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Hey y'all . Hey , welcome to
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the when we win podcast . I
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am your host , Kiyanna Mitchell , self-care
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advocates , wife , mother
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, grandmother , lover of all things
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black , and I'm on a mission to build
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community around sisters that look like me
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on their journey to win , cause when
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we win , we all win . Let's
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get started , hey , family
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. Welcome back to another episode
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of when we win podcast . I'm
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your host , Kiyanna Mitchell , and we have
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a great episode today . Um
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might be a little controversial , but let's
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get into it . Um , today I want
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to talk about uh minding
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, uh , minding my
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own business , reminding our own business
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and how sometimes , uh
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, keeping to that persona of minding our own business , sometimes
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we don't tell people our business and
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um and um , sometimes
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we can start to feel a little bit of isolated
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, feeling like we're the only ones going
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through a certain situation , because
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we are doing what Mining our
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own business and not telling nobody . You know what
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goes on in this house , days in this house . That also
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ties into that and
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what happens now . I feel
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like nobody else is
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going through what I'm going through Now . I
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feel alone and
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if we really got
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into it , uh , there's
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a lot of people going through
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some similar situations , especially
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like financially , uh , relational
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, uh , familial a
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lot of situations
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that are very similar , but I think sometimes
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we get ashamed , or um
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, about our situations and we don't share
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, um . We're watching people's
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social medias , um , because
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, of course , nobody's putting
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. Most people don't
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put their drama or certain situations
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on social media , so all you see are
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the happy family pictures , the
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happy lovely moments , all
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these excited . So you think everybody else's life
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is so much better than yours , um
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, when in actuality , they're probably
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suffering just like you . Okay , um
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. So I really wanted to
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um encourage , uh
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my listeners to
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open up about certain situations . Let me tell you something
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on this podcast . You are going to hear about
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my financial struggles because , honey
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, I really just
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got some sense of financial literacy
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, I want to say , probably in the
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last three years or so . Okay
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, um , I can't tell
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you how much money I have blown
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due
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to , uh , being
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financially illiterate . Okay , so
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I'm going to share those struggles , um
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, I'm going to share how I try to try
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to start two businesses and
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failed miserably
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. Okay , I am going
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to share those things now for some people . They
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may not want people to know that . They may
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not want people to know that they have felt a file break
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. Group C I have , okay
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, some people may not want
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to , uh , people to know that their kids are by
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different men . Well , I
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have six kids by three different
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men now , and some
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people may not want people to know that . Um
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, some people may not want them to know that they
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didn't graduate from high school and they got a GED . Well
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, guess what ? I got a GED . I didn't
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graduate from high school . I had two
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kids by the time I was 18 . I got
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pregnant at 16 , in my 11th grade year , so
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I never had a 12th grade year , never went to prom . Some
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people may not want other
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people to know that , but guess what ? Now
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y'all knowing that , and you see
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me eventually win
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. Now that
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lets somebody else know that , yes , you
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can go through certain situations , but you can
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still make it . Um
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, one of the biggest lessons my mom
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used to always tell me was like this too shall pass
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, and during a lot
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of the situations that I've been through , they
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do pass . We
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do survive and
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hopefully
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learned some great lessons going
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forward , so we didn't have to repeat it . But guess what
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? I can not can share that too . I've
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made some of the same mistakes over and
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over again and
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survived , especially financially
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. I can tell you I've
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been a nurse for over 22 years and
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the amount of money
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that I've made over my career
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that I have wasted , not
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knowing how to use it in
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a way that would benefit my family , going
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down the line , just
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doing a rough calculations
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, I may probably about 2.1
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million dollars over a 20-plus
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year career . Now
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, had I had some
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semblance of financial literacy
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, do you know the amount of investments
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I could have made , the real estate I could
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have purchased , the , the
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, the financial
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holdings I
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could have amassed for my kids
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, the retirement counts
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I could have started for the kids , the businesses I could
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have invested in , if
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I knew what I knew now
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? But I'm
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gonna share that with
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you all because I'm hoping
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we can learn some stuff together . I'm hoping somebody
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gonna drop in the comments some things
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that I can do , that this community
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can do , to better our financial
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literacy . What has helped them , what
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are some of the same struggles they have had with
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their finances , so that we can
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get our finances together , so
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we can build a better future for ourselves and
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our children , so that
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we don't have to continue to struggle financially
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, which now messes with our
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mental , which
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now makes us behave in certain ways
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. That , though , that financial
