrong about? Whether it's something scientifically that we just don't know enough about yet, or a narrative belief about yourself or the way you fit

167. Misunderstanding Motivation

Jul 20th, 2023 6m 58s

Sometimes we just don't feel motivated to follow through with things we have committed to. (Like, for me, today, recording this podcast.) And that's okay! In this episode we talk about why re-evaluating your initial reasons for committing to th

166. Pay Attention!

Jul 6th, 2023 6m 39s

Where we pay our attention has a drastic impact on the quality of our life, so make sure you are paying attention with intention!

165. This Too Shall Pass

Jun 29th, 2023 5m 50s

Nothing is permanent. This might hit you as good news or bad news, depending on how you look at it. But the truth is that accepting this fact can drastically improve your overall happiness and life satisfaction, according to multiple studies.

164. I Am Not Enough

Jun 22nd, 2023 6m 40s

Many people come to therapy feeling that they are "not enough" or "not good enough." But "enough" is subjective. And rarely do we stop to ask ourselves - "Good enough at what?"

163. Happy Isn't Enough

Jun 8th, 2023 6m 25s

The phrase "I just want you to be happy" is commonly used in all sorts of relationships, but it can sometimes be the very thing getting in the way of real happiness, particularly when two people have very different ideas of what "happy" means.

162. Common Queer Myths

Jun 1st, 2023 7m 12s

To celebrate Pride Month, today we are breaking down 3 common myths about LGBTQ+ people: that it isn't natural, that science doesn't support it, and that there are more now than before. Happy Pride!

161. Might as Well Start

May 18th, 2023 5m 10s

If you've been putting off a project or change because you are worried about how long it will take, I like to remember this principle from today's episode: the time is going to pass anyway, so why not just start?

160. Getting Punched in the Face

May 11th, 2023 7m 8s

Did you know that getting punched in the face is a neutral situation? In this episode we break down why situations are neutral, and how our thoughts/opinions create meaning and feelings for us, using this rather painful example!