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A quick warning, there are curse words that are
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un-beeped in today's episode of the show. If
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you prefer a beeped version, you can
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find that at our website, thisamericanlife.org. WBZ
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Chicago, This American Life. I'm Howard Glass.
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Okay, so listen, right now we're going
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to be a little bit quiet because
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we're going to have a family talk. Are
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you ready for a family talk? Wait, wait,
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wait, wait, Dad. What? Brian LeBaron is the
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dad of a big family, seven
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kids in all. He mostly grew up
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in the United States, but his father and most of his
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family is Mexican. He moved back there a few years ago.
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Back in November, he gathered everybody together
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for a family meeting, outside on a
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patio. Most of the kids were
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on a long bench, holding pillows. Lexi
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thinks that this is an important moment in
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our family, and I agree with her. Lexi
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is Lexi Harrison-Cripps, the journalist that recorded
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this meeting, because she knew what some of
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the kids did not know, that Brian was planning to
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run for a seat in Mexico's House of
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Representatives. What does that mean? I
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want to work for the government. That's what
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that means. And since I'm going to be
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running, it's going to be a lot
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of work for me. And I'm going to
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be traveling a lot. I'm going to be away from home
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a lot. And when
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we go places, people are going to want pictures. So maybe
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you're walking with me and somebody will take a picture of
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us. We don't know how that's
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going to be. We
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don't know exactly what that's going to be like,
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right? One
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of the things also is that
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because of
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certain things that happened in our family, now
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there's people in our town that may not want to vote
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for me. And it might even
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cause people to want to be mean to our family.
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OK? And so
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I want to have a talk, Mom, and I wanted to have
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a talk with you so
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that you can be ready. Not
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just ready for the campaign, which is months away.
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But he's called his family meeting right now, in
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November, because some things have come up that's not
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only going to affect his candidacy. but
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everyone in the family in the next few days. What's
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happened is that Macario, their 17-year-old,
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has just made a big public decoration on
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Instagram, telling the world that he's gay, which
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in some places would be like whatever, but
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this family is Mormon, living in
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a tight-knit fundamentalist community in Mexico. Macario
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and the other kids go to a fundamentalist Mormon
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school that very much disapproves
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of homosexuality. Ryan
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figured kids at school might start saying
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cruel and hateful stuff to Macario and
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his brothers and sisters. Alrighty,
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some classmates were posting pretty awful comments
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on Instagram. Ryan wanted all
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of his children to be prepared. Okay
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guys, so guess what? You
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know how a lot of times we always went
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to church and we always hear about people
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that are going to date and get
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married. Three of the kids listening to this
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are young. There's nine-year-old
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Ariella, seven-year-old Chanel, and
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four-year-old Franco. What that means
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is that before Brian can tell them, your brother is gay,
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he first has to explain gay, the
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whole idea of gayness to these little kids.
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Chanel, this is more for you and Ariella,
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okay? Have
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you guys ever heard of the term gay? Oh,
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what? Gay. Oh, yeah. What
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does it mean? Gay?
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Yeah. Like people that
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wear necklaces are... So
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boys that wear necklaces that are for girls? Good
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guess, he tells them. And then launches
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into his explanation. It can be... He keeps it
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simple. But when people say the word gay, usually
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it means either two boys that like each other...
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I knew it. And maybe even
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when they want to get married, or two girls that like
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each other, or that maybe even want to get married. And
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somebody who feels that way, just like
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I think I look at mom and I think she's beautiful,
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there can be boys that look at other boys and
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think they're beautiful. Okay? Does
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that make sense? Yes, all around. On
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to the big reveal. Well, guess what?
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Macario, he
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thinks that boys are beautiful, and
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he thinks that he wants to fall in love with a
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boy. Okay,
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and that's what people call
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gay. Okay? Now that doesn't
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mean that something's wrong with Macario. Macario is
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perfect just the way that he is, and we love him
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and we're always going to love him. But
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why do they call it gay? That's just
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the name they gave it. Why do they call boys boys and girls girls?
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There's just a name for everything. I should say that
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two years ago, this is not how Brian would have
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talked about being gay. He was raised
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to believe that it was a choice, and sinful. But
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when Macario came out to him, Macario explained
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that he'd already tried to pray and fast
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his way out of being gay. And it
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was impossible. And Brian believed
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him. He changed how he saw all of it. And
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he talks about Macario with his family. Macario
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is sitting exactly in between his two little
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sisters as they go around with gay memes.
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And he smiles, like a mystery contestant on
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an old-timey game show, whose
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secret identity was just revealed. I
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didn't really know what was going on. And
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did your dad tell you, okay, here's what
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we're going to explain to the kids in
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this meeting. Nope. It was just, I
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was going to say I was gay. And it
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literally, it was not very planned out.
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And there's of course, the Macario. He
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says about good. Do you hear his dad say all these things
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in front of everybody? Next,
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Brian explained to the little ones in the
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family. The kids in school might
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be pretty mean about Macario. And they'll need to be
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ready. When people say, oh,
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your brother is gay, he's going to go to the devil.
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Oh, ha, ha, ha, ha. That's
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what people would say. That's what
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people would say. Well, that's not
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true. They'd eat and then Macario
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would say. No, that ain't going
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to go to the devil. So I
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want you to be ready because little
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kids can be mean sometimes. No.
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Macario tells them about some of the mean things kids have
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said at school. There was this one
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kid. Um, their dad said they
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can't do anything to legally kick me out of town, but
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they can do everything in their power to make it
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so that I want to be on
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my own. And they just only
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did that and are doing that
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because I'm gay. That's the only reason.
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And I know that they're just doing that because they've
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been like told their whole life that I'm a terrible
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person, anyone is a terrible person if they're gay. So,
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I mean, I get where they're coming
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from. But like, when
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they started just saying shit, I mean,
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started saying stuff about my friends, my
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friends and like the people supporting me and then
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like you guys, like how that guy said that.
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He was like, no, we can't blame the devil
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for this. It's their parents fault. Like they raised
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him wrong. They like, I'm living in California, Western
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culture, whatever. When they
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said that, it just made me so bothered because I'm
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like, you can like, I
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don't know, you can get mad at me and think that I'm good
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for that. All the people
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who are supporting me. So,
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everybody's on the same page, all
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prepared. Macario's feeling great about
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it. I think it's over, Red. You
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got that right. Okay, I want to hug.