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illiteracy can
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cause us to have that
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life where we're always robbing Peter
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to pay Paul . We're always worried about
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finances . We're always making
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decisions because we're worried about finances
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, whether it's staying in certain relationships
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that we could have gotten out of or staying
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at certain jobs that have been messing
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us up mentally . There are
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so many things that
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we do all in the name of
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like our finances , whether
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we are literate or illiterate
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. Now , of course , if we have some financial literacy
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now , we're making better situation . We're
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making better decisions about our
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finances . We're investing in ourselves
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so that we don't have to work as hard or stay
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in places that we don't want to be in . Okay
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, so sharing
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our failures
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for lack of better words or being
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afraid of failure can
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hold us back . I
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have now accepted that failure
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is an absolute
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part of my journey
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to success . I have accepted it . So
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, now that I've accepted it , I'm
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not afraid to make certain
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situations . I'm not afraid to leave my job
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. I'm not afraid to quit nursing at
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20 years and go out there and start businesses
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now . Did
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it work out how I wanted it to work out ? No , it
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did not . I am not one . I have not gone
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back to work , but
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guess what ? The lessons
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that I have learned when
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I left and
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how I handled my finances
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will now help me going
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forward . Manage my finances
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going forward better . Okay
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, make better investments . Now
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, like we are in the process of buying
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our first multifamily
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property . When
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I bought my house for the first time at 38
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, I
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didn't know I should have probably bought my multifamily
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first and how they look
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at multifamily properties as
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liability versus the asset
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. How could I use
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that to buy another property ? Like I didn't know
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that . I know that now I
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know about investments
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and stocks . I didn't know that now . I didn't know that
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before . So again
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, I'm not afraid to tell you about
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where I quote , unquote
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, messed up or my failures
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, because I'm hoping that
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somebody listening to this podcast
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or someone that's listening to this podcast
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knows somebody that
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is going through that struggle and they might need that encouragement
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, they might need that inspiration . So
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don't be afraid to share your story , because
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there is somebody currently
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going through whatever you're
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going through and they need to see somebody else
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win . They need to see somebody
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else survive and not just survive
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thrive . Because let me tell you something
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I'm tired of just surviving . I'm
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tired of just surviving . I am ready
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to thrive . So that means
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I'm not afraid to cut off certain
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relationships , I'm not afraid
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to leave states , I'm
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not afraid to leave jobs , I'm
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not afraid to do or tell anybody
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about my situation because I'm not afraid
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to fail . I have failed
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many times and
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guess what ? I was A-OK
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and sometimes , to be
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honest , came out better than
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I did prior to failing
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. Say
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, for instance , I had to sell my house . I
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started business . It didn't work
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, but guess what ? I have now gone back to work . I
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can now use that resource , that money
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, to make purchase
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, to purchase property . I can
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make that . I can come out here and start a
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podcast and not to be afraid
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that nobody might never listen to this
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. Now , I hope not . I'm
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hoping that this will be the fastest
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growing podcast ever
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. I want to break records . I
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want people to be like man . Have you heard that ? Have
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you heard that ? When we win Shy
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, that Keyata she is , she's
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something else . But let me tell you something
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. I learned this and I wasn't afraid
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to do this , and I did that because I
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listened to the Spark Access and I want this to be about like
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that . So , anyways , sometimes
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mind and our business can
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hinder us . Now
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, there , I do believe there are some times we should mind
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our business and I do believe we we
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do have to be very selective about what
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we let out about ourselves , but not
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to the point of
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isolation . I
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don't want you to feel alone , cause
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you're not alone , especially
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women that look like us . We need to
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know that we are not alone . We
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, because of some of the situations
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that we are in , we
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feel quite isolated , whether we are
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a single parent , or whether we are
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in
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a marriage but feel like a single parent
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, or whether we , whatever situation
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it is , we might
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feel alone , but
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we're not . Okay , you
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are not alone . Hell , if
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ain't nobody else is going through the situation . I
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might have been through the situation , or I know someone
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that's been through the situation . Okay , like
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, don't nobody know , especially
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women of color , especially black women . Don't
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nobody know this struggle that we live
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like us , and
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I think sometimes we can be each other's toughest
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critics . Okay
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, sis , so you're not alone
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and I want us to go on this journey
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together . Okay , okay
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, all
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right . Thank you so much for listening
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. I appreciate
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your time . I know how precious
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time is and I thank you for spending your
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time with Lil
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ol’ me . Love y'all bye .
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