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And when they go to school after this prep, none
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of the things that Brian prepared them for happened.
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School made a rule that nobody could talk about Macario. Overall,
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most of the Mormon community continued to treat Macario
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like they always had. Oh,
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this was a little sad for nine-year-old Ariella,
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who marched into school ready to tussle defender
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beloved brother after the family meeting. She
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said, well, I walked into class and
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I just said, hi, everybody. How's it
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going? Anything new? Happened
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yesterday. And they're like, no. And
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so she said, well, how about the day before? No,
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nothing new. And she said, okay.
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She just went on our day. So
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I don't know. It didn't seem to pay the
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younger kids at school. It was more Macario's class.
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You know, I think the teenagers kind
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of just may be shocked by it and
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not understanding exactly what to think In
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fact some teenagers set off a pretty frightening array
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of firecrackers at their house Through
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rocks wrapped in pieces of paper with Makaria's name
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written on them Which is
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scary kids and adults posted
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comments online like the carriers you find
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a tall tree and a rope should die
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Brian and his wife Wendy took all the kids out
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of the Mormon school But
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the family had been prepped. They understood that
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people might get mad about Makario And
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inside the family the family meeting set the tone
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It was a preemptive strike the main
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car is gayness a non-issue a
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non-negotiable fact They really
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have had little questions not many
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questions since then it seemed
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to really not faze them at all It
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was just okay, you know, that's
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cool. What are we gonna do tomorrow? Can we
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have a snack is there ice cream? Exactly
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Well today in our program the power of a
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family meeting drop some news like your
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brother's gay Or the glass when people
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remember I guess we're getting a divorce Then
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there are the administrative sort of family meetings Parents
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announced some changes and now we do the dishes
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around here or take out the garbage or whatever
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Everybody's gonna be doing their fair share What
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a family meeting can and cannot accomplish Especially
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in families with the kids do not want to go with the
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parents plan as a show today.
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Stay with us That
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one slow decision process
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that's mostly but maybe not completely
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over Sometimes
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when there's a family decision the family can keep
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talking about it for months on
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and off in the car meals whenever But
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everybody weighing in with different points of view Over
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the last few months. I've been talking to the parents in one family like
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that back when I first chatted
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with him in December, I asked the dad and the family
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how often the topic comes up. We
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are talking about that almost
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in each minute of the day. Even
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right now, before you
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called, we were talking about what we're
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gonna do. This
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is a little town pinion. What he's talking about
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with his wife, Michal, is where are they gonna live next?
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Their youngest couple in Israel with three kids, nine,
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11, and 13 at the time of this conversation,
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both educators. He's head of
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development, building a school and a campus for
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Bedouins, nomadic Arab tribes. And
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Michal? I'm an educational
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counselor. No, she's a doctor of
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education. Okay,
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she's a doctor of education. Krotan,
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why do you feel like you have to jump in and say
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that? Because
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we can end the conversation without
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you to know that she's
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really a doctor. Krotan is, perhaps
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you can tell, somebody who's always quick to speak his mind,
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sure of what he thinks. Michal's
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more deliberative. They
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used to live in the kibbutz in Israel, kibbutz Bay
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Area on the border with Gaza. When
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Hamas crossed that border on October 7th, like
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so many families, they hid in the safe room in their house. Dozens
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of their neighbors were killed, more at
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Bay Area than at any kibbutz that day, one
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in 10 people, including Michal's parents.
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And when it was over, they and most
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everyone else from the kibbutz were relocated to a tourist
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hotel by the Dead Sea, an hour
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and a half drive from their old home on the Gaza border.
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The whole kibbutz is here. The
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hotel is closed just for our kibbutz.
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There are no guests from outside. We
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are talking about something like 1,000 people inside
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this hotel. You
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have a lot of discussions
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that just in the lobby.
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Discussion is about where they're all gonna live next. In
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December, when we first talked, it was just two months after the
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attack, and each family had to decide would
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they stay with the community? Would
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they ever... never want to return to the kibbutz, where
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they just gone through this traumatic assault. It's
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one thousand people. You have a
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lot of ideas. You have those
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people who want to stay together
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or whatever. The kibbutz will go.
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And those who said no.
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Lots of people, especially the older people, were sure they
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wanted to go back and rebuild. People
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with kids were all over the place. And
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leaving a kibbutz, quitting kibbutz life is
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a big deal. A kibbutz is
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a special kind of tight-knit community. Kibbutz
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team were originally set up as collective
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farms, on socialist principles. And
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the area is still run on the old
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school socialist ideals most kibbutz team in Israel
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have abandoned. For example, as a
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member of the kibbutz, you turn over every cent that
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you earn at your job, your entire paycheck,
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to the collective. But the
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kibbutz gives us everything we
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need. And that means everything. They
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give you a house to live in, cars to
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drive, full health care, a gym and
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a swimming pool, and a dining hall if you
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don't want to cook, and spending money for necessities,
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but also for fun stuff like family vacations, to
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cover your kids' school and college. Children
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spend all day every day with other kids their
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age. That's a great way to raise kids. They
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can roam around. But Chahd describes
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what's so nice about kibbutz life this way. You
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don't have any worries, you
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know, mortgage or payments.
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And you have a very strong
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community that makes you
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feel belong to something big. Mihaly
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grew up this way on this kibbutz and loved it.
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Rotan moved to Berry with her when they first got together.
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He tasted some of the rules at
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first but got used to life in this big extended family.
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Now after October 7th, here
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he was with all of them at this hotel figuring
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out what to do next. And you know,
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it's a hotel, it's
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a nice space for three days of vacation,
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but it's not the way of living.
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You know, to see the smallest one... go
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to sleep at something like midnight. And... You
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don't have a family
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environment. Michal and Lotham
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were in one hotel room. The three kids were cooped
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up in another, getting on each other's nerves and into
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each other's hair. It's
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hard to be a family in that scattered situation. It
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was hard to supervise the kids. They
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were gone on a day at work. Michal now had
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a 90-minute commute, each way, to and
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from her job. There
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was school for the kids, but it was
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a makeshift thing the kibbutz organized. Not real
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school. It's more like a
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baby-babysitting. The challenge, the big
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challenge, is for the older children. They
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don't want to go. After
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just a few weeks of this, Lotham started to think,
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this is not good for our children. Maybe we need to
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get out of here, leave the hotel.
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Leave our friends and family behind. I
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realized that we're going
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to be stuck here in the Dead
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Sea for something like six, seven months.
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It's not their home. Let's do
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something else. Let's heal our
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family. Lotham
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was pushing to look
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for another place. Michal was
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not into this idea at all, moving
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away from the hotel, from the other
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kibbutz members. I understood
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why he
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wants to leave, but it
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was hard for me to leave the people I
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grew up with. These
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are the people I know all my
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life. So it was hard for me
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to understand that I'm leaving them. For
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me, I need to get used to the idea.
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I need time. That's
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the process with our relationship.
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His password. Just
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very quickly. If I decide
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something, after I do my
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own thing, I move forward.
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I'm a slower person. I
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need time to do things. They
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had to decide if they would move out of the hotel. But
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there was a bigger question they were going to have to face someday.
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Should they move back to their kibbutz, near the Gaza
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border? Like, ever.
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At this point, it's unclear how long
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the war will drag on. Over
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1,600 Israelis have died, according to the
16:24
Israeli military, and over 29,000 Palestinians,
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according to the Gaza Ministry of Health.
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Other kibbutzniks, kibbutz members, told
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me that they would only move back if somehow there were peace
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at the border. Or, you
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know, some conceivable path to some peace plan
16:38
that would seem fair to the Palestinians. So
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the kibbutzniks wouldn't have to worry about future attacks
16:43
coming across the border. Which,
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in a practical way, probably means
16:48
they won't be moving back anytime soon. But
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Haan and Lotan tried to imagine what it would
16:53
take for them to return. You
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know, Lotan was asking me a few
16:58
days ago, Do
17:00
you want to go to our home? Can
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you go back to this house? Do
17:05
you want to go
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back to a graveyard
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that 92 of your
17:12
kibbutz members, including your
17:14
father and mother, murdered there? Do you want
17:17
to go back? You're going to
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cross the places that you know
17:21
what happened there. The stories
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will come out in front of your
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eyes. It's a question. Okay,
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so feel free to say as much or as little about this
17:30
as you want. I'd like to ask you just a little bit
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about what happened with your family on October 7th, just
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so people understand what
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it is you'd be going back to. At
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6.30 a.m., we had an unusual,
17:45
massive missile attack. And when
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I say unusual, it's
17:50
not normal to have even one missile. But
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that was really a
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massive attack. So we went to the safe
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room, closed the door, and the first time we had a
17:59
missile attack, thought I had is okay it's
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6 30 a.m. we probably
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will not go back to sleep let's turn
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on the coffee machine. For
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decades safe rooms have been required in
18:10
all new Israeli homes reinforced to withstand
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rocket attacks. Soon Michael
18:14
and Lotan see on the kibbutz WhatsApp group that
18:16
attackers have made it inside the kibbutz but
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they assume it's small maybe five or ten fighters
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and they assume the army will be there soon.
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But minutes after that when everyone was saying
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they are here they are there they are
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shooting at my house they are throwing grenades
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and you know everyone who is living you
18:32
understand that they are spread all over the
18:34
kibbutz and then just close
18:37
the door and try to you know
18:39
find ropes and things like that in order
18:42
to tight the handle of the door because
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people were trying to starting to write that
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they are seeking to
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open the safe room and taking
18:50
people outside and shoot them. We
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should explain that the safe rooms are designed for missiles
18:55
coming in not for people coming in trying to
18:57
break into the safe room so they don't lock
18:59
from the inside. And that's
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exactly because that that's
19:03
one you
19:06
know huge part of our family story because
19:08
on something like 9 15
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Michal mothers was writing us in the WhatsApp
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on the WhatsApp there are terrorists
19:16
near our house and then there are
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tourists inside the house they are throwing
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grenades they are shooting through the
19:23
safe room door. We didn't
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understand that my dad
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was shot while sitting
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in the safe in the safe room the
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bullets penetrate the
19:36
door and he and he was
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wounded while sitting in the safe
19:40
room. Because brother
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Yuval talked to the mom then. He
19:45
was telling her mom be strong keep
19:47
the door tight the army is on
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his way he was lying there is
19:52
no army at the kibbutz but
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she that she was a really strong
19:56
realistic woman she was saying to him
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No, Yuval, I think this is the
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last time we're going to talk. Please
20:05
tell everybody that we love
20:07
them. The last
20:09
message is on WhatsApp. I have Mikhal and her
20:11
brother saying, Mom, keep writing all the time. What's
20:14
happening with you? Mom, answer.
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Their mom says, Dad was shot and
20:20
the Tehran grenades, they blew up
20:22
the safe room. And
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at 10.04, she was writing on
20:27
the WhatsApp, help, help
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twice. And that's the last word
20:31
we have. And now imagine
20:34
that we are sitting in our
20:36
safe room, one minute
20:38
walking from them, can do
20:40
nothing and realize that
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we don't have any more mom or
20:46
dad for Mikhal, grandfather and grandmother for
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our children. Do you tell the
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children? Yes, they
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heard. They knew. They
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kept asking, what about grandpa
20:57
and grandma? And
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the only answer I had was,
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I don't know. I
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didn't want to say something that it's not
21:07
true. So I just
21:09
told them that I don't know. It's
21:11
hard to hear that. I don't know. What
21:14
time does at this point, they realized they
21:16
needed to do anything they could think of to keep their
21:18
kids alive. But what I
21:20
had only is a baseball
21:22
bat, a dog that probably
21:25
will get killed the first time they're going to
21:27
go. And they were
21:29
hanging under our house. They
21:32
are mouse fighters. It seems like they
21:34
were using the storage space downstairs as a small
21:36
base, keeping weapons there. The
21:39
family heard explosions and gunfire. The
21:41
youngest, the boy again, is nine years old. And
21:44
my son, in a
21:47
terrified way, told us, Dad,
21:50
I don't want to
21:52
die here. And we looked
21:54
at him And told everyone, no, no
21:56
one is going to die here. We Have the
21:58
dog, the baseball bat. Then we are
22:01
in the second floor that
22:03
stuff a for just and
22:05
you'll have you are now
22:07
gonna write what you gonna
22:09
take when we gonna be
22:12
outside, when they gonna rescue
22:14
us and they may they
22:16
least. And
22:24
they waited for the morning after,
22:26
the afternoon and into the night.
22:29
China to make any noise at all. They.
22:31
Had no food, no water, someone had to
22:33
pee. they didn't waste basket where we buddy
22:35
hooked way. They. Would if
22:38
nineteen hours with the kids. What'd
22:41
they do all that time? Not
22:44
they didn't do nothing with
22:46
we. We did nothing. They
22:48
watch me. And.
22:51
Woke me up if i was
22:53
like fallen asleep because i was
22:55
a handling the and the end
22:57
of the don't tweet they baseball
23:00
bat and why they ever did
23:02
they do tight the door with
23:04
ropes and the like that they
23:06
heard the studio the explosion of
23:08
the i read they just. For.
23:11
Asylum they they were amazing.
23:14
They understand the situation. Funny
23:17
the I'm he came at midnight, rescued them, Because.
23:21
Of tell the next day chris
23:23
to kids could just take this
23:25
off the sun. Nine year old
23:27
and full day whispering in the
23:30
safe room is the most this
23:32
is i think the the frigid
23:34
one and he kept whispered three
23:37
days after that he noted and
23:39
we just you know brodie me
23:41
them dramas and a lego and
23:43
he he started to leave again
23:46
so it's okay. to
23:57
could ever go back and avebury
24:01
Do it really exactly the attack. Michael went home
24:03
again the first time to the kibbutz to
24:05
see what it was like. Going back
24:07
was very hard for me. When
24:10
I was there, I just shut myself. So
24:13
I just saw everything, but I was very...
24:17
How do you say this word? I don't know. No
24:20
picket. Very cool. I was very cool, yes.
24:24
Like your feelings were shut down. Exactly.
24:27
Yeah. I was there
24:29
for like 10 minutes. I took some stuff
24:31
that my daughter asked and
24:33
just... I couldn't stand...
24:36
It's not my home. It was so messy
24:39
and dirty and I
24:43
couldn't stay there. That's interesting. It
24:45
didn't even seem like your home. It just seemed like
24:47
some other... No. No.
24:50
It's not mine. Other
24:52
people I talked to who returned to the kibbutz scene told
24:54
me that walking into their homes, it was like everything was
24:56
frozen from when they ran out. Like it
24:58
was still October 7th. One
25:01
woman said she felt like she was watching herself in a
25:03
movie. She felt so distanced from it. One
25:05
man told me he tries to go back once a week to
25:08
try to absorb what's happened. I
25:10
couldn't even sit on my sofa. I
25:14
was there just for 10 minutes. I couldn't stay in
25:16
the house. So
25:19
when you think about going back there, what do you think? Like
25:21
going back there to try to live there? How
25:23
would that work? I don't
25:25
know. I don't know. That's
25:27
the big question. Some
25:30
days I'm telling to myself, yes, I want to
25:32
go back. And some days
25:34
I'm telling, what are you
25:36
thinking about? This is not a
25:38
place to live. It's a graveyard.
25:40
No, no, no. It's
25:44
still not... It's not a decision
25:46
I can make now. I
25:49
need more time. So
25:54
you went back to the hotel. They
25:56
still had to decide Where would
25:58
they live right now. Should
26:00
they leave the hotel and said on
26:02
their own and the short run by
26:04
early November or time? Definitely want to
26:07
wait. How did not.
26:10
And then she saw how badly their
26:12
oldest daughter I was doing again. I
26:14
was thirteen and two weeks after October
26:16
seven, she was person in the families
26:19
struggling the most. Just skipping
26:21
school every day tried to hide from them. Stayed
26:24
in a room out there doing nothing. This
26:27
is completely unlike her because as.
26:31
For October seven. She love going to
26:33
school, would happily never missed a day.
26:35
She's an athlete chemical volleyball at Seven
26:37
three nights a week and I just
26:39
hang with her friends. She's busy. To
26:42
see her. It's going
26:44
to sleep very late
26:46
at night and one
26:48
to sleep late in
26:50
the morning. Everything he
26:52
had it's not it's
26:54
not have any know
26:56
school now learning now
26:58
volleyball. Ah. the
27:00
only thing that last is her france
27:02
which are. Confused. As
27:05
see is. So there are
27:07
like a deli or I'm like I.
27:11
Went with no purpose and this
27:13
is what bothers us. the knowledge
27:15
that there is no purpose for
27:17
them here. He needs.
27:20
Something to wake up. For
27:22
it in the morning and
27:24
over here it's at too
27:26
much pain and can night's
27:28
ah. Dark. Seeing.
27:32
I have like this. That's what convinced
27:34
Bissau a good time, right? They
27:36
need to get away from out though. The. Kids
27:38
need that. The.
27:41
Way to go. Now
27:43
they're talking about this is a couple members
27:45
of the Caboose were in a much bigger
27:47
conversation about leaving a hotel as a group.
27:51
There's so much damage to the kibbutz so
27:53
me homes building set on fire burned to
27:55
the ground bombed. he would grenades and bullets
27:57
who take two or three years to rebuild.
28:00
Where they can move back. So
28:02
they will he a temporary places the whole
28:04
group could relocate to. While it happened. Or
28:08
Tom is one of the kibbutz leaders figuring out where they
28:10
should go. Towards come
28:12
down to two locations. And the tongue
28:14
I decide that wanted to go to a piece of
28:16
village called Cadmus. Eddie as
28:18
everybody could move there and he'll
28:20
figure out and few years whether
28:22
they'll move back to bury are
28:25
not. The. Vote
28:27
was November twenty second. Photon side
28:29
lost a forty votes. And
28:32
plays a kibbutz chose and flattering
28:34
near bigger a base. There
28:37
was a place at him because did
28:39
not want to live. I knew already
28:42
I knew for sure that see a
28:44
thing in the same I'll. Remember easy
28:46
tell me I'm not moving to set
28:48
in. And I said
28:51
okay. And that decided.
28:53
They. Were not gonna stay with the goods. They
28:56
strike out on their own. To.
28:58
The doctor the kids about this plane. Iowa.
29:01
He did it. To.
29:03
Do want to speak with me for the story? grandparents.
29:05
Issues Angry. One.
29:08
Thing she still had from rural life. Was.
29:10
Her friends. Which. Is gone to the
29:12
stronger Together. We're. Still going to
29:14
it and where. You. Know she had
29:16
two friends that were kidnapped. And
29:19
they returned from Gaza strip. been
29:21
there and say have also one
29:23
friend that says was severely wounded
29:25
in a Lhasa mother and and
29:27
bother no one is that and
29:29
one is dead. And and what'd
29:32
she say to you? When. She was angry
29:34
birds. What was she saying? She
29:36
was She was shouting. ah, why
29:39
we have to. Take
29:42
care of thought of her friends. And
29:44
that were not thinking about
29:47
her. It was
29:49
hide see here. You.
29:51
Know. When. You live in a
29:53
Kibbutz. their friends are the most
29:55
important thing. i don't
29:57
know how to express this in white
30:00
But we have this connection that
30:03
you cannot find anywhere else because we
30:05
grew up together We did everything together
30:07
we hang up In
30:10
the morning in the afternoon. We slept together.
30:12
We ate together. We studied together. We did
30:14
everything together and
30:18
This is what she has right
30:21
now and she's gonna lose it. I Understand
30:24
why she's angry. I understand
30:28
but I
30:30
don't want that death
30:33
will be so present
30:36
in every way I
30:39
don't want Two
30:49
other kids were good with the idea of them leaving the hotel They're
30:52
gonna us told them we can live in a car
30:54
as long as we're together. It's fine But
30:57
with Aya she came back to it over and over
31:00
It happens all the time. We every
31:02
day. Are you sure you want to go? Are
31:04
you sure you're not gonna stay? Cloud
31:07
explained to Aya that since they really might never move
31:09
back to Bairi It didn't make sense
31:11
to move to the temporary location with her friends right now
31:14
And then split with them in three years and start
31:16
over again Easier to
31:18
leave now and an agent she can make new
31:20
friends She told Aya that she
31:23
would drive her back to see her old friends anytime she wants
31:26
There's certainly she didn't say to Aya I
31:29
didn't tell her that I
31:32
don't want to leave in a place
31:34
that Morning
31:36
is gonna be a big part
31:38
of everything. Yeah, I Cannot
31:42
tell her this Why
31:44
not I? Don't
31:46
know I don't I don't know Do
31:49
you not want to say that to her because you're
31:51
scared it will affect how she sees her friends and
31:53
their life back in the kibbutz Yes,
31:56
you know just just yesterday they told us
31:58
that We all see
32:00
her best friend's father
32:04
were murdered in captivity. So
32:09
it's going to happen all the time. That
32:12
conversation was in January. They were still in the hotel.
32:15
The plan must move February 1st to a
32:17
house near a city called Kiriagat, maybe
32:19
a half-hour drive from the border. And
32:22
at this point, the family got a lucky break,
32:25
something they didn't expect. The
32:27
school she's going to go to, there
32:30
is friends that she knows from
32:32
our area that moved to the
32:34
same place. Oh, wow.
32:36
That's really, really fortunate. Yeah.
32:40
So it makes her heart
32:43
more calm. And
32:46
these are kids that she knows and she's
32:48
friends of, not
32:50
from Bérie exactly, but just from
32:52
our area. So she's
32:56
not opposite anymore as
32:58
she used to. Today
33:00
was the first day she went to school
33:02
and studied and opened her notebook. Just
33:05
today, after three months. Maybe
33:08
Michal said she finally understands that things are
33:10
going back to normal. So she's going
33:12
to have to go to school like normal with
33:14
other kids. And we're moving on. As
33:27
Moving Day approached, things in the family were all
33:29
over the place. I was
33:31
up and down, a lot of down.
33:33
I think Arbel and Dada,
33:35
the little kids, they
33:38
are excited to see the new life.
33:41
Lothar is very excited about
33:43
this. I'm
33:45
not excited. I
33:47
feel sad leaving the
33:50
kibbutz, even though I decided
33:52
to do that. It's
33:54
still sad for me. Yeah. It's
33:58
not, you know, this is Arbel's. decision
34:00
of moving that I
34:04
didn't chose it. This is what
34:06
makes me so sad. They chose
34:08
it. They decided it for
34:10
me. They,
34:13
you mean Hamas. Yes.
34:19
Yeah. And it's hard for me
34:21
not to have my parents around
34:23
and not to ask them what they
34:25
think. Yeah. And
34:29
you know, my mom, she
34:31
was, if I would move, she will come
34:33
and help me clean and help me decide
34:35
what to do. And now
34:37
she's not here to do that. So
34:41
every decision is, she's
34:43
so present with
34:45
her not present. I
34:47
don't know how to say it. Yeah.
34:56
They moved February 1st. I called one last time
34:58
a few weeks after that. The
35:00
kids are in the new schools. The family's running a
35:02
house. Autonomy, halo, bracing for
35:05
what it's going to be like to have their paychecks paid
35:07
to them directly and living
35:09
the way you and I do where we have to worry
35:11
about money and paying bills. But
35:13
one thing that was different in this last call was that
35:15
they both seemed way more certain that they're never going to
35:17
move back to Bay Area. There's
35:20
a possibility, sure. But they
35:22
both said it's likely they'll never return. I
35:25
am meanwhile mad all the time.
35:27
It's very severe, Michal told me. Worse
35:30
than before. She has
35:32
all the time to be driven back to the hotel to see
35:34
her friends. She's gone back once a week. Michal
35:37
feels like this is one of these parenting choices where she
35:40
and Lutan made the right call to
35:42
get the family away from the hotel and start a
35:44
new life. That
35:47
doesn't make it feel any better. She told me
35:49
she hopes that someday I will
35:51
understand. Even forgive
35:53
him for it. Coming
36:02
up, if you want to inspire your
36:04
family at a family meeting once a week, every single
36:06
week after a while, how
36:08
do you come up with anything original to say? That's
36:11
in a minute from Chicago Bubble Radio, when
36:14
our program continues. This
36:19
is American Life from Ira Glass, today's show,
36:21
family meeting, stories of people who care about
36:23
each other or are supposed to care about
36:25
each other coming together to figure stuff out.
36:28
And of course, these sort of meetings happen in non-family
36:30
settings also. I personally find it
36:32
revolting when any boss refers to his employees as
36:35
family, but I acknowledge there is an
36:37
entire workplace version of this. And
36:39
of course, there's a whole tradition of this in sports. High
36:41
school sports teams where the coach sits everybody
36:43
down for the big come to Jesus talk about how
36:46
things have been going and what needs to happen next.
36:48
One of our producers, Chris Bender, was looking around at the
36:51
stuff that high school coaches say to teams before their
36:53
big games. He found a lot of let's get out
36:55
there and crush them. So a
36:57
lot of the underdog version of that, nobody believes in us,
36:59
but I believe in us. And
37:01
then he ran across this one speech where
37:04
the coach tried a different approach. On a
37:06
strike. You know, should we
37:08
go back? This
37:11
is in a locker room in South Lake,
37:14
Texas. The team is the Cedar High School
37:16
High Longhorns. Their coach, Joey McGuire, they're in
37:18
the playoffs. They lose this game,
37:20
season's over. The team is ready to
37:22
go out onto the field. You know,
37:25
this is a lot different. You'll
37:27
wait five, weeks, six. There's always
37:29
another week, seven. This is
37:31
different. We don't take care
37:34
of business. This is. Ain't
37:37
coming back in the locker room next week. If
37:41
you care about each other enough, like we talked
37:43
about, if you care about loving
37:45
each other like we talked about, you have a
37:47
sense of urgency to get one more week with
37:50
your family. To get one more week with your
37:52
family. Smart,
37:54
right? When? And
37:57
we get one more week together. Chris
38:00
wondered if this was a move that the coach
38:02
uses a lot. So he called up Coach McGuire
38:04
who said yes, he has said this before in
38:06
other playoffs. But he said it's also a thing
38:08
he feels. I talk all the time
38:10
about being a family and being more than just
38:12
a team. And that was
38:14
such a huge game. I mean, there's probably
38:17
15,000 people. It's two of
38:20
the best teams of the
38:22
nation. These are Texas high school teams
38:24
working their way up to a state championship. Longhorns
38:26
were playing the Carroll High School Dragons. Coach
38:29
McGuire says that he knew that if they lost that game, they were
38:31
about to play. The Roodes feel like something.
38:34
When you lose at the end of the season, that
38:37
group of people, you're never gonna
38:39
play together again. It's almost like
38:42
there's a death. Like most
38:45
people don't talk about
38:47
that today could
38:49
be the last game. And
38:52
so that was my point. This ain't a
38:54
bunch of guys that play football. We
38:58
just get to play football together because this
39:00
is a brotherhood, this is a family. And
39:02
man, whenever you have that, what's something to
39:04
destroy because you fight every single moment to
39:06
keep it. That's what we
39:08
gotta do tonight. Cuz you win, we get
39:11
another week together. That's all I want. That's
39:13
all I want. Everybody with me? Yes, sir.
39:19
Did the team went out there in front of all those people?
39:22
And how'd it go? We end up getting
39:24
beat 37-35 right at the end of the game
39:26
on an absolutely
39:29
horrible call, but we ended up getting beat
39:31
37-35. Actually,
39:34
it was a little worse than that, 37-33. He
39:37
says in the locker room afterwards, it was really hard. But
39:40
even as you win the state championship, which he has,
39:43
that's our two. Cuz that's the
39:45
end. No more weeks together. Even
39:48
if they win, there's that loss. He
39:50
says he always makes it a point to thank the seniors.
39:53
Cuz it's often hardest for the seniors. No,
39:56
leaving the family. That
40:11
too is sealed with a death. So
40:14
sometimes the reason for a family meeting is a conflict that a
40:16
kid is having at school. And then
40:18
the parent has to decide, did my kid do something
40:20
wrong or is the problem the other kid? In
40:23
this next story, the parents have definitely come down on
40:25
one side of that one. This story
40:28
unfolds in a series of letters between two
40:30
moms. It's an excerpt of
40:32
a short story by Nafisa Thompson-Spires, read
40:35
first by actors Isa Davis and Erika
40:37
Alexander. Tuesday, October 1st,
40:39
1991. Hello
40:42
Monica. I'm sure you
40:44
remember me from the class field trip to
40:46
the Getty in September. It
40:49
has been brought to my attention that your
40:51
daughter Fatima may have started
40:53
a nasty rumor about my Kristinia. I
40:56
hope to clear this up as we both know
40:58
how ugly these things can get. It
41:02
is true that Kristinia's hamster died
41:04
recently, but it
41:06
is absolutely not true that it died at
41:08
Chrissy's hand. At
41:11
no time has Chrissy ever put
41:13
a ham bone or any of
41:15
her previous hamsters in the microwave,
41:17
dryer, or dishwasher. What
41:19
kind of child would make up something like that?
41:23
It sounds, and I say this respectfully,
41:25
so I hope you won't be offended.
41:28
Like Fatima has had a very hard
41:31
time getting acclimated here. And
41:33
that's understandable, but I do hope
41:35
you will deal with her before
41:38
any such incidents become frequent. Children
41:41
who start lying young often
41:43
end up with long time patterns of
41:46
dishonesty. All
41:48
best, Dr. Lucinda Johnston,
41:50
Psi D. License Therapist, Welcome
41:53
Wagon, Westwood Primary School, Events
41:55
Coordinator, Jack and Jill, Claremont
41:57
Branch. Monday,
42:05
October 7, 1991. Dear
42:09
Lucinda, I apologize
42:11
for my late reply, but
42:13
I only found your letter at the bottom
42:15
of Fatima's backpack when I did my weekly
42:17
cleaning. Thank you for
42:19
writing to me. Fatima
42:22
says she only repeated what Cristina
42:24
herself told her. Many
42:27
of Fatima's stories about Cristina this year
42:29
and last, which I won't recount here,
42:32
have been disturbing to say the least, but
42:35
none as disturbing as Cristina's
42:37
enjoyment of torturing rodents. Fatima
42:40
has a strong imagination and writes
42:42
beautiful lyric poetry, which she started
42:44
reading at age four, but she
42:47
does not have a history of lying
42:49
or telling gruesome stories, and
42:52
unlike Cristina, she has no history of
42:54
running off with other girls' shoes while
42:56
their feet dangle from the monkey bars.
42:59
I appreciate your concerns about Fatima, and
43:01
even though Cristina has made it much
43:04
more difficult for her to find friends
43:06
at Westwood, Fatima will acclimate
43:08
soon. She's going to
43:10
a sleepover at Emily's this weekend. Is
43:13
Cristina going? If so, I
43:16
hope you will encourage her to play nice. Best,
43:20
Monica Willis, PhD. P.S.
43:24
It is true that liars who start young often
43:26
end up with psychological and social
43:28
problems of the sort that Cristina
43:30
has demonstrated over the past year. How
43:34
lucky for you and Cristina that
43:36
she has access to psychotherapy through
43:38
your practice. Dear
43:45
Monica, I never
43:47
expected so much defensiveness when I
43:49
wrote my original letter. Perhaps
43:52
you misread it. All
43:54
I wanted to emphasize is that I
43:57
understand why a girl in
43:59
Fatima's position and one
44:01
with her background, would make up
44:03
such stories. It's
44:05
hard to get attention in a new place.
44:08
There is probably some petty jealousy
44:10
going on, but I think
44:13
we can resolve this. I
44:15
don't know how you did things at
44:17
Fatima's old school in Fresno, was it?
44:20
But here, we try to
44:22
help the children work through their
44:25
problems without getting too involved. I
44:28
suppose you already know and have known
44:30
all along that Kristinia will
44:32
not attend Emily's party, so there's
44:34
no need for me to encourage her
44:37
to play nice. You've
44:40
probably heard that history already, so
44:42
I won't rehash it, but
44:44
I will say that it wasn't Chrissy's
44:46
fault that Emily broke her nose when
44:49
she fell. Finally,
44:51
and I say this respectfully, but
44:53
maybe it would be wise to go through
44:56
Fatima's backpack every night instead of once in
44:58
a blue moon. I
45:00
have heard from more than one
45:02
parent that it smells like eggs.
45:06
My best, Dr. Lucinda Johnston,
45:09
licensed therapist, author of
45:11
Train Up a Child. Dear
45:18
Lucinda, or should I say Dr. Johnston,
45:22
I'd like to resolve this as much as
45:24
you would, but that won't happen if all
45:26
your letters begin and end with backbiting. I'm
45:30
not of the mind that the only two black
45:32
children in the clash should be enemies, nor
45:34
do I like the attention it draws to
45:37
them or their parents when they're already in
45:39
a difficult position. I
45:41
would think that a black woman of your
45:43
stature and success would understand
45:46
how isolating work in school environments like
45:48
Westwood can be for people like us.
45:51
I hoped Kristinia and Fatima could be friends
45:53
and could support each other in this space,
45:56
but it's been clear since second grade that
45:59
you and Kristinia are not willing to make
46:01
that work. I'm
46:03
sure Fatima would let Christina into her
46:05
growing inner circle, even her
46:08
after-school reading club, if Christina
46:10
would only apologize and behave.
46:13
Jealousy can become a lifelong problem.
46:16
On that note, I hate to bring
46:18
this up now, but we
46:20
were surprised by how poorly Christina
46:22
behaved when Fatima's poem won over
46:24
hers last year. I'd
46:27
like to make sure that we don't end
46:29
up with a repeat performance of that tantrum
46:31
when the poetry competition rolls around this year.
46:35
As with a hard-boiled egg, we
46:37
resolved that last spring and bought Fatima a
46:39
new backpack, and I believe you knew
46:41
that already. Cheers.
46:44
Dr. Monica Willis, Ph.D.,
46:47
author of Every Voice Counts,
46:49
helping children of color succeed
46:51
at predominantly white schools. Monica,
46:56
excuse the informal note, I
46:59
think you're doing both yourself and
47:01
Fatima a great injustice by continually
47:03
emphasizing her brilliance over other children.
47:06
Lots of people skip grades,
47:08
and skipping kindergarten isn't something to brag
47:10
about. I doubt that
47:13
the standards at her old school were as
47:15
rigorous as those at Westwood. What
47:17
exactly was she advanced at? Nap time?
47:21
If you'll recall, moreover, I was
47:23
there at the recital where Fatima read
47:26
her award-winning poem, and
47:28
while my doctorates—yes, plural—may
47:30
not be in literature, I'm
47:33
pretty sure hardly anyone would call
47:35
Butterfly Pie a work of poetic
47:37
genius. You can't rhyme pie
47:39
with pie multiple times and call that poetry.
47:41
You just can't, even if you have the
47:43
excuse of only being in fourth grade. Isn't
47:47
your degree, by the way, an Ed.D.?
47:49
Lucinda. Lucinda,
47:55
I'm not surprised if Fatima's subtle wordplay
47:57
was lost on you, since it's clear
47:59
reading problems running the family. Not
48:02
everyone is suited for literary work. I'm
48:05
sure you know that from your own writing struggles
48:07
and the extra effort you had to put behind
48:09
your research in order for anyone to take it
48:11
seriously. Isn't there
48:13
still some kind of issue with your last project
48:15
and the IRB? Or
48:18
is the issue with Dr. Patel's ex-wife? My
48:21
very best. Monica. Monica,
48:25
I'm not going to dignify most of your
48:27
comments with a response. This
48:30
will be my last letter because I can
48:32
see I'm not going to get anywhere with
48:34
you. There's some kind
48:36
of blockage there that I really think
48:38
you should explore with a licensed professional.
48:41
Especially if you call yourself a professor. At
48:45
one time I wondered if we were too
48:47
harsh in recommending that you and your family
48:49
wait another year before joining our Jack and
48:51
Jill chapter. But I can
48:53
see now that we were right. I'm
48:56
afraid I can never recommend you for our
48:58
club. You display a
49:00
volatile combination of residual ghetto
49:02
and uppity knee-grass and that
49:05
will be your undoing if
49:07
Fatima isn't. Sincerely,
49:11
Dr. Lucinda M. Johnston, licensed
49:13
therapist, author of Train Up
49:16
a Child, welcome wagon Westwood
49:18
Primary School, events coordinator,
49:20
Jack and Jill, Claremont Chapter.
49:26
Lucinda, I'm not even going
49:28
to respond to that. But
49:30
I will say that if someone here is uppity, it's
49:33
the one of us with two little brats who have
49:35
run off three au pairs. Who
49:37
even uses that term? If they're
49:39
not French, and I'm pretty sure your cousin,
49:41
Shaquana, isn't, they're nannies. Nannies.
49:46
And if they're your own relatives and they're just babysitters
49:48
or bums who need a hookup. This
49:50
bushiness and the way it keeps
49:53
you from connecting with your kids is half of your
49:55
problem. The other half, you probably
49:57
can't fix without medication. Good thing you
49:59
can write prescriptions. Oh wait, you're
50:02
not that kind of doctor. How
50:06
can I be uppity when I've never
50:08
had any help and started out as
50:10
a single parent before marrying Jordan? If
50:13
putting myself through school and becoming the highest
50:15
educated person in my family with no
50:17
help but God's makes me uppity,
50:19
then so be it. We
50:22
are humble people in spite of our
50:24
education and finances, and we have more
50:27
class in our excrement than you have
50:29
in your whole hamster murdering family. And
50:31
yes, there is a bit of ghetto
50:34
still left in me. Enough to tell you who
50:36
can finish the fight if it gets to that
50:38
point. We're never too far from Oakland
50:40
or the south side. Let's
50:42
keep it real. Monica. Monica,
50:46
I do believe that was a
50:48
threat. The Claremont Police
50:50
Department will not take this lightly. And
50:53
tell Fatima to stop pinning notes to
50:56
the inside of Chrissy's book bag when
50:58
she's not looking. Chrissy could injure herself
51:00
on a dirty safety pin knowing you
51:02
people and end up with hepatitis
51:05
A, B, or C, or
51:07
worse. I've tried
51:09
to resolve our differences by working directly
51:11
and exclusively with you and their teacher
51:13
Mrs. Watson, but I will
51:16
have no choice but to contact
51:18
Principal Lee in addition to the
51:20
police if this persists. Lucinda.
51:23
Lucinda. Only
51:29
you would suggest something so disgusting
51:31
as intentionally injuring a child with
51:33
a dirty safety pin. But then
51:35
again, it was Cristina
51:38
who put that tack on Renee Potts'
51:40
chair last year and caused her to
51:42
need a tetanus shot. Perverse
51:45
minds think alike, apparently. Lose
51:47
my number and address and stop
51:49
making your kid do your dirty work. I'm
51:54
Monica. Turn
51:56
blue. Turn blue.
52:00
Blue, blue, blue. Look,
52:04
I've written a poem. Perhaps I
52:06
should send it to Ladybug magazine. Love,
52:10
Lucinda. Lucinda,
52:14
you need Jesus. Do
52:16
not write me again, or I
52:18
will contact my lawyer. I've
52:20
asked Mrs. Watson to check Fatima's backpack for
52:23
correspondence from you, and I
52:25
have made it clear that I do not want further contact
52:27
from you or Christina. You
52:29
are not to speak to Fatima either. I'm
52:31
requesting a meeting with the school and you and your
52:34
husband so that we can nip this
52:36
crazy mess in the bud once and for all.
52:39
Monica, Jack and Jill,
52:42
Claremont Chapter. October
52:47
21, 1991. Dear
52:50
Mrs. Johnston and Mrs. Willis, It
52:53
has come to my attention that your respective daughters, Christina
52:56
and Fatima, engage in
52:58
a brutal fistfight at school. As
53:01
you know, this behavior violates not only the Westwood
53:03
Code of Conduct, but also our
53:05
core values as a school, and
53:07
is punishable by expulsion. I
53:09
am sending this letter as a follow-up to the discussion I
53:11
had with each of you over the phone. I
53:14
would like to meet with the two of you, and
53:16
Mrs. Watson, ASAP. My
53:19
secretary will schedule, sincerely,
53:21
Principal Lee, Westwood Primary
53:23
and Secondary School. October
53:30
25, 1991. Dear
53:33
Dr. Willis, The school's
53:35
board and I thank you for your
53:37
generous donation and for
53:39
agreeing to serve on the Westwood Welcome Wagon. Given
53:42
the sharp improvement of your child's behavior, we
53:45
can agree to rescind our threat of Fatima's expulsion
53:47
from school. Your reputation
53:49
of our school depends on the efforts of involved
53:51
parents like yourselves. Sincerely,
53:54
Principal Lee. November
53:59
3, 1991. 1991, Lucinda. Thank
54:03
you for inviting Fatima to Chrissy's party.
54:06
She will be happy to attend. And
54:08
thank you for the lovely fruit basket. It's
54:12
so bad. It's true. Mrs.
54:14
Watson looks terrible in that color.
54:16
And yet Principal Lee finds reasons to
54:19
look. But I won't say anything more
54:21
in writing. Jordan
54:23
and I will discuss the Jack and Jill potluck with
54:25
you when we see you. XO,
54:29
Monica. Thank you. Actors
54:41
Erica Alexander and Isa Davis, reading
54:44
an excerpt of Belle Lettre with Alvin
54:46
Malleth, reading Principal Lee. The
54:48
stories by Nepissa Thompson Spires. She's reading the full
54:50
story and her book of short stories. Heads
54:53
of the Day. Singing
54:57
in the kitchen, running through
55:00
the yard, going
55:02
on vacation, on
55:05
the credit card. We
55:07
all in together. We've
55:09
been taking a trip. We're
55:12
like birds on the bird. We
55:15
got shoes in the space. All
55:28
the way to the city, laughing
55:30
in the rain. It
55:33
ain't always pretty. You
55:35
drive you insane. You can go, you
55:37
can go. Take
55:40
it all off. All
55:42
for a season. Well
55:45
bless your heart. We'll
55:47
go to the next produce today by Sean
55:50
Cole and Ben Madawoomy. People who have been
55:52
together today's program include Michael Comite, Aviva DeCornfeld,
55:54
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55:56
Catherine Raimondo, Nadia Raymond, Sophia Riddle, Ryan Rumory,
55:58
Alyssa Shipp, Matt Tierney, and Diah Our
56:00
managing editor is Sara Abderrahman. Our senior
56:03
editor is David Kestenbaum. Our executive editor
56:05
is Emmanuel Beret. Special thanks today to
56:07
the entire LeBaron family. Dealey
56:10
Blyfus, Madeline Tickner, PJ Mark,
56:12
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56:14
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56:16
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Life is delivered to public radio stations
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56:23
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56:27
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56:29
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56:31
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he delivered as... That's cool. What
56:38
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57:00
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57:02
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57:05
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57:07
about the same people. What about
57:09
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57:11
my wife and the children? My mother? Yousef
57:13
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57:18
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57:20
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